@Rafd9828 9 August 2021 more from that month

Why dwell so much in the things you don't have? Yes I am overwhelmed by your effort to keep depositing knowledges and words of wisdom to this platform. **I love your efforts so far!**

Well often times we complain so much about the things we have tried to achieve in life and couldn't get, we blame ourselves and even blame others for failing to get to that which we have prayed in our hearts for, and because of that we begin to dwell in the things we don't have and forget to think more in the things we have achieved so far. Have we really asked ourselves these questions **" why have we not been dwelling more in the things we already have? Why are we not making effort to effect a positive result and positive change with the things we already have? Why do we need to kill ourselves just because we want to have it all? Does it worth fighting for?** These and many more questions should always come to our minds each time we  want to go about thinking so much about the things we don't have. I tell you this, ***it is by taking care of the things you already have that we have the chance and more grace to have more.***

Let us start from the family, there is this saying which goes this way; **"Charity they say begins at home"** As a married man, how well have you been taking care of your wife you got married to? Do you see her as a commodity you bought with your money when you paid her dowry as culture and tradition demands in your various countries around the world? Or do you see her as your beautiful wife that needs to be taken good care of? As a wife, how do you see your husband? Do you see him as a sexual satisfactory machine that you can pounce on when ever your sexual urge sets in? Do you see him as just a man that attends to your personal and other needs when it arises? Or do you see him as your one and only soulmate, life partner, lover or guardian angel who God gave you as a husband to always protect**,** love and care for you? As a parent, how well do you take care of your kids? Do you really make out time to be with your kids? Do you see your kids as a liability, or as a mistake and should not be taken care of?. Do you find yourself more important than your kids that you refuse to take good care of them? Even as young lovers who are in love relationships, how well do you make out time for one another to rekindle the love you share together and make it grow? How well to you give attentions to one another when the need arises? How well do you fill into each others space to protect and defend each others strength and weakness?

What about you in that department or office at your various companies, firms  and businesses, how well do you handle the positions and the task in your care? Do you feel it's not in your position to put more effort to bring a positive change to the place of your work or assignment? Do you see people under you as those that are not important and does not deserve good treatment and respect? What about you and I that meet ourselves everyday of our lives maybe on social media, at market places, worship centers and gatherings, schools, club houses, etc,  how well do we see ourselves?, how well do we cherish that friendship and communications? Do we really see ourselves as more important than the next person that comes our way? This caption *"****Why dwell so much in the things you don't have?"*** Have really opened my mind to the way we put more energy into pursing the things we don't have than the things we already have and if we must really make a difference, we should first look at the things we already have and make sure we handle and take good care of it in order for us to really have the desire to go for the things we don't have. As husbands and wives in a marriage affair, you must see one another as yourselves, always put your personal needs and wants as secondary and put your marriage success, love and each others happiness as more important in your marriage. What about you that have decided to bear kids in your different families, you are expected to take good care of them at all cost, provide for their needs and make sure you protect their interest at any given time or opportunity. As young couples that are in relationships it is also good to seek for those things that will always nourish and make your love and relationship flourish and stand to the test of time. Always value each others happiness, time, love and respect more than any other thing you can think of. Also for you that see yourselves in a better position at your work places, even at your different business areas, always make sure you put in your best to the growth of the work and business. Never see those under you as less human and always show good examples to those under your care. As you and I that see ourselves on daily bases, please we are expected to show kindness, love, respect and accommodate one another. in doing all of these things mentioned above, surely! We are paving our ways for more things we don't have to come into our lives. ***Thank you so much for reading my article 🙏 Rafd9828***