The brave hearts; read.cash, you and I.
There is this saying that goes this way ***"extra ordinary things happen to extra ordinary gentle men and ladies"***. At this time of uncertainties we have found ourselves in this world, we have decided to stand with our hearts in strength and courage to walk through with each other in this period of difficulties, moments of unimaginable trials both in the crypto world, world economy and other challenges facing the world presently.
We can see with our eyes the way and manner people are running away from their places, homes, businesses and countries that was once sweet and comfortable to live in, people abandon their investments, wives, husbands and children to seek for help due to hard times.
This massive wind of change did not only visit the world economy and people's way of lives, it went ahead to also affect this great platform where some of our colleagues have exited themselves from the platform, some have given up from writing, informing and educating the world through their articles while some others have reduced that energy to continually write and comment on people's article on this platform.
We can see low drop of sponsorships and turn up of sponsorships on read.cash from a lot of people due to the rewards are not forthcoming as it should before now, reason may not be far fetched from the way the cryptocurrency market is dwindling at the moment all around the global market.
So many interests have been lost due to that, many tokens have been dipping and no better chance of changing for good at the moment.
But in all of these, I want to ask these important questions to all of us;
***Should we now change our minds simply because things are not actually moving towards our choices of direction?***
***Does this situation we are into at the moment give us reason to start abandoning our ships and making us to give up on ourselves and what we all have worked so hard to build on read.cash not just for ourselves alone but for the whole world?***
I tell you this my dear friend reading my article, it's so important to always keep in mind that we do not reject our farmlands simply because it has grown a lot of unwanted weeds. The real test of courage lies when you are faced with situations that can overwhelm you and yet you stand to your ground and still push ahead.
My first brave heart in this family of great thinkers and good content providers I will also never fail to appreciate so much is ***read.cash***, read.cash randomrewarder pioneer and Bitcoin cash have shown us most especially myself writing this article that they can never be found wanting even in the time of difficulties. Read.cash has proven to us that they are still here for us no matter the type of negative energy the world is facing through the world economy and crypto market challenges today, that they will surely remain faithful to their course. This constant love and support coming from read.cash is surely and highly recommendable and encouraged.
The next line of person in my list of brave heart is you and I still standing tall in this platform, writing and posting your articles for the world to read and be informed. We must always stick to that utmost goal for being in this platform which is to educate and inform our world through our articles and posts. Never allow yourself to be tossed around by what is happening around you, or by the turn out of event in recent times. We have stood on our ground to keep believing in ourselves, to keep passing the right Information to the world and to help each other through being our brother's helping hand to grow.
If there is one thing I have learnt from the attitudes all of us that are bearing this brave hearts with read.cash today, and that is what I call unconditional love and undying spirit of sportsmanship found in our actions here on read.cash, I will gladly tell you today that your bravery will surely keep us all strong enough to overcome this moment and period of uncertainties that has befallen us.
Let us all keep being strong, focused and never look back as we push forward. I wish all of us a happy weekend.
***Thanks for coming by to read my article today 🙏. Rafd9828.***
What you can't cure, you endure.
I want to start this way by saying that it's not in your power to change some certain things that you see during life experiences. People may have same looks and aspirations but surely may never have same destines and fate.
From what comes to us as humans every day of our lives, we have the rights to make decisions of what we want in life, we have rights to choose our friends and the type of lifestyle we want for ourselves but there are certain things in life that we cannot have decisions over but to live with it till the end of time.
Some people may see themselves so unfortunate in life to fall sick with terminal diseases and with incurable infirmities in their bodies, some may have the money and all it takes to handle the situation and the health challenges they face in their lives, but because of how overwhelming and incurable the sickness may be, they end up giving all they have made as fortune to that sickness that have befallen them and at the end of the day, the sickness still not be cured, instead of fighting harder, they give in to fate and hope that one day every thing will be alright.
Even in the relationship we have today, amongst couples and friends, most people who have one bad attitude or character that can be corrected or tolerated during their love experiences may turn to be so difficult to change after a long period of time in the relationship, and because of some committments they two have had with each other in their years of relationship, they may decide to endure and live with it for the rest of their lives in their relationship till the end. These characters may have been something they two had clue about and noticed early enough during their early stage in relationship with their spouse and see if they two can make the right decision to it, To know whether it's manageable or not, or something they can not hold on for each other before they agree to enter into marriage together. This has been one of the issues some people face in their relationship.
I heard my mother say something about this topic and when I read what she said about relationship and marriage as regards to the topic of my article ***"what you can't cure, you endure",*** I try to understand the actual meaning, the real sense in what she said.
Well, I will like to share with you what she said concerning the topic.
**In her thought,** ***she said that marriage between two persons should been taken serious and must not be allowed by the third party to interfere in their relationship. Most people see marriage as a partnership thing while others see it as a union of two persons that comes together to become one, although they may have different bodies, mindsets, understandings and ideologies but in all, they two stand as one indivisible entity in love, vow and commitment bearing in mind that in marriage there must be obstacles, challenges and trial times to come, but above all they two should not let their bad times to overcome the love and companionship they two have built for themselves during their marriage relationship.***
***She went ahead to say that one of the fundamental key word of long lasting relationship between two persons in marriage is endurance. No matter what you may feel about love and what you think about your partner, they must get you upset, angry, sad and misunderstand you in some certain issues one way or the other either with their characters and attitudes or other ways that at the end will put you off from your happy moments with your spouse, but what should always keep you strong and going with your spouse in the relationship even after being sad and angry with the way they acted towards you is nothing but endurance, love, companionship, commitments and other good feelings and memories you two have shared and build for years together as lovers and couples.***
After I listened to what she had to say, I had to reset my mindset, my thought about relationship, marriage and about my lifestyle. No matter how you see this life and what you may feel about relationship, you can not rule out the fact that endurance has been one of the major factors and oil that have lubricated a long lasting relationship between two persons who have found themselves in marriage, and it's also important that when you want to enter into a marriage relationship, you should bear in mind that marriage is not a bed of rose where everything is sweet and spicy all the time, you should always have it in mind that there are happy moments and sad moments to come in your relationship, but one thing is certain, if you have your love, endurance, tolerance and companionship strength in each other stronger and above your challenges and trials, you will surely overcome and be successful in your relationship.
I believe you have all it takes to make your relationship successful. Please put it to work immediately.
***Thanks for reading my article today 🙏. Rafd******9828***
That response that could leave you speechless.
It's so hard for one to see what's going on in another person's mind, it's so difficult for one to understand and feel one's present emotional and mental state of mind. No matter how you try to watch or take keen interest in studying that person so close to you, you will surely end up not knowing in full the next line of action the person may take or act.
Taking a leaf from the experience I had today as I went out to handle some stuff with my beloved girlfriend. I didn't know that it's actually not her thing when you try to ask after her wellbeing or get to make her feel comfortable by asking her if she needs anything from you or even try to make her feel belonged when you are hanging out with other of your friends.
I thought I was doing her a lot good by asking her if she needs anything and also trying to know if she is ok with the place I took her and all that. To my greatest surprise, I didnt know that I was actually getting her pissed off by the way I was acting towards her, I didn't know she was seeing my kind gesture and show of concern and care from a different angle. Right there in her mind, she was actually not finding it funny with me, she was seeing it as me trying to make her look so mean, not being free with the environment and the people I was with, I didn't know she was seeing my constant show of concern towards her as something that can present her as a bad person to people around where she was.
I didn't know until I watched closely to her face trying to find what was her problem, trying to know where I went wrong and trying to ***find her right there*** then she spoke up to me and said;
***"Please stop, I don't just like the way you are acting towards me, you are making these people around to notice me and feel I am not flowing and being free with them and with the environment where we are right now, please I should stop asking her if she needs anything, nor if she is ok and all that."***
After the sudden and weird response I got from her, I was confused and tried to understand what just happened right there, frankly speaking I couldn't get any answer as to why she had to think that deep about my kind gesture, concern and care towards her. I decided to apologize to her and kept to my lane to avoid further issues that may want to come up later.
Let me ask you reading this article this important question;
***Was the reason she gave to me for acting that way right or wrong?***
I will leave you to give me your answer in the comment section. This particular case I guess may have happened to you one way or the other as you try to act nice and show some concern to someone in your life.
Most at times I come to understand that the reason why some people act that way maybe have been because of emotional, psychological state of mind they may be at that moment, sometimes it could be from the environment or from people they find themselves with that could turn they state of mind to act differently or irrationally towards a particular situation.
When this kind of situation happens, you don't need to judge the person and conclude immediately, finding out the person's reason for acting that way should be your first step, getting to understand what prompted the person to act in that manner owing to the fact that you two were not in any misunderstanding or quarrel before coming to the place.
Trying to find out the truth in what the person is saying is also another step you should follow. Knowing the person's reason for acting differently towards your kind gestures and giving close watch and deep thought in the point the person is trying to give as the reason for the weird attitude is also a good step to follow.
Then try taking it easy the person and understand that the person acting in this manner is a human being that may be facing a lot of personal challenges inside of him/her and may not want to disclose what he/she is passing through.
Personally my reaction towards her was not an ideal response, staying away from her and closing my mouth to avoid another weird response from her was actually not a good response that I supposed to give to her when she acted in that manner, I should have tried these points I mentioned above rather than staying away.
As for my beloved girlfriend, I will not say that her reaction was a nice one, it's not always good to think negative about how people may see you, you maybe the only one living in that thought in your head that people may see you as a bad person. It's not a crime to show someone you sincerely love affection, care and concern. Learn to control your emotions, try not to make the next person to feel bad for being good and kind towards you.
If we can adhere to all these reasons mentioned, surely we will find everything we want from each other to make our relationship successful.
***Thank you so much for coming by to read my article.🙏Rafd9828***
"There is no shortcut to success" a beautiful lie.
***Are you wondering what could be these strategies for a shortcut to success?***
***Are you wondering if you could spend years, time, hard-work to get to where Bill Gate, Elon Musk, Cardi B, Rihanna, Davido and so on are right now?***
***Do you want to be the greatest footballer of your time?***
***Do you want to be the best vocalist in this music world?***
***Do you want to be the most wanted model?*** Yes I said there is a shortcut to achieve all of that, if you can calm down and read what I am about to tell you, you will find out.
In my quest for knowledge acquisition and exposure to life, I have seen young entrepreneurs who work tirelessly day and night in order to make name, create history and give themselves financial freedom. But unfortunately, 98% of them fail pitifully yet loosing the ones they already have managed in life to build. Some build without ending it at that point where it creates wealth and positive result even in their absence. Some entrepreneurs work so hard to succeed and make difference but couldn't get it right at the end forgetting that smart work is better than hard work.
Look around your environment, have you not asked yourself why some hardworking individuals never tested comfort in their daily living talk more of living an average person?
Don't you think sometimes how unfair some things in life can be or unfolds? Some people will walk it easier to a path they chose to follow while you that have all the strength and resources cannot achieve a particular goal you set for yourself.
Luckily I have seen so many profitable and unprofitable Forex traders/ cryptocurrency traders/ sport traders, etc but unfortunately to say, I was among the unprofitable Forex traders, not until I realize the secrets to a shortcut success.Yes! there is a shortcut to success if only you can hold on, read till the end, you will correct some certain things, unlearn, relearn, re- strategize and get it done ASAP.
