The best life is not so annoying to see other people happy
Seeing other people happy, we should also be happy. It's just that sometimes we still feel "unacceptable" to see other people happy. Seeing other people's lives that seem more "wow" or "lucky", there is no need to make us jealous or jealous.
The best way to live, for one thing, is to not care about seeing other people happy. There is no need to be jealous or jealous of the happiness of others. After all, the struggle and journey of each person is never the same. Instead of bothering yourself by feeling jealous or jealous of other people's lives, it's better to just be happy.
Happy to Flow New Positive Energy
''Attitude is a choice. Happiness is a choice. Optimism is a choice. Kindness is a choice. Giving is a choice. Respect is a choice. Whatever choice you make makes you. Choose wisely."
― Roy T. Bennett, The Light in the Heart.
Some are newly married, pray for their happiness to increase. Anyone who just got a job or made a new achievement in life, congratulate and wish his plans always be carried out. Instead of being jealous, jealous, or even sarcastic with other people's happiness, it's better to be happy with him. Later there will be new positive energy that we can get and feel in our own lives.
"Take responsibility of your own happiness, never put it in other people’s hands.''
― Roy T. Bennett, The Light in the Heart.
For example, when our friends are happy and have no problems, we will no longer be "bothered" with their complaints or complaints. Our lives will also be more calm. Other people are happy, we can take it easy. So, the best way to live is not to worry about other people's happiness. Be grateful for what we have now and focus on becoming a better person from time to time. Hopefully we can all get our own happiness, yes. And pray for each other's happiness for the people around us as well.
I know your name
I know your name, even the air around my room knows that it buzzes second by second every time I lay there. it seems my ceiling has its own solar system, and your face is the core of all the galaxies with all of this around it.
I know your name, even my gadget's internal memory knows that name that reduces space one by one every time I download your photos. seems sad and tired of my routine has its own host for what I saw there.
I want to ask God, about how He inserts the essence of Glucose in every expression on your face, sweetie.
I know your name. even though I've never even said that name directly in front of you.
I'm still like this, amazed waiting for the guts, until one day when I greet you, I want to dare to look into those eyes, that smile, that beautiful.
while begging God, to wrap
and mentally tape the momentum. as a reward for my capital smile the next day.
Intercourse in prayer
This sucks.
I kept remembering the time I really didn't want to pass. for the first time i made you cry.
painful indeed. Of course all separation is not an easy matter. but this thing happens, baby!
I told you to leave. but on the other hand, there is me who wants you to walk through the ages with your smile adorning my time every day.
Chaos!! I want to explode! actually, at the very beginning before we all started. guess what I'm sure is ahead of what happened that day.
when you have to go to the glory of your ideals, alone. without me participating in the reins of hope that you bring. but we are selfish, who think that time will open one by one bridge of opportunity.
In fact, the future can't just be with our hands clapping. then all problems will go away. not that easy.
You are the shoulder of everything your parents hope for. that's the way to obey. not with my eyes closed when I kiss your face. or the laughter you get when you lie to them to get to my house. no! that's not what your father expects from you who are his only children. happy we can't be in a way that makes you disobedient.
Excuse me. I'm sorry, because in just two days this ego can't hold back the longing that swells in the head. but i'm fine. because I think, we have only lost the body that hugs each other, not the soul that is still embracing each other warmly in prayer.
Do you see a lot of ambiguous words in my writing? if yes. excuse me! maybe because when word for word I try to sentence it here. For some reason my vision suddenly blurred. It's like something is blocking my eyes from writing.
But don't worry, it's just tears. LoL
Bullying: Gradual Mental Killing?
Making fun of, ostracizing, looking down on something, has now become a delinquency that has been considered normal, especially among teenagers. Technology is now making it easier for users to interact, so it's no wonder millennials are currently judging things without having to meet them first.
Conditions like this are increasingly common, which unwittingly have a distinct impact on victims of bullying. Islam teaches to speak good words, to joke in a healthy way so that a close friendship can be established. Therefore, this attitude of interaction is not justified in our lives.
Bullying still happens frequently, especially among children. Therefore, the role of parents is needed to prevent children from becoming perpetrators or victims of bullying.
Home is always the first place for children to learn about life, including teaching kindness to each other. Every parent does not want their child to be a victim of bullying.
Legal cases that occur are the responsibility of all parties to prevent them, including parents, educators, and the entire community.
Hopefully everything can change and realize what the bullies are doing is wrong and the bullying culture will soon disappear.
Suffering And Jokes
In this modern era, it is not uncommon for people to use social media as a place to gain instant popularity. Sometimes it is used in bad ways by making inappropriate jokes. Unfortunately, many people find it funny and laugh at it.
In order to increase fame, some people make other people's misfortune content to laugh at. With the hope of increasing followers and the bonus of getting money from the videos they upload.
Humor should be created without hurting other people's feelings and even making people who see it lose their empathy as humans. But sometimes, people make it cheap and dangerous.
If seen, the media also sometimes displays it. Television shows showing people falling are considered funny by using narratives that are not worth listening to. The funny thing is that they sometimes pay the audience to laugh at it, so people often think it's something worth laughing at. In fact, not at all!
There are two reasons why someone laughs at someone else's misfortune to make you laugh: they don't feel safe and happy with their life or they don't understand that it was an unpleasant experience.
Jokes should not contain any harmful elements or harassment that would embarrass someone. Many people argue that it is a joke. But isn't there an ethics in joking that should be upheld?
Society has not fully been able to choose a joke that deserves and is not worth laughing at. Especially when the media has a hand in making things worse. The role of the media, which should be a means of education, actually seems to make it worse by deliberately showing extreme parodies by humiliating others.
Laughing at the misfortunes of others asserts superiority over them. In other words, when someone is made to look silly, it makes us feel better about ourselves.
I myself am one of those people who rarely laugh while watching television because how can it be worth laughing at when other people experience misfortune and even feel humiliated in a humiliating way. There are better ways to create humor. What's more, there are much better things to laugh about.
