Before You Quit Your Job
Do you have a job?
Are you happy with it?
Does it pay you right?
Is your job important to you?
Well, having a job is very important for us individuals because this is where our source of living comes from. But sometimes we can not deny the fact that sometimes we are being exhausted with our work and we have this idea of quitting our job sometimes. It is just normal that we encounter problems in our work but that does not mean that it will last forever, every problem has its own solution. If you quit your job just because you encounter a lot of problem or it causes you stress sometimes then that does not mean that will not encounter problems in your next job. No company is perfect, everyone encounters problems but every problem has their own solution.
I, myself also experienced this, that I always think about leaving my job because I am stressed with my paperworks. Not only once that I experienced this. During my third month of being employed with my first job, it was the first time that I think about quitting my job, I even had already started making drafts for my resignation letter during the times I was stressed but after some days had pass, I already felt okay and I told myself that, good thing I did not quit and look at me now, I am still with the company that I am working and imagine that it was my first job and I am already six years employed here.
I did not pushed through with my resignation because everytime I think about quitting, I always think about what will happen to me next if I do not have work. I keep on reflecting about the pros and cons of me quitting the job and ended up being focus about the cons of quitting my work.
I always ask myself if I can imagine myself having no work since during that time I was the one who was appointed to give allowance to my younger sibling. And that's the one that pushed me on not quitting my job since I know that someone is depending on me when it comes to finances.
So here are my thoughts that we need to considered before saying goodbye to our work.
**1. You should have savings**
If your purpose of leaving your work is to rest first and find a new job after, then just make sure that after you leave your job, you can still support yourself with your day to day need. You should atleast have savings that can save you for how days / weeks that you may not be earning.
**2. You already have a new work**
Before you quit your job, make sure that you already have a new place to work on to so that the inflow of your money will not stop.
And you can also make sure that the company you will be working on next is better compared to your previous. Better when it comes to income and also the benefits.
**3. Make sure that your decision is final**
The tendency when you are not that sure if you are going to leave or stay and you have chosen to leave the company, you will regret it if why you quit your job. Do not just quit because if you are angry with your workmates. Think about the pros and cons of you leaving your work.
A single mistake may ruin your future. And once you leave your work then regret it, there will be a small chance that the company will allow you to be in their company again. And it may depend if what were the reasons why you have to leave the company for them to accept you again, you are lucky if the company accpeted you again but if not, then embrace the consequences of your decisions and find another.
**4. You have a business / You will put up a business**
If you will choose between having a job or having a business in making money faster, then having a business is the answer. But not all business succeeds, some may only operate for a short period of time, some may operates in a long period of time. But if you leave your work because you will focus on your business, make sure that your business will grow well for higher profits. Do some research about having a business, educate yourself on how to manage it.
But other people chose to have a job and at the same time having a business. It may always depend on the person if how he / she can manage his / her time. But having a great business is great. You can make your money work for you.
*If you have still an idea if what things will be considered before quitting your job that are not stated above, the comment section is open for you for me to have an idea also.*
Nowadays, seeking job is a very difficult thing to do, especially during this pandemic because lots of businesses closed, others lessen their employees. Businesses have been encountered a lot of impact this time. Too many people are seeking job but only a few were being hired.
Money is merely the reason why people have their job because without money you can not survive. They say that happiness is never found in money but without money, we can not live. So love your work but if you are no longer happy and want to take risks, then leave your job. Just make sure you will be happy with whatever the outcome may be.
Hey There Sis, Move On
Hey sis, how are you after he finally decide to leave you? Or is there really a need for me to ask that question because I am pretty sure that I already know the answer just before I asked that question. Yes, YOU ARE NOT OKAY, no one will be okay after being left. It is okay to not be okay, always remember that because life is never that stable, there are upscand there are defenitely downs. Every feelings that a person feels are always valid.
Yes, I know that you are hurt. It is okay to be sad. Cry all you want if you feel like crying. When you can no longer hide the emotions that you have inside, then let it burst. After that, you may feel some relief.
No, do not expect him to be back. After all the heartaches that he gave you, you still want him back? Yes, I know, you love him to the moon and back, that you still come to see your future with him but remember that from the moment he left you, he do not deserve you.
Remember that he was the one who entered in your life, while your life is just quiet, there he suddenly came into your life without asking him to. Yes, he made you happy and so you are. But it is just difficult to accept that he still have the gutts to leave you after all right, that well in fact, he made the first move, you just fell into him. Yes, he was there to catch you the moment you fall but leaving you in the end?, that's very difficult thing to deal with.
Know your worth girl, do not chase him. Yes, it is okay to fight for him but if you feel that it is not working out or he is ignoring you then leave him alone. Make him realize what he had lost. At first, he will really ignore you because that's the first thing a guy will do after breaking up with someone. There moving on process is reciprocal compared to girls.
Sis, you are the one who won even if he initiated the separation. He may think that he won but he didn't. Just believe that you didn't lose, know your worth. Prove to him that he made the wrong decision. Instead of just doing nothing, why not improve yourself? Do something that will make him regret of the things he had done to you. Do that for yourself. Transforming to a better person is the best revenge. Most of the guys, regrets that they left the girl whom they have loved the moment they see that the girl they left are already okay / have totally moved on. As long as you know that you did your part, that you did your best, I am pretty sure, it will always be his lost. He will never find someone like you, that he will be pressured to meet someone who will be exactly like you but he won't. There will come a time that he will miss you, that he will long for you but from the moment he will experience that, you are no longer at the place where he left you. And I want that from that moment, he will see you happy with someone else or if you have not yet found someone new then I want that you will no longer want him back the moment he want you to be back in his life. That's the best revenge.
Just do not be too harsh in yourself. In the process of moving on, there will be times that you will okay but sometimes, suddenly there will be time that you feel not okay. There will be moments that you will overthink causing you sleepless nights. But take care of your health please, because people who are undergoing heartbreaks may have a tendency of not having an appetite causing them to skip meals. There are also people who can not have a good sleep. Just take care of yourself. You are just the only one who will do that for yourself. It is okay to lose someone but do not ever ever lose yourself.
In order for you to be okay, or to start moving forward, first, you need to let go of the past. Acceptance is the key for you to move forward. The moment you have accepted everything, that will be the time you appreciate life.
Just always be true to yourself because the more that you are faking how you feel, the longer the healing process. Life is always beautiful despite of the bad things that are happening in our life.
But hey sis, can you do me are favor? Never let pain to stay in your heart, please? No, I am not saying that you need to be okay as soon as possible. What I am trying to say is, look on the brighter side. Think that something better will happen in the future that is why you need to experience what you are experiencing right now for you to be able to appreciate if what will happen in the future.
One day I am pretty sure that there will come a time that you will look back at the times you are down and thank that it happened to you. Better days are coming. Just trust the process. Always remember that we do not deserve a man who once decided to leave us.
For those guys who had read this and is in a relationship right now, before you break your woman's heart, think a million times. Imagine a life without them first.
Single? Why Not?
Are you one of those many who are not in a relationship for now? Are you enjoying it or are you jealous of those people who have their lovelife?
I want to remind you that it is just okay if you are single. Just look on the positive sides of being single and ignore the disadvantages of it.
Nowadays, teens / millenials have a big issue if someone does not have a boyfriend / girlfriend. But once you become matured enough, you will embrace that so called single life.
So, for those singles out there, let me enlighten you for a while if why is it okay to be single.
**Why someone is single / choses to be single?**
**1. More time in every aspect**
Actually, those people who are single tends to do almost everything they want rather than those who are in a relationship.
If they want to go somewhere, no one will stop them from doing so. No curfews, no rules about do's and don'ts, in other words, "you are free"
If you are in a relationship, your time is divided because you need to allocate some time to your partner, it is not a must but that's the reality that when you love someone or in a relationship, there will be always a time for you to catch-up with them. And there are really partners who always demands for your time.
You can have more time in your family and friends, that if someone asks you to go out, you can actually say "yes" immediately.
By being single, yourself is your limit.
**2. Independent**
Being single means there will be no person who will be always there for you (except family). With this case, you will learn on how to become independent, that you do not expect someone to help you. The decisiom making will always be on your side, every step you make will be all up to you jusg like if what are you going to do, what are you going to eat, where will you go etc, or for mature levels, you are the only one who will solve problems you have in your life. Here, you can actually know yourself better most especially about your capabilities.
Everything will be all up to you. You do not need to adjust yourself for someone. No one will dictate if what you should do or what you should not do. Your problem will be only your problem, no one will bother your thoughts about the solutions you want to do. Your mess will only be cleared by you.
3. Single does not mean you are alone
Being single means you can socialize whenever / wherever you want without telling to someone and waiting for them for their approval.
**4. Single does not mean you have no lovelife**
Being single is one of the exciting / interesting stage of life because there will be no limits. You can fling to whoever you want without someone you will get angry if they knew it. You can date whenever you want. You will still experience "butterflies" in the stomach even if you are not in a relationship.
