Have you ever thought when you'll no more, who care?
I was trying to sleep but a thought strike my mind and asked me If you'll no more, who care? I answered probably nobody except my own family.
One day I'll fade from people's lives, memories and moments. That day people will forget who I'm or what I had done for them.
I'm a person who easily get replaced and being second option in friendship and people only approach me when they want something from me.
Sometimes it feels like I'm so lonely despite a big surrounding and so called friends. I often wonder why people don't see my efforts and presence but at last we can't change someone so we should change ourselves.
I know one day they'll realise who I was, what I had done for them and I was supporting them silently as much as I could. But that day they'll be too late to appreciate me and all the things will become meaningless.
Allow yourself to cry when you can't keep it together much longer.
As human grow different types of incidents flow with him. At different aspects of life we all face hardships, struggles or sorrows and then it all started to fill in us which makes us so heavier from within.
At some point it become so heavier that our heart can't take it anymore or should I say we can't deal with it anymore. But we mostly don't pay attention to it rather we keep going like this.
We keep telling ourselves that how strong we're while in reality we're at the edge of verge because this so called world told us that we've to be strong no matter what, we can't cry and so on.
I think if you can't keep it together much longer let it flow. Allow yourself to cry to fall apart for sometime and you know what crying makes your heart lighter and to me it's nonsense that crying is a sign of weakness.
The most important thing you should do is turn to Allah and ask for His guidance and blessings and from there you'll surely get calm and peace.
Natron ~ The deadly lake.
Lake natron is situated in Africa. This lake's water is red and have so much salt and other minerals and because of high power of these minerals this lake is dangerous.
You can go in startup but if you go deep your eyes and open wounds will hurt badly because of too much high power of salt and minerals. You can survive but it's better to not go there.
Animals who are used to of this environment and place can survive in this lake but animals who aren't used to can't survive.
Their eyes and skin start to burn the moment they enter the lake and they start to shrink or become like statue type and then start dying. Or I should say they hardly survive.
Nogoro village ~ the village of dolls.
Nogoro Village is also called Nagoru or village of dolls. This village is situated in Japan. It's full of human type dolls which means they are made like humans and they are also wearing human clothes etc.
This village is really popular after those dolls were made and tourist's also found this village creepy because of the stares they get from those dolls.
In 2000, Tsukimi Ayano moved back to Nagoro after a long time. She left this village when she was a child but after long time she came back.
She used to take care of her father's vegetable garden so she made a scarecrow which was liked by villagers so she continued her work and started making human size dolls as her father look alike.
She made almost 400 dolls as her father look a liked and almost 350 dolls as villagers look a liked and had placed them all in village to increased the village's population.
After her this step all other villagers also started making those human type dolls and placed them at different spots in village and also wear them their clothes.
Now this village is full of human size dolls which attract tourists as dolls are everywhere in schools, bus stops, restaurants, walking around, at picnic and at work etc.
Save earth drawing with poster colors!
R*eading, writing and listening music are my hobbies but sometimes whenever I have leisure time I always try to improve my drawing skill because I'm not good at this.*
*I know its strange but from school time drawing was really difficult subject for me but I like drawing and sketching from the start because I find it cool art.*
*Some days ago in my leisure time I drew this save earth drawing from poster colors for my little cousins' homework.*
Effects of too much screen time in kids.
In new generation kids are more addictive to digital screens and now a days kids mostly stay at homes so they're using it more which is harmful for them and its lead to severe problems.
As an adults we all know the consequences of too much screen time but kids don't know much about this so it's parents responsibility to manage their kid's screen time.
For project I have study various researches regarding this topic so I tried to sum up all things which I learnt from there.
Problems regarding too much screen time.
Mental problems.
Kids who spent excessive time on digital screens have more chances of sleep disturbance, anxiety and stress.
Physical problems.
More usage of screen time increase the chances of thumb, hand, back and neck pain. It can even cause ADHD.
Risk of brain cancer.
I read various researches regarding this but in conclusion its not confirm yet but still researchers says kids should avoid screens as much as possible because screen emits electromagnetic radiations which can increase risk of brain cancer.
Impact on vision.
The screen emits blue light which is really harmful for our eyes and they can even damage the cornea.
Lacking on academic level.
The more kids use screen the more they addicted to it and because of this often kids are lacking in their academic achievements.
Reaction problems.
Kids who spend more time with screen have more chances of social, emotional and irritation problems.
Suggestions to limit kids screen time.
Time management.
It doesn't matter your kid use screen for study purpose or for enjoyment, you should manage your kid's screen time.
