@ZoyaAnsari 19 December 2022

Steps for the avoidance of suffering and emotional ups and downs Sometimes, we remain sad. Brain pushes the same thoughts into our heads and we continuously think about it but we don't want to. We are hopeless in this and we can't do anything about that. We can only suppress our thoughts, but it's difficult. You don't need to start something that you can't finish. There is a limit to everything. We should hold things before things hold us. We should take action at the appropriate time so we don't have to suffer anymore. Don't hype your feelings and suffering. They will turn into a volcano. Discuss them and find an appropriate solution for them. We are human and we don't avoid or run from suffering, but we can minimize the suffering, we can minimize our negative behavior slowly and steadily. There are a few steps I am going to discuss. The first thing you should do to the avoidance of your suffering is set your mind and tune your heart. Once you set your mind with much effort, then don't look back. Once you give 100 percent to something, don't live in false hopes, and don't live in unexpected scenarios. Accept it and set your mind. Sometimes, the heart is not ready to let go of things. Sometimes the heart is not ready to accept what we have lost. Tuning with the heart is very difficult, but once you have done it after a heartbreak, your suffering will be minimum. The second thing you should do to avoid suffering is to heal yourself in the same place that breaks you. Once you accept, healing ultimately is waiting for you. Don't hate the place or thing into which you broke. Just heal yourself and leave things to Allah. He is seeing and knows everything that is in your heart. Believe in yourself and Him. The third thing you should do is minimize the effects of suffering. Don't give them more chances, don't give them more trust and attention. Ignore them and let them go. Letting them go is not easy, but work on your weak points and don't wait anymore. Don't waste your time. Don't run in the same direction again and again. Life is not easy, learn from it and don't stick on the same page of life. Stuckness is not easy. It sucks everything from you. The fourth thing is, you must move on with the new way of life. Make a different plan, make a different strategy for moving forward in a different direction, and continuously pray for yourself. Don’t lose hope. Don't be disappointed by Allah. Allah is listening but sometimes the reply is late. Emotional ups and downs Sometimes, we will be at zero point after setting our minds and tuning with heart. Sadness hit as we have done nothing for ourselves. Thoughts, our behavior, will be like we are at the same stage where we started, and our input seems to be lost because we are at a low level again. At this stage, I suggest you feel the pain and pass every thought that comes into your mind. Pass everything and discuss it again, then you find clarity about it. This phase is very difficult, extremely difficult. You have to go through the pain and let it go because there is nothing you can do with it. Letting go is better than holding on with false hopes. False hopes will kill you. Don't survive in this. Don't burn the life within yourself. Life is not going to run in the same direction. When you change direction, change yourself too, because when the heart lies in the same place, the mind will not cooperate. Changing direction is important, very important but changing yourself mentally is more important. There is nothing free in this life. You have to struggle for everything. You have to struggle for yourself. You have to set your mind and bin the unnecessary thoughts. That's will provide you peace of heart and mind and slowly you learn how to deal with them. That's the pattern of life in which you live. You must deal with the things right at the initial stage, so your heart can easily accept them and the level of suffering will be minimum.