Change in Memory and thinking ability
The response and reaction to bad and good activities are different. We don't limit them to their age factor or their health issues. We mostly react faster than we should. In most of the cases memory and thinking power change according to age and its health issues.
www.health.harvard.edu is the link where I got the subject matter so clear and concise.It writes;
As scientist see the brain as continuously changing and developing across the entire life span. There is no period in life when the brain and its functions just hold steady.Some cognitive functions become weaker with age, while others actually improve.
Age is also the biggest risk factor for many brain diseases,most of which affect brain structure and functions. Alzheimer's and other forms of dementia cause abnormal proteins which damage brain tissue.
Regarding health issues, other common diseases in older adults, such as diabetes and heart diseases can also compromise cognitive functions .
Some other factors like medication , poor vision and hearing, sleep deprivation and depression also can interfere with brain function and thus cognitive ability.
As a result of these changes, you will likely start to notice slight slips in your memory in middle age and beyond.This is why the name of an old friend might be right on the tip of your tongue but you cannot think of precisely the word you are looking for.
Whereas medicalnewstoday.com writes;
Brain aging is inevitable to some extent,but it is not uniform; it affects everyone or every brain differently.Throughout a life time, the brain changes more than any other part of the body.
3 Common memory changes that are associated with normal aging include:
Difficulty learning something new.
Multi-tasking become more difficult.
Re-calling names and numbers becomes difficult at age 20.
As we know things are different with each other. They vary according to many factors which we even cannot imagine . So, let's be sure to know about the factor that effects in to it.
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Sapna Roka Magar
She was selected as the 100 most influential women of 2020 by BBC.
She belongs to Nepal. It is a sovereign country of South Asia. Nepal is one of the least developed nations of the world. Being a landlocked country, it lies between India to the east, south and west and the Tibet Autonomous region of China to the north. The economy has been heavily dependent on imports of basic materials and on foreign market since beginning. Nepal has also the earth's highest mountain 'The Everest' which is 8848. 86m high.
Here lives not only the highest mountain on the earth but also poor and homeless. Luckily Here lives the hero Sapana Roka Magar for them after death.Most of the homeless people get death on streets.
But the government lack most of their attention from them. The country has its own good reasons. The country is even more lacking for basic fundamental things.
Sapana Roka Magar, 18 by her age. She became homeless at the age of 14.
In the streets she became familiar with homeless management and rehabilitation center, an NGO for the first time. From the same NGO she works in uplifting social activities and also she operates cremation work and for which she became famous. She has cremated more than 35 bodies till date. If the body remains unclaimed for more than 35 days, the cremation is performed.She not only cremates bodies but carries out the rituals according to Hindu rituals.
She only involves the abandoned and unclaimed dead bodies from the streets or mortuaries. Then she arranges for them to be taken to hospitals for postmortem examination. Than finally she does the cremation of the dead ones with rituals.
**She says" There are homeless, abandoned people across the world. People who die on the streets deserves proper last rites. I do this job not as a social service but for my own peace of mind".**
The BBC has included the most inspiring and influential women of 2020 and how they are making difference in the society and the world.
You should understand me before I speak because you are human.
Human beings are born with natural gift i.e. expression of feelings. Other living beings are also gifted but still not as human.
Dumb people are the most beautiful people in the world in my eyes. They know each others feelings. They express their feelings with tears, smile,dance and so on. As we know words have emotions. It carries care, hatred, anger, happiness,doubt and many more. But dumb people don't speak words,they only express.so, they never hurt others feelings.
If the world was only about feelings then it was much better. But world has become more advanced. People are so busy that they don't even see faces when they talk to each other. They don't bother themselves to help others. I want to share my travel story with you.