If everyone laughs at the misfortunes of others, it seems we need to be aware that the world has always known how sharp the difference between tragedy and comedy is. Maybe we should immediately check our sense of humor when we start to have trouble distinguishing the two.
It's as simple as this is my way to be happy
The breeze tonight makes me more excited. You know what I like most on a clear night like this? Nothing but seeing millions of stars hanging in the sky without giving an inch of empty space there. Indeed, this kind of scene I often find on this earth in Indonesia, precisely in the village where I live. Very simple but for some reason every time I see it there is my own satisfaction that I feel.
Here my happiness is simple. Small natural surprises or the presence of friends are enough to make me happy.
I'm happy when the sweet potato leaves are still spread out behind my house, a sign that there are always alternative vegetables when I'm lazy to go to the field. Understandably, sweet potato leaves are rice's most loyal friend when it's not vegetable season in the village, especially during the harvest season like this.
I was happy when I searched for mangoes in the yard and found the fruit in the bush with my own labor. In my village, mango is public property, anyone can look for it as long as it has fallen from the tree.
I was happy when the cellphone that I hung on the 3 finger pole (the pole was three fingers wide) in front of the house rang, a sign that there was a signal that I was willing to attach myself to my flashlight cellphone even though it was only one beam. You know, only certain spots in the village have a signal, and even then if you're lucky.
I'm happy to be able to chat with the residents here while eating vegetables in front of the terrace of the house (it's hard to eat fruit here, it's more trendy to have vegetable salad).
I'm happy to be able to dance with the rain while throwing mud at each other with my friends in the field in front of the house. I am happy when the motorbike I ride manages to cross one bridge after another when I go to the village or to the city.
I'm happy to be able to run and throw myself into the river after the scorching heat of the sun on the earth of Indonesia even though I can't swim (the river is shallow, and I just splashed to the side...haha).
I am happy to be able to sit relaxed on the veranda of the house at dusk while enjoying boiled sweet potatoes while waiting for the signal to come. Simple isn't it?
Yeah, my happiness is simple, as simple as the way I enjoy the beauty of this night. But in this simplicity I am happy. (Kesugihan Kidul Village, Kesugihan District, Cilacap Regency, Central Java, Indonesia).
The Impact of Disposing of Garbage Indiscriminately Polluting the Environment
Garbage is a problem faced by almost all countries in the world. Not only in developing countries, but also in developed countries, waste is always a problem. On average, big cities in Indonesia produce tens of tons of waste every day. Throwing garbage carelessly is something we often do even though there is a trash can not far from that place. There is more trash on the side of the road than trash in the trash can. As a result, littering of course results in losses that cannot be taken lightly.
The trash should be thrown in the trash. Let the officers transport the garbage later which will be taken to the TPA (Final Disposal Site). The waste in the landfill will be processed, or destroyed, and reshaped into useful materials.
The impact of littering will spoil the landscape, cause unpleasant odors, cause low to high level flooding, bring about various diseases and can pollute the environment.
Therefore, from now on, let's get used to not throwing garbage. How hard is it to throw trash in its place? Just pocketing the trash, taking it to the trash can, it's really easy and has a big positive effect.
The simplest and most effective waste control is to raise awareness from within yourself not to damage the environment with waste. Start instilling the intention, that, ''I have to throw trash in its place. Besides that, it is also necessary to control the socio-cultural community to better respect the environment. The government's role in this matter is also very necessary, with the existing regulations and sanctions, it is hoped that it can minimize environmental damage by irresponsible parties.
Forgive and Apologize
One of the shortcomings of humans is like to make mistakes and sin. Humans need a way to cover their shortcomings, especially sins against fellow humans. When others do wrong and sin is directed at us, we are taught to forgive. When we do wrong and sin against others, we are taught to apologize.
Forgiveness is a necessity for all human beings. Not just as a sign of guilt and an acknowledgment of all the mistakes that have been made. Apologizing and forgiving also make us human beings who are full of spaciousness and humility.
Of course there will be many people who are against this statement. They seem to deny that forgiving the wrongdoer should be done even if it is difficult. However, forgiving a mistake is not the same as forgetting a painful past.
Of course, these are not the same. Even if emotions approach, hating other people will not allow you to walk without a burden, you know. There are several reasons why even if it's difficult, you should be willing to force yourself to forgive others, even yourself.
Patience and Forgiveness
Patience is an attitude of restraining emotions and desires, and surviving in difficult situations by not complaining. Patience is the ability to control oneself which is also seen as an attitude that has high values and reflects the strength of the soul of the person who has it.
The higher the patience a person has, the stronger he will be in dealing with all kinds of problems that occur in life. Patience is also often associated with positive behavior that is highlighted by an individual or someone.
In everyday life there are actions of other people that are not pleasing and even hurt us. When we keep it in the heart, the pain turns out to cause various physical and psychological impacts.
Heartache can be harmful to human health, heartache also makes the human heart filled with anger, resentment and hatred towards other people who are perceived as harming them. It is a source of human stress and depression.
A heart filled with negative energy will lead individuals to say destructive words, express anger in public, or blaspheme. Forgiveness is the process of stopping feelings of resentment, irritation, or anger because you feel hurt or wronged. Forgiveness itself is a person's willingness to leave anger, negative judgments, and indifferent behavior towards others who have hurt him unfairly.
Forgiveness is not easy, it takes a process and struggle to do it. Having kindness for ourselves and for others will make forgiveness possible. Psychologists believe that forgiveness has a very positive effect on health. Forgiveness is one of the positive characters that helps individuals achieve optimal levels in terms of physical, psychological, and spiritual health.
In recent years, forgiveness has become increasingly popular as a psychotherapy or as a way to accept and release negative emotions such as anger, depression, guilt due to injustice, facilitate healing, self-improvement, and improvement of interpersonal relationships with various problem situations. Including the understanding of asking forgiveness for them is praying for good for them, seeking good for them, and so on.
