The Internet will be a boon to you if you are ready
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The internet can be a boon to you if you are ready for it. I won't start giving us the definition of what the internet is, or the person who brought the knowledge about it, in what year, century, and all of that. What i mean by a boon is that, it can be of great benefit to you if you are ready for it. It can also be of no benefits to you as well, it is your choice to make. There is this lifestyle i grew up to see in my parents, if they buy a particular thing for themselves, they will make sure not to use that thing the wrong way or otherwise. The expected us as their children to have that same mentality. It was a good one, because that was the only way we would get them to buy us new things. But today I'm not here to talk about my family life, i was just making references so you know exactly where i am heading to.
Some of our young people today have failed to see the great opportunities on the internet. Like i said in my previous article that the internet is like a big basket, yes it is. But today based on the topic, i will likened it to a farm. A good farmer will not allow his/her piece of land to lay waste during planting season. They know what they will stand to gain if the put some seeds or stems in the ground. The internet is just like a farm, how you use it will determine if you will be rewarded at the end of the day or not. Everything under the sun works by principles, that is to say things don't just happen, there is always a behind the scene part.
Yesterday evening, i visited a good friend of mine at her place. I got there and we chatted for a very long time, all this while i was with her phone checking out the new videos she has in her gallery. She got a notification about her data usage for the money, i informed her about it but she never cared. Me i was so interested in it so i went ahead to check how much data she has used. I was surprise to see 350 gb used, immediately, i screamed at the top of my voice. I asked her, ***'Babe where do you get the money to spend so much on data subscription, and what are you using 350 gb for'.*** She laughed and said nothing.
I didn't want to go any further in asking her another question, i silently went through the report to see the apps she use often that consumes so much data. Whatsapp tops the list, followed by facebook, instagram, twitter, youtube, and messenger. This were the tops apps that consumes a bigger part of her data. While on my way going back home, i began to ask myself, if Kachi is spending so much time and resources on all of this social media apps, what then is stopping from making a living out of it. I don't know if she is not aware that the internet and the social medias is making young people get rich, gain more knowledge, and increase their persona.
She is not making the internet beneficial to her in any way, she only spend time in watching funny videos, chat, do video calls, and the rest. It breaks my heart when i see people waste their data for nothing. I am not making or earning much from the internet, but atleast at the end of the day i am always proud of myself that i used my data the right way.
Is the internet beneficial to you?
In some developed countries, people no longer consider education to be a guarantee that they will get a better life after studing a particular course for 4 - 5 years. I am not preaching against it, education is good as anything good. But let me shock you, a lot of people through legit ways are making it big out there without education. Everything changed the moment the internet came to be, and the internet is birth with a lot of unlimited opportunities for people like me and you to leverage on so we can make it at the end. The only thing that is required of us is a skill, those things we are good at doing, because there are so many ways one can make money by utilizing the internet well.
If you have a skill, and you are so passionate about it, trust me you can start making money in no distant time by just showing that skill to the world. This can happen only when you are ready to let the internet benefit you positively. Like the content creators, it could be short comedy skits, how to play an instrument, how to sing, how to prepare new meals, etc. If you really check this things online, especially on social medias, you will get to fully know how this people make money by just showcasing they skills to the world. And also in the process, they are trying to build their online presence.
The internet can also be beneficial to us in more other ways. There are so many online platform that have good free courses for people to read, through this you can get knowledge about something, and as well utilize that knowledge the right way and it fetches you some money.
The internet has turned so many people from beggars into billionaires, it won't just happen at the snap-of-a-finger. When you have the skill, that's the first step, the right information, and the right perception will have to follow to back up your skill, you will sure be better of than those people who spent their data on things that are not important at the moment.
Hope you have a lovely moment. Thank you for coming around today.
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Be selective and careful when taking from this big basket
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Greetings great people. It's yet another new day for great and outstanding things to happen in our lives. With every strength you've got within you, try to make this day a memorable one. Not for evil but for good, for yourself and others. It rained this morning in my place, last night before i slept, i had a topic for todays article, but waking up this morning and behold it was raining, everything was gone. I was left with nothing to lean on for an article today. I did not stress myself to come up with a topic, what i did was to reply to few comments and read about four articles then squeeze myself back into my blanket, another round of sleep continued until 7:47 am. I woked up refreshed, with two great topics, it could be my guardian angel dropped them in my mind while i was sleeping. Since the beginning if this week, i have focused more on technology related stuffs, i don't know why. But for whatsoever reason, i hope it help gives someone here ideas to come up with good and better article than mine.
Today is quite different, but still related to tech stuffs. You might be wondering, What's this girl gonna write today? What big basket is she talking about?......
I will say you keep calm and read along. The basket in question is not just an ordinary basket. What i am going to talk today about is a big thing, which i feel the basket was the perfect thing to use in describing it.
The INTERNET!! That's the basket in this article. Friends, the internet is so big that i can't explain, the suprising part of it is that it keeps growing as each day passes. Whatever you have in your mind to describe how big the internet is, is just a grain of sand to it, you just won't believe how mind-bogglingly huge the internet is.
Like you are being offered a big basket filled with fruits, both the good ones, bad ones, the ones you dislike, the unripe, and the ripe ones. It is your responsibility to take your time and select the ones that you like. I believe you won't go for the spoilt, or rotten ones, instaed you will go for the ones that are good. Same thing with the internet, we have diverse contents in it, the good and the bad. In today's article i will talk on few things you need to do to avoid making mistakes when surfing the internet.
The internet can never offer you everything that is right. It is not all the contents you see on the internet you should consider as safe for consumption. Some of this contents may appear to be true, but behind it are so many lies that if you do not really understand the things happening on the internet, you will see those contents as legit. Since the internet is a large place already, and it accomodates hundreds of thousands of people daily, some people now take it upon themselves to make another person look bad by dropping some fake contents on the internet about them. It is not only limited to people alone, companies, countries, products, etc. And the people consuming this content without proper findings will begin to have hatred towards the companies, products, people, countries, that have been talked badly about. So next time you are going through any content on the internet make sure that the source is a trusted one.
Sometimes i do get notifications that i have won an iphone 13, gift box, and other beautiful stuffs. When i wasn't aware of the tricks involved, i use to click on those links and mails and before a snap-of-a-finger i am being redirected to a page that will ask for my personal details, immediately i will get another notification from a bot to send it to 10 of my friends. Imagine!! They are now asking me to spread their scam. Since things have really changed, this internet fraudsters might come up with more captivating offer like, you have just won yourself a lottery that amounts to so many dollars. It is a big lie. Even in freetown, nothing is free. So don't make a mistake of giving in to such temptation, cos no one will ever give you anything huge for free in today's world.
Nowadays, people are now paid to make good reviews about a product, site, etc on the internet. Nobody introduced me to this platform. I was searching for some information on the internet when i stumbled on the platform. I was interested in earning some Bitcoin Cash, and also making friends from other race of humans. I went ahead to do my own research about the platform, trustpilot is my best spot, i wasn't satisfied with the reviews so i had to see what the site looks like and if what people are saying about it is true. After few days of ghosting here, i finally became a member, it's a long story.......... This paid influencers now try to force people to register on a particular app so they can start earning money after performing some tasks. Don't let anyone fool you, making money by just staying on a site or app is not that easy. If you can't do a research like i did, it will be safe you walk away from such content.
And if you're the type that buys from the internet, you should be careful. Don't say i have been buying things before without having any problem. You might not be lucky the next time you place an order for something online. Maybe the things you are used to buying online at just clothes, but incase you opt to buying things like mobile phones, laptops, etc. Most people believe that when a particular product has a 5 star rating, it means that the product is perfect. Not all 5 star products are fake, but some, the seller pays people to give good rating and comments about the product. So next time you want to order something online, read carefully through the review, and rating before buying the product. If you want to be really sure of what you are buying, you can check the price of the same product on other shopping platforms, or do some search on the internet. If the price of what you had is far more cheaper than what you get from the searches. Do not be greedy and go for the cheap price, you might be buying an inferior or or a faulty products.
Final Thoughts
When next you want to take anything from the internet, be careful and selective on what you take out. Don't get lost in this vasy huge world called the internet.
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Technology and Humanity: The Effects It Has On Our Lives
Two days ago, in one of my articles, i talked about smartphones and children. Today i will be focusing on humanity as a whole, the effects modern technology has on our lives. After our first father and mother, i am talking about Adam and Eve, humans that existed after that time had always device means to to better their lives in one way or the other. Horses, donkeys, and camels where used as mean of transportation. Arrows, and spears were mainly used for war centuries ago.
Looking back from that time till now, you will see that technology has really affected every aspect of humanity. The advancement didn't just start in the 21st century, but it started in the previous centries where humans had the hunger and desire to improve its life. The only difference here is the progress it has experienced since then. Take for instance now communication, it has been made easy that someone can stay in another country and communicate with another person in a different country in few seconds. The sole aim of technology is to make humanity have a more comfortable life, but has it really fulfilled that purpose, or the other way round.
Technology makes the world look like a very small place. Technology has made it possible that through social medias, we can reach out to anybody, anywhere in the world. It has really made things easy, but dependency on it has made human loose focus, rather than getting more self-aware. It presents a basket full of diverse opportunities, but it has caused more unseen harm to us. Nowadays, we feel too lazy to engage in physical labour, or give ourselves a complete break after a busy day at work. The time we say we are resting is the time we are checking the latest trends on facebook, youtube, insta, and the rest of them. Technology has made it that some people's self-esteem is build on the number of likes and reactions the get on their profile pictures.
People no longer seek answers from Encyclopedias, but rather will always run to google since it's now the giver of every answer to every question. Now we have virtual assistant apps that helps people get through some certain task, they no longer seek cousel from other people again. The influence technology has on humanity should be put under control and not technology controlling human. It is an error to allow technology play with our minds, we really need to have control on how we depend and use some technological devices and even the internet as well. We have the power to make technology much more bebeficial and safe for humans instead of it becoming a threat to our own lives.
The diverse impacts of technology on our environment, mental health, and physical health can be so immensed if we fail to put ourselves in checks and balances. I am not saying that technology is bad, NO!!! It has benefitted humanity in so many positive ways, but keeping it under control is the key when it comes to do with life. Being aware of the cons of overusing technological gadgets will help one to escape the dangers when it comes.
Pros and Cons of the effect of technology on humanity
****Pro effect****
**Elimination of the problems associated with communication.** Communication is a huge part of our lives, i don't think some certain things will be possible now if there was no improvement in the means of communication. There will be great difficult in interactio between two entities. I have read stories of how people travel long distances just to deliver a message. Modern technology has made it possible that people can now communicate over long distances with just a press of a button. Other ways like the social medias, messaging apps, has also improved communication.
There are lots of pros of technology, though i won't talk about them in this article, maybe some other time. Lets jump to one of the cons of technology on humanity.
**Con effect**
**Pollution.** The increase in the demand for advancement in technology leads to more pollution, more work at being done in almost all the factories and mines. This eventually leads to the release of more toxic gases, greenhouse gases, etc into the atmosphere. This gases don't just vanish, but are inhaled my humans which in turn leads to chronic illness, towns are being polluted, water sources are polluted, and increase of global warming. This things if not put under control will have adverse effects on humanity to the core.
Other effects are; Some gadgets if overused may lead to lost of sight, expose the minds of young people to irrelevant stuffs, opens up more too for cyber crime to thrive in, and lack of privacy.
Final Thoughts
For quite a long time till this very moment, technology has so many great benefits to the humanity, and it has open diverse rooms for development. This are the good sides of technology. If we also look at from another angle, we will also get to see that technology has also brought numerous adverse effects on humanity. It will be a debate that will never end if we really want to find out if technology is good or bad.
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A Glimpse Into The Future: How Do You See The World By 2080
Have you ever thought of this before? How the world will be like by 2080, Do you have an idea?
