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No one has an ideal past
No one has an ideal past. There is a dose of suffering, unpleasant feelings, trauma in everyone's past life. The past cannot change, but it can change how we view past events, and more importantly, how we value them. As a rule, people do not return to their own past in order to see it with their current knowledge and to re-evaluate it. What someone experienced at the age of 6 or 14 remains remembered in the manner of a six-year-old or fourteen-year-old person. And then those memories affect our present selves.Treating bad experiences from the past is a kind of revision, reconsideration, interpretation and evaluation of these events. This "great saving" of the past enables the present Self to get rid of the wrong conclusions and bad feelings that the wounded former Self contains. Such an audit can be done by people alone or with the help of a psychotherapist. Don’t allow yourself to ruin your future with your past.
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Well, it's not right to ruin the present and the future by thinking the past. We have to put the past behind us and make the future brighter by working in the present.by the way I always look forward to your article because there is so much to learn from each of your articles.thanks a lot
In my opinion, memories of bad and difficult moments from the past, serve us to correct mistakes, and that similar mistakes do not happen to us in the future.
Žaljenje je veliki gubitak vremena. Istraživanja su pokazala da svake nedelje 45 minuta žalimo zbog grešaka iz prošlosti, nečega što smo mogli da uradimo drugačije, a bilo nam je veoma važno. Ako neprestano preispitujemo svoje postupke u prošlosti i stalno iznova proživljavamo bolne momente, tim „ranama” ne dopuštamo da „zarastu”. Život je pun kajanja, a konstantno vraćanje u prošlost i pitanja: „Zašto sam to uradio?, „Da sam bar“… ili „Trebalo je“… preokupira naše misli i oblikuje buduće postupke. Kajanje i žaljenje mogu da nas uvuku u crne misli i opterete teškom krivicom i stidom što značajno može da nas spreči da uživamo u životu. Samosažaljenje ne koristi ničemu, samo nas čini slabim i nesigurnim. Što više budete žalili za nečim iz svoje prošlosti, to ćete u budućnosti biti nemirniji. Ukoliko se konstantno vraćamo negativnim stvarima koje su nas pogađale u životu, u misli će nam se useliti tuga i depresija.
Mislim da je ovde najprimereniji citat koji povremeno koristim, mislim da je Remarkov. "Zaljenje je najbeskorisnija stvar na svetu. Nista se ne moze popraviti ni promeniti. Zivot nije hteo da nas nacini savrsenima, ko je svrsen spada u mzej."