Quality is Remembered Long After The Price is Forgotten
Improved quality advances a business’ competitive advantage. It doesn't solely focus on the profits and just once of a transaction with its customers, rather they guarantee the prime quality of merchandise or services to make sensible credits (business reputation) to client relationship resulting in continual transactions with them (customer loyalty) as you meet the expectations that satisfy them.
A standard of quality along with your product is important for keeping customers. it'll improve image & reputation, which ought to end in higher demand, which can successively mean larger production volumes (possibly providing higher economies of scale) lower unit prices attributable to less waste, and rejected output fewer client complaints (& additional happy customers) doubtless higher selling costs (less ought to discount).
It is a multitude of advantages for the customers and therefore the business to settle in prime quality transactions. To consumers, they like to induce the best quality at intervals their get power. They set commonplace degrees of quality to satisfy them such as longevity, Fulfilment of their desires, cost, security, usability, and efficiency. Attaining all of those will place you on top of the competition.
In the end, product quality is a few things firms should emphasize. Making quality merchandise can still be the foremost necessary issue to customers in an exceeding world wherever it’s laborious to predict the strain of shoppers; this can be a vital concept to master.
Be A Woman With Mind, Class, and Attitude
As a woman of the modern day, we can't just go to the battlefield of reality with kindness. We must know how to build our fortress from all the stones threw at us. We are often prejudiced, blamed for being the real victim, belittled, and discriminated. Gender equality is being promoted yet the aforementioned are still rampant.
Show them how to treat you like a queen
https://youtu.be/XqBKrJnA8ZY
Respect taste better than attention. You don't have to be masculine to be strong. It's good to learn some defenses, however more than physical fight, we often encounter mental and emotional abusive situations, let our mindset be our crown.
A Woman Is Unstoppable After She Realizes She Deserves Better
Make sure that when you fall and crumble, you will take all the lessons and use those to fuel the construction of the better you. Since a woman who rebuilt herself wouldn't tolerate the same toxicity. Prioritize yourself. Be smarter, hotter, be the man who deserve you and you'll see yourself not settling for less. Save yourself from pain and disappointments. Never adjust your standards. Don't just dream for success, work for it.
Know your worth, embrace your power.
A Woman With Class Is Timeless
Stay classy. Don't put yourself at situations where it feels not you. Don't include yourself at pathetic toxic. It's alright to be in savage in a place. Only accept healthy criticism from respectable persons. Don't let those hypocrites define you. Being a woman doesn't mean you have to have curves, you're real, your smile has curve right? You don't have to be skinny, you don't have to be chubbier. A real woman is who you want to be.
Keep the attitude
Never let go of your own morals, character, and principles. Keep your passion. You are beautiful.
https://youtu.be/tDukIfFzX18
Bloom Into The Best Version of Yourself
https://youtu.be/D1PvIWdJ8xo
"Her heart bloomed sunflowers so she would always face the light" -Gemma Troy
Let's continue being prettier, hotter, be physically fit, and continue developing our mindset. These days, I seldom see a real man that treasures their woman so why not be the man you wanna have yourself? Let's focus on ourselves, build our career then everything will follow since you'll only accept what you deserve.
When it says always face the light, it doesn't mean that you always have to be happy. You can be sad, scared, mad, and every emotion we have. We got those for a purpose and once we mastered the control of emotions we can be more powerful.
Sometimes, struggling can also be considered facing the light when you hope and have faith. You are the flower, and wherever you bloom so does hope. Things get harder and harder, you're not weak, just think that it's for you to be stronger.
Rather wear a flower in your hair than diamonds around your neck
It's not that you can't wear jewelries. It's a metaphor of that you shouldn't be too engulfed with the societal standard of beauty, it'll only strangle you. Bloom in your own way even if darkness engulf you. You have to learn that you can be your own life.
"A flower does not think of competing with the flower next to it. It just blooms."- Zen Shin
"Choose what helps your heart blooms" - Dhiman
Choose what you deserve. Sometimes, we're put through things we don't deserve, that's reality. However, we need some rain to bloom. Like a cherry blossom that had to wither to be more beautiful in spring.
Don't just aim to be AVERAGE, aim to be AWESOME
Wherever life plants you, bloom with grace. Have more faith than fear. Stay focused and don't let others to take you for granted. You might be withered but it'll only make you bloom a more beautiful flower. We all have our own time like when flowers blooms.
"Sometimes you got to be a BEAUTY and a BEAST" -Nicki Minaj
We can't just always be beautiful. Somewhat, we need to put people around us at their places. Let's be beautiful and fierce and of course...with class.
If You Cannot Do Great Things, Do Small Things In A Great Way
https://youtu.be/CuklIb9d3fI
You Get What You Work For Than What You Wish For
Strive For Progress Not Perfection
Most people get overwhelmed with the complexity and difficulty of the situations. Some focus to the overall trials, however, I suggest that we focus on the things that's within our control. List your priorities, determine the consequences, only fix those that are not beyond your control. In this way, we can all proceed rather than being stuck. Slow or fast, small or big, progress is progress.
We can't just leave everything to wishes and luck. Be capable, be consistent. Build your will because it will be the one who will never let you quit.
Don't Limit Your Challenges, Challenge Your Limits
Thrive for development and growth. No one mature and grow without transcending their own limits.
Don't Make Excuses, Make Results
Just do it. Serve the complain last and by that time you'll grumble in place. It's a practical application, stop complaining to the things you'll have to do anyway. Of course it's different when there's prejudice against you. However, to all your tasks and responsibilities, just do it. Make this a habit a success will be born.
A Negative Mind Will Never Give You A Positive Life
Being optimistic is a good character but don't force it if you can't. You can ask for help, besides accepting that you can't do everything on your own makes you stand in place that's open for growth. Try and try to look at things in a hopeful way until you can turn such disadvantages into your advantage. It'll take time so just focus on your progress.
You Are Stronger Than What You Think
Reflect. Think of things you should be thankful to yourself. Appreciate yourself. Have rest and be equipped with gospels before you go to war again. Be proud of you.
Genuine Love Never Fades
https://youtu.be/Kp2rU4jpM7s
Falling In Love Feels The Happiest yet Can Also Be The Deadliest
When I say deadly I mean that it can kill you inside.
However, imagine finally being with someone who consistently treats you right.
When you don't always have to say the words and give constant reminder.
When bare minimum isn't lacking.
When it's healthy and you both won't mind if its boring because first of all, having each other even without doing anything is already fulfilling.
When there's no too much love because you won't be too much to the right one.
When it's not just feeling lucky but feeling blessed.
When they'll never get tired hearing your off tune singing
When they never make fun of your insecurities
When we're constantly assured that we're handsome and beautiful because you can really see how much they adore you
When they got the same excitement to see you the same way they had at first
When in every emotion they have the respect is maintained as well as the faithfulness
When you both pull each other up
When words align with actions
The list goes on and on as we fall in love again and again with the same person.
If you lose this kind of person then that person will forever love you but she'll love someone more than she love you... that's what happens as I experience.
Things I Wanna Do With My Future Lover
I wanna sing Enchanted and Sparks Fly with him. I wanna sing style and he'll sing perfect. I wanna sing with him as we mean the songs we wanna say to each other.
Dancing in the kitchen. Cooking and baking with him.
Travelling with him
Recreating iconic Tangled scene.
Going to each other's favorite band, artist, singer concert
Watch anime with me
Invest with me
Giving each other "***" flower. It's a secret since I asked this certain flower as a sign so I won't tell here just to be safe hahahaah.
I wanna play sports with him
Camp fire
I have so many things I wanna do but I still don't want a boyfriend now ahhahaha. I'm fine if I'll just be a rich single tita.
It's better to be alone than to settle for less
Settling for less makes you lose yourself
Stay with your standards. Be fine. You'll know if you're asking for the impossible anyway.
Build your career, invest with yourself. It'll be better to stop yourself getting into toxic relationship than leaving one.
Love With Discipline Produced Disciples
Discipline is a common word with simple meaning yet found hard to live with by most of the people.
We all have our toxic sides but the only difference is that some choose to fix it and some won't.
Be righteous. Easier said than done. However, there's a huge difference from the ones who try and those who don't.