Hear me right now dear friends, The very first shortcut to success is ***"BELIEVE"***. Right now the question is what do I believe? To believe whether it is possible to achieve that? Of course you know from the very start you can achieve whatever height you wish In life, all you need do is believe. What you have failed to understand and not realized to believe is that ***"there is shortcut to that thing you really want"*** maybe because you where fed with the Adage; ***"There is no shortcut to success,"*** you fail to work and push your success in that path of believing in shortcut. Don't get me wrong , the journey to success is quite and undeniable a process but there is a shortcut to that process. Just believe that the process that can take you 20years, 10years, 5years etc can be shorten by half of each years, yes it is possible! if it took some persons long period of time to get to their dream career, just believe that it won't take you the same way it took others to get there . If It took some scientists long period of time to be the world best , hello friend! if you don't want to take that long, first believe that there is shortcut to getting there.
Secondly, does shortcut to success stop at just believing that such can happen? ***No!!!*** this is where I need you to pay attention to. Many people don't put this into consideration but it works like magic. Let me ask this question before I proceed , can a new believer stay long in it's believe by just believing that he can a devoted christian soonest? No! There are certain things one need to do inorder to be a strong believer, and that includes visiting God regularly in church and any place of worship depending the location stated by the church, if he does that, he will gradually and steadily adapt their way of doing things consciously and unconsciously. For a quick ladder to success, you and I need a ***MENTOR*** who has the result you want. Yes, it's important. Ladder to quick success does not just require a mentor alone, but a mentorship by a mentor who has the result you need.
Don't go yet , relax and see why you need a ***MENTOR*** and ***MENTORSHIP***, not just a mentor but one who has proven beyond reasonable doubt to have even more than the result you would want to have in the future. Why do you need a mentor and his mentorship?
According to online definition, ***Mentorship is the influence, guidance and direction given by a mentor.*** Mentorship is the easiest way to success, in fact the shortcut. Find someone who already has the outcome of what you want and let them know that you want to learn from them.
Mentorship cuts all trials and errors, increase productivity and time management , enables you to have heightened career, goal and aspirations. It gives you an edge over all these error and trial set of people in the same race.
Mentorship will save you unnecessary dramas and emotional torture you may meet on your way if you decide to walk that path of learning and knowledge all by yourself.
In conclusion, don't just be a passive mentee to your mentor, learn to be an active mentee to your mentor and always keep the communication alive with your mentor so as to activate that mutual relationship and rapour with your mentor in other for him to be free to share more information with you.
If you can allow yourself to pass through a mentorship process today, just wait and see the result you are going to make for yourself in a short period of time.
***Thank you so much for coming by to read my article today🙏. Rafd9828***
The magic of believing lies in the action.
Whoever tells you that believe is magical and works like miracle is true but the question is: How many of your believes have been materialised or realised? Then this write-up is for you, read to the end and change the game.
Before I continue with my discussion today, I would like to express my profound gratitude to read.cash for not giving up on some of us that have been falling short in being active with their post each day, I am sorry for not being active so far because of unforeseen circumstances and challenges that have come my way these period, I must confess that there is no other place better than this family of great minds where we come to learn from each other from our various individual thoughts and ideas written down for us to read each passing day.
The topic for discussion today is a special one that we need to read with keen interest to understand and try to apply it in our everyday life activities. For one to actually activate the power of believe in his everyday dealings, he is required to take action even before anticipating and expecting the realization of his believe. In other words, to have a concrete believe spirit, lt requires the ability to see, feel or experience a result of an action before even before believing.
Although according to the holy bible explanation about believe where Jesus Christ said something to Thomas one of his disciples in the account of John 20:29 that says; ***"Because you have seen me, you have believed. Blessed are those who have not seen, and have believed."*** If you have a deep knowledge and understanding of what Christ was telling Thomas, he didn't condemn Thomas for the way and manner which he expressed his type of believe to Jesus Christ, rather Jesus Christ laid more emphasis on the need to believe even without seeing. But the world we live in today where so many people with different beliefs, faith and religions are abound, having their different understandings, ideologies, points and views about believe may have their own standard.
But when you go very deep about what Christ also said about the believe and faith, you will also understand with me that faith and believe are so intertwined to each other and from what we know about faith according to the holy bible which explains that faith works when you hear the word of God, accepting the word of God and taking the action of living out the word you received in your daily life activities, by so doing you are already living a life of faith and having a believe on the word you have received and accepted as a child of God.
When you read meaning to the process one takes in making sure he builds a strong faith in having believe on a particular thing, you will understand also with me that you can not throw away the fact that for you to have a realistic believe over something, you need to have faith in that which you want to believe in and by so doing, the three stages of expression of action must play in your life before you can be able to say that your believe materialised. There is need for action to take place directly or indirectly in one's mind or heart that wants to have a full actualisation of result in the believe they have over a person or something.
I am not in any way trying to change your mind towards the doctrine you already know and live with in your various religions, traditions, customs and beliefs as a person or as a group of persons, rather I am using this article to explain to you that you can not actually discard the fact that the magic of believing lies in the action that is embedded in the process one undergo in the faith he builds inside of him to believe on a particular issue.
Since what makes us achieve a particular goal is the faith and courage we put in our hearts and mind to believe that we can make it if we keep pushing, keep trying and working hard to achieve success in life either now or in the future to come, so let's start today to have a rethink about the way we do things, see things and understand life as we live our daily lives.
***Thanks for reading my article today 🙏. Rafd******9828***
Oh! I weep for my country.
My dear friends, I must be honest with you today, I would have preferred not to be here to talk to you or write this article to you to read.
Today, I would have preferred to lock myself up in my room before God alone to weep and to pray. To weep and pray for my nation where darkness has descended.
To weep and pray for my families and friends that are killed and taken out of existence in the world and also in my country Nigeria.
To weep and pray for ***Miss Deborah Emmanuel*** who was killed because she found herself in a part of Nigeria she thought was home but was not.
To weep and pray for my Bishop and my lordship, ***Bishop Matthew Hasan Kuka*** the world acclaimed voice of the voiceless, who has now become soft target for those same voiceless people who sees him as part of their problems rather than as part of the solution.
To weep and pray for the poor miserable murderers of Miss Deborah Emmanuel who have been left uneducated and unemployed delibrately so that they can be manipulated, brainwashed and instrumentalized for political ends by religious bigots and political egoists.
To weep and pray for people who should be leaders, religious leaders who enjoy being ambivalent in the condemnation of people when it is perpetuated by one of them.
To weep and pray for our political leaders under whose watch this nation has crumbled and they keep looking for who to blame for their mess which they have put all of us.
I would have preferred not to write this article to you now, to tell you about love, the word of God instructs every Christian and every Christian preacher to reflect on the essence and meaning of Christianity, the love we should have for one another, but how can you preach love in Nigeria?
How can you preach love in a country where violence has become a rule? Where hatred and intolerance have become norms rather than acceptance?
Where corruption has become a culture and tradition, where impunity has become law?
Where the government feels so helpless that it is now appealing to even to religious leaders to talk to non-state actors so that they will not make insecurity situations in our country worse. Those were the words of the vice president of the Federal Republic of Nigeria when he was speaking to all the Catholic bishops of West Africa gathered in a meeting in Abuja, Nigeria.
You could be wondering how the presidency could admit that they have lost control, that they have left the ground so free and the country so lawless and so stateless that non-state actors now take over the entire country not only in Sokoto, Zamfara, Nasarawa and Kaduna, on the highway between Kaduna and Abuja or between Abuja and Lokoja, etc but throughout the country.
How can you preach love in Nigeria, in a country where those who want to follow the rule of law are regarded by the rest as weak?
How can you preach love in Nigeria, in a country that claims not have any state religion but constantly places a religion in an unhealthy advantage against the others?
How can you preach love in Nigeria where a few people have collected what belongs to everybody and they are doing with it what ever that pleases them?
How can I tell Nigerian students to love their neighbours, love their country, love their leaders when their parents have paid their school fees, paid their hostel accommodations and they are back home sitting at home because of strike. In a country where the ruling party within a space of less than two weeks can rake in from 27 persons 26.3billion naira collected as fees for Presidential nomination forms and the same ruling party is unable to finance our education properly such that our teachers are at home and our students are roaming the streets?
How can you preach love in Nigeria, in a country where members of the the ***Academic Staff Union of Universities in Nigeria (ASUU)*** have collaborated with ***Independent Electoral Commission in Nigeria (INEC)*** to install misfits in power in the country because the have collected money, all the electoral officers who install the present ruling class in Nigeria are professors of our universities and members of ASUU and INEC chairman for many decades have been a member of ASUU. So who do we blame?
How can you preach love in Nigeria, in a country where forgiveness is regarded as weakness, in a country where when you bring the light, you are accused of exposing darkness, in a country where when you love, you are seen as being stupid.
I would have preferred to stay indoor and weep and pray for my country but ***I CAN'T!***
***Ponder on this as you get your permanent voter's card (PVC) ready to cast your vote next year... Let's make our country Nigeria great again. Have a beautiful day.🙏 Rafd9828.***
Do you think that life is good?
Life is good is an illusion of the mind, it does not seem the same way we actually see and feel about it.
I don't know where to start from nor how to begin this story of mine this morning, yes it's as if I have lost it all, it's as if I am paused and pinned at a place, the world standing still and nothing seems moving nor working.
I have tried to reach my hands for someone to find me and help me free myself from this emotional prison of confusion, lost and total lack of focus on what to achieve for myself in life. I have looked around all through these days, weeks and months I have been alone searching for the right answer to my questions and yet I can't actually find the right answers to my restless mind.
***What is life without knowing where you are heading to?***
***Is there any meaning to life when you can't find your way to some questions you need answers to?***
One of the electronic manufacturing companies in the world today use this slogan ***"Life is good"*** as their brand name but in the actual sense and with what one have seen so far in life and everything that concerns it, it's so different from the actual meaning of life as in reality. Just for clarification, My intention for making this statement in this article is not to debase the image of this great company that makes use of this slogan as their company brand name, but rather to use the statement to educate us about life and what it comes with.
Yes people say that life is sweet and good when things go well for them or when they achieve a particular success over something for over a period of time, but does that sweet moment they have achieved last forever all through life time? The answer is no, it has never lasted forever, and the reason is this; human wants and needs are so insatiable and there is nothing one can do to get that utmost fulfillment of mind and heart permanently in life that they desire for the rest of their lives.
In as much as we want to hide from the truth about life and pretend that everything about life is good, but the truth will always stair us at our faces that life is never always good to man and that is how it is.
Believe it or not that the rich also cry even in their level and state of wealth and affluence they command, they still know that life is so difficult that nothing lasts forever, even in their acquisition of different material things they still feel unsatisfied and unhappy because those things they have acquired can not give them that utmost satisfaction of mind and soul. In otherwords, life is still not good and sweet even in their luxurious and flamboyant life styles they are living.
After having so much thought about life and it's difficult experiences and endless possibilities, I decided to fill myself with these words said by my father;
***" Nothing they say makes life easy and good forever. The happiness that fills our heart can not be found in our abilities and in the strengths of our wealth, nor from the things we acquired through what our hands can reach or get in life, but one thing is sure, the struggle of life to find everlasting peace, happiness and joy of the soul never ends"***
Whether he was right in what he said about life and it's uncertainties or not, it's of essence that we read in between lines in those words of his and get to understand that no matter how you try to get happiness, good life and any other thing that makes life easy, you can never ever find the final destination to a happy, sweet and good life.
