We don't wear our problems on our face's.
Good afternoon guys. How is your weekend going? It appears that harmattan has arrived; I've been complaining about the heat, but now there's cold.😅
I'm going to relate this topic to people making incorrect assumptions about you.
As we grow older, we face more challenges, which can cause us problems. When we were kids, all we had to do was eat, cry, and sleep; our parents took care of everything else.
We don't flaunt our difficulties. People who are going through a lot tend to smile a lot. There was a time in church when the choir master was telling us about someone who came up to him after service and told him that the song we ministered had really touched her and she shared her problems with him, and he said he never expected someone like that to be going through all of that. we have a tendency to make assumptions about people based on their outer appearance.
There are a lot of cases like this, and a lot of people are trying to be happy on the outside. "You don't look like you don't have money," "you don't look like you can cook," and "you look so quiet," 😂 are some assumptions people make sometimes. They are basically just assumptions, and while you are free to have your own opinion, those opinions are frequently incorrect, or you simply assume that because you believe that is how it should be.
When I hear about other people's problems, I thank God because I know mine isn't the worst, nor is it the best. Some people are going through hell, whether financially, mentally, spiritually, or otherwise, and they can't tell anyone because they might not believe them, or they're probably too afraid to share their problems.
I just remembered another one of a woman who shared a testimony about how she was healed of an ailment (I'm not sure what it is, but she said she wouldn't be able to give birth) and you wont even know because she was so happy and all, and she's rich enough to take care of herself.
Another mistaken assumption people have about wealthy people is that they always have their lives figured out or that they are immune to illness because of their wealth. When people with money share their problems, we find it difficult to believe them, and most of the time they don't have people to turn to because people are the ones who go to them for help. We don't look like what we are going through.
Just be nice to people and stay positive, and no situation will last forever and be grateful.
What is one wrong assumption that people have about you?
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Yeah, I know we've all been in situations where the rich get away with everything; you may have even experienced it as a person or as a friend.
Yes, it is good to make or have money. There is a certain level of power that comes with wealth, and most people tend to abuse it.
The most recent incident resulted in the death of a child, which is heartbreaking.
Some people bullied a 12-year-old boy in Jss2 because he refused to join them, so they would always collect his food and do other things to him. Until one night when he was in his room and about 5 people came in and threw his other roommates out. They beat him mercilessly and gave him a substance to drink (some said it was engine oil) and threatened the other kids to keep their mouth shut. The boy felt so sick that he couldn't walk, his mouth looked like it was peeling from the substance he drank, and he was in so much pain that he eventually passed away. (May his perfect soul rest in peace🕊🕊)
When the news spread, the parents of those children flew two of them out of the country. The school attempted to cover up for them in order to save the school's name, and the parents of those five children are wealthy or influential and are attempting to save their children. By now, justice has still not been served. They won't waste time arresting those people if it's the child of a governor or someone in a high position. But I know they can't stay hidden indefinitely.
Some of us have had some experience with this in some form or another. In school, those whose parents are wealthy are given little or no work, while the rest of us have to do the tedious work.😂 (not in all cases tho)
It could even happen at work. I am sure you have heard of a person looking for a job who is very qualified, goes through an interview, and nails it only to find out that it was given to someone else because of his parents' position or something.
This is true even in the church. There are a lot of situations like that, and they can be sad and heartbreaking at times. Life isn't fair sometimes.
It is not wrong to have money; everyone works hard to make money, but don't use it to harm others in the process; your money can be used to help people in a positive way.
Thank you for your time.❤
Have a lovely day
Do you love out of pity?
Hey guys, so this one might be a little jumbled, but I'm just trying to gather my points to make it make sense.
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**Love** is such a beautiful feeling. It is fun, free and playful. When you are in love with someone who loves you too, you are at peace. You feel happy and radiate. You are not afraid because you know your heart is safe.
Erm.. So I've seen people enter relationships for a variety of reasons, including money, amusement, pity, love, and so on.
Entering into a relationship out of pity. Yes! It's a shame because you don't want to hurt them. I've heard it said that I agreed to be with him/her because I didn't want to hurt the person or because I was under pressure.
