@Yen 18 February 2021 more from that month

Always choose to be kind. One of the happiest moments in life is the marriage but this journey is not always in favor of you always. There are times that you feel angry to your husband because of mood swings or you are just not in the mood to argue some matters for reason that you both feel annoyed to each other. When you feel annoyed to your partner, it was easy for you to throw painful words or even ignore them just like you didn't see them or feel them that they didn't exist. However , I want you to know that during those times of fighting and misunderstanding, it's is also the most important time to show love and kindness to your partner. Being kind to one another makes the relationship more stronger day by day. It is not easy to do it but here's the reason why we should show kindness to our partner. *1. Can keep you together.* There's a lot of proofs the showing kindness to your partner makes the relationship well binded. According to some research , Kindness is the most important predictor of satisfaction and stability in marriage. Kindness is one of the act that makes each person in that relationship feel loved and cared. There's one study that conducted by Drs. John and Julie Gottman. There study is entitled what makes the relationship work and they found out that couple who showed kindness even if the situation is not good is the one who stay together. Kindness doesn't mean that you need to perfect or be calm always. All of us feel anger but the kindness in our heart tell us to show your anger in a way that it will not ruin the relationship. You can talk about it , you can tell him why your are not okay or tell your partner whats the reason why your angry. ***2. Can build trust.*** Theres a survey conducted by 400,000 single person and the number one characteristic that they want for their future partner is being kind. They choose being kind over the wealth , looks and other qualities because is also a way to make your partner more secured. Aimee Hartstein, a relationship therapist says that seeing you partner showing kindness to other people make you feel more secure and feels like they are trustworthy. This statement is not meant that you will be a perfect couple like you don't have fights and argument. What I want to say is that you can put your trust in your partner because you know that they can are kind and they can't do things that are too bad. 3. *Help you to get your needs met.* Kindness is also being mindful and being considerate to your partner. When you are kind , you always thought about the welfare of your partner and you always provide it. Being a good provider is one way of having a deep relationship with your partner and also an inspiration to be always mindful too. It's like give and take. All in all , kindness is a way of showing to your partner that they really care and they are listening and being considerate. Even if you are angry you need to be kind and show your partner that that's the proper way of attitude towards argument.