Emotions
Controlling your feelings is hard but worth it when mastered. Being able to become less impulsive so you won't regret will be a huge help for yourself and for others too.
Wear your crown of character and manners wherever you go. Take your discipline as your skin. Stay with your standards with open eyes, ears, mind, and heart (meaning, you can stay with your set degree and limits while not being close minded to the point you won't accept a healthy criticism and recognized good suggestions and opinions).
If you stay within your own principles while also growing and not stepping down to adjust with toxicity and incapability then you'll notice that you can radiate the jewels of your crown of characters and manners. You'll be surrounded with people who also have the will to grow.
Upholding your discipline will produce disciples as you can have the significant influence to them. Isn't that fulfilling?
Our purpose is to make disciples
Living with the gospels as your guide and eventually teaching that to others and make chain of teachings and development.
Once you influence others for the good and they also grow, they'll also influence someone.
Your discipline doesn't only benefit you but also those who surround you and also people who interact with those who took after you.
https://youtu.be/c9RzZpV460k
***Our new color is called together***
Discipline leads to unity and development. Altogether, wear your crowns of character and manners and establish our kingdom/queendom.
Be the role model. Be the one you'll feel proud of
Your level of maturity is essential. Reality is harsh so being ignorant is fatal. Work on yourself. Equip yourself with the gospel and moral principles.
In Confession, There's a Liberation
Realized
Realize yourself. Realize all your sins, mistakes, guilts, regrets, every burden, and every weight on you. Reflect to yourself. With this, you can determine what you have to fix to you, what part of you you needs cleansing, growing, developing, changing...identify that part of you that you need to calm and tame.
Confess
Confess your sin. Preferably to God. However, we both have different beliefs in religion so I'll let you just choose who you want to confess. Then I suggest that you confess to yourself too. Feel yourself, talk to yourself as if it's your closest friend. Hear yourself, pat yourself.
Liberation
Once you confess you'll feel lighter. In admittance and acceptance of mistakes there's freedom. Freedom from guilt, anxiety, self oppression. Confess then free yourself.
This doesn't mean that you're responsibilities and consequences will be irrelevant. You still have to face those however instead before of facing those with shackles, now that you're free, you'll be facing those with armor.
https://youtu.be/FtUNQpu2b7Q
If you live with Christ you'll get the Armor of God. Helmet of salvation, breastplate of righteousness, belt of truth, shield of faith, sword of spirit, sandals of gospel of peace, and all together launched and empowered with genuine prayer.
You Had Her With Your Words; You Lost Her With Your Actions
https://youtu.be/BZ-rLBkUZf4
***It can also be applied to any gender however I'm gonna write in girl's POV. Assume that this is vice versa***
Words are dangerous because some are too good that turn out to be lies while some are sharper than swords, and hotter than burning furnace.
We must be careful being swayed with words. Most boys knew how to gaslight and still have the audacity to be mad at you when you react. Let's be careful and don't trust anyone easily. Be careful with yourself.
Do not ignore any red flag as it will be the same reason why you're breaking apart.
Promises shoot our hearts
All the promises and all the stated words that we always dream to hear but turned out to have expiration date. They just want the initial phase of relationship, the excitement, sparks, butterflies, and rainbows. They put efforts to get us then when they already got what they want they'll start changing.
Let's not rush in relationships. Know each other well. Observe how he act when he's happy, sad, scared, mad, in every emotion he has. As well as how he behave with and without you. Give yourself time to see each other's true color.
In this way we'll not cause another traumas that may cost and last a lifetime.
Align your words with your actions
This is the most attractive behaviour a man can have for me. It's not easy to be consistent but a never ending will of trying to be better or at least maintain the characters you have at the same time at courting stage...this is real.
However, be careful again as some can pretend for a long time because they also fooled themselves.
Have courage to walk away
Women don't walk away easily. She fought, she drained herself, she gave everything she can do to save the relationship and to love her partner. That's why it's common that women don't regret the break up.
If there's no character development then leave. You're not there to fix him, you are there for each other to grow and love then naturally be happy. However, if the toxicity is kept on cycle, when you try to address issue but always seen as seeking for arguments, when you become dramatic and pathetic to his eyes because of his own doing...sighs. Don't settle for less
Sometimes it's best to leave it all broken than to hurt yourself
I know that it's sad to say goodbye to the person you wish to spend your lifetime with. However, think for yourself. Try to think about what family you can have with him being like that. Go where you're treated the way you deserve.
Let go of things that are no longer good for you
You don't need a boy, you also don't need a man. However, you can want a man. Settle for what's good for you, to that one man that never find it hard to give bare minimum or even go beyond that. That one man who can't disrespect you as well as let you go.
A Pretty Face Doesn't Mean A Pretty Heart
Who don't wanna feel pretty? Everyone wants to be pretty.
https://youtu.be/LH57uZUxSKo
Some may call you pretty. Some will put effort to boost your confidence. However, it's actually on you. It's on you how you'll accept that you are the only beholder of your own beauty.
Easier said than done. I don't even see myself pretty as I write this but I'm trying.
A pretty face doesn't mean a pretty heart. But there are people who's pretty and kind. We shouldn't feel so insecure to them so we can both focus strengthening the fire of beauty that illuminates within and out. Once we achieve the looks we wanted, stay humble and make sure that the definition of beauty isn't a just shallow nonsense idea that based on the face.
Don't let others make you feel something you are not
We're beautiful. We're all beautiful. The only difference to some is, they don't see and realize it themselves. That includes me.
It's so hard. Specially when you get mistreated because of your face, skin color, imperfections, height, body type, and weight. It's so hard not to listen but let's fight hard to at least not make us feel ugly. Let's believe those sincere people who really see our beauty even if we're still not capable of being physically attractive and glowing because we're still under illness, problems, stresses, and thriving. We're already beautiful and once we see that...then we can glow.
You don't have to be pretty like her, be pretty like you
I know we have the ideal looks we want from someone we wish we look like. However, be pretty by appreciating your features. If you wanna glow up then go ahead and enhance your beauty. Do it for yourself. Do it with your better self as your ideal and not anyone.
"If beauty were time, you'd be eternity"
You are beautiful
You are strong
You are worth it!
Be confidently beautiful with a heart
Be The Adult You Needed As A Child
Not everyone is blessed to have a family or at least good parents/guardians
Having heavy experiences in childhood and bearing its weight without transferring it your child or any younger generation or even to other people signifies maturity, strength, and compassion. I salute you for that.
I'm under pressure and born with adult responsibilities
I can't just turn my back with these responsibilities anymore. I grew up earning that academic validation. Everything in my life is standardized. I am constantly timed and tested. It's draining and I feel like drowning.
Never shoot arrows from your body to others
I you're constantly pressured then let others have their time and childhood without or at least with less pressure. If you got adult responsibilities as a child then make sure you'll never repeat the same for your child. Let them create themselves without having to always put their responsibilities ahead of themselves.
You may not deserve what you got but you're doing well living with those weights. I salute you
Forget the Mistake; Remember the Lesson
We are not our mistakes. We are not our struggles. As long as you keep on trying to be better then we should be proud to ourselves.
We all have regrets for our mistakes. We have two choices, either let it drown you and make you feel useless or use it to fire you up to purpose. I know that some mistakes are wanted to be forgotten. You can do that, but you should remember the lesson so you wouldn't do the same mistake again.
Let's not be careless with our hearts and feelings of another. We may induced trauma that we'll never know how long it'll be lifted. There can be only one mistake that can change everything. Neither we can't take back things we did nor we can turn back time. We are only capable to live with consequences.
It's hard not to regret and just take the lesson
We have conscience. We are haunted with the guilt, that's make us more human. It's hard not to regret some mistakes specially when it has high impact to you and everyone involved. Intentional or unintentional the weight maybe yours.
It's so scary to make mistakes because some are grave and you have to carry the weight of that mistake for the life time. It is natural to regret. It invokes your sincerity more for repentance. There's nothing wrong about it.
However, you must help yourself not to be drown with it. You can regret while learning.
Think of the weights of your mistakes as strengthening gears that you have to wear throughout the life time. Carry the weights and use the lessons as your shoes that will keep you at the track.
You are taught and being trained. Then someday those regrets the weights tons will be feathers of your wings.