I believe you should first come clean with the person rather than hurting or wasting both of your time. Yes, there are a few cases where you enter a relationship with someone you don't like in that way, but You tend to fall in love with the person, but this does not always happen. Yes, it's called falling in love for a reason: you don't expect it to happen, you just do.
I was telling a friend that in a pity-based relationship, both partners will eventually be hurt. But he disagreed, claiming that in most cases, the partner accepted out of pity is the one who suffers, and that in some cases, when you accept another partner out of pity, you may fall in love with them in the long run, but the relationship may not last because he was speaking from personal experience.
"Do whatever you want, but don't hurt people," I've heard many people say.
Well, I agree in the sense that you can do whatever you want and be nice to people, but if you want to be something or express yourself, you shouldn't be rude about it or hurt people.
But I disagree because some people take offense at everything you do; you shouldn't do something to them, but they can do it to you, and I don't think it's possible to avoid hurting people.
It's similar to when someone asks you out; if you say "NO," the person is hurt; if you say "YES," the person is still hurt when he finds out, so you hurt the person either way.
I used to say that I preferred rejection to disappointment.
If you continue to be afraid of hurting someone, you will only harm yourself and that person because you will be unhappy.
I've seen people do things they don't want to do because they don't want to hurt the other person. This reminds me of Kissing Booth 3, where the girl (Elle) finally realized that she had spent her entire life doing what her best friend wanted for his own happiness rather than what she truly desired. Until she finally found what she's interested in and makes her happy.
Thanks for reading❤
Thanksgiving
Hey guys, we made it this far, and that is something we should be thankful for.
Thanksgiving is essentially a celebration of gratitude.
Yes, life can be difficult, but we should be grateful for both our successes and our failures.
It is also a tradition in the United States and some other countries, and it is observed on the last Thursday of November. It is essentially a day set aside to express gratitude for the year, which is a very good thing.
On Sunday, my pastor said we should start thanking God for the things we didn't get, the problems in our lives, which may seem counterintuitive, but his point was that when you keep thanking God for what he hasn't done, he is basically pushed to do more. Similarly, if you do something nice for someone and they keep thanking you, you will want to do more.
When you hear about other people's problems, you can't help but thank God. My life isn't perfect, and I don't have it all figured out, but I'm doing my best and grateful for what I have.
I'm not sure which year is better for me, 2021 or 2020, because they were both bad, but I'm grateful for the chance to try again next year
- I'm most thankful for life
- I'm thankful for my family
- I'm thankful for my friends
- I'm thankful for my health (I got sick a lot this year and I rarely get sick)
- I'm thankful that my body is functioning properly ( I can eat, I can go to the toilet, basically everything a human being is meant to do)
And so much more..
Here are some suggestions for cultivating gratitude on a regular basis.
**Send a thank-you note.**
Writing a thank you letter or email expressing your enjoyment and appreciation for that person's impact on your life can make you happier and strengthen your relationship with that person. We should not feel entitled when someone helps us always show gratitude.
Send it, or, if possible, deliver and read it in person.
Make it a point to send at least one gratitude letter per month. Write one to yourself every now and then.
**Mentally thank someone.**
You don't have time to write?
It may help to remember someone who has done something nice for you and mentally thank them.
**Maintain a gratitude journal.**
Make it a habit to write down or share your thoughts about the gifts you've received with a loved one every day.
**Count your blessings**.
Set aside some time each week to sit down and write about your blessings, reflecting on what went well or what you are thankful for.
Be specific in your writing and consider the feelings you experienced when something good happened to you. It might not look like much but the little achievement be thankful for it and once you write the them it motivates you.
**Pray**.
Everything we have is Gods doing, so be grateful to him. For the life he gives us and so many more.
**Meditate**.
The practice of mindfulness meditation entails focusing on the present moment without judgment.
Although most people concentrate on a single word or phrase (such as "peace"), it is also possible to concentrate on what you are grateful for (the warmth of the sun, a pleasant sound, etc.).