Avoid screen in bed time and meal time.
It's parents responsibility that their kids don't use screen in bed time and meal time because it will damage their vision, physical and Mental health.
Co watch.
Co watch if possible because through this you'll realise how much your kid is using screen and how much your kid should use.
Limit your own screen time.
Kid always copy their parents and surrounding so you should avoid screen so your kid will also avoid screen.
Emphasize healthy nutrition.
For your kid's growth, physical and mental health you should adopt healthy lifestyle as part of your daily routine and avoid screen as much as possible.
Strange rules of North Korea.
These are some rules in North Korea which are totally strange to me and I think you will accept it to.
1) There are only 28 types of boy's hair cut and 15 types of girl's hair cut which are only hair cuts people can do because they're approved from government.
2)There are also different types of limitations for dying your hair. You can't dye your hair with any color or any time.
3)You can't wear blue jeans. You are allowed to wear jeans but of other colors not blue. They don't have any freedom.
4)It is impossible to own a car. You can't buy a car in North Korea because there is not much market for making cars etc.
5)Foreigners can't use local currency in North Korea because they aren't allowed to use local currency by the government.
6)You can't buy a real state in North Korea. You aren't allowed to shift there too.
A 17 year old boy who designed his country's flag in his school project.
Robert G heft was born in January 1941 in Michigan. He made two types of flags for united state. One of them had 50 stars which is now united states official flag. The other flag had 51 stars which was made if any other state join united state.
He made this flag when he was 17 years old in his school project and he got B grade for his flag but he wasn't satisfied with it. He made an agreement with his teacher that if his flag get chosen for official US flag his grade will be changed to A.
His design was chosen out of more than 1,500 designs which was given to united state's president.
After graduating from college. He was become a high school teacher and after some time college's professor. He died in the age of 68 by heart attack in 2009 after having diabetes for many years.
Do you know about a person who used to eat children?
Hamilton Howard Albert also known as fish and werewolf was as an american serial killer. He had nickname "moon". He was born in Washington DC in 1870.
He was married to Estella Wilcox and had children with her. He was female prostitute by profession. He had two brothers and one sister.
He was a psycho type person so he used to kill people mostly kids and eat them because he found them delicious. Police suspected him for 5 cases and he accepted that he raped and killed them.
He was in jail but he never wanted to be there so he killed himself too. He inserted needles in his body at least 30 was found on one part. He tried to eat himself too and burned himself with hot irons.
He died in January 1936 and buried in sing sing prison cemetery.
Depression a mental health issue!
Why people don't understand depression is such a big issue.
It's a disease which can destroy someone internally and externally.
She have a good surrounding despite of this she feels lonely and sad.
Everything feels her burden, the burden which she can't escape.
Everyone give her ideas but they don't know depression can't be solve like this.
She is afraid of people, afraid of being judged and afraid of not getting understand.
She is tired of people so she pretend to be happy in front of people.
She always ask herself why she is like this.
But deep down she know she can't escape from it so easily.
What is self love in your opinion?
We mostly say that self love is most important and we should love ourselves first before loving other.
Do you know what's exactly self love is about? If no! Than how can you gonna love yourself? Everyone have different opinion about self love but I'm gonna talk about mine.
People often say self love means you've to believe that you're beautiful, talented, appreciable and so on as you're and you should stay as you're. No! It's not like that!
Self love means accept yourself as you are. But in order to accept yourself you have to accept your flaws as your flaws, your weakness as your weakness, your mistakes as your mistakes and your perfection as your perfection etc. After all these things it's called self love.
Self love means taking care of yourself and your emotions. It means priorities yourself over others and through self love you learn that you have to change for your better self but not for others.
Self love is most important for everyone's mental and physical health. It keeps you away from depression, anxiety and social judgement.
Once you'll realise what's self love is and how much its important for you than you surely love yourself in its proper way.
I'm not saying self love is exactly like this but I'm saying how I feel it. Feel free to share your opinion.
Psycho serial killer ~ Ed Gein.
Ed Gein's full name is Edward Theodore Gein. He was also called butcher. He was born in plainfield in America in 1906.
His father was an alcoholic who beat him often and his mother tortured him mentally. He had a elder brother who was concerned for him. Gein's mentally condition was not good before of their financial problems.
During 1944 his elder brother Henry died in a mysterious accident near his family's farm. Gein reported police about his brother's missing. After police tried to find henry they found his dead body and thought it was a accident and he died by fire near his farm.