Forgiving people who have wronged you not only makes them free from guilt, but makes you even more grateful because you are still given the space to forgive others. So, are you ready to forgive people who have hurt you? Don't forget to forgive yourself first. Release yourself from all guilt about your past. Whatever and however your wounds are developing and tormenting you right now, try to forgive and struggle to accept whatever your circumstances are.
Apologize
The word that should be said after making a mistake is "Sorry". Naturally, when you realize that you have made a mistake, even though it is difficult to say, it is still necessary to apologize to someone who has been "accidentally" hurt.
However, even if only one word why is it difficult to pronounce? Because in general we prioritize prestige, and because of the arrogance that is within ourselves. For example, because they feel they already have a much higher position, or because they feel richer, or smarter, or older.
Shouldn't we just forget about it all? Through this one word "sorry", it is enough to eliminate hostility and resentment, and we can re-establish a broken relationship, we can get a friend again, we can achieve peace and serenity in life again.
In everyday life, we convey so many words to others and so many actions we show to others. Among those tens to hundreds of words and deeds, it is very likely that some of them cause others to be angry. What do we do when we blame others? One of the knowledge that we have kept for a long time regarding this matter is that people's sins are not forgiven unless the victim or the injured person forgives.
Indeed, there is a possibility that people who are victims of our wrongdoing will forgive. However, it is also possible that he did not apologize. He harbored hatred and anger in his heart. If that's the case, sin remains within us. Therefore, a more proactive choice, namely apologizing, is a more sure option that guarantees the elimination of sins. Apologizing is definitely a form of personal humility and of course also a form of human courage.
Nations in this world respond to the mistakes they do to other people in different ways. Many European and American people appear gentle. Gentleman is a man who has a high standard of character or behavior. One of the most important traits they have is a willingness to apologize. They immediately apologized as soon as they made the mistake.
We believe that even if we do something wrong or shameful, there is still a way for someone to improve. The way to erase shameful actions or wrongdoings is to erase mistakes by social (apologizing to others) and spiritual (repenting to God) and doing good deeds by social (doing positive to others) and spiritual (doing good to God ways).
One positive thing that should be done to remove wrongdoing is to apologize. If the wrongdoing is directed at someone, the apology should be directed to the person or family who is the victim. If the blame is directed at many people, then the apology should be made openly, through the press. In addition, apologies actually have the benefit of preventing those who were the object of wrongdoing from engaging in destructive and aggressive actions.
As we know, often people who are the object of tyranny take revenge in a harsher way. Findings in social psychology show that aggressiveness is more often based on reasons for responding to aggressive words or actions of others. The problem is that the response is generally harsher than the pain a person receives.
This apology is useful for reducing the anger that is in the person who was wronged. Regret for past words or actions as well as promises not to repeat wrong actions serve to quell the anger that flares up in someone who has been hurt. When someone's name is mentioned guilty by the public, many of them are busy hiring lawyers to strengthen the alibi of innocence. They are also busy talking in the mass media that they are not involved. I think it would be more gentle if they say sorry and are ready to be prosecuted.
Confused What To Do ?
When we feel tired, there are times when we really don't want to do anything. This can happen because of stress after doing work that absorbs energy or even because of mental stress.
Fatigue is understandable whether it's because of our constant activities, or even moving too fast. However, that doesn't mean we can't really do anything. Even when you're lying down, there are things you can do.
Try sorting your emotions
When you try to understand emotions, you can gain insight into why you don't want to do anything. This can help when your laziness persists for a few days. Try asking yourself when you're feeling anxious, angry, sad, helpless, or feeling detached from yourself.
The emotions above can occupy your mind so that you find it difficult to think about other things. You can do this activity by writing a journal. Write down whatever comes to your mind, even if the results don't make sense. By knowing the reason for these emotions, you might find a solution.
Call your friends
When you don't want to do anything, try telling your friends about this. Maybe they can help you? Even so, keep in mind that each individual has their own way of providing assistance, so contact your friend who feels suitable to this problem.
For example, when you need advice or advice, contact your friends who can give you good advice. So what if you want to vent your feelings? Call your friends who have high empathy.
Go out
You can go out, even if it's only for 10 minutes to get your mood back. By going outside, you can enjoy a different view than usual, thus giving you a new sensation and no longer feeling bored.
Try to breathe outside while observing the existing activities and their natural beauty, could this activity be effective in restoring your energy?
Listen to music
Music can help fill the silence and give you something to think about. Your favorite music can soothe or energize you depending on the type of music you like to hear. Music may give your brain benefits, such as improving attention and memory. Then it is known from several studies as well, music can help a person reduce pain and symptoms of depression.
Resigned
Sometimes when you don't want to do anything, it's a sign that your body and mind need rest. If you previously forced yourself to do something, it's better that you don't ignore that desire than later on you feel burnout. Try relaxation, rest; admit your hard work. You can take a nap, open social media, or play with pets.
Life In The Online Age
The digital era is no longer a matter of the future, but has become a reality for the world's population.
Technological developments that continue to increase sharply from year to year are actually carried out in order to keep pace with the growing human need for technology.
In every aspect of life, there is always digital technology that helps us every day, making activities more efficient.
This significant growth of the communication sector is clear evidence that the pandemic has pushed people around the world to immediately make the transition to the digital era.
The shift from offline activities to online is a limitation of space for movement, especially since the Covid-19 pandemic. This is certainly very felt for students and workers who have to move online at home, both for work and for learning. Communities and businesses that previously had not fully utilized digital technology, now seemed "forced" to immediately live with digital technology itself.
A real example that has become so embedded in social life is digital payment. Almost all residents have an e-wallet account that can make cashless transactions in seconds. The use of digital payments is predicted to increase from the period before COVID-19 to the new era after.
Several other examples, such as the use of e-learning, video conferencing, e-health, and online fitness are mushrooming everywhere. Meanwhile, applications such as online pickup at restaurants, TikTok, grocery delivery, and online streaming are also experiencing massive growth.
Digitalization is able to help overcome the problem of unemployment, in contrast to the widespread assumption that digitalization shifts the need for human resources.
The transition from offline to online activities causes the need for digital workers to increase. For example, how people are now increasingly in need of e-commerce and social media during their activities at home. This is an opportunity for job seekers to be active in business and work in cyberspace.
