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There is no such thing as 'should' You 'should' listen to what I am saying You 'should' do as we say, we want you to be happy You 'should' get a job You 'should' have worked harder You 'should' try to fit in You 'should' keep your head down And many many more shoulds.... All of us have heard these and many more through our lives. I for one never understood why 'should' I do anything at all if I don't want to or if it doesn't make sense to me. Just because somebody is telling…

There is always a first of everything, so just be you You can be the first of you to do you (not what you are thinking) With so much noise, coming from every direction in various formats, it is easy to get lost. It becomes easy to get influenced and lose yourself. Not something to be proud of. It is great to know what is trending, what is it that people are liking. It feels good to feel like you are a part of a community. I do know the feeling. The biggest cost that one pays…

It's true the one who tries the most, wins! Or is it? Isn't the definition of winning supposed to be different for different people? If people can have **different goals and motivations**, they can also have different definitions of winning as well. For some, it can be having a stable life with a stable family and stable income. At the extreme opposite can be people who always live life on the edge, carefree, and high on adrenaline. Of course, there are numerous versatile…

Plans have their own plans I am sure we all have experienced this at some point of time in life. We set our minds to do something in life and no matter what we focus all our attention by force to a particular task. But eventually turns out that our plan had its own plan of **moving ahead in a certain direction**. And, of course, it forgot to keep us in the loop. Again, only in **hindsight** everything that happened makes any sense at all. It never does when things are…

There is something about nights The things that cross my mind at night, never do so during the day. The emotions that I feel at night, are even more so. Somehow night makes me feel safe. I know it's contrary to the popular belief of 'what might be lurking around in the dark', but it's true. Nights do make me feel safe. I don't believe in ghosts, I don't believe in spirits only predatory animals and ill willed peopled. So as long as I stay clear of these two things, I am good…

Take a breath, Every moment is worth a lot Time flies. No doubt about it. Hence the saying "days are long but years are short." Nothing can be closer to the truth. Haven't we all been there when on some days the time just doesn't seem to pass. Those days when the night seems too far ahead in time like it would take a year until sunset. But when those days finally pass, when weeks pass, it feels like just yesterday that the year had begun. It happens, right? Sometimes…

Physical reminders for Goals All of us want something in life. There's never a day that passes by when I don't think about the things that I want in life. Short-term goals, long-term goals, even immediate cravings. something that I want always keeps crossing my mind call it a goal, a target, a wish, or a desire. Doesn't make a difference. In the past 5 years, I realized the **importance of focus**. Thoughts come and go. But that doesn't mean that every time a new thought…

It's not easy to 'be yourself' but it's possible The latest decision I made was to write 1000 articles in 1000 days after taking inspiration from Nas Daily and Beeple. For most days I have been able to keep the promise I made to myself about an article a day, but some days do get missed for external reasons. Family stuff, office stuff, and lazing around in emotional roller coaster stuff. So far I think I have missed writing an article for about 5-6 days and it's only been a…

'What ifs' are the worst I came across Beeple's story again yesterday. I knew about him and his digital art but forgot for a while, and then yesterday again I came across it. 1000 art pieces in 1000 days remind me of Nas Daily as well. Nas Daily did 1000 1 minute videos in 1000 days as well. And, If I am not wrong then Gary Vee too did something of the same kind. Gary created and uploaded a video almost every day for about 5 years. To highlight the fact that none of these…

It is true, no one but only you will understand I am all about the small things. The everyday things that make me happy. Things like gardening, things like trying a new recipe (hopefully successfully), or maybe even find a variation while I am at it. If I am able to do all the tasks on my list that I set for the day, my happiness will be through the roof! And **most people don't get it**. I remember one girl asked me, "How was your day?" I replied, "amazing." Then she added,…

Procrastinating is not the answer I have been **looking for inspiration** for a long time. I have been trying to make something of myself. In order to find options for what I can pursue, I consume much information from various sources including videos, quotes, books, biographies, and blogs. So as I saw some people finding success in a particular field, my mind would immediately tell me **to pursue** that as a career whether it resonated with me or not. Similarly, as I would…

No one can see the future, yet everyone has regrets for not knowing Sound familiar? **Acknowledge** what came to your mind when you read the title. You are not alone to feel this way. All of us do at some point. And, people like me don't learn and feel this way multiple times in life. The thing that I learned from the recurring feeling of "I wish I had seen it coming" or "The signs were there but I just couldn't make sense of it. I wish I had" is that it will **only make…

I lost touch with my dreams When I felt lost, when I felt like I didn't know who I was or where I wanted to go, I focused on keeping myself distracted. The easy way out. I binge-watched series and movies. I was constantly consuming popular fiction-making sure that I didn't have to deal with reality. This was during the teenage I think. I wasn't happy with who I was **believed to be** and how I was **perceived**. For their perception had become my reality. I had lost touch…

I will do it, but not at the cost of me I am ambitious. I have dreams. I have goals. But none of that is going to take me away from me. I am going to do everything I set out to do while taking care of myself. I put myself before my goals. **I was misled** by my interpretations of the journey that leads to success. It was my fault. I was listening so much to things that did not lead to success, but to the awakening that that wasn't the way to success. All the stories that I…

