You are never too old to set another goal or to dream a new dream.
I came across this quote by ***C.S. Lewis*** which say;
***"You are never too old to set another goal or to dream a new dream.”***
And this word called my attention to some weird behaviours and attitudes most people showcase when they are getting old in life. As nature made it, people tend to feel weak and drop their zeal to pursue greatness when they begin to get old in life, they feel it's not necessary any longer to keep pushing achievements and greatness in life because physically their body strength and health may be getting weak and failing them, fear of the unknown like death at any moment maybe setting in their minds and put them off from being able to think out new ideas, pursue new dreams in life and greatness during their old age.
Let me use the ordeal that I had with my father who is in his early 70ths as an instance, when I came to visit him in the village, where he relocated after he retired as a civil servant, we were discussing his retirement plans since it's obvious he was surviving and living with the money he receives from pension company that pay him as a retired government worker, and this money he gets every month from this pension company is not really enough for him to solve his personal needs and other problems in the house, so when I came to see him, I asked him what his plans were considering the fact that his pension salary is not enough for him, I asked him if he has any business in mind he can venture into so I can offer some financial assistance since he complains the money I gave him is not enough with the one he receives every month.
After I finished what I was saying, my father looked at me and said, my son, I don't think I have any business in mind to do at this my old age, I don't have the strength to run around the stress of any business, and besides, you my child should be the one providing for me and taking good care of me in this my old age. Of a truth, when he finished his statement, I got confused and upset with his reply. My reason for getting angry is not because he said I supposed to be providing for him since he is retired now, but reason for getting angry is because he has accepted defeat in setting another goal or pursue a new dream that can still add more value to his life than where he is now.
He has failed to give himself another reason to experience new thing and new beginning of purpose. Remember that our inner mind and brain is ever young and ready to create new ideas once you give it a try, though your body maybe weak and not fragile to run, not strong enough to do things you were able to do when you were young, but your mind can go as far as creating ideas that can change the world even as you are in your old age.
Most great achievers we know in this world did not look at their age, they didn't allow their old age stop them from achieving anything they want in life, the only factor that can stop them in life is death, even in their sick bed, they can still be fighting hard to survive and maintain their status and keep their ideas going.
***No mind is old enough to quit thinking out new ideas each day.***
***No brain is incapable of achieving greatness in life if been put to try.***
***No age is too old to stop pursuing greatness in life so long as your mind and brain is still intact, even if you are bedridden and can not move around, you can still dream and make your dream come true.***
***And nothing is impossible to achieve if you give it a chance.***
So my dear friend, I left my village back to the city and I will be going back again to have a second time discussion with my father to make him understand that he can still achieve another goal in life if only he can accept, believe and give it another chance. I believe this time, he will get it right.
You too can get it right my friend, you can also give that person sitting next to you that feels it's over in his or her life hope, a chance, and an encouragement that can change that person's believe of accepting defeat to become strong enough again to make it right.
***Thanks for reading my article 🙏 Rafd******9828******. I LOVE YOU ALL!***
Stop working hard and start working smart.
This topic I am about to discuss in my today's post may take some people off balance from their feet and put them in the state of confusion, because a lot of us have believed so much on getting success through hard-work than what I am about to discuss today. Which ever way you may have believed about achieving success, I would want you to still calm down and take a proper study of what I am about to discuss in this article today.
I have taken my time to actually study some of the wealthy men's biographies around the world and even from this side where I came from Africa, and I come to understand that most successful men, their wealth and successes were not based so much on hard-work or the enough energy they threw out from their body system that made them become successful in life, it was not also the foundation they were given birth to by their parents that actually made them become successful in life. But rather the opportunity they saw, grabbed and acted smartly upon that gave them that success they celebrate in their lives today.
Now most of the wealthy men I met and discussed with, all made one common statement that got me thinking and that statement was simple, ***"I saw this great opportunity, I grabbed it and acted smartly on it without wasting much time and here I am with success."***
*For you to be great and successful, you must come in contact with an opportunity.*
*You must be willing to pursue it without been baised when going for that opportunity before you.*
*Then act smartly at once in all your dealings in other not to lose that great opportunity before you and by so doing, success comes at your doorstep knocking for you to open.*
Yes I am not saying that to work hard is not good for one to follow when he or she is looking for success, but have you ever wondered why most people you see today that are famous, rich and wealthy keep maintaining their standard and status up till now, it because of their ability to always think ahead, plan ahead, and create opportunities that will keep them going and ever successful in life, and that simply shows that they are not just articulative alone but also smart enough to keep putting bridges that helps them cross and conquer failure.
***If truly working hard is the only way to achieve success, why is it that people that are toiling day and night working their whole life off still never get rich and become famous like every rich persons you and I know in this world today?***
Why is the wheelbarrow pushers we see in our local markets in our villages and cities that toil and work hard every day of their lives never get rich like Mark Zuckerberg that founded Facebook, Simon, creator of Read.cash and Noise.cash, Jack Ma the founder of Alibaba group, etc. This simply means that it's not truly about the effort you put through hard-work that makes one rich, rather it's by being smart enough to know when an opportunity that will change your life for good is thrown at you and you take the chance at once to change your destiny.
Often times we believe that it's by the measure of your hard work that determines your success in life, and on the other hand we also may believe that all that comes to us is actually how our destines were meant to be, and because of that we fail to actually notice when an opportunity to make things right are before us, we close our hearts and eyes to see the opportunities right before us to make a difference in our lives.
The world we live in today because of current innovations and new ideas been created by different individuals all around the world to make and create wealth, a lot of channels have been made available for every one to key into in other to change their present financial, economic, and social status, not necessarily you must kill yourself in other to make ends meet.
There are online jobs that necessarily does not require one to go out everyday of his or her life to do but comfortably work from the comfort of your house and earn your money, there are other platforms that have been created also that does not need you to stress yourself much before you can earn money from it, just your intellectual ideas and knowledges is all that is required of you to deposit and you earn your pay everyday. We have other platforms that all you need to do is to send good pictures of any kind to the platform and you get your pay at the end of the day, there are other online platforms that I can not mention because of time.
I tell you my friend, working hard to achieve success is not the only option you need to change your life, but working smart is the best option you need today to make more meaningful difference in your life with less stress. Why not try today and identify those platforms and financial freedom channels that comes with the right information that can change your story for good from the comfort of where ever you may be.
Find a way to connect yourself to the right place where you can work smart and change your future for better.
Thank you so much for this great opportunity you have given me to express my ideas through your platform read.cash. you are indeed an opportunity everyone that wants to work smart and make a great difference in his or her life needs to join today.
***Thank you for coming by to read my article today 🙏 Rafd9828***
Please Dads, you need to read this.
Hello everyone, I appreciate your effort so much in making sure you contribute your own part in educating and enlightening the world with your articles.
Please I want to specially make an appeal today through my article to the fathers all over the world to try and read this important piece of information and advise I am going to share here in my article. **As** we already know that parenting comes with a huge responsibilities and must not be taken for granted. During my course of study and research, I came to understand that there are a lot of imbalances in the way children behave, feel, see their parents and get attached more to their mothers than their fathers in the families where they find themselves in.
You may ask ***What do I mean by that?***
You may have noticed that the love, bond and affection children share with their mothers are far way much more than the ones they have and share with their fathers. And you begin to wonder and ask yourself why is it so? Some will try to say the reason why you can find such feelings and bond more attached to the mothers is because, mothers are the ones that carried them in their womb, breast fed them and even stay closer to them and all that. Yes of a truth, you may be getting the answers correct if you give such reason as why they share more bond and feeling together than the fathers.
But apart from the reason I have mentioned above, there are other reasons why these bond and feelings of love and attention is given to the mothers more than the fathers by their children. And these reasons are what I will be explaining below for you (the fathers) to actually find where you are making mistakes and take corrections so you can have a fulfilling days with your children even when you get to your old age in life.
**During my study, I observed that one of the reasons why children have more affection and bond with their mothers more than their fathers is because the father's responsibility of fending for their families have taken their attention and presence away from their children's lives and that contributes to the reason why children bond more with their mothers. Yes everyday the fathers go out in the morning and come back late from work and will not have much time to play and stay with their children before they go to sleep, and you already know that the mothers stay with them from morning till evening and give them all the necessary attentions they desire. When they grow with that style of living, they develop love, affection and bond with that person that gives them all the necessary attention, care, affection they needed while they were growing up, and this feeling is also taken with them to their adulthood.**
**I also observed that the way most fathers take the issues that concerns their children's well-being is really a problem that constitute such lapses in the way their children relate with them. For instance, A situation where your children's school fees are due to be paid and you leave everything to your wife to handle even when you know you are the one paying the money yourself. Instead of you to make your children know that you gave their mother their school fees to pay for them, you leave for work early morning and when your wife go to their school and make the payment, in your children's mindset and believe, they feel it is their mother that paid the school fees for them. This is also another factor that makes the children bond more with their mother.**
**Another observation I got from my study was the way most fathers make out time to look out for their children and solve their problems when they run to them. When your child comes to you as a father to play with you or stay with you but because you are so tired and needed some rest when you come back from work, you may not want to be disturbed by them and this will make you to direct them to their mother to get any assistance they are looking for and stop disturbing you. This is another factor that contributes to your children bonding more with their mother in the family.**
In all my studies, I came to understand that there are lots of factors that may have contributed to these challenges most fathers face with when it comes to show of affection, love and care from their children when they get old. I am of the opinion that fathers should make out time and be active in their children's life same way the mothers are doing.
It may be so difficult to do but I tell you this, you will not regret it when the time comes in the future when your children must have grown up, they will love you the same way they love and bond with their mothers.
I use my neighbor as my role model, he makes out time to be active in his children's lives, he dresses them up together with the wife when they are preparing them for school and even to other activities they want to attend, he takes them to school and helps the wife to bring them back from school.
He makes sure that he call his children at night to ask them how their day went when he comes back from work in the evening, he plays with them and makes sure he helps them in their take home assignments.
He personally told me that he gives his children's school fees in front of his children to his wife to pay for them at school, and his children always show gratitude to him with a kiss on his cheek and a word of ***"thank you daddy"*** when ever he pays their school fees for them.
So I strongly believe when you apply some of these steps I made mention in my article in your children's lives, they will surely love and bond with you same way they bond with their mothers. And more so, when you do all of these to your children, you are helping your wife and marriage to stay longer, stronger and healthier. I wish you well as you explore these advise of mine in your family.
***Thank you so much for coming by to read my article today 🙏Rafd9828***
Less talk and act now.
I will begin my today's article with this words from **Walt Disney** ***"*** *****The way to get started is to quit talking and begin doing"*****. And this word is not just for the readers alone but also for me who is writing this article right now.
Well, before I continue with my article, I would like to ask how your valentine's day celebration went yesterday? I hope you guys had lots of fun with your loved ones and also exchanged gifts with your friends, families and people you are better off?. As for me, I did have some fun yesterday with my friends and family, and I got no gift from anybody, ***hahahahaha!*** it's funny right?, anyways, some days are like that, next year will be better.
Back to the topic of the day, the reason why we the human beings are better than other animals on the planet earth is because we have brains and make good use of it more than other animals on the planet earth. Human beings are designed to achieve what ever thing they place their mind and focus on, so long as they make use of these important gift of mind God designed human beings with. These special gifts are what we know as dreams, common sense, thinking/planing abilities and will power to actualise our goals and what so ever one wish to achieve in life.
But I tell you that none of these gifts embedded in man by God can produce better fruits in man's life when one starts to take more time on talking and discussing all day his plans without putting them to work. You can not achieve your dreams and aspirations in life when you dwell on each passing day of your life talking out your dreams to yourself, to people around you instead of making more effort to apply actions that will make your dreams and plans come true at the end.
My mother will always tell me each time I come to her to share my dreams and plans with her say that; "empty vesel makes louder noise" in otherwords, instead of me to always come to disturb her with my plans and dreams, I should always show her with action and results. The results we want to achieve in our lives can not just happen over night when we talk too much and dwell in Procrastination all day long.
A successful man is that person that talk less of his plans but puts more actions towards achieving his dreams. Why people fail to achieve their dreams are not far fetched from this particular topic, you may not know who wants your success or downfall in life, and when you make your plans known to people that seem good outside but evil inside, they will do all they can to make your dreams and plans dashed on the wall and your dreams shattered.