2080 is still a very long time from now, to be very frank most of us might not be around up till that time. A whole 58 years involved, that's quite a long one. Before i decided to write on this topic, i had spent so many time imagining what the world will look like come 2080. Several times i do create imaginary images in my head, but i couldn't get the correct picture of what the world will look like. No one can ever tell what the world will actually look like, even with what the scientists are telling us, there are just mere predictions that can always change. But if the world is still intact till that time, there's a possibility that some of the predictions can be correct.
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Lets make today's article a little bit of fun and educative. After the end of this article, i will want you to also have a glimpse into the future, and drop your own predictions of what the world will be like by 2080. I will be dropping some of my own thoughts of what i feel the future will look like. I will be so happy if any of my preditions come to be by 2080, i just hope the world stays intact until that time.
The first i know will everly change by 2080 is the population if the world, no one can ever argue this. By 2080, the population of the world can never remain the same, it will exceed it current number. The governments can only manipulate it so the population of the world doesn't exceed a certain limit in the future, instead of increase, there's a decline. They can only achieve this by intentionally releasing plagues to reduce human population. Nuclear war, and natural disasters are not an exception. If all of this does no happen, then the population of the will grow by 2080.
***Out of the topic for a sec:*** I was having a conversation with a friend yesterday, and at some point he deviated from the actual topic and started talking about MetaVerse, he said a lot of things which took me quite some time and confirmation to believe him. I won't be talking about MetaVerse as i do not really know much about it, but with the things it is capable of doing now. Just imagine what 2080 will look like with it.
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By 2080, so many diseases like cancer and the rest will not exist anymore. With the advancement in technology by 2080, a single vaccine will be developed to cure all this diseases we have now. And believe with the Metaverse stuff i said earlier, one will be able to meet with the doctor, or even get acessed too right in the comfort of their homes.
Our schools will take a new shape by 2080. Believe me on this one, everything about school will be digital. Notebooks, biros, chalk boards, etc will no more be needed in schools. Things will be made easier form students with the help of technology.
Technology itself will be discussed at a hinger level. More advanced technological devices will be around by 2080, and all of them will be 100x faster that the ones we have today. Problem solving will be made possible and easier, with the help of technologies that will emerge by that time. This technology will help to relieve out minds the stress of solving problems that are too much or too big for it, a kind of brain computer interface, i read about this somewhere on the internet.
Peoples choices for place of vacations will change widely, people will no longer want to visit dubai, and other amazing places. But rather want to spend their holidays in the moon, and other planets. Means will be made available that will be capable of transporting people to this places.
Fueless and self-driving cars will be widely use by 2080. No fuel will be needed to travel long distances there's reducing pollution. Traveling on this kind of cars will be less expensive and convenient. Great advancement in technology will emerge by 2080 if only the world is intact.
Final Thoughts
This are just my own thoughts based on what i have read and what i imagine. The world in 2080 will be much more better than what we have now. What do you think?
58 years from now, a great change will happen in our world of today. Give your own predictions of what you think the world will be like 58 years from now.
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Smartphones And Children: Is It Really Good?
Things have really changed in this present age, technology has affected almost every living human on earth including children. In todays article, i will be deliberating more on smartphones and children, the topic looks confusing right? But as you read along, you will come to full knowledge of what i really mean. I could remember when i was still a kid, it took me some efforts before my hands could touch a phone, then there were no smartphones like what we have today, but the kind of joy i will get can never be explained for just touching a button phone. My parents never thought of buying us a phone until we got to a certain age, and we were not bothered about that because we did not really see the need to own one.
But today it's no more like that in some families, at the age of 8, a child is already asking the parents to get them a smartphone, and at 10 they have gotten one. Who were you to ask for phone back then, dad will look at you with an angry face and the next thing you will do is disappear into nowhere. Technology has really changed a lot, and sometimes parents even see the need to buy smartphones for their children, and they forget to ask themselves this question. Is it really healthy to expose this kids to smartphones at this early stage of their life?
If you give a child a smartphone today, they will want to hold on to it forever, and they don't know that what they are holding is harmful to them in some ways. It is not a strange thing, even we adults know how this mobiles are dangerous to this children. Every rich kid owns a tab, and this gadget becomes more important to them. I noticed something few days ago when i visited one of my relatives who newly gave birth to a baby boy four months ago.
I noticed something about the baby, each time his mom picks up her smartphone to make a call, he will leave whatever he was doing and focus on the phone, then brings out his tiny hands to collect the phone. And i asked myself, did anybody tell this little guy anything about smartphone. After a while, i asked the mom about it, and she told me that, that is exactly how the little guy behaves when he sees a mobile phone, even when he hears it ringing, he will look everywhere to know where the sound is coming from.
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If this boy grows to a certain age, maybe 2-3, and you give him a smartphone, trust me he will never want to let go of it. And if everytime you allow him to use the phone always at his age, it might become an habit and also you are exposing him to lots of harm. Aside the little guy, we have parents here, about to be parents, help your child health-wise by keeping them away from mobile phones.
Mobile phones has so much become a part of our daily life as adults, the same way we cannot stay away from our phones is the same way it is difficult to keep children away from mobile phones. Children are so smart now that the first and second time they use a mobile phone, the next time they will have less difficulty in navigating the different sections of the phone.
Parents needs to educate their children on the use of mobile phones. It is not only sex education that you should talk to them about, the usage of mobile phones should be taught to them also. Teach them about the health hazards they are exposed to if the continue using mobile phones everytime. There are a lot of videos on youtube you can show to them so they see the side effects of spending a longer period of time infront of a mobile phone.
I am not preaching against allowing your children to either own or use a mobile phone, but my emphasises are that you put a limit to their activities with mobile phones. Smartphones has its own positive sides, but the negative part of it should not be sidelined, most especially when it has everything to do with children. The use of smartphone is healthy for children if the daily usage of it is being put under steady monitoring and control. Outside this, it poses a great treat to their health which is harmful.
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My Online Ordeal With Scammers
People still fall for scammers, and i am not an exception. Scammers are heartless, they will play smart to make sure they take a huge part of your money, they are just so good in luring people into their traps with good stories. I don't where they learn such tricks from.
I was introduced by a friend to a data buying site. According to my friend, the site sells data at affordable rates. At first i doubted the genuineness of the site, because it was barely a month old. Since someone i know is already using the site, what stops me from trying it too. I signed up on the site yesterday, funded my account with some money, in the process of funding the account, i was asked for my bank card details which i equally submitted it so i can process the funding. Before clicking the submit button, i did a very huge mistake by saving my card details on the site.........there's no way i can take it back.
Everything went smooth the whole of yesterday not until this morning when i powered on my phone i got a message from my bank that i was debit of some amount of money. How? I asked myself, i can't remember performing any transaction after the one i did on the data site. How come i get this message. Somebody somewhere stole the $4 from my account, it struck in me that my card details i saved has gotten into the hands of thieves. I was so lucky that it wasn't my main account i used for the data buying, but i had to do something fast before they take another money that will be sent into the account.
I went to my bank later in the day, complain every to the customer care reps, and the only option i was given was to blocke the card. I accepted it, the atm card right now has been deactivated, and i have applied for a new one. I have learnt my lessons, not everything that appears cheap in the internet is good. Next time i will do proper research before i even think of paying for something online with my bank card.
The sole purpose of the internet wasn't meant to harm its users, but it has since become a den for fraudsters and scammers. Even with the level of technology advancement, one still needs to worry about online scams.
You shouldn't wait until you have been attacked by this people, you need to make sure that you've blocked every access that this people will use to capitalize on to steal from you.
**Get A Strong Password**
You definitely need a strong and unique password to keep your accounts secured. Personally i don't think anyone can hack my account because my passwords are always weird. If you can't make yours wierd, get a strong password, it could comprise of random numbers, uppercase, lowercase, and symbols (where possible). And make sure not to use the same password for all your accounts.
**Don't Give Your Personl Informations To Every Site**
You should be selective and cautioned enough to know the kind of sites you submit your personal informations like your bank card details, birth date, passport information, insurance policy numbers, and many others. If you don't trust the security of a site, don't enter your personal informations there. Not every online store is safe out there, be caution when dealing with anything online when it comes to sharing your personal informations.
**Use Different Passwords For Each Of your Accounts**
This is very important aspect in securing our accounts from fraudsters. If you use one pattern of password for your facebook, massenger, crypto wallets, and other accounts,when hackers have access to one of your account, it is so possible that they can compromise other accounts. Create unique passwords for each of your accounts, don't worry about how you will remember them, everything has been made easy through the internet. A password manager gives you the flexibility to access all your passwords anytime. The are so many of them on the internet, do your own research on what will be best for you and install it on your smartphone, guard it with a strong and unique password which you will always remember. Password manager is like a bank vault, it needs to be protected because it is keeping all other passwords.
**Perform Passwords Update On Regular Intervals**
You might not be doing this often since you already have a unique and strong password. But i recommend you update your passwords ones in a while. Updating of password helps when you forgot to log out of your account on a different devil you were logged in with. Make sure you take this measure to protect your account from fraudsters, spam-spewing bots, and scammers.
**Don't Open Links From Unknown Sources**
You shouldn't open even link that is been sent to you no matter how catchy it looks. Scammers now use links to get access into people's accounts, ensure that you make your own findings first about that link and where it coming from before you click on it. Don't fall for their tricks, be more wiser than them.
**Becareful With Public Internet Connections**
Using public WiFi hotspots can expose some of your personal informations to fraudsters. So it is adviceable that you move some of your personal informations that are so important to a secured physical storage. Don't give scammers, and hackers room to defraud you.
Closing Thoughts
Scammers are multiplying everyday with advance skills to get people into their net. The online world is where they commit some of their deeds, you should be wise enough to detect them when they come. Make sure to protect yourself, and informations very well
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Peju's Corner: Why Is There So Much Hype About NFTs
Are you surprise that i am talking about NFTs today. I am not a crypto person, BCH got me to start following the trends about the crypto world. All thanks to Bitcoin Cash for making me find interest on what i never regarded as something worth knowing about. So today i will be doing something quite different from other days, i visites my facebook account yesterday and almost everything that was popping up on my news feed was about NFTs. What's with the hype with NFTs, people were paying huge sum of money just to get an art of a baboon. For real, i can use some photo editing softwares and work on few projects that will earn me good coins. Is it that simple as i thought?
Until today i did not have any knowledge of what an NFT was. Anything i don't have knowledge about and i see people over hyping it, i will want to do some research about it. All thanks to the internet, i got the answers to my questions. So in todays article i will be making a short question and answer with myself to see if i can still recall the things i read about NFT on the internet. Atleast let me see how good i am incase i am been asked to talk about NFTs to newbies. After now, i'll still go back and read more on it.
Before i move on to the process, i will like to introduce the two persons involved. My neighbors son, he is 8 years old, intelligent, but does not have any idea about crypto or NFTs. I tried to explain the little i know to him, how an art of a monkey can be bought for a thousand dollars. He was just surprised on hearing this. I gave him the questions he will be asking the inteviewee. And i am the interviewee. So lets begin......
**________________________**
**Interviewer :** Sammy
**Interviewee :** Pejudear
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**Tell me what you know about NFT?**
Before i explain the little i know about NFT, i will like to tell what NFT stands for..... Non-fungible token. NFTs at unique digital assets which can never be interchanged. NFT helps gives ownership rights to owners of digital assets, and this can be sold and bought for real fiats, and even crypto. NFTs give a very unique digital signature to a digital assest which defines its original owner. This signature gives digital collectibles a unique identity. With all of this happening around NFT, a greater part of the digital economy could be affected by it......i don't know if for good or bad. But i guess for good. It is really enhancing media exposure.
**Where is the best place you think one sell or buy NFTs?**
Not too sure of this for now, but the only place i know is OpenSea. Lots of users on my facebook feed were talking about this same platform, although i have not read much about them, and since they are the most talked about, i think they are the best marketplace for NFTs. From my research it is one of the largest marketplace for NFTs. https://opensea.io
**The hype is getting more and more everyday, what makes it special?**
I don't know why i this question is on the list. Since i am yet to study more about NFTs, i can't really say anything for now. But just imagine i make an NFT, it could be an art of my dog or myself, the image is so visible for other people to see, and downloading it is possible. But someone still oblige to buy it from me. Why??? What is so special about the drawing?
