Age is not the real deal
In the Journey of self-esteem, self-defence, self-discovery, self-actualization, self-fulfilment, and all, age is not the real deal to be considered but what you are made of.
Over the years l observed that Children, Teenagers, and Young Adults are being limited as a result of their age. Oh, you are too young to start writing now, you are too young to be a leader, you are too young to get this job, even when you had the best qualifications and experience for the job, we need someone between 40-45years old.
That ideology should be corrected and am so glad l wasn't a victim of this, l started my first public speaking at the age of Five in the church, and l was allowed to express myself in a crowd of great men and women, of which l had stage fright then, but I still ended up saying what l was meant to say, l was celebrated amid grown-ups and that feeling gave me the courage to do more.
l kept on practising day and night, at the age of ten, l would stand in front of the mirror to practice public speaking, l got involved in the debate, quizzes and all just to make a good public speaker, l won every debate l got engaged in as a result of self-confidence others saw, but within me, l was shaken, didn't stop there, l got into teaching after high school just to build up myself, l got employed in a school by just a question l answered correctly in a Sunday school class,l never knew the Sunday school teacher was the CEO (Chief of staff ) of a school.
lt didn't stop there, up till now you will see one small me amid great men and women of which am loyal to always and always grateful of this great privilege given to me.
If l didn't start then, l don't think l would have been where l am today.
Age is not the real deal, it is better to start now than later.
PURPOSE
Sitting by the tree side at dawn enjoying the calmness, and the coolness of the morning breeze, just then it came to me to pick up my pen and write about this "PURPOSE".
Everything on earth is for a purpose, the tree, and the air we breathe in is for a purpose, the food and water we drink are meant for a purpose and we are conscious of them.
Without air(Oxygen) no one will be alive
Without food and water, there will be starvation which will lead to death.
As l ponder on this word PURPOSE, l realized that not all humans are conscious of their purpose in life. if we know the purpose of money and things around us.
Why can't we know the purpose of why we were born?
One of the most important Words we all ought to discover is PURPOSE.
Without PURPOSE, dreams won't be actualized.
Without PURPOSE there won't be any reason for birth. So why do we neglect our PURPOSE and go for things that don't worth it?
PURPOSE is what keeps you going
No two persons have the same PURPOSE in life.
Just as Food, water, and oxygen are needed to be alive, PURPOSE is what makes the world a better place to live in.
THE ROAD MAP TO SUCCESS
The first time l heard about the word FAITH, I practised it by laying my hands on the television that got worse in the process of watching my favourite television show, it went off immediately after a loud sound, l perceived the smell of it, l knew l was in big trouble because l was the only one at home that afternoon, l said a word of prayers and left the room, l went outside and started playing with friends during evening, we had light and l ran into the room and put on the television, to my greatest surprised it was working again, l screamed with so much joy and satisfaction, oh Faith is real, with my little level of understanding.
I heard about DETERMINATION and l got DETERMINED.
I heard about VISION and I WROTE mine down. I heard about HARDWORKING and l PRACTICED it. l heard about POTENTIALS and l am CURRENTLY working on it.
How many positive WORDS have you HEARD? and What did you DO about them? What are you DOING about it?
We talk about SUCCESS when there is no Action. We talk about FULFILMENT when there is no VISION.
We talk about PRIZE where there is no Determination. We talk about WEALTH when there is no Investment. We talk about GREATNESS when there is no TIME MANAGEMENT.
We talk about VALUE when we don't VALUE Ourselves. We are in search of HAPPINESS when we are not REAL to ourselves.
True SUCCESS comes from Within. The Road Map To Success is Self-Discovery and Putting all the Positive Words you have Heard into Action. l Desire to see you and l at the TOP and Together we SHALL GET THERE.
The inner beauty and physical beauty
THE INNER BEAUTY AND PHYSICAL BEAUTY
The inner beauty of the human can not be seen by merely looking, everyone has it, but not everyone makes good use of it.
Inner beauty is of two categories which are: The Inner Dark and The inner Light beauty.
The Inner Dark Beauty: This beauty has not been used ever since birth, it has been abandoned, it has not yet been branded, it has not been effective in any way, and it has been there without any use.
The INNER DARK BEAUTY is the individuals who have not yet discovered their purpose on Earth, no talent, no purpose discovered. They are just there Clapping for others. This beauty attracts Failure and repairs Success.
The Inner Light Beauty: These are the set of individuals that have truly discovered their purpose on Earth and this beauty has been well defined, rebranded, and it has been effective and productive.
The Inner Light Beauty glows and glitters because time and energy have been placed on it. It attracts success and repairs Failure. This Light beauty makes one a champion and an Outstanding productive Individual.
Join me as I journey through a series of INNER BEAUTY AND PHYSICAL BEAUTY.
THE PHYSICAL BEAUTY can be seen with ordinary eyes.
The physical beauty here is of two types the Physical Dark Beauty and the Physical Light Beauty.
THE PHYSICAL DARK BEAUTY Tends to glow on its own and can be enhanced by the individual. But not all physical dark beauty glows.
THE PHYSICAL LIGHT BEAUTY: also can glow on its own and can also be enhanced by the individual. But not all physical light beauty glows.
The CONNECTION Between the INNER BEAUTY and the PHYSICAL BEAUTY
THE Inner Dark Beauty and Physical Light Beauty: It is so possible to have this connection.
These are the attractive set of individuals as a result of their physical beauty, failure finds them attractive as well because they are carried away by their physical beauty, no self-discovery, no talent, no goals, no purpose discovered there is nothing so unique about these individuals.
Let's answer this question, how many individuals get paid as a result of their physical beauty in the world?
The Inner Light Beauty and Physical Dark beauty: These sets of individuals might not be so fine physically but they explore and are champions of greatness, they get paid for their intelligent works, because of their self-discovery, well rebranded set of individuals, and their Inner beauty glows so well.
The Inner Dark Beauty and the Physical Dark Beauty: These set of individuals face the real deal of a challenging economy, especially those whose physical Dark beauty doesn't glow at all, no one sees them, no one recommends them, no vision, no purpose, no talent, no self-discovery. They remain stagnant in life. The only thing people see around them in poverty.
The Inner light Beauty and Physical Light Beauty: This set of individuals go far the mile, they are intelligent, because of self-discovery, talent, and visual discovery. Well rebranded.
The Inner Beauty and Physical Beauty continue, join me on this journey for the final part of this write-up.
Inner Beauty is more Superior to physical beauty. It takes those who have discovered their vision, purpose, and potential on Earth to affect the world positively.
Those who had refined their Inner beauty give hope to the next generation, the dominant and explore the world greatly, they are the problem solvers.
The rebranded Inner beauty glows and glitters. lt makes the personality shines like a star in the world.
The physical beauty will surely fade away but the Inner beauty never fades away.
The rebranded Inner beauty personalities make the best use of time and money and they make the world beautiful without them, there will be no development, no technology, and no improvement in the world today.
When we develop our Inner beauty, the world will be more comfortable than it is today.
Have you developed your Inner beauty or you are still working on it?
Let's do all we can to make our inner beauty glows.
Self respect is everything
SELF RESPECT IS EVERYTHING
In the world of today, where everyone is so concerned and carried away by material things, money, and affluence, forgetting about their reputation and respect.
**SELF RESPECT** is an excellent choice to be made by oneself alone.
ln, the main time let me know if you have ever seen the in and out of people who are looking for a job, a young lady in need of an iPhone and a young man looking for Money to get things done, what can you draw out from these categories of people?
So many of them don't care about anything, only a few of them don't just accept anything that would bring down their names.
ln, the process of getting a job, in need of money and material things don't forget to save your name, reputation and self-respect, Just because of high likes on social media, you want to reveal everything met to be covered as a lady, you want to trend, on social media and around forgetting about YOUR SELF RESPECT.