Once I was traveling in a bus, the bus stopped at one station for long. We were waiting to go. But suddenly a woman cried . I took my head out of the window and saw a poor,dirty and dumb woman carrying a plastic bag and crying. May be she was in her forties. She was requesting a bus conductor to let her go in a bus. She was even showing 50 rupees from her pocket. She was not requesting but begging more. She was showing the route of her house 🏠 but no-one could understand her language. I felt so pity on her. My heart just broke down 💔. Her expression was like, please don't leave me,this can be my last bus,where am I going to stay ? What am I going to eat,etc. She was crying like as if her mother left her. I requested the conductor to leave him wherever she wants. But he denied and said "we can't take the risk. How can we be sure that she is going to the right direction? She might be trying to go opposite direction". If you know her, I can take her". Finally a traffic police came and took her. What was done to her, I kept thinking.
Here I just felt lack of her identity. Government should be responsible to it. By giving her an identity card. So it becomes easy to identify her address by anyone and anywhere. The identity card must be compulsory for them who is unable to write their names and address. Illitrate people must be focused more.
Love is something that is felt with intuition. We don't need to be reasonable to love someone one. It just happens. Don't you like, response,love or hate to people of other countries if you don't understand their language? I guess not.
Intuition is such a gift that every living things have their own. A mother monkey,bird or tiger knows when to feed her baby , grow up, protect her and teach her babies.
But, we are HUMAN. We got more powerful brains. Most often intuition guides us.But have are not focusing into it. We need to realize it soon. As a result Humanity is lacking in our society and in our world. To save this world,we need to talk together, understand each other and fight every tiny problems together. Let's be intuitive so that every deaf and dumb can understand us. Let's make them feel normal. Don't make them feel leftover. They worth an equal love, opportunity and right to live on this earth.
Thank you readers 😍
What if my heart 💓 breaks
Nothing is more painful than a breaking of your heart.
People are always looking for happiness,fun, love, good luck, success and positive things to happen. They try their best to make it happen. They mostly expect more to happen these sorts of things. From tiny little things to great things they want every thing to happen best.
I'm also the one who have more expectations than action. I'm diverted from my own career. I'm a typical house wife nowadays. I'm of course happy to take care of my loving ones. But still I am not happy with my heart. I don't know but I feel that I am in search of my professional identity. I always dreamt of leading my career to the top. But my heart breaks every single minute.
My mind,my heart and soul keeps wandering here and there. I couldn't even rest my self because of this phobia. I keep working from morning 5 am to 8 pm and still busy at night till my eyes get tired writing. I live in a village. I cook, I do carpentry, I sew, I write, I teach, I am a good farmer and yes, I do have lots of chicken in my farm. AlsoI have collected indoor plants for my home too. I love them so much.
Some times my heart breaks down with no sound
Every one feels low sometimes. Similarly I feel so. Beause of maturity I guess I don't break down easily and I don't love to speak from my heart. I know that if I speak and work from my heart ,one day I will break down. So I have taken every thing normally nowadays. I just show up my silly face 24/7 to others with smile on it. One thing I can't hide is my expression.
This week my neighborhood aunt passed away in hospital. She got enough money but still she was dead lacking oxygen. I went to her funeral. I saw her with bright cold face, closed eyes and full of decoration in her face,dead body with golds. She did all of hard work till the age of 73 and she finally went to heaven. During the time of burying , she was made naked,her jewellery and accessories were all returned back to her family. I can say she was the most hard working lady of our place. She owned every thing from her hard work. But at last she was buried naked. She couldn't take even a ring 💍 for her finger. I cried,my tears were not stopping remembering her past. My heart broke down and rose with new resolution.
What ever others say is not important, every thing you earn is not valuable, what ever you cherish matters most, money can't save your life every time.
So, when ever I feel a silent heart break, I get up make my self busy, start to cherish my small moments and try to do remarkable works around which makes me happy. I know 'happiness' has no class and boundaries. The expression is same and it's amount. People find in their own class. So happiness is everywhere. You just need to find it. Truly Happiness is something you should find in any thing. It is the most positive popular thing in our world.