Meanwhile, digitalization will also help the recruitment process which at first seemed long-winded and less effective. The key word is the ability to connect recruiters with the right job seekers. That way, job seekers with the appropriate competencies are able to connect and find it easier to find a job position that best suits their abilities.
Then, digitization also opens the gate for businesses to collect user data, as Google does, to form new markets and expand. The trick is by profiling customers, conducting online surveys, or market testing. Businesses are better able to offer products that match the needs of each consumer accurately by utilizing big data.
Sometimes it's human to be restless, every living soul will definitely experience it Lamented
In life, at least we have complained. A student who is restless to face the outside world. A graduate who has just graduated but hasn't found a job because he doesn't really understand what he wants, including not knowing what his passion is.
An employee of a company who is limited to work because of the political game in the office world and cannot develop, a woman who is restless can't balance her career and family.
A programmer wants to assemble a PC but the cost is not possible, indecision, feelings of guilt, fear of being snatched by people, a final project that is actually not really "end", and there are still many worries in this world. Including worrying about sustenance, can you eat tomorrow or not? or later have a mate or not?
Anxiety is a part of life, it's okay and normal. Believe me, that restlessness is not only felt by ourselves, others are the same. It's just sometimes the pride to admit, as if restless is a sign of defeat, and people who complain are wrong.
Even though no, everyone has anxieties in life, only the variables are different. Or maybe one of us has the same anxiety, intersect and relate to each other. You can, right? In fact, there are those who don't speak vocally, silently harboring anxiety because anxiety is considered a scary object.
When someone starts a conversation, bring it to the surface. The most fun thing is to find friends who have the same anxieties. Then said "Ugh, yes! Me too!".
Cheerful youth instantly became depressed when restlessness hit, if that's the case, what can be a relief? Maybe tell me the solution. Choose the media that is considered appropriate to pour the contents of the head. It can be to humans, it can be to the Creator.
Like humans chatting with each other asking for a solution to a problem, sometimes the solution comes from ourselves, we just need reflection. But as independent as we are, we need friends to share with us to convince our choices or decisions. To confirm what we think and feel. Even if it's just a "yes" or "no" answer, it's a great relief compared to us keeping it alone.
Just to advise myself who often forgets that reality is constantly moving and life is dynamic. When anxiety strikes what to do? Shut up and surrender? Humans are shrouded in question marks.
When you almost give up and feel restless, remember, God's help is close. In picking up sustenance we can't just rely on effort, that's arrogant. In the silence of worship, humans continue to drag on without being accompanied by real effort, that's a lie. If the proverb says, the result is a combination of prayer and effort.
Maybe God wants to see us move first, how far we are determined. Like school, the exam is a feeling of restlessness. Is it better to be tested than to be a disqualified student? It's sad.
So, anxiety is human. Don't be afraid to voice your concerns, this article also started with anxiety. It's not just my anxiety, but from friends, as well as the environment around me, "anxiety about expressing anxiety".
Open your eyes, ears, heart and mind. That we are not alone. I think this anxiety is a spiritual journey, involving intuition and the mind. So that our feelings are used, and logic is used when deciding. If the eyes can not look at each other to explain. Writing is a medium for expressing anxiety.
Problems that often arise in friendship relationships
Having a close relationship with your group mates doesn't guarantee that the relationship will go smoothly without any problems.
In friendly relations there are often cold wars for trivial reasons. When in a relationship, it is required to trust each other, respect each other, and understand each other. But there are times when you and your friends end up fighting too.
Here are some problems that are often encountered in a friendship relationship :
Selfish
Selfishness is actually a basic human trait, so don't be surprised if sometimes this trait suddenly dominates. But in socializing especially in establishing relationships with other people, including friendly relations.
You need to be able to control your egotistical nature, because the result of being too domineering often leads to fractured relationships. Usually in a friendship, selfishness affects you who tend to be selfish.
Rarely Communicate
If you have a true friend, it means that friendship is definitely special. But even so when you rarely communicate with friends, it can trigger a rift in the relationship.
As is known so far that communication is the main key in building a relationship with other people. So even though now your best friend is not by your side all the time, try to always establish communication to just let each other know.
Like the same crush
It's fun to hang out with people who have the same taste as you. But don't let your taste in partner matters backfire in your relationship with your best friend.
If you and your best friend have the same taste in partner issues, this will have a great opportunity for the phenomenon of fighting over a crush.
If that's the case, the relationship that used to support and understand each other turns into competing with each other.
Jealous of his new friend
Not only in courtship, jealousy also appears in the relationship of friends with friends.
Evidently if you are annoyed to see your best friend turns out to have other friends in the office and they often spend time together.
This is natural because you are actually afraid of losing a friend who is very valuable to you. But don't let the jealousy go too far so that you and your friends become tenuous because of this problem.
Rarely meet
It is a natural thing when you and your friends meet every day in college. However, when they graduate and have their respective jobs, it will make gathering times more difficult to determine.
Most likely the intensity of meeting will be reduced because of each other's schedules that are difficult to match. When you rarely see each other, it will usually make the relationship more tenuous because of infrequent communication and changes in each person.
Every problem must have a solution as long as we can be patient, patience is something that is very difficult to do, but patience is something that is incredibly beautiful.
No Fear
Fear is a natural and normal thing in humans. However, fear that is nurtured over and over again will result in a fear that can take over these thoughts and feelings.
Fear can destroy us with an impulse that keeps us from imagining the worst-case scenario of things. People who are shackled by fear tend to think "what if...", Fear also creates worries that reduce the quality of our lives.
Have you ever experienced a situation where you are always surprised by the phone ringing in the middle of the night, and imagine that the situation bad has happened? Or do you often think about bad possibilities when your loved ones go somewhere?
Fear is manifested in different ways. Many people are afraid of tragic events, eventually ending up using sedative drugs, even committing suicide. Fear can change a person's life in a very dramatic way.
