Travelling a far distance isn't my thing.
*“Everyday of our lives is an opportunity to realize we have been favored.”*
Princessbusayo
It was another uninteresting journey for me yesterday as I travelled down to meet my Aunt as she relocated to another city in her state. Ever since I have been travelling, I have noticed that travelling a far distance isn't my thing because, by the time I get home, I wouldn't be able to do anything, especially on my phone as I would start having pains all over my body until the next day.
Travelling to my state which is my hometown takes a lot of hours sitting in a bus and that is approximately 5-6 hours sitting for such long hours in the bus, and the worst of it is being uncomfortable sitting with people as you will be squeezed as if you didn't pay for your fare. It was inconvenient for me, but one thing I wouldn't fail to do is give thanks to God for such a safe trip.
On Sunday, I was wise enough to draft some posts to be posted on my blogs on Tuesday and I only hit the publish button in the bus and that didn't take long as I already envisaged that by the time I get home, I might miss posting on my blogs and I wouldn't want that to happen.
Also, I may think I could do that while in the bus, but that can't be possible as I won't even concentrate especially when you start jumping into potholes and then it feels as if you are exercising yourself by jumping and your body starts to feel the pain it brings.
I left home at 10:30 am while the bus took off at exactly 11 am and I got home at 5 pm. Thank God they have worked a long way at home. I had to buy some things on the road as I called my brother to help me get some food down because I didn't taste anything since morning but told me there was no food in the house.
That's my way though. I don't eat when travelling as I would only get to my destination before doing that. My brother said they haven't bought any foodstuffs and they have been eating bread since they arrived on Monday. I quickly stopped by and bought some food we could eat that night, I mean everybody.
When I got home, the first thing I did even when I was so tired was to inspect the whole house. Though the outside looks so old and not pleasant to the eyes, the inside is so beautiful with nice decorations.
I remembered the adage that says do not judge the book by its cover.
I already did my video recording to be posted today before coming but getting here, I love the design but it means my next video would be recorded here by God's grace.
We have some tenants which most of them are students because the University isn't far from where we stay. The whole building is so dirty and I wonder why they couldn't even come up together to take care of the whole environment.
This would be our work today as my Aunt won't even leave it alone. She doesn't like seeing dirt and so, a real workaholic. She has been working since the morning before I came yesterday and she didn't leave there until 8:30 pm. My brother had to stop as he was already tired and also having a cold and catarrh.
At least there is electricity here because I need it to be online. Though I was told it has been on since Monday morning and they took it not long before I arrived. I might find some lies to leave here if they don't bring the light constantly because I can't afford to miss being online for my blogging.
I prepared dinner for everyone even though I managed to do that as I was having a headache. It got to an extent, I couldn't carry my body anymore. After eating, I took my bath and that was 11:23 pm and took my sleep. Before I slept, I made sure to visit 10 articles here and just 2 articles on Hive as I haven't had time to do so during the day.
They brought the light but I didn't know until she woke me up at 5 am informing me there was light.
Only for me to plug my gadgets and they took it back. I should be expecting the light soon. Thank God my two power banks haven't gone down, will manage them.
Let me use this opportunity to appreciate all my sponsors also. I forgot to take note of my two sponsors who renewed recently. @Jane and @FashTioluwa
Thanks so much. I appreciate it.
This is just an update of my journey yesterday and I bless God for being with me all through.
Thanks for reading
*All images are mine*
[July 27, 2022] (No 208 articles for the year)
I got into a dating app and met him.
*“Be unstoppable on this beautiful day.”*
Anonymous
It's been six months after Akin broke up with me. This was a relationship I thought would end up in marriage as both of us were already ripe enough and got everything we wanted, but I didn't know he wasn't ready yet as I saw him cheating on me. I couldn't believe my eyes when I caught him going into an hotel with a lady. I confronted him but he plainly and truthfully told me he wasn't ready to marry me and he wasn't even sure if he'd wanted to end up with me.
It was as if my world had just been shattered as I flashed back, trying to remember what position Akin was, after my previous relationships. If I am not mistaken, he would be the seventh guy standing before me now and indirectly telling me it is over.
I held the bedsheet at the edge of the bed and faced down, glaring at the ground as if to swallow me up because this is the end of it, as I said to myself.
I cried so bitterly as I watched him leave with his small bag. I couldn't even open my mouth to call him back because I know that was the end.
*“Hey babe! Don't tell me this is how you're going to be alone for the rest of your life... don't you think you need a man even after six months? You need someone to service those stiff areas underneath you.”* Tina teases while I kept smiling and minding my business.
*“Tina, thank you, but I am fine. I don't need any man to do anything. Do you even remember what I went through in the hands of guys? Do you still want me to go there and come back crying and wailing again? Never! I think I am done with this so-called relationship sef and I rather become single all my life.”*
*“Never! God forbid. My own Princess will never become that. What is wrong with you babe? Try once more. There are still good guys. You know what? I have this dating app you can go to called Tinder. Register and meet stunning guys and not the small boys you have been dating all this while.”*
*“Tina, please, can you just leave me alone? Have you ever seen me on any dating app before? I don't do online relationship. You know that.”*
*“Won't you guys later meet physically?”* She retorted!
*“Okay, please give this a try. I promise this would work fine. Believe this would work out. You know, I want the best for you dear?”* She turned to me holding my hands together with hers.
*“Okay, give me some time, and I will register. Did you just call it Tinder right? I will.”*
A few days later, I was in my room, lying while listening to this song, then I remembered what Tina told me and quickly, I downloaded the app on playstore.
I sat straight on my bed while I registered and did other things. I need to set up my profile. What should I write? I started thinking of different words as I kept erasing from my keyboard.
*This is Princessbusayo. A blogger and I work from home. A beautiful 28 years old lady with a smile that melts the heart. I am here for a friendship. Do you care?*
I uploaded one of my simple photos.
*“This is it...”* I said to myself.
I set up my profile and continued scrolling to see different photos of guys, just as Tina advised.
While doing that, a message came in and I was like wow! So fast? I got a message already.
*“Hi, this is Adam. You look so pretty and I would like to see you smiling in reality just as you said in your profile.”*
I quickly ran a check on his profile and I saw something that made my heart skip a bit. I couldn't stop my eyes from checking his picture. Damn, this is an handsome man. He wore a brown shirt, carrying a little puppy in his hand.
I replied him back and at first, he didn't believe my age because I look so young but I told him I am being sincere. He asked what brought me to Tinder because he saw I just registered and according to him, he registered a few days ago as he needed someone and guess he had found one already.
He asked if we could chat better on WhatsApp. I gave him my number and immediately he sent a message to me. I logged out of the dating site and we continued our chats thereafter.
I got to know he is 35 years old and needed a serious lady for a relationship and he wouldn't mind if we can start from being friends just as I wanted. He works as a website developer in a company being partnered together with his friend.
Seeing him, he looks so cool and I think this is the kind of guy I want. He is independent, and so am I.
I explained everything to Tina and she was so happy and believed I had found him. I stared at her and reminded her we only started talking.
After two weeks of chatting online, he asked for a date with me. I couldn't believe my eyes. He wanted us to see each other but I was scared if he would like me if he sees me.
We picked a date. Tina ordered a nice gown for me. I gave Adam the address where he would come pick me up. Tina kept assuring me all will be well as I told her I am nervous.
The bell rang and I knew it was him. It was Tina who went to open the door and when he entered and waited for a few minutes, I came out. I was so shy but he stood up and came towards me. He held my hand and kissed it.
*“You look gorgeous”*, he whispered into my ear and gave me another kiss on my forehead.
He hugged me for the first time as I looked at Tina. She signalled to me to calm down.
We left the house as he opened the car's door for me to enter and drove off. We got to a big lounge and took a long seat at one corner, sitting beside each other while we talked and giggled.
It was already late and he asked if we could spend the night together in the hotel room. He promised not to do any harm and that night was the best I have ever had.
The next morning, he ordered some meals for us and we ate. We had a good rounds of sex as he took me to cloud nine. I quickly took a shower after the fun.
He took me home and while getting down from his car, he said *“I am coming back for you baby”*. We kissed and I got down.
Tina was at the door all the time we arrived and she couldn't stop grinning with smiles.
We both walked inside and I gisted her.
**The End!!!**
This is a fictional write up as it was a challenge I participated on Hive last week, following the topic which I chose. Here is it;
*You’re designing your dating app profile. What do you write, how do you present yourself and what photos do you load on the site? Are you honest or do you fabricate the truth? What types of people do you target and what do you think your first date might be like...and the morning after?*
Thanks for reading
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[July 26, 2022] (No 207 articles for the year)
Who is hurt the more in a relationship?
*“I know...and I love you. But I don't think we love each other in the same way. And...I think keeping you near me, would destroy me.”*
S.C. Stephens https://www.goodreads.com/quotes/tag/hurt-feelings
Kate and Joe broke up their relationship and she watched as he left. Kate had always been this hygienic lady and would always want her boyfriend to be clean every time he wants to touch her, kiss her, cuddle her etc. The day they broke up, Joe had just returned from his workplace and wanted to hug her, but she refused him saying he needs to shower first and brush his teeth.
He was mad at her. He was tired of the relationship with how Kate kept clinging to this hygienic stuff. He went away and since that day, she was always hurting and would drink alcohol to a stupor until she sleeps off and the next day, her head would be banging so hard. She kept doing this to herself.
After many months, she went out to eat after being indoors for long. At the restaurant, she saw Joe walked in with a lady. He had moved on while Kate was still thinking about him and hurting herself. As she tried to stand up to leave, her legs wobbled and she fell. It was obvious in Joe's eyes that she is still thinking, whereas he had moved on completely with his life.
That was how I got the title of my post this morning. I asked Olasquare to get his point and here is what he said
*There is no way to determine it. It depends on the person who did more... it's not gender specific.*
That is the truth because it is something I have to share in my opinion also.
There is no gender specific when it comes to being hurt the most in a relationship. Both genders get hurt depending on who served the other breakfast just as a slang used for who did the breakup.
This is just like a guy who bought something for a lady and thought she would love it, but when he presented it, the lady refused and declined it. The lady won't feel the pain more than the guy who bought it.
Same thing in a relationship. If a guy broke a lady's heart first, especially without any reason or perhaps had one excuse to give her, the lady was caught unexpectedly and that could make her hurt more as the guy moves on with his life because there is an extra somewhere but no one for the lady.
Kate never expected Joe to leave her because of what transpired between them and she was shocked when he said it was over. Where should she start even though it may take months for her to get herself back?
The same thing goes with a lady who has a new partner and leaves her present relationship for her reasons, the guy if he truly loves her would get hurt because he wasn't waiting for such a thing to happen.
In another way, both parties get hurt especially when it comes to them not coming together to find ways to solve the lapses in their relationship. There would be cases where they have tried to make things work together but nothing is happening and they just had to come to a compromise. Even though it would be a win-win situation for them, they still feel the hurt while they try to find things to heal the wound.
It's more painful when both parties come to know that they aren't compatible in the aspect of health issues. Perhaps their genotypes are the issue here and they have both gone a long way in loving each other and doing many things together.
Being hurt when there is separation or divorce takes time to get healed and if care isn't taken, they can commit suicide because of the love they have both shared.
While some would get over it within a month or less, others would take years for them to make the wound heal except they leave such an area where they know both of them could always see each other by chance. Seeing each other again after a breakup brings those memories again and opens a healed wound.
So, in my own opinion, no gender is left out when it comes to who gets hurt the most in a relationship. It depends on who did it first.
Thanks for reading
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[July 25, 2022] (No 206 articles for the year)
No one is unlucky. Hold onto this.
*“Luck always seems like it belongs to someone else.”*
David Levien https://kidadl.com/quotes/top-luck-quotes-to-bring-some-magic-into-your-life
Happy new week people! I hope you are ready to grind more than last week? Yes, one thing we should never fail to forget is being grateful for everything that happened last week.
Those challenges, situations and circumstances, failures, blessings, favour, those friends who turned up, those who disappointed, the places you went to, but were turned down, places you went to and gave you that beautiful smile, the moment you woke up each day and realize all is gone, the moment you woke up and saw you hit the jackpot.
The moment you realized he or she wasn't truthful to you, the moment you felt great in yourself, the goals you worked hard on but met some unexpected circumstances, etc. Be grateful for everything.
Be grateful that you could wake up each day last week to eat something. Be grateful you could walk out of the house and see someone begging and you have something with you. Be grateful for the siblings you fought with. Be grateful for them because you laughed with them at the end.
Be grateful because you aren't hurt. Be grateful for the pains they caused you. Be grateful for the lessons you came across, the good and bad ones. Always be grateful. Be grateful for the one who is lucky now but you aren't. It doesn't mean you won't be lucky.
“Everyone is lucky, we are all lucky, but it comes at different times and ways.”
I am reading a book presently and there are many lessons I have jot down and would be explaining more in my posts later on. One of them is this I would be narrating so you can get a glimpse of my sayings.
*Kate and Alicia have been friends for a long time. Kate stays in San Francisco while Alicia stays in Los Angeles. Kate has a boyfriend they have been together with for years but just a little issue separated them. She cried and talked to her friend about it.*
*Alicia suggested she comes to LA so she would forget about him completely. She arrived in LA and met Alicia and her fiance who would be getting married soon. The engagement ring she saw on her finger made her remember her break-up with her boyfriend.*
*When she took her home, she saw how beautiful the house is. It has a swimming pool on the rooftop of the house. As they were talking, Kate felt sad and told Alicia that she is lucky to have such a caring man who had it all and showered her with love.*
*Alicia said they have many times broken up and come back together. Those were her hard time but she chose not to get worried over it just like Kate.*
*“Alicia, you are very lucky.” Kate said.*
*Alicia said, “We all are lucky, it only comes at different times and ways”.*
This is the truth about everyone. God has created us so well that we only need to be patient for our own time to come.