As we have finished our valentine's day celebration from this side of the world where I come from, this article will serve as a wake up call to all of us reading this article today to sit up and change the way we see things around us, change the way we want to achieve our dreams and also change the way we disclose our dreams and aspirations to people around us.
Let us be known by people through our actions and our achievements in life not by the way we talk and disclose our plans to people in life.
***Have you made it a part of you to always run your mouth uncontrolled with your plans and dreams to people you meet every day of your life?***
***Have you believed in people's ideas than your own ideas and because of that, you throw away your dreams just to do their own bidding?***
***Have you lived your entire life not achieving your dreams because of too many Procrastination in your life?***
***Have you been on regret for so long for not really achieving your plans and dreams in life?***
Well, today is your great day to look back to your mistakes and tell yourself that enough is enough, starting from today, you will live your life of action rather than talking, you will achieve your dreams and nothing will ever hold you down and finally, that you will be fulfilled knowing that your achievements are the product of your effort in life.
***Thank you so much for coming by to read my article today 🙏 Rafd9828***
When you learn, teach. When you get, give.
I believe today all round the world has been marked as a day for valentine's day, a day set aside for celebration of love and show of care and concern to that person right beside you. And everybody right now have been trying to reach to their loved ones and families to show them some love, gift items, and also hangout with their friends and loved ones just to have fun and enjoy themselves today.
Do you know that most people have misunderstood the true message of today and have chosen to celebrate valentine's day in the wrong way, especially the younger ones in this our present time and season. They have turned valentine's day celebration as a day where they can do all sorts of immoralities, making it a day when they will go out with their loved ones to clubs, have excessive drinking of alcohol, having illicit sex with their boyfriends and girlfriends, love partners and other immoral acts that does not paint the right meaning why the valentine's day is been celebrated today.
Some people will use today as a day for breakups with their partners maybe because the things they expected their loved ones to do for them in this season of love were not done by their partners and because of that, they feel disappointed and break up their relationship. While some other persons will leave their partners to follow another person that throw expensive gifts, money and material things at them and because of that, they will leave their relationship to follow another.
While some will travel long distance to meet people they have never met before in life except on social media all because they were invited and promised a good time out once they come over and in so doing, they put their lives at risk and danger all because they want to have fun and enjoy valentine's day.
*Are these what truly valentine's day mean to us? Or are we going about this valentine's day celebration in the wrong direction?*
Coming from the title of my article today which captioned ***"********When you learn, teach. When you get, give"*******,** you will understand with me that we have failed to learn the true meaning and essence of celebrating valentine's day on every 14th February each year, we have turned our minds and our hearts away from what we should learn from the person that we celebrate in his name. St. Valentine we celebrate today is a person that gave his life all in a bit to protect love and encourage true love during his time on earth. He died for standing on the just and goodness. but we have failed to actually understand the true message he passed to us and why he is been celebrated today.
We have also failed to teach our children and wards to follow the right teachings and the right message of st. valentine's day which is ***sacrifice, love, care and show of concern*** to those who we are better off. This is what love is all about and we must begin to give the right teaching to our children.
This is the period of giving and sharing love with people around you. Sharing of gift, sharing well wishing messages, paying visit to the less privileged and to the homeless, spending more time with the aged ones around your local areas, should be the best message for this valentine's day we celebrate today.
This is a day of arms giving from the dept of your heart, a day for togetherness, a day for reconciliation, a day for forgiveness and a day for true expression of love.
Let us today celebrate our valentine's day in the spirit of love, sportsmanship and togetherness, because it's in this period of time you learn and teach, you get and give.
I wish you guys a fulfilling and fun-filled valentine's Day to you all. Let's spread love❤️❤️❤️. Happy Valentine's Day to you all.
***Thanks for reading my article 🙏 Rafd9828***
What if!
Today seem so busy for me because I use today as my day-off to clean up my house, do my laundry, visit my barber salon to cut my hair and prepare my cloth for tomorrow's Sunday program. I have always seen today as my most busy and horrible day because of too many work to handle at home, going to the market as well to buy food items and other stuffs needed in the house, cooking what to eat and stocking the refrigerator with different types of food that will serve me till next weekend, and also running other personal stuffs that I left undone since the beginning of the week. ***I know right now you will be wondering why I go to market, do the cooking and the laundry all by myself. well, I am still single and I love to cook almost everything I eat, hahahaha....***
Now let me come back to the topic of my today's article; ***"What if"***. I know you might be thinking in your mind right now since I have come of age, I have a house where I stay and a job that I go to everyday, ***what if*** I look for a woman to start a new relationship since I have become an eligible bachelor and who knows, I might end up getting married to her and she will be helping me out as my life partner in making the work easier for me.
Some of you maybe suggesting to me ***what if*** I contract a person who will be helping me do all these work at home while I pay the person at the end of the week or month, at least it will ease some stress from my shoulder. A lot of ***what if*** maybe suggested to me and if I happens to accept any of it, definitely I will get the best and positive result that will help me positively.
Now have you considered how so much renewed and changed the world can be if we begin to consider some of the ***what if*** we may be getting as a form of advice or suggestions from the mouth of people around us even from our own self when we want to do something in life. I know you may be wondering the angle I am coming from with my article today, ***don't worry my dear, I will try my best to carry you along with my explanation so you can understand more better.***
Most of the mistakes we made in life were done because we failed to consider some good suggestions and opinions of people around us and when we finally make that wrong step, we begin to look for who to put the blame on. Starting from the creation of the world, our first father **Adam** and **Even** in the garden of Eden, ***what if*** eve refused to listen to the voice of serpent and refused eating the forbidden fruit, who knows what the world could have been, maybe the world could have been better without sin and everything in it so pure.
Coming down to our existence as humans in our different countries, ***what if*** there were no colonialism by the white men to the west Africa and other parts of Africa, maybe we could have been better and at peace with ourselves, with our customs and traditions and also may be more in tuned with our cultural heritage as Africans or maybe not.
***What if*** the problems that caused the world war I&II were averted and settled without going to battle field, the lives of soldiers, civilians and properties of government, individuals that were destroyed during the war could have been saved and the world could have been a safe place for all of us.
***What if*** the people we put at the head of affairs in our different countries as our presidents, prime ministers, governors, senators and government officials, traditional rulers, etc can understand that they were elected into that position to serve the citizen not the other way round, maybe we could have been experiencing good governance and a prosperous country rather than the sufferings and hardship we are faced with.
In our different families and homes, ***what if*** our parents were strong and able enough to over look each others mistakes and short comings during argument and misunderstanding in the family, the divorce, quarrel and fight we see everyday in our families would not have survived.
***What if*** we decide to live right as good citizen to our different countries, to our places of work even to our different families, I know that our country will flourish, we will be having a cordial relationship with our superiors and good working environment and also at home we will surely be at peace with our parents and loved ones.
***What if*** we change the bad way we relate with our neighbors, friends and other people we meet everyday of our lives and start to relate well with everyone in our lives and even with the people we meet each day of our lives, I tell you my good friend reading this article, the world will be a better place for you and I.
Can we start today to begin to listen to our hearts and try to give that voice that always start with "***what if"*** in our hearts and ear a chance to speak what it has to tell us before we take action in our lives. Well, the decision is yours to make.
***Thank you for reading my article 🙏 Rafd******9828***
Rejection is just redirection.
I know you have been rejected by people you hoped for a positive reply, I know you have been turned down just because your qualifications were not up to the requirements they needed for the position at the office.
I know you have gone to apply for several contract bids and after going through your contract proposal, contract documents and your portfolio, unfortunately for you, you were turned down and the contracted given to the next person.
I know you may have applied to study one course in the university of your choice and after series of entrance examinations and aptitude texts you went through just to get the cut off mark for this particular course, the school decides to reject you all becuase they felt you didn't reach the cut off mark for you to gain admission to study the course you desires.
I know you have asked your spouse/partner to forgive you for your wrong doings and ill-treatments you meted on him or her, and after several pleading and apologies, your partner refuses to accept your sorry and ends your relationship with you.
You may have also tried several attempts to break your fears and challenges you meet every day of your life, and after several attempts to cross over, you end up falling apart and feeling rejected and dejected.
You have engaged yourself in a relationship that may have taken you several years to build, and when you finally want to settle down and take the relationship to the next level which is marrying your partner and making your partner your one and only better half, when you have finally concluded and try to propose to your partner, she turns down your engagement proposal and reject you for another person.
You may have contracted a terminal disease and after several treatments, drugs prescriptions and other medical examinations and treatments, yet your doctor walks up to you and said my dear, you can't make it any longer because the sickness has eaten deep into your body system.
As a politician, you may have tried several times to win in an election and each time you bring out your head to contest, you end up losing and being rejected by people through their votes.
In our family settings, you may have been doing your best to be a good and obedient child to your parents but every little mistake you make ends up causing you to be rejected by your parents and family.
You also may have felt that it's your duty to provide for your family and after several struggles during the day, you come back empty handed, nothing to show that you went out and came back after that day's work, instead of your wife and family to believe and appreciate your effort so far, they turn their backs on you, mock you and reject you.
Finally, have you been humiliated and disgraced for something you didn't do or know nothing about, and becuase of that a lot of people decide to hate you, call you all sorts of names and even reject you and everything that concerns you.
When all these negative forces are pushing you and shaking your foundation, you may tend to have a double mind about so many things you once had an affirmative believe on, you may begin to misunderstand yourself and everything around you, just because of the trauma it has put your emotionally, physically, psychologically, etc into.
But one thing you must surely never forget is this word of encouragement, word of hope and light unto your darkest path to shine it brighter once again, is this word that says ***"rejection is just redirection"*** when ever you find yourself in such situations. Yes my dear friend, it's never the end of your world when you face such situations in life, always believe that you will get it right when that next available direction is followed.
When this doors closes, definitely another better one will surely be open and you will forever remain satisfied in your heart for waiting patiently to follow the next direction the challenges of life may push you to. Don't regret your failures and rejections you may have received from people, always learn to see good through that darkest path that always come to bring our spirit down.
***Thanks you so much for reading my article 🙏 Rafd9828***
Life is short. Smile while you still have teeth.
For how long have you been passing through challenges and difficult? Nothing seems to work our for you even when you try and keep trying and yet, you still end up not making any head way towards your pursuit.
You have gone right round the world in search of greener pastures, crossed several seas and oceans in other to achieve that success your heart yearns for, and at the end of the day, you still find it difficult to make bold to say you have achieved success. You try what others are doing to make a difference, when it gets to your turn, everything looks as if the world is against you, others will be progressing while you are retrogressing. When you get back home to have little rest, the problems at home keeps putting hot fire under your feet and make you to have sleepless nights and feel restless. You leave your home to see if you can get that peace of mind you are looking for from your friends, Instead of you to actually find what you are looking for in their comfort zone, they try to talk you down and make you feel less of a man and you begin to regret why you came to them at the first place.
You decide to lock yourself inside to see if you can stay away from all the distractions coming from friends, families, and day's activities, still nothing seem to be working fine for you or according to your plan. You get confused, feel lost and very depressed because of what you are passing through.
Even for those that have access to good life, so successful in their careers and businesses, instead of finding those things that can make their lives stay longer, live happily with peace of mind, they rather decide to deprive theirselves that moment their lives needs to live longer, they decide to be stingy to themselves and to other persons in their lives all because they are feeling it's not wise and ideal to spend on themselves and have fun with their loved ones.
Now my friend just take a deep breath and hear what I have to say right now to you. Just calm down, take a chill pill and relax your mind right now.
***Do you know that life is short and it's in your own good to make it worth a while even when you are not meeting up with your goals and target in life?***
No matter how you may be feeling right now concerning your present financial, emotional, physical, and psychological conditions at the moment, you have to learn to put happiness and a cheerful heart and spirit above your worries, disappointments and failures first before anything in your life.
You have to always believe that if it's not good today, tomorrow will be better and everything will be alright again, you have to learn how to stay focused and never let your troubles ruin your moment of happiness and joy. Try to do what ever thing that can bring out that spark of life, spark of excitement, spark of sweet moments from you when ever you find yourself in a situation or condition that seem challenging to you.
Taking virtually everything in life so serious can not give you that happiness you may be craving for, taking it out on any little misunderstanding with that person sitting right beside you without considering your happiness and that of his or hers first is never the best way to find that peace and harmony your life needs to make a great difference.
