@beyourself 2 March 2022

To use power correctly, to be strong. Power is relative. No matter how strong you are, you cannot be as successful as those who manage power. Having power alone is not enough. The important thing is to be strong to manage power. You have every opportunity, but you don't feel strong. You have enough strength to do anything, but you can't be strong.

Being strong comes from the person himself. A truly powerful person is a self-confident person even if he or she has no position, title or financial means. A strong person is a person who can start over with his own strength and get results, even if the conditions he is in deteriorate and he loses the opportunities he has. Being strong is a concept related to a person's self-education, development and maturation, that is, "being". Having power is a concept related to possession, that is, to acquire. Just as “being” and “being wealthy” are not the same thing, “being strong” and “having power” are different things. Having power depends on having a source (money, position, title…) other than one's own; Being strong depends on the reasons that originate from the person himself. There are people who are powerful even if they have no means. The strength of these people stems from their courage, industriousness, endurance and not giving up their struggle despite all kinds of difficulties. They derive their power from themselves, not from their money, their environment, their positions, their titles. No ownership makes a person truly powerful. No matter how much a person has, if he does not have a power that comes from within, what he has does not give him real power, and it is never enough; Those who feel powerless – no matter how many opportunities they have – always need to have more. As Erich Fromm said, "to have" is like the opposite of "to have". People who focus on being are not trying to gain power by getting things, having things.

For people whose qualities are the true source of their power, power is not something that has to be sought out and "acquired". Strong people are people who are empowered by having the courage to deal with their own weaknesses and fears. Anthony Robbins says that what successful people have in common is that they overcome obstacles by discovering their inner strength. A person becomes stronger to the extent that he can overcome the obstacles he encounters. On the contrary, there are people who are born into a life with many privileges and live unsuccessful and unhappy lives because they cannot realize the power within themselves, while all kinds of resources are at their disposal to succeed. In fact, these people do not need the help of anyone other than themselves in order to be successful. Success depends on discovering the true power within oneself. We all have a talent, a genius. This talent can be an artistic talent for painting or music, a talent for numbers or words, or a talent for establishing good relationships with people. When we discover our unique talent, that is, the feature that makes us who we are, and transfer it to life with enthusiasm, we gain incredible power. Whatever our age, title, rank, or resources, this perspective alone reveals the power to transform our own lives. Unfortunately, many people live a life without realizing that they actually have real power. He's wasting his life. Anthony Robbins says that people who get their strength from within live a life in accordance with five principles: 1-Emotional Dominance: What matters is how we interpret it and how we respond to events, rather than what happens to us. We do not take control of our emotions. We must ensure that our emotions do not sabotage us, but form as we wish. If we can control our emotions, we can have a positive outlook on life and build good relationships. 2-Physical Domination: We must take our physical and mental health under control. Most people continue to live by harming their own body, regardless of what they eat or how much sleep they sleep. However, having a healthy body and a healthy spirit is the first duty of all of us in life. We must do our best to keep our body and psychology healthy. In order to attain an energy that reflects vitality to the environment, we must take care of our own health. 3. Financial Domination: We cannot become stronger by focusing only on making more money. Being strong is a matter of how a person evaluates his material resources in a balanced way for himself, his relatives and other people. We all have to control our budget and be careful not to go beyond our means. 4. Relationship Domination: We must establish good and positive (quality) relationships first with ourselves and then with others. We must love ourselves and value ourselves. We must constructively develop our relationships with our spouse, friends, family, and colleagues. In no way should we harbor grudges and hatred within us. We must establish sincere, meaningful and constructive relationships with people. 5-Time Domination: The only scarce resource in the world is time. While it is possible to regain all resources, it is not possible to replace the time that has passed. Instead of watching the limited time given to us go by, we should learn to control time and use time efficiently. We should make an effort to use the "time wasters" such as television, computer games and social media that make us all inefficient. It is not possible to be strong without putting these five principles into practice. But just by doing these things, a person cannot be strong. In order to be strong, a person must not only follow these five principles, but also discover his talent and struggle to build a life on it. Despite all the obstacles he will face, he must continue to fight. Life is not a straight road for anyone. Everyone's life is full of many difficulties and troubles. Strong people are people who know their weaknesses but can build their lives on their strengths. The resource of the strong man never runs out. A person who is determined to do his best, no matter what challenge or obstacle he encounters, has no fear of life.