So many people lose their self-respect in the process, as a young lady, who is so desperate about an iPhone, you don't care about being into a toxic relationship, where your life is at stake, all you care about is having an iPhone. After having an iPhone what next aunty?
Please be content with what you have.
Value what you can afford and don't allow anyone to look down on you.
ln, all thy doing and getting, never you loss Yourself respect in the process, sometimes limit the conversation you have with people, sometimes stay indoors, sometimes refuse to pick up a phone call, sometimes act like you are too busy to reply a chat and take a break from friends just to maintain your self-respect. lt is not pride, it is called SELF DEFENSE.
Self-respect once lost can never be gotten back.
keep your self-respect, protect it, defend it, and guide it.
You are worth more than gold because you are PRICELESS.
**HOPE**
Hope is an impression of objectivity and an appetite for a specific element to occur.
Let's have a discussion about wishes and let's conversation about the Objective.
Let's talk about imagination let's talk about Motive.
Let's talk about fascination, let's talk about Destinations.
Every Desire comes into Existence when there is Passion attached to it.
Every Goal comes into Actualization when the Vision is Clean and Clear.
Where do you STAND?
Where do I STAND?
Let's be Optimistic and always Realistic not Perssimist about Life Challenges.
In the process of Actualizing Your Vision, Your STARTING POINT is not the FOCUS POINT.
Only Your ENDING POINT is what COUNT.
Let's not lose HOPE no matter WHAT
We are the HOPE ITSELF.
When You Actualize your Vision, You are giving Hope to the Next Generation.
When You fulfil your GOAL, the WORLD is 95% closer to ITS Solutions.
YOU were BORN to give HOPE to OTHERS.
YOU were BORN to CHANGE the Negative Things of Life into Positive Ones.
HOPE Becomes EFFECTIVE when WE ACT.
THE CONVERSATION BETWEEN THE MIND AND OUR ACTIONS
The conversation between the mind and the actions we take (OUR ACTIONS) is an eye-opener to WHAT we Ought to DO according to Our MINDS, this conversation is to reveal the reason why things are the way they are today, between the Mind and Our Actions who wins most of the time? let's read and find out.
**THE MIND**: No more procrastination, no room for laziness, no room for hate, am going to work so hard and l will never give up no matter what.
**ACTION**: I will do it in an hour not now, oh the time is so fast today, l will do it in 2hours time, l am tired doesn't mean l am lazy, let me relax a bit. That serves her right, the pain should drown her, l don't care. Let me enjoy life, WHAT WILL BE, WILL BE so no need to stress myself.
**THE MIND**: Do you know you are capable and endowed with the best potential ever? Get started now, the world needs you to change the negative impacts into a positive ones.
**ACTION**: Even if l am well capable and endowed, is of no use, to see others, my mates have bought cars, have houses, and have four kids. The world has been in Existence even before l was born, and it will still be here after l leave so that's not true.
**THE MIND**: Am going to invest my time and money into this project, so l can have more than enough in the future.
**ACTION**: Why should l invest all my time and money into this project? let me enjoy myself, the future is now. Tomorrow will take care of itself.
**THE MIND**: I have done my best to correct your ACTIONS but you had never for one's agree with ME, it's so Sad, that you choose your path without taking ACTIONS.
Our Actions often contradict Our Minds
The only way we can become so Great and Powerful is when OUR ACTIONS finally Agree with OUR MIND(Thought, inspiration, Vision, Goals)
Don't only Conceive it TAKE ACTION
Finding success in your disappointment
Finding success in your disappointment
Life is indeed 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to what happens to you. This statement will remain true anytime, any day. The mentality is key to winning this journey of life.
Yes, it is easier said than done when one is faced with a seemingly difficult and disappointing situation. No matter how prepared we are, life will always happen. Yes, nobody plans for anything bad to happen but they still happen.
Most times we tend to be so optimistic though that's not bad, so we forget that life is a two-end journey to give room for uncertainties. Don't get me wrong you need optimism(faith) to be alive and thriving. Sometimes despite the optimism, things don't still work out.
Should we give up on life? No
Life will always happen. To assume everything will always be perfect is the greatest lie one can ever tell himself or herself.
So how does one find a way out of every disappointment? A simple answer is a question of mindset. You can hardly overcome any upset or disappointment with a negative mentality.
With a superior mindset and thought pattern, you can overcome and turn any disappointing situation or circumstance into a stepping stone.
Life will always favour bravery, not the faint-hearted. You can't afford to wail and complain anytime things don't go your way, dust yourself and get going.
Life will never be rosy every time, this is what makes life worth living.
Whatever has not killed you is an invitation to your next level. When the going gets tough, the tough get going. The true test of your strength is not when the going is good but when the going gets tough.
Have had a fair share of disappointing moments in every stage of my life ranging from growing up to teenager and adulthood. Most notably in 2013 when I was homeless, yes I have been homeless. I decided not to go back to the village during the ASUU strike of that year. I had to put up with a friend whose girlfriend didn't find it funny, I had to save my face and leave. God bless my friend, he tried his best to put up with me.
Every time I find myself in a seemingly difficult and unfavorable situation, God through willpower always comes through.
The unintended will happen.
The unimaginable will surface.
The unexpected will strike.
The incredible will show up.
Nobody is immune to the uncertainties of life but you have to succeed amid the uncertainties, this is what makes life thick.
The unplanned will strike you, but you should find a reason to keep going despite what life throws at you that is the reason you're still alive.
The secret to overcoming any difficult situation to success is developing strong willpower. Your willpower is the real power, not the physical strength we brag about.
Willpower is an internal strength that is capable of seeing you through any difficult situations without giving up on life. You can turn any disappointment into a blessing if you have the real power (Willpower). It is a gift God gives to every creature of His. Most times we don't understand what we carry until we are faced with circumstances that require what we carry inside.
If it has not killed you, you can turn it to your advantage. The greatest of successes were not a smooth sail but from struggles and disappointments of life. You will not achieve anything worthwhile if you think life will always play to your tune.
Every disappointment has a touch of blessing in it, look inward you will find the courage to pull through it successfully. Most times the affinity for sympathy from people denies us that inner strength to sail through our failures to success.
You're worth more.
How to make Friends?
There are different ways to meet and make friends, some friendship just happens while some you knew you guys would be close. When you bond with someone, it is left for you to decide if they would come closer or not depending on who they are.
Often you hear people say they don't know how to make friends even if they truly desire to. For others making friends is a piece of taking it flows in their system while some are slow to bond, they prefer to observe and take it gradually. I've observed that some go about it the wrong way and miss out on attracting quality personalities into their circle.
Oftentimes, people slide into my DM saying they admire me and want me to be their friend. But over time I noticed that even if I say yes, it still didn't make us close, so I figured out there must be a better way to make friends instead of asking outright. So when next you find someone you admire and want to get close to, please before you ask them to be your friend read this...
You necessarily do not have to ask them to be your friend, instead, start showing up in what interest them, become genuinely concerned about them, engage them in intelligent conversation, support them in their passion, and you can engage on their post over time they will recognise you, asking questions, helping them out etc.
Learn to relate more but don't be needy, give value, be interesting and be able to sustain a conversation. Some persons will be like
'Hello, good morning, how are you? Have you eaten?' That is all, day in and day out. It's more like a waste of time and data if you ask me.
For someone you always see physically, saying hi and good mornings always is a nice way to start a friendship, like in school, church or in your area, from hailing regularly, you can bond. But In the online space, you have to go beyond hello, in fact when you say hello, go straight to the point. Some begin to ask how are you, how is work, I think it's unnecessary if you don't know the person. You can do that when a foundation has been laid. An introduction with little or no greeting is better instead of asking hi and waiting for a response.
So the next time you meet someone you would want in your circle, walk up to them and say hello miss, sir, or hello Paul, I'm Faith Jim, I do ABC and you're, or I hear you're into ABC, that's nice you know, I have a great passion for it too, bla bla, or you have a beautiful smile, or that was a nice presentation, I must commend how were you able to...
