Negative comments about obesity
Physical appearance is one of the most commented items when it comes to other people, especially since social networks became relevant, so everyone can comment on anything else they want.
The border has long been lost, all under the slogan that "Everyone has the right to say what they want", I would just add the part "… until it endangers another", and insults at the expense of physical appearance can have very big consequences for the commented. From everything that is talked about, I would say that the physical appearance of the body, that is, thinness and obesity (and especially obesity) is the topic that is always talked about and the topic that causes the most attention.
In addition, it leaves much bigger consequences than whether someone made an ugly hairstyle or put on bad make-up.
**How we believe in what we hear about ourselves**
People are a social beings who was not created to live in isolation from other people, from the connection, and therefore the influence of others on us. From an early age, listening to what others say about us, we create an image of ourselves by accepting their conclusions and attitudes about ourselves as our own.
Now imagine a child who from an early age listens to how chubby he is, how he should lose weight, and then already in elementary school he starts to suffer various products and insults, as well as the entire rejection from his peers.
The influence of that has been proven by various researches, and we cannot change that by repeating that "other people's opinion is not important", especially when it dates from the period when the child learns about himself and the world around him, and later it just repeats itself.
The summary of the story is that a child who listens to how fat and ugly he is, who feels rejected by his peers, believes in it alone, and then it becomes a far bigger problem than being overweight and physically healthy.
**Prejudice**
There are a lot of prejudices about obese people, and some of the most common ones are that they are lazy, irresponsible, without self-control, undisciplined and so on. Obesity on a psychological level is much more than all this, and such comments can hold a person back even more.
**"Well-intentioned advice"**
Under the photos of obese people, I would often see comments that are packed with health care, such as "Look at what she looks like, this is walking diabetes, it's not healthy!" And the like.
I do not want to dispute the fact that being overweight is a risk factor for diabetes and various other diseases, but that is not a justification, nor a reason for someone to be offended in such a way.
When the goal is well-intentioned, it does not cause shame in the other person, nor is the essence in making someone feel bad about themselves. Well-meaning advice should first and foremost provide understanding and empathy, rather than condemnation. And finally, did the person seek advice at all?
I have often heard from obese people that people bombard them with advice as soon as they see it, recommend diet, training, talk about how to lose weight, without asking for any advice or comment.
Even when it really isn't malicious, unsolicited advice on the other hand can cause a feeling of rejection and inadequacy, so it's always best to ask if anyone even wants to hear the advice, an experience you would share with them.
**Obesity and shame**
Many obese people are really ashamed of their bodies, so many women who do not go to the beach because they are afraid of condemnation, looks and ugly comments. The same goes for eating in public, especially those "unhealthy" meals. When someone is convinced that something is wrong with him, that he is not good and valuable enough, any additional confirmation from others is especially threatening.
So, if you really want to support someone to lose weight (of course, if they want to), do your best to make that person feel valuable next to you, instead of deepening the shame.
A healthy change can result from an instant satisfaction with something, but it is not good if the motive is shame, that is, in this case, losing weight in order to avoid the shame caused by other people's comments.
The essence is that a person develops a sense of self-esteem, personal value and love for himself, and from that position he loses weight if he decides to want it.
**Commenting on other people's meals**
I return to social networks and everything that is current on them. Today, a lot of people share some of their meals on their stories, and I have the impression that there have never been more condemnations based on what someone eats. Whether it is "healthy or unhealthy", the spice of condemnation is always there.
And it should not be like that, because that is exactly the item that affects the accelerated development of eating disorders.
It won't help anyone to peek at someone else's plates, especially not in a judgmental way that only revolts the person.
The influence of society's attitude towards obesity and obese people is of great importance for the individual and should always be taken into account. By denying that it exists, the problem is not solved, but only deepens, and that is why it is important for the person who is losing weight to be aware of it in order to work adequately on that part of the experience as well.
