@re-joyce 11 January 2026

this is exactly why the whole “factory reset” trend doesn’t sit right with me. at all. sobrang alarming niya. it exposes how normalized this kind of thinking still is. hindi lang siya joke. hindi lang siya harmless humor. it’s a reflection of how a lot of straight people still think about being part of lgbtq—as phases, as something temporary. parang may default setting ang pagkatao, and anything outside of that just needs the right experience para “bumalik sa tama.” and let’s be honest, that subtext is ugly. sobrang outdated. yong idea na kapag “nakatikim” ka ng opposite gender, bigla kang magre-reset—na para bang confusion, experimentation, or lack of exposure lang. as if pagiging gay, lesbian, or trans are deviations from an original, correct version of being human. parang human ontology lang na kailangang i-align sa heteronormative standard. and the dangerous part? not the trend itself, it’s the mindset it normalizes. it justify conversion narratives. it justify people saying “phase lang yan,” “baka magbago ka pa,” “baka kailangan mo lang makatikim ng lalaki/babae.” identity becomes negotiable. lived experience becomes a hypothesis. and once you believe that an identity is flexible only for certain people, you start believing that their boundaries are flexible too. and that’s how consent gets distorted. when being part of lgbtq is framed as something unstable, people feel entitled to test it. to challenge it. to override it. suddenly “no” isn’t final—it’s negotiable. “i’m not interested” becomes “you just haven’t tried.” and “this is who i am” gets translated into “kaya pa yan baguhin.” and the worst part? society rarely calls it what it is. it gets buried under euphemisms. curiosity. jokes. concern. even love. “ginagawa ko lang ito para sa iyo” as if harm becomes acceptable when it’s dressed up as help. imbes na umuusad, parang paatras tayo. it drags us back to a time where lgbtq people weren’t seen as autonomous beings—but as projects. problems to solve. identities to debate. bodies to correct.