I might not be making sense with this I just said in my article right now, but I tell you that the journey of life is not easy and simple as we see people write and discuss about it.
Those people you feel are having good life and enjoying themselves are not totally happy and finding life so easy as you may think, if you go close to them and see what they go through just to keep maintaining that level of life they have set for themselves, you will be shocked and give yourself some time to relax and focus on your own path of destiny.
After long moments of thought, I decided to keep going and keep pushing harder the much I can hoping that one day it will all end and I will have my rest after my journey on this earth.
Make sure you tell yourself the truth and find the truth yourself.
***Have a lovely day and remain blessed, Rafd9828***
When was the last time?
I welcome you to today's article of soul searching and a moment for sobber reflection about your life, your personal relationship with yourself and your neighbor. I know we must have been passing through a lot of challenges and troubles in life that we forgot to look into our lifestyles, our personal relationships with one another and the way we see our lives and the gift of life our creator has given to us free of charge.
Do you know that a lot of people take things for granted in the world especially life.
My friend when was the last time you were in a hospital to see how patients battle with their health, cry and pray to God almighty to heal them?
When was the last time you were in a prison yard to see how inmates serve their jail terms and yearn for the freedom you now have for free?
When was the last time you were in a psychiatric home or a rehabilitation center to see how people battle with their mental states and battle with their addictions of all kinds, drugs and all kinds of substances?
When was the last time you were in a mortuary To see how corpses are been washed and cleaned up then frozen like some kind of chicken ready for some kind of feast?
When was the last time you were in a grave yard to see how fine and intelligent people are been laid to rest and their friends and families gather around the grave in tears, pain and agony to say their last farewells and goodbyes?
When was the last time you were able to see the less privileged individuals who can not afford even if it's one square meal a day in their lives, and in all their time they cry and feel hopeless for not been able to find what to eat nor drink and you offer them some assistance?
When was the last time you were seen at the motherless and orphanage homes to pay visit to these children who have not experienced parental love and who do not have the opportunity to feel motherly love and you show them care and love?
When was the last time you were able to give to that person that needs your attention and assistance the opportunity to feel belonged, loved, to feel your presence and impact in his or her life for trusting in you and hoping in you for assistance was never a waste of time and hope?
When was the last time you thought it wise to ask your neighbor, that person sitting next to you how he or she is fairing and coping in this hash and tough economy of the world we see today?
When was the last time you felt so touched to stop looking down on people maybe because of their health, financial and physical challenges and deformities and start give them a sense of belonging and adding meaning to their lives?
When was the last time you looked into your spouse's eyes to see how bad you have hurt him or her and try to make peace with your spouse and make things right for once?
When was the last time you gave word of encouragement and strength to that person who have lost hope and faith totally in himself or herself to continue pushing and struggling to make it in life?
When was the last time you made it known to that person sitting next to you that you love and care about them and would do anything to make them feel loved and happy?
When was the last time you tried settling disputes between two people who are fighting to kill each other?
When was the last time you made peace and stand on the path of truth even when the truth you preach is not in your own favour?
You and I are not better than those our loved ones that are dead and gone, we that are still alive are just opportuned to be living in grace, good health and mercy. No matter what and where you have found yourself today, learn to have some ***LOVE, RESPECT*** and ***VALUE*** for yourself and others. But above all, ***ALWAYS SAY THANK YOU GOD FOR EVERYTHING.***
we must value our lives and the lives of others.
I believe we have heard and understood what the message of today is to us all. Always make out time to appreciate what you have and the life you live.
Thanks so much for coming by to read my article today. I apologize for my inactive membership these period due to my work and other engagements that I have found myself in. Please I will always do my best to give in my best for the growth of this great family ***READ.CASH*** I have identified myself since last year.
***I love you all.❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ Rafd9828***
Which way Nigeria?
My heart bleeds in pain and agony, I am so deeply hurt in my heart by the stories we hear each passing day in my country Nigeria and looking at the path my country Nigeria is heading to. I don't know how we got to this level of disarray, ***I don't know how we got to this level of suffering and smiling***, I dont know how things fall apart this much.
Please forgive me this morning with the way I might be sounding considering the present state of my country Nigeria. I may run out of words to describe it right now, but please I urge you reading this article this day to see this article as the way my heart is for the present condition we have found our country Nigeria to be right now. My expression and my tone this morning is exactly the way I feel in my heart about my country Nigeria.
The rate at which my country Nigeria is heading to poverty, division and destruction is becoming very alarming, the country's economy is dwindling and melting so fast that if care is not taken we may be facing the worst level of poverty, hunger and starvation in the country. Nobody is thinking about what to do to remedy the negative effect of this present situation we have found ourselves.
To tell you the level of problem we are into at the moment in this country, for a common man to feed his family right now is a very difficult task as prices of things in the market like food items and other household use items in the market have sky rocketed to a level where the hands of the common man can not reach or afford any more.
The mineral resources God in his infinite mercy blessed the country with in abundance have been taken away from the reach of the common man, the price of kerosene, petrol, etc are on the high price rate, and it's so difficult for the common man to get hold of it due to its high cost, even the availability of the products for the public are not steadily available at all times.
The country's election is at the corner, the politicians and some elected people in government positions who supposed to use the money meant for the masses to develop the country so the common man can have access to food, good social and basic amenities, etc instead these politicians and elected people in government positions go about stealing from the public fund for their own selfish gains and purposes, money meant for the masses are stolen for political campaigns rallies and purchase of electoral party forms, you could see for yourself in the world International news and local news headlines of Nigeria the amount of money paid by these Nigerian politicians just to acquire nomination forms for electoral positions in their different political parties, while the entire academic body in the country Nigeria together with the lecturers and the government are in disagreements and misunderstanding with each other over unsettled debts, which has resulted to long strike action by the lecturers, none academic staffs which has affected the students and academic studies in the entire government higher institutions of the country till date.
The security situations of the country is out of control where several killer armed groups have emerged in recent times, killing and destroying lives and properties without remorse and yet the government of the day puts little or no effort to tackle this evil act perpetrated by these unscrupulous elements who do not have respect and value for human life.
Religious fanatics and extremists have emerged, taking laws in their hands by killing innocent people just because they aired their views, like the killing of Deborah at Sokoto state who was mobbed and killed just because she made a comment that didn't go well with these religious extremist some weeks ago, and up till now the government of the day have not done anything so serious to apprehend the perpetrators of this evil act in order to stop others from repeating such act in future.
Using government constituted institutions that checkmate crimes as a channel to witch hunt one another instead of the sole purpose of why it was created is a challenge we face every day in this country called Nigeria.
Nothing seems to work again in this country, everyday you wake up from sleep what comes to your doorstep is one bad news or another, there is no day that pass without receiving a bad and terrible news that will make you feel unhappy and sad.
Yet the people in authority are busy planning how they will use the youth, their ill gotten money to achieve their political ambitions. Some of the youths that are supposed to be the will-power of positive change have been bribed and lobbied with huge sums of money to campaign for these men that have no interest of the public at heart, these gullible youths go about causing problems and confusing some other people to believe in the dreams of these politicians that are coming out to take positions in the seat of government offices in the country, these youths directly sold their consciences and integrity just because of little money that were thrown at them.
The country is seriously in need of total change and if we continue to pretend that all is well, ***I bet you that some day soon, you will wake up to see that there was a country called Nigeria.***
Let us start now that is morning to look for that black skin goat because once night comes, it will be too late and too difficult to find the black skin goat because of the colour.
I love my country so much but if separation will be the end to this misery we are faced with, I would wish for the best.
***Thanks and remain blessed. Rafd9828 loves you!***
Awakening your spirit man.
I was going through an article written by one of the Catholic priests that was sent to my parish for a pastoral work and he had this journal he wrote about man and His relationship with God, after I went through the journal during my free time at my work place, I began to understand that there are lots of issues we really have not looked into as people, there are issues we have left on touched in our different worlds that needs to be attended to in order to give mankind a new face of life that will bring peace not just to you and I but the whole world at large.
The title of the article in that journal I read was captioned ***"Awakening your spirit man"***. I know you may have not come across this journal because it's written for a particular set of people where I came from and so, it will not really go round for everyone who loves reading to get hold of it and read as well. But I will love to share important piece of information that I got from the article which will surely aid you positively in your decisions making, relationship with people and your daily life experiences as you go about doing your daily activities.
When I was reading this article I understood that the writer not just that he wants to educate the readers about spirituality in Christ Jesus, he also tried to impact that ability in each and every one of us that will read this article to rediscover and awake that self-well to achieve greatness, success and live right at all circumstances.
What makes a man to attain a level of achievement and success is not just because of the people around him nor the environment he finds himself at the time he is working hard to achieve success, it's the spirit and mindset he put before his endeavours that brings success faster to his door step. In otherwords, for one to actually be successful and be satisfied in it, your spirit man should be strong enough to lead you to that right path that brings success at the end.
You maybe wondering and asking in your heart what is involved in this awakening your spirit man, well this entail that;
***1. You have to be positive minded person in anything you want to embark upon or achieve in life.***
***2. You have to know God, everything that concerns God and make him your bedrock in all your plans.***
***3. You have to awake that part of you that sees every chance around you as a means to make a great difference and achieve your dreams and goals.***
***4. You have to put your neighbor's happiness and peace of mind as your priority and do all you can to stay in good terms with them.***
***5. You have to try letting your worries and challenges behind you and focus on your present and future results and outcome. Dwelling in the past does not encourage growth and development in life.***
***6. By awakening your spirit man, you have to drop your fears behind and do all you can to face it believing that only the strong can conquer every challenges on their way to success.***
***7. You have to love God with all your heart, love your neighbor as you love yourself in all season. True loving one another with the love of Christ that's when you will surely find peace of heart and achieve anything you wish for in life.***
It's only when you awake that true spirit in you, that's when you will be sure that you are on that right path to achieving anything you wish in life. Most people have failed to follow this path of true principle of life and relationship with their God and feel it's through bad attitude and way of living that you can achieve that success and greatness in life, but the truth always remain that you can only get what you are looking for when you truly awake that true spirit man in you.
After I went through his journal and the article, I had to change my method of thinking and doing things so that I can get the right fulfillment of mind, hope and happiness because everything revolves around it.
I believe you too have actually understood little from what I just discussed in my article. I pray all of us awake our spirit man so that we can make the world a better place for all of us.
***Thanks for coming by to read my today's article. 🙏Rafd9828***
The voice of truth.
Let me start this way by asking these important questions to you reading this article right now;
**have you ever experienced a voice talking to your inner mind and heart before?**
**Have you taken time to listen to them and try to do what they tell you whenever you find yourself lost in thought and in a state of confusion?**
**Have you in any way tried to stay calm and quiet just for a minute to know if you can experience such voice that speaks to the heart when it needs to be spoken to?**
Let me share this important piece of information to you about the voice that speaks to our heart and why it's important that you take adequate care and keen interest to avail yourself the opportunity to listen to this voice when they speak to you to know what they have for you.