To be honest I thought I have not achieved anything this year, probably its not what I wanted but as I look back I notice the little ones. I joined this site this year, I also improved in sewing.
Be grateful
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Boosting children's self esteem
Happy new month, everyone! December is finally here😁.
It's been an amazing journey here on this platform, though it's been a while since I've written an article due to personal reasons and school resumption preparations.
Although some of my friends have resumed, I do not intend to resume this week because I need to get enough rest. I'm not lazy, but I do need to rest because I know I have lost some weight which I'm managing and I need to get it back 😅😅
Before I continue, I'd like to congratulate myself because I've been on this platform for a month and have passed the 100 view mark. I currently have over 175 views, which is a small number but with time will surpass 500 views, because nothing happens overnight.
So, back to the topic. boosting child self esteem let me state this; parenting is never easy and can be extremely frustrating at times due to a variety of issues. That is why it is critical to have a supportive partner so that you are not the only one trying to solve a problem that would have been simple if you had a supportive partner.
Parents should be cautious on how they speak to their children and how they punish them; I'm not saying that punishment is bad; however, after you've punished them, you must go over to them and correct them, telling them what they did wrong and showing them love so that they understand why you're correcting them.
It's why most children lack self-confidence, and this is due to the way they were treated at home, rather than simply beating and punishing them, we should let them have an understanding of what they did wrong.
Most times it what children are brought up with that sticks to them when they grow up. Just like therapy you get to realize that most times the problem is from childhood what they hear or see that is affecting them and kids needs to be watched at their early stage because that stage is very delicate.
I'd love to compile a list of things we can tell our children to boost their self-esteem, and these brief conversations can go a long way toward assisting them. though I don't have any child for now and I'm not into any relationship but through my experiences with children I was able to discover it
1. I'm really proud to call you my child : this might look like a simple word but you telling them this every time would make them confirm that they have someone at home that really care for them when they have issues some where else.
2. you make me smile
3. you would make a good leader
4. you will always be my hero
5.you are born to be great and you were never a mistake
thanks for reading ❤
Have a lovely month😊
Life is in phases.
Yes, there are steps to everything we do; they don't have to be in any particular order, but there is a method to everything.
Apart from the stress and reading, one of the reasons I'm in a rush to finish university is that we've wasted like two years, most of my friends graduated this year, and I'm not getting any younger.
But I learned that everyone's path in life is different; some individuals didn't start school early, but that didn't stop them; some didn't even go to school, but that didn't mean they wouldn't succeed; it just meant they took a different way to get to their objective.
We don't have to rush everything in life.
For example, if a woman is 23 or older, she is rushed into marriage. She may not have her life figured out by that age, whereas others may, but that does not mean she will not marry. They've merely taken a different route to get there. We all live fast paced lifestyles these days. We constantly seem to find ourselves in the thick of things, where we believe we are thriving. We are accustomed to using shortcuts and expecting immediate results, which leads to impatience.
**Benefits of being patient**:-
1. **Peace:-**Due to the heat of things we easily get triggered and when we don't get results it seems like the world is against us. However, with patience, you will find calm and be able to move at your own pace. It teaches us to pause, relax, and submit by letting go of things that don't benefit us.
2. **You cultivate enduring relationship**
Being patient has thought me how to handle or deal with a lot of people which has also helped my relationship with them better. Cause sometimes people can be annoying and you just want to vent your anger on them which will end up bad because "you cannot take those words back". It also helps us see things in another perspective.
Most times when someone gets on my nerve I just sit for at least 5mins and let all my anger in my head, then I can finally talk to the person and it appears to work for me.
3. **You think long term**:-
It helps us think far like into the future, long term goals and it gives us time to make proper decisions. You know that saying "Good things in life takes time.
**4. You learn to be considerate.**
When we're patient, we always behave with kindness in mind.
Patience encourages us to be patient and lenient when the world around us appears to be indifferent and restless.
We learn to be more patient with people who push us to our limits.
This is true not only in terms of how we treat others, but also in terms of how we treat ourselves.