You get satisfaction of heart and peace of mind more when you do all you can to wear that person sitting right beside you a smiling face. I want to tell you this, there is this inner joy that comes from within when you make someone to feel good and happy, same way the person feels is just the same way you will feel or even more.
Do all you can today to change your mindset from that place of sadness, regrets and pain to a place of joy, happiness and peace of mind because life they said is very short and you have to find a way to always wear a smiling face now that you still have the opportunity and the strength to make it happen.
***Thanks and always be happy with yourself and with your neighbors. 🙏 Rafd******9828*** ***appreciates you for coming by today!***
What is love without pain, sacrifice and forgiveness?
What is love without pain, sacrifice and forgiveness? This is the question you really have to ponder in your heart as you go through my article today. I hope you are having a wonderful day?
Yes, you may be wondering why I started my article in this way, of a truth, I am going through a tough time in my love life at the moment, and I am sharing my personal thought and opinion in this article for you to go through and see if there is any thing you can learn from it.
many of you have gone through a lot of misunderstanding, quarrel, disagreements and even fight, and you allow yourselves to be engulfed with so much hatred, unforgiven spirit, and sadness towards your partner. You throw away all the efforts and struggles you too passed through together all because of one or two ill-treatments you received from your loved ones during your journey together.
You hold your ground not to forgive and forget the wrong doings from your partner maybe because you feel he or she will not stop hurting you if you give him or her another chance in your life, because of that you lock your heart and swore never to continue with him or her in the relationship. Even when the person that hurt you have really felt sorry and very remorseful for his or her ill-treatments towards you and ever ready to make amends and correct his or her mistakes, yet you still refuse to let go of the past and try not to give another chance to make it work again. But have you ever asked yourself this sincere questions;
***Ever since we have been together in this relationship, have I been a perfect person in this relationship?***
***Haven't I ever offended my partner before or even several times?***
***Have I been of 100 percent good character and behaviour to my partner ever since we have been together?***
If you can be able to ask yourself these sincere questions, you would agree with me that holding unto hurt you get from your partner for long should not be a good step in the right direction. Quitting your relationship is not a best option either.
When we feel in our hearts that we have the right to switch on and off in our relationship in any little misunderstanding or quarrel we may have with our partner without first considering the emotional trauma we are making our partner pass through during those moments of our quarrels, we forget the essence of being in love, we forget the actual meaning of love which are pain sacrifice and forgiveness, we forget the wonderful moments we have had in the past all because we allowed the challenges and our trial moments to override the love we supposed to hold higher, we allow anger and sadness of heart to delete the beautiful pictures we have painted together in our hearts during the time we were together, we allow ourselves to destroy that foundation that took us many months even years under the rain and under the sun to build all because of little misunderstanding that we can actually correct if we allowed our love to be above our challenges.
If truly we agreed that we are Christians, and our relationship is build on the foundation of true love, we should always remember what Jesus Christ said about forgiveness; "*****Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.********"*** If Christ could reply to Peter that came up and said to him, "Lord, how often shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? As many as seven times?" Jesus said to him, ***"I do not say to you seven times, but seventy times seven.*** *("Matthew 18:21, 22.).* If Christ could tell Peter to forgive seventy times seven, ***why then do you hold on to your hurt that long towards your partner?***. One thing I believe is whether we are in love or not, being hurt each passing day of our lives is inevitable, whether from people you love or from other other people you do not love, but one important question we need to ask ourselves is whether we trust each other enough to let go of our hurts and mistakes by forgiving and forgetting what ever hurt we may have gotten from our loved one?
If you can not learn to sacrifice a chance to make your relationship work even when he or she offends you, when your partner feels remorseful of it and ever ready to make amends, then know it that you really don't understand the meaning of true love.
***Remember***, true love endures forever, and if you can not learn to endure, then you have not understood what it means to love.
***Remember***, true love counts no error. Since we are imperfect beings, when we say we truly love each other, we should always remember that we are not perfect and so therefore, there must be mistakes and errors on the way, but our love will always supersede if we truly say we have true love for one another.
***Remember***, to love is to sacrifice. If you truly want to understand the actual meaning of love, take a leaf from the story of jack and rose in the true life story titled the titanic, the story of St. Valentine, the 14th February of every year we celebrate as lover's day and the ultimate sacrifice Christ paid on the cross of Calvary for me and you for the Christians.
If you are abandoning your relationship just because you feel hurt by the way your partner talked to you, or with the way your partner reacted towards you verbally during discussion, argument, misunderstanding or quarrel countless times, always bear this in mind that the next person you are running into his or her arms to start a new relationship with will one day if not now repeat the same way your former partner did during misunderstanding or quarrel with you or even worst reason being that he or she is an imperfect being just like your former partner.
If your partner has never physically abused or assaulted you for a day even when you give him or her the reasons to during a fight or misunderstanding, please do all you can to hold on to your relationship with such partner. You may not really be lucky when you leave your relationship to start another one.
Finally, don't hold on to the past grudge caused by your partner in your heart, learn to grow in true love and sacrifice, ***for to love is sacrifice, to sacrifice is pain, to live out of pain is to forgive and to forgive is to live happily after.***
***Thank you so much for reading my article 🙏 Rafd******9828***
Life isn’t perfect but your outfit can be.
Life is not perfect, you may have the best of body stature and shape, but your attitudes speaks ill of your beauty self, you may have good character with beautiful look outside and inside as well, but have one health challenge or the other that refuses to go away from your body system. You may have all the things of life can get and yet, there is no happiness and peace of mind in you, all because of too many business commitments and other personal issues around you.
Even in your personal relationship with your friends and family, you may be doing your best to create good relationship atmosphere and make all necessary efforts to put your family and friends first in all your dealings, yet you end up not reciprocating from the same people you are working yourself hard to please. On the other hand, your friends and family may be doing their best to make sure you get to that level your have wanted in life, but because of your own personal issues and setbacks you end up messing everything up and dashing away their hopes and efforts toward you to the dust all becuase of your mistakes and bad behaviour.
You may also see this life imperfection in the family settings, in a situation where a family that have all it takes to take care of a child is working so hard in search of the fruit of womb so that they can have children of their own, yet it will be so difficult for them to have their heart desire of having a child they can call their own, and on the other hand, a family that have no money will be having children as many as they want, yet no money to take care of those children they are giving birth to.
All these imbalances in life we face everyday of our lives are what we are not in control of and does not really know how to go about it as we live our lives here on earth, but one thing I know we have the right to control, take decision upon and hold unto it is the way we dress, our outfit and the way want to look like each time we wake up to go out for the day.
In as much as our lives isn't perfect, we have all it takes to make our outfit perfect and look the way we want it to be no matter the situation or challenges we find ourselves. To dress and look good is our fundamental right and duty we owe our entire body, and when once you overlook that important aspect of life towards yourself, you are making a great mistake that may take you longer time to correct in life.
Before you start to make yourself look good, make the choice of wears and the way you want to dress each day of your life, you need to know these important tips that will help you make the best choice when you want to wear an outfit that best fits your body;
1. ***You need to consider the colour of the fabric material or outfit colour that matches your body colour complexion. This is important if you want to look perfect in your outfit.***
2. ***You need to know what type of fabric your body(skin) likes, in otherwords, you need to consider the texture of the fabric and the type of material that does not irritate your skin when you use them for your outfit.***
3. ***You also need to be aware of your body measurements sizes and your cloth size number incase you are going for an already made wears.***
4. ***You need to know the size of your leg so as to know the type of shoe size you can go for when you are making arrangements to wear an outfit.***
5. ***You also need to be aware of the right outfit that suits the weather you may wake up with each day.***
6. ***You also need to know the matching accessories you need to wear with your cloth like the handbag, ear rings, neckless, and bracelets, wrist watches, etc and their matching colours so as to get the perfect fitting as you dress each day.***
7. ***Finally you also need to know the type of body perfumes and deodorants your body needs and the one that matches your outfit at any occasion you may be dressing to attend. It's important to be aware of all these vital information so that you will not be finding it challenging when you go out each day in your outfit.***
I may not have listed all of the tips that goes with a perfect dressing and outfit one should know in this article, but it's important that you do your best to look good and perfect in the way you dress each day. There is this saying that goes this way; ***"********You are addressed by the way you dress"********.*** This means that, people always see you and talk to you because of the type of outfit you wear and the way you look. Wearing good dress and dressing fine commands respect from people that come close to you, but when you dress tattered and dirty, definitely you may not really receive all the good compliments and comments from people you come across in life by the day.
So today start now to learn to take control over things you can make decisions on and your outfit is one of it. If life isn't perfect, your outfit can always be if you really want it. So make it happen today.
***Thank you so much for coming by to read my article 🙏 Rafd******9828***
Be you, do you, for you.
*Hello everyone, I want to appreciate you this moment, also encourage you to continue being yourself and doing your best in making sure that we preach the gospel of good knowledge, goodwill and positive ideas to the world through this great platform called* ***read.cash****. I can't stop loving* ***read.cash*** *for the effort and love so far.*
I have come to understand that the only friend you have in this life is yourself, you may not understand this I am saying now until you find yourself in a situation that will warrant every thing turn their back on you. The feeling is so overwhelming, very unimaginably sad and very painful. During this period, you are left alone to fight your battles and worries all by yourself, it will be as if the whole world have come to fight against you. Your emotions and feelings will be tensed up with so much confusion, fear and unstableness.
In worst case, you may begin to lose your faith, start having serious doubt about everything that you have lived your whole life to believe in. Nothing ever will seem right any longer to you because you have gone far with so much depression and mental stress due to over thinking.
And if it continues to linger more, you begin to avoid seeing people, isolate yourself from people and lock yourself up emotionally, physically and psychologically away from people and things all becuase you felt disappointed with the way they all turned their back on you. And when this goes out of hand, you may end up losing your sanity or even lose your life in the end.
Let me ask you this one important question;
***Is that truly how you want your life to end up when you are faced with such fate?***
Listen my friend, no matter the level of challenges and problems your life is in right now, that should not make you fall apart and lose everything you have worked hard to build by yourself. Even when that one person you really love so much decides to break your heart and start loving another, even when your heart is so much in pain because of the disappointments you received from that one person you were so much In-love with, even when that business deal you have hoped to get suddenly failed to click, even when your family you showed so much love and care all your life with them wakes up one day and all of a sudden turns their back on you just because of one little misunderstanding, even when everybody decides to turn their back on you for no just reason, that should not give you a reason to hate yourself, torture yourself and turn against yourself.
***The best option you surely need at that moment of your challenges and problems is to be you, do you and for you.***
Being yourself I mean is to take control of the entire situation you find yourself, finding the best way to stay focused and positive at all times. Even when the people and things you trusted with your heart disappoints you, you should fight your fears and try to take control of the situation and never give in to defeat.
Try all you can to make yourself happy, put yourself at the place where your heart, soul and mind will find peace of mind during the period of your troubles. Locking yourself up and torturing yourself is not the way to find the best answer to your problems, do things that will encourage you to move ahead.
And finally, live for yourself, stay alive and be for yourself. Do not allow all your pain and sadness to turn your lights out, always go for the things that will enlighten your moment so that you can live longer and stay happy always. When your heart is broken and rejected by the people you love and trusted, do not kill yourself over them, just stay focused and believe that one day, even when they have left you, they will remember your goodness and miss your absence in their lives someday. So I tell you, don't hurt yourself rather be yourself, do yourself good and stay strong for yourself.
***Thank you for reading my article 🙏 Rafd******9828***
You can't win all the time.
"*No matter how much you try, you can not win all the time my friend, just find a way to accept the truth and move on ok!"* This was the last statement he dropped in my ear as he ended the conversation with me on the phone and dropped the call.
I don't want to start narrating the ordeal that transpired before the conversation I had with my boss on the phone, rather I want to use his last statement to pass a strong message to everyone of us reading this article right now.
Most people in this life have this natural belief that to lose over something or anything they place their mind to achieve is a curse that must not be seen around them, they do all within their power to get win in any thing they put their mind to achieve, and if they notice that you are not winning or succeeding in what ever thing you want to achieve, they detach themselves away from you and refuse to have anything to do with you. Yes it's true, and we always meet and see these kind of persons around us in our different life struggles, at our various local areas, work places, business meeting points, in our various gatherings, etc.