You may not know this, human mind is designed in such a way that there is a voice that speaks to it virtually everyday of our lives, any time we want to make decisions about a particular thing, any time we are faced with challenges and troubles in life. This voice may come to us in form of advise or as an instructor to enable us make the right or wrong choices on a particular issue that we are faced with.
This voice that speak to us may sometimes come in loud voice to our hearts to make us see reasons why we should do a particular thing, while on the other hand, there is also a small voice even sometimes very tiny voice that speaks to us in our hearts when ever we want to make certain decisions that may favour us or even affect us negatively in life, but because we fail to listen to this inner voice of conscience that speaks to us at every given time, we see ourselves making a lot of mistakes that we may regret later in life.
I know by now you must have answered the questions yourself that I asked at the first paragraph of this article concerning the voice that speaks to us each time we are faced with challenges in life.
Some people that have made themselves available to hear these voices may call it voice or reasoning while some may also choose to call it another thing they feel that suit their mind. In all of these things, the right information we have to take to heart about this topic today is, having the ability to give yourself that opportunity to listen to your inner mind when that voice comes to our heart to tell us what we should do when we are faced with challenges, confusion, and situations we can't control.
If you are a good listener most especially when it comes to listening to yourself, you will agree with me that in these voices that speak to your heart when you are faced with some certain situations in life, there is this particular tinny voice that keeps talking to your heart to always do the right thing, to always accept that you are wrong when ever you do things that are not pleasing to the other person sitting right beside you, to always stand on the path of truth no matter the conditions you may be facing that is not suitable to you, to always live right and don't see life as an opportunity to treat others the way you feel like, etc.
You can always hear this tinny voice speaking to your heart when you have decided to keep calm, and give yourself a holistic self-conscience examination about your action towards yourself and towards your fellow human. During this moment of soul searching, you may be faced with lots of voices speaking to you in your heart and if you don't take time, you may get confused as to know the right voice that means well to you which you can listen to, but if you can stay calm and more relaxed with yourself, you will surely hear that special voice of truth, voice of peace and voice of good reasoning speaking so small in your heart which always stand on the path of goodness speaking to you to accept the right thing and do the right thing always.
We all have this special gift given to us by our creator to always listen to when ever we want to embark on any journey be it personal or with our fellow human being.
Having the ability to give yourself that great opportunity to always listen to your heart when ever you want to make a step forward in life or whenever you want to make decisions about a particular thing is what I see as the challenging moment in almost every human being in this life, but if everyone can take this bold step to avail himself or herself the opportunity to start listening to his or her inner mind or voice when that voice of truth comes to speak to their hearts and also try doing what the voice said, definitely we all will be having a great time with one another, living in peace and harmony with each other in this world.
If we can start now to give that inner voice that comes with goodness in our heart the opportunity to lead us when ever we want to do something or take decision in life, surely we will always get it right in all we do.
The voice of truth surely exist in man and only when you give it listening ear that's when you will surely know the good and benefits of listening to it when they speak to our heart in time of need.
***Thank you so much for coming by to read my article today 🙏. Rafd9828***
I finally found her, My Joy.
I have been praying so hard to God to show me someone who will take good care of my heart and pamper my heart for many years now, but I could not find any. For many years I have been hoping and wishing that I will come across her on my way to work each passing day, when I go to church, and also when I run my early morning jogging to exercise my body, yet I was not able to meet with her in all these days I went out.
I decided to stop looking and resolve to holding on to my faith that someday somehow I will meet her but for now, let me take a break.
As months and years gone by, I could not find that which my heart was seriously in need of, I got so fade up and frustrated with myself that I took a decision not to give myself a chance anymore to keep holding on for that day I would meet that right person for my heart.
I took my work and job so serious and never looked back, I made sure I engaged my heart with lots of activities that could remove my mind from having any thought about woman or even love. I made myself, my phone and my job my companion and my best friend.
I don't know if you have experienced this kind of situation I found myself in, maybe in some other aspect of life, where you will be looking for something and that which you have been seeking for never came your way and you try all you could to find it, yet at the end of it all, you couldn't find it. The feeling aftermath is not something one could comprehend nor fathom at the moment.
This was exactly how I felt after many years of seeking to meet that special one whom my heart have prayed every night and day to find but couldn't find. ***Oh! Very devastating and heartbreaking moment if I may say.*** So I never felt I was going to find her again.
One fateful day came, a day I will never forget in my life, a day my sad moment turned to a happy moment, a day my dark night disappeared and light came to my path and rested. A day I met someone special that I never thought I could meet, the very first day I saw her was the day it was dawn on me that I have met my soulmate, my better half and my unending joy.
***Let me gossip small about her to you! Smiles.....***
When I gave up the fight to keep pushing to meet that special one for me, I decided to attend a church program and there I saw this shinning star, walking majestically to take a seat to sit down before the program could start, I lost my thought because her beauty and her style was so charming that you could miss your steps while looking at her beauty, a voice spoke to my heart immediately I saw her and said to me ***"this is your wife!"*** I couldn't hold it back because the energy was so much that I couldn't control it again, I patiently waited for the program to finish, thereafter I walked straight to her and said to her;
***Hello my pretty lady! Please can I have a minute from your time, I just want to talk to you if you wouldn't mind?***. She replied, go on, I told her that a voice spoke to me as I saw her walking to her seat before the program started that you are my wife, I know it's very awkward the way I am sounding to you right now, but I strongly believe that we have a story to tell together after now in future.
She was so surprised and laughed so uncontrollably, after everything she said to my face, ***"young man please you are not serious, you need to have some rest so you can get your mind back, I don't really believe in all of these kind of stories".*** I replied her immediately, I know what I am saying and it was clear when I heard the voice speaking to my heart about you.
As I was trying to say something else, she hurriedly said, ***"please I have somewhere I need to be right now, meet you some other time"***. I quickly asked for her phone number which she gladly gave me, then she left.
As I went home, I couldn't stop thinking about what happened earlier at the program, I couldn't remove my mind away from her, immediately I dialed her phone number and it connected, we spoke throughout the night and from there every other thing connected.
Ever since I met her, my life and everything that I have wished for, are speedily coming to my doorstep knocking for me to open so they can enter. I have found that special feeling that knows no bound, a feeling that gives so much hope that everything is already fine, a feeling that have made my clouded moments, times and seasons so bright and filled with lots of fun, sweet memories and unimaginable spark of love.
My purpose of sharing this information with you today through my article is for you not to give up on love, I did give up on love when I looked for it and couldn't find it, I thought I would never find love or someone that will fill my heart with love any more, but when that right person came by, I was able to feel again a new life with lots of sweet and amazing moments and memories in it than when I was all alone with my work and myself.
Learn to listen to your inner heart when that voice speaks to you, most especially when you are confused and lost your way, there is this special voice of truth in all of us that speaks to us at that time, if only we can avail ourselves the time to listen and follow our heart, I bet you that you will be alright at the end of it if you follow that voice that speaks to your heart.
***Did I tell you her name was Joy?, Yes she is called joy because her name speaks of her!***
Let me show you some of the sweet memories we have shared together.
We all need a heart to love and be loved in return, don't ever give up on yourself and don't give up on love either.
***Thank you so much for coming by to read my article today. 🙏Rafd******9828***
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The circumstances of life.
Life is a long journey with so much uncertainties, and the circumstances that occurs during this period of existence in life is totally unpredictable and unimaginable by any man living out this life.
Some circumstances of life we meet in our lifetime may stand as a lesson that may impact positively in our individual lives, lifestyles and paths we chose to live, while some of the circumstances we may meet in our daily lives may pose as negative effects which may change our right way of thinking and good attitudes into becoming something else that will not bring good name to us and our relationship with people we meet in life.
Come to think of it, in a situation where one who has this believe that ***"loving your neighbor as thyself at all times"*** is one of the rules of living a Godly life happened to be faced with betrayal by the same person whom he has taken as himself even after been shown with so much love and care to, the resultant effect of that life experiences could make any one who happens to hear the story change their believe and mindset about being good to people around them.
On the other hand, one good deed or more one may witness or experience from another person's life story could make the next person turn from being a bad person to a good person. Just imagine a situation where one who has never believed in his entire life that showing care and love to the next person sitting right beside him could make the world a better place happens to witness where someone else was been cared for and showed some love, what do you think will be going through that person's mind who never believed in caring for others?
I know you have the same answer I have to that question in your heart. Well, whatever be your answer, one thing is sure, the experience will surely speak positive to the inner mind of this individual who is observing what was going on in that person's life.
The circumstances of life is what we must face in life every day, the experiences we get from this circumstance in one way or the other builds us in the right or wrong direction as people that come in contact with it, it does not matter your level in life and your achievements in life as a person, these experiences comes to us ***unaware*** and ***uninformed***.
Apart from being good to people around you, there are other circumstances of life that we see every day of our lives that also teaches, strengthens and even weakens us as humans. for instance; death, disappointments, failures, success, etc. These experiences sometimes give us more reason to push further, grow and also sometimes break us apart as humans.
But in all of these experiences and situations we see ourselves face in life, it's always good that we build our lives stronger with the life circumstances that come to us. Building yourself stronger with the result of life circumstances will not only make you tough, but also will change your sense of reasoning, understanding and views about life and how to handle situations of life when they come to your doorstep knocking.
So I encourage you not take the negative energy and lessons you may get from the circumstances of life that comes to you, rather learn to go through the outcome to see where and how you can derive some positive lessons from that worst situation and use those lessons to reconstruct yourself positively into being the best and a better person to yourself, to people around you and to the world at large.
Start today to see reasons to learn from every experience and situations you get in your daily life. Don't let your life circumstances change your goals and aspirations in life.
***Listen very attentively!***, the results of your dreams are not determined through the life circumstances you meet on your way, rather your dreams are achieved through your effort to make positive result and meaning from that difficult moments life brings to your doorstep.
Today will be the best of the days for you reading my article today, I sincerely apologize for my shortcomings on this great and wonderful platform through my inconsistency in dropping my article in this platform ***Read.cash*** of late. It's not entirely my fault, but I will surely do my best to make out more time from my tight schedule to drop my article here and also read yours and make my contributions in form of comments in your comment section as well.
***I love you and I wish you all a beautiful day, thanks for coming by to read my article 🙏. Rafd9828.***
Season of waiting.
Let me start like this this great morning, I know you are already patient enough to wait for that day your time of blessing and season of uncommon blessings shall find you. But I would like to ask you this important question about this word called ***"waiting".***
how do you perceive this word ***"waiting"*** in your life?
There are different seasons in life as it is in ***Ecclesiastes 3:1-8***. There is season to be born and a season to die: A time to plant and a time to harvest and so on. My dear friend, in life there is important season that many have not looked into as it can make us or break us. This season is what I call *****WAITING*****. There is always a waiting period in everyone's life. it could be in every stages of your life, it could also be before a major turning point in your life but the questions I want to ask are as follows;
***1) What is waiting season?***
***2) How do you see and perceive waiting season?***
***2) What do you do at that time?***
***4) Do you maximize that season to your own benefit?***
According to online Oxford languages meaning of waiting; is the ***ACTION*** of ***STAYING*** where one is or ***DELAYING*** action until a ***PARTICULAR TIME*** or event. In otherwords, Waiting simply means giving that expectation and situation ***"time"*** to manifest or be actualized, but there has to be action in this season for a major turning point. Note that the definition above clearly states that it's the "action" of staying for something or for another season. It didn't say it's an ***"inaction"*** of ***staying***. It is not an easy season but this could give you a major turning point to behold at the end of the period you are waiting.