**A lot of negativity in our life's can be avoided if we choose to be patient, though its not easy especially when you have struggles, but just move at your own pace and let God do the rest.**
Thank you for reading ❤
What are your preferences?
Hey guys😁
So I basically got this idea from @Gaftekloriginal were he talked about that saying "you can never find someone better than me" but what I want to focus on is the issue of girls asking guys for money.
First of all everyone has their own preference, some people like dark skin, tall, and the likes which is fine. But I just feel a lot of pressure has been put on people especially the youths to make money early and fast and everyone wants to live a luxurious life. So to the issue of talking to a guy, chatting or the texting phase before dating, most girls tend to ask for money they feel is supposed to be that way I don't know why.
Giving a girl or anybody money should be done willingly without any pressure, or just out of love or you want to help in your own way.
I am not saying I don't like money o, that's the main reason I am going through stress of school and the likes to make money and take Care of myself, I just have this mentality of getting my own money, because I dey spend gan and money is not easy to come by especially in the country were everything is tight and I don't want to have to depend on someone before I can take care of myself, that's what my parents are there but at this stage its still difficult asking them for money.
I keep saying this relationship before in our parents time was way easier, there's no need for long talks and their trust level too was high cause you can go months without speaking to your partner and things will be be fine compared to now.
**Why I feel relationship are the way they are now**
(This is just an opinion doesn't mean I am right)
First is this whole husband is the head of the family, his supposed to cater and take Care of the needs of his family which means its the man that spends more. And I feel this has affected what is going on now, any little thing a girl feels you should Care for her cause that's how its meant to be that the man is supposed to provide for her needs which isn't true.
**Second one**
Most people tend to forget that its a two way thing. Yes, God said a man should take care of his wife and he also said wife should take Care of the husband and submit to him which implies that as a girl its goes the same way for you when in a relationship with someone, its not a one way thing its both ways, they are not your parents to cater for your needs. Its only when you are married you become your husbands responsibility.
I still don't see the genuine reason why girls tend to involve money in everything now but I feel that's where the idea of billing a man came from.
Since I started watching Korean movies I have learnt a lot from them that's why I love their lifestyle. A lady can marry someone she's older than and its normal to them, the lady can pay for a guy's meal or even marry someone she's richer than, ladies even propose to guys first. It might not be the case all the time but they have that sense of its not a one man's job.
Like I said in the beginning everyone has preferences if it doesn't suit you, you can go for what works best for you.
I don't know if I was able to express my point well, I am not trying to attack anyone, its just how I see it that I am writing it.
Thanks for reading😊
Self reflection
Okay so I have been busy this days that I don't even have time for myself, I would have planned out my whole day then before I know it the day is gone and no time for myself.
I am an over thinker and most times it always affects me a lot. During that lockdown time it wasn't really good for me because asides from my phone and family I didn't really have much to do and social media can be depressing sometimes, so I just kept thinking how will I make money, eat, you know just life basically to the extent it became an habit late at night I will be awake thinking for like an hour and still not getting anything, just worrying about things that are not really necessary. So I decided to try some things to help me
1. Skincare/self care:- I had interest in it so I started watching videos on how to go about it and stuffs, so I started I was just using so many products although I read about them but I wasn't patient enough and I also spent a lot on it, then at some point they started clearing. I added one product to my skincare routine, I read everything about it for like the first 3weeks it was working like magic, then all of a sudden my face started itching me it was really bad, I stopped using it but now my face is better not perfect yet but its clear and this skincare just took my mind off a lot of things, although the journey was a bit rough but now skincare is just soothing and I love doing it, it makes me feel good about myself.
2. Music :- For me this is just like a medicine, it has its own way of healing, when I am trying to get my sh*t together I just listen to some music that reassures me that everything will be fine, it can be me dancing or just singing to it(at least it makes me feel good)
3. Enjoyment 😂:- sometimes we over work ourselves and don't take out time to relax and treat ourselves right.
Eat that food, go on that date, buy that cloth, go out with your friends,make yourself happy. You know we make money so we can spend them, I like satisfying myself o ,once in a while or anytime I get the opportunity.
