Chores are not gender based
**Generally a greater number of men treat the females as second class citizens, they females have always been neglected or maltreated..**
**Some men see women as nothing, some believe that women are supposed to be under them, yes women are supposed to respect the men but they shouldn't be forced to it or mandated to do so...**
**I have noticed that women are sometimes mandated or expected to do some specific works or chores, most times I hear people say words like, it is the duty of a lady to cook or to do the laundries or to clean the house or to even wash the dishes... Growing up, I hate to wash the dishes even till now, I rather do other hard or more stressful chores than to wash the dishes but I don't see it as the duty of the females and no one should...**
**I believe that all this chores are not gender based, it is a basic life skills which everyone must know how to do, is not nice to say that cooking is for the ladies or cleaning is for the ladies, we all are the same, no one is above the other, the earlier we realize this and start treating women with respect the better for us.**
**Chores are not gender based, no one is created specifically to hand some identified chores, as a man, you can decide to do all the laundries, or do all the cooking or wash all the dishes, that wouldn't make you less of a man rather it makes you stronger and better off without a helper, some men can't even do their laundries, many can't even cook a proper meal other than noodles maybe because they grew up believe that it is not their duty as a man but now they wish they could do all those chores on their own...**
**It doesn't matter if you are seen washing the dishes or cleaning the house, learn how to do all this basic chores by yourself and stop referring some of them as the duties of the female gender.. Thanks**
Is Age a problem?
In a society like ours, where marriage is seen as scared and the level of one's sense of responsibility is judged by it..
No matter the amount of money and wealth you acquire as a man or woman ,the first question everyone would want to know is "is he married" , "Who is her husband"..Being married is seen as the first achievement before any other thing..
The way Marriage is viewed makes me wonder if it is written somewhere that everyone must marry. In choosing who to marry, there are certain criteria/ Qualities that people look out that makes one more eligible than the others and one of those criteria is Age.
In African, Age is almost the number one thing parents look out for in their children's intending spouse..It is almost like a taboo for a man to marry a lady who is older than him...Parents frown at such union and always disapprove of it...It say that a woman who is older than the man can never be submissive to him because of the difference in their age...
Let's hear your views on this matter, if you are a man, can you marry a woman who is older than you ?
Ladies can you marry a man who you are older than?
Let's have a heart to heart discussion...
Your Time Zone?
Don't worry
Some people complete their education at the age of 22. But they don't get a good job for five years
Some people become the CEO of a company at the age of 25 and at the age of 50 we find out they have passed away.
While some people become CEO at the age of 50 and live for 90 years.
Despite having a good job, some people are still unmarried and some people have got married without a job and are happier than those who have a job.
Obama retired at the age of 55, while Trump started at the age of 70.
Some legends smile even when they fail the exam and some people cry even when the score is less than 1.
Someone got a lot without any effort and some of them just kept rubbing their heels all their lives.
Everyone in this world is working on the basis of their time zone. Apparently we think some people are far ahead of us and maybe it seems that some are still behind us but everyone is in their own place according to their own time. Don't be jealous of them. Stay in your own time zone.
Wait and be satisfied.
You are neither late nor in a hurry.
Biased Love
Why do you think most ppl love their moms more than their father, is it natural or usually a nurtured one?. Many ppl can even sacrifice their father for their mother.
Many people have justified the fact that their mother is the one they first open their eyes to see when they were born. Some claimed that their father doesn't have time for them so their closeness to their mum makes for the bond. But in all, is it good for that love to be biased
what do you think about it and let me know ur favorite too below. As for me, I love them both
Procrastination, beneficial or harmful?
The present world has shown us beyond proof that almost all humans has exhibit a degree of what I call 'Procrastinating spirit'. Though this degree varies among us all yet we all exhibit it. What makes it an issue is whether procrastination really affect us positively or negatively.
Procrastination has been defined as the act of postponing, delaying or putting off especially out of habitual carelessness or laziness.. see source
http://en.wiktionary.org/wiki/procrastination.
A popular adage says "don't do tomorrow what you can do today" which implies that procrastinating is very bad. It even shows one is not disciplined enough to keep to rules. Procrastinating or postponing things will should do immediately can have a negative impact in us. Come to think of it, you have a customer you have promised to help with the work he employ you to do, but you are busy postponing the work, is that really fair?. Time is very essential to us as human beings, let is endeavor to utilize this time wisely.
Remember time wasted can never be recovered. Thanks
How do I handle this kind of woman?
Good evening people. Please don't mind my English. My post is actually out of pains and frustration and i may not type with the correct words.
I'm a 31 years old guy. I'm actually very bad with spending because when i have money, whoever asks from me gets. I am under alot of pressure lately especially from those around me. I am the 1st child of my parents and have so many responsibilities.
I got my girlfriend pregnant and she moved in with me. My parents were never there for me so i vowed i was going to be there for my kids. Hence i do all i can to make sure my daughter and her mum are OK.
The girl in question is a torn in my flesh. Totally different from when we were dating without a child. Nowadays, as soon as i get my salary, she wants to buy this, she wants to buy that even though she knows i receive less than a 100k and i have multiple loans i am paying back because we moved out of our old apartment due to space constraints especially after she delivered.
Whenever i don't have money, there is never a happy moment in my home. But if i come home and bring money, we become very good friends. She wants to live a good life which is not wrong but I feel when she knows how i am managing, she ought to understand and bear with me.
The last straw that broke the camel's back was, i was yet to be paid, i had 700 with me. I gave her to make some food because we had the basic food stuff in the house.... Rice, beans, ogbono, spaghetti, garri, Egusi.... Palm oil. So basically all she had to buy was fish or something to put inside the food.
I came home after a hard day at work and met an empty kitchen. When I asked for my food, she asked me what i expected her to cook with 700 naira. I got so mad and left the house but since it was late (it was close to midnight), i decided to come back. In my anger, i started asking her why she's treating me badly. And the next thing is, she called her mum to say I'm fighting with her and that i pushed her to the ground. Her mum replied and said that if anything happens to her daughter, she would hold me responsible. That she didn't give me a wife......
Now I feel i should just end everything and let's go our separate ways before it becomes a case of domestic violence. I never want to see my child grow up to see me fighting with her mum always and being unhappy. I believe a child that grows up in an unhappy home is always at a disadvantage. Please help me guys. I am in pains. What do you suggest I do?