Going further with the bible explanation about waiting, ***Romans 8:18- 25*** explained it in a way we could understand it more and the result of waiting;
****Waiting entails anticipation.***
****Waiting involves awaiting for a result.***
****Waiting explains abiding.***
****Waiting means expectation.***
****Waiting ignites hope.***
But while waiting for that moment to manifest, one could fall off from that path that he or she has waited for a very long period of time all because of some situations that can not be controlled and Unfortunately those situations can make;
****One give up while waiting***
****One die more than once while waiting***
****One give up on his life while waiting, not knowing it is just a season.***
Even one's hope could die off while waiting, Joy and happiness been taken away from one's heart for waiting for so long, impatience may set in, etc. All of these negative effects may come into your heart as a result of how you perceive your waiting moment.
***What is your perception in waiting season?***
Some see waiting period as delay period, few persons see it as regression, while many see it as shut doors, etc but in all of these situations and moments of waiting, I see it in another form. I see it as an opportunity to take action for my desired expectations and change to positive situation, an opportunity to build, to add more value, as an opportunity for critical reasoning, I see it as an opportunity to gather, multiple, mould, rectify and also prepare for the days ahead.
In your waiting period, whether you want to accept the result at the end of the day or not, the most important key points you need to take home with you are as follows;
**IMPORTANT KEY POINT**
1) Your perception in waiting season matters a lot as our lives are directly or indirectly revolve around it ***( Romans 8:19).***
2)You wait in a particular stage of life to transcend to another stage of life. For instance, a baby sits while waiting to stand, stands while waiting to walk, walks while waiting to run. If the baby does not take action by practicing little by little the steps to take in order to stand at the stage of sitting, the baby wouldn't transcend fully and properly into the other stages. Life is indeed a process.
3) If waited, it resulted to destruction, know that you have not built enough to strike. Go back, build more, learn your lessons, don't give up then strike again, expect again, try again.
4)Folks! perceive waiting as gateway to restoration, reconnection, resolution and manifestation.
5)If you aren't growing or learning or building in your waiting season, know that you are going the wrong direction of waiting for something, because you will get nothing but more depression and negative results.
6) Keeping hope alive in waiting season is very important because if you allow it to die, you have killed the glory in it.
7) In your waiting season, don't just wait for something to happen rather, act for something to happen.
8) No cross; no crown ***( phillipians 2:5-11)***
There is glorious future in right waiting. Don't be a victim in this season. It is an important season to address lots of things.
I hope you have taken one or two important words that will reshape your life and your understanding about life and what comes with life.
***Thanks for coming by to read my article today 🙏. Rafd9828.***
Our choices make us. Choose Right!
I would want to start this way to share with you what we all need to know about life and the choices we make in it. Because of my love for nature and what God gave to mankind, I have taken time to look at one of the special gifts God gave to man which we know as ***"river".***
***Rivers are shallow,***
***Some are deep,***
***Sometimes it roars,***
***Sometimes it's calm,***
***Sometimes it flows down to smaller entities,*** ***Sometimes it flows into bigger entities, It brings forth good resources, Sometimes it's content kills.***
***It can be a sight seeing for tourist,***
***To some tourists it could be a place of deep thought.***
***Ideas are created to some at viewing it.***
***Frustrations are poured into this watercourse by some persons.***
***Some leave this watercourse better,***
***While some are so attached to it.***
***Then some become worst after the encounter the flow and nature of Rivers....***
***This is LIFE. It has both certainty and uncertainty but all depends on the individual 's way of seeing it and taking it in.***
***To some life is deep and to others, their thoughts about life is so shallow . In all, let's choose what gives us, peace, happiness and meaningful purpose/ course.***
I have this feeling that most people in this life have chosen to pay key attention at the negative effect of what life brings to their table each passing day as the true meaning of life and best way of living. However, what they have failed to understand is life is more and far beyond that negative outcome. This life can never be straight forward or else it will loose it's essence yet it can be easy depending your approach, believe and decision.
Interestingly, some have decided to throw away true essence of their existence because of betrayal from most trusted people around them. Have you become a monster because of a business partner? Have your innocent soul be hurt that you decide to give up on decency in character? were you abondoned by your parents or loved ones that you decide not to trust again? What is making you make those decisions that are against nature and your true self? Why are you still dwelling in your pains when there is more to life?
To some, they tend to follow that path that does not make good meaning at the end of the road, just because they were hurt, they close their eyes to goodness and every other way that leads to life filled with rivers of Joy and happiness. Is that how you find solace?
Now listen! Letting yourself follow that path that keeps you away from your true essence of existence, goodness, peace and happiness will surely ruin you at the end of it all. Take it or leave it, not trying to see that little light from the darkest of your moment can actually make you miss your way to finding that true purpose your heart and souls desire. Give life a second chance, third chance, fourth until you get that true essence of living. Never give up on beautiful things life offers.
Today is another day that you have to tell yourself the truth and follow it to the latter. Choosing peace of mind and happiness is the only remedy to every pain, hurt, disappointments and frustrations. No matter what you have been passing through in your life as a person, always try to see your challenges, disappointments as a step forward to the right direction.
Thank you so much for coming by, I paused a little to share this because I almost became a victim but I never gave up, now, I'm grateful for the decision of right approach to life. As Challenges are inevitable, I am passing this information of hope to you to embrace, I am also learning from it too.
So my dear friend, take it easy on yourself, no matter what you are facing at the moment, do not see your present conditions as the worst of it all and can not be remedied at all. Do not give up on yourself just because you feel it's the best option to take in order to achieve that peace you pray for.
Everything that happened, happens for a reason and it's important that you try to see through your challenges and know why it happened that way before you conclude and harm yourself or even chose a path that will bring regret to you at the end of it all.
Just as the river have different forms and sizes, that's the same way challenges of life comes with different meanings to human. You are to chose what you want to see through that situation that comes to you as a challenge.
Don't make that choice that will not give you peace of mind at the end of the day. Everybody deserves that moment of peace, love and happiness that knows no bound.
See life in that light and you will forever be grateful to every situation that comes your way.
***Once more, thanks for coming by to read my article. Rafd******9828***
Nothing satisfies completely.
Nothing satisfies completely is a topic that I have taken time to study which concerns human lives and their existence. No matter the amount of money and wealth you have in your possession, no matter the type of authority and power you command and control in your life as a person, you can not feel completely satisfied and beat your hand on your chest to say that you have everything you need and because of that, you are fine and satisfied completely.
Someone who does not have the financial capacity and is so broke financially may be feeling in his heart that the moment he finally gets the type of money he is looking for, everything will be alright with him, as he strive and work hard in life and finally makes the money he yearns for, after a little time, that joy that surrounds his heart for achieving that which has given him sleepless night will gradually start disappearing from his heart as he starts to handle plenty of responsibilities and spending huge amount of money on things that are relevant and irrelevant.
Same thing happens to married couples who have been married for many years without a child, after passing emotional trauma and challenges of not having children after being married for many years, when God finally answers their prayers and grand them their heart desires with a child they haved prayed for, their joy will know no bound, you may hear them say, ***"thank God for finally giving us all that we have been praying and looking for, we are completely happy and satisfied"***, then after a while, if you look closely, you may be surprised to see that this same couple that danced and jubilated for the blessing they received from God will start praying again for another child to come, if God bless them again, they will ask for another again and again and when God finally grant them that number of children they are praying for, they start to pray to God to help them get money to take the responsibilities of taking care of the children been given to them.
The reason why we see everyday as we wake up new innovations and products is simply because, human beings can not be satisfied with what they have, we always search and look for more every second, every minute of our lives, so because of that, people go into productions and manufacturing of things so that people can acquire them every day of their lives.
If you have what you are looking for today, after a short period of time, you start to look for another new thing, nothing satisfies forever, nothing gives that complete satisfaction when you have it in life. You may feel you have gotten that fulfilment of heart when you get that you are looking for now, just wait a little time, before you know it, you are craving for more.
Human needs and wants are so insatiable. If you have bicycle today, the next minute you are craving for a motorbike or even for a car, same thing happens to someone who feels so happy today for buying new mobile phone which is current and reigning, after sometime, may get old and tomorrow when you see a new model been designed and released to the market, you will start to save up so you can acquire the new phone forgetting that you once had a phone you gave all you had just to buy last year.
This is what comes with human nature, there is nothing on earth that can give you complete satisfaction in life, nothing at all. No matter the amount of money in your bank account, you can never be satisfied and fulfilled, the more money you get, the money responsibilities you see yourself into.
In fact, it's in every human nature to seek for more at every second of our lives, if you have today, you will always keep looking for more until the day you stop existing on this earth.
Never you stop looking for more, never you feel relaxed when you think you have gotten that which your heart desires for, keep searching and keep fighting because that is who we are.
***Have a wonderful day. Rafd9828***
I quit.
***What gain have I ever made from these type of lifestyles that I have chosen for myself ever since?*** This habit I have lived with for many years that have not been able to yield me any good results, yet I kept on living in it up till this moment. Oh! I am so pained right now that I was not able to realise it in time and now, it has cost me so much regret, agony, setback and even disgrace.
I should have known better that nothing good comes with living a lifestyle that can not bring you any positive impact. My ears and heart were blocked from listening to that voice of reasoning, that voice of truth and that voice of conscience examination that will always speak to me in the lowest tone when ever I want to start practicing and living in such lifestyle that never brought peace of mind and satisfaction of heart to me.
These negative energies I have built around me ever since I got to understand the meaning of life has never helped me in any way to make a good head way, rather the more I try to see if I can find light from it, the more I wallow in darkness and regret. You may be wondering why I sound this way today? Yes I have sat down to reason my achievements so far and where I should have been by now, I got to understand that I am still where I have been, it's so hard to accept but it's the truth, even when I have been adding number to my age as the year runs down on me, I have not been able to leave where I have been to another stage or level in life.
***I have tied myself so hard on this tree of Procrastination, gambling, lies, hopeless hope, envy, unproductive lifestyle, and all the negative lifestyle that can never bring success, satisfaction and good result to me ever since.*** yes it's hard to admit but it's the truth and I have realised that nothing seem so right in all of these lifestyles I have chosen for myself all these years.
Today, I have decided to quit them all, I have decided to let go of these lifestyle that have fetched me nothing but regrets, pain, loss and stagnation in life, I have decided to quit these negative energies that I have allowed myself to be surrounded with, I have decided to quit this path to life that have never filled my heart with anything good rather than frustrations and heartbreaks. I know it's not too late for me to start afresh and make the right decisions to life which will surely propel me to new heights and attainments.
I have made up my mind to shun every lifestyle that will not put me in the position of winning and achieving success in life all the rest of my days on this planet earth. Today I have made decision to seek for those lifestyle that will create better opportunities and moments where I will be able to lift others through the ideas, suggestions, contributions and opinions that I will bring to their doorsteps which I believe will impact them positively.
