@Winx1988 24 August 2021 edited more from that month

The Kilig /spark is passive?

Title:The spark has gone away The first I saw you, my face have blushed like an apple baby There was a drum set in my heart, that beats too fast I always cherished every moment with you day by day I can't even see that the day is over as long as it's you I can see The feeling of excitement to meeting you at the cafe , was like heavenly and angels lifted me They call me crazy because I stay late night for you baby But it's okay for my love is as stronger as the wave of the sea Until one day I find myself feels so empty I lose the spark of loving you from the first day I almost blame myself and feeling guilty But one say I found out you need my care and my act of love tenderly Oh my love ,I'm so sorry because the spark of my love have fade away like End

Not just income or money is passive in life, but also the "kilig factor. It happens to every relationship, couple, partner, husband, and wife. I can remember the first touch of my hand and the first eye to eye is very remarkable. Although there is still love that exists the spark of the first day of being in love was slowly changed. This topic is not just for married but also for singles, I was just reminding, that the romantic experience can happen in a short span of a relationship, especially after the wedding every day may have different changes. That is why **love needs commitment and consistency.** **I**n the first few months of being together in a relationship that stage is just a **mystery where both are doing the best every step of the way so that they can please each other.** This is the time where their true self is remained unboxed, or unrevealed yet, maybe close to pretending just to make the other one feel delighted and the spark is soaring high that feels like heaven. Staying awake late at night saying, I love you, I need you, I will always be here for you, and many sweet words to say. These days can be very memorable and good to be stored in a storage box if ever. A few years later...

***They lose the current*** Like the sea has the current, which refers to the strength of the waves that it can throw away, especially during windy season. But what happens when the sea has no current to throw their waves, does it still looks like a sea or not. Maybe it looks different like a sad lake. *A relationship can lose its current as the years go by, an opposite with the words, sweeter as the years go by.* It happens to us when as we are no longer kiss goodbye, do not even sleep together at night, and talk very rudely to each other. It was a very tired moment of our life where we didn't even talk more often nor even water together every day. And my mind is full of blame and regrets. But one day, there's someone who sponsored us to travel together and have a date and attend a couple of seminars. That was the day that we have realized how big change happens to us, while we were dating we had a very sincere talk and forgive each other. It takes only one day, that we settle ourselves, very unexpectedly. Learn to refill When you have savings in your bank account and you have withdrawn your money every week for family usage, and you never check it out how is it going, one day, you'll be surprised you have nothing, you forget to deposit to recover your withdrawals. Just like love if we will not exert effort with our partner or spouse, like showing affection and care every time, saying I love you and other words of appreciation we cannot expect that love will last. A love without language cannot last, how can you say you love someone but you didn't spend time together or even showing affection or physical touch? **If we invest lesser we gain less but we invest more, we gain more too. But note, beware whom you invest too.** Before I've come to the point of having regrets why did I choose my man, love is not only to express but to act it. The spark of every relationship may temporary but it can also be permanent through time by consistently doing what you did to make your love feel in love. When someone loses the spark in love, it can be dangerous too. I have heard a story of a wife who feels that his husband is no longer affectionate with her and she tells her officemate about it which is a man, and that boy comforts her and taps her shoulders until one day it happens unplanned that they have already fallen in love each other. There is a tendency when a man couldn't meet her needs which is affection, she will seek it from another man. That's why we should always be aware of whom we talk to. Someone advise me, when a girl talks, you should talk to a girl, and with man issues, you should talk to a man to prevent yourself from failing your vows. That is the reality of every relationship, we can undergo pressure losing romantic experiences in a relationship. But if we truly love someone, we can give our best effort and act on it, to stay on point. On the other hand, some people didn't show affection because they are not used to it as they live or not being practiced while they are young. Unmet needs The fail to recognize that our spouse needs our affection should also be consider.If he/she can't find their needs in us, they will seek it to another person.This maybe unfair but it's real.We should have the discernment to our partners need in a relationship , not just with money but with showing love and affection. My message You maybe in love today and feel the spark/kilig , just enjoy the moment and nurture that feeling as much as possible consistency in affection is a need. A spouse may have changes in appearance in the long run,that's why s early as today we should deposit more love with each other by showing actions of love, one day will come when we encounter crisis in a relationship at least we can have more to withdraw in our own love saving bank within our heart. I am not doctor love but I just want to share my experience which gives me enlightenment and lessons of love.Ive seen with my parents that they are not affectionate anymore and most of the time they yell each other, and it makes me think, what if it happens to me in the future also.As much as possible , I've tried to express the warmth of my love.My husband is very sweet and that's what I thank about him. Thanks to God that I've finished to write this one, thanks to these amazing people who supports me , it really encourages me each day. A very big thank you to my sponsors here,it's a privilege to see your names in my sponsors box. https://unsplash.com/photos/hBzrr6m6-pc