Everyone is lucky at different times and in different ways. Your way isn't my way and what I may achieve today and you haven't achieved, doesn't make me lucky and you unlucky. It's just that your time hasn't come yet and the ways with which it will be achieved haven't been made yet.
That is why I feel sad when people are trying to bring another person down just because they aren't patient to see what is ahead of them and understand that everyone is lucky at different times.
There is time and season for every one of us to make it and succeed in whatever we are doing.
When it rains, it sends down showers of blessing. The rain has its purpose and that makes it lucky but it doesn't make the sunny season to be unlucky because it will shine when the time comes.
Your friend made it before you doesn't mean you aren't okay or lucky too. It is your friend's time and everyone is different. Wait for your time and have the belief that your lucky time will arrive when you are being patient and trusting God.
Thanks for reading
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[July 24, 2022] (No 205 articles for the year)
Not everybody criticizes...
*“Any fool can criticize, complain, and condemn—and most fools do. But it takes character and self-control to be understanding and forgiving.”*
Dale Carnegie https://www.goodreads.com/quotes/tag/criticism#:~:text=%E2%80%9CAny%20fool%20can%20criticize%2C%20complain,to%20be%20understanding%20and%20forgiving.%E2%80%9D&text=%E2%80%9CLet%20me%20never%20fall%20into,persecuted%20whenever%20I%20am%20contradicted.%E2%80%9D&text=%E2%80%9COften%20those%20that%20criticise%20others%20reveal%20what%20he%20himself%20lacks.%E2%80%9D
I love it when it's Saturday because it's the end of a wonderful week and the next arrives with another great week. Happy weekend everyone. How are you doing? This week has been great just as I narrated in my post yesterday and I look forward to many amazing weeks till the end of the year. May God continue to keep us safe and spare our lives in Jesus' name.
Criticism comes from people and I don't think there's anyone in life who hasn't been criticized in different ways.
Have you been criticized before? What *did they say? How were you able to overcome it? Are you the one that feels less of yourself because of what they say to you? Do you try to confront them or do you ignore them? Do you allow their definition of negativity to affect your life?*
One thing I want to tell you this morning is that those who criticize you, are the ones doing less than you and not someone doing more than you.
@HappyBoy replied to my post a few days ago and differentiate between being envious of someone and being jealous. Being envious is wishing you have what others have and being jealous happens when you start wishing them bad and trying to hurt them.
This is why you see many friends ruining themselves and wishing them dead because their existence and excelling in life is making them hurt the more and the best thing for them is to kill them so they won't see more of them again.
The truth is that when you are making progress in life and another isn't, they will start saying things behind you and making you feel as if what you are doing is wrong.
Though there is positive criticism that helps you improve in your life. People who do this are those who are doing more than you but they also want you to be great. They professionally criticize you and give you some guidelines to help you grow too. This kind of people wants the best for you and they understand that they also started from somewhere and seeing others becoming great than them isn't any problem to them. After all, let's be great together makes a friendship last longer.
The negative critics are those who are doing less than you and are unhappy when they see you doing better than them. They start to talk behind you, finding ways to stop you and working different tactics to prevent you from getting something which could benefit you.
They are happy sending negativity to you and telling you what you are doing wrong and aren't ready to help you. They believe if they give you some information, you might be better than them and so, they prefer to take the praises all the time without giving you a chance to prove your ability.
The best way to avoid them is to know the kind of attitude they bring to you. Be careful not to release too much of yourself to them. Look for people who are ready to see you excelling and associate with them.
Don't expose your goals to people especially the ones who wouldn't want to see you happy because they would eventually ruin it all for you.
Not everyone would like you and how you are doing better than them. They keep finding means to bring you down and once they get some information about you, that is the end.
Instead of them trying to improve too, they are seeing you doing better and sad. The problem with this kind of person is that they are too proud to come to you for help and so, they make you feel bad about yourself. They paint different pictures and scenarios into your head and make you change your normal ways just to suit them and once they have achieved their aims, they start to work behind you and go better than you.
Don't give them the chance at all but keep improving and learning the best. Do what is right in your eyes and never listen to their negative criticisms.
Those who criticize and never proffer solutions for you are the worst people ever. Even your friends can be in that category and would never want you to live while doing better than them.
So, always believe in yourself and your ability. Find those who want to see you doing better too while they are also improving.
Thanks for reading
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[July 23, 2022] (No 204 articles for the year)
Today is Friday, let's talk randomly.
*“Together we can change the world, just one random act of kindness at a time.”*
Ron Hall https://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/ron_hall_898977?src=t_random
Happy Friday my friends, from Nigeria and other parts of the world. Are you excited already? Especially those who are working and waking up to meet up with office work. I believe for the few days before Monday, you gonna spend it unwinding and enjoying yourself with your families. Family is the best gift from God and let's cherish their existence with us.
This week has been amazing and lazy for me as well and I would blame the weather for it. This season keeps pressing me down not to engage more even though I still try my best during the day, but I need to also be awake during the night to grind more but it seems the weather isn't happy with me yet. Doing some of my activities at night would reduce the workload for me during the day as I would even have more time to do other things but I keep running without waiting, just so I could meet up with the day's target.
Did I tell you I got an offer to become an admin for Blurttribe on Blurt Blockchain? Oh! I guess I didn't, but I became one last week I think and here is the logo I made for it with a post on blurt and to my surprise, I got the first ever and highest vote on it because even the co-founder of Blurt came around. This coming Monday will make it two weeks.
Ever since then, my activities here have reduced because I had to balance all three blogging platforms together so no one would be left unattended. Every day, I curate a few posts with the tags “blurttribe” and report to my boss at the end of the day, and this only happens at night as I don't spend much time on it. If you are on blurt and you want your quality posts to be curated, consider adding blurttribe as one of your tags and one of us would visit your posts.
This picture was taken yesterday with the above one when I and my friend went out. She accompanied me to the centre where I would be collecting my original PVC which is “Permanent Voter's Card” since I registered in February, and I was only given laminated paper. When we got there at 8 am, I wondered if those people present slept at their houses too because we met a bunch of people there but I wasn't scared since the majority of them were there to register for the first time.
A woman met me and started asking questions which I replied to her and she has this cute little son that was friendly and we became friends immediately. He kept coming to me while I made him watch some funny videos on my phone. We played and he made my day at the centre. I wanted to take a picture of us together but I was afraid because not everyone would like such an idea. His name is Miracle by the way.
Someone came to address us and I realized I would have to come back in a few months because my original card isn't yet out.
Something that made me happy and excited again yesterday was seeing Dara's video of her dancing so well with other pupils who were doing choreography. She danced with her energy and I was just so proud of her. Dara is @Olasquare 's beautiful daughter and she is so smart and talented.
One thing I observed in her is that she would grow up to become a big model and someone who wants to lead others and I am sure she has got the ability in her. There was another video her dad posted on WhatsApp where she took over the class and was teaching her friends in class. She wants to be a controller I guess and someone who wouldn't take no for an answer when she grows up.
The woman I met yesterday at the centre saw her while I was watching her video, and was surprised at such energy she used in dancing and doing what others were doing. She couldn't believe such a little girl could do that. She is so great and I know that. She doesn't want to be left out and so, she grabs every opportunity around her. As little as she is, she is vibrant, active and also an extrovert who wants to mingle with others and not feel lonely. I know she can't be since that's her nature.
Have you seen her smile before? Here she is with that infectious smile. It is so contagious and I am glad to know such a beautiful young girl. She smiles just like her father.
I already told her father that when I come to Lagos, I am coming for her and I would spend Bch money on her because I met her father on Readcash 😁
Yesterday was really fun because of her and the young boy I met yesterday.
I feel God has just been faithful to me because I am always enjoying His goodness. Every week, I know I would be lucky, especially on Hive and He has always come to my aid whenever I call Him. My friend asked me yesterday how she could also talk and dialogue with God?
I smiled and told her God is always available everywhere because He is omnipresent. There is no how you can't talk to your father. Just as we discuss things with our earthly father, same thing with talking to God.
I told her how I talk to God most times as if I am seeing Him face to face. I sit down while I talk to Him as if we are in a meeting and that is because every day, I make it my priority to speak to Him. You can also do that too, isn't it? Talk to Him as if He is sitting with you and listening to your worries as you pour them out to Him.
I enjoy it when I talk to God and there are different ways I do that. God is always answering and listening to us when we discuss things with Him. Those things we want and do not want, He hears but when you don't talk to Him, though He knows what you need, He will not do it because He sees it that you aren't ready to ask anything from Him and you know we cannot do anything outside Him? Speak to your Father always.
Thanks for reading
[July 22, 2022] (No 203 articles for the year)
She is relocating finally
Just as this life isn't a permanent one because we all are strangers on earth while we would return home someday to meet our creator. The same thing with my Aunt, as she is finally relocating from a state to her state of origin but she isn't returning to her hometown.
This would take place this Saturday as she has packed everything and gotten a big truck that would occupy her and her properties to the new house in the North Central Part of Nigeria in Ilorin.
My Aunt had stayed in Ibadan for over 30 years and she has been living all her life alone till today. Though she is a nice woman, I have been through a hard time staying with her and out of many children who stayed with her, I was the one who stayed longer than 10 years and still counting even though it isn't like before. I only visit her and return to my place.
I knew when she packed into this house in the year 2012 because we both went together. Relocating from one house to another is not easy because of the stress of arranging things in the right order at the new house.
She had a misunderstanding with the landlord and was given a quit notice. I know it was her fault but the man has refused her pleadings even when she sent people to him but he declined, asking her to pack out before August.
I got to know of this when I travelled home in April and since then, I have been worried because my Aunt only has her family and no husband or children of her own. We are her children and no matter what she has done to us in the past, we can't ignore her as she is still our family and at this moment, we don't want her to feel as if she doesn't have children, so we aren't far away from her.
At this point, I realized the importance of having a man in your life because you won't have to do things on your own but both of you would join hands together. At her age, it is difficult relocating all alone to another house.
Thank God for the properties she has. She is selling most of them now to have money to foot many things. Though the family supported her, she needs money of her own too. No savings but she depended on her properties and that has saved her this time.
She got a house in Ilorin which cost her $600 including the agent fee. So, this means from next year, she would only be paying less than that. The house is big and I wonder how she would cope, all by herself with no one around her. She is 58 years already and should be 59 or 60 this coming December, I can't remember though.
She called me some weeks ago pleading I should come over to stay with her for a few weeks since I am not doing anything for now and I felt for her and decided to go to her new rented apartment.
My brother has travelled to Ibadan as he would be helping her with the loads to Ilorin while I will only go to meet them there instead of travelling back to Ibadan.
My brother is also at home due to the ASUU STRIKE and once it is called off, he would return to school and once my NYSC is opened, I would leave too and it would remain her in the house, but for now, she should enjoy our companies around her. Thank God the house is a student area and she only has one tenant upstairs and they are students. At least she won't feel bored with them.
She will be missed in Ibadan because she has stayed longer there and she is used to everyone. Her customers would miss her too because according to people, she is the best dry-cleaner as she drycleans for lawyers, judges, bankers and big personnel.
Finally, she would be in her state and wouldn't be far from her grandma. From her place to our hometown should only take less than two hours and that's fine than spending over 5-6 hours from Ibadan and when there is traffic, it becomes longer.
I am preparing to travel soon to help her with arranging her stuff and another way to change the environment for myself too.
Thanks for reading
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[July 21, 2022] (No 202 articles for the year)
Who is a wife material?
*“Inspiration is one thing and you can’t control it, but hard work is what keeps the ship moving. Keep up the good work.”*
Kevin Eubanks https://www.spiritbutton.com/wednesday-quotes/#ixzz7ZZYd8Y00
How do you qualify a lady to be a wife material? When a lady can cook, take care of the house, and the children, not be lazy, be very hardworking etc. These are some qualities many people see to make them conclude, that the lady is ready to get married and be a good wife.
I couldn't stop laughing on Twitter when I saw a man tweeted this. According to him, a lady going to spend the weekend at her boyfriend's place should not be told what to do before she knows she needs to get up early to do some of her duty in the house as wife material.
This made me remember a time I went to spend the weekend at my boyfriend's place and that night, I cooked and cleaned everywhere. The next day, I was up early and started preparing breakfast for him and his friend who came around that day. Where did the relationship end today? 😅
I think we aren't getting something somewhere because I wouldn't even accept a lady going to visit her boyfriend and start waking up early just to act as a wife material when you aren't sure of where the relationship is going except you know it would be leading to marriage because some guys do not appreciate that. So why stressing yourself?
I saw a guy washing his clothes outside one day and someone asked where was his girlfriend? The guy said something I held onto to this day “She isn't my wife yet and so, I must do my thing except she asks for it”.
Being in a relationship doesn't make you start washing, cleaning, and doing everything in his home, except you want to cook which both of you would eat. I am not sounding irrational here but that is how I see it. Except I know where the relationship is leading to, would I even want to spend some weekend at his place and that alone wouldn't make me not to do something. At least I am in someone's house and not mine.
Also, not waking up early at a man's house doesn't mean I am lazy too even though I don't sleep beyond 6 am except if I am sick or weak.
I saw different comments and they were so funny.