***Do you really believe it's your right to always win in every thing you do?***
***Do you actually think and believe that only those that don't take serious with their lives and with what they do are said to be losers?***
***Do you also believe that winning always has something to do with your religion and your relationship with your God that you worship?***
If you must know my dear friend reading this article right now, ***there is no person in this world that has the monopoly power to be winning all the time***, in otherwords, it's not in your power to determine your winning moments, whether you are very good, professional or an expert at what you are doing or not, whether you are so religious or not, or anything at all does not qualify you to have the opportunity to be winning in any thing you place your mind to achieve.
You have every power and right to make decisions and choices of what and how you want to live your life, you also have the ability to make corrections and try to adjust your steps in other to attain a greater hight you so desire, but the ability to determine that moment in your life where you achieve winning is never in your hand to decide, instead it's in the hand of fate to decide who wins or lose.
For instance, In a football match competition where two teams are playing to win, the both teams may have worked so hard day and night to train and exercise their players, putting all the necessary steps, decisions and choices so as to make their team stronger, fit and have the better chance to win in the football match competition, when the two teams are in the field of play, the teams play with zeal and determination at each other, fighting all they could to win their match, you may be surprised at the end of the whole competition, no body will win even when they have put all needed effort in place. On the other hand, you will also see a stronger team playing with a weaker team and at the end of the football match competition, you will be surprised to see the weaker team winning the stronger team or even holding them at draw score.
When such happens, it's all shows that winning is never in anybody's hand to decide but fate. You may work so hard and put all the arsenals together during the time of preparation and still not win your battle. So you see my friend, the choices and decisions we make can not be acknowledged and anchored upon as the reason for our winning. I repeat my friend, you can't win all the time in life, you win today and lose tomorrow, it's part of what builds a man (human beings).
You have to learn to accept what fate brings to your door steps and understand that no matter what we do in life, winning and losing are the two strong tools of learning that builds a man in life.
Accept it today that you can't win all the time.
***Thank you so much for coming by to read my article. I know you had an amazing weekend, we all are going to have a pleasant new week ahead. I love you all🙏Rafd9828.***
Sunday Funday.
Please don't get it twisted alright, I have already made plans on how my Sunday is going to be like, well let me just give you a little exposure of how my sunday is going to be.
But before I tell you my plans, I would like to take permission from God so that he will make my plans tomorrow be a successful one. Yes, I have read a lot of people's articles on how their day went and all that, how they enjoyed their day, the recreation, hangout with friends, the beautiful and sad experiences and moments they had during their day's activities. And I learnt one thing or another from them as they narrated their stories here, so today I have decided to drop my own plans earlier before I start them tomorrow so you can also learn one or two things from it.
***Let me start from here;***
Firstly, since tomorrow is going to be Sunday, of course I will be attending Sunday mass since I am a Catholic, so I will wake up as early as 5am in the morning and do a quick prayer of 10minutes and then do my early morning fitness exercise that usually take me 30minutes to finish, then I will go straight and tidy my room and the bed, sweep the room and other corners and the entire environ so that everywhere will look clean and neat, then I will proceed to the kitchen and wash off the dishes and arrange it, all these cleaning will take me 30minutes to finish up.
Secondly, once I am done, I will go straight and have my bath since the time of the mass is by 8am, because I am 0ne of the choristers singing in my church and we usually have a quick rehearsal before the mass starts, so I need to be at the church 45minutes before 8am, before 7:00am I am already done and headed to church. Wow once the mass starts, I always make out more time to enjoy the entire moment during the mass proper and the liturgy of the eucharist. Also the songs we render during mass and during the reception of the holy communion. Because of much crowd that attend mass every sunday, the priest in-charge usually make use of 2hours for each mass so that a lot of people can have time to partake in the mass celebration each Sunday, by 10am the 8am mass would have ended and the next mass starts immediately.
Once the mass is ended, my next move will be to have a brief meeting with other members of our choir section where we make announcements of the new week's program, practise days and other important information that will help the choir. After that I head straight back home where I will have my rest, eat and come online to write my daily article for post on **read.cash** and after I post my article, I will go through other people's post to read and comment on them as much as I can and then perform other activities online.
At about 3:00 pm o'clock, I will have to finish up whatever I am doing online, get up, take another quick shower and dress up for a wedding reception of one of my schoolmates who invited us to grace his white wedding occasion, you know how white wedding celebration usually go, definitely I will be having lots of fun, meeting both new and old friends and reuniting with some old classmates I didn't see for a very long time.
Becuase of the age grade meeting I am chairing as their president which will be holding by 5:30pm, I will leave the wedding ground before closing time so that I can meet up the meeting time by 5:30pm. We usually have this meeting every first Sunday of each month and it's our first meeting for the year after Christmas celebration, so new agenda will be introduced and partially discussed. Once meeting is ended by 7:00pm, I will be hanging out with some members and other friends at an exquisite hotel where live band group performs afro music, hip-hop, oriental and hi-life music for the customers patronising the hotel, you already know how the atmosphere will be looking like during that time, enough dancing, eating and drinking will be the story of the night but you know one thing, we don't drink too much😉😉😉.
After the hangout which I believe will end before 10pm in the night, I will head straight back home to have my rest. Finally when I reach my house, I will freshen up again, come online, read people's articles, drop my comments on their articles and finish up other activities online, then head straight to my bed room, say my night prayer, marry my bed and kiss my pillow, finally wait for the sleep to come and steal me away.
So you see, Indeed I have already planned a ***Sunday funday*** for myself, and I know you too will plan yours to have a great day tomorrow. Remember, always plan yourself and pray to God to assist you to have your plans work out the way you planned it to be.
***Always grateful to you for coming to read my article 🙏 Rafd******9828***
Please I just switched, I didn't cheat on you.
Hello everyone, I hope you all are doing great! Well, My today's article is going to be lengthy and elaborate. I want to start today's article with what most of us especially the married ones have been witnessing and experiencing in their various relationships around the world in recent time. I want to first apologize to you the singles reading this article before I proceed further, if I didn't lay much emphasis on you the singles who are still dating and hoping to settle down in no distant time in this article, I am sorry, but my utmost intention is not to wave you the singles amongst us aside, but to use this today's post on this platform to point out most of the common problems that may be so dangerous if allowed to linger more in a marriage relationship, also for the singles to learn from it and find a way to stay away from these type of unhealthy relationship threats before they finally get married with their spouses/ partners and finally to educate us on relationship, personal development and management, personal relationship and the best communicative approach with your partner in order to have a successful relationship experience and peace of mind.
You may have watched series of movies, read a lot of relationship stories and even witnessed some horrible true life stories that may have happened around your local area where people that were so In-love with each other fall apart and marriages shattered without any remedy or hope of coming back to rebuild again.
You may begin to wonder what really could have been the reason why this awesome and beautiful marriage relationship collapsed even after so much efforts and huddles they two may have gone through to build their marriage together up to this level of their breakup. But I tell you, the reason is not far fetched from these little, common and minor mistakes people take for granted in their marriage relationships with their partners. These mistakes includes;
***Poor communication between the both parties in a marriage relationship.***
***Too much complain and nagging at all times.***
***Taking your partner's sexual feelings for granted.***
***Not paying attention to your partner's behavioural attitude.***
***Always having this entitlement mentality towards your partner.***
***Always being right at all times, never accepting that you are wrong or at fault and try to say sorry.***
***Always being a fault finder during arguments and discussions.***
***Always being on the defensive mood each time you are having an issue with your partner.***
***Never ready to let go of the past wrongs and ill-treatments from your partner.***
***Always believing that everything must be done in your own way, never ready to give room for your partner's opinion and ideas to be tried.***
These and many more are the common problems that have befallen most people in their marriage relationships and because they never saw it on time, it took another level and ate deep in their marriage foundation and before they could understand what was going on, their marriage lost it's taste and everything collapsed.
Let me explain all these common mistakes mentioned above so that you will have an in-depth knowledge about it and advise yourself better.
1. ****POOR COMMUNICATION BETWEEN THE BOTH PARTIES IN A MARRIAGE RELATIONSHIP.****
This is one of the common mistakes that a lot of people make and take for granted in their marriage relationship with their partners. A situation where you find it difficult to express your mind and feelings to your partner, you find it so hard to have a healthy discussion each time you are with your partner, and you don't make out time to really communicate well with your partner maybe because of how busy you find yourself with your daily job and when you come back at night, it will be so difficult for you to make out time to discuss your day's activities with your partner, maybe because you came back tired or hard a long day at work with so much office troubles and before you know it, gradually you start losing communication desire with your partner and this starts changing the peace and harmony you once had with your partner thereby giving room for gap in your communication relationship with your partner.
2. ****TOO MUCH COMPLAIN AND NAGGING AT ALL TIMES.****
This is a situation that can disrupt the peace and love in a marriage relationship. it starts in a gradual process and escalate to a level where one can not contain it any longer. When your partner always complain and nag at every little issue that may arise in your relationship instead of creating an avenue where a proper information can be passed to your partner and also be understood in love. Remember, nothing kills feelings faster than nagging and excessive complain coming from either partners. Nothing your partner does makes sense or meaning to you, a little discussion that may end in peace can be turned into a fight just because one person always like to drag unnecessary issues and misunderstand point at any given opportunity during discussions.
3. ****TAKING YOUR PARTNER'S SEXUAL FEELINGS FOR GRANTED.****
Yes! This also is a common mistake partners in marriage make and take for granted, In a situation where you are used to your partner, you sleep on the same bed and do all manner of things together and forget to always ignite your sexual feelings and make it ever stable and strong to always ready to fulfil your sexual responsibilities to your partner is a very huge mistake if allowed to linger further. When ever your partner wants to feel you sexually, you make excuses and find a way to talk out his or her feelings from having sex with you each time you are together. You don't feel to have sex with your partner any longer because you think having sex always can make you worn out and because of that, you say no to him or her. You may not know that your actions and rejections may be pushing your partner away from you and before you know it, the relationship starts having issues.
4. ****NOT PAYING ATTENTION TO YOUR PARTNER'S BEHAVIOURAL ATTITUDE.****
You may not notice your partner's emotional feelings and you do not care to even know, because you had one misunderstanding with your partner in the night and left for work in the morning of the next day without trying to settle the problem, and becuase of that, you feel less concern to pay attention to your partner's body gesture, facial expression and attitudes to know what he or she is going through, and before you know what is going on, the marriage foundation starts to shake and if care is not taken, may collapse.
5. ****ALWAYS HAVING THIS ENTITLEMENT MENTALITY TOWARDS YOUR PARTNER.****
Entitlement mentality has really caused more harm than good in so many marriages, and this is one of the common mistakes partners do that really affect their relationship big time. A situation where you are always expecting this and that from your partner, having the feeling that your partner supposed to do this for you and do that for you, it's his or her duty to take this responsibility towards you and you forget and refuse to help your partner out when you have the opportunity to. When such lifestyle is exhibited by one of the partners in a marriage relationship, definitely the marriage is heading to a crash in no distance time.
6. ****ALWAYS BEING RIGHT AT ALL TIMES, NEVER ACCEPTING THAT YOU ARE WRONG OR AT FAULT AND TRY TO SAY SORRY.****
Most people find it so difficult to accept that they are wrong during misunderstanding or quarrel, they feel it's always in their position to be right always, and you are the one that is always wrong, they don't ever believe that they can be at fault during an argument. When you find such person as a partner, definitely you are in for a serious problem in your relationship. To accept their wrong doings and say sorry is so difficult for them to say with their mouth. They rather allow things get bad than accepting that they are wrong or at fault.
7. ****ALWAYS BEING A FAULT FINDER DURING ARGUMENTS AND DISCUSSIONS.****
Being with that type of person that always find fault in any little thing you do at any given time is a crazy situation one can not wish to experience, if you find yourself with such person in a relationship, you will be so afraid to make a statement or express yourself during discussion, you will find it difficult to lay complain of what you noticed around that you think is not supposed to be, all becuase you are afraid your partner will find a fault and hold that against you. Yes, it's a common mistake that destroys a relationship if not handled well.