4. Sleep:- This is important, get enough sleep, yeah your schedule maybe tight but try and fit in sleep into it, your health is important. There was a time I wasn't getting enough sleep you would even see it on my face, my body reacted o it took the rest for me I was sick for a while, I started increasing my sleep hours and reduced late night movies too😅 (I do this a lot).
we are all trying to find out who we are, what makes us happy. I am trying to be more expressive and also working on over thinking because I tend to bottle things up and try and solve everything on my own which is not good.
This site has helped me in expressing my self in a way. I have watched so many people doing their own thing in their own way of course people will judge you no matter what, but they are still living their life's and making it big.
**Create time for yourself, Live your life o, stay happy😊**.
Decision making
Hey guys, how has your week been? Mine has been pretty stressful, I have not really had time for myself, but we will be fine.
To the topic I have been thinking of what to write then I made the decision to write about "decision making".
For me I find it hard in making decisions cause I am always particular on making the right decision.(sometimes I tend to make the wrong decision after a lot of thinking)
**Course of study**
Well I am currently studying quantity surveying, how I still picked this course is funny. I chose mechanical engineering (Thank God I changed sha😂) when result came out I knew I wasn't going to make it with that score, so my mum and I started thinking of what else I could study and I did not want to wait a year cause of it, I applied to bells university cause I wasn't so sure of unilag again, I have already gone through all the process, interview and all so I was just basically waiting for admission list, then my mum started asking people around what I can do, then a man suggested quantity surveying for my mum, then she called me it was through that call i made that decision, I didnt even bother to know what the course is about its later I went to read about it. Well its a good course assuming I got engineering only God that knows how my GP will look like😅.
**Marriage**
This one ehn, I know this is going to be one of the biggest decision's I am going to make and it takes God to help cause its a lifetime thing, sometimes I will be like I want to get married and another time I will be like I don't want to.(relationships and marriages are just difficult now, I feel our parents had it easy then.)
**Food**
I am very discriminating when it comes to food, I get weary of everything quickly, I just eat what is there when I don't have a choice, if you have observed when you ask a girl to pick what she wants, especially food, she finds it difficult. I'm not sure why, but I just go with whatever that person is eating to save myself the burden of pondering.
**Dressing**
Making a decision on what to wear sometimes is difficult, you would have heard people saying I don't have what to wear but when you check their closet its like a boutique. I would have picked what to wear already ,then I change my mind and just wear anything sometimes its due to insecurities.
I can go on and on about a lot of things like hair, it could even be in picking an elective course or a job but at every point in our life's we have to make a decision. A friend told me instead of thinking too much about it just count to 5 and decide, I have been trying that but for some delicate situations I still try to think it through.
Yeah I have made some bad decisions at some point in my life, I just feel we learn from them and I don't think we can always make the best decisions cause we ain't perfect but with God we don't have any worries.
Thank you😊
Is relationship worth trying?
Happy new month guys😊, I don't know what to expect this month, but I am hopeful it will turn out better than last month and I can't really wait for Christmas, its my favorite holiday.
Everyone has a reason for not doing something most times its due to fear or just stories people tell you or even experience.
I will share my own experience on why I never wanted to enter a relationship back then, I got this idea in secondary school that relationship is not something I want because of how I saw it or how some people made me see it although I still admired some of my seniors relationship then.
So I entered secondary school at quite a young age and I was really small and all and its a boarding school so i was really worried about how I will survive in the school. My jss1 was basically knowing people and getting used to the school, then in jss3 I was already used to the whole system, then some seniors I was close to use to gist me about their relationship and their crushes and stuffs and I was like you know ,its nice until some particular guys changed my mind about it, they started body shaming girls a lot in fact they do it to your face, sometimes they come and draw some girls shape on the board and start laughing (I was close to guys o and girls but I had like my own group of friends) sometimes I take it as a joke and laugh about it, sometimes its hurts because most of us were still growing then and I was skinny ehn(I still am tho😂), they sha made some people feel bad but I still left it at that and I tried not to take it personal, then relationship came in place I had already reached ss3(I don't mean for me other people cause back then I didnt really fancy secondary school love cause I knew it was going to end at the gate😂), so some guys were already big and all including the girls.