**Enjoy until the next reading**
Firefighters - a responsible, dangerous and humane occupation
We’ve all seen firefighters at times, at least in passing. However, few of us know what jobs they do and what vehicles and devices they use to do the job successfully. Well, let's take a look.
The purpose of these vehicles is to enable the fire brigade to perform their work tasks as well as possible and to enable them to arrive at the place of intervention in the shortest possible time.
According to standardization, fire trucks are populated by types, and technical conditions and characteristics are prescribed for each one. This division is indicative, since devices and equipment that another type of vehicle has are often added to a certain type of vehicle, or they want to use two different extinguishing agents with one vehicle.
All wagons are red with blue rotating lights, and sirens of varying tone and intensity.
Fire and rescue vehicles include:
1.Command vehicle
2.Naval vehicle
3.Combined vehicle
4.Tank truck
5.Technical vehicle
6.Automechanical ladders
7.Hydraulic articulated platform
8..Dust extinguishing vehicles Vehicle - mobile storage
9.Forest fire truck
10Fire ship
11.Helicopters
12.Firefighting aircraft- Canaders
Command vehicle
The command vehicle is a smaller off-road vehicle that serves to guide other vehicles when going to the place of intervention in a group. The crew of the command vehicle consists of the driver, the unit commander, the electrician on duty and the radio operator. The vehicle is equipped with a communication device, basic personal and collective protective equipment, basic technical tools and devices for extinguishing initial fires.
Naval vehicle
The naval vehicle has the task of transporting the crew of the fire department (9 members) and the planned equipment and devices to the place of intervention. Fire and foam fire extinguisher by construction and equipment belongs to the group of naval vehicles and is intended for rapid interventions, extinguishing fires of solid flammable substances (class "A" fires), fires of highly flammable liquids (class "B" fires) and gases (fires class "C").
The vehicle has a centrifugal pump with a capacity of 8/8, and if necessary, it can, and if necessary, carry a portable fire pump in the vehicle or on a trailer. The vehicle can have a built-in water tank with a volume of 800 to 1600 liters.
Fire trucks marked VF (water-foam) are most often used in firefighting units as naval vehicles. The vehicle cabin can accommodate a crew of three to five members, and depending on the load capacity of the chassis, as well as the power of the vehicle's propulsion engine, they have water tanks from 2500 to 7000 liters, extract tank from 250 to 1000 liters and centrifugal pumps 16/06. 8 to 40/8. All types of these have built-in suction mixers of water and extract, winches for quick intervention, storage for the corresponding equipment and water or foam throwers with a capacity of 1200-1600 l / min. Class A, B, C fires can be effectively extinguished with this vehicle.
Combined vehicle
The combined vehicle with the VPF mark is intended for extinguishing fires of class A, B, C, D and E, and water, air foam or powder are used as extinguishing agents. The characteristic of these vehicles is that they can work in parallel with water and foam. If working with two push water, one can extinguish with water and the other with foam. This mode of operation is possible because the created mixture of water and extract is not returned to the suction part of the pump, but to the appropriate discharge pipelines.
Tank truck
The tank truck are intended primarily for the delivery of a larger amount of water for the needs of fire trucks that participate in extinguishing fires. These vehicles can extinguish Class A fires themselves, and if foam is provided, in buckets or barrels, they can also extinguish Class B and C fires because the fire installation has a built-in foam dosing mixer and a connection for pulling foam outside the vehicle. Depending on the load capacity of the chassis as well as the power of the propulsion engine, the tank trucks have a water tank with a volume of 7000-10000 liters of water and a water or foam launcher with a capacity of 1600 l / min at a pressure of 8 bar.
The Flintstones - one of my favorite cartoons
Another Monday. To make our work week start better, let's have fun with the story of one of my favorite cartoons.