One way to destroy fear is to live for the day. The vicious circle of fear can only be broken when you decide to live to the fullest in the present, instead of dwelling on events that may occur in the future.
This is the easiest way to get rid of fear. Remember that the past is past and done and the future has not yet happened, so you don't have to be afraid of it. Fill your life in the present to do things that impact your mental health such as meditation, prayer, gardening, painting, interacting with children, and volunteering.
When we are overcome by fear, remind ourselves with the following slogan “One day at a time”.
Live only for the present. This will help us to relieve our fears and worries. Happy life for today, may we be happy !!
Build A Positive Attitude
Attitude is a small thing but will make a big difference, attitude plays an important role in the success and happiness. A number of scientists at the world's leading universities reveal that humans can explore their potential deeper and wider with a positive attitude.
Based on the results of research from thousands of successful and educated people, it is concluded that 85% of the success of each individual is influenced by attitude. while ability or technical only plays a role in the remaining 15%.
There is a saying that says "your attitude is not talent or intelligence, but determines your level of success". We can continue to improve a positive attitude, but of course it takes a long time and is influenced by several factors.
There are three things that can make our positive attitude always strong, namely spiritual, aspiration and enthusiasm.These factors provide control over a person's attitude in having the best response to the events that are experienced.
Spiritual Strength
Spiritual power affects a person's ability to see the positive side of every incident. The power of faith makes a person able to interpret all these life phenomena as valuable lessons that can generate more value in oneself.
If a person is spiritually strong, he always views all failures, unpleasant events and all events that can make him fall as a plan from the creator. he will always be grateful even though there will still be tears. he is sad and hurt but he will quickly get back on his feet because he can always see from the positive side of someone or an event.
Attitude is also influenced by dreams
Someone who can always renew dreams, he will tend to be diligent, brave, confident or be more positive.
Big dreams will make someone try to adapt their attitude to be more tolerant, honest, assertive, initiative, big-hearted and so on.
People who have dreams will always be able to control their attitude with their thoughts. Therefore set a high standard so that your potential will continue to be increased. we always need dreams as a pulley towards attitudes in achieving more meaningful life progress.
Enthusiastic
When we are excited, at that time God always accompanies us, with that spirit humans create bigger dreams and try to get progress to achieve success.
There is no amazing progress to be achieved without enthusiasm, we can continue to increase our enthusiasm by filling every second of our time with positive habits.
If a person can maintain and increase the spirit of life in himself, then the attitude will become more focused so that we can enjoy the truly amazing things in this world.
Attitudes based on spiritual factors, dreams and strong enthusiasm are in fact always positive. Positive attitude itself greatly influences a person to be able to explore all potential in achieving success and happiness.
Attitude turns out to be the most important thing for our progress or happiness, now and in the future. Therefore, it is very reasonable to say Attitude Is Everything.
Doesn't have to be liked by everyone
There is no person who does not want to be liked by many, there is no person who does not want to be loved by everyone. many opportunities are obtained when other people like us, many friends, job offers, always defended and many other help are always defended that will be useful for our lives.
But, is our life just to please other people? is our life just for everyone to like? is it true that if we do what people like can make our lives happy in its entirety? maybe yes, but maybe not.
What often happens is that when we try to make other people like us, we must be willing to sacrifice what we like. trying too hard to be liked by others has a harmful effect on our mental health. there is a feeling of emotional exhaustion, and a fear of doing things that other people don't like.
If we want to be liked, we should also be ready to compromise with anything and at any time we will not get anything. You don't have to force yourself to be liked by everyone, because no matter how great you try, there are still people who don't like it.
*Selfish ? No, that's not selfish.
Just let other people's opinions towards us, not mean to be ignorant or disrespect other people. But let's realize, that other people's opinions are beyond our control and we will not be able to control it.
When we are able to make other people happy, that's when we are already happy and it should be. when we are able to give to others when we have had enough and it is obligatory. But, how can we feed others when our plates are also empty? it means we have to be happy first.
Are you not tired of trying to please everyone so that you are still liked and loved even though you have to sacrifice your feelings that refuse to do that?
You won't rest easy having to pretend you're great because you can do anything. you will not be comfortable because you are not yourself. we are just human beings who can be sad, can be happy, need support, need to be angry because of disappointment and sometimes need to be alone without having to be in a crowd.
There's no need to think about trying to please everyone because you definitely won't be able to. Don't think about being liked by anyone without exception because it's like catching the wind chasing a shadow, you can never.
The most annoying thing about trying to please everyone is that we always try to get rid of our own interests as if we are not important people in the world, so it is difficult for us to feel confident. there is no perfect human in this world, if we can accept all the shortcomings and strengths of others, then do the same thing to ourselves.
*Identity.
What you're doing is being yourself instead of pretending that other people like you because everyone deserves to be themselves. showing who you really are will make your life more comfortable and work well than having to pretend to follow other people to keep them happy.
Trying to get other people to like you will make you lose your identity. Initially, you may have a clear life goal that must be achieved. but, because they don't like the way you are finally you start to doubt yourself and finally you are influenced and follow them and you forget your purpose in life from the start.
You don't have to force yourself to be liked by everyone by continuing to decorate your body with worldly masks. You will be tired, so live as it is. The point is, you don't have to be too busy looking for other people's judgments. You don't have to always seek praise from people who know you. because, if you continue to live like that then of course your life will never be calm.
Live as is and do not have to lean towards human judgment. free yourself to be liked or disliked by anyone because if so, of course, like whatever other people comment, it will not be burdensome, sad or even debilitating.
One more thing, don't think about other people who hate you, who don't like you or who often insult you so that you like your life.
So remember carefully, don't be too busy looking for human judgment. because they all have their own assessment standards. There's no need to explain yourself to anyone because those who like you don't need it and those who hate you won't believe it. After all, to keep wanting to look good in the eyes of humans is tiring, you won't be able to if you want to satisfy their desires about you.
Value Time
We always want to get different results, but we always do the same things every day. That's called chasing the wind catching shadows, impossible.
People who succeed and fail both have the time that is 24 hours a day. what distinguishes it is that successful people use their time while people fail to waste it. how can fate change when behavior doesn't change every day.