Either compliment them or start with something that's in their area of interest or that you both share in common etc.
You can Say; 'Can I have your contact or social media handle probably we could talk more you know' instead of saying 'Let's be friends
After a beautiful introduction, learn to dish out engaging conversation, and work on continuity.
Another point to note, for those that would be making friends in the online space is having an attractive profile/timeline. Many would go and check to see your kind of person, so if your timeline reeks of unseriousness and irresponsibility they most likely won't take you seriously.
People naturally drift to where they're being supported, cared for, inspired and where they get value. So when you start giving value and being concerned about others, you will have friends. Note that if you are someone that's always complaining that people didn't check on you, I believe you can start checking on others. I've got some friends my being concerned about. Some from the comment section, etc
Also, maintain the friendship, just like cars, friendship needs maintenance, via; love, care, communication, understanding, trust, loyalty, support, forgiveness, sacrifice etc don't choke friendship by always taking without giving, celebrate their wins and together make the world a better place. Appreciate your friends and stop doing things they said they don't like
In conclusion, the best way to have a friend is to be a friend. And please, do not force it, don't force yourself on someone, if it's not flowing and you've tried so hard to maintain it, you let it be.
But for a relationship, you can ask directly, of course, that would be after building a level of connection. You can't be asking a lady to date or marry you like some guys do on the very first chat or meeting. It shows a low level of patience and self-control. Even if the angels showed you, you should be wise enough to act smartly.
Worrying cannot help you
Worrying Cannot Help You
It has been medically and psychologically proven that worrying causes sickness, and that our bodies, as well as mind/brain, function better when we are free from worries, anxiety and fear. Worrying is one dangerous activity that kills our courage and cripples our abilities. It weakens our strength and injects tension into us. It also affects our well-being and robs us of our joy, time and energy. It can hinder the achievement of goals/visions. It makes little issues/problems appear huge, mighty and complex. It can also confuse, fear and loss of focus.
You must learn to avoid worrying, knowing that it can't help your situation. Don't worry about the past, because yesterday is past, and its mistakes and blunders are far beyond our control. Also worry not about tomorrow because it is beyond our immediate control. Just focus on today (the present), and how you can make the most out of it.
Don't give worrying a chance in your life. It can only worsen the situation and make it more complex and dilapidated. Be joyful, pray and hand over all things to God Almighty, that's the best solution.
ON THE PART OF STARTING SMALL
If you've been admiring me, I must write this to you. It is vital to be a monarch and self-sufficient person. . Although this is a good starting point, it will soon prove ineffective.
Dear young dreamer,
You must push to be valuable, crucial and influential in your family, commerce, department and other domains of significance.
In the hierarchical order of life, there is a portion of everything that can start small. Don't forget.
But define what small means to you dear.
Tiny for someone from a normal home is not the equivalent of a minor for someone who's Dad is a billionaire.
You cannot be moving at the same speed as people around you when your destination is not the same.
Let your discreet lead you to the place of power, fame, clarity and vision
Make it your prime pleasure to live a meaningful, purposeful and fulfilling life here on earth.
Leave your footprints on the sand on time
Let the world know that you lived, did and healed her.
Spend time doing what would propel the world to your greatness. Become a propeller.
The people controlling the world economy are the people with power.
When I said power I mean, information. If you are here, reading this, go for knowledge, go for information. If you have the information you are powerful.
Your fight has always been different.
YOUR STRENGTH
“Growing up has made me understand that life has one principle called “ principle of strength and weakness. Know your strength”. Princewill stated.
But, how come you don’t go below the first position. I asked.
Princewill is my brother and a younger one at that. Since I have known this young man, I have never seen him reading in the afternoon. No matter how urgent a test or an examination may be announced, he can never read in the afternoon. I will be busy reading and sleeping at the same time in the afternoon, he will be busy feeling fine with play. One thing that bothers me about him is that, no matter how much he plays in the afternoon until his white shirt turns milky, he has never fallen below the first in his class.
One day, I woke up in the middle of the night, only to see somebody’s son busy burning his night candles and reading. What!!
‘How long have you been reading?` I asked. He just looked up to notice who was talking and turned back to his book, placing me on a cold shoulder.
In the morning, I wanted to finish him up with my mouth.
So, this is how you deceive men of the world, by playing all through the day, only to read at night?
While I was busy fuming, he just turned and left the bomb; ' know your strength, focus on it and leverage on others whose your weakness is their strength'.
‘What are you not saying?’ I asked.
‘ I know I don’t read in the afternoon, I don’t waste my energy. I only ask those who read in the afternoon to explain what they have read in a bit to know if they read, and at night, I read mine.’ With this, he left me standing mouth a gap. I needed a forklift to close my mouth, men and brethren.
Note: What works for me may not work exactly for you, all you need to know is how it worked for me. Understand the principle of strength and weakness. Why focus on your weakness while your strength is left hanging.
Your weakness is someone’s strength.
Thank you for reading, do have a blessed day beloved friends.
It's fine not to be fine
It's fine to make mistakes. It's fine to feel depressed. It's fine to come from a poor background. It's fine to have big teeth. It's fine to hate mathematics. It's fine to have mood swings. It's fine to be shy. It's fine to experience whatsoever. It's fine not to be fine!!!
But do you know what is not fine?
It's when you just relax and do nothing to help that situation you find yourself in.
I will use myself as an example, I was once a very shy girl. I never talked in class, in the church or at any gathering. Even at home, I prefer being in my room when everyone else is in sitting.
It was so bad that I was tagged an introvert, I got to know my real self last year - the corona era precisely.
I had always been a chorister in church right from the children's section but had never handled the microphone.
I always hid among other choristers. Thank God I'm tall, the back row was always my position.
I first handled the microphone as a soloist in two thousand seventeen. That experience was something else...
If I wasn't lucky, the microphone would have fallen off my hand.
Even though I won't say I'm a pro yet, I'm 10times better than before. So the first step is to acknowledge your situation and problem and then tackle it. All successful people once passed through a dark tunnel.
Forget the smiling faces. They once cried.
Dear, can you start taking the right decision that will make your future bright from now?
Yes, you can!
Trust me, you will be glad you did this in the nearest future.
If you got value, you can say a positive speech about your future below?
LITTLE BEGINNINGS
Beginnings are never easy
Just as a little child crawls, and stumbles before walking flawlessly is the same way our beginnings are.
When I kick off my journey and fail
Should I keep trying or
should I revolve my back never to rise?
These were the thoughts going through Ngozi's mind as she held her fourth rejection letter within a couple of days.
She had submitted her Application letter to be employed as an Optometrist to four different hospitals but all were repudiated.
At this point, she was depressed, she felt like the world was on top of her and had prepared to give up.
She couldn't go on living this way. How would she go further without any means of sustenance?
Nevertheless, Ngozi kept on pushing and hoping that one day she will succeed.
The prime Optometrist at the University Of Benin Teaching hospital. Who could the person be?
Finally, Ngozi had her aspirations before her eyes. After two years of countless rejection letters, she finally got a place of Work.
If success is a reward and happiness is a choice, then you must begin by taking the right steps.
Little beginnings often make great endings.
All her rejections were building her up to this significant moment! when the Chief Optometrist who used to be her classmate will
volitionally make her the heir. What a blast!!
In today's world, most people are middlings. It is time we say goodbye to fears, discouragement, laziness and any kind of negative feeling that bring about regression in life.
Little beginnings don't mean you won't make it big in life it is just the starting point of a victorious life. The end has to Explode the efforts you put in to excel in certain situations.
Beginnings are never easy but they are the driving force to a great end.
Don't be discouraged when you Fall like a child learning to walk, but always stand and make progress.
SECRET OF SUCCESS
One reason people never discover the success they are looking for is because they give up easily and too soon.