Try not to lose empathy The world that we live in is weird. We are born compassionate. We care about the people around us. We understand when someone is 'not in the mood.' We understand when someone needs space or some silence. Even though we are supposed to be social animals, the world that we live in today, because of all its 'opportunities' has made us distant. So many times I have heard the saying 'let go of toxic people.' The most common understanding that I have come…

I am responsible for my sleepless nights There are endless medical reasons why a person does not sleep well. I am not denying them. It can be different sleep cycles, something that you ate, or that you had too much alcohol to drink (maybe even too often). When a person is sick they might have trouble sleeping and also when people have too much on their mind. So in most cases, I can't do anything about it but stay patient and give myself time to heal. In some, I can improve…

No one has only one personality until... For part of my life, I thought that one person could only choose one personality for themselves that will remain their identity for the rest of their lives. Like you can choose to be good, you can choose to be a bully, a giver, someone selfish, overconfident, and many more. Much like smurfs. *"- Just because your name is grumpy doesn't mean you have to be grumpy!* *- Yeah it does"* As time passed I saw that no one wanted someone to be…

Isn't maturity overrated? When I was 10, I soon wanted to be a teen, when I was a teen, I thought of myself as a mature person and always wanted to be seen as someone wise and someone that you can go to for advice. And, anyone that I saw around me playing pen fight or talking like kids about cartoon and video games, as in, precisely according to their age, I thought wasn't cool. This is also the reason why I was never attracted to anyone my age for the longest time. Always a…

Not everything that happens is your responsibility Some of us have a habit of feeling guilty about all the things that are not going according to plan. Even if it is something as small as someone else not feeling hungry. For some reason, that is usually related to our need for community and belongingness, we feel responsible for the people around us. Even if we cross paths with them for that one moment only. We are programmed that way. The sympathetic way. We feel for others…

What you seek is already yours But only if you want it badly enough. No, I am not repeating a cheesy movie dialogue. It is true. This has happened to me time and again. Sometimes for very petty things, and sometimes for some major advancements in life. The size of what you want can differ vastly from being offered a free coffee by a stranger or a colleague, to building a multi-million if not a billion-dollar empire. Yes, it can happen. The only clause here is that you should…

Optimism can be learned Anything in the world can be learned. Be it a skill, a trait, a subject - mastery in anything can be achieved as long as you **choose** to achieve it. The first thing you need to do to learn anything is to **be serious about it**. If you take something as a joke, there is no way in the world that you are going to get good at it. What happens is that if you take something as a joke, you never look at it without blinking your eyes. Also, the feelings…

You are worth double than you think! Never sell yourself short In some cases, you might be worth even more so. Most of us, by the time we reach adulthood, have a habit of underestimating ourselves. It's not our fault. The whole societal and educational system is designed the industrial way so the people in higher places could easily order us around. But tell you what, thankfully the world doesn't run that way anymore. Now, more than ever, people are free to do as they…

Why is the whole world selling 'healing' courses? Not one day passes by without me coming across at least 1 healing course advertisement from someone. Before this, I had no idea that there were so many kinds of healing in the first place. For me, someone who wasn't aware of the existence of emotional and spiritual states growing up, healing meant a wound getting better. You know when you trip and fall, and hurt your knee/elbow or something. Sometimes while climbing down the…

A different way to look at change There is never a second when we don't want something from life. It is our nature to always want more. But not always do we have the power to take an initiative towards what we want. It just stays in our own private dreamland. Sleeping, waking, walking, eating, talking we keep thinking about what we want. But when it comes to taking action, it's a whole different story. Sometimes it is the lack of information that prevents us from taking…

Some days are longer than you think even though all days are of exactly the same time duration (clock-wise). No two days ever feel the same. Some days feel shorter, some days feel longer. In my experience the ones that feel longer are usually when some kind of change has happened, is about to happen, or is happening. All the movies show it right - everything happens in slow motion. You can feel not just every second but every microsecond pass by. Maybe even feel every single…

"When I let go of who I am I become what I might be" - Lao Tzu There is a quote in my room that goes like this How does one become a butterfly? You must want to fly so much that you are willing to give up being a caterpillar. Makes sense, right? Take simple examples from everyday life. Unless you get out of your cozy bed, you cannot get started for the day. And, if you want to reach a cafe for a date or to just have a cup of coffee, you need to step out of the comfort of…

Life is a game of Hide and Seek In most cases you know what you are seeking, but not where it is hiding. Hence the law of attraction. My entire life I have always wanted/needed something. As a child, I wanted playtime and TV time to be more than homework time. As a teenager, I wanted more friends time than family time. As an early adult, I wanted 'me' time. Of course, there were other things too that I craved. Food, bags, shoes, clothes, gadgets, etc. Some more than others.…

Ever listened to your instincts? No, I didn't jump off a cliff without a parachute. It was a winter afternoon when instead of getting my office work done (thankfully there was nothing urgent), I ended up planning an evening barbeque and bonfire. I had a few relatives, the ones that come over every year minimum once, sometimes twice. And the kind that we are happy to welcome in our humble home. They were staying over for a few days. That year I hadn't done any barbeque dinner…

Mornings Heal Only recently have I come to peace with waking up early REGULARLY and it is magical. I am a better version of myself than I was 2 years ago. The days got longer and so I could do more than just put things on a bucket list and sleep on it hoping for something to happen without me having to put in any efforts at all. But tell you what, all the things that I was procrastinating on, have become achievable as I keep making progress, now that I have time. I've always…