8. ****ALWAYS BEING ON THE DEFENSIVE MOOD EACH TIME YOU ARE HAVING A TALK WITH YOUR PARTNER.****
When you are in a situation where your partner always find it easy to defend him or herself even when he or she seems guilty of her action and behaviours, and instead, you partner tries to turn the situation around to fall against you in order to make you feel confused and unbalanced to take your stand in the talk you are having with him or her is another common mistake that can shift the foundation of your relationship to the angle of collapse if care is not taken.
9. ****NEVER READY TO LET GO OF THE PAST WRONGS AND ILL-TREATMENTS FROM YOUR PARTNER.****
This is another common mistake that will shatter the foundation of a marriage relationship if one does not watch it closely. Having an unforgiven spirit and a spirit of not letting go when you are offended by your partner even when your partner sincerely and remorsefully apologies and says he or she is sorry is a serious issue for concern. When your partner always hold on to the past and remember the past hurt each time you offend him or her without trying to drop the past and let go of it so that new life experiences can be felt in your relationship is really a very big challenge one need to find way to handle, but always remember, human being is an imperfect being and is bound to make mistakes always.
10. ****ALWAYS BELIEVING THAT EVERYTHING MUST BE DONE IN YOUR OWN WAY, NEVER READY TO GIVE ROOM FOR YOUR PARTNER'S OPINIONS AND IDEAS TO BE TRIED.****
When you are always standing on your own decisions and opinions and forcing it down on your partner to always follow without giving room for your partner to bring in their own ideas and opinions to be tried is really one common mistake a lot of people make in the course of their journey in marriage relationship with their partners. You always dictate what happens in your relationship and always make decisions without caring if it's affecting your partner in a negative way or not, all you are after is for you to see that your orders are been carried to the latter. When such happens, definitely you are pushing your relationship to a point of collapse and breakup.
In conclusion, when you check all these common mistakes I explained in this article, you will understand with me that one can not have a good relationship experience if these mistakes are allowed to live with them as partners in a marriage relationship. Why most people tend to look outside their marriage is not to find another woman or man they can cheat with since they are not getting what they are looking for from their partners, rather they look for people they can switch their feelings and emotions to where they can have peace of mind, communicate well, feel free with and be happy. I tell you this, they may not have sexual relationship with these people they switch feelings to, but if the situation they are getting from their partners get more worse by the day without any positive result or change, they may end up in marriage with the next person they have switched their feelings and emotions to and sadly end their marriage affair with their former partner.
No matter what you are doing, do not allow these common mistakes to change the peace and harmony you once had in your relationship. You can prevent this statement "***Please I just switched, I didn't cheat on you!"*** from coming out of your partner's mouth If only you do your best to take corrections and avoid these common mistakes from happening in your marriage relationship with your partner.
***Please my single men and ladies, you can also learn from this to make it right in your married life with that right person in future. I wish you well, a successful and beautiful married life experience with your partner.***
***Thanks for reading my article 🙏 Rafd******9828***
**Originally written by me(RAFD****9828****)**🙋🙋🙋🙋❤️❤️🌹🌹
Cinderella never asked for a prince.
Hello everyone, welcome to this yet another moment of learning, self development and having the knowledge about the things that will help you live right and improve your life and your relationship with the next person beside you. I want you to learn from the story of Cinderella and the prince, and try to find where you are getting it wrong and make corrections to live right and better.
Most of the mistakes we make in life and the misfortunes that befall us are caused by us. Pride and ego have really caused us so much harm than good, and we have failed to actually open our eyes to see the havoc it's raking in our lives and in the way we relate with the next person beside us. **What do I mean by that you may ask?** Yes looking at the story of Cinderella and how she became the Prince's choice, you will agree with me that it was her humility and calmness that gave her the crown and the opportunity to be the Prince's choice.
She always believed in her self and respected the fact that she was a poor girl who was living as a maid, even though she was a beautiful young maiden serving her wealthy madam, she always believed that one day every thing was going to be alright. Even when the announcement was made that the prince was calling all the young women in the city to come to the palace where he will select his bride, she never worried her mind about it nor took it as an avenue where she will be able to showcase her beauty for the prince to see her, of course you already know that she had a woman who treated her with so much contempt, hatred and wickedness yet she never felt it was an opportunity for her to see light and change her present condition.
She waited and believed that someday luck will smile on her, then, there came a helper in a magical form that made her look more gorgeous and with a dress and a shoe so beautiful and presentable even when her madam refused to bring her along with her when she was taking her own daughters to the palace where every other maiden were gathered for the prince to make his choice.
At last Cinderella who was chosen by the prince amongst the whole beautiful young women that came to the palace. You know the story of Cinderella yourself and how it all happened.
Let me bring it down to our daily lives and how we relate to things around us, most of us have really failed to actually bring down ourselves to know that pride and ego does not lead us anywhere in life. There is a saying that goes like this; ***"pride goes before a fall"*** and it's the truth. When you believe that you are better than everybody and no need of you to respect or wait for your time to come so you can be announced, you begin to feel on top of the world and make fool of yourself.
*I ask you this question my good friend reading this article;*
***Do you know that Cinderella never asked for a prince? So why are you seeking attention and trying to make everyone notice you?***
***Why all these weird attitudes coming from you just because you think you are beautiful or handsome, or because you feel that you have what and all it takes to be at the top and so everyone out there should give you that desirable position you want?***
***Why are you being selfish and self-centered?***
***Why not allow your work, your personal effort and good deeds speak for you and take you to that height that you were meant to attain?***
I tell you this, there is nothing special to receive when you allow your pride and ego to lead your way, you only get disappointments and disgrace. But if you allow yourself to be chosen by people who find you worthy through your character, integrity and the way you have been carrying your duties diligently, you will have this inner joy in you and feel belonged.
Always learn to be yourself and wait for that right moment when you will be called upon to take what rightfully belong to you.
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It might feel like the end, but it's really a new beginning.
Hello friends, good to have you once again and I believe we are all doing great and changing the world in this great platform, let's continue to give the world the right information that can change the entire world for good. ***Thank you Read.cash and bitcoin cash developers.***
I know you may be thinking that the present condition of your life and status is really swallowing you and everything you have got, you have tried several stuffs to change your present financial, physical and emotional status to a better one, and yet, nothing is coming up for you to really know that you are getting it right. You have struggled so much in your different careers and businesses your hands can touch and up till this moment, you are still where you started, nothing is moving and it's as if your world is coming to an end. You have prayed for so long and hoped to receive a positive answer from God and even when you pray more, the harder everything becomes and no answers to your prayer requests.
At the place of your work where you earn your monthly salary, and for some months now, you have not been paid and no one is even asking you how have you been coping, feeding and take good care of yourself and your family, and when you see the piles of bills to offset at home, you would want to give up on yourself.
What about you that young lady that have had series of failed relationships and it's as if you are marked for disappointments and heartbreaks, your friends and families have decided to see you as one that is not serious with herself and can not keep a man when it comes to building a relationship. Not only the young lady, what about you John, Mark, Johnson, and my good friend who have worked so hard to build a beautiful relationship that may lead to marriage and after all the effort put together, everything gets shattered at the end and the whole marriage plans washed down the drain. When all these things are happening, you will be feeling like committing suicide or torturing yourself in self regrets.
What about you my married lady friend that have looked for a baby and nothing is forth coming, you have tried all possible means to take in and after two to four months of your pregnancy, miscarriage sets in and the baby will be lost, when such happens, you will be feeling hurt and pained in your heart for the misfortune that has befalled you in your 10years of marriage without a child.
You that have applied for your travelling documents several times to your country's embassy for a visa approval, and each time you make move to the embassy, you get rejected from the interviewers handling your travelling case and because of that you want to give up your dreams of going to another country to live a better life.
What about you that have been diagnosed of cancer, all your hope of getting to the highest level of your dreams been cut short due to your illness, you cry and blame God and everyone around you every day of your remaining life because of the health challenge you found yourself in, you loose hope of trying to give yourself a reason to smile again and make the best of your remaining days a memorable one for yourself and your loved ones.
What about you that have lost faith in yourself and in the ability of trying again when you failed all because you were talked down by people you trusted for not making the best out of the opportunity you were given to make a difference, and because of that, you blame yourself and refuse to try again and give yourself another chance to win.
Now listen my good friend reading this my post, no matter what you are passing through right now, don't ever give in to defeat all because your dreams and ambitions were dashed away, yes, there is this saying that goes this way, ***"when this door closes, another great door opens"*** and you can not live to see this next door if you accept your challenges and never give yourself the courage to live again, to win again and to try again.
The only defeat that is known ever in the life of a human is not giving yourself another opportunity to live or try again, it might feel like the end but it's really a new beginning if you stand on your feet and push yourself harder to try again.
I remembered one thing about life my mother always say to me, ***"my son, nothing in life is easy, but only those that stand on their feet of perseverance, courage, patience, strength, faith, positivism, and endurance can and will ever change their story line to a better one".***
So my friend, no matter what you go through in life, don't give up on yourself and always have it at the back of your heart and mind that ***after rain comes sunshine.*** A new dawn is so close, just hold on and try reaching out to the door handle so you can be able to open it for greater opportunities and for a new beginning.
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She acts like summer and walks like rain.
*Hahaha! There she goes again, you want to pretend as if you do not know what I am talking about Lidia? Were you not the person that called me all sorts of names and insulted me at the first place? For sometime now, you have been acting so weird and living double life with me, you treat me like trash, you don't respect me as your husband and you don't allow me touch you, even to make love to you is really a big issue, but out there you pretend as if we are so much in love with each other, you give the neighbors the impression that you sincerely love and respect me when they ask you about our marriage and how we have been doing. You go about telling your friends that all is well with us in our marriage, even when we are outside you act as if I am the best man for you, but on the other hand when we go back home, you turn and treat me as if I never existed or worst still, you act as if you don't care or have any atom of feelings for me in any kind.*
***Why are you doing this to me?***
***Why are you acting as if I have a big plague that can affect you if you come close to me?***
***Why do you hate me this much?***
*I am gradually losing my mind and going insane because you act like summer and walk like rain; angrily Mr. Frank shouted at his wife.*
I want you to ponder on this short story about Mr. Frank and his wife and try to find out what could be the reason for his wife weird treatment towards him.
Often time we come across this type of situation around us and we see lots of marriages and relationships dance in such discordant tunes of misunderstanding, hate, complain, maltreatment and confusion, and when such incident happen we ask ourselves whether they really knew each other well before they got married, or whether there was anything called love amongst them before they went into marriage union. One begins to wonder in thoughts the reasons for such issue to happen in marriages that were said to be built on the foundation of love.
You could see this happening not just from the side of wives to their husbands, but also from husbands to their wives in different marriages, both parties suffer such situations. You will agree with me that to be in a marriage union is not an easy journey as one may think, there are a lot of huddles and challenges that could make the moments in marriages go backwards and forwards and when such earthquake in marriage occurs, one should not act immediately or conclude at once with any decision that comes to his or her mind in order to take action against his or her partner.
Whether there is a misunderstanding amongst the two persons in marriage that could cause one of the partners to act in a weird way, there should be a need for proper dialog and discussion amongst the two to iron out their differences than trying to show grievances through torturing your partner when you are inside the house with him or her, and when you go outside you pretend as if everything is fine and good with you and your spouse.
Maltreating your partner and even restricting your partner from making love with you when you are hurt by your partner without giving any room for discussion and settlement in your relationship could cause more harm than good in your relationship, that could cause more gap in the feelings you have been sharing amongst the two of you and I tell you, that is not a healthy move in the right direction.
Remember when you are following such step to register your anger towards how your spouse treated you that you don't really like, without trying to call for his or her attention, you are gradually sending wrong signals to your partner's emotional and psychological feelings towards you and that surely will shake your marriage foundation if care is not taken.
What ever be the reason for you to show or treat your partner in such weird attitudes and treatments should not be allowed to continue rather, find a way to come to a discussion table to sort the problem out before it gets out of hand. ***You may say I have warned him or her several times to stop making me feel hurt but instead, he or she continued to make me feel hurt all the time and that's why I am treating him or her the way I am doing now***. But I tell you, that is not really enough reason to maltreat your partner all because you want to prove a point or make your partner feel the same way you felt those days he or she was hurting you badly.
In marriage, one of the things that build up marriage relationship stronger is the ability to always say your mind when you are hurt by your partner and also give room for discussion and settlement at all times. The moment you realise that the person you are in-love with is also a human being and can make mistake at any given time just the same way like you, and also a constant need to always open your heart to forgive and forget, then you are in for a wonderful joy ride in your marriage relationship.