**5. More money**
If you are in a relationships, just like your time, you allocate some of your money for your partner by buying gifts, going out on a date. Well, it is not a must to spend your money to someone you love but sometimes, you can feel like you need to. So if you are single, you can save more. You can have more money to buy something for yourself or just keeping them to have some savings. When you are single, your money will all be yours or you have a higher chance to give some for your family, that instead of buying gifts for girlfriends / boyfriends, you can buy some gifts for your parents / siblings.
**6. You will discover more about yourself**
When you are in a relationship, your life created a pattern / cycle, that tend to become boring except for those couples who are not fun in adventures.
By being single, there will be more adventure coming along your way. Just like those mentioned above, you cwn always do whatever you want. You can go out whenever you are bored.
**7. Because you have to**
You are single because you have no choice. Someone left you and it is not possible for you to find someone new again who will fit in your heart.
Just keep in mind that life is also complete without having someone. Sometimes, you are just triggered to have a lovelife because of what you are seeing, just like on valentines day, gifts, flowers, chocolates everywhere and wishing that you can also receive something like that. But as time goes by, the idea of having a lovelife will be out of your mind.
It is not only by lovelife that a person's life will be complete, there are a lot of aspects.
Being single is okay rather than being in a relationship that is no longer working / toxic.
Embrace your single life, who knows, suddenly you will finally meet that someone who is for you.
But for now, explore, enjoy being single because it is a rare opportunity, because the life of being in a relationship and being single is different, both havr theire advantages and disadvantages but once you will be in a relationship, then some of those things you can do when you are single will be no longer be done.
Red Flags on Relationships
During the start of a relationship, everything may seem so right because both of you really loves each other. Both of you are overwhelmed with the relationship that you both have. You seemed to be very in loved with each other to the point that you are always together. Both of you never fail to show the bond you have, everything seems so perfect but there is really no perfect relationship, you two may end up together but that does not mean that all you have is a perfect relationship, every relationships have its ups and downs. Worst case is when a relationship may lead to break-ups.
**How to know if someone is now the right one for you?**
**1. He / she does not respect you**
For a relationship that will last, both of you should have respect for each other. How will you love someone if you do not respect them? Respecting in terms of supporting what he / she wants to do ( given that what the person wants is for his / her good sake.) If a person doesn't respect some of decisions of the other person, then the other persob will feel like he / she is not being valued.
**2. Does not accept you for who you really are**
If your partner expects / demands you to act / behave for something you are not then he / she does not really want / love you because a person who is in love will automatically love you for who you are. He / she should accept everything about you, even your flaws.
Worst case about not making time is when he / she finally disappear all of the sudden. A person is not worth it when he / she does not explain to you if why he / she have to get out of your life.
**3. Does not make time for you**
This does not mean that your partner must be always be there for you everytime, that you should be together except when you live in the same roof. Both of you have your own life, do not make them like as if your person is your world.
Your partner should not make you wait. If a person can let a day pass without even talking to you even in a short time then this means that you do not mean to his / her life. A person in love sees to it that he / she makes time for the two of you and gives you the attention that you deserve.
If he / she does not care if what you are up to, then that means he / she does not supports you. A person in love will always have to care for you and will always want you to be fine. If he / she is not there for you if something is not okay but is only there when everything is fine, then it only means that this person doesn't support you in everything.
**4. Controlling**
If a person always tells you on how you should do, without even asking if it is okay for you or not then this might means that he / she does not accepts yoy for who you are. Look for someone who encourages you to do the things (positive) you want. Or if that person is really in love with you but keeps on controlling the things you want to do then it means that his / her being in control may come from insecurity / jealousy.
**5. Inconsistency**
If a person is inconsistent in showing you on how he / she loves you, then it is a sign of being unsure. If he /she is sweet to you today, and tomorrow acts like he / she does not know you or he / she could not even make time just by talking to you then this only shows that he / she is really not into you. A person in love will not fail on showing you on how much he / she loves you.
Another way of inconsisty is he / she do not have a word of honor. If what he / she says does not reflect his / her actions. If a person is really interested in you, he / she is not only good in words, he / she proves his / her love for you in actions like giving gifts, cares for you etc.
A person will not fail to show how much he / she loves a person if he / she placed his / her heart and eye to his / her partner and will automatically look for him / her.
**6. Your relationship gives you stress**
Being in a relationship should give you peace of mind. If a relationship does not give you peace, then your partner may not be really the one for you. If you are constantly unhappy then the relationship is a big NO! Your partner should give you peace and happiness you deserve.
**7. No trust**
If he / she keeps secrets then how will you trust him / her. Aside from respect, one foundation of relationship should be trust. You have to believe in him / her. It is up to him / her if he / she will break the trust that you have for him / her. If a person broke the trust that you have for him / her then that is one of a red flag in every relationships.
**8. Wrong timing**
If at the moment a person loves you but you does not love him / her and vise versa, or you love each other but the timing is not right then both of you might not really meant for each other, because right love should be at the right time.
**9. Not feeling belong**
A person in love wants his / her partner to be known by persons who are close to him / her like his / her family, friends, relatives. If you do not know his / her inner circle, then something maybe is not right. A person maybe is hiding something from you.
**10. Own intuition is telling you**
If your intuition, most especially for girls, girls intuitions never really fails. For girls, if you feel that he is not really the one for you then he is really not the one for you, trust your instinct.
If you know deep down your heart that you do not deserve him, then better end the relationship. Being alone is better than being with someone that does not make you genuinely happy.
Letting go?
They say, in order for us to be able to know if a person is "the one" for us, we need to let him / her go and if they come back, then you two are really meant for each other but what if when you let that person go and did not come back, then that means that you are not for each other.
But if ever you just only want to test if he / she is really the one for you by trying to let them go, isn't it too risky that you still need to let him / her go, knowing that you already have him / her, just for you to test if both of you are really destined for each other? And what if, he / she will no longer come back? What if the moment you let each other go, someone suddenly find a new love?
But why is it that difficult to let go?
1. It is difficult to accept that even if you came first in his / her life doesn't mean that you will never be replaced.
2. You took a lot of effort to win him / her, just for you to be with him / her.
3. Both of you have been through a lot but then some people want to interfere in your relationship and may cause problems / complicate your relationship that sometimes may lead him / her to choose between you or the other one around.
4. It is difficult to move on because it will hurt your feelings because all your efforts will just be put on trash.
5. Both of you both dreamed about what will happen in the future. That you sticked on that plans that you had, and all you can see is that he / she will be part of your future but then suddenly his / her love for you fade away.
When to let go?
People need to let go of the person they love when the other one or both of you are no longer committed to each other. Loving someone comes suddenly, but staying in love is choice. And with staying comes with commitment.
Let go when he / she no longer loves you, that's the very reason on why we have to let go. Being in a one sided relationship is not healthy, since relationship for a fact is a two way process, the give and take. It is better to be alone, rather than being with someone who does not even know our worth. Everyone deserves to love and to be loved.
Yes, you may still try to make efforts, because who knows there will be miracles that one day, his / her love for you will comeback but if you know that you already did everything for him / her for them to come back but seems like your efforts doesn't count, then maybe you already need to let go or not maybe, you really need to let go.
We also need to let go when there is a third party. Some people but not all, may not usually fall out of love with you when there is no other person involved. That maybe he / she fall out of love because his / her attention is now on other person. Never let him / her choose between yourself and the other person because if he / she really loves you, then there should be no other person involved.
Sometimes, the only last way to prove our love to someone is by letting him / her go most especially if we know that, that's the only way for us to make him / her happy, than even if that happiness of theirs may be our greatest heartache. Seeing him / her happy means so much to us, even if we are no longer the reason of their happiness.
Sometimes we also need to set them free for us also to be free. Free from feeling hurt or you may finally let go of the feelings that you have been holding. Free to have a new beginning in life.
We need to let go not just because we love the person but because we love ourselves too. We must realize that it is okay to lose someone than to lose ourselves in valuing someone and almost forgot that we also need to be valued.
Letting someone go, takes a lot of courage. Letting him / her go does not mean that we do not know how to love but because we also love ourselves. Choose yourself this time - love yourself.
Losing them is not the end of our story but maybe a new beginning to meet new people out there. And start to believe that someone better will come along the way. There are reasons for everything.
Not because you are in a relationship with someone may not mean that we already own them. Both of you have their own lives to live.
Let go, for him / her to find his / her way back to you but sometimes, this is not what really happens, most of the time, we need to let go, in order for the new person to come along our way, the person that we really deserve, someone that is worth it.
Let go, not because you are weak but because you are strong enough to be alone.
Let go not because you do not know how to love but because you love yourself, and you will not let yourself be hurt by anyone who does not even know your worth.
Let go and let GOD, in times that we do nit know what to do or on what is going on in our lives or what will go on in our life, let GOD do His own will for us. He knows what will be the best for us, we just need to trust the process and believe in Him.
Be strong enough to let go, if you needed to.
How to deal with break-ups?
Have you ever been into a relationship where you thought that he / she is already the one? You invested a lot to that person and even had so much plans / dreams for the two of you. Plans / dreams like about getting married, how many kids will you have, where will you build your house, etc., but then suddenly in just a blink of an eye, all your dreams / plans will no longer be fulfilled since you and your partner had broken up.