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Happy hormones
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Are you happy? what makes you happy?Do you need perfect reason to be happy?
Happiness is something important that makes you alive, gives you the perfect reason to live long. But life has become so complicated and expensive that people is wandering along the path of earning happiness with money.
Now world has gone to materialistic need more . More often from children to adults they're finding happiness in it. For example: If I gift my friend an expensive watch in her birthday. She feels that she has so much value in my life. love and affection is seen in materials nowadays. Most of the families are tend to be rich likely all over the world.
Economy was better before this pandemic attack of Corona virus. During this pandemic time people started spending time with their families. Although poor people were suffered daily for not earning bread for their families. It's the most saddened moment for us. For poverty stricken people, food and shelter is most happiest and prior responsibility for them. They become happy when they feed their children at least once in a day.
Meaning of happiness depends on you. At what kind of things you find happiness?Or are you fine with your simple life?Some people are so thankful towards the grace of god. They are so happy even they don't have anything .
Poor rickshaw driver in the world of happiness
6 years back, I met a poor man who was driving a paddle rickshaw with his bare feet. As I saw his bare feet I asked him"hello sir how much do you earn a day? ". He said" it depends how much you get the client in a day?. Nowadays safari is replacing us. We have no much job and no money." How many children do you have? I again asked. He said"4." Again I bothered, do you send your children to school? He smiled happily and said yes, I do send my youngest son." it's difficult to feed my family twice a day. So I send only my son to school, 2 daughters stay home,one is already married. I wasn't shocked because most of the poverty stricken people cases are similar. They think that son is their happiness because in future,he will look after them. They celebrate when they give birth to a baby boy. So, culture, societies, Norms and values makes much difference in happiness in few of the countries.
Monks and nuns happiness
What is happiness for monk and nun? They smile all the time. Can we say smile and laughter make a person happy? For normal person it can be. But for monks are they really happy? The smile they show might be the compassion, positive feelings, welcoming, greetings or maybe in reunion of friends and family. They are the person who balance both sides of the coin: positive(love, satisfaction,progress,pride...etc), negative (hate, jealousy,greed,anger..
Etc). They are guided by a set of rules through out their life. They have nothing more than their religion and spirituality. They are responsible for the guidance and dissemination of their religion and it's principles. They are most happy people because they don't carry problems,they don't give problems and get into problems. Most of the people have abandoned their lives to get such external peace and happiness.
GNH (gross national happiness) is a measure of economic and moral progress in Bhutan introduced in 1970's instead of Gross development product(GDP)
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Wanted to write more but I guess this much is not time consuming for busy readers.
"Give your soul more time ,relax. Life is not so much complicated as you think. Active your HAPPY HORMONES, you will be benefited. Trust me.
Put on your wings and fly free
I'm so happy that I'm also living in this generation. Few years back in my childhood I was not happy as I was now. Those times were the hardest time I can admit. There were no electricity,no mobile,no internet access easily, no traveling destination except picnic in winter. We would not do anything with out the permission of parents and teachers. We were in between right and wrong. Whatever we were taught was the limit to think and imagine. We couldn't think more, talk more and ask more. We were like tamed domestic animals. Let's say we were sure orthodox unless we were the child of educated people. I can say I couldn't follow my dreams to be a karate player being a girl.
Today's world has changed totally. Every thing is accessible from our mobile and internet. Half of our work is done by our mobile with internet access. People are so literate that children have become lucky to follow their hobbies and as a result people are more successful to their aims. People come up with equality between male and female. They compete with each other. They dream and the dream come true.
If you put on your wings (dream) then of course later or sooner you will reach there. If you swim you reach to the bank of river but if you don't try to swim then you will be at the same place or drowned. People who try little make difference than who don't. Put on your wings and fly free.
Thank you 💕
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Mensturation before my teenage
I got my mensturation at the age of 12. That was really devastating. It was a new thing that happened to me. No one even my mother didn't acknowledged me about it before.But it happened at the age of 12.