They throw in the towel just before uncovering the enormous mystery of accomplishment. A great number of individuals also come across this secret of success unknowingly, yet they don't realize it when they see it. This secret looks them in the face but they turn away from it because it looks different from what they hope it would be.
At the same time, some who can identify this secret failed to apply it. They allow little things to deter their application of this secret, little things like fear, procrastination and lack of self-discipline.
One big truth we failed to identify is the truth about our world and nature. The truth is that we live in a world where the majority embrace average things because they like things coming easy with no risk.
We tend to look for the simplest, fastest and shortest route to our destination, the same is the nature of success. Sadly, too many of us still operate on these types of minimums, we are maximizing our returns. Though it is a thing of nature but development around the world has turned things over, therefore taking risks and going the extra mile is the big secret to success.
STRIVE, the secret to success is in this word. In other words one needs to strive by going the extra mile, being extraordinary and making EXTRA a part of you.
Expression and Organization
EXPRESSION AND ORGANIZATION
It's one thing to know what to write, it's another thing to express it in a way that your audience doesn't misunderstand your message or get confused after reading.
The way you express a thought determines its impact and effect on the audience. It's just like singing a popular song, there's a way you will that same song it will be appealing and interesting that people will forget it's a regular song or if someone else sings it, they will be like, it's a popular song. It boils down to style and presentation. Different persons can write on the same topic but being unique makes the difference, expression.
As a writer, you must find your style to present your thought. No matter how good your thought or idea is, if you don't present them well it might be uninteresting to read. Make your writing so interesting and irresistible. Think of ways and choices of words that will keep the readers glued.
Organise your thought such that you know what is to come before another. Similar points should be written together not writing, A, B then back to A again. Your thought should be able to follow a systematic progression.
You might not figure this out when writing, it is advised to pour out your thought first. Don't bother if it's the last part, middle or beginning. The first action is to write. When you don't know how or where to start, start from somewhere and write.
After writing, go back and read it, as you are reading, remove the unnecessary detail or statement that are not coherent with your message, rewrite some of the sentences and change the words. Shorten longer sentences using more concise words. Correct spellings and errors. This is called (Rewriting/revising). If you do this as you are writing, it will slow you down, It is best done after your draft (writing).
Reading through and making corrections you will be able to observe which paragraph should come first, last or in the middle. You can copy, cut and paste them in the place appropriate. It's not compulsory that the beginning of your right up must be the beginning, a phrase from the middle could be appealing as an opening statement. Feel free to cut and place it at the beginning.
Mind your language when expressing your thought. I read some articles, and I see writers insulting their audience what is that for? Let's say I want to write on the importance of reading. Check this out.
1. If you are not reading then you are stupid and you will remain a fool because you won't grow.
Versus
2. Did you know that reading can make you wiser than you can ever imagine? If you are not reading, you're slowing down your growth process.
Can you see how the same ideas were presented? In the first example, those words are uncalled for, the second example is far more preferable. As a writer, you must look for words to express your thought without sounding extremely harsh, mean or disrespectful.
Control your emotions, even if you are angry, you can present your thoughts in ways that your message gets understood without sending a wrong feeling.
That's why someone can say all manner of harsh words in the comment section, if you don't agree with a person you can objectively point out your fact without denting the credibility of the writer. Every writer writes from their experience and perspective, so you can't completely overrule their perspective, rather, you present your thought constructively so that someone can read and pick sense if you have a better idea.
Although there are some write up that might involve some kind of words, the like as sarcasm. But even at that, be constructively sarcastic. Your choice of words tells a lot about who you are and how people will rate you. Writing with a negative tune will not take you far.
You can choose to express in a serious, friendly, funny, persuasive, or motivating pattern it depends on you.
Ensure your message does not contradict. You can't be saying, don't eat early in your write up and at the same time saying breakfast is the most important meal because it strengthens your brain to carry out the day's activities. Now, what do you want your readers to believe?
You should think of ways to connect your thoughts so that the audience understands perfectly your perspectives. Words like; However, more so, nevertheless, notwithstanding etc can be used in connecting thoughts. Know when to use them.
Use fewer abbreviations. (U, ur, 2, kw, dnt, 4rm etc) stop using it to chat so that you won't make the mistake when writing. Abbreviations make your writing unprofessional. I used to be lord of abbreviations but we were warned not to use them in exams if you are a student take note. Type in full.
Also, don't beat about the bush when writing, I've read articles on topics that I still ask myself what is the topic...laughs!
For instance, if you want to write about how to stop getting angry, someone should read your work and be able to know how to stop getting angry, not that after reading it to the end in their mind they will still be asking, how to stop getting angry? Then what did the writer write? I've experienced this asunder times. Focus on your topic when writing, your words should address the subject.
For story writing, it is best to show more instead of telling. For instance, you want to write that Gilgal is in love...
So instead of saying, Gilgal is in love, it's best to show it. How do you show?
Look for ways in which someone in love would act, and describe the feeling or action instead of just saying it. Check this out.
1. Gilgal is standing in the kitchen, she has been thinking for some days, that she is in love with the senator's son.
Or
2. Standing in the kitchen, a smile crawled into Gilgal's cheek. She's been grinning to herself for some days now, lost in thoughts. There's no doubt the senator's son has captured her heart.
Okay back to our gist, from both examples which do you think it's more interesting to read? The second.
To be able to do this effectively, study how people act at a certain point and look for words that describe them instead of just saying them. If someone is angry how do they behave? Frown (glare, scowl), thunder or cuss out, anger flicker across their eyes.
A happy person will scream, dance, etc
A frightened person will experience, a racing heart, cold shivers down their spine, dry lips, stuttering, stiff posture, misty or teary-eyed etc
A surprised person will be dumbstruck or open-mouthed, wide-eyed, speechless, etc.
More reasons your dictionary has to be your friend, read it always and learn more words. The more you read people's work the better you know how to present your thoughts.
To be continued...
Ask Questions if you have, meanwhile, I have one,
Talking about abbreviations, how do you say 'lolz' when chatting?
I recently started using; laughs, now I'm laughing, smiling, I'm blushing etc
How else can you show you are laughing without using emoji or Lolz?
If Keyboards Could Talk
IF KEYBOARDS COULD TALK
Yesterday, before I left for work, I came across a novel that my Mom bought for my younger sisters, titled "The GAIN OF KINDNESS" so my interest was triggered and I decided to glance through it.
There, I came across a chapter where I found a sentence that caught my eyes;
"If keyboards could talk"
Keyboards are probably the best secret keepers in the world because you can convey what you are feeling and thinking and without publishing or posting the document, no one will know what you were saying.
The numerous times I was distressed, angry or even happy, my keyboard could be the only one who knows my mood.
Even when I have long projects and assignments to type and my fingers were hurting me because of the too much typing the keys would know.
Really and truly if keyboards could talk, they would be able to say that they see more of who we are than most people could see.
If keyboards could talk, would they share the number of messages of love affairs, relationships and so on?
Would they guide teenagers who don't know what they are doing here(social media)? Would they save so many friendships and relationships?
If keyboards could talk, would they receive the kind of abuse they receive from you whenever you are upset?
Keyboards could also tell us the kind of lives we live. They'll tell if you always spend time studying, browsing useful posts or the vices all day.
How many times do you think your keyboard has laughed over the hilarious questions you have googled? Would they advise you against the heedless things you have researched or shared?
Keyboards will also tell you when you have to stop typing because you usually type for hours and never let them rest.
Keyboards will also tell you they are fed up with how much you use them and if you insist on using them, they might even split out some of your secrets.
Taking into account, that those keyboards are the best secret keepers. Imagine if people could act like keyboards and how others' secrets will be hidden.
I guess everyone should be happy that the keyboard is an electronic device that doesn't have any brain otherwise a mess would have happened between people.
But we should show some interest towards them maybe they can converse about destiny!
Hehehehe...just kidding
Lastly, The very advice that keyboards give us is "always keep one finger on the escape button"
Now in the comment section, if your keyboard could talk, what do you think it would say?