A lady was surprised and commented. She said this was another new insight because she isn't getting what the man is saying. According to her, what if as a tech lady who is always working every night all through, would she also be expected to wake up at 8 am to prepare food or clean the house for him? Does that mean she isn't a wife material?
Seriously, I don't know what to say because I need to ask if serving a lady breakfast in the morning is now a crime? 😆😆
A friend asked me sometimes back if I would work on the first day at my fiance's parent's house? I smiled and said the parents wouldn't want to test me on that very day their son brought me home to introduce me.
The truth is, if I am staying over at their house, I would still want to act as a stranger the first day and wouldn't want to be too forward except if I was asked to, but the next day, it means I am no longer a stranger but part of the family. So, I might just help with some little task that doesn't require putting all my energy. If they want to use that to test me, that would be unfair 😅😅
Another guy commented that he broke up with a lady because she came to spend two days at his place and didn't even touch the broom and she only took her bath once a day. He said the lady didn't know till now why he broke up with her. That's unfair na. At least she needs to know so she can change.
Why would a lady even visit her boyfriend and stays for a few days and never touch a broom to sweep? And the worse is having her bath only once a day? 😁😁
I know how I feel if I don't take my bath at night before sleeping and this is what I do always. So, as a lady, you should practice being clean and neat in all areas. Some ladies would wear their bras for a week🤣🤣 Why na?
Twitter had just made my day early this morning and I decided to share them with you here.
As a lady, if you need to spend the weekend or weeks at your boyfriend's or fiance's house, then you should do your duty because it would be embarrassing if he is a neat guy and you can't be that way. These are some of the things men see in a lady and conclude they would marry. Be neat and organized.
Now, let me leave you with this question as I saw it as a comment too. A lady said she went to her boyfriend's house and met everywhere dirty. The kitchen, bathroom and bedroom were stinking and she had to do her part to clean them up as she couldn't stay in such a home.
If you are the lady, what would you do? Leave the relationship? Talk to him if he would change? Endure and keep doing things for him? Remember you are still courting and not married yet.
Thanks for reading
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[July 20, 2022] (No 201 articles for the year)
Shying away from responsibility
*“In order to win and succeed in life, responsibility is so important. This is a part of being an adult and learning how to be responsible for everything.”*
Tonya R. Owens https://www.wow4u.com/responsibility-quotes/
I think writing more about me personally makes you know who I am really. I love that as I enjoy talking about myself and my character. Even though I have my flaws, especially the anger issue but wouldn't it shock you if I tell you that I am mindful of that in the public but only exercise it more within my family?
Something I am always understanding is that your family will still bear and cope with you but people outside would think you have gone crazy and they will keep coming up with different talks and would even look at different perspectives away from you. Family is everything but that does not mean I should use their tolerances and keep venting out my anger even unnecessarily.
Something about me is that I don't shy away from my responsibility. I do things when I know it's my turn and it's something meant for me to do. What do I mean here? I don't know how to explain myself better but with this example, you should get what I am saying here.
Where I stay, we are thirteen tenants as students. We each have our days when we wash the toilet and bathroom and one thing about me is that I don't complain but when it's my turn, I do it. It's my responsibility and I should do it.
Some people wouldn't even take it up when it's their turn to wash the toilet and bathroom because someone didn't wash it before it got to their turn and they would be like *“this person didn't wash it yesterday and it would be so dirty, I can't do it too”.*
I used to say something that if someone refuse to do what he should have done and another person refuses to do it too, everyone would be blamed in the end as no one would be exempted. What you have to do when it's your turn, please do it.
Not taking responsibility when it's your turn makes you immature but when you know when to do things, that is when the maturity in you comes out and makes people know you aren't being childish.
Yesterday, I was forced to check the date to know when I would be washing the toilet and many students have gone home making the toilet left unwashed for days. When I checked the date, I got to know a friend who I took as bestie was supposed to wash and she was around. I called and reminded her and the next thing she said was *“I can't wash this toilet. No one has washed it for some days now and it would be so dirty. I can't wash it too”.*
I was hurt in my heart for her to say such and she is even two years older than me. I said to her *“That isn't how life should be. It's your turn to wash the toilet and you shouldn't be saying because others didn't wash and you wouldn't wash it”*
Most times, I even wash the toilet on some days when I have seen no one has washed it.
She kept quiet saying she would wash later as she didn't even know it was her turn. I smiled and just waved it off. This is someone that has always stood on that word many times and I would even talk to her not to see it that way but to do her own. If others didn't do it, that doesn't mean you should not do it too.
It was my turn the next day and I woke up early and did what I needed to do. She didn't wash it later yesterday and I never complained.
This is something I am used to right from time and I don't complain. If the toilet stay unclean, I wouldn't like it and dirtiness isn't my thing. I can't be bathing and perceiving odour or trying to slip on the ground because the ground is slippery.
The thing is, we all would suffer for it if everyone stays out of their responsibility because someone didn't do it.
Where I live with my parents then, none of the tenants including the landlord wash the gutter at the front of the house where people pass through. I always wash it every Saturday and when people pass by, they start to pray and wish me well.
I love to handle things as if they were my stuff and the way I would want others to help treat my things, I would do it too because I follow what the word of God that says “do unto others what you would have them do to you”
I hope you get what I am trying to pass across here? When you know your responsibility and take action, it reveals how mature and responsible you are.
You are not a fool when you do things meant for everyone, when others are ignoring or refusing to do it, it helps you personally and it's for yourself.
Thanks for reading
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[July 19, 2022] (No 200 articles for the year)
Testimony Time.
*“We testify of what we have experienced and witnessed. May our testimony inspired others to share their story.”*
Lailah Gifty Akita https://www.goodreads.com/quotes/tag/testimony
Testimonies are ways to inspire people especially in moving closer to God. I love hearing some testimonies that will make me move closer to God because I want to receive such miracles too. Testimony is a way of telling you that God does exist and still working miracles for those who believe and have strong faith.
But testimony has turned into something else that only makes you laugh so hard when someone is giving his or her testimony and most times, doesn't move or inspire someone. When we are told to come to give our testimonies, many people would come out and by the time you listen to them, while some, you are moved with tears and feel so emotional but in the end, you bless God for their lives but others, you just keep smiling and thinking *“Is this a testimony or show off?”.*
For the time I have been in a gathering of brethren, I have encountered different types of people who give testimonies and how it goes. Mind you, this is only for fun and not in any way making jest of people. At least, I want us to laugh for a while before you move to the next article on your browser.
These are the ones I was able to gather but I don't mind if I can have more in the comment section. I know @Kacy01 is good at making us laugh and being an usher, he would have had many types. Lol
Note: The announcer will say something like this;
*“If you know you have a testimony to share with us in the house of God, kindly signify by raising your hand. Please, go straight to the point. What happened and what God did for you. Make it short and it's just 2 mins. If you are singing, sing. If you are sharing your testimony, share but don't sing and share at the same time. Thanks.* (Handing over the Microphone to each set of individuals now.)
The short and simple details type of people.
*“Praise the Lord! I just want to thank God for the salvation of my soul and for adding another year to my year. I am plus one today or I will be plus one in a few days time.”*
*“Praise God! God saved me from a severe headache last night”*
Just as these sets of people, they don't go beyond the time. They keep to time and never waste people's time.
The singing type of people
*“Praise the Lord! I have a song to appreciate God with. Thanks for listening...”* (They sing a song while the whole church sings with them)
These kinds of people also keep to time and are conscious when they pick a song to sing.
The “Just” and show- o**ff type of people**
Yoruba people will understand this word mostly used by some people especially the ladies when they are giving testimonies.
They will be like;
*“Praise the Lord! I don't even know where to start from sef (the congregation will echo, start from anywhere) I don't even know, I just want to give God the glory “sha” I don't know what to say but I “sha” give thanks to God.*
They would start twisting every part of their bodies and moving from one place to another.
I see them as showing off and do not respect God. Why did they come out? To show off because the “sha” they used is like disrespecting God and being forced to give testimony.
The 2 in 1 type of people
These type of people thinks they are smart and can just use the chance to do both. They will be like;
*“Praise the Lord! God saved me from an accident last week on my way to work. I couldn't believe what happened because I almost jumped off the tricycle carrying me. It has been God and He has been faithful. I want to use this song to appreciate His safety in my life (they start to sing)”*
These people already used their time and the congregation would start murmuring. Lol
The long details type of people
Hahahaha. Here comes the boss of them all. Just be ready to hear different narration and laugh.
They hold the microphone and be like;
*“Praise the Lord! Children of God, praise the Lord. God saved me from a gunshot last month. This was how it happened...”*
At that moment, we already know the person would go beyond the time given.
The testifier Continues...
*“I was in the bus on my way to my place of work. I am a manager in my office. My car had a fault and it was with the mechanic. As we were going, a woman sat beside me and we were talking. The next thing was gboooaahhh. We had a gunshot and our bus packed immediately.*
*As we were trying to find a way, someone came behind me and pushed me away telling me to bring all I have.*
*I gave them my phone and money, I was shouting Jesus in my mind. The next thing was peewee, they shot someone and at that moment, I couldn't breathe. I was lost but I continued shouting Jesus.*
*The next thing I heard again was “Hey woman, get up why are you disturbing us with this Jesus?” They pointed a gun at me and I screamed blood of Jesussssssss. Then, they left and we continued.....”*
At this moment, the announcer would be giving signals to end it.
So, what did the Lord do for you?
Children of God! This woman has been saved from death. Thank you ma, can you go back to your seat
Then the next thing that would make the whole church shout would be;
*“My second testimony again is that...”*
The brethrens would shout and murmur as the microphone would be collected from the testifier 🤣🤣🤣
Thanks for reading
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[July 18, 2022] (No 199 articles for the year)
I was jealous of her.
*“He who envies others does not obtain peace of mind.”*
Buddha
I missed showing up at the hangout on Discord yesterday and I was pained because I didn't go anywhere even the church program that took place. Since I joined the workforce in church, I have been missing the Hive Learners hangout every Saturday but yesterday I didn't go anywhere, I forgot to attend. Though the rain fell all through yesterday. Perhaps that made me forget until, after the end of the program, I saw I was tagged in my notification and I remembered the fun moment.
The Hive Learners would always come around every Saturday to vote for different questions for the week. Five questions are sent to the group and everyone would vote their choice. Whichever three questions get the highest votes would be the weekly edition for this week starting from Monday to Saturday.
When I saw the questions, one of the questions I suggested wasn't picked. Then, I saw another favourite question I would like to write something on but wasn't picked, I decided I would write about it here to satisfy my urge in making a post about it because it's something I need to talk about.
**Here is the question;**
*“We all have been in situations where we felt people were jealous of us for no reason. Or where we were jealous of others. Tell us about your experience with jealousy and how you were able to overcome it. You might be teaching someone”.*
I don't think anyone of us hasn't been jealous of another person in different ways. You might see a particular dress on a person and you wished you could get it. You saw a shoe you admire so much and you wish the person putting it on should be you. You might see someone achieving something better than you and you feel you are the one.
Okay, let's leave that one and come down to what we do here. I have been jealous of many users here before. Seeing the huge upvote they get daily made me wish I was the one and most times, I would be discouraged not earning such an amount of money.
But do you know what? I was jealous, yes, I admit that but it made me work hard to get there too and one thing that kept me going and focusing on what I should do better was when I realized someone else behind me is jealous of my achievement here. I kept to that word and was busy doing my own and with time, I got over it because I was earning something too. If they could get it, why would mine be different?
It's normal to be jealous but it becomes abnormal when you are so obsessed to the extent of harming yourself or someone because they are doing better than you.
I have seen people being jealous of another on a platform to the extent that they spammed accounts because they weren't earning much more than them. Just as in the case of Uptrennd platform where I was. I was so surprised people could act in such a way. Instead of letting that encourage you to work hard and do your best, you start spamming and plagiarizing. That isn't the way, nigga.
Alright, this isn't where I am going because I have something I should narrate here. I was jealous of that person and today, it turned another way around because I saw myself doing better than her.
It happened in the year 2019 when I got admission for my degree studies. I and this friend were living together but something happened along the way which made us separated. I had wanted to be on my own though because I don't like pairing rooms with someone. Fights and misunderstandings will occur somehow and I don't want that.
She met a guy who was in the same department and level as us, he was living with us in the same compound but he is a little bit rich. That was how my friend clung to him and he made her school daughter.
To cut the long story short, this lady gave me her phone one day to hold for her while she went somewhere. Perhaps she wanted me to see for myself, I don't know, because it never happened before. Her phone beeped and I saw a notification of an alert where she was having #250,000. That was like $440+ or so.
Then I scanned through the amount in my account then and was having only $10 in my account. I felt jealous of her and wished the money was mine. I began to calculate the money and do some imaginary spendings in my mind. Then, I didn't have any other thing I was doing apart from Uptrennd and I haven't started earning much then.
I started reminding myself of my age and what I have presently when my mates are having thousands and billions and here I am having such little amount and it was what I had as pocket money.
Then suddenly, I came back to my senses and said something I will never forget. **“I will have more than this one day”**
I never knew when it would be but I had the belief I would, and ever since then, I stopped being jealous and minded my business.
Today, I can tell you that I have spent more than that through the blogging platforms I am in and doing better today than her. Whenever she hears that I am going out with some friends, she would come out to see what I was wearing.
I could say I make my money but she doesn't do anything apart from depending on this guy she calls her school father.
This all came to pass because I minded my business and did all I could. Sleepless nights, working hard daily to make sure I get something and so proud to be who I am today. Jealousy isn't my thing anymore because I believe that I can get what I wish for through prayers and hard work.