There is no need trying to pretend out there when you are really not happy inside, it's best for you to make peace from inside to outside. And learn to always be at peace with your partner.
***Thanks for coming by to read my article 🙏 Rafd******9828***
You can’t live a full life on an empty stomach.
As we all know that food is important to the body system and we can not actually say that human body can survive and exist without having food to nourish the body, so therefore, is not out of place to say that food is essential to human body and any moment you deprive your body system that vital food nutrients it requires, definitely the resultant effect can be dangerous.
In this article, I will be discussing two important information we need to derive from the topic, and also we need to try our best to learn from it as well. These two important information includes;
***1. Food and importance of food to our body system.***
***2. The importance of building yourself for a successful lifetime experience.***
****FOOD AND IMPORTANCE OF FOOD TO OUR BODY SYSTEM.****
As we already know that eating good and well prepared food is one of the most important lubricants that enhances good performance of the body system. Eating good food isn't just getting the necessary food items together, preparing it and dishing it out for one to eat and after that, you claim that you have eaten good food, ***no!***, when you say that you are eating good and well prepared food, you are trying to say that all the needed food nutrients are combined together in a proper mixture which will be well arranged, prepared, cooked with great taste and finally dished out with a neat food plates and cutleries for one to eat.
Your eating habit is also another important aspect one should consider in order to have a perfect and deserved nutritional values one is expecting the body system to have. Your eating time schedule and the type of food (balanced diet) you give to your body system should also be considered in order for you to have the best of healthy living.
Eating the right quantity of food your body system requires is also another factor you should consider when you are trying to find the right approach to giving your body system the deserved food for an efficient performance and growth.
When you are not putting all these factors into consideration, there is no way your body system can perform efficiently and live healthier. No matter what you do in life, learn to give your body the needed quality nutritional foods it requires so that your body can function actively and stay healthy.
2. ****THE IMPORTANCE OF BUILDING YOURSELF FOR A SUCCESSFUL LIFETIME EXPERIENCE.****
In as much as food is important to body system, so is building yourself with the needed right information is also important for a successful lifetime experience. They two are so intertwined with each other and give same meaning to life of a person. There is need for one to look for those things that will assist him have a good life, experience the best of things that makes life worth living for, but you can not achieve that without first of all trying your best to start in time to look for those things that will assist you both in mind and body grow, spiritually, physically, emotionally, intellectually, financially, psychologically, etc.
It's also important to try looking for places on time where you can go and have a quality educational training so as to give yourself that liverage to stand with your mates in time of intellectual competition and attaining greater heights.
It's also a vital thing to do by making sure you avail yourself the opportunity to belong to groups and associations that will help you grow in the positive direction. By belonging to some good online social medial platforms that shares good ideas and knowledges that will assist you grow mentally and otherwise is also an important step to follow in order to have a successful lifetime experience. These social platforms we already have today like ***read.cash, noise.cash*** and others.
In conclusion, when you try to understand the importance of doing all your best to give yourself the opportunity to have a successful lifetime experience, you will also appreciate the more the need to give your body the needed food nutrition for it to function well because, there is no way you can live a full life on an empty stomach.
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I just want someone to look at me the way I look at food.
Happy Sunday to you my wonderful friends and family here, I hope you guys are having amazing weekend where ever you are right now. Well, I must always be on my gratitude mood all the time to always show this platform that I am so grateful and happy to belong here and the opportunity you have given to me and other people here in this platform to express our knowledge and ideas so the world will get to learn new things from our individual experiences.
I have always had this special prayer request from God right from the moment I began to understand life, and started to know what love and relationship was all about, and finally now that I have grown into becoming a man, I still have not stopped praying for that and do you know the prayer request?
***To find someone who will love me so much the same way I love her too.***
Ever since I started being in a relationship, I have not really had a good and wonderful time in my relationship, either one problem or another, or one issue that will lead to quarrel and before you know it, the relationship breaks up and everyone goes their way.
***I have prayed to God to have one relationship that will last for time immemorial, a relationship that will be filled with so much beautiful experiences and amazing adventure.***
***I have prayed for a time that I will have someone to really see my fault as hers and try to see a way to help me make some corrections.***
***I have always prayed for someone who will not just love me, but also make her heart a dwelling place for our love to strive.***
***I have always prayed to God to find someone who will not see me as a mistake but as someone who came to her life to add more value to it.***
***I have prayed to find that person that will always put our love first before any other thing that comes in our relationship.***
***I have always prayed to God to show me that woman that will stand by me and defend our love in time of challenges and trials.***
***I have prayed to find that special one that will never belittle and disrespect me even when we have misunderstanding or quarrel.***
These and many more have been my prayer request and it's not just about me and what I want from someone that I will fall in love with, I also want to be that man for her in any time and season.
***I want a woman that I will surely stand with through thick and thin, making sure I give her all the necessary support and love she deserves.***
***I want to be the best man she will ever meet, be with and never regret being with for one second.***
***I want to be that man for that woman that wants a sincere man who will not compromise in any way.***
***I want to be that man for that woman who will do all his possible best to provide her needs for her and make sure she lacks nothing.***
***I want to be with that woman that I will take her problems and challenges as mine and make sure I assist her in solving her problems she is faced with.***
***I want a woman that will make my heart her home.***
***Finally, I just want someone to look at me the way I look at food each time I am served my best meal.***
I know this is not just only my prayer alone but also your prayer as well you that is reading my post right now, whether you have married or yet to find a soulmate, your utmost desire in finding that special one who will complete your better-half (missing rip) in love and marriage relationship is your prayer and heart desire. So for you to really have that dream come true, you need someone who will see you as him or herself.
If you can be able to find such a person or your prayers been answered with such a woman or man your heart desires, then, just know that you have been given someone who will make your life last longer.
***Thank you so much for your time and also for coming through to read my post today, Rafd******9828*** ***loves you more.***
Grow through what you go through.
Life comes with it own experiences and in these experiences we learn our lessons either in positive or negative ways, this is what makes us who we are. Let me it bring down to you reading this article, As your life is different from mine so is your responsibilities and purposes are very different from my mine as well. You go through a lot of huddles and stuffs like that everyday, you wake up and go out to achieve your set goals for each day, during the day's activities you are faced with different challenges and problems even after the day's work, you go home and still face the house issues, my questions to you right now are these;
***How do you avail yourself the opportunity to learn from our daily struggles?***
***Do you take it as it comes to you without seeing the need to learn from them?***
***Do you just feel less concern about them and less worry of your challenges and setbacks that comes to you? or***
***Do you allow yourself to grow through what you go through?***
Well, you have every right to make the best choice you feel will make you achieve your goals in life as a person, but one thing you need to know about and something that I know will help you more in life if you adhere to it, is to find a way to make yourself grow through what you go through. You may ask; ***What do I mean by that?*** Growing through what you go through in your daily life does not mean you should learn and grow to be wicked and treat people that come your way anyhow you feel like just because someone you met out there maltreated you and made you feel sad and in other to learn and grow from your experience, you decide to treat other people you meet on your way badly. ***No!*** This is not what I am talking about.
That someone refused to assist you when you needed a help from him or her does not mean you should learn from it and grow your mindset into becoming a stingy person who refuses to help others when they need your help all because you are learning from your past experience with people. This is not what this article is trying to portray, whether you had different bad experience in the past with people you know or with people you don't know, that should not make you grow yourself in the negative way or trying to live and act like them.
But the growth I am trying to explain here is the growth in the right direction, growth in your consciences to live right even in the moment of sadness and challenges, growth in positive direction in your relationship with the next person beside you, growth on how you handle situations and challenges of life when they come knocking at your door. Growth in your personal life, growth in your religious life and growth in your personal contributions to the growth of your community where you belong to.
In as much you pass through a lot of struggles, challenges and issues everyday of your life, that does not mean you should allow yourself to be changed negatively because of the experiences you once had in life, rather what you should be considering your mind to is how to make yourself an antidote to negative energies that comes from the daily experiences in life and try to outlive those bad vibes and negative experiences with good deeds and good lifestyle.
Find a way of making yourself stronger to overcome those forces that can pull you down whether it's from people you know or not, make your spirit stronger by focusing your energy to things that will grow you positively, spiritually and otherwise, never allow what you are passing through to change your real self, rather make every effort to show more strength and courage to your challenges and troubles that you are above them and will make it better than as it was.
Our parents most especially our mothers are the typical example of persons you should learn from, they always grow from strength to strength even when they are faced with challenges and troubles of raising and fending for their babies, they never give up on their babies right from child birth, they always show true definition of strength, love, endurance, perseverance, focus, hard work, courage and any other choice of word you may think of to explain their own abilities and capabilities to grow through what they go through in life. They never accept defeat or allow themselves to be overwhelmed by the challenges of bringing up their offsprings as they go through tough times in life, rather they grow from strength to strength through what they go through in life. I will stop here for now but I tell you this my friend;
***Dear friend, start today and try your best to positively grow through what you go through in life and never allow yourself lose focus whatsoever.***
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She told me I couldn’t. That’s why I did
She dared me mother and I have to show her that I can deal with her and I am not Lili livered young woman and right now I have given her what she deserved. When her mother heard her reason, she replied her immediately and said; Have you seen what you have caused for yourself? Why would you do such a thing without thinking about the implications? Why would you go that extra mile to plan such act and execute it without having any human feelings? right now there is nothing I can do to save you from this mess you have put yourself into. You really have to answer for your crimes my dear. This was the response Mary got from her mother that she hoped to rescue her from the trouble she put herself into.
I know your ears are itching you because you want to know how the story started, but I tell you this, how the story started is not really the point I want you to derive from this short story I just narrated here. Just think about the reason why she acted the way she did.
Just because she was dared and to prove to her friend that she does not take Insult from anybody, she had to call some bad boys in the hood to deal with the lady that dared her during a misunderstanding between both of them and now it has resulted to the lady been badly injured by the hoodlums and taken to the hospital in coma state.
Listen my friend, whether you like it or not, you don't need to prove any point whatsoever to anyone or show someone that you can't take nonsense from any person whether in a conversation, misunderstanding, quarrel or even fight. Haven't you heard that he that runs to a fighting contest does not know that fighting can lead to death or even serious problems. You can't because you were dared and because of that you begin to work yourself up just to prove to the people that dared you that you are strong and can't be intimidated.
Looking at what is happening with Mary's present condition after she showed her darers that she can't be intimidated, you will understand that nothing good can ever come out from such character. You don't need such lifestyle as a person who really knows what he or she wants from life.
A lot of people have missed their dreams and landed themselves in correctional facilities all because they were trying to make or prove a point to that person that told them at their faces that they can't do anything to them during a fight, argument, quarrel or even at times during normal discussions with their friends. Some people because of pride and ego they have lost their right in the sight of their families, associations, etc all because they were trying to prove a point that they can never accept any person daring them in public or trying to challenge them.
What makes you a real person is not by allowing what people told you get at you to start proving them right or wrong.
It's not also by going extra length to make your point known by the next person beside you that makes you a real and strong person.
You don't need any of that to really show that your are a tough human who does not accept been dared by any one. No! you don't need all of that my good friend, when you are faced with such situation, the only thing you need to do is to really calm down, think about the motive behind the action and what the person daring you is trying to achieve for dare you. When you are able to process these reasons in your head before you act, you will understand that being dared or challenged is not enough reason to start acting irrational or endangering yourself or that of the next person you are having encounter with.
Are you still waiting for me to finish Mary's story so you can understand how everything happened? My dear if you are waiting for me continue with the story my friends you are on a very long thing!😃😃😃😃😃😃😃😃🤣🤣🤣🤣😂😂😂😂😂
Please my dear good friend, don't keep your room open so that devil can enter and work overtime in your life. Learn to think before you act in your best friend please my good friend.
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We ain’t picture perfect but we worth the picture still.
How do I go about this? and where do I have to start from?, anyways, I think the right place to start is from you. Yes! you of course, and it's obvious that you think you are not good enough to be admired or called up for something important. You have degraded yourself and your self-worth just because you think you are too inferior and can't measure up with people that matters in the society or association where you belong all because you dont have money or look good enough like them.