Yesterday's mistake wouldn't be the only version of yourself
https://youtu.be/ITc-om9SVr4
Sooner or later you'll realized how much you should repent depending on the degree of your mistakes.
I hope you won't have to mask yourself because of these. Your mistakes shaped you. Show yourself. It's alright to be you...it's alright for you to be happy and live.
No Child Should Be Born With an Adult Responsibility
Not everyone is privileged to be financially stable or be born with a wealthy family. Debts have natural occurrence to a very poor household with may family members to support. From a child's point of view, it can be imprinted to his/her mind in a bad way or it can have mental issues within.
A Child's Point of View
I hate it when my family beg for money. I hate it when they have to hide because they can't pay their debts. I hate it because their debts are piled up and it just can not be cleared. I hate it because they continue asking for money even if they know their debts will be larger and they can't pay for it anymore.
But what can I do? If they have no debt we can't eat. We can't go to school and support our living. I hate it but I can't do anything because I myself depend on that.
Why is my dad's salary not enough? Why can't our store make a penny? Is it because our family is too big? I really don't want to see my family buried in debt.
I can't wait to get a job and give the money I earned to my parents. I want to pay all their debts so they can live freely. There would not be thorns in their chests; and they don't have to hide anymore.
I don't wanna see my family begging for money because my heart and pride are hurt. Some of the times when the debtor gone mad; humiliation, embarrassment....I hate this. But it is our fault, so the responsibility is ours. I hate it more when I can't do anything about it.
I have to lie to the debtor. I always need to lie. I'll hear the gossips about my family. I'll hear my family fight because of money and I'm so done.
Just a little more time. I'll clear everything for them. I'll bring back their sacrifices for me. No good child wants to see his/her family suffering.
...
No Child Should Be Born With an Adult Responsibility
Be careful creating a family you can't fully support. A child must have a childhood that is work free and with all his/her rights provided.
Children shouldn't be a retirement plan. Don't give them the responsibility to shoulder the living of the whole family that's why you keep pushing that child to have high grades then go to work so you can have all the better life.
It's for him/her too but there's a big difference between naturally letting the child to decide if they'll help on the household financially and imprinting the responsibility to the child like she's/he's a retirement plan.
Let them live their life without having to worry too much as soon as they can think. Let them be a child and let them have fun with their friends. Let them do good hobbies they wanna do.
A child that is treated good will naturally care for you for life so you don't need to pressure the child.
Do not make a child lie for your sake
Some make their kids lie. Like saying they aren't home even if they are so the debtor will go away. That's not a healthy character for a child.
Your child; your responsibility
They did not chose to live. You did. So to those who keep guilt tripping their child for being dependent to them and having their needs provided...stop.
Parents Give You Life: Parents Give You Their Lives
Forgotten
Will you ever look back at me?
I wish you would
Can we hold each other's hand again?
I hope we could
Back then you're so small;
but now, you're so big
I can't reach you now
I can't take any step
You are walking to your path
But here's me, looking at your back...
slowly fading away from my vision,
like I am in your memory
I miss your smile
I miss your laugh
I miss your hug
I miss you my love
Please look at my eyes...
just one time
Please just remember me...
just one day
I miss you so much
I miss it so much
The day we were together;
creating memories to gather
Don't just run away from me
My heart is filled of tears
My back and knees...
feels so weak
Feeling this loneliness alone
Far from you
I'm growing old...
without you
Before the end,
I want to see you
I want to hold you
...and say that I love you
https://youtu.be/HPduNiSSRV4
Not everyone is blessed to have parents. Not everyone is blessed to have real ones or at least good ones. So if you have one...treasure them even when they're old.
Some children often forget and invalidate their parents as they grow old. Some just sent them to home for the aged then never visit them again.
Taking care of our parents isn't the responsibility of a child but this is the greatest gift we can naturally feel to give to our parents that we love.
Let's not forget them just because we're finally stable in life. Let's love them eternally and never forget their sacrifices.
Let's also treasure them the way they are now. Don't complain without thinking about things your parents couldn't give...it was probably all they had and still choose to give it to you.
Someone Who Overthinks is Also Someone Who Overloves
Overthinkers are sensitive
They are just not sensitive on how others see and treat them but as well as how they do that to others too, specially to the ones they care. They often ask, mind, or observe you. Asking themselves if they're still not going beyond the line, if they made you mad or irritated, if they did something wrong, if they unintentionally hurt you. I hope you'll be patient to someone like them.
I used to be treated bad and invalidated. Explaining myself always receive as an argument, expressing my feelings became pathetic, and addressing my concerns for those things that bothers and hurts me made me dramatic.
To all of the people who's receiving such treatment, get away to that person. A person who really cares for you won't make your mental health worst. Your anxiety wouldn't be a problem. If they genuinely love you they'll listen to you, peacefully addressing concerns, and have healthy criticisms. You won't even have to worry if you're bothering them, once you got the taste of reality and saw who really cares for you, you'll understand what I'm saying. If not yet, then I hope you'll be patient to yourself. Open your eyes and reflect, you'll know if you're too sensitive or they're just insensitive towards you.
An overthinker always put themselves in different perspectives, that's why I know that you'll know what you deserve and what to fix on yourself.
https://youtu.be/BnGF8DGg3iU
Overthinkers Overlove
This is different at love bombing.
Love bombing is showering you with affection and attention and resisting your boundaries. However, an overthinker is always careful to your boundaries. They mind what you like and dont. They just purely love you. They always ask how you feel because they're having a hard time to trust themselves that they won't unintentionally hurt you or they know the feeling of being invalidated and not being asked that's why they're making sure you won't have to feel the same when you're with them.
Actually, it is not overlove. It's just loving you in the way they think you deserve. I think it is just called overlove because most of the overthinkers tend to love their partners more than themselves or at least they prioritize them more than they do to their own self. They love the purest but also they're the one who gets hurt the most.
That's why overthinkers should be careful when they love. At least at the very first phase of liking someone, I hope you all will be careful.
You'll never be too much to someone who really loves you and found you enough. However, if we love an undeserving person, they'll also hurt us in the way we don't deserve.
Real is Rare: Fake is Everywhere
You're Not Alone
***By: Rhoma***
Pretending that you're okay
Hiding all the pain with that smile everyday
Nobody knows, nobody see;
how much wreck that heart of thee
Every laugh, every smile you make,
time passes and the real will fade
Keeping all inside of you
Keep goin' with that sham you
***Pre-chorus:***
Baby, you're not alone
Baby, I'm here with you
Just look and you'll see me at your back walking with you, oh baby
***Chorus:***
Laugh despite the pain, ha-ha-ha-ha-ha
It's okay, I won't cry, ha-ha-ha-ha-ha
I am fine, baby I won't cry
I am fine, baby I won't cry
Strong, that is you
Pain, that's the real you
Don't keep it all by yourself
Someone's there to give herself
How long will you dissimulate?
Go, find, and locate–
the real you that was drown
Take my hand; together we'll see the dawn
***Pre-chorus:***
Baby, you're not alone
Baby, I'm here with you
Just look and you'll see me at your back walking with you, oh baby
***Chorus:***
Laugh despite the pain, ha-ha-ha-ha-ha
It's okay, I won't cry, ha-ha-ha-ha-ha
I am fine, baby I won't cry
I am fine, baby I won't cry
I know you're not okay
You know? Someone's hiding in gray
Secretly watching you
I'm someone that's here for you
Take my hand and I'll pull you up
You don't have to pretend
I accept who you are
I can be that someone you'll call real friend
Baby, you're not alone
Baby, I'm here with you
Just look and you'll see me at your back walking with you, oh baby
Laugh despite the pain, ha-ha-ha-ha-ha
It's okay 'cause I'm not alone
I am fine, baby I'm now real
I am fine, baby I'm now real
ha-ha-ha-ha-ha (3x)
I am fine, baby I'm now real
I am fine, baby I'm now real
***Author's Note:***
I wrote this song and I hope it somehow encourage you to be the real you. Like when we don't have to put on make ups, lose more weight, gain weight, be rich, stay with the trend, and so on. I hope we'll feel more confident about ourselves. We can change if we want but where you are right now is also the real you, not because we think this is not our best state yet, also means that we can't be confident about it.