When we are little, we usually like to watch all the cartoons, we have a couple of favorites, but in principle we don't care… Only that it is cheerful, colorful and funny and that it can hold the fragile children's attention long enough. When we grow up is another story. Then we realize that the cartoonists of our youth were real cartoonists and not this nonsense today, and with a smile on our faces we remember past times and all those evenings we spent reclining in an armchair, laughing at different, quality, animated heroes. And, we would love to go back to our childhood again!
That is why, in order to take you back to those happy times, at least for a short time, I set you up for the hilarious and unusual "The Flintstones"!
"The Flintstones ”is an American animated television series produced by Hanna-Barbera. "The Flintstones" is the first animated series that was, in fact, intended for adults and was broadcast in prime time evenings. The plot of this cute cartoon is set in the fictional town of Bedrock in the Stone Age. As such, it represented an allegory of American society from the middle and third quarter of the 20th century.
The main characters are Fred and Vilma Flintstone. Fred is a construction worker, eager for a hedonistic life, infantile, likes to play the alpha male, gets annoyed very easily, but also gets angry, and in fact he is a very warm and caring husband and father. His wife Vilma is smarter and wiser than him, but he has a great passion for spending money. The Flintstones have a cute little daughter Pebbles and a dinosaur pet that barks like a dog, named Dino.
"The Flintstones ”is an American animated television series produced by Hanna-Barbera. "The Flintstones" is the first animated series that was, in fact, intended for adults and was broadcast in prime time evenings. The plot of this cute cartoon is set in the fictional town of Bedrock in the Stone Age. As such, it represented an allegory of American society from the middle and third quarter of the 20th century.
The main characters are Fred and Vilma Flintstone. Fred is a construction worker, eager for a hedonistic life, infantile, likes to play the alpha male, gets annoyed very easily, but also gets angry, and in fact he is a very warm and caring husband and father. His wife Vilma is smarter and wiser than him, but he has a great passion for spending money. The Flintstones have a cute little daughter Pebbles and a dinosaur pet that barks like a dog, named Dino.
What gives the Flintstones a special charm and what makes them so funny and recognizable is their life with long-extinct animals like dinosaurs and mammoths and their connection to technology. For example, when the heroes use a camera to take pictures, the camera shows a bird carving a picture with its beak into a stone slab. The mammoth cub was used as a vacuum cleaner, the pterodactyl was an airplane, and the electric razor was shown as a shell inhabited by a small beetle that vibrates as soon as the shell pulls down the face of the hero. Their cars were made of stone, leather and wood, and they moved with their feet. Mermaids were birds that "sounded" by pulling their tails.
Each episode of this comic series presents one image from the seemingly monotonous life of the main characters, but full of different adventures that are mostly challenged by Fred.
If you loved this cartoon as a kid, now that you remember it again, head to YouTube for the Flintstones marathon! Have fun and enjoy with the charming stone company!
"Yabba Dabba Doo!"
Healing properties of fresh and sauerkraut
Regardless of whether it is fresh or sour, cabbage is rich in vitamins and minerals, primarily vitamin C, phosphorus, calcium, zinc, magnesium, vitamin A, B1, B2…
Green and red cabbage are especially important as a source of vitamin K.
In people with osteoporosis, as well as those who have heavy bleeding even with small cuts, vitamin K deficiency is often present, which is associated with congenital defects in the fetus. Vitamin K is also important for proper blood clotting, bone development and maintaining arterial health.
Apart from the most famous green cabbage, great importance is also attached to the red one.
1.Protects the brain
- Fresh cabbage juice protects the brain from the harmful effects of free radicals and the damage caused by aging.
2.Gout and Rheumatism
- Due to the large amount of minerals and potassium, cabbage stimulates the excretion of water from the body and cures diseases caused by impaired metabolism, such as gout and rheumatism.
3.Digestive problems
- Its fresh juice is effective in treating intestinal problems and stomach ulcers.
4.Aphrodisiac
- These are just some of the health benefits of this vegetable, which is one of the leading aphrodisiacs - if you eat it twice a day for a week, your libido will experience a real renaissance.
