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Body Shaming Body Shaming is a habit of some people they call others by unwanted names and mock other's body. By calling them "fat, humpty dumpy" etc. Body Shaming gets an unbearable feelings when it is committed by your life partner like husband, wife, gf or bf or even friends. Just imagine, how it will feel. When a husband calls his wife with the words like "You are fat, your body is getting lumpy, you have stretch marks on your body and he utters other words similar to this." And he suggests you different steps to take like "do exercises, deficit or burn your calories by working or doing exercises. I will not bring you the clothes of well reputed designers. Your body hair annoys me, etc, eyc." All this doesn't happens in the early stage of relationship or marriage, but when the relationship gets older, body Shaming phrases comes out from the mouth of your partner. Not all but mostly the people start getting bored from their partner, some of them get to dislike the other one. The first two to three years prove like love for each other, lpve beyond everything. But as time goes on, everything start getting fade. Husbands wants from their wives to look like a barbie doll and wives want a husband masculine like a hero of some movie. Actually thet both want a perfect figure, but don't make it start from their self. As a result they start loosing interest in each other. Especially the husbands behave like, and do body Shaming of their wives. He needs a **chammak challo** type girls but in reality he is having a grown woman. The wife do the household chores for the whole day and when her husband get backs to home she is unable to get love from her husband because he lost interest. *****The question is, does every marriage face this situation, do every husband does this with his wife? Why he loses interest in jis wife? What could be the solution for this situation?***** If your husband is such kind pf person as explained above, and always do body Shaming, he is for sure not a good person. I have some important tips to handle this type of problem. All the tips are explained as under. Follow them step by step. Tip #1: Tit for Tat Whenever your husband behaves like this and do body Shaming, he needs software updates. Ask him few things. "Hey, buddy, please develop six packs, i can't see your triceps, make triceps. Your tummy is getting more and more every upcoming day, don't burp, sometimes you should give your attention to me, you don't have any care for me". And focus on yourself, maintain your physique and mind if possible. He don't do love you at night? Is it right na? Ok, no problem, don't worry, you better play games, listen to your favorite music, play some interesting games on your cellphone, make him feel like you don't care if he has no care of you. Give time to yourself, he will realize the change in you and ge will get better. Tip #2: Ask him to hire maids Ask you husband to hire maids and nanny, and they will do housing chores and will cook, if not ask your husband to do that works which you were doing. And also take his atm card and pamper yourself, spend his money in caring for you. Moreover you should join a gym center and ask your husband to pay for it. Just in one day, his mind will find a right direction to go, and he will forget body Shaming on you. And he will find you as a queen then. Tip #3: Make him familiar with the ugliness of words. Words sometime can have more hurting than the sword, words can really hurt a person before you more than your expectations. Just like their positivity, words also can be negative and work as a substitute to poison to hurt someone. All you need to do is make your husband familiar with the power of good and bad words he utters. And this could be done by calling him the same as he do to you. Say him you are getting fat, your tummy is increasing gradually, you look ugly with fat and increased tummy. And when he will get angry on your words for him, ask him politely that his words also has same effects on you when he calls you fat, chubby, or humpty etc. **Closing thoughts** Honestly writing, obesity and fatness is harmful for your own body, try to make your body healthy but comfortable for you. Do exercises maintain diet and do whatever you could to make your physique good. Groom yourself, is it good to look old woman or is it better to look like a hot teenager.? Which one is better? To look fat or to look sexy and hot. Decide and work on it. Increase your sleep hours to look fresh every time. Be always beautiful with makeup in your own house. Don't you love your partner? Off course you do, then try to look beautiful in his and in your own eyes to. Makeup your body and face to look beautiful to your husband or partner. And if your husband can afford, hire a maid for house hold work. And it is also true that people find taste in Haraam things and feels tasteless the Halal one. That's the reason the first degrade their partner, put him/her in complex then move forward in finding other. Thanks for reading 📖. Pleased to have you here. ❤️

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Your past will never be defined your future. *As I woke up, no toothbrush I'm writing thus article, see how words used.* ****August 24, 2022**** Have you heard a saying " your past will never be defined your future?" Well, it's obviously common to a person to be part of their past , even history can never be separated from today's life. We can say, you are the product of your past actions. Your life today is the outcome of your choosen decisions five to ten years ago. I'm gonna tell you a story, I had this classmate from high school wayback then year 2003 ( now you can guess my age now😅) , her name is Shai, she is considered as orphan because she is living alone. Her mother worked in Kuwait since she was a 3 month old baby. She left by her father to be with his mistress . She becomes independent out of misfortune. She is working so hard to get into class every day, sell coconut juice to teachers, cook food to sell at school. She can't be friends with normal people because of her status. Source https://unsplash.com/photos/8Hlnavz5TDc?utm_source=unsplash&utm_medium=referral&utm_content=creditShareLink She is often discriminated by many because of her appearance. Old socks, old uniforms, and grossy looks from working. The good thing about her, she is focused on her studies and work. When we're about to handed in third year high school she suddenly disappeared for unknown reason. Actually I'm thinking how is she, not until one day of year 2008 I sat next to her in a bus. So with my full confidence, I asked her how's she doing since she stopped from studying. She answered that her cousin from the Capital called her to take care of her from third year high school until she finish college, but she was abused and later on decided to leave her relative. From then she worked in a fast food chains to sustain her studies. It's a relief on my part how I know her current situation. After so many years we have encountered again in a good way. Year 2015 I saw her with her fiancee in a classy restaurant. It's her engagement day. Her fiancee is chef their while is a