Right now, it's my world against all the evil and negative lifestyles, it my world against them all. I know someone reading my article maybe passing the same bridge of regrets and failed lifestyle that I have witnessed for so long, it's not out of place today to tell yourself the hard truth which has been sounding right deep inside your inner mind and conscience for so long and you failed to listen to it, you can today give that voice a listening ear so you can understand what message it has for you about your life. If you are tired of that negative lifestyle you have been living, you can make a sharp U-turn today just as I have done this moment by quitting them all and starting afresh with me today after reading this article my friend.
I urge you today to give it a try, and I assure you dear friend that you will never regret your decisions you will be making today with me. ***I was lost but now, I am found by that true voice of reasoning and truth that makes a man stand so tall and successful in life.***
***Thank you so much for coming to read my article today 🙏. Rafd9828 truly and sincerely love you so much. Have a great day.***
Give your heart a chance.
Hello everyone in this platform, I am so glad I was able to meet you guys here again after some days of me not being active to drop my articles. I am so sorry for my unavoidable absence from this great platform, I hope you guys are catching fun and doing your best to make the world a better place through your articles.
Well I must share with you the experience I got these few days I was not available on this platform, yes I was seriously passing through an emotional challenge because I met someone that I truly loved and prayed to God to connect me to, but after I met her I realised that she was passing through an emotional trauma from her past relationship. When I took her out on a date, I realised that the hurt she got from her past relationship has actually caused her enough damage emotionally, psychologically and physically from the way she see men that come close to her.
When we went out, I engaged her on a long discussion that it's topic was on relationship and heartbreak, to my greatest surprise she already had made up her mind not to love again, not to fall in love with anybody, Infact her decision was just to start flirting around with guys including me that actually need her around, at first I couldn't understand what she was thinking in her mind and what might have gone through her life that could make her feel that way to the level of changing who she was to another person totally, out of curiosity I asked her what really happened in her life that could make her take such decision in her life.
She began to narrate her love and breakup story to me, she said that she was in love with this particular guy for over three years as her first love, she never dated any man not until she met him, she gave all herself, time and energy to the relationship but never gave her virgnity to her boyfriend until when they finally decide to marry and wed as couple, so their relationship was never a sexual relationship.
She didn't know that the guy was having different girlfriends and sexual affairs with other girls behind her back and was pretending to her of being faithful in the relationship. So one day she went to his house unannounced and caught him with another woman on the bed and that shattered her so much that she left the house completely devastated and different.
She continued by saying that she was faithful in the relationship and was madly in love with her boyfriend, she did say that she had even taken the boyfriend to her own parents to introduce him to them as the man she truly love and was waiting patiently for the day he will propose to her for marriage. She said during their period of relationship, the boyfriend didn't take good care of her in times of money and provision of her certain needs, although the boyfriend was so rich but he was so stingy, but she didn't feel bothered because her love for him was so overwhelming and strong.
But when she found out that he was cheating on her, she couldn't hold it any longer so she decided to walk away from the relationship, but ever since she left the relationship till this moment, she has become the shadow of herself, nothing entices her any more, for days and weeks she cried and wallowed in heartbreak, pains and hurt over what the boyfriend did to her, for days she was not able to eat nor do anything for herself and it was during that period she vowed never to love again nor have anything to do with any man in her life again.
After some moments when she finished her story, I replied her and said, my dear, this incident that happened in your love life is not enough reason to throw away yourself to the mercy of pain, hurt and wayward lifestyle that you have made up your mind to start doing. I continued to explain to her that if she was going to give up on love just because of what the ex boyfriend did to her, it means that the boyfriend is still wining in this context. In otherwords, changing your real self all because you were treated badly by someone you truly loved in the past is never a path that you need to trade on in order to find peace of mind. ***Have you not known that when this door closes, another one opens?***
Living a lifestyle that will not bring you good name is not what should be the remedy for the hurt, staying away from the gender that brought pain and heartbreak to your heart is never a path to follow by anyone in your situation.
But by forgiving the person that have hurt you totally, and also forgiving yourself of the trauma and torture you put yourself into and giving yourself another opportunity to walk into another door that will be open for you to enter by another person who sits right next to you is the right path to consider. Not giving yourself a chance to be loved again by another person all because you were hurt and heart broken by another person should not be entertained by you in your heart whatsoever.
You heal from your past hurt faster when you let go of the past hurt and embrace the new opportunities on your doorstep.
After the discussion with her, she went home and gave it thorough thought and called me back some days later for us to give ourselves a chance to experience new beginning. I believe we will have the best of life and love experience with each other as we walk together to build this love.
***Thanks for coming by to read my article today 🙏. Rafd******9828***
Cross your limit.
For some time now I have been so cold with finding a topic to write and stories to share because there are alot of challenges, situations and programs that popped up in my life of recent, and it has taken a lot of my time to settle down and think of what topic to write down, I sincerely apologize to you my readers for my short comings.
I have actually tried so many stuffs of late to see if I can get my self improved with the way I do things, with the way I relate and communicate with people. I noticed I have been so slow and repeating same method of lifestyle, same routine each passing day with getting same result at the end of the day without having any improvement or increase towards my expectations.
It's not that I do not think, do some researches and ask some questions about the task I want to do each day, in short, I have people I always share my ideas with so I can get their own opinions so that I can make a concrete decision that will yield better result at the end of the task, yet after all these steps, I end up getting same result and not having new result to add to the previous results I have been getting.
Now, having given myself a personal soul search and thought over what has been happening of late in my life, I decided to change my method of doing things and my plans as well.
****CHANGE****
You know one thing that is so constant in life is change and if you have failed to recognise that in time, you will end up running round in circle all through your life time. You may be getting answers and results when you try a task, but you may not actually get that perfect result that you are expecting considering the effort you are putting towards that task. After I realised that ***"change"*** is needed for me to apply in order to make a difference in my life, I went down to devise another means that will help and aid me in achieving a better result in my task.
Because I needed to cross my limit in what I have been receiving as result in the past. I had to change the circle of friends I was with.
****CHANGE THE CIRCLE OF FRIENDS****
I noticed that the type of friends I was with then was actually not giving me the type of assistance and help I was looking for, In as much as I was getting a particular result at the end of the day, I was not getting to that level of satisfaction I was hoping for, and If I continue to be in that circle, I will be getting result no doubt but I will not make a head way to achieve that desired goal and success I was looking for. So I decided to pull myself away from them gradually without them understanding it and feeling hurt that I left them to make new friends that can help me achieve that dreams I have wished to achieve. ***Remember that it's always good that you follow people that's are better and greater than you in life so you can learn more better from them.***
By so doing, I had to relocate from where I was to another place to try other opportunities.
****RELOCATION IS NECESSARY****
You already know one thing that will make you change your circle of friends so quickly is when you relocate from where you were staying before with them to another city or country. So in order for me to cross my limit to achieve that desired success I have in mind, I made sure I left where I was and fix myself to a place that will surely help me get access to things that will get me closer to success I have always dreamt for. ***Yes when you are not getting what you are looking for, it's always good that you try your best to make a further step forward to see if you can step into that place that will get you what you are looking for.***
After I relocated, I decided to give myself a new chance to try again and even explore more with the new opportunities, new environment, and people I have come in contact with in the new place I found myself.
****GIVE YOURSELF A NEW CHANCE TO TRY AGAIN.****
You know one special thing about relocation to a new place, you have to meet new people, new environment, and new opportunities to give yourself an opportunity to explore all of these things. When you eventually see yourself in such place, you have to make use of it to your own advantage, good and success, retesting your abilities and adding new flavours and ingredients that can make your abilities and ideas stronger more to achieve greater things are what you will surely grab from this new place you have seen yourself, and when you are grabbing the opportunity, you are already giving yourself a new chance to try and make a new difference this time.
Finally when you have given yourself a new chance to try, you also have to strongly believe in yourself and the decision you have made for yourself to achieve success at the end of it all.
****BELIEVE IN YOURSELF.****
You know that success does not just come if you don't believe and be convinced in yourself that you are going to make it whether rain or come sunshine. As you have given yourself that new opportunity to try, you have to believe in yourself totally that you are going to come out successfully at the end of the day and that is the spirit that will always push you to succeed in your endeavours.
In conclusion, limiting yourself to greatness and success is one thing that will tie a man to an everlasting regret and pain, but if you do your best to overcome your limits and cross over to that place your heart always hope for, definitely you will surely be satisfied and fulfilled at the end. Don't limit yourself today my friend!
***Thanks for coming by to read my article today 🙏. Rafd9828***
You turned me down when I passed you a friend request.
***Oh my God! What's are you insinuating right now? That I should leave my wife and come to you? This is so ridiculous my dear. Were you not the one I was begging to be my friend some years ago when I had nothing? You turned my request down instead, you looked at my face and said I do not measure up to your kind of man just because I was jobless and broke. Right now you want to come to my family to destroy my beautiful home with your selfish desires to take me back as your man.***
***What kind of woman are you? I thought you were my wife's best friend? Why did you plan this evil against her? You just want to kill her and take her away from the picture so you can come into my life and take what does not belong to you. This is too bad my dear, you have really disappointed me and my wife your friend.***
***You can not eat your cake and still want to have it. As for your plans to kill my wife, I was aware of your evil plot so I followed you up as you drove off that fateful day to have a meeting with those assassins that you hired to kill my wife, I noticed you were up to something immediately after I met your colleague at the mall that told me your were on work vacation when you lied to my wife and I that you lost your job and did not have anywhere to stay, we had compassion on you and allowed you to come and stay with us, after my meeting with your friend that day, I started to watch your moves around the house and that was when I saw you going to have a meeting with the people that will kill my wife, so I alerted the police and told them to watch over my wife so I can get hold of those men you hired to kill my beloved wife.***
***But you know what?, I am so sorry to burst your bubbles, the police have apprehended those assassins you paid to kill my wife and they have confessed that you were the person that contracted them to carry the evil job. I believe you will be staying in the prison for a very long period of time because of your action. My wife accepted me when you rejected me and now you want to come in between us to destroy the love we have shared even when I had nothing, that will not work for you please.***
Let me end the story here so I can pass to you this important lesson you really need to know from this short story of mine.
As the title of this article implies, it's a wake up call to every young men and woman who are so arrogant and full of themselves to a point that they are not able enough not to open their eyes and keep them down to see gold treasures that are placed before them all because they are looking at the outward appearance of a person that actually call their hands for friendship.
***The future of a man or woman can not be measured by his or her looks***, the destiny of a person is in God's hand to determine and if you are using the personal outward look of a person to determine your friendship acceptance or how to relate with such a person, my dear you have to make a change right now and try to accommodate everyone and see everyone as an important person that will become a better person in future.
If one does not have what he or she is looking for today does not mean he or she will not have it by tomorrow. Don't create room in your heart where all that comes to your mind is treating people as if they do not have worth, the poor man you saw today will eventually become rich person tomorrow, someone who does not have a house or home to sleep inside today will one day have a mansion to call his or her own tomorrow, someone who didn't eat today will surely eat tomorrow.
So no matter how you want to see this article today, it's for you to make the right decision today not to see people as inferior, but to see them as people who have bright future and will eventually make it in life.
It's also important that you understand that you should not go for things that are not yours, learn to appreciate things that are yours and don't be envy of another person's stuffs. Learn to take responsibility of your actions and never put blame on others for your mistakes and misfortunes.