This is what i am yet to understand. And i will find out what makes it special. *Next question please.....*
**Are there any value attached to NFTs?**
I think NFTs have value, not for me yet, but for the people that really know much about it. But i see great value in it because from the few information i got from the internet, they are validated by blockchain. Digital collectibles are store on the blockchain by just putting them on the largest NFT marketplace. I think that's where NFT has value, and even more. Making sense to me gradually.
*I stand to be corrected on some of the points i have given in this article. I am not an expert on this, still a newbie who is eager to know more about what's trending. If you feel i have not done my best, please do well to advice in the comment section. I just want to get be with crypto, blockchain, etc..*
**Still on Peju's Corner.....**
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Peju's Corner: Keep Pushing Until Your Success Is No More A Dream
There May Be Doubters, Challenges..... Don't Give Up, Keep Pushing Until Your Success Is No More A Dream
*Believe you can and you're halfway there.*
- Theodore Roosevelt https://www.goodreads.com/quotes/tag/self-confidence
If only you can silent every other voice in your head and believe in yourself, then you can achieve the impossible. Our success will stop becoming dreams the day we take that bold step and strive towards achieving it. We shouldn't complain that life is not doing us well because the next person gets his own success with less effort while ours looks so impossible to get. Life is so unpredictable, and the people around us are not helping also, if we are determined then we will keep pushing till the very end. The challenges of life and doubters should only make us more wiser, stronger, and not the other way round.
Reflecting back on those days when i didn't discover this platform, i spent most of my time reading about successful people. I enjoy reading about other people's success stories, it gives me the confident assurance that if they were able to break boundaries of impossibilities, i too can do same. The richest people in the world today did not just happen. I mean people that work so hard for their own wealth and not those ones that inherited it from their families.
If we are opportuned to sit and listen to the stories of this people, it will only centered on how the believed and never gave up on their abilities. Whatever we are doing, we have to stay motivated, if we allow doubter and the challenges of life gets on us, we will not only kill the motivation we had before, we will be reduced to the level where we doubt our own self and our abilities. Reading the experience of other successful people who have been in your position before can help get you back on your feet again.
If we don't believe in ourselves, other people that mean well for us won't believe in us. It may seem unnoticed, but eventually someone out there will always believe and give us all the support to achieving our dreams. We shouldn't wait for that cos it may take a longer period of time, we need to believe and support ourselves first, keep fighting, keep dealing with those negative thoughts, keep appreciating the journey, and above all encourage our selves with positive words that yes we are worthy and capable enough to achieve those dreams.
I am just four months old here, if i was still living behind my fears and doubts, i would have existed the platform in my first week here. I never liked writing, even for a sec, it was so scary to make the decision that i will remain here no matter what. Today i am celebrating, the journey here has earned me 32 subscribers, and 2 amazing sponsors. The numbers is too okay for a beginner like me.....hahaha.
If we care about what doubters say to us, the challenges life throws at us, people who make us second guess our decisions and work, we will be far away from living the life we dream of. Fear of failing, doubts, and obstacles will come, but what will make us stand strong is the believe we have in ourselves, it wins over all negativity. Don't plan to give up on yourself, we have what it takes to make a difference. Our self-belief can level grounds for us to walk on, so lets rise and explore the best in us and walk towards achieving those great unfulfilled dreams.
You Deserve Forgiveness
*"When you make a mistake, respond to yourself in a loving way rather than a self-shaming way."*
- Ellie Holcomb https://www.countryliving.com/life/g29661464/self-love-quotes/
Forgiveness not from anybody but our self. If we say we love ourselves, then we should be ready to always forgive ourselves for our mistakes and mess.
You may be wondering what it doesn't cost us much to always blame ourselves for the mess we create. Why it takes less time to get angry with ourselves because we make the wrong decision. Do you know why? A lot of factors cause this, it could be from the pressure the society puts on us, they want us to do things their way, and also the kind of perception we have when it comes to being perfect. So each time we don't live our life according to how the society wants, or we make mistakes in life, it hurts so much and we feel bad about ourselves.
This is where forgiveness comes in if we truely love ourselves. In the process of showing compassion for ourselves, we are being reminded that we are only human, meaning that we are bound to make mistakes both in our actions and speech. Life will be so boring if it actually move in a straight direction. It is just all about admitting how we feel about the moment we are in, and reminding ourselves that no matter what we might have done, we are still worthy of forgiveness.
Before i go on.......I forgive myself for not attending the youth program we had in church today. I felt so bad for my action, and since there's nothing i could do i have to show compassion to myself and move on. I can't be talking about self-love then i am not practicing it, it is a very terrible error.
If God our creator promised to forgive our sins when we accept Him into our lives, then who are we not to forgive ourselves when we mess up. We shouldn't seek forgiveness from other people, but we should be our own place of refuge when we mess up. Even when we did not do our best on a particular thing, we should be able to provide a safe haven for ourselves to hear instead pouring unnecessary blames and judgement.
It shouldn't be because of our mistakes we hurt ourselves, we don't have to make explanations for our shortcomings. Already we are trying out very best to do what we can, by if along the way we mess up, we should be reminded that we deserve forgiveness and compassion. It is important that we take some break and work on improving ourselves instead of always getting angry at the little mistakes we make. It may take years, days, and months for people to forgive us, but until then we should show same act to ourselves first. It should be like a responsibility, lets learn to love and accept who we are unconditionally.
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*It gladdens my heart everyday that i was so lucky to be a part of this great community. I want to use this opportunity to say thank you for visiting Peju's Corner today. Your presence here means a lot to me. I feel so blessed and lucky to have you as my friend. Hope you visit again.*
Peju's Corner: Forgive And Refresh Yourself So You Can be More Effective
Take Breaks Love, Forgive And Refresh Yourself So You Can be More Effective
Time does not cheat anybody, it is favorable to everyone. How you use it matters a lot......1440 minutes, 86,400 seconds, and 24 hours is what we get everyday. How do you exhaust this time?
It is always so frustrating when you don't utilize the complete time we have in a day well, sometime we get angry over it. Our time is renewed everyday, which amounts to 24 hours. We can't delay it, or make it run according to how we want it. Time they said waits for no one. In this 24 hours each day gives to us freely, we have to take breaks and make ourselves feel loved, refresh your mind so you can be more effective and useful.
Everyone set goals for every new day. Take for instance we that are here, aside writing and being active in the site, we have other things to take care of outside here. And sometimes we give ourselves targets to complete like ten tasks in a day. It is so okay if your are able to complete half of the task, just trust the process and remind yourself that you still have another day and fresh time to get those things done. Take breaks and be kind to yourself, and also get refreshed so that you can be more effective.
Although time waits for no one, don't be angry with yourself that you were not able to accomplish those things you had expected. Be refreshed for a new start, if you are sound, whatsoever happens won't disturb you. Have compassion on yourself even when you couldn't meet up those goals you set for youself. You will always get things done later, what matters the most is that you train your mind to stand strong. Trust the process and remind yourself that you are not doing bad afterall.
People will see you as a lazy fellow, or worst a failure because you were not able to make use of the 24 hours wisely. Don't allow their negative feedbacks make you see yourself the same way they do, it is so okay if you were not able to utilize your time well. What matters most is that you spare our some quality time in that 24 hours to make out time for yourself. Above every goals we set for ourselves, our own wellness should come first.
Tomorrow will present to us another fresh 24 hours, make sure to take some break and love yourself, treat yourself well, forgive yourself for every mistake made. If your sense of wellness is sound, then every other thing will be settled.
You Have Messed Up, And So?
Never forget that there is always another chance to always start afresh. The happenings of life are inevitable, life can never be predicted even by the best magician in the world. It is so important in our lives to have this consciousness that no matter what happens, the level of mistakes made, we should be able to forgive and have compassion on ourselves......instead of being ashamed, we accept and give ourselves a cool hug, then try again.
At some point in our life, we reflect on how life is unfair to us, and how we could have done better for ourselves and others. We make decisions to get better at doing a particular thing, then suddenly life throws us off our feet and the later story is different from what we had in mind. Remind ourself that we are only human, and that we can never be perfect, that sometimes we messed up, and there's nothing so bad about that.
Some days we tend to be the best version of us, and some days it feels like we don't know our left to right, we make decisions that will land us in great mess where it will take some time before we recover from it. It is so okay to have this experiences. Mistakes were meant to be made, what will make us stand out and also define our true worth is when we are able to forgive ourselves, give ourselves the best hug ever and hope to do better next time.
Don't hate yourself because you unknowingly or knowingly did something that put you in a big mess, even with this it is so important to tell yourself how much you love and value you despite the mistakes you made in the past. Tell yourself that you will try all your best to do better and anytime things don't go as expected, keep on trying. Don't forget so soon that despite what happened, you can always start afresh. Lets keep on showing more love and compassion to ourselves even when we've messed up.
Give Yourself Compassion During Criticism
Before now we should know that it's not everyone that will like the decisions we make concerning our own life. They will always find something to talk about, critcize everything about us. If we don't really trust ourselves, we might fall for their negative talks. It is something that will be painful to any individual when they see other people not accepting anything they do.
We can strive to be perfect in all our endeavors, yet still people will still go ahead to criticize it. Even if we own the best delivery service in town, we will still have people that will criticize it. Not everyone was meant to accept what we do, we will always come across people who don't accept our work. That's okay.
When we are faced with this kind of situation, we should stand up for ourselves and not allow the negative feedbacks this toxic people give make us feel bad or look down on ourselves. We shouldn't give chance to those negative perception to hold us down, what matters the most is our own thoughts concerning our life. So even when other people don't like you or what you are doing, it is important to pick up such a great opportunity and give ourselves more love and equally accept what we are doing.
Personally, i don't give attention to criticism that won't better my life. I can never cry over other people's critics on my work, or decisions. I so believe in myself. Why people criticize other people's work, or decision is because they don't really understand it. They just want criticize it because that's what they feel they need to do. We can never work our ways out to make everyone like us, and that tells us that we will never be attracted to everyone. No matter how hard the critics comes, it shouldn't change who we are and what we believe.
There's nothing sweet like being true to our own self. Stay focus and committed in actualizing those beautiful dreams of ours. We will always have people that will stand by us just to give us all the support we will need. Don't ever let the perception of toxic people limit you, stand tall and believe in yourself.
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Peju's Corner: Making Mistakes | Great Lessons Are Learned | Growth Happens
**Keep Fighting And Be Patient Enough, Your Dream Is On The Way**
*“Our patience will achieve more than our force.”*
- Edmund Burke https://www.countryliving.com/life/g32160758/patience-quotes/
*“The key to everything is patience. You get the chicken by hatching the egg, not by smashing it.”*
- Arnold H. Glasow https://www.countryliving.com/life/g32160758/patience-quotes/
Dreams are not to be rushed, we really need to take our time and be patient enough to wait for the right day when our dreams will come to reality. Most people will set goals today and expect to get the results the next minute. My cousin use to envy this particular guy that stays the next street, he would say how i wish i have his kind of body. But he would never want to go through the process that guy went through. My cousin became tired the first three days he visited the gym, he would complain that he is not noticing any change on his body. Just three days and he was already getting frustrated, the other guy he envied had enough patience before he got the result he wanted. Growth takes time, good things take time before they arrive.
As humans, a lot of things will taste your patience, but as long a you know what you want, you will always wait for it. Sometimes we struggle within ourselves with whether to be patient when things don't go as we expected. Allow patience to affect everything that you do or concern you. You've not committed the worst sin ever that is causing unpleasant things and delay to keep happening to you. Like i said earlier, lets learn to gibe patience the chance to affect every of our life endeavors. If we seek to get immediate gratification of our dream, the result will be poor compare to theone we have to wait till the right time comes.
Life can be so funny sometimes that it makes us get frustrated and angry because things don't go as we had expected, but after a while, when things finally go as we had expected we forget easily the strength and patience we had put in waiting for the result to come. We don't apprecite it the way we should. Making patience lifestyle is one of the best thing any person would for themselves. In everything that we plan to do, patience should not be counted out. Those plans may look so simple, but it is so possible that a lot of commitment and work will be needed before it birth the result we were expecting.