You can also do this. Praying for what you desire and keep working hard. Someone said, instead of wishing for something from someone that you could have, why not pray for it and at the same time work for it. Don't wish, instead take action and it is yours.
Stop being jealous but celebrate others, their achievement and wins. Then, you can be rest assured that you will be celebrated too.
Thanks for reading
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[July 17, 2022] (No 198 articles for the year)
This is my motivation. I need to keep going.
*“If there’s one thing I’m willing to bet on, it’s myself.”*
Beyonce.
As we keep growing up, we learn more and more and someone you asked ten years ago “What is your motivation to become successful?” might say something different from another person. We all have different motivations but the same goal, which is to be successful in life. Who wouldn't want a good thing? Everyone is motivated by one thing or the other.
To some, it might be a teacher who has taught them and inspired them. To some, it might be seeing someone working so hard and overcoming all challenges and there is nothing like “Giving up” in their mindset.
While to others, their parents because they have gone through a lot for them and for them not to suffer till their death, they are motivated to work towards their goals and make it so that they can take them away from such penury life.
If you happen to ask me before now what my motivation is? I would tell you, it's my Aunt who is now living in the US due to her hard work and perseverance to make it and she is doing great with her children overseas as she sends money home to the family.
She is focused and goal driven and she will never want a lowlife or lack of ambition person to be around her, instead, she would train you and make you have a high mindset to achieving the best.
But now, ask me what my motivation is, and I will happily tell you “MYSELF”.
In my 28 years of living, I have seen and can differentiate a person without a goal from someone who is taking the biggest steps to make it in life. Of course, the former would live to regret it in future when he doesn't have anything to survive with, while the latter will surely be able to look back to see how far he has gone.
Every day of my life, I keep motivating myself especially when I remember what is ahead of me. I have seen many people who haven't yet known the purpose of their lives and are busy taking strolls to different areas without doing anything and when you ask them what is their goal in life, you wouldn't be surprised for such a person to open his or her mouth and say “I don't even know”.
Let me tell you something; one of the factors that could contribute to being demotivated is your **environment**.
Yes, if you don't have an inspiring environment where there are purpose-driven people who would strive hard to become successful, it will be difficult to grow and be motivated.
Though, if you are determined to be great, then your environment wouldn't define your greatness as you would have seen different people who have ended up becoming a liability and you wouldn't want to be like them. So, the best is to keep to yourself or find somewhere else where you can be more inspired.
Every day when I wake up to see the rays of light, I remind myself of the future and for me not to become a beggar, I should get up to do what I need to do. So, I find books, habits, and activities that could help me keep moving and doing better.
Each day is an opportunity and another chance to know I have somewhere I am going and I don't want to regret my actions, I should motivate myself and always remember that the future will be great if only I do the things I need to do now.
Another thing that motivates me would be my siblings.
Yes, I wouldn't want to fold my hands while they are doing better than me and in the end, I would be asking for a tip from my younger ones when I should be the one taking care of them.
They are the reason I keep going so that they would have someone to lean on if peradventure they need my help. For them to always know that they have a big sister who they can run to and not someone they would hiss at when my name is being mentioned.
In my tribe, if you, as the eldest do not have money or not successful, you don't have a say in your family except those who are rich and are doing great, and that could make you lose respect among the younger ones.
So, they are my motivation to keep going and do my best to be successful in life.
Thanks for reading
[July 16, 2022] (No 197 articles for the year)
Have you ever danced to a talking drum before?
*“Friday is a day to finish your goals for the week. It is a day to celebrate that which you set out to accomplish at the beginning of the week. Well done.”*
Byron Pulsifer
The feelings and happiness that I get when dancing to a talking drum are always of a high degree. Once I am in such a mood, I don't want the beat to stop, and that makes me want to give my best in dancing from my tribe.
I love my tribe and culture and this musical instrument is one of what makes us the best because there is more to this ordinary talking drum. In Church, the first thing I notice is seeing if the talking drum is available because that alone could make the service more interesting to me as I love to dance and am not shy.
It makes me proud to showcase my dancing skill. I can dance, provided there's a talking drum on set. I don't think anyone can beat me to dancing when talking drum is available 😜.
Talking Drum is always used many times on the first Sunday of each month because it's Thanksgiving moment and we ought to dance like never before.
Though on some Sundays, they don't show especially when you are hiring someone from outside and you get disappointed. Redeemed Christian Church of God is known to go with talking drum and it's always a special time dancing to the tone of the drum.
Aside from that, the player must be skilled and knows how to play the instrument or else, I might not enjoy the ambience around it. I love such a moment as it keeps me focused and in spirit to praise God. If, as a player cannot play this, it's like spoiling my mood for that day and it would look so boring and uninteresting to dance.
That doesn't mean I don't dance without it but there is always a difference when it is around and one can play it very well.
There is this man in my former church where I live before relocating. This is very obvious that in their family, they play talking drum and people like them have a special name which some bears “Ayangbemi” and the others.
Whoever that bears that first name called “Ayan”, it means they are from the family where talking drum is their lifestyle. This man can play different sounds to the drum and we would interprete the meaning by singing it out.
*Enough of that... Let me explain what a talking drum is*
The talking Drum which is called “Gangan” in my language is one of the best musical instruments in the Yoruba culture. I don't think other tribe uses it, but I can boldly say the Yoruba people use this in any event.
The talking drum is an hourglass-shaped drum from West Africa. The pitch of Gangan can be regulated to mimic the tone and prosody of human speech (this is the part I love).
Talking Drum has two drumheads that are connected by leather tension cords, which allows the player to change the pitch of the drum and this can be done when he or she squeezes the cords between arm and body.
Talking Drum can be played by both males and females and it amazes and admires me more when a female plays it. I have gone to a program where a young girl of about 12 years played all through the night and that alone interests me.
Learning the talking drum depends on the kind you are going for, whichever you want, as the duration and time of learning it varies. If you just want to have fun playing it, then, time isn't necessary as to some, it might take a month, and if you want to play along with music, the time duration is 6 months.
But if you want to learn so that you can play at a Gig, then it may take you more than 2 years depending on how fast you are.
The reason it is called a talking drum is that it imitates or mimics spoken language's intonation and rhythm. The talking drum is used to communicate information over long distances.
It helps to settle disputes among members of a village and also helps in serving as a memory device to help people remember important events that took place in African society.
**Thanks for reading**
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[July 15, 2022] (No 196 articles for the year)
Rush in and regret.
*“Marry in haste, repent at leisure”.*
Samuel Johnson https://www.goodreads.com/quotes/10365-marry-in-haste-repent-at-leisure
I saw a chat last night which I also sent to my KP. In the chat, the young girl just clocked 26 years and celebrated her birthday. Her sister, I think sent a message to her wishing her a happy birthday and reminding her that she is 26 already and the next thing is for her to bring home a husband.
Do you know what the young girl replied to her? According to her, she told her sister she is still patient because she wouldn't want to select wrongly and in the end beg her siblings to help take care of her kids just like her sister. She said to her sister that she can't listen to any advice from her because she is an example of a marital demotivating factor.
Wow! That word is too much to say to her sister. Maybe the sister rushed into marriage and now begging her siblings to help take care of her children. Though it was not right to insult her like that, that's too much from her. I want to ask a question ***“Does a certain age determine when to get married actually?”***
Well, this topic isn't new to us anymore as we have seen and heard many stories of people who rush into marriage as if it is something interesting and easy, but they realized how they expected it to be isn't the way it is and they start to regret.
My parents gave birth to five of us, and I would tell you that we all lived with different Aunts to my Father. Though we were doing fine, their capacity couldn't take them to train us for higher education.
I have a friend we both graduated from the college of education. Though I graduated before her and the next year in 2016, she graduated too and the next thing I know was that she was pregnant for her fiance. She would always say once she graduates, she would go and marry.
Was that the next thing for her then? She has her decision and it's her life.
A few months after getting married, her father died. Till today, she hasn't balanced herself.
Every time she chat me up, she would always demand some money from me and I would give it to her on some days but right now, it's getting too much and I see that if I don't stop and give my limit, she would always come around to ask for more.
When I see her picture, I felt for her but what do I do? I have my own problems I am dealing with too. She has two kids now and many times, she would tell me to send her money to get some diapers, baby's food etc and I would be like “Is your husband not working?”
Her husband's work isn't that stable again while she is working in a school. Right now, she needs my help as she is planning to own a school. What do I have? Is that even another next thing to opt in for? Just like I said, it's her life and decision.
What am I trying to say here? Remember I told you how my Dad and maternal grandmother were pestering my life to bring home a husband just because I have finished school and also become 28 years old? I simply told them to wait for God's time and besides, we aren't in a haste.
They will not come to live with me in my husband's house and I would be the one carrying my cross there. So, I should wait and choose rightly than rush to get married when I have nothing to help me survive.
Questions we should ask ourselves are “Am I ready for this new beginning and the journey I am entering into?” “Do I have all resources to keep me going in my matrimonial home?”
*If you can give a reply to these questions, then I think you have gotten the right direction for yourself.*
Just because you are getting older and past the 20-30 years of age doesn't guarantee the time for marriage. We need to be patient and open our eyes to choose rightly and make sure we have all it takes to be in a marriage because it is not an easy journey.
Once you dip your feet into it, there's no going out again except if you want to divorce which doesn't speak well.
I think God is taking His time in my life so I wouldn't suffer in a man's house and while doing that, I should continue to work hard and imbibe good habits and attitudes that will make me the best woman.
I don't want my children to be scattered everywhere to the extent that I would always receive the worst insult of my life. I don't want to start begging all my life to survive in a man's house. I need to get it right now before it's too late.
There is no age limit to getting married. You aren't in a haste. There will never be latecomers in marriage. Wait for your time so you don't regret it.
Start working on yourself now as a single man or lady especially, and gather as many experiences to aid your journey to marriage. Above all, put God first in all you do and you will never regret it.
Thanks for reading
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[July 14, 2022] (No 195 articles for the year)
What a wonderful Monday it was....
*“Happiness consists more in conveniences of pleasure that occur everyday than in great pieces of good fortune that happen but seldom”.*
Benjamin Franklin https://www.keepinspiring.me/quotes-about-happiness/
Before I proceed, permit me please because I will be releasing loads of pictures today because I enjoyed looking at them and this surely would be my memory.
Last week, I got to know the theme for the challenge on Hive in the Hive Open Mic community and since then, I have been rehearsing the song with a beautiful soul. We rehearsed and practised so hard and on Monday, we went into the school to record using a nice background.
The lady on white sang with me while the other one was videoing us as we sing. It was so much fun and disturbing especially when people knew we were singing but decided to increase their volume and were passing by. It's so frustrating but we don't have a choice but to leave them while they leave.
The happiness in us when we finished recording and were snapping different pictures. I told them I would give them a share when I post and get rewarded because I should compensate them right?
One thing about me is that I love to appreciate you when you help me with something. You can decide not to render your help which I wouldn't get angry but when you leave whatsoever you are doing to be there for another person, then, I think he or she should be appreciated.
These girls are the ones making my stay in this city fun. I knew the school would be a perfect place to record since they are still on strike and many students already travelled home. I was so excited to see the outcome of the video. You can check my blog @princessbusayo on Hive as I just released the video a while ago.
I want to take them out for a treat this week, Friday precisely as I just felt like doing something for them apart from what I would give them. They have been so amazing as they are so caring and friendly.
I have been listening to Tatiana Manaois' songs for a while now and one of the songs talks about loving yourself more than anybody because if you let the love of others overpower the love you should have for yourself, there will be a disappointment.
Have you seen a beautiful lady today? You are looking at one right time and I would always say that I am beautiful and amazing. I shouldn't wait till when someone compliments or say that to me.
This picture is so much beautiful. I like the posture. @Olasquare already said he will be turning me into a sticker 😆 He said this particular one will go with when I just finished eating, perhaps something I have always craved for and satisfied myself.
I am grateful for who I am and seeing the daily development in me is something I should be happy about because the truth is, God has been my rock, protection, provision, habitation and safety. He has always shown up whenever I needed His presence. Are you always grateful? You should, please. You have more when you appreciate what you have, no matter how little it is.
We have like 3 banks in the school but this particular one is always crowdy when school is on and you will wonder if students don't sleep especially when you go there by 6 am just so you can do what you need to do and return home.
This bank is called UBA (United Bank for Africa) and it's always the busiest bank in the school premises.
This bank is so old and has been the school's bank where we get to do many activities using the school's bank account. I have an account with them but I don't use it anymore because of their unexpected charges.
They could spoil your money for you as a student. In a situation where you only have #2000 and a little amount has been deducted from it. Didn't we open a student account? They should understand that and not cut our allowances short 😂😂
After recording and going home, one of us branched into this bank as she wanted to withdraw some amount from her account. We got there and met a few people on a queue. Students haven't arrived yet 😆
At first, the machine wasn't bringing out money as it kept saying ***“Money not dispensing”.*** We waited a bit when we heard one of the securities saying they would load the machine soon.
A few minutes later, a Hausa man went forward to withdraw and when I saw him, I told my friends that we would stay longer because when a Hausa man withdraws from the ATM, he will not leave until he cashes out all the money 😅😅
These Northerners are always rich and at this point, they can withdraw over $400 and one would begin to ask *“Why didn't they go inside the bank that could make it easier and faster instead of delaying other people who want to withdraw a small amount?”*
The man tried the machine thrice. His money was deducted from his account but he didn't receive any money from the machine 😆😆😆 That's a big problem because if they didn't reverse the money, he would have to go complaint in the bank.
