The Belief that Sex is Evil
This is a comeback for be, several months of absence— now for a week I'll be sharing with you guys the Ideals, thoughts and myths that encompasses the big word "SEX". I miss you all, my family.
A number of societies, including many in the Western civilization hold that sex--except reproductive sex between married persons--is evil. In such beliefs, individuals tend to follow the society around them, so to explain these beliefs, we have to ask why societies have adopted them.
Given the central role of sex plays in reproduction (and hence in societal survival), and given the intense feelings accompanying sex, sexual intercourse (whether or not it can lead to reproduction) is viewed as a special class of conduct, with its own moral rules and restrictions.
Human nature--and romantic love, in particular--has a tendency towards monogamy. This may cause sexual monogamy to be viewed as the best state. Moreover, human nature (for evolutionary reasons) has a tendency towards disapproval of sex between a marriage partner and a third person. This may cause the society to consider such relationships immoral.
Treating sex outside marriage as evil may help to channel sexual energy towards raising families.
The evolutionary tendency is to disapprove of extramarital sex by your spouse (especially if you are heterosexual male) but not yourself: Extramarital sex by your spouse may cause you or your spouse to spend resources to raise a child who does not have your DNA. However, with contraception and paternity testing, this reason is less valid today.
Sexual feelings are (in many cases) so exceptionally strong and pleasant that they impair the judgment and cause people to discount other moral considerations when seeking sex. Treating sex as immoral acts as a counterweight against the bias towards having sex. (Sex-related impairment of judgment may also be considered evil in itself.)
Because of the strength of sexual feelings, people continue to have sex in the face of social opposition. Such defiance can increase the harshness of the societal intolerance as the society tries to take stronger measures.
Because genitals are concealed in many cultures, and because genitals look different from the rest of the body, genitals may appear very ugly (as if they are abnormal) to many people. This causes a visceral aversion to most forms of sexual conduct, especially towards "unnatural" sex. Homosexual sex may be seen as contrary to the traditional gender norms.
Sex in an Ideal Society
Eventually, technological advances may make human biology irrelevant, but until then, sex as we know it will play an important role. Here is my vision of its role. The role represents both freedom and restraint.
On the one hand, sex is practiced openly, publicly, and casually. Sex is guilt-free. Most people are not shy about soliciting strangers for sex. Exchange of sex for money or favors is generally accepted. The right of everyone to have sex is respected both by law and private parties. Among other things, parents do not prevent children from having sex. A spouse does not get mad when the husband or wife has some casual extramarital sex. Sexual images are uncensored.
On the other hand, a majority are in (mostly) monogamous relationships. The family as we know it continues to be important. Sex is practiced in moderation, with people confident in declining it. The right to privacy and individual objections to sex and even (to a reasonable extent) sexual images are respected. Generally, no money is exchanged for sex--sex is generally enjoyable to both/all participants.
While humans will eventually transcend biological bodies, sex-like experiences will likely remain because of their emotional value. Future technology will overcome the limitations of wrong gender and of physical ugliness that currently prevent people from enjoying sex with each other.
Pretend like a kid, let's laugh abeg! 😹😹
Two little bears peeped out of their cave. Winter was over and they could smell the fresh spring air. It was time to get up and play after their long sleep.
“Let’s run under the trees,” said let's roll under grass,” said Bessie.
“We’d better ask mum,” said the bears together.
Ben and Bessie went into the cave where they had slept with their mum. There she was in the far corner. Mother bear was still fast asleep.
The two little bears tiptoed over to their mum and shook her gently.
“Wake up mum. The snow has melted and it is time to play,” said Ben.
Mother bear did not even move. She grunted and rolled over to carry on sleeping.
“What can we do?” asked Bessie. “We need our mother to wake up and take us into the forest to have some fun.”
The two little bears sat outside the cave and tried to think of a way to wake up their mum.
“I know, let’s get some tickly spiders and see if they will wake up our mother,” said Ben.