We may work so hard expecting to get our desired results from our hard work, but it fails, things wouldn't go as we plan everytime. There will always be a delay in one way or the other. A lot of people often complain of delays in their lives, the level of result they expected to get from their hard work are not delivered to them, they can't even see the sign that what they did will produce results. If only they can keep fighting and be patient enough to wait for the right time, their hard work will eventually pay off, those dreams they had lost hope on can be actualized.
Keep fighting and be patient enough, your dream is on its way. The time might seem long, but never loose hope. Make patience a part of you because it births great things at the end.
Making Mistakes > Great Lessons Are Learned > Growth Happens
*Extraordinary accomplishments are only achieved when we are able to overcome extraordinary challenges.*
- O. J. Brigance https://www.wisesayings.com/extraordinary-quotes/
*Only an extraordinary person can turn opportunity into reality.*
- Aleksandr Solzhenitsyn https://www.wisesayings.com/extraordinary-quotes/
*Extraodinary actions brings about extraordinary results.*
Still trying to remember where i heard that quote. The quote might look so simple with very few work, but it has power to make you do exploits. This quote has given me the reason to pursue greatness.
I got inspired to write this article after the news i got from my cousin this afternoon. She is actually travelling outside the state for a very important reason. She will be staying there for about eight months without visiting home. She is not going to enjoy herself, but rather she is going there to make a difference. She is already getting closer to achieving her dreams. As we were chatting, she express how happy she was and at some point how the whole thing looks scary. She has gotten a lot of ugly feedbacks from people about the path she is about to take.
I was so eager to see her, and when i finally got to their family house, i already knew where i will find her. I headed straight to her room, she tried to hide her feeling behind her smile. But i was so fast to notice that she was not okay. All because of the journey she is embarking on. We kept silent for some time, after some minutes i began to talk to her, reminding her that what she is about to do is very important. She should be proud of herself because at last she is closer to achieving her dreams. It took her years, sleepless nights, to get to this point in her life. I told her that this is what she has been longing for, now is not the right time to give up, but rather trust her intuition to get even more closer to her dreams.
Extraordinary actions brings about extraordinary results. To get to the desired place we want in our life, or actualize our dreams, we need to do the extraordinary. Those scary steps we were afraid to take, now is the time to take those steps if truly we want to experience greatness. Dreams can never be achieved in comfort zones, it is only in the uncomfort zone where we are even more closer to attaining success. If we want success, then we challenge ourselves to try doing new things, the fear of making mistakes shouldn't frighten us because in those mistakes are great lessons to learn that will eventually lead to growth and expansion.
Pushing ourselves out of our comfort zones will be so challenging, but outside there are great experiences, lessons, and opportunities that will get us closer to achieving our dreams. Be bold and confident enough to take that first step because you never can tell where you will reach after that decision. Staying in your comfort zone, you will be limited to some certain things in life, nothing new will happen in your life. Uncomfortable zone, though looks scary, but it has everything in it to remold you to become a better version of yourself.
Until you step out of your comfort zone, you will never realized the kind of glory that awaits you on the other side of life. Take that uncomfortable step today, and you glad you did. If you want extraordinary results, then you must do extraordinary things to get them.
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Embrace your imperfections
***"Beauty is the shadow of imperfection."***
- Simon Van Booy
I grew up to hear that no one under the sun is perfect. I have read in so many places about this same topic, and it still remains the same, "No one is perfect". I personally have my own imperfections, also same with every other person here and outside this platform. Imperfection is what makes the journey of life beautiful and interesting. Imperfections helps an individual have the desire to set great goals, and sometimes without imperfections lots of people will never have success stories to tell.
No one is ever perfect, we are human so mistakes are bound to happen. Don't ever be ashamed of you because of your imperfections, remind yourself that you need to keep fighting until you get it right instead of hiding from yourself. Imperfections are there to beautify you, and accepting it confirms that you truly love and accept you for who you are. If everytime we desire to be perfect, we will never realize our true purpose to why we are living.
***"I realized that I don’t have to be perfect. All I have to do is show up and enjoy the messy, imperfect and beautiful journey of my life."***
- Kerry Washington
Imperfections are there to shape every individual to become a better version of themselves. No matter how it is both in perfect and imperfect, you just need to love yourself, this is what defines you. Don't let anybody lie to you that you can only find happiness in perfection, happiness can also be found in your imperfections because it will remind you of your growth and worth.
Somehow life will be so boring without imperfections. A situation where everything goes in a straight line will never make sense to you. I am not saying it is bad to have some level of perfections in our lives. Without imperfection we will never have an inspiring success story to tell to the next person, you will never realize how blessed you are with some outstanding abilities. We can only recognize our growth when we accept our imperfections.
Don't ever get annoyed if people humiliate you because of your imperfections, remember it is what makes the best part of you to come out. Continue fighting until you be that better person you've always dreamed of. Try to do something spectacular and accept you for who you truly are, even with all the mistakes you have made in life. Your own imperfection is what makes you stands out amongst other, accept and embrace that unique part of your life.
***"Imperfection is the greatness of man."***
- Ernst Fischer
Whatsoever you are doing, don't stop the. journey half way. Those impeefections is what makes you who you are. Those things you feel you don't normally do well, try to improve on them. You are so unique despite your imperfections.
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*All quotes from* HERE https://kidadl.com/quotes/imperfection-quotes-to-remind-you-youre-perfect-as-you-are
Thank you for showing up today... Remain bless friends..
Certainly, you have that ability
*“Every great dream begins with a dreamer. Always remember, you have within you the strength, the patience, and the passion to reach for the stars to change the world.”*
– Harriet Tubman https://www.ellevatenetwork.com/articles/7572-15-best-change-the-world-quotes
*“We do not need magic to change the world, we carry all the power we need inside ourselves already: we have the power to imagine better.”*
- J.K. Rowling https://www.ellevatenetwork.com/articles/7572-15-best-change-the-world-quotes
*“Every single person has the power to change the world and help people.”*
- Laura Marano https://www.ellevatenetwork.com/articles/7572-15-best-change-the-world-quotes
Do you believe you can change the world?
Don't bother yourself for the answer cos i have it for you. YES YOU CAN.....
If you desire to change the world then it must start from you first. We make part of this world. There are so many ways and things we need to do first before thinking of changing the world. The change wouldn't just happen by a snap of the finger, cos the world is a big place, it starts front us then radiates to others and it continues like that. It is an error to desire change when we ourselves are not disciplined.
Without discipline we can never practice good deeds. Our good deeds can change the world for good, like those little acts of respect, honesty, and other good moral values. With discipline, we would be able to control what we desire, especially those things that are not worthy enough.
I read an article here feel days ago where it says that we are actually the product if what we listen to, watch, or follow. You are great, intelligent, unique, like you just possess all the good qualities a person would have. With all these qualities, you desire to change the world for good, and you are talking to the same crowd of people everyday, imagine what will be the outcome. Change has began, every interaction you make would be a life-changing one. Through this act, you can be a medium through which the change you've been desiring can be actualized.
The change we seek has to start from somewhere,and that is our own self. It then flows like a rice then into the ocean. The river here could be our friends, families.......and the ocean is the world.
You have what it takes to make the world a better place.....
Just think about how lucky and blessed you are now of having the desire of making the world a better place to live. Every moment that passes comes with opportunities for you to make a difference in the world. You would have never had the desire if you were living behind fears. You are so unique, and only those with the mind to look above impossibilities has the mind to think of changing the world. You have all what it takes to effect that change in this world.
There are a lot of good things you are desiring to see in this world. What are those things? Don't procrastinate, let it start now. You are blessed enough to make a great difference in this world if only you have the guts to take that first step. You have something that is more that your physical strength to make a difference.
You shouldn't wait until you get to a certain age or point in life before you start walking towards achieving your dreams. Doubts will set in, but as far as you don't have anything to loose, go after your dream, a great opportunity awaits you to change the world.
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Thank you for coming around today. Remain blessed......
It is healthy to practice gratitude everyday
*“Be thankful for what you have; you’ll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you will never, ever have enough.”*
—Oprah Winfrey https://parade.com/937289/parade/thankful-quotes/
*“When you arise in the morning give thanks for the food and for the joy of living. If you see no reason for giving thanks, the fault lies only in yourself.”*
—Tecumseh https://parade.com/937289/parade/thankful-quotes/
*“We can always find something to be thankful for, and there may be reasons why we ought to be thankful for even those dispensations which appear dark and frowning.”*
—Albert Barnes https://parade.com/937289/parade/thankful-quotes/
Have you been grateful for today? What are you thankful for in your life?
Being grateful is something we should include in our daily routine. A heart that is full of thanksgiving will always be grateful for the things they have, no matter gow insignificant it may be. I have lots of things to be thankful for, and i wouldn't want to share them because the list will be so long. Like today after the days activity, i got to visit my family, i was so happy that all of them are in good health, we ate dinner together, make some jokes and everybody laughed to it. I was so thankful for a moment like that. It was such a great moment with my family, i know as well that each of us takes time to spend with family, and that should give you every reason to be thankful.
A person with no money in their pocket will say they don't have any reason to be thankful. Having a reason to be thankful is not all about if you have some money on you or not, but there things we have in our live that others don't have, we forget this because we only put our mind on the money aspect. Being able to lift your hand, see clearly with your eyes, etc is enough reason to be thankful. Where you able to use your phone without stress, have access to the internet, and also read this article? A lot of people out the don't have this kind of privilege you have, they don't own a smartphone like you do. Did you sleep well last night in your home with all eyes closed? A lot of people in other countries don't have the kind of peace and security you have to enjoy what you are enjoying.
Anytime you are thankful for something, you mood is changed, you have this magical feeling in you. It is so healthy to practice thankfulness everyday, you shouldn't afford to miss a day. It is 12:36 am now as at the time of writing this article, as another new day is coming i want you to take a moment and reflect back on the things you are thankful for. It could be the things in the past, or maybe you are getting a new job 2 weeks from now. Have a heart of gratitude for both the small and huge achievements you have made.
Everyone of us here has this one thing in common to be thankful for. For having a sound mind that allows us to enjoy reading every article on this platform. We should be thankful for the brains behind read.cash, for giving us the chance to connect with thousands of people and also earn. The list will be long if i continue, we just have a whole lot to be grateful for.
Having a heart of thankfulness can help put you in good moods whenever you are feeling down or angry with yourself. That is why i say it is so healthy to practice gratitude everyday because in everything that happens be it good or bad, you will always see the positivity in it. No matter how your day went, be grateful that you went through it successfully. Making gratitude a lifestyle will change your life for good, every moment you will be smiling all through because you know that there is always light at the end of every tunnel.
To call it a day, i will not fail to be thankful for everyone that has seen this article worth reading. I really appreciate you because you mean so much to me. For every other member who keeps on dropping life changing articles, i am grateful for you.
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Thank you so very much for visiting today........
Finally getting it right
For some days now, i have been feeling so empty and drained. If you've noticed lately, i have been inactive here because something is missing in me. The enthusiasm for the things i love doing here vanished into thin air, and this all this while till this very moment was so frustrating. I don't know if anyone has felt this way before?
A lot of things changed about me since the day my laptop was stolen. I began to feel emotionally drained, i wasn't myself anymore......always hiding behind my smile. It felt like the whole world has landed on my head, nothing interest me anymore, even spending few minutes here became a problem to me. This is how i have been living my life for the past few weeks. As there is nothing i can do, i had to remind myself that for the past few weeks now i have been through a lot of sad moments which has somehow caused me pains and after a while will bring relief to my heart. This afternoon, i made up my mind to free myself from the shackles of those bad memories and give myself the assurance that everything is okay. So many people went through things even more worst than mine but were still able to come out of it stronger, so i see no reason why my own case should be too hard to deal with, it's time i move on.