***I am so grateful to you for making out time to read my article so far and for the gifts of bitcoin cash token received from randomrewarder and friends too. I appreciate alot. Your visit to my post means a lot to me and as well as your comments and up-votes. Thank you so much for your kindness, I wish you guys a very awesome weekend ahead.*** 🙏***Rafd9828.***
Appreciate life today.
I will start with a song I listened today from one of the best music icons of our time in African Nigerian music industry by the name ***Timaya*** with the song titled ***"appreciate life"***. In his words, he said that it's your right and duty to always appreciate life no matter where you are and what you are facing at the moment.
Yes it will not be out of context to join in his advocacy of appreciating life this morning. I have always given it a thought that it's the right way of life to always appreciate that which you were given without merit, and that special gift is ***life***. Whether you are strong this morning or not, whether you are having a great time today or not, all you should be after right now is nothing but thanking that supreme being that created all the universe and everything that is in it.
***Have you ever thought about why God who created life still allow you to enjoy your life despite all your wrong doings and bad behaviours?***
***Have you really asked yourself this particular question as to why God still give you that yet another chance to wake up from sleep each beautiful morning notwithstanding the way you disrespected and disobeyed God, treated your fellow human being unjustly and all your dealings that never brought joy and happiness to God and people around you?***
We may never understand the level of grace, love and mercy we receive every blessed day we go out and come back from our day's activities, we do not know what happens behind our subconscious bodies lying down in deep sleep all through the night and yet we open our eyes when the day break all by the grace of him who created all things and was never created.
I am most grateful to God for giving me a life I didn't deserve, a life I never merited and a life I didn't know how it all came about, but you still went ahead to keep me alive in the land of the living. If I begin to check the difference between me that you gave life today and those that didn't make it alive this morning, I will understand that I am not better off than these people who didn't wake up this morning with me, but it was your grace that saved and kept me alive and going.
I know some people that find it so difficult to appreciate that gift of life that were given to them, anyways it's actually funny to see most people feel it's their right to stay alive and do as they like without having any fear or remorse of their actions and treatments towards their neighbours and people they meet each day of their lives. No one is entitled to what comes to him or her from God, and it's of essence that one knows how to appreciate that gift of life and be grateful to that supreme God that give life in abundance without receiving or asking anything from you.
Now do you know that when you appreciate that life God gave you with a clean heart, you are already attracting unmerited favours and blessings to yourself and to your household? No doubt, it's the truth and many have failed to understand it and make every effort to key into this great channel of blessing attraction from God.
That you woke up in the morning, dressed up for the day's activities, went out to achieve your goals and aims and after the day's activities you came back safely to your house, eat and sleep without any regrets is really more than enough reason to be happy and be appreciative to God.
That you were able to achieve your goals and all your heart desires as a person who hopes for success is more than enough reason to appreciate life.
That you were able to overcome your fears and challenges that come each passing day when you try to make ends meet is enough reason to be appreciative of the life you already have.
That you were able to see the bright day each passing day is more than enough reason to appreciate life today. Do not feel it's your right to take back the appreciation that is meant for God to yourself. Start now to always be in the mood and spirit to appreciate life anytime you wake up to see that you are among the living.
***Thank you so much for reading my article 🙏 Rafd9828***
Inside life; my story part two.
Well, just like I said in my last article I posted some days ago about inside life of a man, I told you that man's life is filled with uncertainties and unimaginable experiences and I also narrated to you a story about me and how I got favoured by someone I didn't know from Adam that helped me start up my dream business, and I was thinking maybe all of that happened because of my charitable heart to people or maybe because of the grace that comes from above, and I did tell you the importance of charity and showing care and love to people you are better of and those that are also better than you.
Today in my inside life story part two, I will be sharing with you another important experience that you also need to know about and do all you can to learn from it.
Falling in love and being in love with that right person is the sweetest feeling you will ever want to have and share as an experience for a very long time. Just as the love feelings are strong and the energy being massive by the two persons involved, it's also important that you take into consideration the compatibility of the both of you in the aspect of love and understanding, and also in the aspect of your medical health compatibility of you both incase you want to take it to the next level which is marriage.
These two factors are so important that one should always put into consideration before you move into any serious relationship with your spouse.
I happened to find love in one of the most beautiful hearts around the world in this side of the continent Africa where I come from, and when I met her, she was so down to earth, with a heart full of gold and all the beautiful things you can ever imagine.
At first, when I met her she was single and was seriously heartbroken from her last relationship, I asked her out so she agreed, and when we started going out I saw that she was the kind of woman I have prayed to God to give me as a life partner, I went ahead to show her so much care, love and affection same way she returned the love, care and affection back to me. Everything was going on well with both of us.
I was overwhelmed by her love, my eyes and mind were clouded from taking the most important thing serious when you want to take a relationship to the next level which is marriage with your spouse and that important thing was knowing your genotype compatibility with your spouse so as to prevent the risk of bearing kids with sickle-cell anemia when you finally decide to start bearing children after marriage. When I knew that the love was moving to marriage stage because of the energy we were getting from each other, we decided to go for a test to know our genotype status, after the test, the result came out and it happened that we both were not compatible with each other due to we both were AS genotype.
After the break of the test result, the effect of the result changed our sweet moments to something else, I couldn't get myself because I was so much In love with her, she couldn't believe the result herself because she has been so used to me and everything about me. You know if it were in a developed country like America, United Kingdom, etc, the medical condition can be taken care of with sophisticated medical applications and treatments so one can not bear children with sickle-cell anemia, but over here in Africa, it's not actually the same. Even if there is, the cost of it will be so overwhelming.
So it was a devastating period for both of us, because the consequences that may follow if we continue the relationship could be so hurting and painful in future. After series of thoughts, I took a hard decision to end the relationship with her knowing the harm that may befall us if we continue the relationship, when I confront my spouse to let her know that we can't continue the relationship, she refused accepting the news that I brought to her, I would not blame her because I understood her feelings too, because it was not easy for me too breaking the news of the present condition we are faced with.
After meeting her to share the news to her, she refused accepting the outcome, she went ahead to suggest that we should get married without having children of our own, rather we can adopt children. You know in our African traditions, cultures and customs we believe that having your own biological children is one of the blessings of marriage from God and I would want to have my own blessings from God as well, in order words, having my own biological children would be more better than adoption, so I refused the offer because she was not actually thinking right by suggesting such move.
I tried explaining to her that there is a place for love and also a place for responsibility in marriage, when you are having wonderful relationship and every moments going on well with you, you may tend to forget that there are other side in relationship you need to also put your attention to, and that area is taking responsibility.
You know there are things you may witness in your relationship that can change a lot of things in your relationship which may in turn change your sweet moments to sad moments and regrets all through your life. The situation we found ourselves was a typical example of condition that can bring pain to our heart if we overlook the truth and continue to follow our hearts and the way we feel for each other.
In a situation where we go ahead to marry each other knowing that we are endangering the future and life of our children is what I will not take because of love, so I will not allow myself feel hurt for the rest of my life when I know we could take the step of saving our unborn children from sickle cell anemia by going our separate ways to find love in another person's heart. I know it's so painful to admit but there is little or nothing one can do about this situation. So I refused accepting her request and that made her to start seeing me as a wicked person. But I know in my heart that I want the best for us and that best is letting go.
So today my friend, if sacrificing your love will save a lot souls, please don't be selfish and self centered today, just do the needful to save a soul today.
***This is another experience I have to share today in the story of my inside life part two. Thanks for coming by to read my article 🙏 Rafd9828***.
Remember not the former thing.
I remember one special statement I usually hear from my father each time he wants to start admonishing us after morning prayer each day,
***"Remember always that old things have passed away and behold all things are new".*** This is bible statement gotten from ***2 Corinthians 5:17***.
Each time my father repeat this verse of the bible to us I begin to imagine his reasons for saying it, at some point I started to get tired of hearing it, I never knew he was passing a strong message to us as his children not until I got the level of maturity and understanding in life where I am today that everything started unfolding to me about this statement my father always say to us.
I have got to a point where I always meet good, bad and ugly people in life and can not live my life without being in contact with these set of people everyday. Whether I like it or not, every day comes with different experiences that comes from these set of individuals. So I didn't know my father was preparing our minds for what is to come in future when we go out there to meet these set of people. Right now as I have become mature with lots of responsibilities on my shoulder, for one to overcome these challenges with so much responsibilities, you have to let go of the old things that are not needed in your heart, you have to make your heart free from every thought that will create setback to you and to your goals. Because we have lots of people, things and situations that will surely bring us hurt, pain, disappointments and misfortunes every day of our lives, each day we go out to make a difference, these negative effects will surely come to mess our minds and hearts up one way or the other which will in turn bring bad memories and feelings to us at the end of the day.
But if you have these words in your heart as your shield every day you get out there to make your ends meet, you will surely not be affected by what people throw at you. When you build your heart strong with these words of knowledge, forgiveness, positivism and strength, definitely everything becomes easy for you to handle. Having the ability to forgive one another even when those people you trusted turned out to hurt you and pretend as if they didn't cause you any pain in life.
I didnt understand any of these things when I was growing up until now, but of a truth, I am enjoying it right now because I have come to know the benefits **of** those words my father used to say to us. And I am also using this moment to also tell you my dear friend to ***remember not the former things because old things have passed away and behold all things are new.*** Once you have this word in your heart, relating with people and forgiving them when they hurt you will not be that difficult for you to do.
I want to appreciate my father for not giving up on me and my siblings when we got tired of hearing this word from him, I want to also appreciate him for not letting our ignorance stop him from putting those words in her heart as long as he did in order for us to remember it right now.
It's not an ideal way of living life when you allow bad treatments and attitudes from people change your true understanding about life, humanity, love and relationship with people around you. If you can be able to take to heart this important word of God yourself and always find a way to apply it to your daily life with people around you, surely you will be happy and live the best out of what the life offers you.
I have been on the road since Friday last week from one state to another trying to meet up with people who have been so dear to me, and thank God I have been able to meet almost all of them. I will be active more when I get back to base.
***Thanks for being around to read my article today. Rafd******9828***
Inside life.
The existence of man, his experiences, stories of events about him that happened and all that makes life worth living for a man is what you can find inside life of a man. The reason why I use man in my article today is for you to draw important lesson from my personal experience which I will be sharing with you today.
Inside life of a man is filled with so much uncertainties and unimaginable experiences which every man must experience and go through in order to become who he wants to be and reach that height he has dreamt and desired for in life. To get to that point, you are to face a lot of responsibilities and challenges along the way which will aid you so well with enough facts and information in telling your story to your children and writing your story for the world to read and learn from it.
I will be sharing with you a true life event that I experienced not long ago, and it will surely help you to have a different view about life and your relationship with people.
Ever since I began to understand the meaning of life and what survival was all about, I have tried to live a life that will benefit me positively and impact goodness to people I come across in life. I made it an obligation to treat people with respect, kindness and love each time I have anything to do with anybody, ***not that I am a saint who does not have his flaws, no!*** But I still do my best to make sure I don't get into people's way and make them unhappy whenever I have any dealings with them.
