Is There an Ideal Age to Married?
Marriage is one something many people would want to experience, we look forward to that big day when we get to tie the knot with the person we love so much and want to spend the rest of our lives with.
Before going into marriage, there are lot of factors one should consider as marriage ain't something you can just walk into without adequate preparation, for better for worse is the language.
In a typical African setting, time would come when the pressure to get married and settle down will begin to Dawn on you from your family and those around you.
For the men this happens mostly between the age of 28 to 40 within this range of age as a man it is expected of you to have settled down and started making plans of having your own family.
For ladies, between the ages of 25 to 30 that's when the pressure to find a good suitor begins, most people around you would begin to ask questions as to when you're getting married if you're within this age grade.
So this made me wonder if actually age should be the major determining factor for marriage.
Why has the society created such mindset among people? There are many other factors to put into consideration before harbouring the thought of getting married, and age should be the least of it.
People shouldn't be reminded of how they're getting old and need to get married. It's so wrong I think. What are your thoughts on this?
Change such mentality!
Quick question!
Why do some people have this impression that when someone refuses to help them when they ask then they think there's every tendency that things would turn good for them and bad for that person in future
Like you go to somone and you ask for help, the person tells you he or she doesn't have to help you out, you leave there and the next thought that comes to your mind is how you will make it big someday and take revenge back at that person.
So you think while you're hustling to reach where the person is he or she doesn't have other plans to move further? My friend God doesn't work that way, he's not that biased, he can't bless you and refuse to bless that person because he refused to help you.
The only reason he refused to help you is well known to him. Accept it in good faith without wishing for his downfall.
If you have such mentality please change without hesitation. Good morning.
Make Sure It's Genuine When You Say "I Love You"
"I Love You"
We get to make use of this sentence many times and as short and simple it may sound there's actually a lot meaning to that sentence, either telling someone you love them or they telling you they love you.
The sad thing here is that we often abuse these words, you tell someone "I love you" out of joke without actually meaning your words.
I believe love goes beyong words alone, if you do love someone then you should be able to show it in action, action they say speaks louder then words.
You love someone, all your action around them should show you actually do. There a countless number of ways you can show love to others.
A simple act of kindness such as helping someone In need no matter how little or small is a very big enough to show love.
Hence when you use the word I love you and it actually reflects in your actions, only then can it be called true love.
Will Everything be Alright?
*"Everything will be alright"*
I've heard this phrase many times, that reassuring sentence that makes you believe everything will certainly get better someday.
Everyone has problems, there is non who hasn't faced tough times and challenges. A lot of factors could contribute to why things might not be going fine with you presently.
At some point you just need someone to tell you that everything will be alright again even though you know quite well that isn't true.
Can it all be alright someday? I doubt that, when one thing gets better it's followed by some other challenges, hence why many persons live all their whole lifetime struggling to have a good life.
You might have all the riches and wealth in the world but certainly everything can't be alright, you try as much as you can not to get affected by your current situation, but when you look at what lies ahead, there is no much difference, everything seem messed up.
Life to me is more of a market where we all came to trade after which everyone finds their way home. Life is damn short, enjoy every moment of it as much as you can and appreciate those people who makes it a worth while. Life could hit you hard anytime so expect the worse.
What's a Perfect Relationship?
Many at times, i get to hear people say they're waiting for the perfect man or perfect woman before going into a relationship.
This makes me wonder, how should a perfect relationship be like?
I've asked some few friends this question and the answers I got are of different opinions.
Some one said; a perfect relationship is one which both partners love themselves wholeheartedly and place nothing above their love.
Another person said; there is no such thing as a perfect relationship, every relationship has it's own short comings, the most important thing is how the couples accept their flaws and manage it well together.
To me, either of them of could be right. In a relationship, the love you have for each should be considered more important than anything else. Likewise accepting your partners flaws is also a part of that love.
In my opinion there could be a perfect relationship, but that would only depend on the partners and what they actually want. I've sent couples who have been married for over 50Yrs and they still live happily together.
I would love to hear your view on this topic.
What's your idea of a perfect relationship?
Flowers
Flowers for me are the most important aspect of nature, every other aspect is beautiful no doubt but just can't match with the beauty flowers portray.
Pick a car
Imagine you have to race on this road, with no speed limit of traffic rules. Which car are you picking?
What's a Dream Vacation for You?
Who doesn't love to go on vacations? I guess literally no one, I mean what else could be fun and interesting than goin on vacations?
Vacations could be in different forms, in the most easy term it means leaving your home and traveling to a different location to spend some nice and fun time with either family, friends or just you alone.
It could be going to the beach side, visiting the parks, camping in the woods, lodging in a classy hotel, mobiles homes etcetera.
It all depends on your choice and taste of how you would want your vacation to be like. Okay enough of the description.
A perfect vacation for me would mean travelling to an entirely different continent maybe Europe, Asia or South America.
And there's no way I'm going alone, vacation won't be fun without friends or any other person around, we get to visit some amazing places together, take pictures, have loads of fun, visit the beach, visit some amusement parks, go on a long road trip, try out some new delicacies, the list goes on and on.
Here is a list of few countries I would love to visit.
Australia, Iceland, Qatar, Trinidad and Tobago, Brazil, Canada, Morocco etc. There are so many of them but let me stop here hehehe..
So tell me, what's your idea of a dream vacation?
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You need People!
You believe you're fine all by yourself, so you don't need anyone.
But for how long do you think you can survive that?
I Know of some persons who would tell you they're fine all by themselves, they will tell you they don't want to be in relationship because it won't end well.
You wouldn't really blame, this could be cos of the experience they had in the past.
But the fact still remains that you can't be okay all by yourself
A time would come when you would need someone around you.
People you can talk to, people you can share your thoughts and feelings with.
People who can have a positive impact in your life.
Don't okay because you're not, they're so many persons out there find your kinds and keep them close.
Have a nice day.
Find Your Purpose
Hello beautiful people.
As you begin your day today, I want you to reflect on something.
What's your purpose on Earth?
Looking at it from a religious aspect I would say my purpose on Earth is to live and fulfill God's plans for my life, that's the most important right?, but could that be the only reason I'm living?
I've come to realize that everything we're chasing in life is just waste when we don't have a purpose for living.
Find a purpose for living today, don't just seek for a good life.
People should be able to remember you when you're no more.
That would happen only when you have a purpose for living.
Learn to Manage Your Emotions
One major thing you must learn is how to manage your emotions.
How you manage your emotions can make or break you down.
We face certain situations sometimes which requires that you react emotionally, at that point how good you're at managing your emotions would determine how you react.
How do you manage your emotions?
Always think of what lies ahead and not the present state you're in, the decisions you make now might have an impact in future, your emotions can influence your decision.
Get to know yourself better, know how temperamental you're and how to keep it in control.
Change your mood, engage in physical activities and recreational activities whenever you're lost in thought.
Learn to be patient, don't be in a haste to make decisions, don't let your emotions force you to make hasty decisions.
Be realistic with yourself, don't live based on assumptions, know your limits.
Give yourself some space to reflect on your emotions.
Try as much as possible yo avoid being stressed.
@Villez