You have totally taken it up yourself to hide your potentials and abilities to make a great difference in your community just because someone in your community won an honourary award of excellence which you were supposed to win and for that reason you hybernate yourself in self-pity and regrets. You torture yourself all day and night long feeling hurt for disappointing yourself and those that trusted and believed in you.
What about you that worked so hard to achieve your dreams and after so much effort and energy been put together to achieve a positive result, yet, at the end of it all everything went down the drain and because of that, you start to look down on yourself and hate yourself.
You my friend that have done all your possible best to please your partner or your spouse who you have been in a relationship for some times now, for these period of time you spent with your spouse or partner, you have virtually gone out of your way to try giving your partner the best of love experience he or she has never imagined or had since your spouse started being in a relationship, and at the end of the day, the same person you have been working your head off turns back at you to make you feel bad and even break your heart without regret or remorse. No matter the effort you make, still you will end up feeling hurt just because of the negative vibes you are getting from your partner.
Why will you allow someone or something to make you feel less of a human?
Why look down on yourself?
No matter how you think that the next person beside you is better than you, you are still special and unique in your own way, there is no way that person beside you will be 100% perfect more than you, there are things you too can't have in common and that is what makes you special and unique, you should hold unto that as your strength and appreciate the much you have been able to have.
For sometime now, I have been writing about human life, personal relationship with your self, and others, and if it's not important to human life I will not be discussing it and bringing it to this platform for you to read and understand the need to do everything possible to find what gives you peace, **makes** you happy and hold unto it. Everything we do in this life revolves around us and if we are not prepared physically, emotionally, psychologically and otherwise to face what comes to us as humans, we will end up not having the best of experiences and moments in our life time.
So always remember that in life no one is perfect, we all are striving to get to perfection and it's only when you have it at the back of your mind that's when you will stand on your ground and never accept or allow anybody or anything bring you down. Always tell yourself you are worth more than gold even in your lapses and shortcomings, always see reasons to encourage yourself, push yourself to where ever hight you want to attain.
Yes we ain’t picture perfect but we worth the picture still. Whether you feel bad about me or not, whether you want me or not, whether you like to associate yourself with me or not, the truth still remains that, I will always be myself, appreciate that person I have always been and do my best to always be amongst the best.
Don't ever look down on yourself, indeed you are so special in your own way.
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Some beautiful paths can't be discovered without getting lost.
For how long have you been failing and losing on a particular thing you tried to achieve? And because of that you lost hope and got tired of searching to the extent of wanting to quit all because you failed each time you try to achieve a positive result?
***Relax my friend and don't give up okay!***
Keep trying and and one day you will get the result you are looking for and you will be happy ever after and believe me, you will thank me later for dropping this piece of encouragement to you through this platform.
A lot of us have gone through huddles and different phases of life struggles trying to achieve a certain goal, and at the end of each day you keep on having same result, no positive result coming forth, no improvement nor achievement on the goals you embarked upon. During the process of trying to find a desirable answer you meet some failures, setbacks and difficult challenges that made you not to reach that final end and instead of you to apply the ****(formula R4)**** which consists of ***retreat, relax re-strategize and reposition*** your plans and try again so that you can get a better result, Instead you give up on your first or second attempt.
Now can you look at the life history of **Thomas Edison,** the man who invented the light bulb, he lost in the way of trying to achieve a breakthrough in technology invention, he tried and made ***1,000 unsuccessful*** attempts on inventing the light bulb until he got the answer he was looking for. If you read his story about how he was insulted and fired from his first two jobs for not being productive yet he continued trying until he got result he was looking for. In one of the encounters he had with his teachers, Edison's teacher **said** he was "***too stupid to learn anything"*** yet he never gave up on himself, rather he went ahead with his research until he was able to conquer his fears and finally won.
It's not something to feel bad or regretful when you are looking for a breakthrough on a particular project or research and during the course of achieving a breakthrough you fail, that shouldn't make you quit or feel demoralised just because you didn't make it, **No**! Don't feel that way, all you should do is to accept it, try again and I assure you that when you keep your faith high and keep persevering, one day you will achieve your goal and success will become your best friend.
I remembered when I was introduced newly in this great platform called **Read.cash**, I started writing and was not getting any person viewing or commenting on my post, I never gave up because I believed that ***some beautiful paths can't be discovered without getting lost***. So I kept my head high and pushed further until I got what I was looking for. Giving up because you had one disappointment or another, or because you failed to achieve your goal is not the best option to choose.
Great achievers got lost several times on their way to greatness, and remember that the way to success is not achieved on the platter of gold, success comes with great challenges and problems. But when you keep your faith strong and your ability to conquer ever strong and unshaken, then, you are close to winning your battles.
Of a truth, I am not in the same thought with those that believe that greatness comes so easy. For you to be perfect over something, during learning period, you have to make certain mistakes over time and from your mistake comes perfection. Bringing it down to stages of growth in human life, a child that is learning how to stand and walk, finds it so difficult to stand at once, the child tries several times to stand and also falls several times until one day when the child gets to stand without falling, same also happen when a child turns adult, going to school competing with other children, there are lots of challenges and failures during that period yet the child keeps moving until the final stage of adulthood where there are lots of choices to make in other to attain that desired hight one may dream about, these choices may fail you severally during the processing of actualising your dreams and also may make you succeed in life as the case may be, but one thing you must not forget is this, the choice we made that failed us didn't make us less of human but rather, it's a lesson to look up to when next we want to try again to make a greater change when you don't give up on yourself.
I know you will not despise your little rough moments and difficult times, learn from it and know that some beautiful paths can't be discovered without getting lost.
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Live for today, plan for tomorrow, party tonight.
Please my good friend, no matter what you are doing right now, anywhere you are please just make sure you put your ears down to this great advice that I will give you today as regards to life.
But before I continue with my article, I will surely not forget to be always grateful to you ***Read.cash*** for this opportunity you have placed before us to make use of, educate the world and change the world for good through our writings. And to you my good friends, I appreciate your work so far and wish you do not relent in making positive impact.
I was opportuned to meet new friends during last year Christmas holidays, some of the friends I met were wealthy men that matters in my community. After I became friends with them, I decided to hang out one cool evening with them to have some drink and chill with the big boys in town.
As we all seated, we started a conversation and I raised a topic about wise man and foolish man and the way both of them live their lives when it comes to living for today, planning for tomorrow, partying always. One of the men that sat with us started explaining what differentiates a Wiseman from a foolish man as regards to the topic been discussed.
A wise man is that person that thinks about tomorrow and starts early to make necessary plans on how to achieve a better tomorrow, but a foolish man does not have such mentality of thinking about tomorrow, all he does is think about now and live his life within the circle of his present state, what ever he gets does not stay till the next day, no room for future plans. Let's get it today and finish it now, when tomorrow comes we will go out and look for what tomorrow can give.
A wise man makes sure that he spends with his head not with his heart. A wise man does not build his spending ability on his emotions, rather he spends on the things that are important and necessary. He makes his expenses based on the things he needs not on the things he wants. But a foolish man does not consider the both factors, he goes about spending on both what he needs and what he wants. A foolish man does not have priority list or what you call scale of preference. When a wise man wants to party with his friends, he does not only live for today alone, he plans for tomorrow and party at the same time. A wise man does not put all his eggs in one basket all because he wants to party and make merry, he makes reservations for future needs. In as much as partying and having fun with friends is good, a wise man makes appropriate plans and map out a particular money for enjoying himself, and also save some money for Investments and other projects for future purposes. But it's a different scenario for a foolish man, a foolish man does not have such time to plan himself and arrange his spending list.
A wise man thinks before he acts but a foolish man does not do so, when a wise man wants to say something, he gives it a thorough thinking and makes sure that what he is about to say does not contradict him or makes a different meaning all together, every word that must come out from his mouth surely makes sense and more meaning. A wise man meticulously take his time to address issues, but a foolish man does not have time to think or regurgitate the points he wants to make in his thought before letting it out, he speaks without reasoning and control, and at the end he makes no sense or meaning.
He continued by saying that why some people get rich today and tomorrow they go back to poverty is because they failed to apply these four major rules of staying rich. And these rules are as follows;
1. ***Think and plan before you spend.***
2. ***Spend within your means***.
3. ***Save as much as you can.***
4. ***Spend little and invest more.***
When these four major rules are neglected when you are already rich, before you know it, you will turn to be a poor man in no distant time. These are very difficult rules to keep and follow but only few persons that have kept these rules can be said to be rich and wealthy. But I tell you my friend, it's good to live a good life, enjoy yourself, have all the necessary fun you could ever imagine and also make plans for your tomorrow, but when you are doing all of these things, try and discipline yourself when it comes to getting money and spending it.
After he made his points, I began to understand life in another dimension. I got to understand that I have not really been able to meticulously apply these four rules he mentioned during his speech. Right now I have taken a decision and promised myself that in as much as I want to enjoy myself and have the best of fun and party, I still need to plan my tomorrow and make it better. These four major rules he mentioned will be my daily anthem each time I go about my daily business.
***Do not think and behave like the foolish man, rather think and act like the wise man today and it will be well with you. Learn from his words today!!!!***
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Be your own best friend.
Hello once again my awesome friends here, how are you doing today? I hope you guys are absolutely great, please continue to make great and amazing difference in this platform with your articles. Don't give up okay!
***How do you love yourself?*** This is a serious question we have really overlooked for a very long time now. Yes if you have not asked yourself this important question up on till now, then you are getting it all wrong. Yes of a truth, most of us if not all of have failed to really examine how they have been able to handle themselves in terms of taking good care of their body system, a lot of us have neglected our body and focused on taking care of other people's needs.
The number one priority of life is taking good care of yourself. Yourself I am trying to talk about is your body system, your total self. For you to take a proper good care of others, you should first take good care of yourself and that's why the Wise man will always say; "***that charity begins at home"***. Yes if you want to take good care of another, you should first of all learn to take good care of your body, and how do you do that? You can do that through these steps;
1. ***Paying proper attention to your body system. In other words, this is the first important aspect of life and healthy living one must not overlook. Making sure that you give your body the necessary things that will make it stronger and healthier at all times. It's a step in the right direction to show yourself that your body is your best friend.***
2. ***Avoid things and situations that can put your entire body system at risk. Yes often times we go about involving ourselves to things that can cause harm to our body system, all because we want to try some adventurous experiences. This is a very challenging situation that most people have given deaf ears to and it's really eating us gradually and silently destroying us.***
3. ***Staying on the path of daily routine body exercises is another way of being your own best friend. This is also an important step that can give your body system a positive, strong and efficient result if taken serious. Yes by doing a proper exercises each day, you are actually giving your body system the food that it requires, and also by making sure you exercise your body and other things your body needs can make your body stronger and live longer.***
4. ***Creating a good habit of eating good food and as at when due. This is one of the ways to follow to prove to your body system that you are your own best friend. A lot of studies have shown that more than 70% of human beings globally don't properly put keen interest in checking the type of food they take into their body system and they don't eat accordingly, this has resulted to so much illness and death in recent time.***
5. ***Giving your body system the adequate and needed rest is another way of being your own best friend. Because of man made challenges and problems in the families, personal desires and other rising issues that is attached to humans in our daily lives, we have neglected the importance of resting our body and giving our body the needed amount of sleep all because we want to meet up with the needs we are faced with. This situation has really kept all most everyone around the world at the mercy of sickness and death because we failed to take good care of our body system and focused our mind and energy in pursing riches and affluence.***
6. ***Minimizing the rate at which we over work our brains, minds and our emotions are also another way of making our body system know that we are his or her best friend. You know over working your brain, mind and emotion can give your body system a negative defect if proper care is not taken. Finding a proper way to control some emotional challenges, troubles of the mind and to much work load to the brain has really helped a lot in making sure that our body system stays safe, stronger and healthier.***
All these steps and many more should be one's concern in making sure that they give their body system the needed love and care the body requires. Self-love is not a bad idea, rather it's an act that prolong life spam and all that comes with it. So try today and start being your own best friend today and you will surely see how your life will turn around for good. Stay safe, take good care of yourself, love yourself and be your own best friend.
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Life is better when you’re laughing.