Dealing with break-ups is never that easy, even if you are the dumpee or the dumper. At first, the dumper will find some relief but as time goes by, it will haunt him / her over and over again if something messed up. For the dumpee, at first, he / she may feel like she can't get out of sadness / loneliness.
But always remember that break- ups does not mean that it is the end but it is all about starting a new. If a door closes, then surely that a lot of oppurnities may come forward. But before welcoming that new life of yours, let yourself heal first.
**Here are some tips on how to deal with break-ups:**
**1. Acceptance**
The best way for you to be able to move forward is to accept everything that happened. Accept that you are not for each other. Maybe you are meant for each other in just a short while, but not in the long run. Everything happens on purpose. A person may come and go in our life but one thing is for sure, every person that we welcomed in our life has it's purpose, either they are a blessing or you will learn a lessson from them. Forgive your ex, forgive yourself and move forward. Let go and let God.
**2. Cut the connection**
It is okay to unfollow them in social medias or you may even block him / her to stop seeing updates in his / her life. Having still communication with an ex right after the break-up is not healthy. Give yourself enough time to heal after the break-up. But yes, it is okay to be friends with your ex but do not engaged in that situation right after the break-up.
Even things that you see like his / her gifts to you or even items that he / she left in your area, get rid of them. You may throw or even keep those in a place where you may not often because the more you see them, then the more you will not forget them. The longer you look at that item, the longer you will take time to heal. Put the past behind, stop the communication / connection with your ex for you to move forward.
**3. Never ignore how you feel**
Some people hide what they truly feel but destructing your feelings is just a way of running away from the reality. Destructing how you feel may make you feel better in a short while but the reality may hit you once in a while. Never avoid what you really feel, allow yourself to be sad / grieve but be careful that it may cause negative effect in your life. Give yourself time to heal, never fake how you feel, never ignore how you really feel because it may be a hindrance for you not to be able to move forward. Be real with yourself, take time to focus on your feelings.
Listen to sad music because it may bring peacefulness. Crying is mood boosting. If you feel like crying, then cry, cry as long as you can. After crying you may feel relieved. So go on and listen to the break-up playlist in your phone.
Emotional grudges is not healthy because it might affect your future relationships negatively.
**4. Focus on yourself**
Do whatever you feel like doing. Treat yourself. Buy yourself new clothes or buy your favorite food. Relax. Go to places you want to go. Pamper yourself.
**5. Try new things**
When you are in a relationship, you do not own your time because some of your time are alloted to your boyfriend / girlfriend. Now that you are single, you can do whatever you want to do. You own all your time. You may find a new hobby. Never do things that you and your ex are doing. Forget about your ex.
**6. Spend time with your family / friends**
Your family serves as your support system this time. Everyone may leave you but a family will never ever leave you, blood is thicker than water, not always but if you have a good relationship with your family then you can count on them this time. Or if you are not comfortable talking about what you are up to then atleast talk to your friends whom you always count on, tell them if what you are up to, verbalizing on how you feel may give you some relief. Atleast it may take away some pain that wants to burst inside.
**7. Do not rebound**
You need to stay single if you are not still really healed. New partner may make your feelings better but this relationship is just a destruction and may make you from getting hurt in the long run. Before entering into a new relationship, let yourself heal first. You can't make a good / healthy relationship if the foundation is not that strong. Do not use others for your own temporary happiness. It is never good to use someone in order for you to runaway from the things that you need to face. Never put band aids to fresh scars, let it heal first.
**8. Keep in mind that there is no turning back**
Sometimes you need to burn bridges to stop yourself from crossing them again.
If you have a difficulties to stop yourself from moving forward then get a piece of paper and write things about your ex if why you are not compatible. Write negative things about your ex and everytime you find yourself wanting them to comeback just take a look at that paper and keep on re-reading them for you to stop the idea of them coming back.
**Most people think that moving on is just a matter of time. It always depends on the person if how long will it take him / her to get over a break-up. Moving on has no timeline. Pain always demands to be felt as they say but it is always your choice on how long you will let it. Why not choose to be happy again and tell pain to stop?*
*Everything happens on purpose. But as for the moment, enjoy being single. Never be too desperate on having in a relationship again. Heal yourself first. Haste will always makes waste, remember that. Just trust the process.*
Love Yourself
Self love means valuing your personal perfections and accepting your imperfections, taking care of your own self without trying any hard for other people to accept you. Self love means being contented on what you are and what you have. Self love is freeing yourself from toxic / unhealthy relationships by letting them go for them not to bring you down.
**Ways on how to love yourself.**
**1. Prioritize your self first**
There is no wrong if we prioritize ourselves first. If you focus in yourself, you will not mind on other else's business. We know for a fact that it is not okay minding someone else's life. Also with, when someone else's wants to mind our own life, it is exhausting right?, it isn't healthy. When you prioritize yourself, you can easily think on what's good for you and what is not. Reach your goals, you are always be closer to your dreams no matter how big or small your steps are.
**2. Never compare yourself to anyone**
Every person has its own uniqueness. The only person you need to compared yourself with is the person whom you were before. Comparing yourself to others will give you the tendency to look down on yourself, you can't help but see the good ones on others and the negative ones on yours. You need to focus on yourself, everyone of us have their own different breaks.
**3. Always keep in mind that you are valuable**
Always remind yourself that you are precious, no matter who you are or how you look. What you think or know about yourself won't destruct on what others may think about you. Be confident and be happy.
**4. Don not mind on what others are saying about you**
You are not born to please anyone. You do not live if you keep on living the life others will want you to be. If you didn't pissed off someone else, then you are living the life they want you to be but if you made someone hates you because of what you have done, then you are living on your own standards. But please bear in mind that, it is okay to live the life on your own personal terms as long as you are not affecting someone's life negatively.
**5. Remember that you are not perfect**
"Nobody is perfect," as what the saying goes. Yes no one is really perfect, everybody has done their own mistakes. Making mistakes means that you are trying, it can also teach a person a lesson and will make him / her grow. Making mistakes makes a person more wise and smart but remember that a person who makes mistakes all over again, then he's not learning after all rather than just making things to happen. If you keep on making mistakes and you always say that "nobody is perfect" then you really are not learning. Everyone should learn from their own mistakes. Lesson you will gain from going mistakes are priceless.
**6. Have trust in yourself in everything you do**
We have to admit that sometimes we can't help ourselves but doubt our own abilities in doing if what is right. You know yourself better than anyone else. The first person who to must believe us is ourselves. If you do not trust yourself, then how will people trust you also?
**7. Feel every pain and happiness as you can**
Allow yourself to be fully feel things out. If you are in pain, you can cry as much as you could until the heartaches inside will disappear. On the other hand, do not limit yourself but let yoursel feel happiness.
**8. Make your circle not too big, make it small.**
Quality over quantity. Allow only persons in your life who deserves you and whom you deserve. Let go of toxic people in your life, do not ever ever be afraid of losing them, they are not healthy in your social circle. Always remember to protect your energy at all cost. It is not always wrong to remove yourself from scenarios or people who are draining you.
Self love is equivalent to self respect. Never let anyone be okay on disrespecting you. If a person made you feel disrespected, remove them from your circle, you do not need someone with that mean attitude.
**9. Be kind to yourself**
Aside from choosing to be kind on others, do not forget to be kind also on yourself. Do not do things that you dislike. Never be too harsh on yourself. Celebrate small occassions, success etc.
**10. Determine your weakness and strengths**
Jot down your weakness and strength. Treat your strengths as your key to success. For your weakness / flaws, acceptance will always be the key. No one will make your flaws bring you down when you finally accept those flaws that you have.
*Always believe in yourself, even if you feel that you are not that capable for your achieving dreams, always think that you have gone so far and still surviving.
Be patient with yourself, always remember that. Self love do not happen overnight, with the right attitude, you will slowly achieve your goals ( loving yourself )
It is okay to love yourself but not to the extent that you may be labeled as a narcissist. Too much is also never that healthy.
Lastly, when you love yourself, you must be healthy, (physically, mentally or socially.) Do what makes you happy without letting someone down.
How to stay healthy?
"HEALTH IS WEALTH" this phrase has been used over a period of time but it is really true. Being healthy means you do not need to see doctor almost everytime than a sick person does. A sick person's has alloted some of his / her money for medication, for him / her to buy medicines. If you are a healthy person, you do not have burdens a alot money to buy medicines and instead of buying medicines, you can buy something else out of that money or best way is to add them on your savings. So for you to be able to save more, here are some tips to become healthy.
How to stay healthy?
1. Exercise regularly
Having a regular exercise boost endurance and impoves the strength of your muscle. It helps a person work more efficiently and have more energy to move when the heart and lung health conditions will improve.
Benefits of having an exercise for at least 30 minutes per day
Helps control weight
Improves memory
Blood flows consistently since it helps to reduce heart diseases
Reduce stress, anxiety and deppression since it improves your menthal health and mood
Boosts energy
Increase productivity
Helps you quit smoking
Help keep your thinking, learning, and judgment skills sharp as you age. Since it improves memory and brain functions.