I was tired of who i was becoming, the kind of life i was living, the whole thing became bored and i decided to share what going on in my life with us here. It has never been like this before in my life, i hated myself after what happened, my mind was filled with irrelevant thoughts that i forget to visit here as often, having compassion on myself was never on my list. The fact that we are humans prone to make mistakes gave me the boldness to rise up from the dirt and dust myself. Ot will only take a determined effort to accept the beautiful and the ugly part of our journey through life and remind ourselves that it is so okay to have ugly days.
This is exactly how i have been feeling all this while, but the story is different now. If you are going through or having this kind of feeling, just take a quite moment with yourself and say back to yourself that everything is going to be alright, begin to speak positive, and don't loose hope. I have not fully completely healed, it's a gradual process. The trick here is that i am being patient with my own self, with time i will feel more better and free. Do same to yourself and watch how your life will turn around for good.
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Thank you for reading........
Motivate and inspire your team by doing this as a leader
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Taking responsibility and making sure your team is doing great is a mark of a great leader. As a team leader, so much time and energy will be required from you to make sure your team grow in all aspects. But when you do all of this, like you put so much effort in building the team, you select the right people to make up the team and at the end of it, it seems you've not done anything. Instead of growth, your team declines in every aspect. Everything you do to make sure your team stands strongs doesn't seem to work, this happens because you are using the wrong approach and strategies. Money can't solve everything, as a team leader your money can't make your team members like you. It takes true leadership together with real life strategies to inspire and motivate your team.
Some of their things that you need to do as a team leader to motivate and inspire your team members
As a leader you need to lead by example.
You can expect people to be good and respect you if you don't exibit such character as well. As a leader, you must possess all the qualities you want in your team. A proud leader will never make a good team, you will motivate and inspire your team if you are a type of lead who is hardworking, dedicated, honest, admits every mistakes, respectful and as well possesses other good traits that will add value to building the team.
As a good leader talk to your team members on personal growth
A successful team will always achieve its goals because they have this growth mindset. As a leader you can talk to your team members on how they can develop themselves past the level they are, organize classes for them where you invite experts to talk to them about new things they can learn, encourage them to read good books about success. The team won't just experience personal growth, but the organization will also.
As a leader appreciate every little effort of your team
It's not just about money alone. Appreciating every little effort by the team can go a long way to motivate them to grow professionally.
Be a good listener as a leader
Sometimes you as a leader don't need to speak everytime. If you want to motivate your team, give them the chance to also express themselves. Listen to their own ideas and opinions, correct them when they are wrong, applaud them for every answer they give. Your team will be super motivated if the see that you also give them the chance to express themselves.
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Reward every hardwork by your team members
This act can go a long way in inspiring your team. Everyone wants to get some reward for a task well done, and if you can implement this then you have opened them up to even do more equally heading the path of greatness.
Get more closer to your team
What i mean here is that as a team leader you need to build that relationship with you team but with limit. Find better ways to create a more deeper connection between you and your team members, always be open and real to them on the things that will help inspire and motivate them.
Honesty
As a team leader, if you want to run a successful team you need to get the trust if your team members. If you are honest in all you actions, you will automatically build trust and earn respect as well.
Glad that you had to stay till this point. This are just personal thoughts, but i know very well that the can go a long way to help you build a perfect and working team.
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Thank you for showing up today. Hope to see you around next time.
You can still be happy without expectations
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When there is no expectation, there will be less disappointment. Each and everyone of us here has been disappointed in one way or the other, especially when it comes to relationship. We no longer feel safe anymore in the relationships that we are in, that sometimes we stop expecting it to work the way we had wanted due to the numerous disappointments. The title of my article today shouldn't confuse or mislead you to think that you shouldn't expect anything good to happen to you. I am not saying that you should go for the things that are not good or suiting to your kind of life, or maybe allow those good dreams of yours to die off, or you should stop seeking for knowledge just because you don't want to be disappointed.
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When you truly understand that you can still be happy without expectations, then you while life will be filled with love and acceptance. You will feel great satisfaction from within when you learn and master the ways on how to stay happy without expectations.
Life isn’t owing you anything.....so stop expecting and start accepting
This is where some of us get it wrong, we blame life for every bad thing that happens. Life isn't owing anyone anything, so stop expecting and start accepting. Expectation cause pains, what i really mean here is that when our reality doesn't go in line with the kind of expectation that you had, pains will set in. A lot of people at the beginning of the year had expectations of accomplishing outstanding things before the first 3 months, those expectation could have been getting a new job, dropping some bad habits, be the best amongst your peers, being promoted at your workplace. And when the reality doesn't match the expectations of such a person after the first 3 months of the year, they feel pain and cheated.
You can still be happy without expectations
Happiness has its own secret, and if you want to stay happy without having any expectation, you must know some of this secrets i will be sharing with you. Happiness comes from within, if you allow yourself to accept you for who you are, you are always grateful for the way things are instead of murmuring, if you're satisfied with the little you have, then happiness without expectations will follow.
**Don't expect life journey to be a straight one.** As long as you are still breathing, don't expect the journey through life to be a straight line to a destination. You will come across lots of unpleasant happenings, and you can as well draw out great lessons from this unpleasant happenings. When you have gotten the lessons your eyes will open to see that even without expectation, you can still be happy.
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**Change what you see and say to yourself.** My mentor use to tell me that "what you see is what you will become". We are a product of our own thoughts, what do you think of yourself? Do you think that you have to be rich before you can relate with people of higher status? Do you think that you need the validity of others before you can feel good? If this is exactly what your thoughts are, then you have succeeded in limiting yourself from realizing that you can still be happy without expectations. Change what you see and say.
**Have the heart of forgiveness.** Forgiveness like they will say is powerful. No one is perfect, whosoever had caused you pains or disappointment, you must forgive them. Keeping someone in your heart because they offended you will only distract you from achieving greatness. Free yourself from every guilt and watch how beautiful your life will turn out to be.
Be grateful for your life, make it a habit and you will soon come to the knowledge of how you can be happy even without expectations.
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I Hope You Consider This
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A very huge part of our life, we sometimes spend it in making sure we impress others, whatever happens we make sure we are there not for ourselves but for those people around us. We may not see the stress in it just because we value the relationship and the love we have for this people, their needs are first while ours comes later. Like imagine, you bought a new car.....and you decide not to drive the car for the next 2-3 years. During this period, the car has been seating under a tree without care of any kind. Trust me that car won't be the same again after seating there for that number of years, some parts will rush, birds will poop on it, everything will change about the car.
This is exactly what will happen to us if we spend all our life pleasing others and forgetting about our own self. Showing up for ourselves will always be a problem because we are too tired after going extra miles to please the people around us. Because we are doing it over and over again, it seems that our life is choked up with lots of activities, that we for how to really care for our own self. Friends if anything will matter first it is us before anyone else. If you don't appear neat and responsible in your office, school etc, nobody will ever want to associate with you, so it is important that we give ourselves the neccessary love and care in order to be the best version of our selves for others.
It is not bad to be there for people when they need us, but don't do it to the extreme where you try to please everybody. When people get use to the fact that you are always showing up for them even when you don't feel comfortable about it, they will begin to use you as a slave that sometimes it makes you forget that you have your own problems that needs to be solved.
When you don't value your own self, you will never value anything that concerns you, you will not value the good moments you find yourself in, nothing will really matter to you. If at some point you get to realize that you are in this kind of situation, just remind yourself that you have what it takes to make everything right. It's just the mindset, if you can change it, then you will feel good about yourself. No matter who you are and what you are, by just accepting yourself will boost your mental energy, you will see yourself first before others.
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I hope you decide to show up for yourself first, accept the fact that you are worthy of everything good. When you show up for yourself first, you've created a better and bigger space to show up for other people around you. Always be happy and grateful for the kind of person you are. If you are still missing it or struggling at some point on the choice to make, it's okay to continue showing up for other people, but be concious of the fact that your own needs should come first. Even when things are not going the right way, always be there for you. Focus more on making a better version of you so that your brightness can radiate to others.
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Stop Complaining And Be Grateful
For some time now I've been away from the platform just because of what happened to me, i lost very important documents and other stuffs, this alone has made me loose my real self. I can't really focus or have time for myself anymore for the past 2 weeks, but i am glad i am healing. This kind of incident is happening to me for the first time. Days that i am free, i spend more time in front of my laptop either i am reading or watching a movie, sometimes i draft most of my article l with the laptop. Ever since i got acquainted with read.cash, the more time i spent with my laptop was already becoming a daily routine. Now i can't imagine what it feels like without my laptop, it's been 2 weeks now simce i lost it to some unfortunate fellows.
I have not shared this with my friends, nobody knows about it you that is reading this article now. I feel so ashamed to tell people what really happened. I will look unserious to them, like i am too careless with my stuffs, and i don't want to bother anyone witht the thought if how i will get a new laptop or how i will be able to retrieve back some of the important documents i had in the laptop. It is so painful to loose something that means so much to you, i really miss my laptop. No plans of getting a new one soon because i don't have the funds. Some of my goals for this year have been shattered, no hope of getting those things this year. It is so sad, but there's nothing i can do about the situation. Make sure to keep whatever you have safe from bad people, it will bring you pain if you loose them.
We Complain Alot
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This will be my first article for this month, last month was a great success, if not all atleast i achieved half of my goals for the month of april. Lots of challenges came my way, but i am so happy that i was able to conquer all of them. I didn't do that on my own, but i got strength from God Almighty, and the great articles i read here daily. Everything looks me to my eyes, i have been away for two weeks now, so far i have read the success stories of some members here. Congrats, and i wish y'all more success. Back to the topic of today.
We all are humans, and because of this complain will never lack in us. In everything thing that happens around us, be it good or bad, we will always find something to complain about. Sometimes we complain of getting a particular thing, and when that thing has been given to us we find something different to complain about. Too much of complain will masquerade us from seeing how far we have gone in life, there will be no room for being grateful for our current situation. Sometimes we spend more time complaining about the things we have already, we don't remember to appreciate what we have. It skips our mind that, that very thing we dreamt of some months back has now become a reality.
Stop complaining and seize some moment and be grateful for your journey of life, be grateful for who you are, celebrate every goal you have achieved, remember those achievements were just dreams, just take a moment and celebrate those big and small wins. Never again should you complain about the things going on in your life, but rather reflect on those things and remind yourself that you are getting more better, wiser, and stronger than yesterday. It is so okay to complain, but not a good choice to make it a habit. No matter what is going on in your life, give yourself some time to heal, remember we are humans afterall. Don't complain too much, take a moment to appreciate the fact that you are so blessed, celebrate yourself for every effort you have put in getting to where you are in life.
I need to stop at this point for now. I am still healing, pray for me that i get the complete funds to get a new laptop before the year ends. Thank you for stopping by after a long time....
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Value Those Little Moments
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Throughout the whole of yesterday and even till this morning i wasn't feeling alright, everything is so okay with my health, but what really bothered me was the kind of sad things happening in the world today. Now, news of a persons death has become like a normal happening, no one is feeling it anymore. Lots of people are not privileged to see this day, why because they are no more. Just few days ago, a family lost their father to the cold hands of death, the ukraine / russia war has made lots of people not to see the beauty of each new day. And i wondered, what if this people never got to have a moment full of joy and gladness before the suddenly passed on. Did they really a feeling of joy?
I was going through a blog not too long ago, and while reading on of the articles, a few lines of words caught my attention, "Life is all about joy", i stayed on that line for more than 2 minutes, i was lost in my thought. After getting back to my normal self, i began to think, if life is all about joy, then even the scariest moments in our lives has some joy hidden somewhere. Sometimes we may feel it, sometimes we may not. No matter how ugly our lives is, there is something we have that others don't, and we should be grateful for that. Joy on its own has a way of impacting our lives, you shouldn't wait for something big to happen that will cause you to have big joy. No matter how small it may be, joy is joy. Those little joy you have may not bring a tot relief to your problems, but you should celebrate be grateful for it because they are actually giving you hope that tomorrow is going to better.