We are busy watching TV, Movies or YouTube channels but on the other hand many young people spend time reading books or busy with new things to improve their skills. we are busy playing games but on the other hand also many young people are starting to plan the direction of their life.it's okay to watch TV or something but don't overdo it even to the point of overdosing.
Our lives become difficult not because of other people, but because we ourselves are troublesome, wasting time on things that are actually less useful or useful.
Learning new things is actually also fun than we are just busy blaspheming and criticizing our friends who start planning their future by selling on social media or others. instead of helping, on the contrary, pray that it doesn't work. but, believe me if it is done continuously to the point of wasting time, then it is not the future that is obtained, but the bleak times that will come.
When we spend time with useless things, on the other side of the world there are lots of young people who spend their time looking for additional income, busy with organizations to improve their skills because they know that with their skills they will be used in the work environment.
Don't let us regret later, don't let us be nothing. Change now and start doing what other people are not doing because to get what other people never get, we have to do what other people are not doing.
There is no good struggle, all struggles have pain, discipline, the pain of learning and the discomfort of rejection. There is nothing extraordinary with ordinary actions, there is no rainbow without a thunderstorm.
Life is a choice, we choose to be ordinary or to be extraordinary, depending on our choices. Before it's too late, we must realize that time cannot be turned back again, every day must be better than the previous day
If you don't work hard when you are young, then be prepared for old age by working hard because of laziness in your youth.
Move on : The past let it pass.
Why is the front windshield bigger than the rear view mirror? because looking forward and surviving until the goal is more important than always looking back.
Looking back may be many times but it is not a priority, because looking forward is much more important of course.Likewise with humans, the human period is divided into three namely past, present and future.
There are so many people who always fail because of trauma to past events that they continue to remember, both about sadness and success.
All of that must be released, because we will not be able to be free if we always lock ourselves in the prison of the past. we will never be able to see the light of the future if we always hold ourselves in the darkness of the past.
If you really intend to continue living, let go of the burden of the past from our backs. For example, if we have a house and suddenly a stranger enters the house and settles in our house, of course we will not allow it.If we have sad moments in the past, let them go, don't let the past thrive in our minds let alone steal our joy now.
Maybe there is someone who really hates past abusers, but don't let him always be in our minds, we must let him go. Letting him always in our minds, over time he will become like a virus that will make us always sick and not optimal in achieving the dreams that lie ahead.
The best revenge is to move on and move forward, must always have the courage to let go of the burdens of the past, show that we are strong to let go and continue to enjoy our lives now and also for dreams in the future. Whatever happened in the past, don't let it become an obstacle to reach the future.
Great people when they don't succeed, they don't blame others, they always find out what went wrong and always fix it. they will move quickly and focus on doing positive things, will not focus on blaming, looking for scapegoats or other negative things.
Don't let the sadness and troubles of the past take away our present and future. make it for strength to live the present and future, otherwise the future will always be a victim.
Understand this fact, we will always suffer if we always hold a grudge, but we will always be a winner if we manage to escape from that grudge. our ego will always say I will be happy when everything is perfect, but the truth is be happy first then everything will be perfect.
So, be happy, do whatever it takes to find that happiness. not because everything is good, but because you see the good in everything, not because every situation is a miracle but because you see the miracle of life itself.
Albert Einstein once said "There are only two ways to live this life, the first as if there were no miracles in life and the second is that everything that happens is a miracle".
I've chosen where I'm in, what about you?
Thank you for reading.
Making a decision puts the heart or logic.
Everyone is born with a different shape and also a different nature or behavior. Everyone is in control of their own life.
In every problem that occurs, everyone has their own way of dealing with and finding solutions. some put their heart first, some always use logic when they have to make a decision.
If the two points of view clash, it can be said that the person will experience a condition where his logic and heart are not in sync with each other and eventually he will be confused, want to use heart or logic.
So far, we have been accustomed to thinking that logic and feelings are two opposite and contradictory things. often we hear or even we who say sentences like, "understand my feelings, don't just use logic", talk uses the brain, don't use emotions, logic is more important and logic is immoral.
This logic is like two opposing poles. Thus, if it is interpreted that when we use logic and logic that is right, then feelings are wrong or vice versa. even though right or wrong it is also not absolutely absolute but depends on the context, situation and perception of each individual.
People who use logic don't mean they don't have feelings, but people who use feelings don't mean they are illogical. either logic or feeling both are interrelated and can interfere with each other. If in general you can say that logic is defined as a science that helps in thinking and reasoning, while emotions and feelings are the result of reactions in humans to a stimulus.
>>Two different points of view but actually the same.
~Inner voice.
Actually this conscience directs us to dare to take decisions and take risks. In addition, following our heart takes us through a journey of an amazing life so that we dare to step out of our comfort zone.
But sometimes we prefer to ignore the conscience, because we are afraid to experience the unexpected. however, when we try to listen more to our heart, we will actually feel some differences in our lives.
**~Logic.**
Logic or thought is more likely to be rational. simply put, logic is a way of thinking that makes sense. This term we may often hear in everyday life coupled with the word logical. where the logical word has a word that makes sense, so to get an answer when making a choice often lies in the situation and experience of a person.
•What should we do in making a decision?
What we have to do is first understand these two different points of view. they are like two advisors who sometimes disagree. they play different roles and ways. but that doesn't mean we can't balance this logic and heart.
•The right decision.
Here we get by balancing the use of strong logic with a healthy dose of feeling. the key is awareness and responsibility.
Think and reason carefully, then feel the presence of emotions wisely. making decisions based on feelings alone has the potential to produce impulsive and irrational decisions that can lead us to fall into wrong decisions. making decisions based on logic alone has the potential to result in rigid and meaningless decisions that can lead us to lose our way.
Just as art and science can coexist, logic and feelings are the same. but we need to remember their respective roles. when is the right time to put logic first or when is the right time to put feelings first.