Having a healthy sleep
Is it okay to exercise everyday?
Yes, it is okay to have an exercise everyday as long as you can feel that your body can do it. If you are just pushing yourself to do so, then it is not good for your body. Just have an exercise because you want to and just do not be too harsh on yourself.
2. Have a balance diet
A balanced diet consists carbohydrates, protein, fibre, healthy fats, vitamins, minerals and water.
Having a balanced diet helps the body work efficiently and effectively. If a person does not apply balanced diet, his / her body is more prone to be sick and cause him / her not to function well. It may also affect the academic perfomance of a child who does not practice balanced diet.
Examples of food that is rich in protein
poultry, such as chicken and turkey.
red meat, such as beef and lamb.
fish, such as salmon and tuna.
dairy, such as milk and yogurt.
legumes, such as beans and lentils.
eggs.
Examples of carbohydrates
- sugar (fructose, sucrose, lactose, glucose)
- fiber
- starches
3. Avoid vices like smoking / drinking alcohols
Smoking may damage airways and air sacs of the lungs and it may lead to breathing difficulties. It can also raise cholesterol levels and blood pressures and increase risk of intertility because when a person smokes, he / she inhales various of chemicals and may cause injury to the cells.
Drinking may threaten a person's health but smoking can be worse. A person may drink moderately but always remember that, "everything that is too much can be harmful"
**HEALTH RISKS ASSOCIATED WITH ALCOHOL AND TOBACCO USE**
- Cancers of the Mouth and Throat.
- Liver Cancer.
- Cardiovascular Disease.
4. Drink 8 glasses of water daily / Stay hydrated
A body is composed of about 60% of water. The functions of these fluids include digestion, circulation, absorption, creation of saliva, transportation of nutrients and maintenance of body temperature.
**Benefits of drinking water**
- carrying nutrients and oxygen to your cells.
- flushing bacteria from your bladder.
- aiding digestion.
- preventing constipation.
- normalizing blood pressure.
-stabilizing the heartbeat.
-cushioning joints.
- protecting organs and tissues.
*Drink one glass of water upon waking up in the morning.
*Drink one glass of water 30 minutes before every meal for digestion
*Drink glass of water not right after you finish your meal but wait for atleast one hour
*Drink water before going to sleep
5. Have at least 7 to 8 hours of sleep everynight
Having a good sleep improves immunity. If a person often get colds, having at least 8 hours of sleep every night may lower the chances to catch colds.
**The Benefits of Getting a Full Night's Sleep**
- sleep boosts immune system
- improves weight control
-strengthens heart
-good mood
-increase productivity / concentration
-improves memory
-improves immunity
-improves eating practices
Facts about poor sleep
-Sleep affects emotions and social interactions
-Poor sleep is linked to higher body weight
-Poor sleep is linked to depression
-Poor sleepers have a greater risk of heart disease and stroke
6. Avoid eating junk foods
Eating junk foods destroys a balanced diet. Too much eating junk food may lead to obesity, heart disease, stroke etc. It is okay to eat junk food once in a while but not too much. After eating junk food, make sure to drink lots of water since junk food contains lots of salt that may damage the kidney.
7. Avoid drinking soft drinks
Soft drinks contains high amounts of sugar and can have various adverse impacts to a person's health.
Soda is not good on a person's health because it contains lots of sugar and may lead to diabetis. It is also okay to drink soft drinks once in a while but too much intake may threaten a person's health, after drinking soft drinks, make sure also to drink water to somehow neutralize the sugar and acid a softdrinks may have.
***Health is considered most valuable and precious for every individual. Having a good health means being physically, mentally and socially fit and with the absence of diseases.**
Mental Health and Mental Illness
**What is mental health?**
Mental health is a state of well being where a person possess a very strong positive thoughts where the mind functions well and knows exactly his / her capabilities to excell well in his / her life.
- mental health affects how we feel, act and think.
Mentally healthy means:
- having confident in him / herself
- feeling good about him / herself
- being able to manage and express easily personal emotions
- being able to build and maintain healthy relationships with others.
- easily copes to everything
But do you remember the last time you felt stressed, worried, afraid, sad, scared or you just can not understand the way you feel?, These emotions are just normal but when these feelings became severe that you can not function well daily, then it might develop in to a mental health problem. If you experience this and feels like it is leading to mental health illness, remember that YOU ARE NOT ALONE, even if you feel you are. You maybe are suffering from mental illness but let me remind you that it is not only you who undergoes this kind of situation.
**What is mental illness?**
Mental illness is a brain function disorders that causes a person not to function well. It can affect anyone regardless of age, gender, social status etc.
**Symptoms that you are undergoing mental health illness:**
**1. Feeling depressed more than two weeks**
- It is normal to be sad for sometimes and gets better along after a few moments but if it was more than two weeks, then you might be suffering from depression.
**2. Having mood swings but does not know the reason why**
- It is normal that you changes your mood from time to time, considered normal if positive moods turns to negative but when negative moods then turned into more negative one, then you might be also suffering from mental illness especially when the mood has nothing to do with what is going on in your life.
**3.Worries and anxiety have gotten out of control**
- Some examples of anxiety are insomia ( difficulty in sleeping), easily get irritated and wanting to be alone.
**4. Hallucinations and delusions**
- A person starts to imagine things that are not ususlly present. Starts to hear voices that is not also really their. He / she also starts to talk to his / her own self.
**5. Having difficulties dealing with your normal life**
- A person can not function well because a lot of things are running in their minds. A person is physically present but absent minded.
**6. Sleeping too much or too little**
- Best way to skip so that he / she would not feel the way he / she feels is through sleeping, some people also takes too much sleeping pills for longer sleeps. On the other hand, some people have difficulties to get sleep due on too much overthinking. When the mind has a lot of things running there, then a person will really have a hard times in getting sleep.
**7. Too much intakes of alcohol**
- Another way to skip reality is drinking alcohol. They say, when a person is drinking alcohol, this is one way for them to forget their problems.
**8. Extreme anger outbursts**
- A person easily gets irritated causes him / her to get angry too fast, even in small things.
**9. Thinking about harming yourself**
- A person starts to think about destroying or ending his / her own life. A person starts to become suicidal.
**10. Losing interest on little things**
- Starts to lose excitement on things that matters to you due to overload stress in your life.
**11. Easilly gets overwhelmed**
- feeling mentally overwhelmed could be an internal reaction to excessive outiside stress.
**12. Always wanting to be alone**
- A person does not feel like socializing that much anymore. And feels like it is just exhausting to be in the crowd.
If those that have mentioned above are not treated, then it will last long and might increased the person's disability. Early treatment means effective treatment.
**Tips on how** of have Mental Health Wellness
1. Focus on the positive side. Think about the solutions instead of the problems.
2. Maintain physical health
- Be physically healthy by exercising, going outside, working out and eating healthy foods. Get also enough sleep.
3. Practice Gratitude
- Always say "Thank you" for the things you are thankful for.
4. Socialize
Surround yourself with others to have a better mood and start to forget about your problems.
5. Get professional help
There are treatments to cure these mental illness but only some undergoes treatments.
**Reasons why other people do not want to undergo treatments**
1. Lack of Understanding
- lack of understanding of mental health problems
2. Fear
Fear in disclosing if what are they going through. Does not want to be judged by others.
3. Stigma
- too afraid of seeking help thinking that no one will understand them and thinking that they will only be judged by anyone which might contribute to lower his / her self-esteem
4. Uncertainty
Are you living a better life?
Having a better life is what people all wanted. Being stress free in their lives but in reality we really can not avoid stress sometimes.
But how to know that you are living your life worth it?
**These are some signs that you are living a better life**
**1. Employed / Businessman**
- Having a job or business means that you have a continous on flow of money, in which you are no longer worried if where will you get your source of living. But if we will compare the two, having a business is far away better than having just a job. As a businessman, you will just need to hire a manpower for you to be able to have inflows of money. Being just employed means you litterally are the one who works for your own money, for you to be able to have income, you need to go to work physically and once you got sick then you don't have the capability to attend to work then you can't be paid for that day. So you need to take care of your health, in order to have income.
**2. Paid bills**
- One of the reasons why people needs to earn money, it is because of the unending bills. People work in order for them to pay on whatever bills they need to pay, whether that is electricity, water, internet bills or house rents. And it is very accomplishing once all of this have been paid.
**3. Eating three times a day**
- A person is lucky enough if he / she has a capacity to feed his / her family or only himself / herself if living alone, three times a day, a breakfast, lunch and dinner. Some people just can not even afford to buy meals to the extent that they skip some meals for them to save some for the next meal. If someone still manages to each merienda then you are really lucky.
**4. Having a goal**
- Simply having goals means that you are determined to change your life for the better. Some people just do not even have one and just going with the flow. Goals should be chased, the moment you set a goal, you must have the perseverance to accomplish them. No matter how difficult you will encounter, just do not give up. If you fail, then that will only means that you are trying and mistakes are not hindrances for achievements but considered a part of it. Mistakes makes you wiser, and one day, you will thank yourself for not giving up.