Suddenly I felt wet on my underwear. I checked it, oh gosh! I saw blood. I was so much worried that few of the questions came up in my mind regarding my health. I thought it was a serious disease that is happening in me. But whom do I tell that? My mother and father were in Singapore vacation. I was left with my elder sister who went to college function in the morning. Thank god nobody was home except me and my younger brother.
I thought the blood has stopped and I changed my underwear. Again I saw the same blood . I didn't feel pain first.Whole day I changed my underwear and at the end my all underwear finished 😂. And I started worrying more and more. I couldn't call my elder sister because we had had no access to mobile phones that time. I was so tired that I felt asleep with a cloth pad made by myself and tight trousers out side.
Suddenly after few hours, a door bell rang and I woke up with my fast heart beat. Oh my gosh! Who is it? Quickly I checked my tight trousers. Oh gosh, not only my trousers even my bed 🛌 was stinking with blood and had slightly pain. I changed my cloth quickly and hid my clothes under the bed. Oh! Here she is finally. I was in dilemma to tell her or not. As she walks inside the room. She shouted"Rose come inside, quickly". I went near her with 100% suspecting the same question. She said "what is this" pointing out the bed. Oh gosh! I hid my trousers and that pad cloth but forgot to takeout the bed cover 😜. I said every thing from the beginning. She said" so fast?" . I said what? She told me to calm down and listen to her. She said "it happens in a month for 4 to 5 days or even more for some. We get sanitary pad for this so don't worry dear,it happens to every female okay. Few more things are there to know,I will tell you when time comes. Most importantly one thing to remember stay away from boys,men okay dear.promise me". Then finally she gave me one of her sanitary pad.
After a week, mom dad returned from vacation. I didn't jump to hug my father. Even I didn't go near him. But my dad noticed it. He called me . I stood shy and stayed far from him. He came near me , and said" what happened to you my child? Why you behave so differently? I said" sister asked me to do so". He said "what?".He quickly asked everyone to come to talk at dining room. He asked my sister about it. Even she couldn't answer. She said that she wanted to talk with mother about it. Mother was unknown about it. But the day she knew that her younger daughter is going to bleed every months from now. She got shocked. She even could not open up with me like my sister.
So, the situation I faced and the way of thinking of my elder sister was only result of conservative ideology. Every parents should give their children about the primary education about mensuration, change in body, it's natural process, social taboos and many more before they learn from school. School is not only the place to learn. Some of the basic lessons are to be taught at home by mother first. Such as mensuration cycle and sex education too. So they start to care themselves more and becareful about it and also help their friends in need. If your children started talking about mensuration cycle and explain it to everyone with open mind about it's natural process, they will even break social taboos that are existing in poor conservative societies. So, let's start from today.
Thank you readers 😍
Underestimated house wives
The word 'house wife' is a very much familiar to everyone in the universe. Every house need one typical housewife for household chores. Actually people don't mark them important but they do. Yes, they (house wives) really mark others important. So, lets start from the beginning.
Q 1.**How does one woman turns to a typical housewife?**
After a married life, most of our culture and tradition allows you to stay with your husband separately or with his family. A lady with her new groom accepts the new life and new journey with unconditional love and affection. She with her bright face, starts her morning in the kitchen from the very first day. Then she starts doing all the house chores to make her family happy. She continues it.
Her new family starts feeling more comfortable and leisure after her presence at the home. They start leaving their daily duties one by one. Still she is there to handle like a superman. Every member keep progressing with time. But the wife keep doing the dishes and maintaining friends and family. Slowly this becomes the habit and she starts thinking that she is the backbone of the family and keeps helping every member of the family. She starts feeling happy serving the family.