If the two are balanced, we will not be trapped in the wrong decision. when we can involve logic and feelings in making a decision that is a good thing. but still don't be too hasty and stay calm, give the heart and feelings a chance to dialogue with each other.
And in the end we are the main actors who can make that decision. so, no longer clash between logic and feelings when making a decision.
Thank you for taking the time to read. 🙏
No matter how sad you are, smile.
One day on one occasion, when he saw your friend with an unusual face, he was so very gloomy, and from his eyes a very deep anxiety emanated from his eyes.
When you ask repeatedly, he still answers "I'm fine". when asked again he would still answer, "Really.... I'm fine", until finally we found out from your friend who happened to be a neighbor, that it turned out that your friend's child was in the hospital and he was having financial difficulties.
Another story, there is an employee at the office, usually he often greets. that day he didn't talk much, he just kept quiet and didn't talk much, because seeing him different from usual days, everyone asked his condition, are you okay? he then replied, "yes, I'm fine and finally accidentally, the office cleaning staff found a piece of paper from the religious court, it turned out that he was in the process of divorcing his wife.
Nowadays, it is very difficult to meet people who want to hide their sadness and distress to others. It is not uncommon for us to own our sorrows and troubles for public consumption, not infrequently from us, when we get trouble, our fingers are quicker to write down the trouble on it. social media instead of thinking clearly so that the problem is quickly resolved.
What's the point if we are sad and difficult for others to know? so they care? No....!!!
They don't care, they just ask why, they just want to know. you can never be happy again by writing your sorrows and difficulties on social media, we will no longer be happy by telling your sadness in front of others. In fact you will be sadder, more difficult because everyone who sees will always ask, why you? what's wrong with you ?.
Only you and God knows how sad you are, because only God can make you calm again from all kinds of sadness and distress that you experience. no matter how you feel, only you know, no need to show others just because you're sad. The most important thing is that you look fine when someone is beside you. even though you really want to spill all your pain, but it's much better for you to know for yourself how your pain is.
Smile and spread happiness even though your heart is sad, smiling is not to cover your wounds, but smiling is a way to strengthen yourself when you are down.
Without you realizing it, you are a strong person because you don't want to show your sadness in front of others. keep smiling even though you are lying to yourself because that smile will strengthen you.
Maybe for everyone to feel that you are fine. Make others believe that you are always happy even though in fact you are holding a very deep pain. By looking happy, you will always be happy even though you are not.
Be happy even though you are being sliced because it does not reduce any burden even though you want to announce to everyone that you are not okay, there is no point in showing sadness in front of others. other people will only feel sorry for you, while you will still feel the hurt.
It's much better to keep the wound to yourself so that only happiness can be shown, don't show your sadness to the world. When you are sad, show your smile to the world so everyone will know how strong you are and people will be more and more embarrassed by your steadfastness.
Sadness is to be prayed for, not to be shown off.
What do you want ?
The truth lies in the ego of each of us. The truth lies in our desires. Every head, feel most right. The function of the brain is not only to think, but also to defend oneself. Looking for excuses that what we do is not a mistake.
No matter how bad it is, we still have reasons. Because of that, in the literature, there is no right or wrong teaching, because no one wants to admit that they are wrong.
Sastrajendra only teaches, that everything in life does not just stop at one event. Everything will be billed. You can do anything, there is no prohibition at all, you don't have to pay attention to right and wrong, Religion also talks a lot about right and wrong, but one thing you can't avoid is that all your actions will pay the consequences.
God himself does not forbid anything, please just hit all of them, break them all, God will not lose anything. If you do good (meaning) you do good for yourself. And if you do evil, then (the loss of evil) is for yourself. No coercion.
Please do whatever you like,Take all you want, but eat all you take. Humans judge themselves by their thoughts, but others will judge by their actions.
Idealism: Smart or Stupid ?
"Idealism is the last luxury possessed by youth," said Tan Malaka, one of Indonesia's independence heroes.
Honestly, I don't know what context he's talking about, but here I'm trying to reflect on my own subjective view of that sentence.
The most important part of a human's life is passion. we know where we are going, once we know where we are going, we can only figure out how to get there.without us knowing where we are going, all our efforts will be like leaves in the wind in the backyard, just turning here and there, it looks busy but not going anywhere.
• Direction.
Direction is important, this direction is born from a view, a dream, an ideal or an idealism that takes us to a place.
Many people say, you are too idealistic, stupid.
Are those words true or not ?
Are people who have idealism stupid ?
Are people who have idealism naive?
I don't think so.
People must have their own idealism, because if not, how will he know where he is going ?
If he doesn't know what and who he believes in, how will he determine the direction of his life, where will he go, how will he do it ? can't.
So, the only way we know where we are going is what our idealism is, what our beliefs are, what our ideals are, that will determine where we are going and that is idealism for me.
A naive person is a person who feels that there is only one way to get there.
We must not be wrong in determining which is absolute and which is relative. This is the danger, if idealism is something absolute that cannot be negotiated and must be fought for, then the way to achieve idealism is not something absolute, but something dynamic that can develop which can be adapted to the circumstances of each of us.
Naive people always think that to achieve an idealism it is in a way that he feels right and believes. Worse yet, many people who have that method, feel that idealism can be achieved only in one way that he thinks is the easiest.
Parable is like this, we wake up, we get out of the house, we know that we have to get out of the house.
The first question we must answer is where are we going?
We have no control over our lives, we walk not based on idealism or walk with one understanding that we want to go there.
People who have idealism are not naive people, but intelligent people. but an intelligent person can be stupid when he does not dare to take risks or is not willing to achieve his ideals.
• Idealism should be owned by everyone ?
For Tan Malaka, idealism is something that every youth should have. With his idealism, a person will not be easily shaken or will not easily compromise with people who are detrimental to the life of the nation and state.
If someone's behavior harms the nation or makes someone else even more devastated and there is no enthusiasm to get up and prepare to face the future, then that is not idealism but it is stupidity. but if someone's behavior is not detrimental in the present or future, then just continue that idealism.
idealism should lead to positive things, what people say must be digested first and use logic.
But, what if an idealism intersects with morals ?