Now I'll tell you the importance of TIME
Time is a journey ending with an ellipsis. It's as long as death terminates our existence to see the end.
Human existence is bounded by time. Birth is the upper bound while death is the lower bound.
Time is measured by hours, days, years and so on. No one can evade the expiration of time.
If I were a mathematician I'd have to try finding the limit of time to infinity or trying to break the components of time into infinitesimal quantities.
If I were a physicist I'd have tried to plot components of time into multidimensional tensor coordinates.
But I'm confident it'll be an ineffective action.
Time is life.
Waste non of it. It's a big sorrow to feel like going to the history to amend a fault.
The future need not take permission from the past; it doesn't consult the past before advent into reality in one's life.
Time is like a broken vehicle on an abrupt.
It ripples through to an infinite rope till the intellectual gets quieted.
It'd have been fair if strength can complement the effect of time but it's a tragic strength that deteriorates either.
Learn to enjoy every minute of your life. The moment is at once the extensively beneficial and the most precious of all possession. Be happy now. Don’t defer for something outside of yourself to make you convinced in destiny. Determine how useful is the moment you have to consume, whether it’s a chore or with your family. Every juncture should be commemorated and savoured.
Time is a gift that requires to be invested in. Time as a natural nomenclature is a treasure let's embrace it.
Time is life
Spend it wisely.
Live a good life.
Be the best you can be to humanity.s
How To Succeed In Any Sphere Of Life
How To Succeed In Any Sphere Of Life?
Do you want to be successful in your business?
Do you want to enjoy a lasting marriage?
Do you want to encounter pastoral success as a growing ambassador?
Do you wish to do well in that skill you've acquired?
Do you aspire to be as great as the person you are admiring?
I believe you do because no one hates greatness.
Then do this
FOLLOW THAT PERSON(s).
Get acquainted with them and learn from them because they have the key to what you seek.
Follow them in these ways:
Know their story. This is because, behind every glory, there's a story.
Read their books if they've authored any. If you're not a reader, you'll struggle to prosper. Read to get informed.
Follow them on their social media handles.
Pay the price they paid. You don't get success on a platter of gold; you work diligently and sacrifice for it. They paid some price to get there, therefore climb through the ladder they've released by practising what they tell you.
This is because *Experienced people have become experts in their niche. They've gone through storms and winds, valley and plain and have something valuable to tell you to have a successful journey.
Experts are the shoulders on which Novices climb to greatness.
WHEREVER THERE IS A WILL, THERE IS A WAY.
Are you willing?
Then, follow the way.
If you are willing to succeed, the way is hard work.
If you are willing to rise, the way is Courage.
If you are willing to improve yourself, the way is to read, follow and listen to inspiring and personal development content.
If you are willing to become wealthy, the way is to be gainfully employed and manage your expenses.
If you are willing to start hearing God speak to you clearly, the way is to develop intimacy with the Holy Spirit by fasting, praying, studying the book, and engaging in.
If you are willing to be an ardent reader, the way is to set a time limit for a selected book monthly, weekly, and daily.
If you are willing to start earning online, the way is to learn new skills like Content writing, graphics designing, Google ads, etc.
If you are willing to become a global influencer, the way is to Impact positive values in people, online and offline.
If you are willing to live a Holy life and obtain eternal life, the way is to carry out God's instructions in the scriptures.
There is always a direction if you are keen.
Choose your APOSTLES FROM YOUR DISCIPLES.
Choose your COMPANY based on your DESTINY.
Everyone must not fall into your circle.
You must not become a wife or husband to every dick and Tom.
If you know where you are headed in life, ministry, business, etc; choose a few people who are headed in that direction.
They will show you the way when there seems to be no way.
They will help to refine you.
They will help to ignite your passion and dreams.
They will help you fan into flames the tiny flames of zeal, grace, and strength.
Never allow people who control your time, attention, and destiny in the long run.
That is how you'll be able to rise to greatness, birth realities and become the Best of you.
1 REASON WHY POVERTY WON'T LEAVE YOU.
(Are you tired of your poor financial state? Read and practice this👇)
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Severally, whenever I visit anybody, I don't like to eat from their houses, not that I am putting up 'a holier than thou attitude' or 'claiming a big girl'.
Also, I am in the habit of rejecting money gifts sometimes when offered any. Parental upbringing is the sole reason behind this.
But, I got a perspective shift lately from one of my teachers whom I turned down his offer.
In his words, you don't pray out scarcity you lend it out.
He first made me realize that giving is a seed one sows which have a time of harvest. Just like one plants corn, which the earth receives, processes and produces lots of maize _ something greater than what the person sowed.
He said one can pray and fast for many years so that God would abolish poverty or financial stagnation from his life, but this would yield little or no results if the person fails to apply the principle of receiving _ which is GIVING.
Secondly, when you refuse to collect a gift given sincerely and willingly to you by another person, YOU ARE AN ENEMY OF THAT PERSON'S BREAKTHROUGH. E shock! Shouldn't it?
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Today, I've learnt my lessons and I implore you to do as well.
Don't be your witch by being stingy. Start giving out today, even from the little you have. You are sowing seeds that even your generations would reap.
Secondly, henceforth, don't be an enemy of another person's progress. If you are given something cheerfully, especially when you didn't ask for it, PLEASE, RECEIVE AND LEAVE A WORD OF BLESSING ON THE PERSON."
Steps To Becoming The Best Version Of Yourself
Steps To Becoming The Best Version Of Yourself.
Self-improvement and personal development are a necessity for anyone who wants to enjoy a meaningful life and become influential.
Below are 3 steps you must climb to becoming better than you were a second, minute, hour, day, week, month and year ago.
1. READ. Be a good reader. Get acquainted with not just any book, but rather books that transform.
Not all books that you lay your hands on are healthy for you. Be an ardent reader.
Discover and read books that have an answer to your questions in any area of life.
If you're not an ardent reader, you'll never outgrow the level you are at.
Read people's articles, posts and content online as well. Stop skipping posts just because it's long. Read through and keep your mind open; pieces of information that could change you for the best could flow in.
2. LISTEN. You have to develop the habit of paying attention to both nonsense and meaningful things.
Also, pay attention to both young and old. I don't play secular music but I pay attention to most of them and grab lessons to help life and other people.
You could get helpful pieces of information from what you hear, either said directly to you or not.
3. ACT. After you've read and heard, if you do not take action toward all you've derived, you'll remain.
Having acquired lessons on anything like finance, skill, personal development etc, ACT.
Make a move from your current position.
A step is taken forward consistently and gradually takes you to your desired destination.
This is for you that think you are not good enough to perform a given task or pursue a dream, (such as becoming a recognized influencer, a writer, a singer or choir leader in your local church, a departmental head, a teacher, a coach, etc)
You don't have to be accurate to stimulate and impart to others, rather let people get facilitated by how you handle your deficiencies.
And how can you do that?
By heroically performing that which you reckon you can't.
Yes phase-out fearlessly and do what you ought to do with the knowledge you have. Then in the long-run struggle and step towards manifestation.
Are you a beginner at writing? Don't fail to publish the knowledge you have that can help others. But secure to horn your aptitude by reimbursing for a composition class.
Do you want to become a singer? As soon as the recourse comes, make sure you handle the microphone in any program. Don't forget to obtain voice training skills from an Academy or polished faculty.
Do you desire to teach? Come to be an institute teacher or associated Sunday School trainer.
Are you a called preacher? Please, share the gospel on every platform, whether you have a good command of English or not. But, don't hesitate to enrol in Heritage theological seminary and university, Aba, Abia state (that's my alma mater)
I was never a perfect singer, preacher, writer, or teacher before I started inspiring and imparting to others; but now, I am better than yesterday.
Everyone in life has this innate desire to climb to another level of life.
You want to upgrade your current position, either in business, ministry, spiritual life, location, financially or otherwise.