5.Low calorie
- A medium-sized cup of chopped cabbage has only 22 calories. Therefore, it is not surprising that the so-called "cabbage diet" is popular, which allegedly gives excellent results.
6.Anti-diarrhea
- If you take one or two glasses of fresh raw cabbage juice every day between meals, you can get rid of diarrhea or inflammation of the intestines. Three glasses of fresh cabbage juice a day are the best remedy for stomach ulcers.
7.Against anemia
- Due to the large amount of mineral salts, vitamins and chlorophyll, it is recommended for anemic people to eat it raw or steamed, and to drink two glasses of squeezed juice every day.
8.Cuticles and purulent inflammation of the glands
- are also "solved" by cabbage leaves, which suppress inflammation and remove pus. Three cabbage leaves are placed on the purulent place so that they cover a large area and leave for several hours, even all night. The procedure can be repeated until the affected area heals.
9.Hangover
- can be alleviated quite quickly by drinking 2 to 4 decilitres of sauerkraut on an empty stomach. The healing properties of cabbage are also well known when it comes to wounds. The green leaves are washed in water and wiped, the brakes are cut with a knife, and the leaves are flattened with a roller or bottle, and cut to the required size. Before being es are changed every two, and then every four hours.
Great advice: One of the biggest objections to cabbage is that it creates bloating, but the main reason for that is its cooking. Cabbage loses many medicinal properties when cooked, so it is recommended to eat it raw or possibly steamed.
The mysterious connection of five Tibetans with your health
Five Tibetans are simple exercises that can become part of your daily routine and are a great way to start the day.
Maybe the blinds fell on your eyes from this statement and you are tired of someone telling you every day how to start the day. You would not want to change your coffee and cigarette routine and waste precious time on exercise. But still open your eyes and find out what it is about.
Tibetan exercises are not overly tiring, you will not bathe in sweat and you will not have to waste extra time before work on the obligatory shower before work because you soaked your clothes in sweat while exercising.
This does not mean that they are not strenuous at all and does not mean that you only have to do them in the morning. Take time anytime during the day. Starting the day this way is just a recommendation.
Health benefits of 5 Tibetans
To explain how the exercises of the five Tibetans affect health and what benefits they have, you need to know that health and energy are inextricably linked. In Eastern culture, this energy is associated with the chakras, which are a kind of energy centers in our body. The concept of chakras and the idea of their existence and function appeared in India 4000 years ago.
There are 7 main chakras in our body and Tibetan exercises are actually an easy way to start them. Then when all our energy centers are functioning well, we feel healthy and energetic. Then when the chakras are blocked, we feel bad and sick.
The results you can expect are the following:
-More energy and will to live, better mood
-Calmness and better control of emotions
-Better concentration and thinking
-Better self-image and greater self-confidence
-Better sleep
-Better sex life and improved libido
-Easier to bear all the bad symptoms of menopause, menstruation and PMS
- Better digestion and detoxification of the body.
Since it affects the important glands and hormones in the body, the overall health and mood improves. The exercises are simple, but still require a certain amount of effort and strength of the whole body. And if you don't have them, you will develop them!
How the exercises of five Tibetans are performed
There are 5 poses that make up this exercise routine.
The first Tibetan - turning
This is a movement that will improve your coordination, release your negative energies and help regulate your emotions.
Stand upright with arms outstretched.
Turn around clockwise just as children turn around during play. You may have come across claims that turning exercises like this are good for children, so why not be good for you as well. Breathe deeply, from your stomach and look straight ahead.
Second Tibetan - lifting his legs off the floor
This exercise stimulates the work of the pancreas, regenerates the third chakra and strengthens the abdominal muscles.
Lie on your back and place your hands next to your body with your palms facing down. Raise your legs as high as you can - the goal is to stand upright. At the same time, lift your head off the floor, pushing your chin towards your chest. Hold for a few seconds then lower.
Pay attention to proper breathing. Exercise should not leave you breathless. Inhale when you raise your head and legs, Exhale when you lower them.