I tried pursuing greener pasture in my country so I can be able to get whatever thing I desire in life, but after all my effort to achieve that, I was not able to get through that chain of misfortunes, disappointments and failures. I asked myself a lot of questions as to why I was not able to get through to success like other people do. I was not able to get any answer to that question, I went as far as going back to my root to ask questions about my life and if there was any event that took place the day I was born, thank God my mother was still alive and she explained to me that nothing was wrong with me and nothing happened during the day I was born that she could remember which could be the reason for my misfortunes and disappointments so far.
You know one special character about every man, when a man is not doing well, he does not feel comfortable about his condition, even when you try to calm him down with words of encouragements and strength, he does not still take away his heart from the fact that he has not gotten where he is going, so after the meeting with my mother, I went back to the city with hope that something good will definitely happen someday soon.
One thing I never stopped doing even in my difficult times were charity, showing care and love even in my little financial status, I never stopped showing love and giving to people that I was better than, I even extended my hand of fellowship and charity to people who were better than me, I learnt that lifestyle from my mother specially because I was so close to her more than my father, she was a generous woman and kind too.
I kept on hoping and believing that one day I will meet my God that hold my own key of success and greatness. I kept on pushing and hustling and one day something happened, I met someone from Facebook who saw me, liked me as a friend and sent me a friend request which I accepted, we started chatting and before you knew it, she said to me that her heart has been disturbing her ever since she saw me here on Facebook to assist me on something but she does not know what and where to assist me from, I thought she was joking with me at first, but she kept on making her strong statement that I should tell him where I am having challenges so she can assist me, then I realised that God has remembered me and I told her my greatest challenge in life which was finance to start my dream business, after I told her what I needed, she requested that I cost all it will take for me to get my dream business running, I did the calculation and sent her the total sum and my account number, not quite long I received a credit alert of some money transferred to my account, that was the beginning of my dream business.
I asked her what she really wanted from me, and why she was helping a stranger like me with this huge sum of money, she said nothing, Infact she said she does not need to know me nor meet me in person before doing what her mind told her to do. She made a striking statement that pierced my heart, she said this; ***"when doing charity to people, don't let your left hand know that you are giving with your right hand. That's pure charity."***
At that point I realised that God does not forsake his own no matter how long it takes. In your own inside life, never allow your present predicaments and challenges turn you away from being that wonderful person that you were meant to be, and always remember that through giving, you surely receive.
This is one of the stories you will find in my inside life story collections.
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Love can catch you anywhere any time.
It's never a sin for one to go out from where he or she is to find love elsewhere. It's not out of place to leave your group, your association, or your folks to connect your heart and love with another person in another place. When it involves love, it knows no bound and has no definite route.
That you have so many pretty, beautiful young ladies and handsome gentlemen in your group where you belong to and contribute your own quota, does not mean that you are mandated and obligated to find love from that place. Most times, people have misconceptions about love and how love connects with people. Some people have this understanding that it's not right for you to leave your association or your groups and look out for love else where. For instance, where I worship on sundays, I belong to a choir group in my church as a Catholic and after Sunday mass, I had a little discussion with a lady friend of mine while we were heading back home, she complained that it was not funny and proper to see young men and ladies who happen to be in the same group leaving their members to marry outside their group, that she feels it's not a good thing, after being together and almost seeing each other on a weekly bases whenever the meeting days are fixed, with all the handsome and beautiful ladies and men in the group, yet it's so not easy to see these people marry each other at the end of the day, instead they find it easy to look outside the group to find love and even get married as well. She said that she has taken time to do a study on this particular issue to different groups both in the church and outside church groups. After she finished saying what she observed from these different groups she has taken time to research and study, I decided to share with her these reasons which I am about to tell you today that could change her understanding and also change some of you that share the same opinions, thought, believe and ideas with her.
When it comes to love, it does not matter where you are, where you belong to, who you are or what you are doing at that moment, when love wants to connect, it goes beyond your understanding and what your eyes can see, this particular statement people always say when it comes to love should always help you to remember that falling in love does not have any particular direction because as they say ***"Love is blind".***
That you are in a group where beautiful ladies and handsome gentlemen are filled with and you left them to get love else where does not mean that they are not good enough to be loved and start a relationship with, what it means that your love did not find any person to love and connect with in the group. You can not because you are in the same group with someone that your heart didn't match with, you still force yourself to marry from there all because you are in the same group with them. That move is not a healthy one if you choose to follow it and can be disastrous if you tread in that path.
We are talking about love, companion and lifetime partnership and being in a group is not enough to throw away that fact.
Marriage and love affection is beyond group stuff, is beyond associations and any other group you may belong to, we are talking about feelings and that feeling must be mutual, strong for you to take the next step with the person. Although you may see some people in a group dating and even having fling with each other and at the end of the whole day, some may end up in marriage and some may not, it happens and it's not a reason to conclude that everyone who finds himself or herself in a group should end up as a couple.
You can be in France and find love in America, you can fall in love with someone who is short when you are so tall, and same way you can be a black person and fall in love with a white person. Remember, ***to fall in love does not cut bridges***. How love connects is a mystery that only the creator can rightly explain how it happens.
So my friend, don't feel it's very absurd when you see things happen in such ways. It's not anybody's making or control. If you are opportuned to find love where you are, my dear be happy, if you also find love elsewhere also be happy and cherish your love and all the moments it comes with.
***I wish you love and thanks for reading my article today 🙏 Rafd******9828***
Healing from a heartbreak take lots of responsibilities.
Having a bad time in your relationship with your spouse or partner is something one usually see during the moments you spend with your partner in your relationship, it does not mean that being in a love relationship or any kind of relationship with your partner or with someone out there that you must be expecting bad moments to come by. Whether what comes to you is good or bad when you are in a relationship, you must surely have it at the back of your mind that relationship is not a bed of roses, there must be ups and downs when you are having your moments with that person you are in any kind of relationship with.
Let me not talk about the sweet moments and experiences you may have when the relationship is moving so well and good. But my question today in this topic I am discussing today is;
***What are the steps you need to follow to heal faster from negative effects of heartbreak?***
You may have different types of ways and measures you may want to take in order for you to get healed from the negative effects of heartbreak as an individual. But whether you have your own way of dealing with it or not, the most important fact still remain that it takes a lot of responsibilities in order for you to get your broken emotions, bartered feelings and your whole self back on track faster from the negative effect of heartbreak you receive from your loved ones or from people you so much believed in and trusted your life with.
You may think it's so easy and you can handle it yourself when such wind comes to you, but if you watch it so closely and if care is not taken, you may end up having the pain and hurt for a very long period of time all because you failed to understand that coming out of heartbreak comes with a very big responsibility.
Whether you want to accept the truth or not, you get healed faster from heartbreak when you let people into your heart to share your pain and hurt with you. I tell you the truth, You may find it so difficult to share your pain and hurt when you are faced with such situation, but if you can summon courage within you to open up and share your pain with that person that showed so much interest and care about you, you will definitely get healed faster.
For you to get healed faster as well, you must also try opening your heart to new experience new opportunities that may be offered to you by your friends and people who care about you. Locking yourself up and staying away from people all because you feel you don't need anybody around you anymore will definitely worsen the situation, but when you try being free with yourself to try new experience and new opportunities that may be offered to you to come back to life again, my dear you will surely get healed from your hurt and pain faster than you think.
As you already know that changing environment can also help one to heal faster when you are facing pains and hurts as a result of heartbreaks, but if you change environment when you have not taken that responsibility of changing your mindset from remembering the past memories you once shared with the person who caused you so much pain and hurt, if you have not accepted to leave behind you the past experience you once shared and had with him or her in your heart before changing the environment, definitely when you eventually get back to that place you had the bad experience, you will still fall back to the old memories and every past feelings comes back to you and start to hurt you back again.
Finally, for you to heal totally, you need to give yourself that opportunity to be loved again by another person that is standing at the door of your heart knocking for you to open for him or her to enter. Staying away from love for so long will not do you any good, you have to understand that relationship comes with ups and downs and if this one does not work out, definitely another will surely work out good. Staying away from people who will help you heal, staying away from people will bring back that true feeling of happiness, joy and satisfaction of heart will surely not give you an opportunity to heal totally, but if you give yourself another chance to love and be loved again by someone, you will surely heal completely from your pain and hurt that comes with the negative effects of heartbreak from your failed relationship.
The responsibility of healing and getting better is in your hands to make it happen, give your self a reason to feel happy and heal again.
***Thanks for coming by to read my article today 🙏 Rafd******9828******.***
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The things we do to make our relationship stronger.
Hello everyone, today is going to be a great day for us all and I believe you are ready for my today's discussion about love and relationships.
Well, Let's talk about the things we need to do to make our relationship stronger. I know that we all have come to the age of maturity and to the stage of understanding what love and relationships is all about. It will not be out of place if I try to enlighten us today about the need to work effectively and efficiently together with your spouse to make your relationship survive as you journey together in love as married couples and as people who are in a relationship that may lead to something so beautiful in future.
You may have seen or heard where someone may be wondering and complaining why they do not have a long lasting relationship with their spouses or anybody that come into their life to build a relationship with them, these reasons that may contribute to these relationship failures might not be far fetched from these examples; attitudinal behaviour of the individuals in the relationship, personal stringent and rigid rules and regulations been put by the two persons who are seeking for a relationship from each other, character differences, different religion and belief standards, etc.
You hear such complain maybe coming from a lady or from a young man when you come to them for discussion, some may even tell you that they have been having series of breakups with any person that comes into their life within a short period of time of their getting to know each other and because of that, they are afraid that the next person coming into their life for a relationship may also disappoint them someday even after having sex and getting what they are looking for from them, they still end up leaving the relationship.
These and many more reasons might be worries and disturbances the hearts of these people who are affected with these kind of situations are passing through and these make them to be so afraid of the future.
Now my good friend, let me tell you one important secret you may have not known which might be a helping tool for you to have a wonderful and stable relationship with your spouse. In any relationship you may want to start with any person, you have to understand that you too are two different persons with different understandings and purposes, but by accepting to start a relationship with each other, simply means that your individual rules and regulations, beliefs, standards, etc should not be focused upon or stand as an existing model or guideline for you to follow in building your relationship with your spouse, in otherwords, you are not to be seen putting your own dictates as the best option to follow when you are in a relationship with your spouse.
This is one very big mistake that most people have not actually noticed that could be the problem why they don't have a lasting relationship with any person that come their way, if you have had five failed relationships in just one year, instead of you to ask yourself what could be the problem why you don't have a stable relationship, you start accusing people that came and left your life within a short period as being the cause of your unstable relationship, instead of checking yourself to know if you were the reason why they are leaving you. But if you truly tell yourself the truth, you will understand that some of these problems could be your fault, and if only you could think deep and try to adjust some rules, lifestyles and personal policies you made for yourself which are not going well with you and the next person coming in for a relationship with you, maybe then you can start having a long lasting relationship with that person you desire so much as your life partner.
For two persons to have a long lasting relationship and love, they should always make room for unanimous decision and agreement in anything they want to do, proper communication at all times should be the way and not letting anything come in between you and your spouse no matter the situation.
When two persons are ready and are in a relationship, there should be no fixed rule and policies by any one who wants to enjoy, have a healthy and lasting relationship with his or her spouse.
I know you will learn something new from me today so you can have an awesome and wonderful long lasting relationship with that person you so much desire in your life.
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