That's okay and wonderful. It proves you're truly living. But I want to let you know that there are sacrifices to pay.
While you're disturbing God in prayers and as well working hard to upgrade your level, He's hearing and have you at heart. But, there are sacrifices to pay.
I bring to your notice that you'll pass through challenges and difficulties, but you must endure. The way to the Top is not a fantastic one. It has thorns to endure, mockeries to overlook, discouragements to ignore, pleasures (food, sleep, entertainment) to forfeit. But with discipline and determination, you will reach there.
Re: Your experiences are the prices you pay for another level. If you can't DO IT, you definitely won't HAVE IT.
Motivational Series
Motivational Series
Here, I will be sharing motivational and uplifting words to help you in boosting your energy and productivity for the whole week. I hope it resonates!
I already plan on writing on ways to overcome procrastination but I will be deviating from the topic this morning. Why? Before I went to bed last night, I received an amazing gift from a friend. She created a flyer for me to appreciate my writings. I was startled! I slept with tranquillity and fulfilment.
In everything you do, the world is watching. With every baby step you take, someone somewhere is observing. As a writer, are you tired of the low engagements on your wall? You shouldn't! Keep pushing harder, be consistent and you will be awed when you start to notice a magnificent difference.
I have seen some people who will neither react nor comment on any of my posts here but will rather send a direct message to me telling me how much I have inspired them. Isn't that huge? Don't be discouraged by low reactions. You have a lot to offer. Bring it on!!!
We are now in the middle of May. How well are you working towards your goals? Are you progressing or retrogressing? Don't wait to be helped. Take necessary actions and make every minute count.
I can see you are going through tough battles in your life. The non-stop tears behind closed doors. The agony. The pain. The humiliations. The rejections. The failures. The stillness. I know life hasn't been easy and the journey seems farther day by day. Are you on the brim of abandoning?
Stand on your feet. Champions do not quit! Only those who dare to forge on amidst obstructions emerge victoriously. You have a thousand reasons and more to survive.
Remember that your problems are less compared to another person's hardships. If we were all told to write our heartaches on a piece of paper, we will be thankful when we realize that our current situation is ten times better than others.
Appreciate the little things you have and cheer yourself over your little wins. Be focused and develop a high spirit of determination.
Some people are eager to hear about your downfall. Won't you prove them wrong?
Most importantly, pray!
My biggest fear in life is dying without creating a good legacy. What's the purpose of my existence if I don't leave footprints on the sands of time? While in solitude, I do question and evaluate myself on what achievements I've made so far. I'm still not complacent with the results because I know I still have a lot of bridges to cross.
There's this word that keeps spinning in my small head–"Anywhere I see pain and suffering, that's where I want to be, doing all I can to help the situation". That's very powerful. Right? My sparks would ignite lives as much as possible and I pray to Allah to support me in achieving those dreams.
When you decease what do you expect to be recollected for? See, you must shine your light whichever way you can. You are not darkness, you possess an invisible, mystique and extraordinary light inside of you–that's your inner spark. Our creator has gifted every being with this special endowment. Why are you hiding your light? It's meant to brighten and awaken dead minds. Isn't it?
Ruminate on these questions. What am I good at? What's my purpose here? How can I ignite my inner light to become a better version of myself and to people in my environment?
Because, The Why gives birth to your purpose, vision, goals, and values for Living life.
Life is too quick to emphasize yourself with people who don't even merit to be a problem in your being.
Treat those questions sincerely, and try to figure out your strength and weaknesses. Your weakness might be fear, procrastination and even mental disorders such as anxiety, depression and others.
I will be writing on the 10 biggest fears that hold you back from living your best life and ways to combat them.
You have a purpose to fulfil here. The clock Is ticking. Make every second worthy. The world needs more from you.
One underrated way to boost your productivity
One underrated way to boost your productivity
If you have been struggling to stay productive, it could be for this one reason that not so many people are paying attention to. Well, why would anyone pay so much attention to something that's supposed to be harmless?
Just like me, you might have read tons of content on how to boost your engagement on social media. They said you should also try to engage your audience in the comment section, and as soon as possible. That made sense to you so each pop from this blue app gets your attention. No, I'm not about to counter that with facts I don't have in fact we are in that boat together.
Carving a niche for yourself and creating content consistently on your niche while targeting your ideal audience helps you to build authority. As such, your DM has become a platform for q and a. The more you help people to solve their problems by answering their questions, the more your klt (know like and trust) factor becomes stronger. Of course, that's the plan, so no question goes unanswered.
There's always time for everything but somehow game time is not always strictly adhered to. Not when you're been reminded of what you stand to lose for missing a day. This might not apply to you but trust me, some people are very intentional with their games.
There's always this unplanned haphazard movement of your thumb, in most cases, on your phone from app to app, site to site, messages to messages, links to links, and so on. It makes sense to check Instagram stories you always look forward to, click on a link for a new job opportunity, or to just simply confirm a payment. What you are not paying attention to is how much of your productive time is stolen while doing those seemingly harmless tasks.
One of the reasons for not being productive is the lack of discipline to prioritize. Honestly, I agree that setting priorities can suddenly become difficult especially when you get an endless pop of attention-stealing notifications coupled with the fear of missing out.
Do you realize that even after waking up with so much energy to make sure all the activities on your to-do list for the day get checked, it only takes one notification and one innocent click to ruin it all? Before you know it, you have gone from a WhatsApp status to a few clicks and scrolling on Facebook, to watching a video on youtube, visiting a site, reading a mail, and landing on a telegram channel then going back to WhatsApp to type omo, its four pm now now, thirty minutes is the new twenty four hours. I need seventy two hours in a day. Can't we just be able to buy time like it was done in the movie in time?
If only you can just avoid being cut up with tasks stealing your time easily, by simply turning off your notifications before you turn on your data in the morning. How long to turn it off is a personal decision as only you will be able to tell when you're ready to get swamped in notifications. Doing this will help you stay focused on your tasks for the day and also give you more time to relax.
Some studies have revealed that it takes twenty three minutes to recover from a distraction. How many times do you get distracted in a day just by leaving your notifications on? ten, twenty, fifty times or more? Do the maths.
If you want to boost your productivity, please turn off the notifications of some of your apps. If you fear that some people such as your audience, friends, or customers will not be able to reach you then you might want to consider informing them about your decision. A few texts like the one below could do the trick.
"I have discovered that I am more productive by xyz time and I have decided that during this time, I will turn off notifications on some of my apps so I can make the most of it. This is also a way of staying focused and serving you better, thank you."
It will not take so long for people to adjust and if you stay true to your words and actions, they will help you to spread the word. Something like this You don't want to send a message to Chika at this time, I'm sure she's reading, will start flying around.
And there you go, boosting your productivity. You will be surprised at how much you can do when you have blocked all the paths that lead to distraction. You will discover that the task is not difficult, you only need to discipline yourself to prioritize.
Trapped by Scars!
Trapped By Scars!!!
We at some point in life might have had that ugly moment that left us with scars, marks we don't ever want to talk about...
The soul mind body and spirit scream but we camouflage as chameleons do, feigning perfection where there was none, just to keep the truth away.
We say to ourselves; After all, everyone has skeletons in their cupboards why should I let mine out first!!!
We hide our faces in fake beauty, sealing our scars so that it becomes impossible for anyone to see.
we are caught up in the middle of perfectionism, covering up, patching up, and sealing up. Be careful not to let the world know what we've been through.
we have become a people who have mastered the skill of "panel beating"
The scars meant to heal others we have kept away from them. We deprived men, women, and children that should have seen the scar and drawn strength and wisdom from it.
We have traded our healing for the prison and exchanged our freedom for oppression. We have now become TRAPPED!!!
Trapped by the scars that should represent our freedom from pain. Trapped by the fears of what the scars represent. Trapped by the feigned perfectionism in our societies. Trapped by the scar.
