@re-joyce 28 November 2025

As uncomfortable as it may seem, these are the realest words you need to know, especially if you’re adulting. Someone asked Ms. Jessica what tips she could give to someone na na-l-left out sa work nila, kase minsan daw kapag nagyayaya yung mga ka-workmate niya, kahit nasa harap na siya—hindi siya niyayaya. And Ms. Jessica answered with the most real and uncomfortable truth in life: “Ako kase hindi ako groupie, may pagka introvert din ako, pero yung social skills, I always take that upon myself to learn. Kailangan matutunan mo ’yon eh—how to be a social being kase wala namang taong mabubuhay mag-isa.” “You have to get out of your own small circle, get out of your silos or echo chamber. This is the real world, this is real life, real talk.” “We don’t have the privilege of choosing who to work with. Hindi ganoon ang totoong buhay.” “Pag hindi ka nila kinakausap, kausapin mo sila.” “Find something that you both can share.” “It’s a skill that you have to learn.” —Jessica Soho This is not the typical advice you can get on the internet. Most advice you'll hear if this happens is something like: “If they’re not talking to you, don’t talk to them also,” or “Lipat ka ng department, you don’t have to force yourself just to fit in.” But Ms. Jessica chose to preach about the realities of life—that the world doesn’t revolve around you, that the world won’t adjust for your sake. You are the one who needs to adjust and adapt for your own growth and success. Because at the end of the day, yourself is your own responsibility.