After she gives birth to her children, she starts sacrificing more and more. One day in future, they make their own world. If they realize her sacrifice, then she is loved but if they don't, then her sacrifices are worthless. In this world most of the family cases happens for thinking their parents worthless. They abandoned their parents after they build up their own family and finance. How mean is that?
Q.2 **Don't you think saving money is earning money in other ways?**
Mostly people in a society think that earning money means working in office, working with appointment letters or say working for some money in daily basis or hour basis. After a person earn he/she should learn of saving and investment to increase the value of money. If he/she earns and spends more than his/her pay then it is obvious, he/she is ruining their life.
So, housewives are those who saves from kitchen to your pocket money. She makes limitations to every thing at home. Most of the people don't understand that how housewives saves money. They are the people who don't stay at the kitchen, laundry, and don't pay electric bills but runs his house just with financial support.
Saving water, turning off lights after use, making healthy food get rid of being sick and spending in hospital bills, breakfast, lunch and dinner at home saves your money, taking care of your children for free is totally a good saving and many more.
If she is saving in those ways, she is earning it. Don't make her feel guilty for not going outdoor and earning money. She is a smart typical house wife.
Q.3.**Do you think a typical house wife should compulsory make carrier out of her house?**
I don't think so if it is not necessary. If she is already financially strong. She can just become a typical house wife with her own choice. But if she doesn't want to become typical house wife and want to work professional way then that is also okay.
But today im talking only about typical housewives. So, i don't think she should work outdoor in a pressure of her husband or society. People who think that being a post graduated, it's necessary to work for organizations than that's just a conservative way of thinking. Rather they should change their way of thinking. They should know that to be a typical housewife means she is celebrating the power of women. She can change all of her family lives from bad to good, fail to success, negative to positive thought, poor to rich and from hell to heaven. She does all this revolution from her own home. She changes her own home, then society then world.
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A Problem can be the solution
What if a problem is seen as the solution?
A positive attitude towards problems can be the best thing that can happen in your every day life.
Human behaviour is controlled by their health, psychology, culture,mood swings, experience and many others. So, we can't say that people come up with different problems in their life time. Some weak people go to death bed and some positive attitude comes to succeed the problems. Positive people come up with new life ,new thought, new resolution that can change not only their life but others too.
A bad experience , problems search for lots of ways to find solutions which puts you into lots of problems again,experience new things,teaches you to come out off. This is why an experienced people are more wise and gentle to problems.
A problem leads to the solution for further future problems. A problem is never a problem but a good experience. That never gets waste in future too. Good things happen only after bad things happen to us. We can say bad is a problem and good is a solution. But this bad is good.
Do you think every bad situation teaches you a lesson?
No,not at all. Suppose I want to take a good example. If a girl is raped in her house by her own dad. What lesson can a girl learn? All negative and horrible thoughts drives her. Such bad happening ruin her life. But in other ways. If we want for solution for this problem. We can say, this father is a criminal. He may have not raped only to his daughter but many others. So he is prisioned for his bad deed.
So, problems make you suffer a lot some times it leads you to death bed. But life should be handled with positive attitude. Every good and bad happens on the earth. We cannot stop it sometimes. If it happened we obviously search for solutions and come out with new resolution.
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Difference in want and need
What is the difference between need and want?
I guess every one knows at least little about it. If you really is in confused I can give you an example. I have a child of 6 years. She likes to play with toys and barbie.she wants to get new Barbie and toys every week. I give her whatever she wanted. But,the important thing is that she is really week in her classroom. she is really in need of good guidance for her mental growth.
Here we can see, want is not that much important than need.
Nowadays people focus more on wants than in need. There is no limits to their wants behaviour.which caused lots of problems in the world.for example global warming, viruses, crime and extinctions.
Today's world has become more easy with access to machines. They have become more lazier than before. They are living with tasty foods than healthy. They prefer branded than to preserve the natural products. They want more than they actually need as a result crime happens, viruses exist and global warming is the main result that has happened to our world.
