@Winx1988 9 August 2021 edited more from that month

Random questions for taken(My answers)

@Eybyoung has posted an article about this topic and she said why don't I try to answer these questions. These questions was the same with her post which I like to answer. So I decided to write about this since I'm already married for 13 years. It's not that long to say that I'm good at it but everything is just a learning experience every day. Okay, let's begin. ***What are some annoying habits of a married couple that irritates you?*** Most couple has this kind of irritating habit, which is a part of a relationship that somehow may teach a lesson for growth.*" When the couple gets to fight in front of their kids while the kids are crying because they couldn't understand what was going on".* I have experienced this when I was a kid when my parents had a fight in front of us which makes me scared and cry. I used to cover my ears with a pillow so that I won't be able to hear them yelling with each other. It can cause stress for the kids and it will also influence their life while growing up. ***Do you think valentines day is corny***? When I was in high school we used to makes a valentines card every February 14 as a celebration of valentines day. But when I was in a relationship with my husband we never celebrate this but it doesn't mean that it's corny for *me. My husband doesn't believe in this kind of celebration that's why he didn't want us to celebrate.It is in relation to our religious belief.* ***What is the best relationship advice someone has ever given you?*** One lesson that I've learned and I find it as good advice for me as a married couple is"R*espect your husband* ", This advice teaches me a lesson to respect my husband, I realized and just like what other husband has shared that wife should respect her husband, with their opinion, decision and as a man who serves as the head of the family. Once we respect them most, the more they will love us, but once we disrespect our husband their loved will soon be cold unto us, like yelling at them in public. **Are you friends with any of your exes?** *No, I don't have any exes*. Haha, I'm a late bloomer lady who fell in love for the first time and get married. My father was very strict, she gave me one rule when I was studying," No boyfriend, until you finished", and yes after I finish my school I get married with my classmate in a Out of School youth training Center.Im too obedient daughter, hehe.There is someone who courted me when I was in high school and I know I've make his heart broken, until now I always think how is he after I disappoint him. **Do you think I can be both your best friend and lover?** *Yes,I'm in both right now,* My husband is my best friend and my lover, I'm not close anymore with my friends in high school and my childhood friends since I get married, maybe because I don't have enough time to be with them especially during our alumni,I always have a lot of reasons of not attending with it.I lost contact with them, and sometimes I feel shy of reaching out . ***Would you rather be proposed to in private or in front of your family and friends?*** I think I will prefer in "*private*", because I find it very intimate and personal with the both of us only.My husband has proposed me through a letter and it's a very silent proposal a few years ago.Its just fine with friends and family also. *Would you rather be known for your intelligence or your good looks?* Oh,I think it's the hardest question ,it's like choosing beauty and brain, can I have both?hehe But as for me, in real life , people knows me more with my intelligence, hehe not to brag about this because most of our family got the first rank in our school.And sometimes it will give me too much pressure because people were expecting me to excel. ***What would you define as cheating?*** This one is a very recent experience with my friend, that her husband is always watching sexy videos online which gave her insecurity because her husband like to watch sexy ladies wearing sexy wardrobes.They have argued about it because she feels that she's not enough anymore for her husband.And for me,it's cheating if a man will look to other girls with a different motive it's somehow and insult to her wife.I don't think if we have the same view about this, but nowadays not all men but there are some men who have this kind of habit or both.I don't know if you agree with me with this, and also chatting to other girls is very tempting.Sorry boys, its just an experience that I've shared . ***Do you think that past relationships*** ***should always be keep hidden ?*** In my side, I don't have any past relationship as I have mentioned above that my husband is my first boyfriend, but my husband has a lot of girlfriends before we met and he didn't tell me anything about it because he said there's no need that I should know so that I won't feel anything about it. Which makes me feel good, I don't even recognize or see the faces of her past exes, and I'm just peaceful about it so that I won't be able to compare myself with them. hehe. **Conclusion**

Finally, the questions are over, thanks for this, it helps to cultivate my mind. Seriously being in a relationship like marriage takes a lot of patience and understanding every day. There are no perfect relationships at all but if both spouses were working together and help each other to grow relationships will grow stronger and we can lessen the broken homes. There are no perfect guidelines to have a successful marriage but one thing is for sure for me, when both spouses have the relationship with God first they will surely be lasting. Make God a mediator, so that love grows even more. Thanks for these random questions. I'm out now. God bless you. https://unsplash.com/photos/qwEMgh5cnnQlead image source