A living guide to life
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**HOPE AND SELF-PITY**
Hope is something we can't do without in this world. In addition, the most worthless emotion is self-pity, you feel inferior and worthless, hence, you lack the courage to compete or continue. Think about it and make necessary adjustments.
**SMILE**
The ever beautiful outfit in the world is a smile! Always wear a smile. It fits every one and has no over size
**EXCUSE**
The most crippling disease is excuse! It often gives birth to procrastination the thief that always steals our time.
**GOSSIP AND INTEGRITY**
The most dangerous community is gossip! Do not subscribe to this district; do not also possess their Identity. The most esteemed possession is integrity.
**SELFISHNESS**
The ugliest personality attribute is selfishness! Self-absorption or self-interest breeds greed and callousness, and people dislike you for it.
Peace of mind is the surest and effective. Anxiety not withstanding, you can be as peaceful as you make up your mind to be. Worry is the most destructive habit.
**WILL POWER**
The word - I can! Is very powerful! Oh yes, you can if you truely believe it! Belief and desire combine to promote the will power and release the needed strength and encouragement.
**SELF-RESPECT**
Not having self respect is a big loss. It also translates to self-pity. You wrong your self by forgetting the duty you owe to yourself. No one else does it for you; hence , you are rewarded by what you present of yourself to the people. Be self respecting, you can subsist on self-respect.
**HUMAN BRAIN**
The brain still stand above all the computers in this world, none can be compared to it. Moreover, you have it! Put on your thinking cap and reason!
**COMMUNICATION**
Yes, communication, prayer still stands as the most trusted, powerful and effective means of communication
**ACQUIRE AN ASSET LIKE FAITH**
Faith is a true asset to acquire! It is capable of undoing the impossibility.
**LOVE**
The most powerful force is love, every other force humbles before it. There are three ways to love - to yourself, your neighbor and your creator. All good and noble things connect to love. Love sees clearest yet it does not see evil. The world remains in peace because God's love is sustaining it.
**THE POWER OF GOD**
All the known planets, including Earth are synchronized by the power of the Almighty God. The power of God has no comparison; it is all-important! Let us all worship the Almighty God in total reverence for his great powers, without which we cannot be.
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Finance in Marriage/Relationship
If the issue concerning finance does not receive proper attention, it can cause conflict and untold hardship in any marriage. It does not matter how meticulous, rich or poor one may be. The income of the man or the woman must not be a hidden affair. Your decision on any issue relating to family finance should be a mutual thing.
It is not good if any of the spouse is denied the knowledge of how the family finance is being managed, notwithstanding who earns the income. The money is yours. The couple should decide together on what to do with what is theirs. The husband however has the final say. Nevertheless, he must be wise in taking decisions.
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You create room for doubts and distrust when the family finance and it's management becomes a hidden agenda. Common goal suffers the very moment there is unmarried opinion in financial management. Just as it is true that the center does not hold when things fall apart, the family peace sags when decision on financial management and distribution is unilaterally taken. ( Decision made and concluded by one person). There is always a conflicting element when there is no sense of unity.
Different couples have their dispositions on financial management and distribution Viz. rents, fees, feeding allowance and sundries bills. To ensure progress, the best approach to financial management is mutual agreement. Consensus saves the couple the conflicts such as financial mismanagement could engender. The two must be one. Hide nothing about it. Practice this noble suggestions. The result is wonderful.
A wide gap develops in the relationship over situations where the man or the woman points at a property and claims sole ownership. It also proves that they are yet to appreciate what marriage truly is. For a healthy marriage favour the use of pronouns - 'we', 'us' and 'ours' instead of 'I', 'me', or 'mine' endeavor to apply the pronoun 'we' where 'I' sounds Selfish. In addition, use 'ours' where mine suggests division. This is a workable logic in relationships, namely marriage.
A couple should handle financial mattes the way it best suits them, and their immediate family members. Stop making comparison, as you are not in competition with anyone else. Although nothing is too small to be of consequence, superficial (unimportant) issues should not confuse the reality.
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Acceptably, some spouse point accusing fingers at each other, charging them of extravagancy, lackadaisical (Lukewarm) attitude or even staid (dull) approach to finance management. Undeniably, this is unhealthy. Nevertheless, dialogue, understanding, mutual agreement, being prayerful especially when contracted together, would go long way to checkmating the ugly menace and restoring discipline in the erring partner
In Africa and with special reference to Nigeria, extended family system is the order. Therefore, it would not amount to over positioning to encourage the couples to include both sides of their extended families in their budgets when it is comfortable or the wherewithal permits. Conversely, the in-laws and other members of the extended relations are equally charged with the Same mutuality and understanding. They should play acceptable role that will encourage and assist the couples to succeed.