We're all in the process and if it's a good process then we should be proud.
Be real and you'll also attract real people. You won't have to put your mask on.
There's a certain line here that I talked about looking back and you'll see me there.
We all have our own separate lives. We can't expect our friends to always be beside us but you can always hope that they got your back.
Don't waste real people ^w^ because the world has some people who's fake and those people who are real good at being fake.
Stuck In A Beautiful Nightmare
https://youtu.be/ezmEk1QpSK4
Draining...
Drowning...
Headaches...
Stomachaches...
Heartache...
Everything messed up and you're lost.
Too much pain then numb with heart in frost
For one you made your home
Now you're back, just alone
Can't unlike things you introduced that became my favorite
Can't just lock away all the memories
Should've never been transparent while you lie
Now I wonder how I can still believe in love
I thought you're a flower but you are the thorn
Thorns that deeply thrusted my flesh when you came and I gladly hugged you back
Should've never even look at you
Should've left you earlier than believe in you
We are so beautiful at first
I still hoped and believed
Held you for so long that it hurts but still I chose to understand
But it's all just a beautiful nightmare
In this world where fake seems so real then real seems a frightful fake...
At least be the half they'll never regret loving
It's alright when all the truth just piled up and made you regret
You're not entitled to respect the mistreatment
*Authors note: hope you heal and finally find your happiness within.*
Real Love Won't Teach You to Sin
Of course we all sin. In relationship, we all sin. However, we will talk about a constant sin without any character development for the both of you and the one that pulls you down.
Real love doesn't have to accept all the bad sides
https://youtu.be/xlkFTxnizyk
It's not like that. Loving you as a whole doesn't mean with your bad sides. She/he can be patient and forgiving but she/he doesn't have to love that side of you that hurts her/him. Let's put it in a scenario. You are smoking and always drinking, you can't say to your partner that she/he needs to accept that because that's who you are. Be deserving and don't be mad if your partner will point out those habits of yours that are bad for you and for the relationship. This is a part of valuing each other. You pull each other up to bring out the best of you. It's not hard to be better in time if you really love that person. If you find it hard then you don't love that person, she's/he's just too good for your ego that even your own self knew that letting go of that person is such a waste.
Real love won't make you lie
It won't tolerate you lying to her/him, to yourself, friends, or family. White lies should be discussed in another topic as it's sensitive and situational.
Real love isn't the first sparks and excitement where you get all the butterflies
It's the one that stays. The one that will make you look at him/her with the same longing and excitement like from the very first time you realized you love that person.
Love shouldn't take you for granted and isn't abusive. Stop looking at red flags romantically. Over jealousy is a red flag, it's not just he'/she's securing you or claiming you...if it's beyond the line, it's bad and that's it. Asking for your nudes doesn't mean he/she founds you sexy and charming, that's a disrespect. Some of you all may be naive for these things for your first time in relationships. I suggest you all take note of these kind of things so you'll not be too careless to yourself.
Real love matters more than the benefit
The person who really loves you won't support you to do bad things just because she/he or both of you have benefits for it.
https://youtu.be/vx5-tCPSSSo
Fake love exist and it's clear to see, however we become blind by the first trials and hope for the better change. Pull yourself away from insincere person without any good intention to you.
Trust me. Care for yourself so you won't regret.
Some of the people may already made the mistake but it's still possible to be a better version of yourself.
It's Easier to Change Your Man Instead of Making Your Man Change
And oops...should've put "boy*" instead of man haha. We all know the reason why.
Don't Fall for Potential
Of course there are cases that are yet to be achieved. For example, a yet to be successful man in terms of dreams and wealth. However, what we're gonna discuss here is about the character. Because such things like wealth can be earned and we'll support that.
Don't fall to a potential bare minimum. Like if he promised to treat you right soon then still keeps on disrespecting and invalidating you. Stop staying to a boy who only needs you but can't even hold you right. If a man genuinely loves you, he'll love you the way you deserve and his words will align to his actions. Trust me, it wouldn't be so hard to do the bare minimum in a relationship if the love is genuine.
No matter how long you'll stay hoping, the moment it's done it's already a signal, twice is a red flag, thrice is insincere, and so on is hopeless. Unless it's cheating, once is enough to walk away.
https://youtu.be/kTJczUoc26U
Don't feel bad to walk away for your own sake
Love won't give you more anxiety. Love shouldn't take your peace of mind away. I know it's hard to walk away, you can try to drain yourself to the corr hoping but I hope you'll realize as soon as possible that you wouldn't even be there in that position if you're being valued.
When I say it's easier to change your boy
It doesn't mean to change him literally in an instant. You can have a better man soon but when I said that, I mean that it's because you already know how much you deserve as a woman when it comes to you having a man and being their lady.
Focus on yourself. Don't try to make him jealous or regret what he did to you. It's better to not keep any feelings even anger and sadness. I know it's hard, it'll take time. But for your sake, just do it.
Be untouchable and unbothered
If he comes back then it's on you to decide (if he cheated last time well it's not advisable).
It's more recommendable to focus on yourself first. Give yourself the love you didn't receive when you're with him. Work on yourself and achieve your goals in life. Take a break from relationships. Consequences are not good if you'll instantly go to another man because he's treating you better. You might've fall for that because you barely receive that from last. So I suggest that you take a long break first then when you completely moved on, have a clearer mind, when you're ready to risk again then you'll know the right time when to entertain and who to choose as your man.
Choose well, because our partner in life is our greatest investment.
I Don't get Jealous, I Lose Interest
I don't get jealous. I am territorial. What's mine is mine. If he belongs to me then I'll be territorial. It's normal for me to get annoyed to those girls who will keep lingering around my man but as long as my man will keep himself untouchable then there will be no issue. I'm not petty to feel the need to be jealous over something beyond my man's control. As long as he's not going beyond his limit and constantly considering me, I have no issue no matter how many girls go to him. He'll shut them down anyway.
However, a big HOWEVER, if my man will offer himself to another girl then that's the end of me being territorial. It's not worth keeping a boy mine when he's the one himself fooling around with other girl. I don't get jealous, I lose interest. Who's in the right mind to still have the will to keep a flirty boy around? It's a clear disrespect and trust me, you don't need someone like that.
Attachment Issue
Of course we'll have a hard time to detach ourselves. You might think that I'm jealous but the fact is that it's just the little attachment I still have as I'm at the stage of losing interest. If you have the same situation with me then I hope you'll take your time and don't make more stupid decision hahaha. There's no hope for a boy who already gave himself away when he already had you. Let's now sing "We could have been so good together" then let's add "...but you're too stupid so yeah." hahaha
https://youtu.be/elV3vDD_K30
Love shouldn't put you in a position where you have to feel like you're competing with another for the heart of your partner
That's one of the worst feeling, and I want you to understand that love isn't there at least not in that time anymore. Love respects, love stays, love understand and comprehend. It's alright to be vulnerable at first but don't try to win him back again. It's not worth it. If you'll keep clinging with him then he'll fail to realize that it's not your loss and it's just your troublesome attachment issue. Begging him will boost his nonsense ego. He failed to keep a diamond, you'll feel better soon.
One day you'll be thankful that you no longer suffer while your partner is having fun, you'll have peace of mind, more money, no wasted efforts for partner, no fear of being cheated, and no more additional trauma.
"You Can Only Lose What You Cling To" -Buddha
**"You can only lose what you cling to."-Buddha**. I came across this quote while I'm browsing and it just hit really hard in my mind. As I reflect on it, I understood certain aspect of life.
We create our own pain and suffering. We choose who we'll be together with, choose what food to eat, where to go, what dream to have, and so on. Those are examples of people and things we cling in life. Those that we're attaching ourselves. And those that we attached with are the only ones we can lose. You can't lose a person that you never invested in. For example, if one of the stranger leave you alone then that's not your loss, however if your lover leave you for good, it'll be a loss. It depends on the situation, if that lover is good for your being then it's your loss but if that lover is toxic to you, it's still your loss...you know what you lose? ...part of yourself.
Existence of the word "cherish"
We tend to give parts of ourselves to people and things we choose to cling. Once we cling to them then we have to accept the fact that there's a risk of losing them. That's the reality of life. That's why the word "cherish" exist. Cherish those who genuinely love you, cherish those time, things, and activities that develop you. Cherish your own self.