The two bears went to find some tickly spiders. Bessie was feeling a bit scared of the spiders but Ben collected them on a big leaf. He took them to where his mum was lying.
The spiders walked off the leaf and across mother bear’s back. Mother bear giggled in her sleep, but she did not wake up.
“I think we should ask a noisy cuckoo,” said Bessie.
The bears went out to the trees near the cave. Sitting in the tree was a cuckoo.
“Cuckoo, cuckoo, cuckoo,” sang the bird.
The two bears asked the cuckoo to follow them back to the cave and call out to their mom.
“Cuckoo, cuckoo, cuckoo,” sang the bird but mom just rolled over and carried on sleeping.
The two little bears did not know what to do. They had tried tickling, making a loud noise and calling out to mum.
“I know,” said Ben. “What about something she likes to eat?”
“Honey!” said the bears together.
Off they ran to a beehive. They talked politely to the bees and the bees gave them some honey. They ran back to the cave and tiptoed in to see if their mum would smell the honey.
Mum’s big brown bear nose began to twitch. Then her nose began to wiggle and she opened one eye. The baby bears took a few steps backwards.
Mother bear opened both her eyes and blinked. The baby bears took a few more steps back. Now they were up at the opening of the cave. Mother bear sat up and gave a big sniff.
“I smell honey,” she said.
Mother bear was awake at last. Ben and Bessie were so happy.
The little bears took a few more steps out of the cave and happily mother bear followed them. At last they had found the best way to wake up mum!
Three happy bears skipped into the forest to enjoy the spring and have fun together.
Getting the Right mindset for success
All of which is fine and good, but raises one essential question. If up to now you've tended to view your abilities through the prism of the fixed mindset, is there anything you can do to change?
1. Think of your mindset as a voice
How does a mindset manifest itself? It controls the ways you talk to yourself in the privacy of your own head. Recognizing this fact is the first step to achieving a growth mindset. "As you approach a challenge, that voice might say to you, 'Are you sure you can do it? Maybe you don't have the talent' or 'What if you fail-you'll be a failure,'" the post explains, adding that, "As you hit a setback, the voice might say, 'This would have been a snap if you really had talent.'"
Pay attention to your thoughts and see if you frequently tell yourself anything similar. If so, you've spotted the fixed mindset at work, undermining your potential for success.
2. Choose growth
Now that you know what you're up against, the next step, from my perspective is recognizing that you aren't stuck with the thoughts you currently have. "How you interpret challenges, setbacks, and criticism is your choice," the post points out. "You can interpret them in a fixed mindset as signs that your fixed talents or abilities are lacking. Or you can interpret them in a growth mindset as signs that you need to ramp up your strategies and effort, stretch yourself, and expand your abilities."
3. Talk back
When it comes to that limiting voice in your head, feel free to be as sassy as you like in response. Tell that voice exactly what's wrong with how it's framing situations, and actively reformulate your approach to challenges and setbacks to reflect a belief in personal growth. The post offers examples:
The fixed mindset says, "Are you sure you can do it? Maybe you don't have the talent."
The growth mindset answers, "I'm not sure I can do it now, but I think I can learn to with time and effort."
Fixed mindset: "What if you fail--you'll be a failure."
Growth mindset: "Most successful people had failures along the way." I had this feeling when I was a kid and yet still having it.
4. Act
Changing the script in your head is a huge step, meanwhile I think that the whole point of doing so is to change not just your thoughts, but your actions as well. Don't content yourself with a remodeled inner voice. Get out there and practice what you're preaching to yourself.
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The Desire To Succeed.
**I**t could be stated that we all have desire for success, no one wants failure but we find out that some people are failing non-stop. The type of desire I am talking about is like the one Napoleon hill had for his son Blair (the desire for hearing). Blair was born without ears. The two physicians who Hill brought, warned Hill that Blair would always be a deaf mute. Hill insisted that Blair would eventually have his hearing 100%. Up to a year and six months old, Blair could not ear a sound.