Then they started talking about girls (there's one thing they do, they all sit down together and start saying things they have done with a girl),so these guys will start saying stuffs like I have kissed this girl before, I have done this and that you know to feel big or so some of them even make things up just to be hailed which didn't make sense to me, I felt they were not matured at all, even though it wasn't me they were talking about it just didnt sit right with me(it was mostly people in relationship and sometimes some girls), I am sure you are wondering how I found out because they always do this at night in the hostel but I had my source who didn't support it so he used to tell me😂.
That just changed my whole perspective on relationship or even guys sef, at that time I didn't want to get involved in anything like that although I was close to guys but I was like nah, I don't want any relationship to avoid been talked about. I was like what is the point of trying relationship?
But my perspective has changed now, yeah relationship can be sweet and all especially when it works out for you, everyone deserves love,people just have different ways of dealing with it.
Yeah, secondary school was fun and all and I also learnt a lot ,assuming I didn't go to a boarding school I feel the way I would handle things would be a bit different, like dealing with people, friends,life in general.
And me and those guys are cool now, we even laugh about stuffs like that now.
Would you have given it a try?
Failure:- Let it inspire you to be better
Hey😊, today has been pretty chill, asides eating and washing my clothes I have been on my bed since watching movies, its only Saturdays I get to rest.
Okay lets go into the topic
Failure is something no one wishes for and some of us might have come across it one way or another in our life's and we all have different ways of handling it. Failure is not only when you fail a test or an exam, it could be failing to perform your duty or working towards something and not getting it (like failing to be a friend, father, mother and the likes.)
I heard of a guy who has always been a straight A's student and you know he was also good at other things so he has never for once failed in his life until one day he failed a subject or so and he didn't know how to handle it, he couldn't believe he even failed it seemed strange to him, he was completely broken and all (yeah I might not get every detail of the story). It might have taken him time to get used to it but I am sure he only learnt from it and got back up.
Yeah there has been various times I have failed, I have been applying to a particular agency and I don't get picked and what makes it worse is you don't even know what you are doing wrong because there's no feedback, yeah it hurts more when you put a lot of efforts into it, you get broken even cry sometimes.
Failing is not the end of the world it just pushes you to do better, you know I failed this time the next time I know what not to do, do not be discouraged I just feel its something we go through just to make us stronger.
What I do sometimes when I fail
-Acknowledge that I failed in a certain way and work on ways not to make that same mistake.
- Encourage myself and challenge myself to come out stronger than I did before.
**FAILURE IS NOT BEEN DEFEATED ITS JUST A CHALLENGE TO DO BETTER.**
I don't think anyone is a failure, just like Thomas Edison "I didn’t fail 1,000 times. The light bulb was an invention with 1,000 steps".
****Conclusion****
***So Yes, Failure is inevitable in our life, We should rise up and shouldn't be afraid to fail.***
***We can learn a lot from our Failures than our Successes.***
Social media
Hello
How was your day?
Mine started out good, i was kind of in a hurry today so I don't go late to work and it was really sunny today,I was a bit tired and hungry today and once I am hungry like this my mood suddenly changes and I can't work much.
Okay straight to the topic
**Social media** :-Interactive forms of media that allow users to interact with and publish to each other, generally by means of the Internet. This is something we are all familiar with be it WhatsApp, Instagram, Facebook,tiktok, Snapchat,YouTube and the likes.
Yeah there has always been this debate about social media doing more good or harm to the society. I feel its 50/50 cause it has helped a lot of people and also caused harm to some people.
****My opinion on the good of social media****
**1. Communication**:- this has helped big time in helping people communicate from different parts of the world with less stress like those days of letters.
**2. Business/brand promotion:-** Yeah, not everyone owns a shop or office but with the help of social media you can promote your business or even yourself to various parts of the world by just posting a picture.
**3. Employment:-** it has created job opportunities for people jobs like social media handler, PR and social media influencers and the likes.
