@Winx1988 25 January 2021 edited more from that month

Parenting by Modelling

80% of parenting is modeling, for me, it was a new idea which I've learned from a Pastor who has shared his thought about it. So I've made some queries with other parents to establish this article. For me, it is a tough one, in the sense that being a parent I see myself that I have a lot of behavior that affects my children's behavior. Parenting has different styles, but for me, this is the most effective one. As parents sometimes we didn't have to pay attention to how we do, what we say, how do we react which, every bit of our emotions, actions, was being copied by our kids. We are the number one that they've to look upon every day, whether we are aware or not. There are a lot of taken values that are being absorbed by our children. a. Language

How do we talk at home, or with other people? Do we say something bad about our neighbors? Or do we say bad words when they can hear us? This is the first thing that we can influence our children. If we are polite with other people, they will notice it. Do we talk so loud, or oftentimes we yell? Good words will also give a good impact on our children. And I have observed my way of talking was being copied by my daughter. And when I heard it I just laughed because I know that I was just like her. b. Attitudes

Children look upon their parents and even if we are not intentionally doing it, we are surprised when there is a time which they demonstrate something bad attitude toward us. Most parents would say to their children, "Is that what you learn from school, or is that what your teacher teaches you." The teachers will be blamed. But 80 % of their attitudes were learned from home. If we show kindness to other people, no doubt children will be the ones too. Are we hot-tempered, easily angry, they too will be influenced by us? c.Manners

How are your children's table manners? What did you do when you eat? Yes, as simple as that they are being influenced. There is an old subject in elementary days, "Good manners and right conduct, (GMRC). Showing respect to the elderly, and treating them properly. A good manner of our children is a very important part of their life so that they were socializing with the people around them and they will have more friends. d. Other behavior

There are different types of behavior of a person, some are positive and the other is negative. Positive behaviors, show concern for other people, knows how to care, show compassion for the needy, consider or not a critical person, and treating other people with equality. The kids are the greatest observer of their parents. Just a habit of saying, " Thank you", would be a better one to start good modeling. What attitudes do we figure out? Is this a helpful one for the improvement of our child's growth? When there is a problem surprise that comes? How do we react.? How do we model our children in dealing with failure, mistakes? How do we handle our feelings? When we are angry? How do we express our feelings? LIFESTYLE Our lifestyle was being observed by our children. Do we smoke, drink alcohol? Or do we do something not promoting a good lifestyle like smoking? My father was not a smoker but my two brothers are not changing smokers. And because of that, my two brothers were not a smoker too. Even our bad lifestyle will take to our children. To top it all, as parents we are obliged to live in the right way or to show the model behavioral patterns for our kids. As parents, it is our unending responsibility to be a good example for them. " The power of influence has a great effect on our children. Love to share it with you. Set yourself as a good influence so that you will gain eternal productivity. Thank you.💚💚💚 *Photos are from Unsplash.*