I took my time to walk through some of the streets in my area where I reside on one of the days I was on holiday, I looked at people's faces and body languages and I found out that almost everybody that I crossed on the way were all frowning their faces and looked unhappy and sad, so I asked myself, ***what could be their problem? Why are all of them having same facial expression? Are they coming out from the same house that they all could wear the same face of unhappiness and sadness?.***
I looked closely as I was still observing their faces to find out if these people were of the same family, culture, tribe or even the same ethnic background, but to my greatest surprise, I found out that these people are of different backgrounds, culture, tribe and what have you. I began to wonder and ponder on the reason why they were wearing same face look of unhappiness, sadness and pain. As I was going, I saw an aged woman who wanted to carry her heavy loads of foodstuffs she bought at the market near the roadside but couldn't lift it on her head, so I quickly rushed towards her and asked her if I could be of help to her atleast to help her in carrying the heavy load since I was going her way, so she accepted and immediately I lifted the load on my shoulder and started walking along side with her, she couldn't walk fast because she was so tired and have no strength left because of her age, so we took much time walking.
While walking, I decided to throw some questions of my observation at her to actually hear her opinion why all the people I met on my way were not wearing a cheerful and happy face, she replied and said, my son you really have taken your time enough to observe everyone's faces today, yes your observations are right my son, people these days are not happy because of the hardship all around the world most especially here in Africa where we come from, the harsh weather also is another contributing factor and finally personal and family problems are what could be their reasons for not being happy and wearing a smiling face. But I tell you son, in all of these troubles and problems standing right there in front of us in this world, wearing a smiling face and making yourself happy at all times is the only way to stay alive and live longer.
After having a discussion with her and heard what she said, I reached to her place and dropped her loads at her door step and we greeted and after I left her house, I realised that there are more benefits in being happy than being sad. No matter how long struggles of life may have kept you in the dark, the best approach to it is to always wear a smiling face and put all your energy in making sure you make yourself happy.
I went back to my house and started looking for a way to make it better for myself and for the next person beside me. I came to conclusion that there are important steps we need to follow in other for us to be happy and wear a smiling face at all times. The factors are as follows;
***1. Do not take your challenges at heart.***
***2. Learn to be calm when you are facing your fears.***
***3. Believe that no matter the situation of things, it will surely be over in no distant time.***
***4. learn to love your self and do all you can to stay in that circle of love.***
***5. Be very cheerful and always make sure you are in control of your challenges.***
If you can be able to do all of these things I have mentioned here, surely you will always have the best of your days. In as much as we have challenges and troubles hovering around us every passing day of our lives, and of a truth, there is no way we can run away from these challenges if we keep allowing ourselves to be overwhelmed by it's negative effect, except if we can stand tall on our feet, wear a smiling face and a cheerful heart knowing that everything will be alright soon.
So my dear friend, start today and learn to laugh and be happy because indeed life is better when you’re laughing.
***Thank you so much for coming by to read my article. 🙏Rafd9828***
Be yourself, there’s no one better
Hello guys, welcome to yet another wonderful day and place where different knowledges and ideas are shared by great men and women who have made out time to educate the world about what is happening around you through this great platform called read.cash. I must always admit that I am overwhelmed and blessed to be part of this great family and also be grateful to read.cssh for the opportunity given to us to express our ideas and share knowledge together.
In this great platform that read.cash have created for us all to contribute one way or the other our ideas and knowledges through our articles we post on the read.cash, we all should have it in mind that no one is special or better than anybody, in this platform we share the same goal and idea and that goal is to educate the world and make the world a better place through our writings and also to build our writing skills.
For you to achieve your desired aim and goal in this platform called read.xssh, you must first have these factors embedded in your heart always and make sure you work with it so as to achieve a good result. These factors includes;
1. ****THE ABILITY TO BELIEVE IN YOURSELF ALWAYS.****
this is one of the factors that will always guild you in this great platform, the ability to have this self-confidence in yourself at all times. You know to write a good article requires you to be calm, focus, think and articulate point, be in control of your mind and finally have self-confidence in yourself in other to enable you write good article that will catch your reader's mind.
2. ****KNOW THAT YOU HAVE ALL IT TAKES TO BE A GOOD WRITER.****
This is where one may try to go off balance when you read other people's post and find out that their articles are being viewed and commented while your own is not visited, and because of that you lose your ground and feel that you are not really doing the best you should. Well, I tell you this my friend, you should not despise your little beginning and never let your moral drop at all. Just believe that if they didnt visit your page and drop comments on your post does not mean that they will not come tomorrow. Just keep pushing, keep improving and never look down on yourself.
3. ****NO MATTER HOW YOUR ARTICLE MAY SOUND LIKE, THERE IS A MESSAGE IT'S SENDING TO THE READER.****
The same way the article of Mr A is passing message to the reader same way is your own article passing message to your reader, the only thing you should always make of, is to always try making sure that your article is passing a good message to the person reading it. In other words, you are on an equal level with Mr A in the information dissemination to your reader.
4. ****AS MR. A's ARTICLE IS IMPORTANT TO READ.CASH, THAT IS THE SAME WAY YOUR OWN ARTICLE IS IMPORTANT TO READ.CASH ALSO.****
Always have it at the back of your mind that in the field of play whether your ideas and knowledges are different, the platform where your article is been posted everyday acknowledges and respects your opinion, ideas and knowledges written down individually and collectively, and the platform also give equal playing ground for you to grow just as Mr. A is growing as well.
5. ****LEARN TO LIVE HAPPILY AND APPRECIATE THE WORK OF OTHERS.****
When you appreciate and love other people's work in this platform, definitely you are giving room for others to love and appreciate your own work. This is a fact about life, if you want to grow in whatever thing you are doing, you must learn to appreciate others and stay happy for others.
In conclusion, trying to be yourself, appreciating yourself and the much you have done will surely make you have this knowledge that the other person is not better than you and you have all it takes to reach anywhere you want to reach without any hinderances from anybody. You are as important as the next person sitting beside you.
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Be more of you, and less of them.
The world we live in is full of so many life experiences and stories of how people have lived their lives just to please other people instead of pleasing themselves. ***Have you ever lived your life just for a moment to please others and act in the dictates of others rather than being your self?*** I know If I direct this question to you my friend reading this article right now, I know that if you are sincere to yourself you will acknowledge that you have one way or the other lived such life. I have been there and I know how the feelings can be when you find yourself in such situation. But the truth remains that when you live in such circle of lifestyle, you will not really have that true satisfaction of heart and joy ever until you change your pattern of living life.
Some of the life styles people live today are all borrowed, and sometimes they live such life style all in a bit to measure up with other people who live around them. By so doing, they put themselves in bad state of mind and conditions all because they tried to live their lives on others dictates.
Well, let me bring it down to our daily life experiences, the one major lifestyle mistake one will ever make is to start living a life of another person dictates when you have become of age to handle your own life. Not believing in yourself that you have all it takes to make a difference and change your own world, feeling less of a man or woman and putting your hope on people to walk you through your fears and challenges are the worst mistake you will ever make as a person during your journey of life as a human. Any little shake in your life turns your attention to running back to people for assistance and guidance instead of facing your fears squarely, you throw away your own abilities to face your battle and being afraid to provide solutions by yourself to solve your challenges.
Often times in your relationship with your spouse, because you were talked down during a misunderstanding or fight you had with your spouse, and to prove a point to your spouse you begin to hate him or her and start living a life you were not known for just to make your partner feel bad. You begin to emotionally torture yourself and your spouse all in bit to show your grievances to him or her. ***Don't you know that by trying to harbour grudge and pain of hurt in your heart and waiting for the right moment to send back the same hurt you received from your spouse to him or her, to make your spouse feel the same pain and hurt you have been keeping at heart is not the right way of living a healthy life and having a successful relationship with your spouse?***
In your families where all you do as a father, mother or child is to make everybody in the family to have this wrong notion about you when ever you are around, you try to put fear in them with the way you talk or behave to your wife, husband and kids at home, you give your family the impression that you don't care about them and their feelings towards you, but deep down inside of you, you feel pain and regret for the bad treatment and emotional torture you are giving to your family all because you don't want them to take you for granted. Now my question to you that is living your lifestyle in this kind of way is; ***do you really have peace of mind with the agony you are putting yourself to and this weird lifestyle you are living right now towards your family?***
Generally, as a person that relates with people every day of your life, at your work places, meeting places, worship centers, etc, you may have encountered one challenge or the other with people you meet every day of your life and because of the way they made you feel, you begin to look down on yourself and start living your life in another person's world. On the other hand, because you want to join the happening group in town, you begin to place yourself to that level where all that matters to you is to please the world by living a fake life and showing off material things that are not yours all because you want to prove a point. ***Do you feel it's the right way of living a good and satisfying life?***
The sincere truth in all of these things I have discussed here is that you will never find that utmost satisfaction you are looking for when you continue to allow yourself live in such lifestyle, there is no happiness at the end of it all. So it's best for you if I am to suggest for you right now to start changing your mindset and method of living your weird lifestyle of not paying more attention to your own life than pleasing others and start being more of yourself and live your own life that pleases your soul and heart. I know this statement will contradict some people's belief and ideology of living a selfless life but I tell you this, **"*******what you need to do first in your life is to love yourself first, build yourself before you can build others"*******.** I know one of the best ways of living a good and fulfilled life is to live a life you are in control of, and you can not get that when you live in another person's dictates except in your own dictates.
Remember this, you don't need to prove any point in your life based on other people's dictates and instructions. Just learn to be more of you and less of them.
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Make peace with your broken pieces.
I bring to you this good news about how to make peace with yourself and with anything that have one way or the other caused you pain and heartbreak in your life. And I will urge you to pay attention and learn from this that I am about to say right now.
In this world where we all live in, everyone of us have experienced one bad situation, challenges, personal problems which made us feel sad, pained, regret to the extent of hating ourselves and hating the next person in our lives. Out of anger and frustration maybe because of misunderstanding or fight you had with someone on our way or with your neighbor where you live, because of that, you push and chase those that are so dear to you away and destroy that great and wonderful relationship that took you years to build.
Even in your love relationships, marriages and casual relationships you may have had with people in the past and because of misunderstanding or one problem or the other, your once sweet relationship turned to sad and unhappy relationship which later ended in tears and breakup, and because of that you decide not to forgive yourselves, your partner or your friends and hold grudges to the level of not wanting to accept new relationship or to have anything to do again with anybody whatsoever that concerns relationship.
In your business dealings with your clients and business partners, because of one or two failed business deals and transactions with your business partners, you decide to cut off all ties connecting you to your business partners all because you are angry and not happy with the outcome of the business, because of that you decide not to try another business deals with such persons thereby preventing yourself another great opportunity of rewriting the mistakes and try making it work again.
Even in your homes and families where you have your husbands, wives and children you live with, maybe because of the little misunderstanding you may have with your husband or wife, you keep it to heart and start acting weird to your husband or wife, you start maltreating your wife or husband and never want to have a rethink or a change of heart towards your wife or husband. Even to your children, you act and constantly treat your children with contempt and you despise them so much all because of the way they disrespected you in the past and you kept it at heart and use it to torture your children.
In our personal lives, just because what you are looking for didn't come as you planned and hoped for, because of that, you torture yourself and put your mind and emotions in a depressing mood, you constantly blame yourself and hate yourself for the mistakes and disappointments that may have occurred in your life which was never your fault. Because of that, you separate yourself from people and lock yourself away from people and the world, you stop communicating with people around you and outside world.
These and many more are what people go through everyday in life, some people decided to put themselves in such conditions and state of mind while some people allowed the situation and challenges they were facing to overwhelm, control and put them in such conditions of life.
Now, whether you are aware of the harm you purposely causing yourself or not, the important thing right now to do is to make peace with your broken pieces, because *****the first step to achieving a new beginning in life is to totally confront your worries and fears and try to make every necessary effort to correct every mistake of the past and make peace with them before you can be able to forge ahead to meet your greatness.*****
You can not achieve success if you keep holding the grudge and mistakes of the past, *****it will be so difficult for you to make a step forward to greatness if you keep standing on that path of regret, sadness, pain and grudge against yourself and against your fellow individual.*****
You can make it better than before *****if only you will learn to forgive yourself, your neighbor and try to forget all the wrongs and mistakes made to you by yourself and by people you meet in your journey of life.*****
My dear please, it's pays to make peace with your broken pieces. I hope you will hear my voice through this article of mine and do the needful today so you can have joy and peace of mind in your life.
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