**4. Entertainment:-** like today now when my data finished it was like everything just stopped for a moment cause I had nothing to keep me engaged for that moment.
****My opinion on the bad part of social media****
**1. Cyber bullying:-** this is very common now, everyone seems to have an opinion about your life, I have seen videos of young people been threatened by others on social media because of their life style or people just hating you for no good reason.
**2. Depression:**- so many people fall into depression due to social media, it could be because of the lifestyle they are trying to emulate or threats from other people or due to mockery and the likes. (Nobody knows what goes on behind the keyboard/phone everyone is just trying to be happy).
**3. Relationships:-** I have seen so many relationships break due to social media, everyone wants to advice you how to live your life, today its someone's marriage trending, tomorrow is another persons relationship (I get scared sometimes with the way relationships are nowadays especially marriages).
I am a private person I don't really like putting my life on social media (I do post few times when I am in a good mood or I just feel like), everyone is just trying to protect their mental health, another one is the way I see marriages breaking and I keep thinking do I really want to get married you know (I will probably do a topic on this)but I am not going to let the bad part of social media define how my life will be I just see it as a place to learn.
Yeah for the good side it has also helped me,I like fashion a lot I feel without it I might not have been exposed to some other countries fashion sense .
***Conclusion:- everything has a good and bad side to it, it depends on how you choose to see it and use it.***
Would you rather?
Hey guys ,how was your day?
Mine started out normal as usual waking up early to go to work, all for my boss to call me and said she won't be available so I had to take the day off, lucky me right?😅
Yeah so from the topic I know most of us has played this either in secondary school or so.
****Here are some of "would you rather questions" I selected:-****
I would try to give my honest answers.
**1.Question:-**Would you rather be forced to sing along or dance to every single song you hear?
**Answer:**- well I like singing, I also like dancing too but for me I would prefer singing cause dancing requires a lot of energy and I can always sing anywhere.
**2. Question:-**Would you rather have telekinesis (the ability to move things with your mind) or telepathy (the ability to read minds)?
**Answer**:- of course it would be nice to know what people are thinking especially people you care for, but sometimes I prefer not yo know cause you can't filter thoughts so I would go for telekinesis I would really need help with a lot of things it would even make me lazy😅
**3. Question:-** Would you rather find true love today or win the lottery next year?
**Answer**:- okay this is a tough one😂, well with my current situation I would go for the lottery ,true love can come later, (yeah true love is nice but there's no assurance it would last long)
**4. Question:-** Would you rather buy 10 things you don’t need every time you go shopping or always forget the one thing that you need when you go to the store?
**Answer:-** Hmmm for this most times I tend to buy what I don't need and its normal to forget to buy something you need but not always so I will go will 10things I don't need.
**5. Question:-**Would you rather always be 10 minutes late or always be 20 minutes early?
**Answer:-** there's something called "Nigerian time" people always show up late , buy for me I like keeping to time and its going to Favour me for so many other things like work, school and all so I will go with 20mins early.
**6. Question:-** Would you rather someone see all the photos in your phone or read all your text messages?
**Answer** :- this one is easy for me, I don't mind someone seeing all my photos, buy for that messages ehn its a no go area😂.
**7. Question:-**Would you rather have a pause or a rewind button in your life?
**Answer:-** if I should pause my life now doesn't mean it would be better when I continue, but I really want yo rewind and meet some people I don't to much again, I just miss them so much.
**8. Question**:- . Would you rather forget your partner’s birthday or your anniversary every year?
**Answer:-** this is another tough one, I would say anniversary so far he remembers I am fine, I think forgetting his birthday would be worse but they are both special days.
**9. Question:-** Would you rather end every phone call with “I love you” or accidentally call your partner the wrong name during a fight?
**Answer:-** hmm I don't really know I don't get to call people alot but ending every call with "I love you" can be really awkward, but that calling him a Wrong name if its a one time thing I can let that one slide cause sometimes I call some people a wrong name.
**10. Question:-** Would you rather win $25,000 or your best friend win $100,000?
**Answer:-** if I had a best friend I would definitely let the person win she will sha take us out to celebrate.😂
Well all this are easier to choose now but when kept in difficult situation it might be different, most of our choices are determined by the situation.