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Beauty Of Silence
*Do you know that:*
*Provocation is an invitation to Anger?*
*Anger is an invitation to Madness!*
*Silence could be more forceful than words!*
*We could count on the Beauty of Silence!*
*If you are silent, your mouth will not be busy at all.*
*Silence has never betrayed anybody.*
*In silence, you do not say bad words.*
*Even the unwise has been considered sensible in their silence.*
*Silence agrees with God's injunction that we should control our anger - read Ephesians 4:26,27*
*Silence speaks the language of love; hence, it saves the agony of rehabilitation and rebuilding.*
*Silence appeals to nature with an unspoken language, to salvage the situation.*
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*Silence is not a sign of weakness.*
*In silence, we cover up our shortcomings and hear the mistake of others.*
*Although few people have regrets about being silent, many have made statements they regretted and wished were spoken.*
*If you are silent when provoked to anger, you will have more time to reflect and meditate; soon, you will hear the thin voice that speaks in every one saying, well done!*
***These are the beauty of silence - cultivate them!***
Appreciation and Care in Marriage/Relationship
Good morning from Nigeria
I just finished my breakfast, lunch, and dinner at once, don't ask me why. "He who wears the shoe, knows were it hurts" 😂😂.
Let me share something with you all😊 on Appreciation.
Appreciation is the key that opens the door to a lasting relationship. One need to find something to praise their partner for. There's a natural feeling one gets when appreciated. All things God made are good, except that beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. Take good care of your partner. Appreciate his or her good qualities and other worthy aspects. Fault findings makes it not too good. It's better to commend others for what they are doing(able to achieve), than criticizing them for what they are not able to achieve.
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Lack of appreciation includes: for instance, we are often too busy in our prayers making long list, and telling God what to do, hence we do not have time to appreciate him enough for what he has been doing for us, or sit quietly and listen to what he wants us to do. The best way to get more is to appreciate. The same rule applies in marriage/relationship.
Compliment your spouse's effort and encourage yourselves when there is failure. Some women especially, feel disappointed and stubborn when you do not appreciate their efforts. What the wife needs from her husband, the husband equally deserves the same of the wife with both hands wide open. As the saying goes, "what is good for the goose is also good for the gander."
Take care of people and appreciate them just for whom they are, they will have no option than to try to please more. The baby monkey may not be beautiful, yet, the mother cherish it. Unavoidably however, grey spots are bound to be. Help each other to make necessary adjustments. Obligatorily, nature provides that men should show understanding and treat women tenderly. Just like wives are entitled to their husband's petting.
If a woman discovers that you are concerned about her, she is prepared to sacrifice anything. She would now heartily release those of her values hitherto hoarded from you. Do not deny your partner the compliments they need from you.
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Kissing, for instance, cannotes love, care and appreciation among other preambles. Many couples scarcely kiss. This imputes that they are lagging behind on this aspect of care and appreciation. Some reasons for this poor attitude among couples include unfriendly state of mind against each other, dirtiness, and unattractiveness. These calls for redress.
In 1996, a couple in America, won a kissing competition for kissing non-stop for 45 minutes. Do not be shy about it. Moreover, most times the exercise is an indoor affair. Take erotic care of yourselves, and commend each other.
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My Introduction to read.cash
Hello great minds,
My names are Promise Kanu, am here with the username "obikay" Am a Nigerian and currently I work from home. My computer and internet are so dear to me....smiles...
I love the crypto world especially when it comes to blogging. I blog on other platforms like Blurt, Appics, serey.io, and others. On Blurt I run a community with the name blurttribe and it has been amazing there. Yesterday I just signed up here on read.cash which was introduced to me by my friend @Princessbusayo thanks to you!.
More about me:
Am a computer engineer/poet/crypto enthusiast/foodie. Let me emphasis on the food part, I don't joke with food and guess what am still not fat 😂😂😂, was thinking by now I should have. Maybe I just can't get fat, so let me eat on😂😂.
I have a close friend, always with me, sometimes he's annoying but he's a good boy and I love him. Please, meet Randy😊(Randy say hi...).
Well, Randy got a friend too, her name is "Fegi". We all are good friends and we all have one thing in common.....Food....😂😂😂😂😂.
I hope to learn, meet alot of people, contribute through engagement, have fun reading alot of articles here. I can see some of my friends are here already, greetings to you all.
I think that will be all for now, with time you will know more. I have to go eat😋😋
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