@re-joyce 15 February 2026

THERE ARE FRIENDSHIP BREAKUPS THAT HURT MORE THAN ROMANTIC ONES. When Alessandra opens up about a kind of hurt that goes beyond anger a pain so heavy that it led her to pray for the first time specifically asking God to help her forgive. She explains that this pain isn’t fueled by rage, but by being deeply wounded, where resentment fades and what remains is raw hurt. I know that pain well. You’ve moved on, you’ve accepted what happened, but the betrayal still lingers because that friend wasn’t just someone you knew. You treated them like family. When you live in a different city or country, friendships become your anchor, your chosen family. So when they fall apart, the loss feels deeper, quieter, and harder to explain. During the interview, even through tears, Alessandra insisted she has already moved on. But she also shared that she’s much more careful now about who she lets into her life. What resonated most was how she talked about people who disappear instead of communicating those who avoid difficult conversations, let resentment quietly build, and eventually do something so damaging that the friendship collapses. No conversation. No chance to understand. Just an ending that feels sudden, but wasn’t. And in the end, what’s lost isn’t just the relationship, but the respect. There’s a particular shock in realizing that people you’ve spent years with people who know your story can be the first to hurt you when you’re already at your lowest. When we’re younger, we tend to have bigger circles. Many friendships run on autopilot. We’re surrounded by people who are still emotionally immature, still learning how to communicate. Everything works when it’s light and fun, but when real issues surface conflict, discomfort, resentment some people simply don’t have the tools to handle them. They’re present during good times, but absent when things become difficult. I’ve experienced this myself. Some people act like everything is fine. They tell you it’s okay. But later, you realize they were carrying things you never knew about gossip, quiet resentment, issues they never once brought to you directly. And like what she prayed... God, please surround us with people who are awake. Give us friends who are present in their lives, not moving through the days on autopilot, not driven by excess or surface-level things. Friends who want to talk about life, not gossip. People we can learn from, and who can learn from us. Friends who grow with intention, with depth, and with honesty. And please keep us away from people who thrive on drama, who speak behind others instead of speaking truth, who carry resentment but refuse to communicate, who stay only for convenience, not sincerity. Protect our peace. Guide us toward connections that are real, mutual, and grounded. 🤲🏻