Moral is always the basis for action, if it intersects with idealism, of course consider prioritizing Moral.
Violence and insults are not justified at all in any name.
When I was in school I liked to fight, but I never insulted people, especially people who like to slit other people's pants.
My friends who like to do that, as far as I know they are not people who like to fight.
For me, punching someone was more fun at that time than pulling someone else's pants.
This also applies to the case of ade armando which is currently viral in my country, Indonesia. when he was hit in the face, some people were satisfied. perhaps because of anger some of them felt represented.
However, when he was almost naked, I was confused. which side of them are represented ?
-There isn't any-
Even if you don't like the person, don't let them insult you, I'm a person who strongly condemns insults.
In the realm of Religion, even enemies who have become prisoners cannot be humiliated, humiliated or persecuted excessively.
Quoting Cak Nun yesterday night, "No matter how much we hate people, no matter how angry we are at people, still be fair ".
•Violence in life.
Indeed, violence is often unavoidable, but if we can have a big heart, it can be avoided.
Physical violence can be justified in the name of dislike for someone. is this what is called ego satisfaction? possible.
Accept with a big heart, that life is meaningless if there is too much violence. as we live well and planned in the end we also face defeat, misery and death.
At the point when we have full awareness that life is meaningless, then tragedy and comedy will make no difference.
Disasters and tempests are futile, they do not need to be overestimated. disaster and luck are the same, yesterday and tomorrow is today.
•Try to be more patient with anything.
We as humans are required to be more patient, able to hold anger. we can sincerely accept and be able to tolerate fellow living beings.
It's hard indeed, but we must strive for it, so that our lives can be fine, there are no many problems, don't lose anything until they fail.
-As long as we try, we're not wrong-
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Dangdut music is the most populist music?
~Have you ever heard dangdut music ?
If you've never heard of it, try to start listening to dangdut music right now.
The dangdut music genre is one of the most popular music in Indonesia because it is loved by all people, from rural to urban circles.
As a type of music that is so popular, dangdut is very open with other musical elements ranging from pop, rock, metal, r n b, jazz and others or maybe even all types of music can be combined with dangdut music.
The hallmark of dangdut music is the pounding of the drum or tabla with musical elements inherent in Hindustani, Malay or Arabic music.
There is also a spiritual dangdut with a special direction that was popularized by Rhoma Irama and Soneta group.
~ The history of dangdut music and its development.
The first appearance of dangdut music in Indonesia was around the 1960s.
The music that is influenced by most of these Indian songs uses the tabla musical instrument, which we know that the tabla is a kind of typical Indian musical instrument.
Along with its development, currently dangdut music is complete with other musical instruments with drums, guitars, basses, flutes, keyboards, drums and others according to taste.
Some of the dangdut music figures who popularized dangdut music were Rhoma Irama with the song Terajana, Mansyur S with the song Khana and Ellya Khadam with the song Boneka India.
~Dangdut musical instrument
tabla/gendang
keyboard
flute
drum
guitar
bass
gambus
And others
~Influential dangdut music figures
Rhoma irama
Meggy z
Mansyur s
A. Rafiq
Ellya khadam
Rita Sugiarto
Camelia Malik
~Types of dangdut music
Pop dangdut
Rock dangdut
Keroncong dangdut
Dangdut koplo
Dangdut house music
Dangdut campursari
And others
~Dangdut hits that are currently popular:
Denny caknan - kartonyono medot janji
https://youtu.be/WlmWXoP0C0s
Ndarboy Genk - mendung tanpo udan
https://youtu.be/jeccjxIgBJ0
Via Vallen - sayang
https://youtu.be/UtjFu8c_goE
Nella kharisma - jaran goyang
https://youtu.be/UtjFu8c_goE
For muslims
Happy fasting and I hope it goes smoothly for a full month.
Keep spirit 😇🔥
•Trouble Sleeping•
The sound of chickens sounded very loud, the dark night began to be erased with sunlight slowly starting to emerge from the sidelines of the morning clouds, the alarm clock immediately woke me from this short sleep.
Yes, I have problems with sleeping habits. Every day I sleep very little, less than four hours and that has been going on for a long time.
Some say I have insomnia, some say it's because I mostly consume black coffee and also lack mineral water intake. Many also say I have trouble sleeping because I think too much, so it's hard for my brain to rest,hahahaha Am I like that ?
~Must be consistent
I've taken advice after advice and started practicing, some accurate, some eccentric, but I know it's just a joke...LoL...
One of the best suggestions is to exercise regularly, watch your diet and the most important thing is to reduce the use of gadgets when going to sleep.
Well, this is where I can't be consistent in practicing it, I'm addicted to using gadgets and also still consume large amounts of caffeine. I'm really having a hard time with those two things, repeatedly trying to reduce the use of gadgets but still the temptation to use social media keeps coming, whether it's seeing short statuses or just reading friends' posts.
Along with that activity, of course accompanied by a cup or two coffee cup, hahaha....
Wow, I guess I'm not a consistent person, maybe I'll try to be more serious about dealing with natural sleep difficulties, because that's also for myself.
~Could it be a pandemic effect ?
Difficulty sleeping at night and also having trouble getting up in the morning is a new phenomenon during this Pandemic, not only me.
Many people besides me find it difficult to sleep, maybe also because they are too bored with the ongoing activity restrictions during the pandemic and they overcome boredom by having fun just by watching movies until late at night, every day until it has an impact on insomnia symptoms.
We often talk about it, many of them think this is the effect of the pandemic.But, I think differently from them. I just think it's because I can't get rid of the boredom due to this pandemic in a positive way.
Now I can only pray and always hope that this pandemic situation will end as usual, I miss the time before the pandemic, I miss the children going to school face to face as usual, I miss everything.
Now, I'm going to continue with some of the other suggestions that I'll be putting into practice soon, I don't want this to keep happening. The spirit will always surge to conquer the difficulty of sleeping, so that I can win it, which is to sleep soundly easily.
"Always Struggle to have a peaceful night and sleep" __®23
@Risz23