We are trapped( entangled, imprisoned,) by nothing. You could say I don't know what 'that scar' represents in your life which is true, but let me share with you;
The scar represents pain in the past and healing in the present. A scar tells you a story that once upon a time there was a wound, but it is healed and it no longer hurts or bleeds.
A scar tells you right here where I lay, was a painful wound that was uncomfortable, but it's gone already.
A scar tells you a story.
A scar represents healing and painless Ness. Unfortunately, we have refused to let the scar remind us of the healing, rather we have become comfortable thinking about only the wound and pain when we see the scar.
The scars that we should boldly flaunt have become an unpleasant ordeal to us, it is made a top-notch secret that no one should know or talk about, not even our loved ones.
No wonder we have repetitional falls from generation to generation, it becomes a pattern of repetitive identical falls, and one vice becomes generational.
Ohh!!! If only these scars were taken intentionally, it could have prevented the stereotypic generational falls...
It's a repetition of unpleasant patterns because we are afraid to talk about the scars, the ugly histories.
Speaking would have saved our children and their children, but no, everyone chose the deadly silence, forcing everyone to learn from their own mistakes.
Look where that has landed us?.everyone makes the same mistakes and we say it's better?
Something is certainly wrong. I think that one man's mistake if properly learned and intentionally taught to the younger generation could save generations the pain of falling and getting hurt continually.
I know 'that scar' was once painful but it's healed now, it is time to expose the scars, breathe the fresh air of grace, let our children see, let them ask questions, let's discuss the foolish choices that landed us in deep trouble.
Talk about the scar, it's just history.
You have to love the next generation enough to let them in on your once bad past let us know so we can grow and escape the fall.
I know the scar can save us from the fall
No longer trapped. We are free!!! Free men and women. We'll let the people see and learn. We break loose.
Talking about the scars might bring tears but it is worth it. Your story could save someone a lifetime of regrets.
Make a Deep Search Within
Make a Deep Search Within
Seated at the research desk, I allowed my mind to engage in a very serious search. It was as though I was employed by a company for the post of a Critical Thinker whose job was to think and make amazing creative ideas that could boost positive results for an existing problem in the said company.
"Uncle had said that there's something I can do that could help me discover the potentials laid inside of me" I made a say right within me.
That statement had once captivated my heart, but I thereafter realized that, as I thought deeper for results, it became an enemy to my tiny mind.
I couldn't see anything that I could do that could therefrom, help me discover any potential in me.
The only thing I knew I could do very well, which to me made no sense, was my capacity to gist very well.
"What could the natural capacity to talk help me discover in me?" a question popped into my mind.
Suddenly, my mind pictured a scenario where I had once used my inherent capacity (to talk) to persuade an influential woman to buy the mummy's newly acquired lamp (it was a lamp that the mummy bought and thereafter realized it was not necessary she had bought it) for her son who needed a lamp.
Alongside, the thought of having to venture into marketing came across my mind. Specifically, my mind thought of copywriting. Copywriting came across my mind because I knew I had a little flair for writing.
Again, I tried to see another alternative, just in case copywriting doesn't work out well.
I thought about the capacity I always had to make videos and take photos.
"My videos and photos are always beautiful to behold each time I made them," I thought.
My friends had always commented well on my videos, as well as my siblings and other relatives. It was one other thing I knew I could do.
Immediately, my mind ran through an occasion where I was once invited to video a conference by one of the student organizations in my school when the ASUU strike had not yet tampered with the academic system.
"I could create video content online for others to see, wow!" An exciting voice said within me.
I understood the worth that came with making video content online, especially on YouTube.
While I thought, I caught myself nodding in affirmation and alongside, I stamped my right foot at a very low tempo, like a lady who was following the rhythm of music played to her hearing.
And little by little, the joy of "I have potential right inside of me" ate me up.
I realized that the natural talking capacity I had was not just there for fun, but that, it was there to help me identify a skill I'd love and then develop myself using such skill.
I realized that the videos and pictures I made of myself in my room, and the frequent posting of those videos and pictures on my WhatsApp space, were not just done for fun. I could only do that for a purpose, which was, of course, to realize the worth I had right inside of me.
Of course, I never settled to run with only what I thought was what I had in me (the copywriting and video content making stuff), I also thought it wise to consult my Maker (God) for a more thorough search within me.
Because I believed He does see more than I could see.
As I read through His word daily, He made me realise the potentials and capacities I had within me.
ASUU strike became my friend, I utilized it and made self-improvements and developments.
I didn't look around to get paid by anyone after a little service anymore.
I didn't see myself as worthless and incapable of learning new things that could help me make an impact anymore.
All I saw was a Ruth who could learn and develop herself to make an impact in the world where she finds herself.
I saw my value and I saw my significance.
As I continued to develop myself during the Strike, joy took hold of me and I never saw myself as being idle anymore.
As the day went by, I continued in joy.
Until one day, ASUU decided to call off their strike.
I was shocked by my ribs because I never expected them.
Even if I knew I had never felt like going back to school, I had no choice but allowed myself to resume school fully. This was because education, as they had always rightly said is an edge to climbing a mountain.
But before then (before the ASUU strike was called off), uncle Joseph kept checking up on me from time to time. I gave him feedback and then I got the encouragement that my soul always desired.
The End!
FOR YOU:
As a youth, you are more than you can ever imagine.
You may not have the best picture, but your Maker has it all.
It's wise to maximize this strike after making a deep search within (and without depending on your circumstances). Remember, you're not growing any younger.
Don't mourn the strike, maximize it.
Think Deep
THINK DEEP
Have you ever felt disappointed before?
Have you ever felt heartbroken?
Have you ever felt like no one cares, and alongside, you felt rejected?
Now, try to have a rethink.
Have you ever considered what possibly could have caused you such experience(s)? If not, then I guess you might find this interesting.
To start with, let's consider the illustration below.
A woman who is found heavy with a child sometimes quietly imagines the day her unborn child would come forth. In order words, she awaits the day her unborn child would come forth into the world. This alone makes her expectant. She wouldn't be expectant if she had no seed in her, right? Also, she wouldn't be expectant if she had gotten rid of the pregnancy, right?
It's not like am encouraging abortion oo, it's just an illustration. Remember, pregnancy takes a long process (nine months) for the proper growth of the child within a woman. Without such a process (which brings about growth), a woman would be found not to be pregnant. Therefore, she can't be expecting a baby.
Back to the woman that is pregnant.
If peradventure (God forbid ooo), an expectant mother loses her baby by any means, what would be of her? I guess you know she'd be sad for days, she may not even eat for days, and of course, she'd end up frequently soaking her pillow with tears. She'd pass through serious hell. And unfortunately, she becomes heartbroken.
But why?
She was heavy with seed within her for so long, she expected to have been a mother of a child like every other woman, but unfortunately, it turned out the other way round.
This could be a sad and heartbroken experience, right?
Anyways, I'd love to draw my point from this analogy.
Please get this;
When relating with a friend you believe you so much love with all your heart,
When doing good to people,
And again, when praying for others.
Try not to nurture any seed in your heart that could bring about making you expectant of anything good you think they can offer.
It's disastrous to allow ourselves to become expectant of any good thing anybody can offer us, no matter what beautiful thing we think we had done for them.
It's not just about the feeling popping up in our minds, it's about giving it space to grow and allowing our minds to strive for it. It's our place to abort such a feeling each time it flashes on our minds.
Yes, abort it, don't keep it.
Don't keep the pregnancy, abort it!
Whenever one feels disappointed by someone else's act, check well, one was once filled with expectations of good things from such "someone else".
When a lady (for instance), feels heartbroken by the actions or words of anybody (perhaps a guy or a lady like her who was just a friend) check closely, you'd discover she was at a point filled with beautiful hopes and expectations from that person she claims broke her heart.
It can't be doubted that whenever anyone feels rejected by the conduct of whomever, there had one time existed beautiful expectations in the heart of such a person which were overturned.