**B**lair happened to be tested by many specialists and every known tests. Hill kept his mind on the hearing of his son, he took Blair to a doctor who began giving him adjuststments {Note: against the objections of his mother and other relatives}.By the end of the first month and after adjustments three times weekly, Hill and his wife knew that Blair was beginning to hear. When he will clapped behind the ears of Blair, he turned back to listen. The adjustments continued until Blair was 4 years old.
**B**y that time, Chiropractics had developed 65% of his natural hearing capacity enough together through grade school, highschool, and three years in the university of West Virginia. The acousticion company, manufacturer of hearing airs, heard about Blair's miraculous improvements in hearing through chiropractic and made a special hearing aid for him which gave him 100% hearing capacity. Hill understood that his son couldn't hear, but he erased the perception and desired his child to hear. Hill did not enroll his son in to a deaf school, Hill did not communicate with his son with signals. He got his son enrolled in a normal school like kids who can hear and talk. Besides, there were criticisms that Hill faced, one of Blair's teacher called Hill telling him that there is no way they can continue with the hearing situation of Blair. But Hill not allowing himself to be convinced, insisted that
**B**lair would cope, because he believed and had the desire for Blair to had the desire for Blair to hear 100%. These are actions taken by Hill that showed his desire for his son to hear. Fortunately, due to the desire Hill had for his son, in which we learnt relentlessly through the process, Blair was able to hear 100%. When you have the desire for success regardless of the circumstances, you will have an extra life to pass it through. You are not ready for success untill you believe you can acquire it.
**H**aving a desire for success put you in place to attain greatness. Just so you know, no one can stop you from attaining success but you. Moreso, stating down your desire for success word for word and making it understandable. Reciting it be for going to bed, when you are awake, recite and digest it. By doing this, you will get the full entitlement and your desire for success will grow higher.
Success Through God!
**A** relationship with God is a major and great factor for success. God is the true source of man, He created man just like his own image. Many people live a desultory life, because they lack having a relationship with God.
**F**or God to create man, definitely He has the power to make man successful. It is through the relationship man have with God, that man will know what God loves and what he does not. God is the only one that can make man bountifully successful. It is true that you can be successful without God, but there will be a virtue in you that will tell it is not God. And when people see and tell that is not God, the you are less valued to yourself, family, and God. When you know that God is the true source of bountiful success, why don't you create a great condition?!!. When you are in a relationship with God, you need to understand and adhere to some standards.
**G**od is not a pie that you can slice into pieces. He is, and will always be the one creator of all things. He is the one that made your ancestors successful, He created life before He sets it in place. When you have a great bond with God, you will have a sense of relieve that there is a supreme being that always have your back, how do you grows better relationship with God? Expressing your faithfulness to God through actions Is key to growing a better relationship with God. Be aware of life's gifts, focus on appreciating everything God has to offer you.Tell Him how grateful you are to have him doing all the things you ask for, and you'll see the works of God!
Redefining Youth Thinking On Purpose And Success.
" I did not begin on Earth", is a statement that resonates with my heart. I was brought up in a society where people believe that purpose exists but barely understand what it entails. I was trained and groomed in a community where the educational sector brainwashed our parents to believe that the only way to measure the capabilities of their kids is by grades in school. And I strongly believe that I was not the only one who experienced living in a society like mine. Teens and youths now find themselves in some hurdles of life which has no specific connotation than to make them lose the path of success, but what centers it all is 'purpose'.
In early 2020 I was pretty frustrated with myself. Just a year earlier I said goodbye to high school. Normally, that's a good thing. Playing intramural soccer, winning the tournament, turned out 2nd in men's Long jump, such remarkable benefits, plus I had great colleagues.
And on top of that, my personal life wasn't great either. My girlfriend and I decided to end our relationship. And in that same week, I discovered I could not meet up the university's admission requirements. I felt a lot of things. But mostly, I felt like I did not understand life. Have you ever thought about it?!, What life is like?! What you are supposed to do?! It's not like babies are born with manuals that teach them to be awesome human beings. For the first time in my life, I started looking for answers because I was tired of just living or existing without purpose.