The third Tibetan - leaning back
The third Tibetan exercise also aims to open the third chakra or solar plexus, and it has a good effect on the fourth and fifth chakras. In other words, with a simple pose, you will improve the work of your heart, chest, thyroid gland, immune system and put yourself in a much better mood.
Kneel on the floor. The legs should be gathered next to each other. The body should stand upright, so do not sit on your knees. The arms are next to the body, resting on your thighs. Bend slightly backwards and lower your arms down the back of your thighs, and bend your head and neck backwards.
Stay in that position as long as you are comfortable and return to the initial kneeling position. Inhale when you bend, exhale when you return to an upright position.
The fourth Tibetan - the bridge
This exercise strengthens the lower part of the spine, thighs and buttocks and is great for shaping and strengthening these parts of the body as well as riding a bicycle. Incorporate both of these exercises into your daily life and you will not miss the results.
Sit on the floor and place your hands next to your body, with your palms lowered to the ground. Lift your buttocks and legs off the floor, as well as your upper body, and tilt your head back. Your torso should be parallel to the floor, knees bent and body weight on your hands.
Stay like that for a few seconds, then return to a sitting position. Inhale when you rise from the ground, and exhale when you return.
Fifth Tibetan - reverse "V"
This is an exercise that affects the whole body, perhaps because it is the most demanding from the aspect of performance.
Get down on the floor and lie on your stomach. Now lift your upper body, leaning on your arms. The elbows should be straightened, and the lower part of the body should still rest on the floor. Bend your back and neck back.
Spread your arms and legs shoulder-width apart. Lift yourself off the floor now by making a position similar to the inverted letter "V". Lean on the floor with your feet, raise your buttocks high and hold on to your arms that are still straightened at the elbows. Return to the starting position, bend backwards as at the beginning. Inhale as you ascend and exhale as you ascend.
When you decide to make five Tibetans friends in your daily life, it is best to get to know each other gradually.
Start the exercises with three repetitions of each pose, and the goal is to reach 21 repetitions (this is a sacred number for Tibetans). You should not do more than 21 reps. Some reach that level very quickly, some need more time. It depends on your physical condition.
You always increase by 2 repetitions, no more than once a week. So do say 3, 5. 7, 9 .
Do the exercises slowly. These are not speed exercises.
Only when you perfect their performance can you speed up the pace
It is up to you to adjust the pace and intensity of the exercises to yourself.
You can do the exercises at any time. If you want to do the same thing that Tibetan monks did, do them at sunrise and sunset, because it is also the source of our energy.
What does it mean to be a "Helicopter Parent"
The term parents' helicopter comes from the United States and Canada, and is used to describe parents who are excessively present in their children's lives. At best, they are extremely engaged in the school achievement of their children, very close to them and good counselors who help them overcome difficult periods of life. However, the path from an engaged to an obsessed parent is short…
Helicopter parents do not know how to stop and make a border, they cannot assess when it is time to stop protecting and return their children to some earlier developmental stages. In a way, they fly over their heads and try to ward off even the slightest difficulty or problem that their descendants might encounter.
Helicopter parents think that their children, no matter how old they are, constantly need them. They are very present in their lives, they influence their choices and do not leave them much room for free decision-making.
How did "helicopter parents" come about?
The origin of this phenomenon is related to the cultural, social and economic condition of the society in which we live…
Today's families are increasingly deciding on a smaller number of children, and therefore the pressure is greater.
We live in a society burdened with perfectionism.
Today, parents feel obliged to give their children all the best - the best vacation, the best education, the ideal childhood, etc., and do not leave room for mistakes that their children could make because they still do not know something and need to learn. In decision-making, they use the personal experience of an adult to make the most appropriate decisions for the future of their offspring. This excessive behavior is a kind of denial of reality and beautification of the image of the world in which we live.