In 1945 his mother died near their store but police couldn't find who killed her. In 1957 a women was disappeared after she met Gein. Police suspected Gein but couldn't find any clue. In 1958 another women was disappeared after she met Gein. Police found her dead body in Gein's farm.
After research they found out that Gein used to make his house material from their organs. They found out that Gein killed both women's because they resemble his mother.
He was send to mental hospital and he died there in the age of 77 in 1984.
Side effects of having too much milk tea (chai).
Milk tea (chai) is one of the famous beverages specially in Pakistan. Mostly people consume milk tea no matter what the weather is or what the situation is and especially in winter people increase the intake of milk tea. But did you know consuming too much tea can harm you badly.
Side effects of having too much milk tea (chai).
Sleep disturbance.
To much intake of milk tea disturb the sleep pattern which lead the person to suffer from lack of sleep.
Heartburn.
Too much intake of milk tea cause acid formation in stomach which lead to heartburn or discomfort.
Constipation.
Too much intake of milk tea absorb calcium and other nutrients from our body which affect on our digestive system and it lead to constipation.
Nausea.
Too much intake of milk tea make you feel nauseated which lead to stomach ache, headache and other health issues.
Low nutrients absorption.
Too much intake of milk tea disturb your absorption process and because of this your body doesn't absorb nutrients properly which lead the person to poor health.
My thoughts on the year 2020.
As we all know 2020 is not a good year for the world because of Covid 19 and world got severely affected by it through different ways.
Good thing which happened to me in 2020.
Before lockdown me and my family visited my aunt (Khala) house which is in Punjab. I love train traveling so we went from train and we spent good time there so it was a good trip.
Bad thing which happened to me in 2020.
Because of Covid 19 education system is disturb and mostly educational institute are shut down from several months and education system got converted into online education system.
As I'm seeing my sister's school online classes is not working as good as their practical classes for students and also students aren't active or paying attention to online classes as they do in practical classes.
My thoughts.
Covid 19 negatively impacted us and we can't deal with the loss. Various people lost their loved ones, people lost their jobs, people who are abroad can't come to their families and education system is seriously disturbed specially in Pakistan, we all got stuck in our homes and so on just because of this deadly virus.
But I'm trying to say if we see it from other side it also gave us some free time which we didn't have in normal life because we were living busy life.
I think it bring us an opportunity to use our time for self reflecting, for relaxing, for polishing or adopting skill, for spending more time with loved ones as we can't do in hectic schedule and for any other thing.
As we all know this year is going to end soon and we don't know what the new year will bring to us but I'm hoping the new year will be far better than this year.
You know how it feels like being second option in friendship?
When they only talk to each other while you are also there it hurts too much. When they only call you when they need something or they have no one to talk to and when they make you feel like you're an option.
You're just their second option never first. They have their own friends and you are no one to them. You try your best to make them happy, love them and complete them but they still take you as your second option it hurts too much.
When you make them comfortable more than anyone but they still never take you as their first option. Even though I never said it but deep down it break me.
Don't regret being good to people.
In our life we meet various people and to be honest in which mostly people come and go like seasons. And whenever they left they teach us several lessons.
At some point of life, some of us regret being good to people specially on those who left us because they never appreciate our efforts and it's feel like we wasted ourselves for them.
But I want to say that our goodness always lead us to better outcomes in our life and we should never regret for being good to others. We need to understand that its our positive quality and its necessary for the humanity and the most important thing is that we're playing our part in it.
I must say when we are good to others but they still left us and never appreciate us it means they're not the right person for us even if it's our friend.
In fact those who leave good people always regret on themselves for leaving us and for not appreciating us but you know what, everything have it's own time and even for appreciating someone or something have it's own time otherwise people can only regret...
Remember that our goodness never waste and it comes back to us through different people or different reason. So never regret on yourself for being good to others.
It will start by changing your thinking!
Everyone want to change something in their life and it can be their habit, career or lifestyle but have you ever thought how it can be possible or how it can be happen. We all want changes but we don't know how to make changes.
It's all start with your thinking because thinking is the main factor for the change you make. You need to shape your thinking because when you change your thinking it's automatically change your feeling for the things.
When you change your feeling it's automatically change your actions and remember that your actions have power to build you or destroy you and it's all depend on how you act.
And when you change your actions you start changing your life and it depends on you how much or in which direction you change it.
Thinking, feeling and action these three are connected with each other and if you want to make changes you need to work on these factors for better outcomes.
Are you giving up?
There are people who are in worse condition than you and they are not giving up then why you? There are people who have nothing literally nothing but they aren't giving up. There are people who are trying again and again after their failures but they're not giving up. They don't have surety of their success but they aren't giving up then why you?