In ancient times people lived with nature and worshipped it. They are all what nature produced. Even the fire 🔥 was created by rubbing stones. Nature was truly their God and even after death they were buried in the earth. All started with nature and ended up in nature. All they wanted was foods and shelter and all they need was again the food and shelter.
But we in this modern people we have created problems with the desire to get more and more. All they need is to fullfil their wants. Because lots of people are sufficient with everything they need so, they are now in the process of filling want.
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Wings of captive
Thamel/ 2020/12/03
Remmy was a girl who spent all her childhood in a conservative family. She was in the hand of her pervert cousin brother 12 years older than her. She was a poor girl who could do nothing but cry at the corner and act like nothing happened at all. But she always thought and dreamed of killing that cousin everyday in different techniques. And she feels so relief after that imagination every day.
One day her pervert cousin brought lots of her favourite chocolate. She was so happy seeing that. And she thought that her cousin will not act as before. But the day was more worst than past days. She didn't know his parents were going for dinner at their friends and returning day after tomorrow. So they were alone at the night. That was the reason she was made happy with 🍫 chocolates. He finally raped her whole night. She couldn't shout because of her cowardness like before.
Tomorrow morning Remma started murmuring herself. She was out of control. Finally she was mentally ill. Her uncle aunt arrived home. They saw the suitation. She was visited to doctor. Doctor told all about her physical and mental health. The pervert parents glanced at eachother.
Remma got admitted to hospital after her Report. Her unconscious mind dreamt of being free every night. She couldn't forget that pervert face in her night dreams. After the dream she would murmer," I will tell about this to uncle and aunt and give you punishment". Every day she would repeat the same line. She sometimes calls to police and report about her pervert brother. She suddenly feels happy in her dream and says" well done finally you are in prison,I'm free free forever free,I'm finally alive,happy and free,thank you police officer" and claps her hand unconsciously.
At the age of 42 she died saying the same line. She was free now mentally and physically.
Detox your mind
First of all, being a human it's not that easy to cope with all the problems around. Mostly people act intelligent to everything around which causes problems for everyone. We also havehad social taboos that drive us to creating lots of problems. We try so hard to solve all the problems at the same time that it creates another big problem to health. So, we can detox our mind in simple ways.
Prioritize yourself first because you are the only friend of yourself.
Never involve in other matters unless you feel your nose to dip into it.
Donot keep a guilt if you have less to give or you have nothing to give the needy. Promise yourself that one day you will definetly help when you have.
Leave your work load to your office, so that your family feels free to take your time. Don't make them feel bad about your work pressure. Most of the children and wife donot open up or express them selves because you comeup with your tired face and busy phone schedule.
Listen to others too, look for News,and see how the world and the people are going through. You will find yourself lucky for many reasons.
Make a holiday trip, give a space to your soul, body and mind.
Also organize a small party for families and friends if you feel lonely and like to meet them. Or you can visit them as you like.
If people talk nonsense about you than don't panic and fill your self with anger and ego. Rather you can do is :
1. Look yourself if really something is going wrong with the process. And make sure you are not out of track.
Finally if you are not out of track than take a long breath and feel free that your progressing speed is faster than they thought of.
Always select positive around.
No problem is that big as you think.if not solved by you by any means, don't underestimate other human in the world because they can be capable of what you don't have.
Take your parents advice, talk with your friends if you have problems and confusion in decision making. And also to other reliable person if necessary.
No solution is without challenges.you should face challenges to make one decision.
To empower yourself an your decison, you can colect information, think economically and socially, take the advice of experienced fellow.
Refresh yourself with a power nap.so you can work with your cool mind.
Feel free to make decision, forgive yourself for past mistakes and prepare to accept your consequences.
Show off your cool attitude to fellows that shows your strong personality.
Distract your mind with positive activities. Make your problems the smallest problems in the world to motivate your psychology.
To detox your mind is also finding positive vibes in worst condition.
Thankyou so much.
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