Fear of Losing
We don't only give parts of us to the things we cling to. We're also bound to the energy, attention, affection, and love we're receiving. We also made those people and those things as part of ourselves. We built ourselves with them too. Those feelings that we found essential and priceless in life, bit by bit we're realizing the fear to lose those we love and what we have. We fear to crumble back down to the ground and restart again after every hard work we invested. We became scared as it'll be confusing and feels like we're lost because when we lose those we cling to then we'll question ourselves, because as aforementioned...we made those as part of ourselves.
Clinging to emotions
Reflect. Personally, I found emotions the hardest to control. For most people, it is anger. Humans tend to cling to emotions to. Perfect example is the desire of everyone of us for happiness. However, we should consider that happiness doesn't always go exactly what we think it is
We should be careful when clinging to certain emotions. Specially anger, if we'll cling to it too much then keep it inside of us and let it eat out being then it'll cause a war of reciprocity where only pain and anger occurs. When we put our anger on top and when the other person do the same then it'll not solve anything, instead ruin each other.
https://youtu.be/bg1sT4ILG0w
Think for yourself. Decide for yourself. Choose those who you feel and think worthy of suffering from loss of being abandoned, left out, or denied. Choose those who are worth the pain.
Things Don't Get Easier, You Just Get Stronger
It's all about mindset. Keep your mind healthy and the rest will follow.
When I was younger I used to wait for every difficult situation to become easier. I always complain and wait for me to be ready but I always struggle with the limited time so I still comply at the end. The point is, you don't wait to be ready, you make yourself ready. Yes, it's okay to take your time but we have to be realistic that there are situations that have limited time and unexpected situations that require immediate action.
Practice. Practice. Practice. Fail, lose, have mistakes, it's alright. Just keep practicing until you become stronger and well adopted to sudden adjustments. More than you think, being able to push yourself to be ready is much more important and a necessity in life.
Stop Spoon Feeding Yourself
Magkamay ka, char.
Struggle. Grind. Manifest with actions. You won't move forward if you'll just keep dreaming, believing, then end up with procrastination. Feed your mind then move your body. Live your daily life with your best as success lies in your daily routines.
It's just hard
No it isn't. Yes it is. No matter what the answer is, it only leaves the fact that it's because you're still yet to become stronger. Work on yourself. Once you know what to change and improve about yourself then you can move forward to the next phase which is execution. Have actions. Align your words to your actions and create your own magnificent constellations filled with the brightest stars of your body, mind, and soul.
The hardest battle you have to face is the battle with your own self
https://youtu.be/EHkozMIXZ8w
Focus on your growth. Commit. Keep trying until it become a habit. We don't rush here, but still we have to be better than who we are yesterday.
Be Friends With Your Monsters
Give time to understand yourself. Learn to differentiate those negative thoughts and feelings if they'll just drag you down or make way for you to see what you should do and what you deserve. Those you need to eradicate from yourself are just the toxic, those that are poison to your body, mind, and soul. However, those monsters...they aren't meant to be killed because they are part of you who knows what you deserve, who needs improvement, those are parts of you that needs you. Tame them, make them your allies and you'll become the strongest warrior you'll ever be
Keep Slaying!
Live a life, be the person you can be proud of and worth flexing for.
Leading that Transcends Differences
A leader wasn't born but made. Through experiences and as we mature we become leaders and true leaders make more leaders out of his/her followers. He maximize the potentials of his/her members. Moreover, they are the ones who bear their crowns as they fulfill their responsibilities; and the ones who embrace everyone within their authority.
Leading aims for unity
Every person is different from one and another. We come from different places, races, have different languages, gender identity, and so much more variations. Still, a leader transcend these differences and lead everyone to same vision.
Quality is greater than quantity
We need real leaders. Not those who put themselves as one but with selfish intentions. We need better leaders. We need leaders who have healthy perspective on what it means to lead. We need leaders who leverage their influence for a greater good.
Leaders make more leaders out of their own followers
They help their followers/members to maximized their individual potentials. Leaders aren't born but made out of oneself.
In a time of dehumanization, leaders value people
Leaders have an affinity and appreciation for the people they lead. Intentionally adding value to people makes people feel valued.
In a time of discouragement, leaders encourage people
Discouragement has become a native language for many, especially online. Leaders encourage people to something different-something positive.
In a time of apathy, leaders equip people
Encouragement alone is not enough to make a difference. They also need to be equipped to make a difference. Leaders take the time to train, coach, and mentor people to help bring out the talents and strengths of everyone.
In a time of cynicism, leaders inspire people
One of the most challenging things for a leader to do is balance reality with vision. Reality says, “This is where we’re at,” while vision says, “This is where we’re going to be.” It’s an abundance perspective that makes people hopeful.
In a time of powerlessness, leaders empower people
Of all the ways that leaders change lives for the better, nothing matches the gift of empowerment. Leaders take their power, combine it with their belief in the best of others, and give both away freely.
How to make difference through actions?
In order to bring out the best in others, you have to bring out the best in you.
Identify your passion
Making a difference usually requires you to go above and beyond expectations. To rise above expectations, you must have something that motivates you. Identify your passion. What is it that excites you?
Don't depend on other people to act
Most people are great, and many do wonderful things. But there are many people who do nothing. They complain and expect others to fix things. Don’t be that person.
Rethink risk
Making a difference often involves an issue greater than you alone. You are focused on making a difference in the life of others. That’s your opportunity.
You may be thinking, “There has to be a catch, right? If most people don’t act, there must be a reason. It must be risky.” Wrong. Inaction can be more risky than action.
Pursue respect, not likability
If you live your life making decisions based on what others think of you, you will not lead your own life. If you can’t lead your own life, you can’t make an impact on others. Leaders make decisions, and not all of them are well received. But they make decisions regardless because they believe it is the right thing to do.
Know what you want people to remember you by
Sometimes you need to be startled to act. The time is now to make a difference and lead. Don’t wait. And don’t wait for permission. You will be waiting a long time. Act now, and start creating the narrative that you want people to remember about you.
*Author's Note: This is a presentation of my team at our team building. I hope it helped you all too.*
Your Monsters Need You to Be Their Lighthouse
The person we all find the hardest to love is ourselves. It takes lots of time, efforts, failures, acceptance, and patience. When I was younger, I used to think that my monsters are meant to be chased out but I learned that it doesn't always have to be like that. Rather than chasing them out of me, I learned to tame them. I'm taming them one by one, little by little. In moderation of releasing my monsters to be part of me, I'm removing my toxic traits and I'm becoming more of myself.
Our monsters are just us who needs development, love, and care. Be your own lighthouse and guide yourself to the person you wanted to be.
https://youtu.be/k_C7WbeX-9c
I know it's hard. I know the feeling when you just can't help it. I know you're so tired. You can be like that for a while, your mental health need that. You can just lay in bed, be lazy, sad, and tired. You can do that. Put yourself first. It's a hard fight to battle with yourself everyday and night.
However, please eat, drink water, try to sleep or at least take naps. I know it's hard but we all know what is needed. Your monsters can be so overwhelming, it'll make you stronger. Take your time, fail, that's okay. I know there are circumstances where you have tight time, it's all in you on how you'll handle that.
I'm also struggling right now. I'm overthinking, suffering from anxiety, my health is declining. However, here are some things that are helping we to keep going on.
Music- I listen to good music that I relate, some comfort me, heal me, sad with me, and songs that reminds me my worth and makes me feel powerful. If you love music I suggest you invest your time listening.
Sleep- I know you can't just sleep. Try to not use your phone and just be in your bed even if you can't sleep. Close your eyes and maintain proper breathing.
Watch movies/shows- in my case I love One Piece. It helped me a lot to lessen my overthinking. Choose those that makes you happy. Don't settle in scrolling, that just made me more tired and lazy so I think some of you may have the same effect.
Try to do your hobbies- try crochet, painting, song writing, etc. but you don't have to force yourself here. When I'm in the first stages of my tiredness, I don't wanna do anything. I constantly lay down in bed doing nothing but still it didn't feel a rest, I'm still tired. When you feel the same right now, you need to feed your mind and soul.