The increasingly competitive labor market and the increasingly uncertain future for all are being denied in this way. Out of a strong desire to help, parents try to give their children all the best, and at the same time do not prepare them for what awaits them tomorrow.
The paradox is that helicopter parents dedicate almost their entire lives to the most adequate preparation of children for the labor market (better education, more extracurricular activities, better sports, etc.) for which these children are absolutely unprepared because the whole process of "helicoptering" deprived of INDEPENDENCE!
What are the consequences for the child?
This type of parenting imposes a number of problems for children who have been raised in this way…
Above all, these children have not learned to be independent, they have not learned to be responsible and take responsibility for their actions and behaviors, they have not learned to accept successes, nor to be alone. In addition, they are not able to make independent decisions regarding future life without the influence of their parents.
In adulthood, children who have had this type of upbringing are more prone to chronic depression due to a lack of tolerance for frustrations.
It is necessary to get rid of the illusion that we can control everything in the child's life. A parent should be a link between reality and the child, of course it is natural to want to protect your child, but at the same time it is necessary to teach him to be responsible and independent, having confidence in him. Instead of a helicopter, isn't it much better to be an inconspicuous aircraft… a parent who helps a child develop independence and who is present and well-meaning, who monitors and protects, but only on special occasions?
Break down prejudices - don't let yourself become a mother-in-law from hell
A bad relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law or son-in-law can infect the whole family. You should think about your children the most and learn from your mother-in-law what kind of mother-in-law, that is. vanity to be or not to be when it is your turn to marry a son or marry a daughter. To be a favorite mother-in-law or mother-in-law one day, start preparing for that role while the children are still unde
Accept that your children will grow up and that you will no longer need them.
The very thought of it hurts. Moms take care of their children all their lives, hover over them and worry if something will happen to them. Only moms can call their adult sons boys or boys, even when their hair has long since turned gray. Regardless of the fact that she can't wait for her son to get married and her daughter to get married, it is difficult to leave the care of her children to another woman or man and distance herself a little from the children so that she can live as they want.
Find a hobby.
Men generally have some interests of their own and develop careers, in addition to participating in raising children, while women are predominantly focused on the family.
It's not bad to pursue a hobby that fulfills you, for which you will have very little time while the children are younger, but as they grow up and become more independent, you will have more space to do something that inspires you and brightens your day.
Whether it's discovering interesting recipes, decorating cakes, writing, handicrafts, dancing, gardening or something else, it is important that you enjoy it and make it feel more satisfied.
Don’t neglect your partner.
It is difficult to maintain a love affair, when the wife is tired of housework, caring for children and when the husband is tired of work and the stress it causes. However, it is not impossible.
Try to be kind to your partner, make each other happy with some small gift for no reason from time to time and don't be stingy in declaring love. When you have already chosen the partner in question for your husband and he has chosen you for his wife, I guess you have seen something good in him. Focus on those good qualities of his, because you will find it difficult to correct his shortcomings.
Whatever you do to your partner, do it to yourself. Not only in marriage, but also in life, our thoughts and deeds come back to us like a boomerang, so that depending on their nature, they bring us happiness or pain.
When children grow up and go their own way, you will stay with your partner and then more than ever the quality of your relationship will come to light. Don't let children be the only thing that binds you.
It is really nice to grow old with someone, to have a quality relationship with a life partner, to represent his source of happiness and he yours. Also, your relationship with your partner is an example to your children, who will be guided in their love relationships, which is a strong enough reason to work hard on your relationship.
Make sure you have a good relationship with your mother-in-law.
You will probably understand it better with age. Regardless of the fact that steam is coming out of your ears thanks to her, when a few years have passed and the children have grown a little, you will probably admit to her that she was right about some things. Not for everyone, but for some it is.
Certainly, a strained relationship with your mother-in-law will not bring you anything good. Mom is single and cannot be replaced, while wife can. So it’s smarter for you to keep your mouth shut and put a smile on them when Ms. Mom starts grumbling or looking at you sideways if you do something she doesn’t like. You are younger and it will be easier for you to adapt to her than she is to you.