He didn't want to go in to withdraw but he would enter the bank to complain. Of what use? 🤣🤣🤣
Unfortunately, after staying for a while, she couldn't withdraw and she decided to use the POS to get her cash.
In the end, it was so much fun as we enjoyed Monday. Don't forget to check my recent post on Hive if you are there.
Thanks for reading
All Images are mine and taken with my Infinix Smart 5.
[July 13, 2022] (No 194 articles for the year)
Kitchen Knife, so sharp but teaches a great life lesson.
*“Sharpen your mind with the beauty of knowledge and the tears of experience to be wise”.*
Debasish Mridha https://quotestats.com/topic/sharpen-your-mind-quotes/
There are different kinds of accidents that causes a lot of injuries to humans, but I will be talking about the home accident which can be caused due to our carelessness and most times, they are unintentional. Someone lifting an object upstairs unintentionally stepped on an object and falls, is an example of a home accident.
Accidents, mostly happen in the kitchen, especially when handling a knife. I have had injuries through a knife and you know how painful it is for a sharp knife to cut through your palm, hand or fingers.
It was a sad day when the knife cut my hand while removing coconut from its shell. Ever since then, I am always afraid of peeling coconut with a knife. Even if you give me a coconut, I will tell you to peel and remove it for me or else, I will not collect it from you.
We have been made to know that the king of tools is the Knife and the most important in the kitchen. In our everyday life, it is the tool (knife) that anyone cooking would pick up. Also, the sharper a knife is, the faster we can cook and when a knife is sharp, even when cutting an onion or vegetables, they come out in perfect shape.
This means that the knife must stay sharp for it to do the best job/work for you. This is also the reason we need to keep sharpening it, perhaps once or twice a month when you see it needs some sharpening, but when a knife is blunt, it will not do a clean job and you won't enjoy using it.
What does this teach us in our daily life?
If we try to apply the use of the knife as a rule to our life, we can see how it is very important and necessary to sharpen our minds.
The mind is one of the important parts of our bodies, as it goes through so many thoughts and actions.
As we keep moving, every day of our lives, it is expedient and required of us to sharpen our minds to work effectively and if we do not sharpen our minds, it tends to become like the blunt knife.
How do we sharpen our minds?
***Meditation:*** This is an act of contemplation. It is a process of focusing the mind on a particular object, thought or activity to help train attention and awareness, and in the end, enables you to achieve mentally clear, calmed emotions and a stable state.
Setting a particular time every day to meditate becomes a habit for us and it is a good exercise because it does so much good in our lives. Even if there are millions of thoughts crossing your mind, because it is normal to experience that, do not be worried.
***Exercise:*** Any kind of exercise will help sharpen our minds. Early morning jogging, stretching our body as we wake up, skipping, jumping, squatting, etc are kinds of exercises which we can engage in our lives. For me, I love holding the iron rim on my window and going up and down. Many times, I jump, stretch my body and I feel better. Do not forget that taking a glass of water very early in the morning helps energize your mind for the day.
***Yoga:*** Yoga is much more beneficial to the mind than to the body. Yoga refreshes and brings in so much positivity, as it brings a good connection to ourselves.
***Reading:*** Our minds need information and it is always active all the time. So the more and constant reading of books means we are feeding our minds and to help sharpen them.
***Sleep:*** Many of us are guilty of sleeping late and still wake up early because we want to survive. We have been told that a successful man does not sleep at night when others are working but what we don't know is that, we need to sleep to help our minds process some information.
We need to sleep even if it's eight hours a day and not deprive ourselves. The mind does not sleep when we keep engaging in many activities and it may affect your mind if you don't give it a processing time and that can be possible when you sleep.
***Positive affirmations:*** Speaking some encouraging words to yourself will keep your mind sharpened. I love waking up and looking at the mirror with positive words for the day and my mind has always received that as it makes me productive in the end.
It is good to be positive and say some words to yourself. You are helping your mind and with that, you start to stay happy all through the day. Occupy your mind with positive affirmations instead of negative words.
Thanks for reading
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[July 12, 2022] (No 193 articles for the year)
He didn't believe I can do that.
*“You can learn many things from children. How much patience you have, for instance.”*
Franklin P. Jones https://www.compassion.com/poverty/famous-quotes-about-children.htm
One thing about me is that I love children so much that one minute, I am smiling and the next minute, I am changing my mood with them. No, I am not mean. I just don't like when children are too spoilt and could do anything bad. We need to discipline them in the right way because the Bible says when we use one hand to beat a child, we should embrace them with the second hand. Is that how it's written? I might just have summarized it but do you get my point?
Yesterday made it the fourth Sunday I joined the Children's teacher's department in my Church. Last month, I started going for worker's training because I want to work for God and not become a member all the time.
I was once a chorister for 3 years before I gained admission and since I have been in school, I wasn't interested in joining any department because RCCG if you notice, especially when you want to join the choir, you will always spend money to buy different colours of clothes. When I was a choir and teaching then, I realized there is more to colours than the 12 types of colours I know of. I got to know something like tomato red, indigo red if there's anything like that 😅😅
The salary I got as a teacher, I would be spending on clothes just because I want to rope with others on a Sunday and wouldn't want to look different from them. So, this made me step down from choir when I got to school because I was a student.
Some weeks ago, I decided to participate in workers training so I can have my certificate and would be able to join the workforce in the Redeemed Christian Church of God.
I joined the department the next Sunday and there were only a few children. Three pastor's children and some other member's children. My pastor has three children, two boys and a girl. The girl is the eldest and if I am not wrong, she should be 9-10 years. There is this boy who is the last born called Donald. He will be clocking five years in September but he is so troublesome and restless.
The first time I joined them, I acted so simple and innocent to them as I was condoning this little boy's behaviour during Sunday school lessons. The children weren't familiar with me yet and I took it slow with them on my first day.
Throughout the service, while the teacher was taking them, this boy was just restless and disturbing others. It got to a point, he fell and hit his back head on the ground and it was swollen. He cried so hard.
As a lover of children and being able to understand kids to a little extent, I wasn't to be mean or harsh to them but to act nicely and welcoming which I did.
The next Sunday, it was only I and a teacher who took them and this boy didn't stop disturbing the class even when I was cautioning him. He still wouldn't stop. I left him alone and kept watching and allowing him to do his thing. Who said children do not know what is good and bad? Donald could have just kept quiet when he knows we were teaching them the word of God.
**I don't like such a thing.**
On the third Sunday, it was the two of us again taking them. Others weren't around and while the lesson was going on, Donald was just disturbing the class and others who were paying attention to my teachings. Then, I looked at Donald and said
*“Bro Donald, if you make noise or disturb my class again, I would take you outside and lock the door”*
He looked at me and said *“No, you can't”* he continued and I kept looking at him with a smile. At least I want him to keep quiet so he doesn't disturb me. All through, I left him alone while I continued my thing.
Then, yesterday, I was the only teacher with them and I even thought how would I control them, especially with this stubborn Donald. He is my friend and I like him but sometimes, a kid like him needs to be disciplined.
During the lesson, Donald kept testing my patience and I was just looking at him. I warned him more than twice to keep quiet or else, I would throw him out. He didn't believe I could do such a thing which I did. I carried him, he was so heavy that he was trying to overpower me 😂😂😂
I carried his weak body and put him outside while I locked the door. Then, I continued. Other children kept looking at me.
A few minutes later, he entered and this time, he was so quiet. I never knew Donald could be so quiet and undisturbing. He only needs some spanking which I did with love.
Then I asked if anyone had questions to ask me since it was the revision we were doing. Other children asked and I answered them. I looked at Donald and smiled asking if he has any questions.
He looked at me for a while. I knew he wanted to say something but couldn't say it. Then he said
*“I don't have any question”*
I smiled and continued. Then he signalled and said, **“I have a question”.** He was so silent and pitiful. I was so happy and was like “The almighty Donald wants to ask a question” 🤣🤣
Then I allowed him to say something even though it took a while but I didn't want to discourage him.
Donald asked, ***“What will happen to any person that does not give God money?”***
I was so excited and I told everyone to give Donald a round of applause because he asked such a beautiful question. I made sure I encouraged him with me praising and reinforcing him.
The children clapped and I could see in his face how happy he was. Throughout the lesson, he didn't make any noise and I gave him an answer to his question.
We treated tithing and the blessings in loving God's word as part of the topics being taught them previously.
Children are amazing creatures and if you don't discipline them making them aware what they are doing is right or wrong, they will keep doing it till they grow up.
Also, always encourage children when they speak. No matter what they say, it comes from their minds and if you ignore them, you have only killed that spirit in them.
Thanks for reading
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[July 11, 2022] (No 192 articles for the year)
I have been stupid for four years
*“Stupidity is the same as evil if you judge by the results”.*
Margaret Atwood
Hi, it's a new week again and I hope to see the best of it, so it doesn't be like last week where I was just not myself even though I was still alive 😆😆 Let's hope for the best and never stop trying your best. It's not over until you say it's over.
Here we are again, I entered a challenge last weekend and I would like to share my experience here too and hoping someone out there would learn from me 😔
Here is the question being asked;
*“We're all human and all do stupid things but what things do you think people look stupid doing? Tell us a few of your own or other people's and why you think people look stupid doing them”.*
Human beings have been said to be the most intelligent among all species with highly developed brains and thinking capabilities, but there are some times we do some stupid things which make us doubt if we are truly humans who have got brains upstairs.
I have been stupid for four years even when my friend advised me of it, but I ignored and never minded her until it dawned on me that I was being used. Just as the quote above, being stupid sometimes can be likened to doing evil. If you aren't doing the right thing as being stupid, then your conscience should make you aware what you are doing or have done is stupid indeed.
I had a relationship that lasted for four years when I just finished secondary school. All through the relationship, I was the one giving to him and he never spent a dime on me. Can you see I was so stupid then?
I could have left or walked out of the relationship while I let him go but because I was desperate in finding love and having a boyfriend, I became a fool to love and I allowed him to dictate and have control over me.
I stole from my mom just to satisfy him and made him not leave me. What a poor woman who was struggling to feed us daily and made sure we aren't suffering, I was still the one ruining her business and giving the money to my boyfriend who was using me all along too, because it took me four years to know he didn't love me but what he was receiving from me that made him stay.
When he got an admission, he left me and I saw how he was in another relationship apart from me. I cried that day because I realized I was so stupid to have been stealing to give to a guy. Well, I am not stupid anymore.
I got into another relationship and this time around, the guy was stupid and not me because I have learnt my lesson better and wiser. He pretended to go into a relationship with me but when he heard that I have an Aunt abroad and I have a *“well to do”* family, he tried deceiving me, asking that I give him the phone I was using because I was using an Android phone while he was using a Nokia 3310.
He lied he was working at a bank in the redemption camp but I got to know he was only a security guy 😆😆😆 What a stupid guy he was...
He wanted me to give him the phone I used and that I should ask my Aunt for a new phone. I knew he was a gold digger and we separated. A week after, my friend told me how he was exchanging girls every day as he lived in the same compound as my friend's fiance.
So, I was getting the whole gist from my friend. I don't know why some people are so stupid to try deceiving another person, but if we are smart, we would understand their plans and tricks. He wanted to kiss me on the first day we met but I ignored him as I told him it was too early for that. Besides, I have learnt my lesson not to fall in love quickly or try to be desperate.
Should I continue or do you want me to stop? 😆😆
Okay, let me give you the last one.
There are some kinds of people that would try to provoke you through their stupidity and if you aren't careful, you involve in a hot fight with them. You have a brain and conscience that would tell you what you are doing is wrong but your stupidity has blinded you not to change.
There are some people where I live that know the bathroom is meant only for bathing but they always wash their plates and pour the water in the bathroom and when you want to take your bath, you start seeing some rice, spaghetti and even bones.
That is the height of stupidity of some people and I don't mind them, I just take a broom and sweep it out.. it doesn't take me less than a minute, instead of exchanging words with them. They are lunatics 😂😂😂
Thanks for reading
[July 10, 2022] (No 191 articles for the year)
My loyal buddies as pets.
*“I like dogs. You always know what a dog is thinking. It has four moods. Happy, sad, cross, and concentrating. Also, dogs are faithful and they do not tell lies because they cannot talk.”*
Mark Haddon https://www.shutterfly.com/ideas/dog-quotes/
*This week has been a busy one for me that I just found myself rushing and trying to cover up many things. The Dreemport Challenge too started this Monday and will run through week 3 of this month. I remembered being active in the second to the last challenge I did but this week was different because I couldn't even spend more time online as I was so locked up with other offline activities. I think there are some days like that but I hope next week turns better.*
*In fact, I now sleep early as before. I still do not understand why it is so which is unlike me. I found this city boring too as every students had gone home since my school has also joined the strike. At least I am only waiting for my result and it is until they resume back to school, they will start processing our results for clearance.*
*I apologize for not being active and not replying comments on my previous post. I will try to do so soon today.*
I could remember when I was so young... I mean while in Primary school, we would all travel down to my hometown to celebrate holidays and Christmas. My grandparents had rabbits as pets. I would always surround myself with the little rabbits because they are very cute and aren't wicked as the adult ones. Their soft furs and smooth skins made me love being around these little creatures.
Having them as pets then made me fall in love with rabbits even till now and whenever I see one anywhere or on TV, it brought back memories for me. Rabbits are fun and interesting to play around with.
Then, I was told of how my grandpa's dog died and how it was so useful to him. This was years after stopping breeding rabbits as they sold all. This dog was so loyal to him that grandpa wouldn't hesitate to deprive my uncles of food if they forgot to feed this dog.