While you are still alive, find joy in every good thing that you do, no matter how small it is. Everything brings me joy as long as i wouldn't harm me, just for the face that i am still alive and in good health brings me so much joy, watching my little cousins play with their toys bring me joy. So much joy overflows in my heart. There's lot of job in this world, if you don't find it, you can't have it. Life coulde tricky and funny sometimes that you think that you are unlucky, you are not worthy of joy, No!! You are more than lucky, there are people in the grave yard who had wish they could have another opportunity to live just to see the beauty of every new day, but couldn't. It is so natural that we would always have ugly moments in our lives, that's what will give us the reason to be grateful when joy finally comes. I know how hard it is to be joyful when we are down, but try as much as you can to create a moment and say to yourself that it doesn't matter what you are going through now, that everything is going to be alright.
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Value that little moment you created and give yourself hope that truly everything is going to be alright. Don't ever say you are unlucky, you may cry in the night, but joy cometh in the morning. Everyone of us is so worthy of joy. Value every moment were you are joyful because that's what's going to fuel you to keep going.
I am so much grateful for the renewal of sponsorship by @Talecharm and also @Tomi-Ajax for seeing the reason to encourage me by sponsoring the little effort i put in here. This has brought joy overflow in my heart. Thank you my best friends for this great support.
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You Are Still Growing, Allow The Process
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That beautiful building you always admire anytime you are passing by wasn't erected in a day. It went through lots of processes to become something admirable, this should teach you a lesson to learn how to wait for those dreams of yours to grow. Have you ever followed an artist through the process of drawing a client, i have done this before, at first i doubted that it will never be possible for the artist to deliver the job. But i was shocked at the end when the drawing was concluded, it took the artist about a week to finish the job, the only thing the client was happy about was that it came out the way she wanted, she never thought of the disappointments, tiredness, stress the artist went through to deliver her job. She only celebrated the outcome of it, the process of the drawing gave me so much confidence that any good dream can be actualized if hardwork is put into it.
Sometimes you may not be patient enough to wait for the process to be over, i believe that the lady i discussed earlier wouldn't have had the patience and confidence to wait if she was around when the artist was doing her job. I never had any idea of what the drawimg will look like when it was finished, same with our goals in life. Since we don't know the outcome of it, being patient is really a hard thing to do as the actualization of the dreams will take a longer time to come. The building i have in the first photo took quite some longer period of time before it was actualized, and even at that maintenance process will be done from time to time to keep it still shining. Same thing with we as individuals, it took some years to grow into the person we are today, and the process of transformation or would i say growth still continues everyday.
It's always on the news almost every week that a building collapse, if the proper and right process was applied, such a building will never collapse. Just imagine that, that skyscraper you always admire when you are passing was not properly built, what would have become of it now? You will just wake up one day to hear on the news that the skyscraper has been brought down by a strong wind. But it is still standing strong till today because of the hardwork, patience, and precision that was put in it over the years. It solely depend on us if we want to use shortcuts to get to our dreams, or we dedicate our time, be patient enough, follow the process bit by bit with all amount of seriousness and focus to arrive at that beautiful destination.
It is okay if you have issues when it comes to being patient, but try to let yourself know that you really need to wait and follow the process slowly because that dream you want to build is going to need more time and hardwork. If you are patient enough to wait, the outcome of it will be so beautiful like the beautiful buildings, art works we have around.
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The process of growing cannot stop even after we might achieved our dreams, there is always more for me things to come in. Like the beautiful buildings we have around, there's always a time for maintenance, this helps to keep the building new. The journey to achieving our dreams don't seem to have an end even after getting what we were looking for, the journey still continues for sustainability of that dream. As a tree grows, its leaves changes, this means that our dreams are capable of taking a new shape as we change, and as long as we have a solid foundation which we built during the years, we can start from there to keep on building the new dreams. Always be proud of yourself because you are getting much more closer to achieving your goals. Don't fall on the way, move with that positive strength with which you started the journey with because that beautiful dream is waiting for you.
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Positivity Will Capacitate You To Boss Around Every Situation
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It’s most important that you surround yourself with positivity always, and have it in your mind at all times.
*-Tyler Perry*
When you are joyful, when you say yes to life and have fun and project positivity all around you, you become a sun in the center of every constellation, and people want to be near you.
*-Shannon L. Alder*
There is so much power in positivity. There is no how you work on effecting positivity in your life that you will remain the same, you will completely change into a better version of you. There is a very thin line demacating is from living the kind of life we wish for. Until we have the right mindset which is a positive one, we will never experience change in our lives. You might be wondering why i said that positivity is superpower? As we move forward in this articles i will share some important facts to you. Where you see positivity, you see success, happiness.
Positivity is one of the important factor to achieving all of this. Anyone who determines in his or her heart to be a successful fellow music embrace positivity, this is one of the secrets that leads to being successful which sometimes people who have tested it won't share it with you. Positivity as a superpower has the ability to help you stay on a balance state on your journey to achieving your goals. Sometimes or most of the time, positivity gives us the true reason to value our own worth, and even create more room for success to thrive.
As a superpower, positivity builds you to become your own boss. A person that is always filled with positivity will never lack creativity upstairs. Nothing seems impossible to you because of the kind of mindset you have, and you are always ready to accept challenges. One thing that will kill positivity in any human is when they begin to seek for approval from other people because they did something. Most people depend solely on approval of others to stay active. In this case, such a person is missing out on something, which is self-validation. Sometimes you are not satisfied with the validation people give to you all because you don't believe in your own self. Help yourself to know the power of positivity, begin to give yourself positive affirmations, be serious about it every moment of your life and watch the change that will set in.
Until you discover the superpowers of positivity, you will continue to be slave to negativity, nothing outstanding will happen around you as you will be waiting to get permission from people before you do something. Everyone here has set goals for this year, and since january you have been working towards achieving those goals. But due to how things turn out, your mindset limits you, you doubt your abilities along the way. You find it so comfortable to tell yourself that you are not worthy of anything good, or you give excuses that you lack what it takes to achieve those dreams.
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You forget so soon that you have something on the inside of you to change your mindset from the negative to positive. In everything that you do, don't focus on the negative, let all your focus be on the positive side. With positivity, see yourself achieving those dreams even more that the extent you had expected, what you see is what you will get. See the possibilities in those dream and work towards achieving them with the right mindset.
The road to success is never a cheap one, you will encounter a lot of distractions, and pains, but if you truly have self-confidence in yourself, then there is no mountain you wouldn't climb. No dream is too big when a positive mindset is involved. Remain positive moment by moment, and watch how the pieces of your life will fall back to its rightful place.
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How Do You React To The Mistakes You Make?
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*It is important that we forgive ourselves for making mistakes. We need to learn from our errors and move on.* ― **Steve Maraboli**
As long as we humans and doing different activities daily, mistakes will always occur. It's just so natural that everybody will always make a mistakes but having the ability to take one or two lessons out from that mistake is what matters. We are humans, making a mistake shouldn't sound like you have just killed someone. Our strength and capability should not be measured by our mistakes, it shouldn't give a definition of who we are. Have this at the back of your mind that no one is perfect. Sometimes you might search for the reasons to why you made such mistake and if you couldn't find it, just have a quite with yourself and sorry out ways you can correct those mistake instead blaming yourself. The only thing that defines you is the way and manner you deal with those mistakes you made. Personally, i see mistakes as channels to learn and be better on a particular thing. It is either you let your mistakes pull you down or you raise yourself above the level where you were stuck with the extra knowledge you will get from it. Remember, no one is above mistake.
How do you react to the mistakes you make?
Do you react badly? Or, You treat yourself with compassion?
In everything that we do we will always want to get it right, that is the plan we always have. But sometimes those plans don't work out the way we expected, mistakes comes in along the way. Because of the plan we had, we never expected to make any mistake, and sometimes it is always so hard to deal with those mistakes if you are a type that lacks this forgiving spirit for your own self. If you don't have love for yourself every mistake you make will make you paint yourself the most worst person on earth, sometimes you feel like you should not even exist. If only you can learn how to love yourself, show somw level of kindness, then you will be able to deal with every mistake you make. If you treat yourself bad because of your ouw shortcomings then you will continue to be stucked in whatever mess you are in. Having compassion on yourself will make it more easy to deal with or even smile at your mistakes.
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Let people see that you have come to a point in your life where you don't let your mistakes rule or define you. You could imagine that you have gone this far in life, you have grown so matured to this extent and people see the change in you. But along the way, you make a huge mistake in the presence of this people, it could be so frustrating that you wouldn't want to fail them by reaction l badly to the situation. Everyone knows that it is so natural to make a mistake, no one is perfect. This is the right moment to show this people that you truly love yourself despite your mistakes, be kind and show compassion instead of getting angry and frustrated. Showing this kind of attitude will make you realize that you are only human and not some kind of robot.
When you make mistakes and you show kindness to yourself, you are automaticall accepting the fact that you are human, accepting how you feel, becoming your own best friend, reminding yourself that you are capable of getting yourself out of every mess that you are in, that you will get more better and wiser aftee recovering from those mistakes. Never feel bad for the mistakes you make, it is so okay to find yourself in such a moment. You never wished to be there, but here you are, if only you can agree with yourself that you will definitely make those mistakes, then you have done something great for yourself. There will be a speedy recovery.
There are thousands of people at this very moment making huge mistakes, but yet still thet forgive themselves after a while and move on. You too can so that, don't be stuck in that dark world forever, give yourself a chance to heal by forgiving, and showing love to you. Don't be stuck, but try to take great lessons from there and improve on your life.
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When Was The Last Time You Celebrated Yourself?
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*You are a firecracker in everything you do. Celebrate yourself everyday.*
- **Hiral Nagda**
If there is something each and everyone of us should celebrate about ourselves everyday should be that there is no other person so unique as us. When was the last time you celebrated yourself? It might interest you to know that you are worthy of being celebrated, and celebrating yourself is one of the best we would ever do to ourselves. Those little wins of yours, do they go uncelebrated, or you are just hoping that people will celebrate you for it. You have nothing to loose just for celebrating every little win you get, but rather you are adding something great back into your own life. You deserve to be celebrated, you are so worthy of being celebrated, and that one person that can do this for you is no other person but you. Every single moment if the day, you so deserve to be celebrated. We are humans and sometimes we forget this aspect of our life. Life can be so unfair to us that it makes us forget to love ourselves they perfect way, just the stress of the day would sweep us off our feet, lots of bills to settle, family, and work, but just celebrating ourselves can bring happiness and positivity to us.
So now lets look at the few things we can do to help boost our self-confidence that will in turn help us in celebrating ourselves.
Acknowledging those little wins you
have accomplished
Celebration will start from yourself and no where else. It's not a big thing, or will it cost you anything to celebrate yourself for those little wins you have accomplished, don't look at how small it is just celebrate it. Someone people out there are wishing to achieve what you have achieved, this is enough reason to celebrate yourself. You must have gone through pains and troubles before you were able to get to this point in your life, you deserve to be celebrated for that. Always acknowledge the fact that you are getting more better everyday, and the victories you get in your daily pursuit. Personally, if i seat down and reflect back on the pains i went through just to get something and at the end i finally got that thing, tears of joy will drip down from my eyes. You might get same feeling also, if it means smiling, just express how grateful you are with that beautiful smile of yours, and even if you feel like crying, free yourself and let the joy and excitement flow out in form of tears. Let your loved ones know about your little wins, how far you have gone in life, some may see as a show up but it's not, you are trying to tell them that you are proud of who you are, in this way you are celebrating yourself. Treat yourself good in the process because you are worthy of it.
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Be happy when people compliment you
for your efforts
There is no way i will be sad if i get a nice compliment from someone just for the effort i put towards getting something done. Sometimes your may not get you to the place you had dreamt to be, but those littles steps you took towards achieving that goal is worth celebrating, and if someone compliments you for that, don't feel bad or see it as a mockery, just be yourself and be happy for it. Those people saw that you deserve to be complimented, be happy and appreciate it. Everything is right in celebrating you.
Getting busy doing things that
bring you joy and gladness
This are one of the things you need to do to celebrate yourself for those little wins you've got. Whatsoever you love doing, just go ahead and do it. Like me i love singing, especially when i am in the bathroom, it brings me so much joy. You know exactly what will bring out that joy in you, do it because it is the best way to celebrate yourself and also because you deserve it.