**5. You have a close friend**
- Having a friend, even if it is only one or only a few, is already a blessing. There, you can share your thoughts with, you have a one call away. Having a friend is fulfilling to your mental health and knowing that someone is always on your back. Others have lots of friend but are they always there for you if ever you have problems?, Maybe yes, there are only a few of them, but not all of them. If choosing friends you musg consider what you call " quality over quantity"
If you've got one, then you are lucky.
**6. Others judgements doesn't affect you at all**
- Living your life with your own terms and does not care about people's judgement but without negatively affected on your ways will make your life peaceful.
We just can not avoid people that whenever you are not doing anything or you are doing something, people around you will still have something to say.
So, live your life, do whatever you think will make your life better and never mind what others have on their mind about you.
**7. Does not hesitate in asking for help**
- Asking for help does not mean you are weak but it means that not everything is all in your capacity. No one is an island, remember that, do not let pride get along the way when you really need help. People whom you asked for help will feel that their lives has really that on purpose and they will think that they are also living their life worth it.
**8. Material things are not the best things in our life**
- There are more important things a person should possess other than material things. Other examples of non material things that a person should have:
a. LOVE
b. RESPECT
c. PEACE
d. SELF WORTH
**9. You've been through a lot**
- Life experiences are considered as the best teacher. Learnings from them can not be learned in school. Life experiences makes you wise and makes you a better person. Life may hit you hard but in return you will become tough. Life may be tough but keep in mind that you are tougher than others think. You will never learn something if you did not experience anything. Failures and mistakes are just normal but doing them twice is no longer valid, then you are doing it on purpose. Failures and mistakes should be treated as stepping stones for the betterment of ourself. Failures and mistakes will either make or break you, it is all up to you.
**10. You have Investments**
Having an investments shows that you are succeeding in your life. It shows that you are financially stable since you still managed to have investments.
**11.Savings**
Except for the money that you are spending for your everyday needs, you still manage to set aside some of your money for savings.
Social Media
What is as a Social Media?
Social Media is a computer based technology in which where a person shares his / her ideas, life events or on whatever he / she wants to share.
What are th examples of Social Medias
1. FACEBOOK
FACEBOOK is the most popular social media. Almost all of the people have his / her own account, others even have more than one account. Here, you can share your thoughts just by posting status if what is it that is on your mind. You can upload pictures here, you can also post videos just like other vloggers do. They can earn just by posting videos just make the owner that the owner has monetized his / her account. The platform also has a feature where you can post your story during the day, will it be pictures, status or also videos and after 24 hours, it will be automatically disappears.
2. INSTAGRAM
INSTAGRAM is also a popular one but unlike facebook, facebook still have lots of users compared to Instagram. If you can write a status, upload pictures and videos in facebook, here in INSTAGRAM is another story. In Instagram you can only post pictures and videos. Instragram also have a feature of posting your "stories" during the day, and will also be deleted after 24 hours. If a person have both Instagram and Facebook and it's link with one another, you have the desicion to whether share if what's on your story in IG will also be in Facebook and vice versa.
3. TWITTER
TWITTER is also same with facebook, you can post a status or pictures but the certain act is called "tweet", when someone shares what you tweeted then it is called "retweet" I can't explain more on this because I barely use my twitter account, I only made an account when there is another platform of noice.cash where we can earn bitcoin cash.
4. YOUTUBE
YOUTUBE is a type of social media wherein a blogger / vlogger creates a video depending on what content he / she wants to make. A content creator can also earn in this site if his / her account is monetized and meet the certain requirement of subsribers and hours viewed in his / her video.
5. TIK TOK
TIK TOK was originated in China, wherein you can share your videos like dancing or acting or sharing informations in the form of videos.
6. LYKA
LYKA is a type of social media wherein you can share photos just like Instagram, the only difference of the two is in LYKA, the user can earn money, with every single steps the user make.
Ways on how to earn in LYKA
When the user uploaded a picture then automatically he / she will earn a certain amount of money.
When someone max rated his / her picture, then that's another way of earning money.
When he / she max rated another account, then he / she will also earn money, but there is a minimum of only 5 pictures per day that a certain user needs to rate.
*The app has a feature called "LYKA MALL" and it is another form of online shopping exclusively for LYKA users, where the user has the option to spend his / her earnings there.
7. NOISE.CASH and READ.CASH
NOISE.CASH is also a type of social media just like twitter.
READ.CASH is a platform wherein the user needs to write original content article.
But unlike those social medias mentioned above, noise.cash and read.cash is only known by a few. Noise.cash and read.cash have similaraties because just by using these two, you can earn, payouts here are in the form of cryptocurrency particularly Bitcoin Cash.
ADVANTAGES OF SOCIAL MEDIA
1. You can easilly socialized with other people just by using cellphones, computer or laptops.
2. You can also earn is some other kinds of social media
3. Some people uses social media in the form endorsing their business to be well knowned in public.
DISADVANTAGES OF SOCIAL MEDIA
1. Identity theft
A user should not disclose all of his / her identifications on public because it will invade his / her privacy. And worst case is that, someone will use his / her identity to create a new account and will start to do something not good.
2. CYBER CRIME
There are a lot of cyber crime. One will be, someone asks for money on someone by using fake identities.
Bullying can also be in the form of social medias. In which the one who has been bullied will be affected by his / her mental health.
MY LAST THOUGHTS:
Everything has its own advantages and disadvantages, it depends on the user on how he / she behaves. Everything that is too much is bad, as they say. If you use the platform correctly, then it is good but sad to say some people uses social media for bad intentions. Every user must have to take an extra care in order for their lives will not put to danger since a lot of crimes now are done with the help of technologies.
Kids nowadays, spends too much on social medias, if you who is reading this has kids, give them guidance and check them from time to time if what are they doing to avoid problems in the future.
Covid19
Let me ask you a question, how are you since COVID19 entered into our planet?
Have you been affected? How?
Is it when you lost your job?
Is it when your parents lost their job?
Is it when you just can't go out in your house since it has been lockdown?
Is it when you need to go home early since cerfews has been implimented?
Is it when you've been infected?
Is it when someone around your circle had been infected? etc.
For me, it is for the last one. I never got worried about COVID19 not until when someone around my area or worst case is when someone I had socialized with, turned out to have a positive result in their swab tests. Though I am feeling well, I still have my sense of taste and sense of smell but it just can't take the worries away.
I didn't lose my job when the pandemic started since I am classified as an essential worker since I am working in an establishment with which its nature of business falls under retailing of medicines but I am not assigned in the branch but in the office.
My parents didn't lose their job since my father is already receiving his monthly pension.
I always wanted to stay at home and there are only a few times when I wanted to go out so I am not affected by curfews.
COVID19 is never a joke. Other people may survive, the rest will not. Since every person has their own level of immunity, the effect on each and every individual are not the same.
How to prevent yourself from being infected?
1. Always observe social distancing.
It is the cheapest and simplest way to avoid COVID19. Because, the virus is easilly transmitted from one person to another, you need to stay away from people and refrain from getting too attached to them physically.
2. Take vitamin c
Your body needs immunity and vitamin c serves to be the shield so that virus will not enter your body.
3. Be clean
In order for you not to be infected by the virus, you should be clean. Disinfect, use alcohol once in a while. Wash your hands once in a while. Always make it a habit to bring with you your alcohol everytime you are going out.
4. Wear your face masks and face shield.
So that if ever you come to meet someone, since this will serve as your shield so virus will not enter your body.
5. Stay Home
A lot of people now are going outside since it is no longer strict when it comes to going outside. The more people who are outside, the greater the posibility that someone will be infected. You will nout get infected if and if you are just staying in your home. Stay home unless you really need to go outside. You are not stucked at home, you are safe at home.
6. Keep your body physically fit
The more you exercise, the more your resistance to pain will be. Have a healthy diet. Being healthy is a wealth.
7. Have a check-up
The moment you discovered that you have symptoms, consult a doctor right away and ask to conduct as swab test. Isolate yourself, not until the result will turn out to be negative.
**2 Kinds of Covid19**
1. **Symptomatic** - showing symptoms
2 **Asymptomatic** - no symptoms shown
Symptoms of Covid19
Most common symptoms:
-fever
-dry cough
Less common symptoms:
-sore throat
-diarrhea
-conjunctivitis (sore eyes)
-headache
-loss of smell
-loss of taste
Serious symptoms:
-difficulty of breathing /shortness of breating
-chest pain
-loss of speech
When you have a two or more symptoms, consult immediately a doctor. Isolate yourself for others will not be infected just in case if the tesr will turn out to be positive.
Health is always considered as wealth.
This is the very first time that I got fears about COVID19, since someone I interacted with undergone swab test and the result turned out to be positive.
There are no signs that I am infected but I need to undergo test, hoping that the company where I am working in will shoulder the expenses since it is my workmate who got infected, but the office has still no update. If not, the one that I will earn in this article will be the one I am going to use for my test, hoping it will be negative.