This is how it is done, a wide smile so that all the teeth can be seen. Think of it as a great opportunity to practice how to deal with complicated people. When you learn to establish good communication with your mother-in-law or men with your mother-in-law, you will be able to deal with other difficult people as well.
Learn from your mother-in-law whatever she is and don't do things to your children that you resent.
You are the mother of your children, but you are not the grandchildren
When you give birth, your grandmother sometimes makes you feel like you are the stepmother to your own child, not the mother. She doesn't do it because she doesn't like you, but she has a lot more experience than you and she doesn't trust an amateur like a new mom.
Until the time comes for you to be a grandmother, enjoy your children growing up to the maximum and bring them up according to your own discretion. Side tips can be useful, but you have the last word.
When you become a grandmother, you will be able to retire with a clear conscience and let your daughter-in-law take care of your grandchildren in her own way, because you will know that you did your best when it was your turn to raise your children.
Nurture friendships
Don't get bogged down in family life and cut off contact with your friends. You can always take some time for some phone calls or seeing each other.
When your children start their own families, you will not be tempted to call them every hour, because you will have friends who will be happy with your invitation and with whom you will be able to talk about your children to your heart's content, but also go to the theater, walk or attend. some course.
Find time for yourself
A dissatisfied woman cannot create a happy and harmonious home. Bad mood becomes a natural state for us over time and it is difficult to get out of it. Steal a little time for yourself here and there during the day and use it to take care of yourself.
Do exercises, make friends, always have a book in your bag, so while you are waiting in line or riding the bus, use that time to feed your mind with some quality reading material. Eat healthy, nurture yourself and look forward to each new day with a smile.
Enjoy life to the fullest, so you have no reason to regret and be dissatisfied when you get older.
Bridging the generation gap.
When I was younger, I knew how to automatically roll my eyes as soon as I heard older people say, "In my time, it was different" or something like that. Now that I am also a mother, I catch myself starting the sentence "In my time" However, I try to use sentences of that type less and less.
Life goes on in its natural course, things change and that should be accepted as something inevitable. Children need to be instilled with true values while they are younger and guided by their own example on the path of growing up. Accept that they will have their own style, choose their own friends and make decisions, which we will not like sometimes, but how else to find their way than to think for themselves.
You can only hope that you have taught them the right values in time and let them out of the nest when they decide to fly away and become independent.
Accept your children's partners as their choice and respect that.
You didn't want your parents to choose your partners either, so neither do your children. It is important that they are happy and satisfied in love. If that is not the case, when they grow up they have to take responsibility for their own choices and decide on their own lives.
Advise them if they ask you for advice. If they don't want to interfere, nothing will be worth interfering with, because with such an attitude, you will probably push them away from you, rather than bring them to their senses.
A mother-in-law who is a spice in every soup and watches over her daughter-in-law to make sure she doesn't slack off and at least do as much decent work as taking care of her son and grandchildren and a mother-in-law whose falcon's eye watches her son-in-law's every move as queen, she will certainly not win the title in the election for her favorite mother-in-law.
Find the best in your children's partners
When your children start their own families, do not make life difficult for them by a bad relationship with their partners. Whether it is a relationship with your daughter-in-law or son-in-law, ask yourself if you want to be right or have peace in the house, as well as in your own soul. When you look at the situation from that angle, it will be easier for you to keep quiet about some things and resent them less.
It is interesting how people can have completely different opinions about one and the same person. Some will say that the person in question is great, while some will think that she is arrogant and conceited.
Try to observe your daughter-in-law or son-in-law one day with the attitude that they have the best intention, even if they do not know how to express it in the best way. Endure today, and look at things from that angle tomorrow. In time, you will become accustomed to not understanding their intentions as bad and you will be able to find a common language more easily.
After all, we cannot change other people, we can only change our attitude towards them.