Say positive and not negative
Look yourself in the mirror and say positive, this will build the way you see yourself. Most people stay in front if the mirror for a longer time admiring the person that is looking back at them. Don't be ashame to celebrate yourself, be proud of who you are, it is not a bad thing to do this. You deserve the kind and good treats you give to other people out there. Don't want for other people to celebrate you first, the real celebration starts from you. If only you can put your mind to focus on positivity, then nothing can hinder you.
Be much more happy to celebrate yourself, you shouldn't have a fixed time to celebrate yourself, it should be something that should be happening moment by moment. Begin the celebration, then this will give people the reason to celebrate you. You are worthy of all the celebration we've got.
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Make Your Life More Beautiful With Your Smile
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Because of your smile, you make life more beautiful.
*-* ***Thich Nhat Hanh***
Have you smiled today? Have you been told by a friend or colleague how beautiful you are when you smile?
This is the one thing that our creator has given to us that makes life beautiful every time. It's almost becoming an anthem to me, people keep telling me how beautiful i appear whenever i smile. A lot of us here are so blessed with beautiful smile, but sometimes we misuse it for something ugly, instead of using it to beautify our lives the more. We have that beautiful smile but what behind it is so ugly, we bury our ugly self in it. What the world sees is different, they see someone who is so okay with life, doing pretty good. They have been blinded by your smile that they fail to see that you really need help. Sometime it's not always our fault that we mask ourselves with our smile, but the advice we get from people, and this advice does not help in any way. Might have been that we were told to hide our feelings with a smile. This gives the impression that things were so okay with us when it wasn't.
We should know the kind of advice that will be better for us. Instead of making your life more ugly with your own smile, why no do it the other way round, make your life more beautiful with your smile. Don't fake it because of what the society says, it is so healthy to smile as much as we can. Be truthful to yourself and do all you can to express that happiness in you with that beautiful smile of yours. Smiling will not only make you happy but it will make you feel better from within, and such a genuine smile is contagious. Don't ever use it as a mask to hide your ugly feelings, but express it with a pure mind.
Smiling has everything to do with positivity and not negativity, so instead of putting your face down, find strength and look up, be happy and smile. Your smile should never be used as a mask to hide those sad feelings. Whatsoever we are going through, just let it out, be truthful to ourselves and never hide it. I just know how sad and lonely it feels to only that you have been using the precious gift our creator gave to us the wrong way just because of the advice we get from people. I can never advice you to do such a thing, faking your smile when all is far from okay with you. I encourage you to be truthful to yourselve, spend some good quality time alone until you come to the knowledge that you are worthy of happiness. If you can do this one thing for yourself, you will see how strong and good you are, your life tends to get moment by moment with that beautiful expression you have in you. With this every smile you put up for people to see will be real and sincere.
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The moment you have gotten to the point where you have knowledge of your own strength and what you are capable of doing, fear won't grip you anymore because you are conscious of the fact that bad days will always come, days that you don't feel like putting up that beautiful expression. All i will say is give yourself some time to heal, always remind that after a while everything will be okay, as you have another chance to try again. Never give up on that second chance even if it seems like it's not going to come.
You have gone this far to still remain as you were before. Don't hide behind your smile, just be yourself and be sincere. Make your life more beautiful with your smile.
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Life Can Often Look Like a Seesaw
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When i was a kid, during playtime at school our teacher will take us out to the school playground. Very few kids do find it difficult to choose from the numerous playground equipments we had in the school, but i that was not a problem to me as i always go for my best, the four seat seesaw. Few kids hated it but i never do, i was always lucky to find other kids who loved to play with it. One difficult thing with the four seat seesaw was how to make it stay balance for some moments. This brought more fun to it, until we grew past that stage of playing in the playground, we were unable to achieve that goal if i may call it like that. We have this park around where i stay, during the evenings, lovers do come around to spend some lovely time there. Some of them get to use the seesaw while having some fun. Most of the time, they try to make the seesaw stay on the same level, which is not always possible.
The same thing applies to life, it can be so difficult to balance it. Having so many responsibilities to take care of can make you have this conviction that your life isn't balance. If you have had the kind of experience i had back then in school, then you will fully understand why i said Life can often look like a seesaw. I had promised myself that each day of this month i will be writing articles without skipping a day, and it's just five days now and i don't have five articles why because i have other things to do, i am a student, i have a small business of my own, i give myself few minutes everyday to meditate, i have friends to visit, phone calls to answer. Just 24 hours in a day and i try my best to meet up with almost all of the tasks, sometimes i picture myself and my life to be that seesaw we have in the playground. No perfect balance, and sometimes i need someone to explain to me what it means to have balance in life and how to achieve it.
Like it was so difficult to achieve balance with the seesaw, it will definitely take quite a long time before one can achieve balance in life as new needs will always will be added to the list everyday. I was on my way to see a friend today, and while in the taxi i over heard two ladies discussing and one of them was telling the other that for some time now she has not really been happy with how her life is going. Friends will always have an advice to give. The other lady calmed her down and was telling her to stop doing the things she doesn't like and start doing the things she likes, that this will bring happiness to her. Their conversation went on until i got to my destination leaving them to continue.
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It was such a nice advice the other friend gave to her friend, but will that really bring balance and true happiness to her? Based on the topic of this article, i am not too convinced that that will bring balance and core happiness to her life. Mind you, i am not saying she gave a bad advice, but i think the best way that lady can get true happiness and balance in her is to do the things which are more important to her. No on will ever advice her to the point of knowing what's important to her, she knows it. Personally, the most important thing to me is spending some quite moment with myself at the end of the day. Every other thing i do and about my life is important, but i wouldn't be complete without the moment i have with myself.
Having the perfect balance in life is not something that happens overnight, it is a gradual process we need to work on to achieve it. Finding balance in life doesn't mean that you do so many things in a way that seems so nice. It could mean doing those things with the whole of your heart even if it looks difficult or small. Finding balance in life could mean seeing positivity in the things that you do, having that confident assurance on your abilities. Balance in life is difficult to achieve, those up and down movement we vet from the seesaw is what the moment while on it great. Same thing with life, those ups and down life throws at us is what makes the journey beautiful. The real success, and growth happens there, we get more wiser and mature. Nothing is impossible if hardwork is involved. To get balance in life is so possible, but before that have a tasteof what it feels like to obtain that balance that we seek, it will give you every reason to value it. Don't forget " Life Can Often Look Like a Seesaw."
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Journey of Success Without Diligence is Pointless
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Today i have few words to share with us, and that will center on diligence. The word deligence could simply means carefullness, it could also means seriousness. To change your life or pursuit of your dreams and aspirations for the better needs diligency. As individual we may find it too difficult to be diligent, by as you read along you will get to discover few things that will help you stay committed in pursuing your goals.
What does it really mean to be diligent base on your own point of view?
You should be able to answer that question after reading this article to the end.
Anywhere you see diligence, you will see some importance that is got to do with life, some level of seriousness, and faithfulness attached to it. A person of deligence can never beg, and can never fail. He or she does no do things anyhow, such a person is always careful and not always in a haste, very serious and focused because purpose must be achieved. And if any tangible purpose must be realized, then deligence must be one of the criteria to get up there.
Whatever goal anyone is pursuing, deligence is one of the factors one needs to succeed in such a pursuit. For any man to be wise, he needs diligence, for any man to succeed he needs deligence, and where there is no diligence, there is no addition. For any successful person to come to the other side of better success, he or she needs diligence. If not so, such a person will be on the surface of success. Let me shock you, success is in levels; there's the surface part of success, the middle part of success, and the deep part of success.
That is the reason why a good number of persons like the politicians who thought that success is just success, and because they have seen the available finance and they are carrying it in big bags concludes that they are successful. Just because they have gotten in position so they decide to build houses, by cars, talk big, no value is added to their lives and the moment their tenor in that position expires, and the money isn't coming anymore. They begin to sell what they had from the least to the greatest and before a snap of finger they are back to level zero. This people where onces successful fellows, but all of a sudden life throws them to the beneath why because what the achieved was not good success, they were just floating on the surface part of success.
Journey of success without diligence is pointless. I will try to give you a foundation where you will be able to solidify yourself to stand and never to rest on the air as a person that builds its castle in the air. Follow this few tips to help you stay diligent and at the end accomplish your goals successfully.
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Always endeavor to stay focused
Distractions will always set in, this is one of the thing life will throw at you in your journey to achieving success. If by chance you discover the things that brings distractions to you, it is good that you know them, try to deal with it and at some point give yourself a little break. Don't rest for long, no matter the distracting, let your goals be the first thing on your mind, don't let distractions work on you.
Don't opt for boring goals
If you are ready to make a change in your life, then you must opt for goals that will keep you active all the time. If you have goals like this, then you will be able to work on the part of being diligent. Don't belittle yourself to thin about small goals, dream big but take small steps towards that big dream of yours.
Learning from your past mistake
Mistakes will always challenge you to be more diligent. Just know that they are natural. No successful person has ever attained the peak of greatness without having a story of the numerous mistakes they made along the way. I will say it a million times, mistakes have great lesson to teach a person, learning from those mistakes will help you grow and make you better as well.
Celebrate every little goal accomplished
Taking out time to celebrate those little goals will help build you up to be more diligent in pursuing those big dream of yours. Recognizing the fact that you have achieved your set goal will help motivate you yo do more. If you really want to succeed, don't let those little wins just go like that, they are worth that celebration.
Procrastination can never work together with diligency. Every goals that you have, take them bit-by-bit and work on them. Forget about how long it will take before those dreams come to reality, but a long as you are working on it with carefulness and diligency, you will definitely accomplish every set goals you had.
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A Simple Fact That Everybody Will Agree With
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Today i will be talking on happiness and some of the little things we can do to boost it. Happiness is just being in a good mood like feeling good moment by moment. Happiness is that mood we are in where our positive emotions dominates or pushes away the negative emotions. There will always be a contest between this two as one gets to stay and the other leaves. Happiness won't just come from anywhere but within, we must do all we can to fight sadness, loneliness, melancholy, anger, and rage.......and give way for love, contentment, satisfaction, and serenity which are the positve emotions to stay. This is the only way we can get true and peaceful happiness.
Some of the things we go through in life affects our happiness. Having a good and reasonable amount of money in our accounts, having cute kids, living in the best house in town, owning the latest smartphone will make us happy, but to a certain level. Happiness comes from within us, it is our choice to make if we want to have total control of our happiness level. There are a lot of things we can do as Individuals to help boost our happiness level. As we move on, i will outline some of those things we need to do to help us stay happy moment by moment.
Being grateful is one of the things i would have listen. A heart that is grateful for all the things that it has commands happiness. Making gratitude a day-to-day practice will help boost your happiness level, at your free time write down the things that brings you joy and be grateful for it daily. If this is done on a daily basis, our positive emotions will be stronger than before. It may look as if it won't work at the first trial, but it will definitely work if you are so consistent in doing it.
Our mindset also affects our happiness, if we have a negative mindset, then happiness will be absent in our lives, but if we have a positive mindset then happiness is guaranteed. Happiness is not like the process you go through when you want to buy a car, that after paying for the car you own it forever. No!! Happiness is something you work for on a daily basis. When i say work, i don't mean lifting heavy loads before you get happiness. It's just a simple daily practice, doing the things that makes you happy and other people as well.
Making people happy is one of the things that brings us happiness. There is no how the people around that you have affected their life either by giving them gifts, showing them love, etc are happy that you will not be happy also. Having good relationship with people outside your family plays a bigger role in our happiness.
I promised to list some of the things that can help boost our happiness level, so here we go:
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Take enough time to enjoy and appreciate every positive moments
What's the rush, take it slowly and enjoy those positive moments you have on a daily basis. Wish that it could last forever, get deeply soak in it that you loose consciousness of your present self. Enjoy it until it gives you thousands of reasons to be grateful for, take it so serious because it is a golden experience that worths your time.
