@Shuu 24 October 2021

Don't Just Marry In a Whim

*What is your ideal age to marry? What are the things you think that you should accomplish first before settling down?* As a young woman at 21, with a mental age of 16, the idea of marriage really scares me! And in this article, I'll tell you why...

I noticed that as I am slowly getting older, that some of my batchmates really seems to be in a hurry to settle down. Some of them are already married, lived in, some had their first baby... I'm not saying that there's any wrong with that, I am actually happy for them for having a strong heart of taking such big steps in their life! I'm not envious either. Because tbh I'm actually still scared to enter that stage - to become a wife or a mother. Not just because I think 21 is too young to marry, but also I haven't had achieve anything yet! Well, I have a boyfriend that I love so much. A great guy! I'd kill just to marry him. But as soon as possible? No. I love him, but I think ***marriage does not just need love to actually work.*** Me, myself knows I'm not stable enough to have that kind of commitment. Personally, I think I still need to improve myself - emotionally, physically and mentally. Because how can I even take care of my future husband and future kids if I don't even know how to treat my self well yet? One other reason is I can't even support myself financially yet. I want to at least graduate first, pass my LET exam, and then get hired as a teacher. (I'm not that type of woman who relies solely to her man's financial support, Nuh uh!) I want to at least save a pretty reasonable amount of money to start my own family first. Honestly, *it is not just about whether your partner is the right one for you, but also if you are also the right person for him/her to spend the rest both of your lifetime.* **Make sure that you're fully ready to take that step. Do not just marry on a whim!** Don't just marry because you love him/her so much. Don't just marry because you are "soul mates" Don't just marry because you want to bind your partner to yourself as if you own him/her. Don't romanticize marriage too much! Ever heard any married couple claiming that marriage is a simple thing? No. Plan it smart. Take your time. Love and build foundations. Because I am not in a rush. How about you? 🦋Hey. I would really appreciate if you subscribe and read my articles! Don't hesitate to write your comments about this article! Please read my other articles as well! Let's all be friends 😊 Lovelots, Shuu ❣️