There are people who feel's tired, frustrated and exhausted and they want to quit but they aren't doing it then why you? There are people who are in the verge of falling but still they're not giving up because they know if they give up their all struggle, their all efforts and hard work will be wasted.
You know what? Every successful person have been gone through tough and rough, have struggled and worked hard but the difference is they didn't give up then why you? Those who didn't give up till the end are the ones who win the game. You don't want to become a person who embraced all hardships but never gave up?
Give up is never an option so don't ever try to give up!
What you've learned so far this year?
This year is really rough for all of us. When 2020 started we all have made our plans and goals for the year but no one were know that this year will turn out like this.
We are stuck at our houses, everything shut down and people are continuously losing their loved ones. All things are messed up and seems to be falling apart.
But so many things I learned this year and one of them is "nothing goes as us plan because nothing is in our hands". We made so many plans and we were want to do so many things but the truth is if Allah doesn't want we can't do anything. Allah knows better when our plans should be execute.
Lastly, rest in peace who passed away and may Allah bless all of us and save us from this deadly virus.
To heal a wound you need to stop touching it.
In different stages of life we all struggle with several situations, people or things and we all have some scars or wounds because of struggling in which some of them belong to our past and present.
We all want to get rid of that wound by healing it but the problem is we never move on from that wound or keep touching or feeling it from time to time. And we think it will heal with time but did we ever think how it will happen?
It's like physical wound, when we've any kind of physical wound we take prescription and after that we wait for its healing without touching.
Same goes with our nonphysical wounds. When we keep living with the reason of wound or keep touching or feeling the wound we can't heal it.
Simply we need to move on or grow from the wound in order to heal it. And remember that healing isn't an overnight process it takes time but its a powerful process.
Okay isn't enough!
There are lots of people who are continuously settling with different aspects of their life. They're settling with jobs, people, friends, home, status and so on....
You know what, why they're doing this? They think okay is enough because okay is providing them their necessities of life and mostly people are okay with okay but in reality okay is just an okay its not enough and comfortable.
People are just existing not living and forgetting that okay is not going to make their dreams come true. Okay will not change their life nor give them successful life.
Those who never settled for okay things and constantly tried for their dreams or better life are the ones who make it reality.
Happiness is to live in the moment!
*Happiness is to cherish the moment, to live in the moment and to seize the moment!*
*In every moment there is something we want to do or we thought we should do but we keep delaying it and telling ourselves we will do it later. But do you know you'll live till that moment to cherish it? to enjoy it?*
*From the start we all want to do so many things in our life but as time passes by our responsibilities getting heavier and deep down we are loosing the excitement for some things once we're wanted to do.*
*There is always something which gives us happiness and we're crazy for it but we're so involve in settling our responsibilities, our goals and our materialistic happiness that we mostly forgetting to live in the moment.*
*Do the things which give you happiness and we've limited time so do it now otherwise you'll die one day and all your wishes will be buried with you.*
*Happiness is in achieving success, goals and so on but in order to search of big moments we all are keep forgetting to live the small moments which are the real happiness.*
*Don't wait for the perfect moment, seize all the small moments and at the end it will become a memorable journey.*
Let them walk away!
*Everybody have some people in their life and it doesn't matter what relation we've with them. We cherish and love them the most and we want them to stay in our life or stay by our side forever but when they're not willing to stay? They're not willing to cherish you like you do them, then?*
*At this type of situations you always try your best to convince them to stay but if the other person doesn't want, then? They doesn't care about your emotions, then?*
*You need to understand that you should try your best but if someone doesn't want to stay so you shouldn't convince them because you can't convince anybody like this because human relation is a bilateral consideration.*
*If you tried your best but still the other person didn't give you any response it means they didn't care about you or your emotions so simply Let them walk away!*
*Let them walk away because holding on something which isn't belong to you anymore only make you hurt and restless. You know what, most people are wasting their time and energy to convince people to stay. The energy and time you wasted on them you should applied on yourself because you matter!*
Train your mind to see the good in every situation.
Mindset is such a powerful or life changing tool it can either make you or break you.
Its all depend on our training, how we train our mind because mind will always attract things according to it's training. That's why we should train our mind to see good or positive in every situation so that our mind can attract goodness or positivity.