And as of early July in the year 2021, I had three days of Mentoring meetings with one of my mentors Mr. Victor Adaun, the president of Kingdom Of Arts International Limited. Out of the great things we talked about, the most dominant statement I still hear in my soul is that; "Discovering your purpose is a lifetime process".
**Our Foundation**
God created us, He is the manufacturer while we are the products. We won't be on earth if we are not fully tested by God. We are on earth because we have been tested just to fulfill our purpose. We did not begin on earth. Why then is our purpose important?!
Fulfilling our purpose is important because when God made us, He made us liken his Image. And we are to bring forth a positive and successful reputation to his image. Every man desires to succeed, nobody wants to fail. Everyone comes to earth, but they decide how much of them is manifested. Success is predictable likewise a failure. Success is predictable because life is made to function by laws. Truly we all know that, but due to greed, the lust of the flesh, hatred, and others we fail to acknowledge those laws. We know that whatever comes around goes around, Karma exists, give more take less. Though we were brought up to take things since we were babies, as soon as we grow up we realize that the more we give the better.
I know you should have if the not vast philosophy of what purpose is. But I want you to take a look and digest this viewpoint of purpose that I will be talking about.
****The Supremacy Of Purpose****
The purpose is more powerful than policies.
The Purpose is more important than policies.
The purpose precedes policies.
The purpose is more powerful than your job.
The Purpose is more important than your job.
The Purpose precedes your job.
Your job is what they pay you to do, your purpose is what you are born to do. Your job gets you finances, it gets you skills, but you are likely to get fired from your job, and it can be taken. While your purpose gets you fulfillment, gets you gifts, you cannot be fired, and it cannot be taken. The supremacy of purpose occurs this way, your purpose cannot be deprived of you, your purpose cannot be taken by anybody, your purpose cannot be broken down by anyone, your purpose cannot be controlled by humans or their inventions. The only thing that can happen to your purpose is "UNFULFILLMENT", and this can be done only if you do not have a genuine relationship and understanding with the Lord. Do you want to know why? Read Isaiah 14:24.
To fulfill the purpose of God in your life and succeed there are these 4 questions you need to answer. Every human on earth is trying to answer these questions. These 4 questions are the source of all human problems, they are the cause of the bad governance in a country, they are the cause of crimes in your cities. In other words, these 4 questions define humans.
**Who am I?**
This is a question of identity, a very tough one. An average human evades this question because it is a frightening one. The average human is still struggling with self-identity, which means most of us are not ourselves, but other people. As a kid I was once Lionel Messi, I was once Lil Wayne, I was once Kelvin hart, I was once somebody else. Because I did not know who I was, I try to put on the personality of other people just to look important. It got to the point of using other people's styles just to look significant. And here comes the breaking point, as soon as a man admits he is trying to be somebody else then he is on a path to fulfill a purpose.
**Where am I from?**
This is a question of source, a question that tells more about your foundation. In an attempt to find the right answer to this question, if you try to find out where you are from by using your ethnic heritage, you will get lost. And here comes a problem, you cannot know who you are until you know where you are from, and since you do not know where you are from, you cannot know who you are.
**Why am I here?**
This is a question of purpose, why were you born? why were you conceived? This is a question 99% of humans struggle to answer. And might be certain to say that most of you reading this now are still asking yourself this question or are yet to ask yourself.
**What can I do?**
What are you capable of? A question of potential, again over 99% of humans do not even care about the question, they do not even care about what they can do to make an impact. They are concerned about making a living and not making a difference, and just all about surviving not impacting.
The issue is 95% of the people are living below their potentials. We live in a country where the potentials of a man are known by humans, that sounds weird to me now. How on earth will a man's ability be graded by getting a C' in an exam and hereby tagged an average student forever? How? Tell me.
However, it's not that I am saying being graded in school is bad or is not important. But if there is nothing you are going to take to heart from this article, please take this statement: "Nobody can tell how successful you are going to be or define your potentials BUT YOU"
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