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Do you want to change the world? Greetings to all my readers. I always get a topic for reflection by listening or looking around and today I’ll tell you about a theme that I have been hearing repeatedly. There is something that I hear or later, in the quiet of night, it returns to my thoughts just as ruminants return their food to digest it better, I return to these thoughts to process them better. As the years go by, we live similar situations but we give them a different projection. Today I was attracted to the subject of how some people get married or establish a relationship with the firm thought that they will be able to change their partner's way of being by having him or her around and explaining to him or her why he or she should change a habit. We spend a lot of time in our lives trying to change things we don't like about him or her. That brings in the long run many arguments and when it becomes too difficult then we proceed to the imposition of the power that we have at that moment over the other individual. Or is it a mistake to want to change people? and a much bigger one when we want them to be like us? There is so much richness in the diversity of thought, of ideas, of attitudes and we do not manage to see it because of the imposition of our decision. I have met people in my life who have wanted to change the world because they believe and are sure that their way of being is ideal. They believe that if the world were like them, everything would be better. I spent many years of my life trying to be like that and then I understood my mistake. Now I just think that trying to change a person's way of being or doing things is totally frustrating and a waste of time. Nobody changes their attitude if they don't really want to, especially if they feel good about themselves. If they do change their attitude in a forced way, that is, they don’t *want* to change and we forced it on them, then we should expect two things.
The first thing that can happen is that they may do it just to please us. It may be that they’re simply faking it just so we don't have to hear about it anymore, but in these cases it’s only a matter of time before, for whatever reason, the person explodes like a ticking time bomb and then everything will be worse. The second thing that can happen is that he or she changes because he/she truly found peace of mind and satisfaction in doing so. Remember that nobody truly changes his way of being by obligation but by conviction. Except for pathological cases, which is another topic I will not touch on. The changes in our way of being, of acting, of relating to others comes from within. We must feel the renewal from our mind and heart to make sure that we have changed for the better. No change made with manipulation, pressure or obligation will be for good or forever. Let's find the best way to live to be at peace first with ourselves and then to be in accord with the rest of the world, with neighbors, friends, partners and children. Always remember this, if you want to change the behavior of someone who bothers you first try to change from yourself and it will be easier to live. Because you will be happier without trying to modify others in their lifestyles but it will be easier for you to adapt to others and try to live in peace. May you have a happy life.
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We can only change those whom are willing to change. I have observed some loved ones don't always take advice. They always want to have and go their own way no matter what. If they fall on the chosen path, then they would learn the lessons. I think such individuals prefer to explore and experiment even though it leads them to an unpleasant encounter.
Absolutely spot on. I agree with you. You can't really change a person unless they want to change themselves. I believe that before you dive into a relationship with another person, you should have adapted or be comfortable with their personality, my going in expecting to change them to suit you
It will be successful when there are enough people who want change to change the world. However, in personal changes, a person can be ready for change as long as he questions himself voluntarily. Otherwise, no one has the power to change people, it is not possible to be successful anyway.
It's always good to change but we should always remember we should change for better because some people change as if they never know someone or as if they have never been in that place.
In my experience, some people choose a person they want to listen to. If He doesn't listen to you, he may listen to someone. She may not like the person giving her advice or she just doesn’t like that person at all.
Changing is the best for us better changes is a most. Having a good character and behavior is the best help that people can change the world. And we know attitude is very hard to change but we most think that being good can't harn ourselves.
It's better if we will change ourselves because that's what we want and that's where can find peace.
a sincere commitment based on the confession of a person's heart when he realizes that he has done something wrong not because of coercion from the other party because coercion only makes temporary changes not permanent. just a sincerity
It would be nice if a person changes because she or he has been awaken by the fact that there is something to change in him. Change should be done to better oneself and not to please others.
I want to make people happy & self confident. I'm working on it.
If we want to change the world. Then at first we need to change our attitude and behaviour. If we are good person then people will listen our word and they can try to change them like us.
it causes frustration though when we want to change the situation around us or the people around us and see no changes... it is indeed better to just focus on ourselves...
I don't want to change the people around me because freedom is the value I respect the most. I want everyone to be free to be who they are, and if I am bothered by their behavior, I withdraw and distance myself from them.
I wish our world would get fresh air instead of our world facing massive devastations
I can't change the people of the world. Because not everyone can think like me, everyone may have a different opinion. People should be allowed to do whatever they want. I think the world will change if everyone's work and opinions are given importance.
se necesita empatia, por las cosas que sucede para no hacerle daño a nadie y que podamos vivir en un mundo sin guerras.
Every change must start within ourselves and if we can adopt to a certain change then it's good.. but changing someone is a good one as long as the result is good or will not cause harm to people and to the world.
If i get chance then yes i like to give something to this world which will be unique. I am waiting for the right time.
It is always good to think and rethink things, to have everything in total clarity. The world will be so good or so bad according to each person's point of view, I think we should not generalize that everything is right or everything is wrong, maybe it could be better with one person's idea if sure, but maybe his other ideas are not right. In order not to dive into the deep end and go off topic.... It is good ourselves to accept our mistakes and want to change them, it is something extremely difficult, sometimes we do not realize that we make a mistake until someone does not say them, but perhaps we do not see it as something bad and we continue in that mistake, it will depend on us and the passage of time if we continue to make that mistake or change it. You are very right that instead of changing someone, change yourself first, we should put ourselves in the shoes of that person and try to know how he feels if we say negative things about him, sometimes we just try to help, but we can make things worse if we do not say it properly. Thank you very much for this wonderful article