There was a time they forgot to feed this dog and while everyone was eating dinner at night, grandpa noticed the dog hadn't eaten. My uncle's food was given to the dog as a punishment for forgetting to feed his best friend.
That story made me realize dogs are man's best friend and once you take care of them, you will enjoy their company. I love dogs but I am always scared to go near them. I would love to have little puppies and train them in the best possible way because when you take care of dogs, they become so part of the family and would always protect you, the owner.
Recently, I have been watching a YouTube video of a family with their baby, I think she should be over a year old. They have two dogs who are always babysitting this baby girl. Both dogs would take their jobs seriously by sitting with the baby.
They would lick the baby's body and in their ways, they are trying to take care of her and I am sure when the child grows up, she would love to be around them.
They even customized t-shirts for the baby and the two dogs with the caption **“Best friends”.** I was just smiling seeing how they could take care of pets like those dogs and are already part of the family.
When I have my own house, I would love to own a puppy or more puppies as pets. They would be my companion and would always protect the house for me when I am away. I love dogs because they are loyal. If you take care of and train them, you will surely enjoy them because they will trust you.
Do you know that dogs are sensitive and know those who love and save them? If you have watched ***“DON'T BREATHE”*** part 2, you will know and understand what I am talking about.
That movie made me realize dogs are loyal but when you betray them, they betray you too. I was so moved and touched by that scene alone and this is one reason I would love to keep dogs as pets in the future.
Thanks for reading
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[July 09, 2022] (No 190 articles for the year)
A big offer brought success at last.
*“Without Friday, the weekend would be half over already.”*
Anthony T. Hincks
***Phone rings!!! (Grrrggg Grrrrggg Grrrggg)***
*“Ade, don't tell me you are still brooding over the incident? When will you take off your mind over it and focus on the next thing? I want you over to my shop now and let's do this thing together.”* (This was Ade's mother calling him after leaving him alone in the house. She noticed he has cried his eyes out and was left alone that morning when his mom went out to her shop.)
Ade was an ex Corper two years ago and also a graduate of a government University in the country where he studied Accounting. He served in the North and was wise enough to save part of the money being given every month to all Corpers. When he finished serving, things were hard for him as he couldn't get a job.
Thank God his parents were understanding and would always pray for him to get a good and stable job so he could help his parents too especially helping his two siblings in their education. He has been to different Job interviews but all were to no avail, but he never stopped searching as he believed he would get a job.
All the money he was able to gather was over #600,000 ($1090) and when he thought of going into a business, he thought of what he could be doing so he doesn't have to sit down at home instead of working at least to help the family.
Since he does not know any business, he couldn't think of any and he decided to seek advice from a friend he met while serving and they were still contacting each other since then.
He called his friend and was told to come around the next day so they could work on something which he would be doing.
*“Hi Ade, how are you doing? It's been a long while since we have set eyes on each other except we do chat on Whatsapp.”*
All Ade could say was a faint “I'm fine” and this made Kelvin confused and asked if all was fine.
*“Don't you remember you said I should meet you concerning the business I told you about?”*
*“Oh! My bad! So sorry, please. Sincerely, I have forgotten because I have a lot on my mind these days and it's hard for me to remember something unless I am reminded.”* (Kelvin said with a smiling face which he managed to put up.)
*“Okay, so what's on your mind now? How much do you have for a start? What are you thinking of doing?”*
*“Just find something for me. As you are seeing me, I am blank. I don't have any business in mind but I think I have something to work on with the business...”* In a silent tone, he mentioned the amount he has to start.
Kelvin was shocked and immediately sat him down as they started discussing different businesses to go into.
Finally, they settled on the Clothing business and Kelvin started analyzing things for him. Location, Capital to start with and other things to put into work so they could start the business.
This idea was satisfying to Ade as he hastened home to start working. He informed his parents of his new business idea and how he got Kelvin to help him out.
“How are you sure this friend can be trusted?” Ade's father asked curious about the friend.
*“Dad, I know Kelvin for two years now and we have been together. I know him so well.”*
*“Okay if you say so, we can't decide for you. We are only going to encourage and support you in your new business. At least you want to start doing something which would fetch you money.”* His dad calmly said.
After two months, things turned upside down for Ade. He had been duped and Kelvin was nowhere to be found with the money Ade gave to him to help him get some clothes and other things to start with.
For many days, Ade wasn't himself. He couldn't eat for days as his parents kept consoling him.
He remembered the question his Dad asked him two months ago about him trusting Kelvin enough to entrust his money to Kelvin. He only shakes his head. All access to get across to Kelvin proved abortive. Ade had to move on with his life as he started following his mom to her shop but on this day, he couldn't go as he kept remembering the incident.
Ade got up from his bed in the room as he got ready to meet his mom in the shop. When he got there, he met work on the ground and he started helping his mom to unload some goods she went to get from a company.
Two weeks later, Ade got a small work at a car wash. He quickly grabbed the opportunity even though it was a little money at the end of the month. He just had to go for it as he believed that little things lead to great achievement if one is focused and consistent.
He was responsible and acted as a good staff at the car wash and he was dedicated to the work until luck came to him through a woman who came to wash her car. Through their communication, the woman got to know Ade was a graduate, especially with the way he was speaking fluently.
“Will you leave this job if you got a good offer than this?” She asked Ade calmly as he was washing her car.
Ade looked surprised at the question and took him a few minutes to reply with “Yes ma, I will”
She brought a card from her bag and gave it to him. Take this card, give me a call tomorrow morning by 9 am
“Okay ma, he bowed his head to show an appreciation to her.”
Ade got home jubilating as he narrated what happened at his place of work. His parents and siblings were happy that they couldn't wait for the next day so he could give the woman a call.
Ade couldn't sleep as he was thinking of the incident at his work and kept looking at the wall clock in his room hoping for the next day to jump at his face.
At exactly 9 am the next day, he gave the woman a call and was told to come to the office immediately.
When he got there, there was a vacancy available for the post of a personal assistant. After checking through his certificate and CV, he got employed immediately with a huge amount of money as a salary.
A few months later, Ade became a manager through his hard work and things changed for him. He was able to help his siblings in their university education. He helped stock his mom's shop with a lot of goods and built a new house for them.
Ade remembered his past experiences and how he was duped by his friend but with focus and determination, he got a better offer than being a businessman.
Thanks for reading
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[July 08, 2022] (No 189 articles for the year)
Writing is my safe abode
*“The weirdest people are writers because they’re the ones that tell the best stories. Stay weird and keep writing!”*
Anonymous
Going through different articles about writing in the Hive Learners community on Hive, I was flashing back to memories in the past and how I have loved to write even as a young girl. I could remember vividly how I used to write on the chalkboard for others to copy and how I would be paid some cents to help my mates to copy their notes, even when I have a lot of notes to copy for myself, I never got tired because I was receiving some money for my job.
Then, I never knew anything like blogging, even though I love reading story books. I never saw myself becoming a blogger today. I have different higher education notes where I do form my own stories, I write and compose songs and I never got tired of doing that.
They know I can compose messages for other people and people were always hailing me then, begging me to start composing messages for them. I just love to write. I have written countless love messages on my own without giving them out. I just noticed I get the inspiration of writing such love messages while alone.
In the year 2016, my younger sister saw it as an advantage to employ me as her writer when she introduced me to Steemit. I would always write for her, and then she pays me in Steem or SBD then and I was happy helping her and in turn, doing what I enjoyed doing.
I created my account and I was managing three accounts and writing different articles for each. I never got tired of doing that because inspiration would always come. Also, when we attend home fellowship, the topic being taught was the one I develop myself and paraphrase in my own words. I just love and enjoy writing.
Till today, when I look back, I can see a lot of changes that have happened through my writing skill and how I have always found solace in one corner and being alone as inspirations and ideas would start flowing in.
I write based on life's experiences, through watching movies, listening to songs, daily human interactions etc and it always startles me how I could come up with some articles. When I write an article, I go over it again and would start smiling because I couldn't believe I just wrote such a piece from my head and through a small idea that found its way into my mind.
WHAT DOES WRITING MEAN TO ME?
It means “self-expression” of feelings and emotions. Writing has helped me communicate freely to a large extent than voice would do. I prefer putting down words through writing than saying them orally because I wouldn't be able to express myself to my satisfaction but the writing goes a long way.
Writing has been my voice with which I open up to people about my life, experiences, daily happenings and what is happening in my surroundings and I am always excited to see different comments as I would conclude and assume that people heard my voice through my hand.
My siblings have always pushed me to always call my Aunts for anything I need or just to call them and say hi, I tell them I prefer sending text messages to cover all I needed to say from my mouth. I just love expressing myself through writing as it makes me comfortable. I wouldn't get tired of writing and this is why I always challenge myself every day and I am seeing improvement.
HOW IS WRITING IMPORTANT TO ME?
Writing is so important because if you have to tell me to stop writing, then it means you have taken my voice and made me inactive in interaction. I am a shy person and I hardly speak much but I can write over 1000+ words without stopping because I always believe in inspiration when I am alone.
Through writing, I express my feelings. I write songs, stories, and most times poems just sitting down with no distraction and that alone is my safe abode.
Writing has helped me to learn and also send knowledge to people. Through writing about my daily life experiences, I have been able to give my piece of advice and knowledge to people. With different writers and reading from them, I learn and improve myself too.
When I write, it helps me to be cautious of what I do and how I apply things in my life because I don't want to be a writer who gives advice but can't make use of it.
Writing has helped me see through life and I could know what is happening which wouldn't make me feel ignorant of things or make me not know what is going on around me.
So, writing is very important to me because it keeps me updated and able to keep my brain active and working.
Thanks for reading
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[July 07, 2022] (No 188 articles for the year)
Why didn't you add this? Not necessary?
*“You’ll never come second by putting God first.”*
Brian Houston https://egbella.com/2021/08/22/10-quotes-about-putting-god-first/?amp=1
I am still not getting something here at all. Many people just forget God in it and would keep listing other things, forgetting that if God didn't build the city, those who build it, do it in vain.
There was a challenge in the Ladies of Hive community on Hive last week in which one of the options talks about what defines a successful woman. I can't remember how it was put but something like that. I read different entries and it amazes me to see that there wasn't anything like **“Put God first”.** When I comment on some of them, I made them realize that without God in the ratio, every other thing is in vain.
I'm not being religious here but it's good to be realistic about many things especially when it comes to the matter of God. We can do nothing outside God because He created and made everything.
In the Bible, I was made to know that success comes from God. Wealth and riches come from Him. The biggest thing ever in this world that would keep other prerequisites of being a successful human being which is **Wisdom** comes from God.
*“If any man lacks wisdom, let him ask from the one who gives liberally to every man”.*
To me, if I need to mention the tips to become a successful woman or man as it may be, the first on my list would be;
**Putting God first.** Yes, in every plan you need to make, there must be a factor in it which is “placing God”. By committing to Him because He owns everything on earth. He owns wealth and riches. He owns prosperity. Have you seen a man who is wealthy or successful and does not involve God in it and lasts long? Such wealth can never last. You should read the story of the rich man in the Bible then.
We need wisdom to make our plan work well. We need wisdom to guide us in choosing the best step in making our efforts successful.
The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom. Fear in this context means reverencing and acknowledging God. If we all can always do this, then I don't think other tips would be difficult.
**Be diligent.** Even the Bible says prayer without action is useless. No food for a lazy man. The truth is that everything we need to be successful can be found in the bible especially the book of Proverbs. Have you seen a successful woman or man who isn't diligent in his work?
To be diligent is to be hard working. You don't sleep when others are working. We must know when to take rest and when to work. Both should be balanced in our lives. When you pray, you should take action too.
**Be humble.** Humility is the greatest attitude we must possess to be successful. You are not humble and you need someone's help to get to the top? My friend, it's impossible! You have to show humility to both young and old if you must make it in life. Being humble is also a sacrifice too and it must be found in you.
**Be truthful.** The worst thing that could happen to a man is for him to compromise his belief and ways of life. Just because you want to maintain that position, you start to keep the truth away from you. Do you think the truth won't be exposed someday? Even if you spend years in that position, it will shock you that the secret would be leaked out in one way and that could jeopardize your position especially if you are almost getting promoted to a higher position. In all we do, let's be sincere and truthful.
**Be open and friendly.** There is no need to keep malice with people. Be open but be careful not to lose guard while being open because you might be betrayed. Be friendly with others. Interact and never hold grudges. You might be holding grudges against someone who is meant to help you get to where you desire. Care for people and stay away from unforgiving hearts. Do not burn bridges but build them for later use.
**Be prayerful.** A prayerless life is a careless life. If you do not pray, it is impossible to reach the peak. Pray to God to help you and He will always be ready to support you in your journey in life. Do not underestimate the power of prayer because it does wonders.
There are many tips to becoming a successful woman or man but I only limit myself to these few ones.
Thanks for reading
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[July 06, 2022] (No 187 articles for the year)
An encounter with the biggest mistake ever.
*“If you haven't been scammed before, then I would say you are lucky but always learn from people's experience”.*
Princessbusayo
At that time, whenever I remember such an incident, I cry over it and regret ever being so foolish even when I was strictly warned by my sister. Till today, I couldn't open my mouth to share the bad experience.
*Well, I got what I deserved since I didn't heed to warnings.*
What am I saying? It's my encounter with a scammer who, we were friends together at first, but ended up being so cruel to me.
***This was how it happened......***
I just gained admission as a direct entry student into the University in the year 2019. My sister raised my school fees and some money for me to get things done as a new student. Registering, taking passports, doing some photocopies etc in the school.
I was still a novice about scammers then and I have heard of some investment platforms where you invest and earn double but I never got involved in them until this particular day.