Mother's Day
Mother's Day is celebrated every second Sunday of the month of May. But did you know that Mother's Day is really celebrated on December? Yes, both Mother's and Father's Day really fall on the first monday of December.
The moment a woman becomes pregnant, she is now called a mother. And the moment she gives birth, all her priorities will change, her family most especially her child will be her number one priority. Her bags that are full of make ups when going out will now be filled will her child's stuffs, instead of buying new clothings for her, she will now use the money for her child's needs. For every mother's motto is that, "It is okay if I have nothing for my own as long as I can fulfill my child's needs will mean everything to me."
Being a mother is not easy, from the moment she becomes pregnant, she faced lots of difficulties, imagine she carried you for 9 long months. She experienced lots of morning sickness that sometimes she can't even eat. She even have a hard time on sleeping, with your weight inside her, she don't know if she will sleep by sideways or what. There are big changes that is happening with her physical appearances, face looks bloated, feet also starts to bloat, etc.
During her labor, she felt a lot of pain. They say, from the moment a womangives birth, her one feet is already 6 feet below the ground, that's how difficult giving birth is. No matter what kind of delivery it is, whether on a normal delivery or on ceasarian section, both has its advantages and disadvantages.
Normal delivery is painful but it is the easiest way to heal your wounds while on ceasarian section, a woman can not really feel any pain or only minimal pain during the labor but after the labor, it will took her long periods of time from recovering, even years,
they hate it when the season is cold because it triggers the pain in their cuts during this time. Others also experience this so called "postpartum disease" which is not a joke. And once someone a woman was attacked by it, this will cause her anxiety and depression.
With the difficulties they had been through, every child should love and give importance to their mother.
Importance of a mother
Mothers were our first teacher and they are the one that molds us to be the best we can be. They guide us in everything we do.
They are our number one supporter and the first one to believe that her child can do it.
They give us everything that we need.
She wakes up early in the morning to prepare breakfast for the family.
One good quality of a mother is that they never give up easily most especially when it comes to their child because one of their source of strength comes from their child. She even cries alone when everything seems so dark but gets up stronger and better.
Difficulties of being a mother
Once her baby is sick, the first one to be blame is the mother, when in fact no mother wants her child to get sick. A mother would even wish that she should have gotten sick, not her child and only if she can take away her child's sickness, and will get it and take it as long as her child will feel better.
How to celebrate Mother's Day?
Greeting your mother just by saying, "Happy Mother's Day" will simply makes them happy.
A simple greeting card is also okay if you doesn't have a budget to buy her gifts.
A handwritten letter is the sweetest form of letter, it will really make your mother happy and I swear, she will keep that forever and will keep on reading it over and over again.
A bouqet of flowers will make your mother's heart feels like there are butterflies on her stomach.
Eating out, or eating just inside your house
Having a complete family even during this time will make your mother happy. Especially if her child has already his/her own family, will mean a lot if her child comes and visits their home to celebrate with your mother.
My mother's Love (my story)
I am totally grown lady now, can already support myself. I am working but is living away from our house, I only go home once in a while because of pandemic but before, I go home every weekends. I go home on Fridays and leave our house on Mondays. My mother wakes up early morning on Mondays to prepare my bath and my food for "baon" so that when I wake up, everything is now prepared. Yes, she does prepares our food and wakes up early even when me and my siblings are still young but doing this now, since I am now full grown and can do this on my own, she still voluntarily does this when I am home. And I consider myself lucky for having a mother like her, not everyone is as lucky as I am because there are also mother that doesn't care for their child. I am not pertaining to all, but only for a few.
Let us keep in mind that even though it is not mother's day, always treat your mother with respect and will keep on showing that you love her. Always love your mother because a mother always loves her child/children for no matter what.
For ladies out there, before entering into a married life, make sure you can do everything, being married is not just all about happiness. There are it's ups and downs. Married life is not all about just like those fairy tales that lived a happily ever after. Once you become a mother, there is no turning back.
Yes, there will be no perfect mother and so we (children) are but they will do everything for the betterment, happiness of their child and hoping that every child also will always remember the sacrifices of their mother.
Lucky enough are those children who still have their mother to celebrate mother's day with. So cherish every moment that you have with your mother, no one is immortal. Life is short as they say.
An Essential Worker's Rant
**I work in a drugstore, not a frontliner (because I work in the office) but is one of those employees who needs to go to work in situation like this for the company and most importantly for the customers to cater their needs (even though we are invisible to them).**
**Those people backline serves as the backbone of the company. Backliners are the least appreciated people this time or should I say people really don't know us because we are not physically present for them. Yes, we all admit that those frontliners have more risk in their health and the lesser we are. We, backliners also takes risks especially on our health from the moment we get out from our homes going to work.**
**Majority of the people right now are in their homes for their safety. We also want to be safe but no matter how much we want to stay at home, we still decide to get up each day to go to work because our work is ESSENTIAL for the sake of many.**
**#essentialworkers**
**#backliners**
Above was my post in my facebook account, not exactly since I have to hide to name of the company I'm in, as I rant during the start of lockdown here in the Philippines. I just can't imagine that it is already been more than a year since we are living with the existence of Covid19 which disturbed us and it even claimed lives. I feel bad for the people who lost their loved ones during this time.
During this time, a lot of people were in their homes for them not to be infected with virus but us, who are classified as an essential workers got no choice but to still go to work for the sake of many. I can not deny the fact that everytime I go out to go to work, it scares me, all I have are my prayers and trust in God to be away from viruses.
Essential workers played and still playing a great role here in the world, but so sad since a lot of people are discriminating them because lots of people who works essentially were the ones who almost gets infected but will people please know and instead of discrimating them, why do people do not even know how to thank our frontliners who are courageous enough to help cure those who are infected and even if it means risking their own health.
I can not also classify whether if I am thankful because I am an essential worker or not, thankful in such a way that I still have my job in times that a lot of people lost their job and lots of establishments were closed, lots of employees also didn't have to go to work since they are asked to just stay first in their homes and that I still have continous in flow of money. Not thankful in such a way that I am prone to be infected since I am exposed outside and having been infected to COVID19 is not a joke, some have mild effects but worst case is that others who gets infected dies.
There even come a time that the company I am working in change our schedule from working at 7:30 in the morning to 6 o'clock pm to 6:00 in the morning to 3 o'clock in the afternoon and from having a one and a half hour of lunch break to only thirty minutes.
Imagine how early we have to wake up to prepare in going to work, having only small time to have our lunch but good thing is that, we were able to home early since at that time, curfew starts at 6 o'clock in the evening up to 5 o'clock in the morning.
Ever since I started to work, I am just renting because our house is a one hour drive from my work place. I am going home every friday afternoon and comes back monday morning, this was my routine always not until when COVID19 arises, it triggered me not to go home for more than five months. On my first week of not going home, I still remember that I cried because of my fear of COVID19 and not seeing my parents on weekends.
During this time, it is also difficult for me to buy my needs especially on buying my weekly food and groceries. Since there is no available public transportation at this time, me and my workmate has no choice but to walk from our boarding house to the market, it takes us about twenty to thirty minutes just by walking to reach our destination and there are times that we were unlucky since we need to fall in line for around how many minutes to enter in the public market because limited persons are allowed to enter the market since we are following the social distancing rule to avoid spreading the virus if ever one is infected.
I never had any chance to go home in our house since there are no means of transportation, months have past, the long wait is over, there are already means of transportation and got my chance to go home but this time I never thought about going home since I have thing feeling of being scared that what if I am infected with the virus and worst case is that when I will go home and what if I am infected then there is a great possibility that I will spread the virus so I just let the opportunity pass and refused to get home. Prevention is better than cure as they say, it is better to be safe than being sorry after all. But at the moment, I am already able to go home anytime I want in our house.
I salute each and everyone of those frontliners who chose and still choosing to work to help people during this pandemic. Hoping that someday, everything will gonna be alright. I am pretty sure that all of us can't wait for the moment to come that the world is now COVID19 free. The way to fasten the recovery will always be our discipline in ourselves and follow protocols.
Financial Freedom
**What does it meant when we say Financial Freedom?**
From the word itself, it is being free from financial burdens and having enough money to support one self independently.
How to achieve financial freedom
1. Manage your expenses
If you want to achieve financial freedom, you then have to identify the difference between your needs and your wants. And keep in mind that needs are more important than your wants.
**Needs** - these includes the things that we need in order to survive, this falls under the physiological needs. Physiological needs are food, water, air, sleep Another example of needs is safety needs which includes shelter and health.
**Wants** - these includes things that are not necessary for us to survive jusy like, car, jewelries, etc. Actually their are a lot.
***- We need to prioritize more in our basic needs like foods, water and things that are mentioned above.***
2. Learn how to save
Budget your money. Let the equation of your money will be, income less savings equals spendings not income less spendings equals savings. Let your savings be your priority, set a percentage on your income to be your savings, and make the rest of it as the money you are going to use for your daily needs. No matter how low or high your income is, the amount of your savings will still matter.