I hope we'd sooner realize that no matter how committed we are in a relationship, no matter how much good we do to others, and no matter how much we pray for others, if we fail to build our expectations and hopes on God (our Maker) we'd sooner pass through more feelings of heartbreaks, disappointments and rejections.
The bitter truth is, nobody owes you anything good (I mean anything good), but God owes you everything beautiful, yes, everything beautiful. Why not turn your eyes to Him?
Don't grow your expectations on whatever good thing anybody can offer you. Avoid heartbreaks, disappointments and pains.
Grow your hope and be expectant upon the promises of God over your life. He owns you.
You too can be the apple of His Eyes.
Know your worth. You are you and deserve the glorious life. You have to make your life stunning. But for this, you first need to care more about yourself than others. Hope you got it.
Decision Making
THIS OR THAT?
Decision making can be great pain.
You wake up one Tuesday morning. The sun is out in its full glory and the sky is a remarkable blue.
You need to go shopping. A new bottle of perfume is first on your list because the old one is almost empty and you value your body scent a lot.
You complete the early morning
necessaries and set out. The air is clean. You inhale and exhale deeply. It is a beautiful sunny day.
You get to the store and they do not have your usual brand. According to them, it is not available in the market. You do not want to waste time checking another place, so you decide to check out the available brands.
Here, the problem begins.
They all have appealing fragrances. You like all of them. There is a battle in your head: This one. No, this one. This one is mild. This one is alluring. Wait… this one is more me.
The battle is fierce, the world is forgotten and your day isn't looking so beautiful anymore.
If you could, you would buy them all. Why does it have to be so tough?
Eventually, you pick your best two. You don't need to make the incorrect intention. You want the very best. 'If Amaka were here, this would have been easier.
You are scared you will not get your desired results. You do not trust your sense of judgement.
At last, you pick one, because you can not kill yourself.
Now, you walk to the provisions section and as you do so, a terrible feeling swells within you: 'I should have chosen the other one.'
This happens even to the best of us. We worry so much about making a bad decision that we do not derive satisfaction from the one we eventually make.
After spending minutes, hours and even days trying to decide on something, we still end up feeling like we made the wrong or bad decision.
The truth is there will always be downsides to whatever decision you make. Some people may say your perfume is great and some others may say it is too harsh.
To start with, you have to be confident in yourself and your sense of judgement.
Do not spend hours brooding on the possible failures that could result from whatever choice you make that you end up making a bad choice.
Yes, it happens. By subjecting yourself to so much pressure and worry, you may become unable to see that small flaw which could lead to a lot of problems.
Again, anyone can make mistakes and worrying will not help in any way. Just do your thing.
In the end, that decision may not be as bad as you imagine.
Just like when you put on that perfume and the whole world compliments you on how nice you smell — 'Please, what is the name of your perfume?'
Have you ever made a decision that appeared terrible but turned out to be very rewarding?
Growth will occur if you continue to take regular activity.
Success will come if you continue to progress.
Be patient while you continue to do what you need to do to reach your goal.
Make your decision patiently and always think positive for a better career.
Take some eternities to think about your voyage so far. Yes! You are attempting your nicest.
You have accomplished this distance because you are performing some aspects right. Look internal, recognize those stuff and heighten them.
You can be the best version of yourself. Or a second rate version of someone else. Make a choice!
There is no success in comparison. Focus on your strengths. Do your thing. Succeed!
"Spread love, not hate"
There's enough love to go around if only the world is committed to spreading love.
Not only when it favours you, but your voice against evil should also be loud and clear whether you stand to gain something or nothing.
Do good at all times! Spread love as much as you can! The world needs more of it!
In whatever you do, never get too comfortable!
Thinking of Giving Up?
THINKING OF GIVING UP? PLEASE READ THIS
The growth process can be difficult, and sometimes, giving up may seem like the easiest thing to do, right?
A few days ago, I signed up for a writing boot camp because I want to grow as a writer under the guidance of someone more experienced, and I want to begin to earn as a writer.
Last week Monday, the boot camp kicked off and we were given our first classwork which was to be submitted within 15 minutes.
We were told to generate a brand message using the formula we were taught.
Now, when this formula was shared, everyone was like, “Wow! This is easy.” At first, that was what I also believed, but after some minutes enacted and I couldn’t develop my brand message.
I felt very bad and angry with myself because this was quite easy for every other person. I couldn't figure out what value I would love to put out as a brand.
At some point, I saw the assignment and the training itself as too hard. Well, I wasn't acquainted with that sort of thing and I was scared that I would fumble greatly, but I persisted.
I prayed for God's insight and for Him to organise my thoughts, and I began to note down points until finally, I developed the lines that are my brand message.
Now, this is not a particularly extraordinary feat, but the thing is, I was reluctant to just give up.
Sometimes, you get discouraged. It could be because what is easy for others seems a bit difficult for you. This doesn't mean you're stupid or not smart enough to get the concept. And that doesn't mean you should give up because fear says the process is hard and you'll fail woefully.
Do you remember how in secondary school, most people including you maybe, would stick with only the winning house during inter-house sports?
Well, I did something similar back then. I abandoned my house because I felt our cultural act wasn't good enough. I was afraid of failure, so I ran.
Funny thing is, my house took second.
My housemaster was disappointed and unhappy with me for abandoning him when I was most needed. I felt terrible because I knew that if I had given it my all, maybe, just maybe, my house would have taken first.
Now, what if that fear turns out to be false and everything turns out right?
Our minds have a way of making us feel little when truly, we are bigger than we could ever conceive.
Nuseir Yassin, a well-known content creator, faced three major failures which birthed a new idea that has become the multi-billion dollar company, NasDaily.
This is proof that even during that downtime you may face, something really beautiful can spring forth. So never give up!
When things get too difficult, eat something nice, get a little rest, learn how to do it better, and try again.
HOW TO PROTECT YOUR MENTAL HEALTH
Our mind is the main container of our being and presence. Your mind is the central processing unit of your existence just like the CPU does to your computer.
If you can't joke with your computer's central processing unit, you should not joke with your life. But sadly a lot of people will rather protect their laptop's CPU than protect their mind.
Your mind is the soul of your life, when the mind is sick, that life is sick as well.
So how do I protect my mental health?
Let's continue with how to protect your mind;
1. Talk about your feelings and fears; Doing this helps to relieve the pressure in your mind that might progress to depressive thoughts and dispositions.
2. Take a break; excessive and chronic mental stress can affect your mental health. If your mind is bombarded consistently with negativity and put under pressure with wrong information, the mind can begin to malfunction which is evident in mental health issues.
3. Manage your ear-time; Your ear-time directly affects your life. You cannot be better than what you're constantly exposed to in words. What you hear about yourself forms a perception about yourself if there is no contrary opinion to counter that opinion. This is very common in verbal abuse cases where people are made to see themselves as worthless. Close your ears to words and news that won't promote your mental health and life.
4. Mind what you read; In this era of the information boom on social space, you have to be intentional about what you read on social media platforms. It can make or mar your mental health or mind. There is information you should not consume, remember people react to things differently and as well as differently. Select what you read on the media space, you must not read everything you come across.
5. Feed on materials and inspiration that will help maintain good mental health, first among such books is the Bible. The Bible remains the best tool for maintaining your sanity in an insane world. The Bible holds the solution to the problem in your mind. Get other good books and feed on them, and see yourself winning the fight against mental instability.
Talk to someone you trust and respect; The first person you should completely trust in God, talk to Him before any other person because He completely knows and understands what you're going through. If God cannot help you, there is little or nothing any man can do for you. Happenings around you can attest to this truth that God is supreme and indispensable. Also, talk to a person around you that you know can hold your hand out of what you're going through.
What you don't protect you can't safeguard. Protect your mind, every news is targeted at your mental health. Protect it.
I hope this makes sense to you.
@Syra