I used to think that I can't help it, I'm so weak, I'm not being better... nothing happened, it just made me more tired. I started to feed my mind with music and those things I deserve and those that I have and want to protect...slowly I'm recovering, I don't wanna lose my present over things from the past. I don't wanna lose myself, and the future self I'm dreaming to be. Let's not lose our vision.
We constantly battle to our own monsters for lifetime, fight in your own way then tame them and make them you allies. On the process you are building yourself.
-from a lazy, sad, and tired potato ("I'm just resting for now before going to my own battlefields again hehe. You can do the same. It's better to fight with determination of conquering them all, at the same time it's also okay to fight with tears. Both are brave things.)
You Don't Have to Be Sorry When:
There are things that you don't need to apologize for.
https://youtu.be/n_R0-YosZ3g
1. Cutting off the people who are not good for you
You don't have to apologize when you finally react and decided to cut ties with the person who's toxic to you. You can't keep persons who keep on making you feel less. This is for the sake of your peace of mind. They won't be cut off if they're treating you right, they deserved it so don't be sorry.
2. Saying "NO"
You have the freedom to go along or not. You don't have to apologize for not wanting to do or say things you don't want to. It is meant to be respected.
3. Having Imperfections
You can say sorry for your mistakes but imperfections such as acne, stretch mars, eyebags, dark spots, and any other physical features are not for you to apologize for. It's your body, you're not hurting anyone with that. They're hurting you and you're tolerating them when you apologize for those. Another natural imperfections can be your voice when you can't sing or when you don't have the flexible body to dance. All imperfections that doesn't hurt anyone but you, those imperfections that naturally fallen on and in you...you don't need to say sorry for that. It is meant to be appreciated by the right persons and mostly you, yourself.
4. Asking your worth
You are not dramatic and pathetic. If you feel like asking for it then go ask. Those who genuinely love you won't find that a bother at all. You need assurance and security. You need that for yourself and for the relationships you have with people around you. Sometimes, we need words of affirmation.
5. Taking time for yourself
You might have lots of works to do, lots of problems to face, responsibilities to fulfill, pressures to bear....stop. Stop for a while, that's okay. Don't let yourself be overwhelmed. Take time for yourself once in a while. This is needed, you don't have to say sorry. It is your right. Take care of yourself.
6. Following your dreams
Others may go to different path. You don't need to say sorry if you wanna have your own. If you won't be swayed by their opinions, if you won't change your mind based on their preferences...there's no apology needed for those things.
7. Standing your ground and following your truth
It's in your own principles. It is you're character and manner you're holding. It must be respected, it's alright even if you're the only one standing for that. Take your dignity with you and don't apologize for that.
However some cases doesn't need apology but you voluntarily give it. Sometimes apologizing does not always mean you are wrong and the other person is right. This happens when you value your relationship more than your ego. But this is not healthy to do if you're the only one doing this in that relationship. It should be the both of you. Don't sacrifice your pride to someone who's okay to lose you for simple arguments.
Daily Habits
Success lies in your daily habits. The way you're building yourself from today and on, the way you shape your mindset and align your words, characters, and actions with it; the way you stick to a healthy daily routine and make it habit is the foundation of your success.
Sometimes, we don't wait to be ready to face something in our life, we make ourselves ready on the spot, in the situation itself.
For example, online class. I'm the time of student that needs a proper environment in order to study. I have no room and not even a proper study table and chair. Online class is draining me but I have to go on with this for years. I can't wait for a face to face class before I study well. I can't wait for me to adjust completely here. I need to push myself and adjust myself with actions. Let's stick to our plans, it's not easy to discipline ourselves but it is what is needed in order to become who we wanted to be.
Don't lose hope when you make mistakes and fail. I failed lots of recitations and exams now in college but I'm still thriving. Whenever you feel off course, pull yourself together and get back at the right path. Direct yourself, be strict to yourself. We can't keep procrastinating. I know it's hard, I'm so lazy and unmotivated but we have to do something for us to not be trapped being uncapable for life. Remember that someday we'll wish that we hope we did better when we're younger. Live to the fullest, you can have fun but make sure you finished all your task. Trust me, it'll just keep piling up and it'll drain you, you'll feel overwhelmed. It's better to suffer first then enjoy. At least when we enjoy, we don't have to feel bothered with an unfinished task. Pull yourself together, lots of people may give you up but you can't do that to yourself.
Let Yourself Be Broke for a While
You're not doing nothing when you choose to lay on bed all day. You're refreshing your mind, you're freeing all the stress, you're lifting the heavy weights in you, you're giving time to listen to your body and psychological needs. You did care for yourself so it's not basically doing nothing all day. You can't do this everyday for whole day though , but you can do this for few hours a day. Just know your body and you'll figure out. The time when you need rest and the time you're most functional.
https://youtu.be/uKxWP56VStM
We got different problems in our lives. I'm hoping for your healing. I'm not gonna tell you that everything will be fine, because it's not easily like that. I just hope you'll not give up to yourself.
https://youtu.be/_yGifKCmHC0
Hating yourself can be a way to love yourself
It's alright to hate some parts of you. It'll be a way to know what you have to develop and chance for you to be better. To let go to all your toxic traits. Take your time and believe in you.
Be Where You Don't Have to Question Your Worth
Don't keep settling for less. Easier said than done but we all know that sometimes what we want don't want us; sometimes what we want isn't good for us. The better won't be able to have a place in you if you'll keep holding to that one who's not good for you. If you'll keep being under then you'll never get over it.
https://youtu.be/k2qgadSvNyU
Don't adjust your standard just for them to fit in. If they love you then they'll be better. You're not asking too much for wanting to be treated right. It's okay to cut off people who's toxic on you, it's not your loss. There's someone or something much better for you. Focus on yourself first.
Don't just let anyone in your life. Some people will call you bad for being uptight and keeping your character. Let them talk, no need to fuss for people who don't even matter.
You might've made repeated mistake. You might've sacrificed yourself a lot... you might've been through many storms. It's alright to be a mess for a while. However, let's not keep going back to a toxic cycle in our life. We have to move forward to be in the place where we feel home and treasured.
https://youtu.be/wl4MUHc6bKI
You don't have to play games and risk your feelings again. You're the one who's mistreated and hurt, you don't have to be so understanding just for you to have them. Love shouldn't be so hard when both of you want each other. If love feels like war then don't settle for that. You can't keep someone who don't want to be kept. Let them go, you already did everything you can. It's alright to give up in this situation...here, giving up is giving place to have a better one.
Always be the one you're dreaming of
You can start upholding the character and matters of the person you wanted to be. Build yourself. You're already enough but we still have so much more development in us. Suffer then party later. I'm not telling you to keep working, don't abuse yourself. Take some rest too. You don't have to be perfect anyway, just be you. The one who won't be easily swayed.
Be careful to those people you let in
Sometimes, people don't have pure intention. Sometimes, some are only good at the start. They'll walk into your life saying they love you then when you fall and had time together they'll be the one who'll leave you. Don't be with those person who will make you feel the need to beg for bare minimums. It's harder to let go when you let yourself be attached, so don't rush and never ignore any red flag. Choose. You can't just give a part of you to anyone who you're not sure of and vice versa.
Be with those person who will not let anyone tarnish your name even at your back. With the person who supports you and remind you your value, not the one who makes you question that. Settle to those with consistency, respect, security...feel it. Be happy. But learn to be happy alone first.
Author's Note:
Been so busy at my academics, that's why I'm not able to post some before. Thank you so much to my sponsor for never ending faith. I appreciate it so much.
Dimple- The Little Turtle
Chapter 2- Journey to the Sea
I keep on swimming further. I encountered fishes and asked them if they saw my comrades but they can’t understand me since I can’t talk.
I’m so exhausted, but more than tiredness, it’s much harder to be lonely. I wish Euno is with me. I doubt that she can even swim here.
Days passed. The deeper ocean is far more dangerous. Preys are all spread. I always hide like a crab fearing for my life. I wonder what my purpose here. I wonder if this vast ocean is my home, ‘cause it doesn’t feel like one, I feel so lost.
Months passed as I travel around. I feel out of place. No one can understand me and everyone looks at me with disgust.