3. Start paying off your debts
Debts trigger us to achieve our financial freedom. If you can't pay your debts in an instant, then have a short term goal by paying it on an installment basis until such time that you already paid them off. Note: If you can pay them off as soon as possible, then do it.
4. Live within your means
If you can't afford something that is not even necesarry, then do not go for it. If having it lets you need to borrow money, then you're just letting yourself to have burden soon on paying that debt, and will make your financial freedom be achieved slower.
5. Limit yourself from going out
It is really automatic that the moment you get of of your house, you can't help but start spending money on unnecessary things. Going on a mall, strolling. Treat yourself once in a while but do not do this almost all of the time. You will run out of money in a short span of time.
6. Avoid online shoppings
Uninstall your online shopping applications in your phone because you will be triggered all the time to buy something because most of the time online shoppings offer sales. And remenber that, not because it is on sale means that you have saved up some money. If it is not necessary then it is always be considered as spendings but if necessary then you have saved up money.
7. Having a retirement plan
When the moment comes that we retire, money that comes in, will be lessen or worst case is that there is nothing at all if your source of income is just your job. And take note that the cost of living when you still have work will still be the same, so it is important that there is still a portion in your income that will be intention for saving.
***Never let your children be your retirement plan***
Here in the Philippines, we can't deny the fact that some people will now rely on their children for their daily needs. Yes, children may give them financial support but it is never requirement. Your children will be having their own families and they are now their priorities.
8. Invest
Engage to stock market or any trading like foreign exchange and cryptocurrencies. If your not familiar with these, and you are interested then educate yourself.
Having a small budget at first is just okay, never underestimate the power of compounding (the interest of your money will make interest and so on), with the proper discipline, you will surely achieve your financial freedom.
9. Be healthy
As the saying goes, **"HEALTH IS WEALTH"** it is really true because if you are not healthy then all of your hard earned money will just go to your medications, so stay healthy, watch your diet and lifestyle. Take away your vices if you have and live a healthy life.
***If you have discipline within yourself, then you will thank yourself one day for planning on how to have a financial freedom.***
Community Pantry
Filipinos are known to be helpful and is fond to cater "BAYANIHAN" in times of calamities, disasters and with our current situation right now, during this pandemic.
**What is "BAYANIHAN"**
For those who aren't Filipinos who will encounter this article, let me first define if what "BAYANIHAN" is all about.
BAYANIHAN is derived from the word "BAYAN" which means, nation, town or a certain place. BAYANIHAN refers now to those people who lives in that certain area making a move in helping each other.
With our situation now, because of this pandemic (COVID19), lots of people lost their job since there are also a lot of establishments decided to close their business especially those who are not classified as essentials. It's been a year since the lockdown has been implemented. After how many months, some employees finally went back on their works. Some of those who lost their job are still hard up looking for one because lots of company doesn't have a job vaccancy. Those who doesn't have enough in their life suffers more because of our situation. Though the government have projects and helps those people but it is not enough since it's not everyday that the government will help them.
Good thing, just this month of April, someone had a great idea to help those who are in need. She started to put up a small stall/cart along Maginhawa Street in Quezon City, Philippines. The cart consists of vitamins, facemasks, vegetables, canned goods and many more, with a handwritten banner which says "MAGINHAWA COMMUNITY PANTRY: MAGBIGAY AYON SA KAKAYAHAN, KUMUHA BATAY SA PANGANGAILANGAN" in English it says "MAGINHAWA COMMUNITY PANTRY: GIVE WHAT YOU CAN AFFORD AND TAKE ONLY WHAT YOU NEED"
This MAGINHAWA COMMUNITY PANTRY went viral and a lot of places here in the Philipines adopted this concept and if I am not mistaken, also some other parts in the world also adopted this so called bayanihan.
People flocked to get some in accordance to what they need. Some people went there to give their donations. Yes, a lot of those who really needs help were given help but sad to say that there are also people who were abusive that even though they can afford to live just on their own, they still manage to go there to the community pantry and get a lot more than just what they need, some people even have their eco-bags to be able to get more and treated like as if the community pantry is a grocery store/market. If we will compare, those who really needs help only gets what they need and those who can live without the help of others got more than compared to the ones who needs help. I am not concluding that all people are like this, there are only some of them. And there are even some instances that those who have less tends to be more giving that they even donate their source of income.
**ADVANTAGES OF HAVING A COMMUNITY PANTRY**
1. Those people who don't have enough goodies are given help even just for a certain period of time.
2. People who are rich, or those who are able to donate has given chances to share what they have.
**DISADVANTAGES OF HAVING A COMMUNITY PANTRY**
1. Some other places can't maintain the so-called "social distancing" ( it is the easiest way to maintan so that virus can not be easily transmitted if one is infected) since a lot of people will go there, people can't help but to flocked to get some free foods etc.
2. Some people who can support their daily needs, still can manage to go and get some goodies, They should have given way to others who really need those.
3. Those who can support their needs tend to get a lot more compared to those who have nothing. Those who have nothing get only those goodies that they really need and those who can support their needs are the ones who get lots of goodies (not all but there are people who are like this)
**Some of the selfless acts I've seen:**
An example is that, a taho vendor started filling up some of his cups with taho and started to display in the pantry.
Also, a camote cue vendor left her camote cues after getting some of her needs in the pantry.
*Instead of selling their items for having profit, they preferred giving it to the public even though we can't deny the fact that they are the one who needs to be given help.
****Community Pantry is a nice platform but people should have discipline among themselves to really achieve its purpose.***
Why read.cash?
Read.cash is platform wherein people make articles, originally written, and at the same time publishes their works and in return of their peice of work, read.cash gives them free bitcoin cash, amazing isn't it?
What is Bitcoin Cash?
Bitcoin Cash is a cryptocurrency that is a fork of bitcoin. Well, if I will compare Bitcoincash and bitcoin, bitcoin cash is far away better than bitcoin because transactions are fast and fees are lower.
So back to our topic, I came to first knew about noise.cash before read.cash, even though read.cash has been created first than noise.cash. I've been a member of noise.cash since January 1, 2021. There, I started reading posts about read.cash, because a lot of members in noise.cash are members of read.cash. At first, I am curious if what read.cash is all about. I made some research and found out that you need to post original articles in order to receive free bitcoin cash. Upon knowing that there is a need to write articles, I quickly told myself that I will not be doing this because it is difficult to write articles, because just by thinking about the topics you want to tackle is already difficult and also I am hesitant in using English because I am afraid if it is wrong grammar and upon thinking about it, I concluded that I'd rather be posting just short messages in noise.cash rather than composing paragraphs with single topic but here I am, the girl that told herself not writing articles is writing her fifth article now.
At first, I have difficulties in writing articles, but then someone said, "love your work, so that you'll never think that you are working", same is true in writing articles, I must write about something that I have interests with, so that it will be easier for me to express in writings those things I want to share.
If I am going to rate read.cash from 1 star to 5 star, I will give more than that. This website deserves more than just a 5 star, why? It helped some people achieve their financial freedom or if not, majority of the people who are engaged in this platform are somehow had lessen their problems when it comes to finances. This platform really helped a lot during this pandemic, a lot of people lost their job and seeking job is not that easy. I am pretty sure that there are members here who lost their job ended up here for some extra money.
I also enjoy visiting this site whenever I have extra time, reading articles of my co-writers here and seeing how much they've earned inspires me write more, it is just difficult to think if what will be the topic I am going write, well every writer have difficulties in this area.
I still can't even forget that there was even a time wherein after I published my first article and I started posting the link in noise.cash for other persons to read my article, someone even commented on my post and said that read.cash is not good for newbies, then I told that I just want that someone will read my works and that comment didn't stop me from writing because everyone here started as newbie, we just need a lot of patience and always think that I will have my break, maybe not now, but surely it will come.
Here in read.cash, you have the freedom to write everything or anything you want but think first whether the topic is good or not. You can express how you feel through writing.
And I will also would like to thank each and every admins here for putting up this kind of platform, it helped, helps and will still help a lot of people and also to Mr. @MarcDeMesel who have a very nice heart and is one of the major sponsors here, may you still have a lot of blessings to come. Writers here are very happy because of you admin, sponsors and looking forward that each and everyone of us or majority of people will know about this one.
My Cryptocurrency Trading Journey and Learnings
At first, the only thing I know is that only in the stock market and foriegn exchange are the places where you can trade. Been planning back then to start trading but I am too lazy to open an account on online brokers and really don't know what to do. I am too lazy back then to learn tutorials on youtube. I didn't pushed through with this plan and started to forget it.
This year, 2021, only by then I become interested again in trading because I came to encounter about noise.cash which gives free cryptocurrency especifically BITCOINCASH just by posting. Well, we, members of noise.cash and read.cash knows what bitcoincash is right? So I will no longer define/describe if what it is all about, and we all now how amazing bitcoincash is, and I am proud that I am a hodler of it.
When my earnings in noise.cash is already enough to start trading in Binance, I transfered my earnings in my wallet to Binance. At first, yes I do mistakes, I admit I am not profitable at this time since I am still new and just started learning. Just consider your losses in the beginning as your tuition fees.