Have a lovely night.😊
Insecurities
Happy Sunday guys.😊
I have always wanted to write on this topic.
Insecurity meaning a lack of confidence in oneself or self doubt e.g big stomach, nose, eyes, shoulders, hip dips and the likes. I used to think guys don't have insecurities because I mostly hear girls complain about their bodies, guys also feel insecure about some certain things it doesn't necessarily have to be physical appearance.
**Things I feel insecure about:-**
**1. My size**:- I am very slim and small so for some certain reasons I did not like how I looked in clothes and all you know the society believes a girl should look a certain way or have a certain body type and all. So, I started trying to put on little weight and for me it wasn't working no matter how I tried, I even tried working out(laziness did not allow me to keep up😅), it was really affecting me at a point but I kept on trying to get my mind of it sha.
**2. Broad Shoulders:-** About this one I wasn't insecure about it in secondary school in fact I didn't really pay attention to it, until I got to university and realized I have broad shoulders (mostly guys that tend to have this) so I just kept thinking about it, it affected my dressing and all.
**3. Hairline:**- my hairline is also shaped like a guys own or I would say I have baby hairs so I can't really do some styles because of it.
All these insecurities affected my dressing and all I was not confident about wearing some particular clothes or doing some particular styles that will show until I realized that I don't get to control this things and what I am complaining about some people are praying for them.
I always watch any Korean, Chinese or Asian fashion sha because they are slim and all it really encourages me because there are people like me there and to them there been slim is a big deal there and to be a model some of the qualities I am not confident about thats what they are looking for in a model.
I will just say don't be worried about things you have no control over ,God made you this way for a reason just love yourself, love the way you are and enjoy it while it lasts.
Have a great week.😊
Priscilla
This is more like an introduction😁
My name is Priscilla, people tend to mispronounce my name(priscillia, priscillat, princilla, prisca and so on) I just tend to go with anyone they call me😅, i still dont know what my name means but i checked online and i see it means "ancient " but i feel it means something else, people also tend to get my age wrong cause of how I look well I am young tho but not as young as 15😅. I am studying quantity surveying and I also stay in Lagos. I am an introvert, I like my own space a lot but not always.
**Things I like to do for fun or when I am bored:-**
**1. Listening to music**:- I don't know there's a song for every moment in your life and music is just something that keeps me going sometimes, when cooking, washing, reading( I don't get to concentrate sonetimes😅), or basically when doing anything.
2. **Singing**:- I am a shy person so in my own space I tend to sing alot especially at home. Sometimes when I sing it sounds good but once I record it I begin to wonder is that how I really sound😅. I know I have told so many people I will for them hopefully I will still get there sha.
3. **Movies**:- This is just something I do when I don't really have much to do although I enjoy it. There's this habit I have when watching a movie I really like I tend to follow the cast on social media, watch interviews and stuffs (although it only lasts for like a few weeks😅)
4. **Food**:- I know I am not fat but I am a huge fan of trying something new especially when it comes to food, clothes, music and the likes, when I have the money tho.
5. **Fashion**:- I really love fashion (I am currently learning fashion designing), especially Asian fashion sense, there are a lot of things I said I am going to do about it like modeling but I keep pushing it off. (I can spend hours watching people dress up, fashion shows, talks and the likes.)
**Some things I want to learn or do**:-
- **To a play an instrument:**- I knew how to play the violin when I was still in primary school but I didnt keep up with it so I have basically forgotten how to play, but I will like to know how to play a keyboard or guitar.
- **editing**:- my own is sha any computer skill 😅, cause I know it will be useful one way or the other maybe for business or fashion sha or just for my personal use.
- **Travel**:- yeah who doesn't want to travel the world?, basically for me its to go visit some good places ,eat good food and make memories😊.
- Makeup:- I am not so good at this but I am trying sha, learning makeup on YouTube and stuff doesn't really help because most of them are filtered. With time its something I know should be able to do.
Thats enough about me today, have a lovely day😊
@Seni