*“Look at his face. He’s so ugly.”*
*“Maybe he’s so weak and barely managed to survive. What a pity.”* said by the swarm of fishes swimming beside me.
I ignored them. They’re right anyway. I’m too weak. I even have to rely to Euno and because of me she got hurt. However, I’m not ugly. I’m dimple. Euno and I both have one. Mine at my right and hers is in her left cheek. She said that it’s cute. I can see how adorable she is. I trust her that I’m adorable too. At least that’s what I have to think and believe. That’s the sole thing I have anyway.
Years passed. I’m already accustomed with this boring cycle in my life. I heard that there are times that turtles swim all together. So much time passed and I still don’t see any of my kind. Just how unlucky I am. I wonder if Euno can still remember me. This wound of mine is the only difference I have with the other turtles, I hope she recognize me.
I’m sleeping under coral reefs when a loud sound woke me up. I was surprised when I saw someone like Euno beside me.
I stared at it but it seems like it’s not a human like Euno. Half-human, half-fish…based on what I heard, I guess she’s a mermaid. It suddenly turned and saw me.
*“Oh my! You scared me.”* She said and stared at me.
*“Woahh…you look…”*
*“Ugly? Yes sure”,* I cut her off nonchalantly. I’m used to this anyway.
“*What? No! I’m gonna say that you’re unique”,* she said smiling. It doesn’t seem like she’s lying. Maybe other mermaids have dimples too?
*“Aren’t you gonna talk?”,* she curiously asked.
*“a-ahh..a-a—hh”,* I tried speaking but I can’t. I just shrug.
*“Oh, you can’t talk? I have an idea! We can use telepathy. Mermaids are powerful you know hahaha. Here I’m giving you my blessing.”* she proudly said. I’m also amazed. For the first time, I can have proper conversation with someone.
*“Okay. Close your eyes and say icho ton kymaton (Greek: echo of the waves). Then think of who you wanna talk to which is me.”*
I followed her instructions.
*Uhm hi?*
*“Yes! You did it!”, she exclaimed!*
I excitedly swam around
*I’m so happy. Thank you…uhh…what’s your name? Do you have a name?*
*“Of course I have one. I’m Mara. You’re really unique to ask me that. Oh, do you have a name?”*
*Yes! I’m dimple*
*“What an adorable name. Did you give yourself a name? I never met a turtle that has a name nor fishes, jellyfish or crabs hahaha.”*
*No, a human friend gave it to me*
She paused and stared at me in shock then it immediately turned into excitement.
*“Wow! You met a human? You’re even friends with them?*
*Yes but it’s just a short time. She was a child back then and she’s just one so I can’t really say that I’m friends with humans. It’s specifically friends with her. Her name is Euno. She did not understand me but she kept talking to me as if she knew how I’m feeling.*
*“Wow! Still, it’s an amazing encounter.”*
*Yes it is my most wonderful memory*
We smiled at each other
*BAAAAM!**
My eyes widened as I saw a huge shark bumping into the wall just right behind us. We immediately swam away from it.
*“Gosh! I forgot about him”, she said*
*What do you mean you forgot? Don’t tell me you’re with hat thing?*
*“Of course not. I’m not with him. It’s chasing me!”*
*Oh thank you. Now I’m being chased too*
*“Hahahaha, don’t be so negative. It’s a great exercise”*
*Exercise your face, we’re dying here!*
She just laughed. We keep on swimming until Mara and I went to different paths. The shark went after her. I immediately swam in a distance to see the surroundings. She’s in danger. I saw a huge rock on verge of a collapsing riff.
*Mara! Turn to your right!*
She followed my instruction and I swam and gave my best to hit the riff with force so the rock fell to the shark.
*“Woah! Nice teamwork buddy! Hahahaha.”*
I can’t believe she still has the energy to laugh
*Let’s get out of here before it wakes up.*
*“Yes, yes hahaha.”*
I tagged along with Mara.
*So do you know where the other turtles are?*
*“Nah, turtles don’t stay at the same place here. The travel in swarm but there are some turtles in our kingdom. You can choose to stay there like other turtles. You don’t have to worry about your expenses I’m quite rich. Well I’m the princess there hahaha.”*
*Princess? Seriously? You’re too barbaric to be one*
*“Hahaha, I get that a lot.”*
“Welcome to Okeanio Vasileio, heart of the ocean Pacific.”
This is so amazing. Everything looks so lively. There are so many mermaids, fishes, jellyfish, and so on. They are all coexisting in harmony.
I saw two adult turtles and a tiny one. I immediately went to them.
They’re surprised for my sudden appearance.
*“a-ahh!”,* I spoke with excitement.
*“They can’t understand you buddy. Hahaha, Hi there guys, he’s my friend and he’s excited to see his fellow turtles.”,* Mara explained for me.
*“Greetings, your highness.”,* the three turtles bowed to Mara.
*“You may rise”,* Mara said.
*“Nice to meet you, have a great stay here in the kingdom.”, the turtle on the left said to me.*
The turtles left and Mara toured me at the whole kingdom.
I’m so delighted to be here. Am I going to live here? It’ll be so great. Finally I have a home.
Dimple- The Little Turtle
Chapter 1 - The Name Dimple and The Brave Warrior
I woke up with darkness and I can hear some noises around me. I tried to expand my arms and push this wall surrounding me.
*"Finally, I got out of my shell."*
*"Hurry up, push each other up"*
*"Is everyone out? Let's go!"*
Oh no, I'm still not out. I managed to crack my wall a little bit. My surroundings are getting cramped. I'm getting dizzy as I keep shaking and rolling. Silence, the noise is fading.
**knock *knock*
I heard a knock so I pushed harder on my shell so I could go out. Finally, my head is out.
*"Well done buddy. I thought you'll never get out, I was about to leave. Take off the rest of your shell and follow us quickly. We need to help each other to go up the ground"*, said by a creature that I think is the same with me. It's dark so I can't really see.
*"a-ah-uhm..."* I can't speak? She left ahead of me so I quickly shook off the remaining shells. I tried to climb the path that seems a trail of those who went ahead of me.
The sand collapsed too easily so I fell multiple times.
I wanna shout for help or at least let them know that I'm still here and if they can wait for me a little. I wonder why I can't speak unlike the others.
I have to do this on my own
I climbed and climbed. I did not give up until I reach the surface. I'm so happy to see the light. The first thing I saw is the blinding light then when my sight adjusted I saw a vast blue sky. One of those white floating things there looks like me.
I have four arms a head and I'm inside of a shell. I feel too small as I see how high the sky is.
After all my hard-work getting out I thought I'll be fine. My happiness did not last as soon as I heard the screams of my comrades.
*squaawkkk* eeeeek**
I gasped and hid a little in the sand.
Those big flying creatures with sharp nails and beak are so scary.
*"Focus on getting on the sea!"* shouted by one of us who went ahead. They look so slow but I can see that they're trying to move the fastest of their own phases to get in the sea.
Are we supposed to go there? I'm scared to go alone.
I looked at my surroundings to see if I can at least find one friend who will walk with me but I got more scared to see someone like me being bitten by the big preys.
My eyes feel hot and water is pouring down. I feel cold and my whole body is shivering as I hear more and more screams. I also saw those who went in the ocean happily only to be caught by flying preys.
*"There are more birds coming! Ahhh!"*
I just hid in the sad as shut my eyes closed. I buried my head so I will hear less of their dying screams.
Few hours passed and the screams were all out the same with the noises of the birds.
I went up again and I heard some giggles.
*"Mom, look!. It's a babwi turtwle?"*, said by the being while pointing at me.
I got scared so I tried to go back but it held me up.
I feel like I wanna throw up feeling this scared and being lift so high.
*"Sweetie put it down. It needs to go back to the sea. Adore it a little the let's head back. We need to eat."*
*"Oki mom. Here you gwo babwi turtwle"*
She gently put me down. I stared at her with pure confusion. I realized that she's not scary at all.
She patted my head then went away. It felt warm.
I looked around and it looks safe so I started walking to the direction of the ocean. I can sense it. I wanna feel the water.
I giggled when I finally saw the waves. I wonder if my comrades swam too far now. I hope I can find those who survived.
