@Winx1988 13 July 2021 more from that month

When is it okay not to be okay And when is it not okay not to be okay

This one of the most difficult questions during the Binibining Pilipinas pageant which is given by the "King of talk, Mr.Boy Abunda". These words are often used as a quote online, and often read in noise. cash also. But the difference here was to ask both opposite situations of being okay and not to be okay. And if you see the video online, the candidate has a hard time answering these questions. Okay,I will let my brain to be shaken this question,let's do this;(this is just a try, hehe) **1st question -" WHEN IS IT OKAY NOT not TO BE OKAY"** **It's okay not to be okay** when someone died in the family, just like what the contestant of the Binibining Pilipinas has said, it's okay to cry when it hurts. Most of the time, when someone asks, "Are you okay?", We can answer " No I'm not".But in my experience I do pretend to be okay sometimes even if I'm not, just to show that I'm not affected and hurt. It's okay not to be okay when someone is trampling our rights as a human. There are some situations in **which** we are abused by not respecting our rights, especially with a woman who was being hurt by her husband. Its okay to be not okay with this matter. It's not okay when someone steps your feet, the person say "Are you okay?", We can answer,"No I'm not okay. " To let him know to be careful next time.Have you experienced that? It's okay not to be okay when you have a hard time and ask for help. Sometimes if we say(especially girls), "I'm okay, that means we're not".Like saying ,I'm not hungry but in fact so hungry.I don't know why, but it sometimes interpreted as (pakipot).Especially with women, it's sometimes a pretending style and self-denial to say "I'm okay but deep inside your crying. Covering our feelings and emotions by saying okay is not helpful especially when if it will kill our happiness and courage of moving on. It's okay to say " I'm not okay". **It's okay sometimes to accept that we fail** By the time we fail, it can be a motivation to become a better person afterward. Life doesn't end with one mistake and failure. Disappointment is a good learning process, like the wind blows the flowers it will bow but it will stand and continue to bloom. It's not bad to say that we all have weaknesses and acknowledge our flaws in life. Be courageous to recognize our differences and the slow points of our humanity. Well at the end of the day all of these are ingredients of a recipe of life prepared for us. 2.WHEN **IS it NOT OKAY NOT TO BE OKAY** It's not okay not to be okay when you already in a relationship but still wanting for another man or woman. It's not okay not to be okay when you already receive forgiveness but you didn't give it back. It's not okay not to be okay when you already; Find your love Sometimes there is a tendency that we always feel discontented even if we have someone with us. To give value to the one who is with us is very important. We just to see the things which we have and find that it's worthy enough that we should pay attention to it. Some people lack everything, like home, money, job, and family but if we already have this today, it's not okay not to be okay. Wanting for more would just harm us and make us fall apart from what is the called right path. It's just like a form of being greedy and selfish of saying I'm not okay when we are already okay with our situation. The remedy for this is contentment and being true and with ourselves. We have our race to run in this life and knowing that it's not okay if we interfere with another's life or even control others the way we want them to be. **We should be okay** if we have food on the table each day even if our mon prepares it repeatedly, there are a lot of people who don't have food today. **We should be okay when** we have clothes to wear, if it's hard for us to follow the trends it's okay, life doesn't revolve around it. After all, we are all born naked and we will leave naked also. Many things are considered to be enough with ourselves rather than looking at them as small ones. The people on earth have a hard times with this pandemic so we should not give pressure to anybodyy when we are able to deal things. **Just thinking** Haysst, this topic almost give me headache, lol.Thats why I didn't dream to be a on stage in my life.By the way, Mr.Abunda have receive a lot of feedbacks because of this question.If he is in front of me,I would like to ask him if what is his answer about this. **Closing thoughts** There are certain circumstances in life which we can feel inappropriate for us to happen .And personally , sometimes its hard to admit what we really feel deep inside, especially when it will cause us to be ashamed .Each of us know **when should be okay and not to be okay.We just need to be realistic and pay attention to what is right.** I'm gonna take a nap after making this, my head is tired of thinking,he hehe. Hope to read answers to these questions from other writers. 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