Invisible Friend.
Hello reader friends, a few days ago I read my sister @gertu13's post about friendship, and It's very interesting what she refers there. I recommend it if you haven't read it yet. At the end of my story, I will put the link for you to read it. I am going to tell you about a very dear friend that I never got to see. 12 years ago when I was checking my Facebook, I saw the name, without a photo, of a person very dear to me. We had done a specialization in Human Rights together and at that time we became very good friends. But later on, I don't know why we lost contact. At that time, when I saw his name in "people you might know" I was very happy and immediately sent him a friend request. The next day he accepted it. I started chatting with the enthusiasm that everyone can show when they find a friend they thought they had lost.
*From unsplash* But after a short time of exchanging words, I noticed that he was not showing any emotion, and I hesitated. Either he was not the person I thought he was, or he no longer cared about my friendship. To clarify my doubt, I asked him a key question, and yes, he was definitely not the person I thought. oh, I was wrong, and I let him know it. I didn't want to cut him off right then and there, because he wasn't to blame for my mistake. I told him he had the same name as a friend. And to my surprise, they turned out to be close cousins. My friend was the son of his uncle. They both had the same first and last name. We never severed the friendship, because I didn't know him in person I started calling him an invisible friend. We could not make an appointment because we lived in very distant cities, he to the east and I to the west of the country.
*From unsplash* We had many things in common, he would send me pictures of when he went on vacation with his family. I did the same. On one occasion he asked me to locate some medicines, because he could not find them in the city where he lived. So I did. He sent me the money for the medicines because I was able to locate them for him. He had a heart condition for years, he used a pacemaker, permanent control for his heart problem. But he was very active, he still worked for a company. Twelve years of communication passed, not daily, but constant in a month. In January of this year 2021, we greeted each other as usual and he told me that he was going to the clinic because they had to do some evaluations because he was not feeling well. I wished him the best of luck in those evaluations and medical tests. That was our last conversation. He passed away a few days later. How did I know? I was writing him as usual, for several days, to know about his health, without getting an answer. Until he answered me, but not him, it was his daughter, and she told me that she noticed that I insisted on saying hello, and there she informed me that her father had passed away due to heart problems. I felt sadness, pain for the loss, crying, and a feeling of guilt for not having met him in person, after so many years. It seems incredible but sometimes I need to write to him. For me, he was a great friend. Like this story I told you, there will be many that you will also have, good virtual friendships. Virtual links are becoming more and more common through social networks, where you meet people with the same interests, and establish permanent bonds of friendship. My fellow readers, if you meet someone and feel that you have support, understanding, affinity in tastes, and common topics in conversations, that is more than enough for you to start a virtual friendship relationship. Here many of us, including myself, use at the beginning of our posts the phrase "reader friend", because here we have related with people who have similar tastes, creating bonds of exchange of ideas, culture, respecting free thought. This ReadCash platform has contributed to the emergence of this type of virtual relationship, where no one knows each other in person, but we are all friends. What do you think, reader friends, what would Aristotle say about this kind of friendship? To answer my question you have to first read the post I refer you to above, at the beginning of my story. https://read.cash/@gertu13/a-sincere-friend-dfac4d2b, I would like to read your comments. Thank you.
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It really is a moving story. It is a story that can happen to many in this age of technology. We become virtual friends with many people through technology. Here we share many stories of personal events in the lives of many. I can say that we make friends who can go through the three levels of friendship that Aristotle classifies. That after being the first and moving to the second, you end up being the third level.
Aw. I was hoping for a happy ending but didn't expect that it was a sad one. 12 years of friendship is no joke. I also have a virtual friend I met probably in 2017 or 2018, and though, we don't talk like we used to, we are still friends. He's from Germany while I'm from the Philippines. So yeah, when we meet someone that we can connect in any aspect, we value them even if they're a friend from the virtual world.
It's interesting how fate plays a role in our lives. Your connection with him was real although you haven't met in person. You have already formed a bond. It's just quite unfortunate that he passed away without you seeing each other. It's true that we are now getting connected virtually and in platforms like this we will surely form a connection with some.