*squawwwwk!**
I panicked when I saw a large bird flying towards me. I looked around and saw fallen coconut leaves. I walked fast as I could. I made it but the bird is too strong.
I bit the leaves so the bird won't get it out so I wouldn't be covered. The bird started flying while gripping the leaves so I was lifted off the ground with the leaves. It's shaking me off so I fell. The bird is coming fast and I can't run now. I hid at my shell but the bird's beak is poking me hard.
It lifted me several times and made me fall again and again.
It's getting heard to breathe and my whole body is aching.
Once again I fell and my head popped out of my shell
The bird immediately thrust its sharp nails on the side of my face so I wouldn't be able to retract my head again.
"*ah-a--hh*", I cried in pain
The bird's beak is coming closer. I closed my eyes awaiting for my death when I heard that warm voice again.
*"Babwi turtwel! Shoo!"*
With a fallen thin branch in her hand she bravely fought with the bird her size.
I saw her bleed in her arm. I cried again. I hope I'm stronger so I could protect her like how she's trying to protect me. She's so brave.
I'm feeling dizzy. I felt her soft hands again. I guess she won the fight. I don't here the bird anymore.
*"Are you okay? Uwahhhh babwi turtwle you're bweeding (bleeding)!"*
Is she crying for me? She doesn't even know me. I'm not even her own-kind.
I woke up feeling the cold water rushing on my body
*"Are you awake? I'm washing you",* she said
I smiled. *"ahh-ahh"*
She tilted her head
*"Are you trying to tell me something? It’s sad that I don't understand you. I guess I can teach you a sign that only us can understand. Lift your hand as if you're reaching me then tilt your head"*
I did what she said. I lifted one of my limbs then tilted my head. She smiled so wide. Her eyes are shining too.
*“Yes like that! That means I love you for us”* she said. She lifted one of her finger and I raised my limb too so it would touch hers then we both tilted our head and smiled. Her laugh is so good to hear.
*“I’m Euno, do you have a name?”* she asked. I shook my head side by side to say that I have no name.
*“Hmmm”*
She lifted my face then stare at me, specifically at the wound I got from the bird earlier.
*“I’ll call you dimple. Look I have a dimple too! It’s cute isn’t it? I hope you’ll remember me than that bird when you feel your wound hihi. In that way you won’t be sad right? Do you like your name dimple?”* I nodded then she smiled again.
Thank you
*“Here you go. You need to go to the sea right?”* she said. Her expression is sad but at the same time relieved.
I swam out of her hands. I looked back at her then saw her waving. I waved too.
She left when her mom called her.
I hope I can be with her but we’re not the same being. She’s the very first friend I had. I wonder if I can meet her again.
Well, I have to hurry up so I can be with my comrades again. I don’t know which way to go though. I think I should just go deeper.
***Author's Note:*** *This story is pure fiction. Hope to be with you all with Dimple's journey to the sea.*
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Sense of Direction in Your Own Life
If success was a place, how would you know if you got there?
Question yourself such things like where are you going, why should you go there, and what is winning. Where do you see yourself in five years? How about in 10 years? What do you want in life? What are your goals? What can you do as of now to get there? Who can help you and who will pull you down?
Such questions are necessary for you to have vision in life. Your vision is your direction in life. And like a blueprint of a house, you design your vision.
First of all that you should always remember is that you are most powerful in the present time. This is the time you can move forward, a time where you can change...the time you have the chances.
Know your purpose in life
Why do you exist? For whom is your vision is? Greater visions require greater will, and you can't just have the passion based on feelings...because feelings are temporary. It's by choice that things last. Build a strong foundation that wouldn't be easily shaken by society's prejudice, people who knew nothing about you, people who pull you down and anyone who doesn't own your dream.
Move. Fulfill your missions to meet your visions. Take your time, bit by bit, while being happy on the process... with your own pace. Progress is what matters.
Values Drive Performance
Take your values anywhere and anytime with you. Make it you, make it your skin so it wouldn't be a cloth that can be stripped off of you. Your values are who you are. It what makes your personality. Don't lose yourself over a temporary emotion. Control. This takes lots of practice and patience to your own self. You can do this, mind yourself in your words and actions. Be real, be yourself...the best version of yourself.
Risks and Constraints
You don't walk in life on red carpet, risks and constraints are there helping you grow. You might fall, be hurt...feel lost. You don't have to find yourself to find your way again. Life isn't about finding you, it's about creating you...so don't be afraid when you lost your way, you can always direct yourself again and grow from that.
Aside from external factors you in the inside is what's needed to be solidified so no person can completely destroy but yourself. You don't have to see yourself as an enemy and a wild monster that you should chase away. It's part of you, it is you. What you need to do is to tame that monster inside and make it your ally, accept it as you, train it and fight side by side on the battlefield outside, in the world we live in.
Good Relationships
Be careful with relationships with anyone. You don't fight your battles alone. You can't reach your dream alone. We need each other and people that you let in can either break or help you. That's why you have to be careful because they'll have huge influence on you. Having good people by yourself can boost you.
Be the person you wanted to be friends with, a love and kindness that you want to receive. Before you demand for good relationship you have to make sure you're good to take care of that.
Focus and Consistency
It's alright to rest but not to the point that you'll stop and lose your interest. If you really want something then focus and be consistent. Kick in your passion again and again to light your momentum.
"Don't forget the lifestyle you promised to yourself"-unknown
Keeping yourself on right track may include you partying in life. I even dreamed of being able to slack off and just watch anime at my own place. Know your priorities in life.
Rest also cause you to develop and grow
It's a healthy habit that renew you. It brings clarity, give yourself a break. You can put yourself first. Stop beating yourself up such us torturing your mind, punishing yourself over a past mistake, too late unlike other people, messed up and have shortcomings. Don't trap yourself there, you need to breakthrough. If you realized the lesson then do something to be better, nothing will be solved and you'll keep being pathetic if you'll just realized things, blame yourself, then do nothing about it. You can take your time fixing yourself so stop those negative feelings you have, it's okay to have them for a while but it'll be dangerous if they'll linger on you for a longtime like a nightmare every night.
It's alright to disconnect sometimes
You can disconnect to everyone and just enjoy your own company. This will give you time for self-reflection. Taking time to realize how much you've come, looking back seeing how much you went through to grow that much. How you got your mindset and unshaken character. Give yourself the gift of your own love.
God is still preparing you
Your present suffering is just a part of a brighter, better, and worth it future meant for you. It takes pain to have progress. You have to live as a seed in dark to grow as plant in sunlight soon. Your sufferings aren't breaking you, it's shaping you.
Some battles are won in prayer. Don't push yourself too hard over things much beyond your control, pray for those things. It's alright being able to do what you can as of now...after you fulfill your role, leave the rest for prayers.
Compare yourself with your past self
See your own as a competitor and not any other people. It's natural to do that a little but you have to realized that what you should be really doing is focusing on yourself.
Be real and that's imperfectly perfect
Some people wouldn't pay you back with right treatment just because that's what you gave to them. Even if that world have these kind of people, be real. Let's be genuine but don't tolerate any disrespect. Learn to say yes and no without being guilty because that's your choice, that's your right.
Keep Yourself in Private
Protect your peace. Living in private doesn't mean you're hiding, you're just not letting just anyone in because you protect yourself and don't want to hurt anyone. It's alright. Let's be happy inside while accepting reality that brings peace to our soul.
Don't go back to where God has freed you from
We have ones or things we don't wanna let go but it all tore apart since it's not good for us. We might long for it but let's move forward, we deserve better. We learned, it's tempting to go back since it's what we desire but not all we want are good for us that's why God removes those...to replace.
You are not just your past self anymore
Don't mind those who judge you by your past because you're not living there anymore. You learned, you're being better...that's something to be proud of. Jst focus ahead and spread your wings to fly.
Don't depend on luck
Make yourself your own lotto. Have your own time. It's actually okay to not have it all figure out.
After Success?
As I asked earlier, if success was a place, how would you know if you got there?
You're the only one who can answer that.
However, after the success...if you already have that, what do you want now? That why it's alright to not have it all figured out. You can just freely live 'til you feel of having another visions again.
I do believe that success are never ending, we always find another thins we want to accomplish, discovering a new part of us... new world.
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