I was already in a taxi that would be dropping me off at the garage where I would board another cab to take me down to my new school. As I entered the taxi, I saw someone messaged me on Instagram and asked if I had heard of this particular investment platform before. I replied with “No”.
We were chatting and we became friends, sharing different proof of payments to me so I can believe him. He said if I invest with #5k ($8.3) I would get double the capital in 5 mins and so on.
I quickly called my sister and explained the new platform to her if she would be interested. She then said, *“Busayo, they are scammers oo. Don't involve in anything oo”.* I said okay sis and I hung up the call.
If I had known, I should just have blocked the stupid guy but the spirit that wants to teach me a lesson didn't leave me alone.
We continued chatting and I promised to get back to him once I get to school as I explained to him that I was just given admission and going to school... *Fool me*
When I got to school, I started my process and for a few days, we didn't talk. So, I assumed it was gone. Then, on this day, during our orientation program, I was in the hall when I got an Instagram message from this same guy. I was happy and before then, I have planned on using my school fees for the investment and would earn double and I would be rich. *Lol, I repeat, Fool me 😆*
We started the process and I was assured of getting my profit in less than 5 mins.
I transferred #5k just to try it. I waited for him to reply even after five minutes, but he didn't. Then, I asked him “It's more than five minutes, how is it?”
He replied and told me the option for 5k ($8.3) to get 10k ($16.6) is closed, and that I should just add another 5k to process it since the other 5k has been hanged in the system.
I obeyed! Seriously, it was as if something was controlling me because I was just succumbing to his orders and I transferred the #5k a second time.
I waited again and he said the same thing and said I should just close my eyes and send another #5k since I would be getting #30k ($50)
My Brethren, Lo and behold! I did sent the #5k the third time.
After that time, my eyes were opened and I knew something had happened to me.
Out of #40k ($66.7) for my school fees, #15k ($25) was gone with my disobedience and greediness.
I started calling this guy and wouldn't pick up. At this moment, I was sweating within me, my system was disrupted. I wasn't concentrating in the program anymore because I was thinking of how to get my money back or how to get my school fees balanced again.
While going home and still trying this number, he finally picked up and said this; *“You fool, if you call me again, I will curse you” and he hung up.*
Then, I knew someone had finally gotten me. The friend I was staying with noticed something was wrong and she asked me what happened, I couldn't open up to narrate how foolish I have been at that moment.
I cried so hard that night and was thinking of how to raise more money to pay my school fees because I needed to pay on time.
If not for God who decided to pity my condition through one of my colleagues who called the next day to inform me of my share from the lesson we did as teachers to the pupils. She said our boss had just paid our salaries and my share was #10k ($16.6)
I removed #5k from my feeding allowances to balance my school fees while for weeks, I suffered through my feeding.
That alone taught me a great lesson to be contented with what I have. After a week, I got another message from Instagram with a different name introducing something similar to me.
My friends! no one taught me to block the person immediately 😁
What has happened the first time must not repeat itself. Nobody should come and destroy my career for me 😅😅😅
That was my encounter with a scammer who wanted to disgrace me but God didn't let it happen. Lol
Thanks for reading
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[July 05, 2022] (No 186 articles for the year)
Tour de Force
*“Every achievement is a servitude. It compels us to a higher achievement”.*
Quote Source https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.webtrickle.com/congratulation-on-achievement-messages-quotes/
*According to Cambridge Dictionary, “Tour de Force” means an achievement or performance that shows great skill and attracts admiration.*
Ever since I got employed as a class teacher of Nursery 1 & 2, three years ago, I have always put all my mind into teaching these kids and I tried to make an impact even before I leave there. A colleague asked me one day how I got so much interested in teaching because she finds it hard taking the big classes, I smiled and told her ***“it's a passion”.*** Once you are passionate about teaching the kids, you will want to give it all your best.
These wonderful kids have been my priority to teach them so they could understand and learn how to read and write. I was the first teacher who introduced them to writing by themselves from the chalkboard as I would only copy a few lines of words for them while I monitor them.
While that kept going, they were improving and from there, I started teaching them how to join two to three words together to read a story in class as I would devote my full attention and time to listening to and correcting their errors.
I warned them sternly but with a smile on my face not to allow anyone at home to do their homework for them except if they do not understand and by the next day, they would come to feed me back on how they got to do their work and no lies, I would tell them.
These children have come to love me and enjoy my company around them and they would always shout and surround me calling my name.
I taught them how to write and spell their names with their surnames and I was glad for the improvement.
Every time we had parents teachers association, I would always receive more gifts than the other teachers as they would always say “My son or daughter is doing so well” “Thank you for teaching my children”. “My children do not allow anyone to help them do their homework. They will say My aunty will beat me, let me do it myself”.
When I hear words like these, I feel elated for I would call this an achievement for me. With this, I intensified in teaching them more and more and I could see great improvement until one day, I got what I would call **“A happy and proud achievement”.**
We had another PTA meeting that day and the minute book secretary wasn't available, I was told to replace her and record everything that was being said in the meeting. I sat next to my boss while I was doing my job.
After some parents spoke their minds and appreciated the staff's effort, a parent stood up and started her speech, she got to a point I couldn't stop smiling and being proud of myself.
She mentioned in front of other parents how her son could now spell and write his name by himself. A boy of five years old and his name is Jeremiah with a surname between 10-13 letter words as I couldn't remember but I know he has a long surname.
She said ***“Thank you, Miss Busayo for helping my son”***
I felt emotional and happy because it was a great achievement in the presence of every parent and staff on seat that day.
There was a boy I was teaching also in my class, he would always tell his mom every morning to send gifts over to me because I am always nice and friendly to him. I felt good receiving such praise when the mother of the son comes around to explain how the boy would always disturb her to get me gifts.
I consider this my proudest achievement and I can't wait to receive that everywhere I go.
When I left the school for my degree studies in the year 2019, I felt like not leaving and my boss wasn't happy seeing me leave but I just had to since I was given admission at that time.
Thanks for reading
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[July 04, 2022] (No 185 articles for the year)
Layla, the depressed soul
*“Genuine poetry can communicate before it is understood.”*
T.S. Eliot
I tried coming up with a poetry last night as I wanted to enter for a challenge that just started in Hive Learners community on Hive. I decided to ask for help from my professional, KP to help me scan through it and I was excited with his reply that it was brilliant. I love poetry but I just don't know how to come up with something but I tried right?
Well, you will give me your response after reading through it.
*Been a while since I have been in this world*
*I don't seem to understand humankind*
*It feels as if the whole world has been contaminated.*
*My name is Layla, the young local girl.*
*My soul is depressed*
*Not hygienic for a young girl like me*
*I feel like crossing the great beyond*
*This wasn't what I expected from human beings*
*This is Layla, the young local girl*
*How do you define love to be?*
*I thought love teaches all things?*
*But I don't seem to see those who model what they talked about*
*Everyone keeps shouting love love*
*But I don't see it around me*
*You told me love is patient*
*But I see everyone killing themselves for money*
*The thirst for wealth has made people slaughter another being*
*Is that love? Is that what you preach?*
*You told me love is not jealous*
*But I see friends ruining each other's lives because of social recognition, fame and the likes*
*Why can't everyone be happy with one another?*
*Is that what your love says?*
*To be jealous and destroy each other?*
*You told me love isn't proud*
*Why do I see people not bowing to authorities?*
*Everyone wants to be in power*
*No one wants to humble another*
*Should love be so?*
*What are you preaching?*
*The world is confusing and it feels like heat to me*
*I am depressed and wish to return to where I came from*
*I am Layla, the young local girl*
*I am depressed, and so is my soul.*
We all have underrated the word **“love”** and we don't seem to practice with a sincere heart what it means. I wonder why the world is such a mess that we don't love each other, but we derive joy in slaughtering and destroying our fellow human beings.
“Love your neighbour as yourself”.
Isn't that what the Bible says? We don't even remember the word of God and the greatest commandment which is **LOVE**
This poor young girl, Layla is so depressed, not when she had read that part that talks about loving each other. She felt sad seeing how the world has turned to. We aren't negotiating for peace at all, but all we want is violence everywhere, thereby wasting lives, involving in rituals.
If we truly value our lives, if truly we know what love is, if truly we understand what sacrifice means, we won't have to go this length to damage lives and properties.
Let us come together and show love. Only by this would we be united. United we stand, divided we fall.
With the recent killings and what is happening in the world, it makes my heart bitter and I was inspired to touch something about love. I think studying the qualities of love should be our priority and stop hating another.
*Love is kind*
*Love is patient*
*Love is not selfish*
*Love is not proud*
*Love is kind*
*Love does not brag, it is not arrogant*
*Love is not jealous or envious*
*Love is not rude*
*Love is not self-seeking*
*Love does not provoke*
*Love does not get angry or over sensitive*
*Love gets excited in truth and it bears all things etc*
These are the qualities of love that can also be found in the Bible. Let's show love to one another and see how amazing the world would be.
Someone asked a question in a movie I watched last night;
“Is it possible for everyone not to embrace love and peace?”
Answer that in your mind.
`There are some parts I didn't include in my other blog on Hive, I had to add more here.`
Thanks for reading
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[July 03, 2022] (No 184 articles for the year)
Come on, let's explore!!!
*“Good company in a journey makes the way seem shorter.”*
Izaak Walton https://familyoffduty.com/travel-quotes/quotes-about-travel-with-friends/
I don't even know what to say or which to choose between the two; either to travel alone or in groups. Since I have thought about this and I have always wished for it, it would be travelling in groups because it is way merrier. After all, they say ***“the more, the merrier right?”***
All my life of travelling, it has been me alone in public transport except on some rare cases where I would get to travel with friends or in groups.
While growing up, my Dad had a car with which we all would travel every year and with my siblings, I know how fun it was till we get to our destination. It wasn't anyway boring at all.
I could remember travelling with my friends for our teaching practice in another state, we laughed and talked in the bus till we got to where we were going and we felt we were disturbing other passengers in the bus but we didn't care at all. All we had was fun and fun.
Whenever I am travelling alone, it is always unlively for me and many times boring that I would only plug in my earpiece and start listening to music and at some point, I get tired of music and would switch to movies but in the end, I would find myself looking out through the windows to feed myself with things outside the bus.
Many times, I would be jealous of people who are in groups chatting and would feel like joining them but I don't dare to jump into any discussion I wasn't called into, except my opinions are sought for which I would also be happy interacting with them and when we all get to our destinations, we bid ourselves goodbye.
My younger sister knows how to start up a conversation whenever she is travelling alone and I wonder how she does it but I, never. I am that shy.
I love travelling in groups as it makes it more interesting till we reach where we are going. The journey wouldn't be boring and it would be as if the bus should keep moving to who knows where and keep talking.
There is no way we won't have different topics to touch on.... ranging from life's issues to relationships; what we'd do if ever we encounter any issue in a relationship blablabla and it looks more entertaining when other people in the bus would have to join and everyone would burst into laughter.
There is this enthusiasm in you when you get to travel in groups with your friends or colleagues in school or at work as different laughter would start flowing out and it makes the journey bubbles and lively. Even the driver would be excited too.
When one of us got wedded in February, we planned and went in groups to celebrate with her in another state. We hired a cab that conveyed us to the exact place and having a guy among us made it fun. The driver who carried us knew he did take some set of people because we could observe that he also enjoyed the chitchat and gist.
When we were returning, this time around, we took a public transport bus and other passengers knew some people boarded with them as we kept shouting and arguing over some unnecessary talks about marriage and relationships. We had the best moment together as we wished such a journey shouldn't end.
***Benefits of travelling in groups to me***
It drives away shyness.
It makes me bold to talk.
It makes me take as many pictures with people without being scared.
It brings comfort to me being around other people we come across with.
It builds more connection and communication.
It creates happiness.
I meet and interact with new people.
We explore things together and learn.
One advantage that I love about travelling in groups is that you learn a lot, especially as the writer that I am. I love paying attention to things being discussed because I get inspiration from there and would love to make or form an article from it.
As a writer, both helps though because you can derive inspiration from whatever you encounter while travelling.
Travelling alone, you get inspired with no one distracting you. Travelling in groups, you get inspired by different topics being raised and that could help you make up something and chip into what you observed in such topics.
Thanks for reading
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[July 02, 2022] (No 183 articles for the year)
Some misconceptions about me by people.
*“It is useless to attempt to reason a man out of a thing he was never reasoned into”.*
Jonathan Swift https://www.goodreads.com/quotes/tag/assumptions
People can be funny when they start presuming things about you, especially when they are just getting to know you for the first time. But someone who already knows you after being closer to you might try to be against those who keep saying what you aren't and they also try to defend you because they already know you.
I have heard different misconceptions about me from people and all I would just do is smile or laugh, trying to let them know who I am. Some still wouldn't believe it. So, I just give the *“I don't care”* look or attitude and continue my life. Since what I am doing is good or right, let them keep talking and assuming what I am not in real life.
One of the misconceptions people have about me is that **“I am a rich and big girl”** 😅😅😅
Seriously, people would always come to me, asking for one help or the other and because I give when I have it, it makes them keep coming and presume I have a lot of money.