Build relationship with the right people
Having the right before around you will help boost your happiness level. Toxic and negative people will always want to associate with you, their plan for you is never a good one. But staying in the circle of positive minded people will help create an environment that is filled with happiness. Make the right choice of the kind of people you associate with.
Set positive goals for yourself
Setting positive and achievable goals will help girls you a purpose. This goals should not hurt you but it should be a kind that inspire you and makes you stay active always. The journey towards achieving this goals should always make you happy. It shouldn't be based on what the society wants, remember this is all about you, and you must do all you can to boost your happiness level.
Devotion to the things of God
Giving a bigger part of youself, and time to the things that has to buildng the kingdom of God will bring happiness to you. This is the most assured source of happiness, try to devote yourself and watch how your happiness level will grow.
Stay positive
Don't let the negative thoughts rule over the positive thoughts. Negative thoughts are distraction, the don't allow you to see the good and benefit in what you are doing, but positve thoughts keeps us still active even when what we are doing is so small and insignificat. Being active will leave to happiness in the process. Dwell more in the positive.
Be grateful for little things
I talked about being grateful for little things in my previous post. Every little thing that we will ever value will bring happiness and it will help boost it.
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With this few list of the things that help boost ones article. Try to include them in your daily routine and watch how happy you will be daily.
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Beauty
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*Real beauty is to be true to oneself. That's what makes me feel good.*
-LaetitiaCasta
*The best part of beauty is that which no picture can express.*
-Francis Bacon
I am not here to talk about our outward beauty, but something more bigger than that. Before i forget, Happy New Month to everyone. I'm so much happy that we have made it this far, despite the challenges we faced last month but we are still standing strong. I pray the month of April be nice to each and everyone of us here, our families both nuclear and extended, more ideas to write meaningful articles, and above all, i pray we end this month well.
Back to todays topic. Seeing the title alone, what were you expecting to read? Maybe pejudear is going to talk about how gorgeous you are, or maybe she's going to talk about how gifted you are with a beautiful face, good skin, and whatever you can think of..... But no!! I want to talk about that inner beauty which you carry on the inside of you. Lets just keep aside the outward beauty for another day and focus more on the inner beauty.
Already you are wondering what our inner beauty looks like, it is just as beautiful and pretty as what you see in the mirror every morning when you wake up. Nowadays, the society that we find ourselves in has really manipulated us to put our focus more on our outward beauty forgetting the internal beauty. If we don't have the perfect dentition, have a glowing skin, or if we don't have a perfect body shape, then we will be shamed with a lot of hurting words like we are too far from being beautiful. This can lead to being depresses, or maybe struggle with ourself-worth.
Don't be decieved by what the society says, don't ever give them the chance to decide your life. Being beautiful is something that starts from the inside of a person, don't let the society lie to you that your beauty begins from your outward appearance. It comes from the inside to the outside from within, and if we allow ourselves to feel the beauty that is right inside of us first, that is more better because we will be beautiful on every side, both inward and outward compare to what the society defines beauty as.
There's this proverb that says "If only the character can be just like the body". Let me explain with an example, we have one way or the other come across people with beautiful body type, nice skin, i mean everything about their outward appearance is perfect, but they lack the right character as humans, they have a rude nature, everything that comes out from the inside of them is Zero. The next time you meet such a person again, you will automatically lose interest on them, nothing will be so special about them again even when the have a perfect outward appearance.
So now you know...paused...... I am not preaching against outward appearance, No!! But i am trying to make a point here, does it really matters? Does it really conclude everything about who we are? What gives people the impression about us is our inner beauty, the outward beauty doesn't really matter that much. But the society has lied to us that it does matter.
I guess i have shined more light to what it simple means to be beautiful outside the standards of the society. But i will still go further to write few things on it as long as the inspiration lasts. Yeah!! Personally it's not everytime i feel like to write anything even if i have the topic, when the inspiration is not there, i am just as empty as whatsoever your mind is telling you.
The next time the word beauty drops in your mind, don't defined or see it as the circular world sees it, but define it more deeper than what you see on the surface. I define beauty as simply being your best self. Being true to yourself is what i call beauty, being able to forgive others is what i call beauty, trusting your abilities to take you far in life is what i call beauty, being able to love other and also love yourself is what i call beauty.
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Outside your outward appearance, think of those things that you possess that makes you beautiful. Don't be limit to what you see on the mirror, there's a greater you, a better you, on the inside. Don't let the society mislead you to think that your beauty only begins and stop on the outside. No!! It radiates from the inward to the outward. You are so free to give the outward appearance the best treatment money could get, but don't forget to also polish the inward appearance because that's where the world will see your true worth.
Beauty is more than what we see in the mirror. Go out there and radiate that light of yours into the world, believe in yourself because you are beautiful enough.
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Little Things Matters
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*“It has long been an axiom of mine that the little things are infinitely the most important.”*
-**Arthur Conan Doyle**
Every small thing about life can mean so much compare to those big things we think of. Treating yourself with those little gestures throughout the whole day is far more better than spending the weekend without joy. When you spend time enjoying this simple pleasures, life becomes more comfortable and satisfying. In life little things matters and if you are happy about those things in your life that seems so small and insignificant, you are the most luckiest person on earth because you are blessed. A very few people today show gratitude to the little things they have, if not big, then it is nothing to them.
Being grateful for the little things we have brings about happiness in us. I hear people say, i don't have any reason to be happy. Such people can never find happiness if they don't value the little things they have. Every little pleasure, gesture, should be able to move you, and make you happy as well. Looking for a reason to stay happy will never be part of you because you value every little thing that you have. Smile will never seize to be on your face because of this.
Life is too short to waste it on waiting for big things to come, live life to the fullest by enjoying the little things you have now. Only through this can happiness set in. It could be enjoying the view of the sunrise or the cool breeze of the evening, enjoy the moment and make some amazing memories out of it.
Lets jump into another page of this amazing topic to see some of the little things that can bring you happiness if you value them.
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Dinner with family
You might see it as just an insignificant or a normal thing, but time with family is so precious. Sometimes we are too busy with our own personal life that we forget our family, that special time we set aside for our family is missing. There is so much joy when we have dinner our family, you get to talk about things that will make everyone laugh, know the successes of each member of the family. That little time you eat dinner with your family can bring about total satisfaction and happiness in you. Whatsoever you are grateful for is important to you, no matter how small or poor your family may look, be grateful for the having them around, value their existence as well. And this will bring happiness to you.
Don't fake, be who you are and love yourself
If you value yourself, no matter where you are, who is watching you, you still be your truth self then happiness will be a huge part of your life. Never try to impress anyone, give yourself the love it needs, value it and watch how your life will be colorful. Don't wait until you have much before you can love yourself, those little gestures like cuddling yourself, having breakfast in bed, watching the sunrise and many more can bring you happiness.
Giving to others
Most of the time i hear people say that they don't have enough for themselves why then should they give to others. Giving is a two side thing, the reciever is happy for the gift, and also the person giving out the gifting also happy. If we value the act of showing kindness to people through giving, then we shouldn't look for reasons to be happy or reasons to smile either, this alone has a great impact on our own happiness.
Appreciate your own efforts
It so normal that every human being on earth craves to be appreciated. But in this case it is a personal thing. If you want to be happy and even do more for yourself then you have to appreciate those little efforts you put in achieving your goals. If you do this then you have autamatically push yourself to even do more than what you expected. It is always so encouraging when you notice something good about yourself no matter how small it is. Look around, appreciate every effort, idea, and time you have invested to get to where you are now.
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The list will never end if i want to continue. We have a whole lot of little things which matters and most importantly at some moments in our lives we need to stop and appreciate those little things. To know the usefulness and worth of those little things, try to make them your daily routine, by doing this you will not only value it but it will give you joy. Don't ever look down on those little things that you have or maybe get from people. Being grateful for having them will bring happiness to you and contentment.
Those few things i listed above there are just the little things in my life that matters to me, i have a whole lot of them but time won't permit me to list all of them here. Personally, you have those little things in your life that brings happiness to you, maybe before now you never took them serious. But i will tell you that those little things matters, try to make them a part of your life like adding them to your day-to-day activities.
I will submit by saying that life has provided us with a lot of little ways to create our own happiness. Life won't force us to accept those little things it has given to us, it is in our place to give ourselves the chance to enjoy these little things. A lot of people look down on these simple pleasures, they don't ever want to get connected with it. Don't wish to be among such people, make use of every moment of your life to create happiness with those little things in your life
It's all a matter of choice, it is either you want happiness or not. Like great companies we have today build great things out from scrap, you too can create happiness from the most insignificant things in life. Don't wait until you have the big things life has to offer, because you do, you will never have the time or see the reason to be grateful for the little things you have now in your life.
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You Deserve It
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Everyone deserves happiness, oh yeah!!
It could have been that your yesterday wasn't so beautiful, maybe you were treated like an outcast. Maybe some random person tempered with your emotions, or you came out of some traumatic situation. And within you, you know that you will heal but that pain won't go away. It is a memory that you will carry in your mind for quite a long time and whatever the case may be just know that a lot of people who are doing fine today have a story to tell of how they were being hurt, how they endure it and work through those hurting days then finally move on.
Some people think being hurt both physically and emotionally and getting out if it is that simple. Not everyone is qualified to give advice, i mean people with no experience. This people will always be the first to advice you if you are being hurt that you should "let it go", just like that. Such advice won't bring a speedy healing to you, and even if it does you will always breakdown along the way because you did not deal with this hurtful feelings the right way.
You have been hurt right, and the right way to deal with that feeling is for you to admit your feelings, try to understand it, and finally come up with ways on how to go through them so you could finally let go of those feelings and move on with your life.
I have seen a lot of people being hurt anr i learned from them some of the things they did to cure themselves of those hurtful feelings. I have been hurt too, and what i saw those people did helped me to heal properly. I won't be so stingy to keep it to myself as i know that someone out there might be hurt or is hurting at the moment. If it works for me, then it can work for you too. Here are the few things that brought healing to me when i was hurt.
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Identify what's causing you the pains
The first thing i ever did when i was hurt was to reflect back and identify what's really causing me the pains i am going through at the moment. It's not always an easy thing to do as your mind will have a lot of things running through it. It is natural, you can never fight what you don't know and succeed. Until you know what is hurting you, you can never deal with it. If you truly deserve to be happy again, then you must take up the sacrifice of tracing what is causing you pains to its root and dear with it. This should be the first thing to do if you want happiness after you have been hurt.
Don't share your story of how you were hurt a million times
There is no way you tell the story of how you were hurt three people in a day without reminding yourself of those hurting days of your life. This won't allow you to let go of the past and move on with your life. No amount of sympathy from people you are telling your story to will change what has happened. Happiness won't have a chance into a you that is being filled with hurt and sadness, only by letting go of those hurtful feelings that a room will be available for something better to come in and you will find happiness in the process. People are different, i am not saying that sharing your own story is bad, but if you see it as a medium were you can use it to help others and also get help too, then share it. In the process of doing this you will know whether to continue or stop.
Show some compassion by forgiving yourself
Sometimes we blame ourselves for the pains we go through even if it wasn't our fault, or maybe we caused the whole mess. Whatsoever happened, you need to know that pains are inevitable. You shouldn't wake up each morning regretting why it happened, you deserve happiness everyday. It's a decision you need to take, it is either you choose to remain in mess, or you forgive yourself and create room for happiness. The ball is always in your court, stay or move on. Choose wisely.
Spend more time in activities that brings you happiness in the moment
You are still fighting your way to get through the pains, but in the same moment spare out some time to have some fun no matter the kind of pains you are going through. Find something that will brighten you up and bring joy. Give yourself some break in the fight, you have hurt enough. That moment you create will contribute to your healing, it's not magic but it works like magic.
Smile because happiness looks good on you
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Happiness looks good on you and you deserve to be happy every moment, never be in a haste to go through your anger and pains. Give yourself some time to follow the few steps i have shared up there if you want to heal yourself of your pains and move on. It is a tough process to follow, but since you deserve the peace and happiness, you have no other choice than not rush into it but take it bit by bit until you finally get back yourself.
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