attendant in a 5 star hotel. She looks expensive and beautiful. I'm happy seeing her. After two years she called me for her baby's christening, I felt special being one of the visitors. We have all day to talk about life. Then I tried to ask her about her personal feelings being alone to have good family. She told me, "my life, my choice". According to her, she chose not to focus on pain of leaving behind by her parents at early age but prove them that she's a real blessing despite of their misunderstandings. She chose to take her father again and sustain his medication after his family abandoned him. She chose to communicate to her mother despite having new family and husband in other country and never come back to her again. Shai choose to live than dying from past mistake of her parents. She chose joy over hate. She chose to build her own family then making sorry for herself for not having one. She is really living in a wise life. I'm amazed how she handled everything on her own. She has sweet smile while talking to me saying " I'm in a better place now, because life is a choice and you are the only author of your story". You can never change the past events but can definitely write good story in the future, I will never leave my children behind, if I have to choose between work or them I will choose them because I'm used to be alone, crying alone , hunger and no one cares about me. Those hard days build the better version of myself. I still love my parents, I admitted I questioned them but instead of inflicting pain in my head, I choose to widen my understanding and find in my heart to forgive them , somehow wishing them to tell full explanation why they left me but I never get answer, so I forget the bad past and hoping better days to come , will never stop until I reach my goal of having a happy family which I never had ☺️. After hearing such words, I felt happiness in my heart, for I know those years of thinking how she is, she's getting better as aged. After that day until now we never see each other again but followed each other on social media. I see her having happy family everyday. Giving her very best to be a mom, a wife and a business woman on her own food business. She is the picture of success comes from proper mindset, together with proper motivation and clear life goals. She is a reflection of a pure heart which only wish to have a firm happy family. I'm happy for her. Closing thoughts Not everybody is giving the privilege to born with good life, it's only up to you how you improve your current situation. Proclaim your success for what we think and foresee our future will be our destination. Work smart, live life to its fullest. Thanks for rendering your time here. ❤️

Your life matters Photo by brett Sayles pexel.com We are born in a world which time is very important but mislead to a belief which we must be in a hurry of everything we do. We should finish studies at early age. Marry at 20's, be stable at 30's. Go and have vacation at 40's. Enjoy life at 50's then have retirement at 60's. What if this mindset never works for many? Are you going to question how they should be living according to their will?. There are people who get married at early age, study after giving birth, find job and work hard for their children. Some don't get married even in 30's they just want to fully enjoy the fruits of their labor. Some don't even take any step and trapped in a certain point of life after graduation because they don't even know how to start life. Some are goal oriented, some are still finding their purpose of existence. Life a journey not a race. Your life will be never compared to someone's life. ***You are born unique and you have own time pace. We have different timelines and dealings which may lead us to get trapped in a certain stage or get over it to move forward for growth. It's about learning the process and takes time for everything.*** It's very important to take your time in thinking before making any decisions that can directly affect your future. If we never learned by time, time will teaches us in its own ways. Life is composed of different stages, if you stepped into next stage be sure you are ready enough taking risks. It is very important to comprehend that each stage should be fulfilled and sustained for the next steps. If not you will experiencing difficulties and complicated situations. Do not put yourself in a situation which "you have no choice", you only do things out of responsibility which cause you stress and less worthy. This scenario will lead to broken dreams, broken relationship and self destruction. The worst results are bitterness, hatreds and cursing your life. We're all accountable for our actions. Act according to your will , goals and passion. Before entering into next step , think deeply how you handle each situation. Don't leave yourself with no option. Be prepared for the consequences of your actions. ***Take your time. Everything will fall into places soon.*** Don't rush life. Don't hurry in finding love for love will find you in right time. Don't be jealous seeing people having job after graduation because soon you will take yours. Take your time. The secret ingredient for a good life is to enjoy every moment of it. If you were a student, study then enjoy the hardwork. If you are finding job, reward yourself with your first salary for your great work. If you have a family, enjoy having time together doing activities you loved. If you are an old person, enjoy giving advice to young generation. Life is not a race, it's a journey. Enjoyment is the key by taking your time. Don't move too fast, don't walk too slow. Take steps accordingly while giving yourself a chance to enjoy each stages. Take your time. Take it easy. Some people wish to be in your position, often those working still want to have rest like you if you not working, some wish to live in a province surrounded by rice fields, trees and bodies of water like you do. Some are wishing to go back in your country to settle for good while some wishing to go abroad to work. Students are wishing to graduate in a short period of time while those already got jobs gonna wish they go back being student so only assignments and school works are the problems not bills. Some young people are rushing life while old people want to go back in their childhood. We only appreciate life by enjoying what we love. It's a waste of time having depression how past living is not good and get anxious how future might take. Dear, live your life today. Enjoy your day. 24 hours is enough to deal with. Do not waste your time in dealing your past decisions which never change and don't try to hold everything now for future for no one knows what lies ahead. Chill, take your time. A day is enough to stay still. Do not force yourself to be drained. Do things you love. Enjoy your meal, enjoy your work, enjoy your morning walk, enjoy your gathering, enjoy your day by getting coffee ☕, enjoy yourself by seeing good things today. Be at ease. Love yourself by giving rest to worries and enjoying it by saying " I'm better than my old self, getting better each day by enjoying my life". (source) Thanks for reading. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️