Those around me know I blog and earn cryptocurrency and because their mindset is that, those who earn crypto are always rich, they believe I am also rich too. In my neighbourhood, when I cook meals, I most times prepare chicken or turkey stew and when people start smelling the scent of the soup, they start to look at me with looks that would be like *“this girl is rich and enjoying”*
I made a big cabinet that costs $60 last year December and when they saw me bringing it inside, they started to hail me saying *“You are a big girl o” 😆*
When they say this, I just laugh out loud because only if they know me. A guy even gave me the name “001”. When I asked about the meaning, he asked *“Don't you know you are the number one in this whole villa?”.* All I do is smile and walk away. Well, I do claim it since it's a good thing for one to be rich but I am not there yet. It's a gradual process 😂
Another misconception is that **I don't talk.** I am always a gentle girl that I just go my way without any problem. Even if you are talking, hardly would you see me say anything but whenever I say some funny things, they would be like “so, this lady can talk like this?”
Sometimes, I can be so naughty talking about sex with friends and just because they don't see me talking about such things, they assume I am a holy person and would not believe such words could come out of my mouth. I do shock them though because I will always look at you as if I don't know what is going on but leave me to talk, you will be amazed.
At least one needs to act naughty in some ways and not be too gentle or act holiness in everything 😅
In another way, when someone offends me, I don't talk but would only act as if I wasn't hurt but something about me is that I don't get too angry easily at things until you pushed me to the wall.
This means I would leave you to the last straw, then you'd see the other side of me. But people don't believe I talk or get angry because they see me as a completely perfect being who wouldn't say anything even if you step on my toes.
Another misconception is that **I engage in internet fraud** because they always see me with my phone every time. There is a lady who gave me the name “Yahoo girl” because anytime she comes around to charge, she would always see me pressing my phone and she was forced to ask what I do one day which I explained to her. Still, she wouldn't stop asking “Where is that yahoo girl?” if she didn't see me around.
Also, my Aunts already concluded I involve in cybercrime even when I have explained to them that I am a content creator but they still won't believe me. What should I do? I just leave them to keep saying whatever they like. As long as I won't be arrested for something I am not involved in, they should keep talking, I don't give a damn anymore.
Lastly, people think **I am a weak person and not strong.** They love to apportion me with menial or soft tasks thinking my strength wouldn't carry something tough. I do act like a soft and weak person sometimes and they think I come from a rich home where we aren't allowed to do tough work.
So whenever we want to engage in some tasks in my school, they find the soft work for me as they don't want me to faint along the way 😂😂
I have made them believe I do carry or lift 25 litres of gallons on my head alone and even dropped it down. They will say “we don't want to stress you”.
They won't believe me and I think I have tried my best to let them know what I am capable of doing but since they do not listen, I just had to act as one as they have presumed.
`This was a challenge I participated in on Hive. We were asked to give three misconceptions but I decided to add one more here. I hope you enjoy my article? Happy New Month friends 😎🥳🥳🥳`
Thanks for reading
[July 01, 2022] (No 182 articles for the year)
The tree and the wind: The reality.
*“If the tree does not know how to dance, the wind will teach it”.*
African Proverb
The above quote is an African Proverb I heard from a friend some days ago. We were both sitting outside that morning as I was trying to get something done for him. He started reading aloud some beautiful quotes from Twitter and I was also tagging along by explaining what it means. When he said that quote, he brought out a wonderful explanation from it and we closed the discussion for the day.
I watched a movie last night titled **“Breaded Life”** and in the process, that quote came to my mind I was like *“Yes, this movie resonates so well with it”* and I decided to write about it.
My friend explained that a tree that doesn't know how to dance, when the wind blows over it, will dance. This means that humans are like the tree while circumstances are the wind.
Many people have solely depended on people to help them, especially those who come from rich homes. They see nothing wrong in taking responsibility because they have someone who will always be there for them. They don't want to work or find something to do with their lives. They believe their family members would find work or keep helping them, but the day unexpected circumstances show and they are left with nobody, they will realize the reality and would be forced to find something to survive with.
In this movie, this young boy came from a rich home and was exhibiting juvenile delinquency. The mother had two children. The first daughter was married and stayed overseas while this boy was just misbehaving, depending on his father's property. The mother gave them equal rights and did her best to nurture her children. She, at first thought the boy was switched from birth or he fell off while still a toddler as she was just so confused about where he got such behaviour from.
When his father died, he left a trust fund for him but would be able to access it when he clocks 32 years.
He stopped going to school because he wasn't interested in the courses his mother chose for him. When he was asked why? he said the first course was too hard, the second was boring and the third, he didn't like. He just wants to enjoy his life.
His mother asked what his plan was since he wasn't ready to go to school again. He said he doesn't have any plan except for the trust fund left for him. He is 25 years old. What will he be doing with his life before 32? That's like seven good years in between.
He angrily moved out of the house one day and had an accident. That was the beginning of his unexpected life.
He was in a coma for 18 days but he had a dream which lasted for five years, 3 months and 18 days.
In his dream, everyone including his family and friends denied knowing him. When he saw that he was left alone in the world, he went out into the street to help himself survive. A bread seller who used to come to sell bread for their security man was the one who housed him. He was forced to ask the lady to help him with any job.
He went into the street, doing all the menial jobs. Though everyone liked him and he was used to such a life. The bread seller took care of him and helped him in the dream.
Life took him to where he never expected. In the dream, he had opened his eyes to reality when he woke up from his coma.
The boy is just like the tree that doesn't know how to dance while the wind was the unexpected situations and challenges he faced to become who he was in the end. He never thought something like that would happen to him.
Many of us are like this young boy. We think life will always be good because we are surrounded by those who would help us. I pity those, especially from rich homes who think their parents would leave them some property and because of that, will not do anything. They don't want to understand there is more to life than the opportunity you have which you don't value.
There will be a time when the opportunity and chance you never value would slip from your hand when you never expected and you will be forced to find a solution just to keep surviving.
**“If you do not move from where you are, thinking you are comfortable where you are, life (wind) will move you when you are hit with different challenges”.**
Just because your siblings are doing fine with their lives doesn't mean you should rely and depend on them.
My big sister would always tell us that we should never think because she is doing fine, we will not be serious with our lives. If we don't take our lives seriously, she will ignore us completely.
You don't have anything to do. You don't have any plans because you have trusted that the property left in your name is intact, it will shock you that one day, something can just happen and you will be alone in the world. By then, you will realize you have nothing and the only thing will be what you can do and the skill you have.
This young boy was busy squandering his money on parties and never planned anything for himself until life taught him a great lesson. He went in search of any work to do just to feed him daily.
Don't live your life thinking there is someone you rely on for the future. Death may take such a person or something can just happen. Find something to do with your life. Be responsible and get prepared for anything that may happen because this life itself is unpredictable.
Many things can go wrong in just a day and you will be shocked at how it happened.
Thanks for reading
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[June 30, 2022] (No 181 articles for the year)
Nature: The healing therapy
*“Almost every outdoor enthusiast has an anecdote from childhood about how nature first became a personal passion”.*
Unknown
Have you in one way been connected to Nature before? Of course, who wouldn't, because we see it around us, where we live and even breathe nature into us. The air you breathe in, isn't it part of nature too? Nature is a creative and controlling force in the universe and it includes plants, animals, the landscape, waters etc.
Exposing ourselves to nature does not make us feel better emotionally only, but it has greatly contributed to our physical well-being, reducing blood pressure, and heart rate and helps produce stress hormones.
I can never underestimate the power of nature and how it has helped and improved my life. I just want to be around nature, especially gardens where there are lots of trees and flowers and if possible, rivers where it would be silent for me without distraction. **My favourite part of nature** is that moment I get inspiration when sitting in nature.
When I was in my hometown, I would always go to sit under the biggest cashew tree in our compound and with no one coming to disturb me, my day was always so active that I just needed to connect myself with nature while I kept getting the vibe that I needed.
Nature improves my mood, especially when I feel sad and when I noticed my day would go wrong, I quickly pick up my phone and writing materials with a chair to go sit under the tree which has been my confidant and friend as it would allow me to release those negative thought in me by replacing them with positive mindset with courage.
Once I am under the tree, my anger subsides because I would only focus on improving myself. It chases away that moment where I was hurt and would quickly forgive whoever offends me at that moment. My hometown helped me connect to nature and I could see what I have always missed when I was in school.
Perhaps, I don't go out to behold the magnificent benefits of nature but I found such a moment in my hometown as I made it my morning routine to take a stroll for twenty minutes or more depending on how fast I am while walking and listening to music.
Being around nature makes me feel relaxed and active. There was a day I was feeling inactive and decided to take some time off, but I decided to sit outside and I couldn't imagine how I worked for over three hours under the tree and I was getting ideas. I was really happy that day with what I was able to achieve.
**Something that made me laugh today** was seeing the smile of a woman who sang on Hive in the Music community and her expression brought that laughter out. Sincerely, she sang well and I was laughing in my mind. I will be posting my song once I publish this post as I had already done everything I needed to do. I just have to hit the publish button and that's all. @Jane, am I expecting your entry?
Do I have a **book I loved reading?** As long as it is inspiring. I go with any genre of book, provided that I would learn some lessons from them. I read books that talks about money, how to build wealth, educational books, romantic novels/stories, and both happy and unhappy endings. I read my Bible too because I would get everything I need from it. So, I love all books that are inspiring and educational.
When I was very young and seeing how my parents were always strictly treating us and not allowing us to go outside, and also not have male friends, I wished to have my freedom and be on my own with no one controlling my life. Even though it was fun and you just have to depend on your parents for everything, I still hoped for that day I would be away from home and on my own. **I am grateful for the freedom** that I can be on my own today, make my decision and have no one to control my life or tell me what to do or what not to do.
Though I still take some advice and help from family and people, but there is a limit to everything because I wouldn't want to live my life regretting ever following someone's ideas or advice when I have my own choice to choose from.
So far, I have been able to complete this 30 days gratitude challenge by @Jane before the month ends and I am so excited to finish it.
Thanks for reading
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[June 29, 2022] (No 180 articles for the year)
Keep a closed mouth
*“Keep a closed mouth and open ears and eyes”*
Napoleon Hills
I still don't know when I would finish his book titled “Think big and grow rich” but reading a few pages early in the morning has been something I have always loved doing and I keep learning. With a book that has 15 chapters I think, I am already reading the first page in chapter 8. I can't wait to finish the book as I have interesting stories to read that are on my list. Good morning everyone. I hope the day is bright already?
At the beginning of this month, I went to get some stuff at the local market very close to where I live and there is this good seller of mine that I have made a very good person. Her goods are cheap compared to others who just decide to add their price. I don't think they do consider those who can't afford it at all. They forgot that they will also buy stuff from people because it's impossible to be selling everything in this life.
When I got to her place and already got all my things. I was just murmuring to myself that with how this local market is, there shouldn't be anyone selling frozen foods like chicken, turkey etc because I prefer eating chicken or turkey instead of meat. She heard what I said and quickly dragged me inside and said I shouldn't say it out loud.
I was like *“What's wrong?”* because the way she dragged me, it was as if she had been expecting me to say something like that.
She went ahead to show me a big banner and explained how she has been planning to be selling frozen chicken and turkey since no one was selling them. I was happy because I don't have to go to the main market to get it when I could just walk a few minutes to the local market.
She has been planning this all this while and she didn't open her mouth to tell her other traders even when she has a friend she talked to there. According to her, if she says it out to someone, he or she might hijack her idea and start selling it. This means she had been a fool to open up her goals to someone. She wants to get it all done so that it will shock or surprise other people around her.
*“Shock the world with your results, but don't tell them your process”.*
–Princessbusayo
Everyone you interact or associate with is like you. Yes, every person is seeking an opportunity to accumulate and make money and if you talk about your plan freely or loosely, you may be surprised when you know that some other people have beaten you to your goals by taking immediate action ahead of you.
The plan you unwisely open up to someone will be hijacked from you and before you know it, you have lost since the other person has decided to walk on your ideas and goals.
Before now, I used to tell people what I would do, how I would do it and how I will end up not doing it. I realized that those who talk too much, do little or nothing.
People are waiting for an idea and when they stylishly ask you how you intend to do something. If you open up to them without you knowing, they are already learning and taking notes of how you intend to take action and it would be too late when you know they have gone ahead of you.
There was a movie I watched where this lady hinted to a friend at her place of work about how she would convince some clients to buy their products. The next day, the friend already got the idea and made it hers during the meeting in the organization and all praises were given to her. This was what made this lady leave the organization because they didn't believe it was her who brought the idea.
If you talk more than you listen, you are not only depriving yourself of many opportunities to accumulate and gather useful knowledge, but you also disclose your plans and goals to those who will take great delight in outsmarting you.
Some do not have any idea or goal and once you tell them your interesting and beautiful plans and once they see a great opportunity in it, they won't even let you know but would work behind you to actualize your idea and by then, you become a fool.
If you must tell the world what you intend to do, why not show it instead?
Even your trusted friend might betray you unexpectedly and this is why you should keep your mouth closed, open your ears and eyes to knowledge, acquire them and work behind the scenes. Do not disclose any of your plans to anyone except if you are working as a team where it is normal to share ideas and opinions since you all are working to make it work together.
If you must seek knowledge, seek it and take note of what you have learned to acquire the knowledge to work on your goals, but do not make the mistake of sharing your ideas with anyone so you don't get disappointed in the end.
If you talk too much, there is a probability you will expose everything about yourself, and we know there are people who would pretend as if they don't know what is going on, but within them, they are observing and taking note of your ideas to be used immediately by them.
By then, you will know people do not have anything to work on but are waiting for a little opportunity to get things done quickly. Your ideas would be meant for another person and he or she takes the honour.
Keep your plans to yourself and be mindful of who you talk to and how you talk so you don't unknowingly share your ideas with someone who can't wait to achieve them, making your sleepless moment of building the idea up futile.
Thanks for reading
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[June 28, 2022] (No 179 articles for the year)
@Princessbusayo