*Like other people I also suffered from some negative situations time to time and at that time I didn't train my mind so I suffered a lot because of my negativity.*
*But after that, when I trained my mind on behalf of religion beliefs and positivity I realised that situations or things weren't too big or serious I were the one who hadn't seek positivity.*
*When we train and feed our mind with goodness we eventually seek more goodness and spread more goodness. Our mind training lead us to more better and positive life and its also good for our surrounding.*
Are you sure, we're friends like before?
*Its feel like we aren't friends anymore like we used to do and we're slowly turning into known strangers. We don't talk, love and laugh anymore like before.*
*Now we stay away several months from each other but before we can't even stay away for several days. Are we friends like this?*
*Or should I say we don't have time for each other because we're not each others priority. What do you think are we actually friends or we're just pretending.*
*We're not like this before so what happened that we became like this. We're friends but we're not like friends anymore.*
*It feels like our friendship is lost somewhere in our present and I'm your lost friend but deep down in corner of my heart I've stored our all memories. It's still fresh in my memory how we had gossiped, laughed and spent time with each other.*
You don't need to compete with anyone to become successful.
You don't have to surprass anyone or compete with anyone to achieve something. Just focus on your goal and make your space in your dream place.
Compete with yourself and make yourself better. You don't have to think that you need to defeat someone to reach your dream place. No! You don't have to defeat anyone.
Just fight with yourself and show yourself how big gem you are or how unique you are. Always remind yourself how much you deserve this place and you'll surely achieve your dream place.
Trying to defeat someone or fighting with someone to achieve that place can't bring you success but being better than your yesterday self can bring you success and the place you want.
Your old best friend!
*As time passes by our bonds with people getting stronger and at the same time those bonds getting weaker with some people and feelings starting to fade away.*
*And when your existence doesn't matter for them any more or they starting to give your place to someone else, all you could do is just leave and you should do it. Leave them for their own sake.*
*I thought our bond as best friends is growing stronger as time passes but No! I was wrong. Instead of stronger its growing weaker but pity is I realised it later. But when I realised all I could do is just leave so I did.*
*I knew it you'll blame me but you'll never understand how it feels like when your best friend is saying someone else her best friend, always priorities someone else over your friendship and starting to give your place to someone else.*
*You know how it feels like when you give your 100% to your best friend, you become their listening ear, you care for them, you help them and you're always available for them but in the end they blame you for all the things and always give credit to others of your efforts?*
*It's such a pity that I was there for you the whole time but you didn't appreciate my existence. And you can't understand my feelings because I never did the same thing with you!*
Do you know what's the greatest damage you can do to yourself?
*The greatest damage you can do to your soul is by remembering the past you should have forgetting over time. _a.a.*
*It's human nature that mostly people live on their past and dwell that we should've done things better at that time. It's okay to make mistakes and feel bad on it for a couple of moment but it's not okay to stay there always.*
*I know we all have experienced something terrible in our past and we also have some regrets over things of past but problem is people are still living in their past, in their regrets and it's hurting them badly.*
*Some people completely stuck in their past or some people completely forget their past. Both are wrong way of living in my opinion!*
*We should remember our past and learn from it so we can do better in our present and future but shouldn't stuck in it otherwise we'll can't move forward in our lives. And if someone doesn't want to remember it so at least look back in past from time to time for not making the same mistakes twice and more.*
*When we keep thinking and living in our past its only destroy our inner peace and it's also affect our daily life and because of this we keep losing the excitement and pleasure of our present time.*
That's why we don't talk anymore!
I decided to put as much efforts in keeping this friendship as much you put in and that's why we don't talk anymore. You want only me to keep this friendship but you don't know any relationship including friendship is something both people need to value and put efforts.
I always tried to give my best but you didn't appreciate it so I just let this friendship go. I don't know if you'll understand me or not for let it go but I wanna say you never valued it as much as I did but in the end I couldn't become the friend you want.
You know what friendship is accept someone as they are not as you want them to. Friendship is not let them feel insecure about themselves. Friendship is make them happy and not make them feel like a option. Friendship isn't in approach the other according to your need and mood.
You need to know this my old friend.
Choice is yours!
After facing so many incidents or experiences I learnt this👇
You say how you truly feel and let it worse the situation OR say nothing and let it damage you from the inside. Choice is yours!
I went through several issues and situations where I said what I truly felt but they blamed me for being the real me and after that I didn't utter a word and its only make me hurt and destroy my inner peace.
In any type of situation people actually only listen what they want to listen not what you want to say or what you feel. People only know how to judge or blame someone but they don't know how to listen someone. I don't understand why people don't want to know the other's perspective.
And I think its better to be the real you instead of damaging your inner peace for the people.
@RbiyaKhalid