****HERE ARE SOME OF MY LEARNINGS IN TRADING****
1. **DO YOUR OWN RESEARCH (DYOR)**
Don't believe on what others are saying, don't ask something like, "what coins will I buy, will the price go up now or when will it go down?" They may answer you your questions but it's not 100% guaranteed because no one can really predict the market.
**2. YOUR MONEY, YOUR RULE**
You may seek informations on others but it's up to you if you will follow them because it is always you who's gonna click that "buy" and "sell" button on your screen. And so that you can't blame anyone except yourself if you made the wrong choice. It's okay to fail, it just means that you are really trying. Through failures, we are learning and it will make us to be better on our next trades, and in the future we are already in our best, we may make mistakes but it is already be very few.
**3. PLAN YOUR TRADE, TRADE YOUR PLAN**
If you have no plans before entering into trading, then you are one step closer to failure. You really have to make plans for you to have guidelines to follow and during your trading make sure to execute whatever you have plan.
**4. DON'T FOMO (FEAR OR MISSING OUT)**
Just because one coin is pumping at the moment, you will also buy it even though it is already on top, worst case is that, the moment you bought that certain coin, the price might start dropping becasue the person you bought the dip might be taking their profits and there you are, left on top, waiting that the price will reach you again. I encountered this for myself back then, when I just started, and got no choice but to apply the so-called "buy high, sell low" and told myself not to do it again.
**5. BUY LOW, SELL HIGH**
Easy to say, isn't it? But sometimes it is never easy to follow. Just like on what I have done before though it is okay also to do so that you can cut your losses if the price just keeps on dropping.
**6. HANDLE YOUR EMOTIONS**
****DISCIPLINE**** Disregard your emotions when trading. If so the tendency is if you already started seeing red candles, you start to feel panic. You can't execute your trade well if you let your emotions in and it may result to losses instead to gains. If you're attitude is like this then I therefore conclude that trading isn't just for you. Discipline is the bridge between goals and accomplishments, always remember that.
**7. INVEST ON WHAT YOU CAN AFFORD TO LOSE**
In trading, i byt's not 100% sure that you will always gain, there are chances that you will have losses. Never put your payments on bills, emergency funds here in trading because you can't always get it whenever you need them because what if you didn't still have gains on your portfolio, chances are you may execute the "buy high, sell low" concept and with that you already loss. Cryptocurrency is very volatile, you may gain a lot but in your one wrong move, you will also lose a lot.
**8. DON'T BE GREEDY**
Profit is profit as they say, when the prices of your coin started to go up and up, go and take some of your profits and wait for the price to go down and then buy back. With this concept, you already gained, the quantity of your coins also increased (the power of compounding). We, those who are not new in trading, we all know that pull backs always occur if the prices of the coins massively went up. But if your a holder, you just disregard if how the market is doing.
**9. DIVERSIFY (DO NOT PUT ALL YOUR EGGS IN ONE BASKET)**
Having a two or more assets is advisable. Don't go all in, because if that coin is bullish, no one will carry your portfolio.
*IT TAKES TIME, HAVE PATIENCE, YOU WON'T BECOME A MILLIONARE IN JUST A SPLIT OF SECONDS, NOT BECAUSE YOU STARTED TRADING, YOU WILL ALWAYS GAIN, THERE ARE TIME THAT YOU WILL HAVE LOSSES TOO AND THAT'S NORMAL. JUST MAKE YOUR LOSS LESSER THAN YOUR PROFITS. ONE DAY, YOU WILL THANK YOURSELF ON LEARNING HOW TO TRADE.*
Thank you, noise.cash and read.cash
Lately, I 've never been aware of cryptocurrencies not until I came to know about noise.cash. It was January 1 back then this year, I was just watching random videos on youtube and something had struck me because the caption says, "you can earn money just by posting: like twitter" and out of curiousity, I watched the video, I became interested and installed my virtual wallet, set-up my account then started posting. At first I am in doubt if I can also earn just like others do, I kept on posting and posting, received and sent tips to one another, and it gave me more reasons to enjoy the website. After how many hours that passed by, my wallet started to receive bitcoincash.
Noise.cash didn't just helped me but with my other friends too because right after I came to know about noise.cash, I started sharing it with my friends and I am happy that they are earning too just like me.
And then, I came to think of it, if what really bitcoincash is. Then I started to have my research. Then the moment I knew that the one that I entered into is connected to trading, I got more excited since as a Financial Management degree holder, during my college days, we tackled about stock market. And I really wanted to try trading but I do not know where to start.
When I already earned certain amount in noise.cash, I just thought of why not using it as my starting fund on trading. I chose Binance to be the cryptocurrency exchange that I am going to use. I watched a lot of tutorials there, learned about technical analysis and more. Started practicing on other applications which does not need real money. I know someone who is in to cryptocurrenct trading, told him that I want to give it a try, there he gave me techniques on trading, gave me something to watch in which it may help me in my trading journey. Then when I am already confident to start trading, I started transferring my earned bitcoincash in Binance and then started trading. That was last week of February that I started trading.
Two months had passed, well I already have my earnings but not everyday that I am earning, as a trader there a times you are earning and sometimes not, it's okay, that's normal just make it sure that your loss should not be greater than your profit.
Noise.cash community is great, no toxicities just like other social medias because here, we make new friends, members here are friendly. My habbit back then when I still do not know about noise.cash is that just upon waking up, the first thing I do is grab my phone, open facebook, but now, the first thing I do is open my noise.cash account and started posting things I want to share because this is the only way where I can express what I want to say and people here don't know me personally and that's a good idea because there will be no judgements.
Right now, I am no longer active just like before because my focus now is on trading because I know that someday somehow that through trading, I will have my financial independence, not now, not soon but it will come as long as I am going to believe myself that I can do it. Because right now, I don't have enough, I have my earnings, thanks to noise.cash, but I need to pay my annual insurance and still not enough so I have to focus more on earning to have my financial independence soon.
I am just one of those members here in noise.cash and read.cash that you helped, every member here have their own story to tell on how noise.cash amd read.cash helped them. Thanks to the persons who built this community, it is such of big help.
Single on valentines?
Being single is not bad rather take that as an opportunity to improve yourself. Being single shows that you can do everything just by yourself, it teaches you on how to become independent. Yes, "no one is an island" as the saying goes but you don't always need anyone to survive this life that is given to you.
Not all who's in a relationship are happy and being single doesn't always mean sad.
I am single, yes, and being single is not a big deal for me.
**Being single has its advantages:**
1. You can go wherever you want without asking someone for approval.
2. You can do whatever you want to do.
3. You learn to become independent. You will experience more personal growth. Those who are in a relationship tends to be more co-dependent with each other but not all.
3. You can have more time to develop strong friendships. Your life will not only revolve on one person, as majority of couples do. They treat their partner as their world, and when they break-up, it is difficult for them to recover.
4. You will be more self-determined, you can focus more on yourself.
5. You will develop more as an individual.
6 You learn more about yourself.
***These items listed above were my realizations on my journey being single.** *(Let's have some flashback about me: I had a boyfriend before for 5years and 8months but we broke-up and I've been single for 10 months from that time and for now, I am happy with my life for being single.)*
*Yes, I know that being single has disadvantages but why not take this opportunity to love yourself? Loving yourself is the first step you can you for you to be able to love others. You can not love others if you can't even love yourself.*
**But how do singles celebrate valentines**?
They can celebrate with their parents/family - it's the kind of love that is eternal.
They can celebrate with their friends - friendship is one example of love.
**Occassions like Father's Day and Mother's Day without them to celebrate with, hurts more than being single on valentines, always remember that. 💯**
She's single not because...but because...
***She's single not because*** no one loves her but because she doesn't still have the energy to reciprocate the feelings that the other person have for her.
***She's single not because*** she doesn't believe in love but because love for her is a precious thing and it should not be played for and please take note that she takes love seriously.
***She's single not because*** she doesn't want to be hurt because of love but because she's still healing for the past love that she had before.
***She's single not because*** she is weak to handle a relationship but because she is strong enough and she realized that she doesn't need someone to survive and having herself makes her a strong, independent woman.
***She's single not because*** she doesn't have time for love but because she understands that love has it's own perfect timing and she believes that it will come no matter how long the waiting time is, she's just trusting the process: "LOVE AT THE RIGHT TIME, AT THE RIGHT PLACE"
***She's single not because*** she doesn't know how to love but because she loves herself so much to the extent that she became protective to it. No, she's not a narcissist but please understand that she once believed in love but ended up breaking her and it caused her some trauma.
***She's single not because*** she doesn't have any choice but because she chooses single life to be able to concentrate more on herself for now.
Not because she's single right now would mean that she will be forever single. She just promised herself to stay single not until she'll find that right man who's worthy enough for the love that she can offer.
But for now, she's still healing, trying to throw all the baggages that she have and she's still working on to become the better version of herself and so that when the right man comes, she's already okay.
Yes, she will be okay, the right person will come and that's a promise ❣️
@nalyn