Few things to do for today.
*“It's up to you to make the day beautiful. So, cherish the amazing day today.”*
Princessbusayo
Sitting on my chair and trying to get something for my blog today, I tried searching but found nothing to write about. Well, in this situation, it's normal for a blogger as we keep experiencing writer's block, but penning down some things here would surely save me from leaving my page empty for the day.
Can you believe I almost forgot to post again on Monday? I screamed when I remembered at 12:32 pm which is an hour and thirty-two minutes late my posting time. I was with a friend in her room when she returned from lecture and I felt like going to her room to relax and gist with her. If you can remember, something like this happened a few weeks back. I was pissed off and angry with myself for forgetting to publish which made me miss a day posting unknowingly.
When I screamed, she got scared and asked what was wrong. I told her about it and she laughed at first but kicked me off asking “was that the reason I screamed?” I looked at her mischievously and said in my mind if only she knew how it affects me as a blogger and one who doesn't skip a day writing. Even during my illness and receiving drip at the hospital, I was still making a post. Can you imagine?
When I remembered, I quickly published it. She asked if I was thinking of my love. I asked which love? Well, kind of something coming out from there and I will update you guys on it someday but now, let me keep it on a low. I want my relationship to be kept secret for a while. Hahaha, I got you guys because some of you would be like “Oh, is she in a relationship now?” 😂😂 I guess that is what @jane is thinking right now. Lol
I have just a few things to do today since I covered a lot on Hive for two hours earlier this morning. I have started waking up by 4 am and making sure I disciplined myself in that aspect to have time for other interesting things I have been missing during the day.
For this week, I have a lot to engage in on Hive with challenges and when I gave it a plan, I saw that I would be making two posts for a few days to meet up with those challenges and since on Monday till now, I have made 5 posts plus today's own, it will be 7 posts. Today is Wednesday and so, I am making my entry for the Hive Open Mic community and Hive Learners weekly edition.
I couldn't do much on this platform yesterday and it's because I was so weak after returning from Church that I had to shift my engagement for today. From there, I will jump onto the Dreemport task and boom, I am done for the day. Do you see there is nothing much to do today? Perhaps I might have to watch a movie or two depending on my mood. I have romantic ones on my Netflix list and the interesting part I want to see is those styles people practice in secret. Hope you understand that part? If you don't get it, forget about it (if you don't understand, don't worry, just skip it) 😅
Two days ago, we were informed about our final year results and how they have been waiting for the moderators to come to look into it before pasting it on our group chat. Since then, everyone's hands were on desk and some were folded around their chest waiting for judgement day to see what we got. 😂😂
If you have ever experienced a situation where you hear that your result is on its way and would be posted, your mind won't be at rest, you start to develop blood pressure as your heart skips. At that moment, all you want is to see what your grade is and how you performed well or woefully. We term this moment judgement day 😅😅
My colleagues didn't allow the group to rest last night as different messages were trooping in while the representative holding the result is yet to release them, putting every one of us in a shocked and unrest mood. I know he intentionally wanted to play us to see how our mood would be. We are still waiting for him because my mind is there even though I believe God has put smiles on my face.
Once this result is posted, the next is to wait for the senate and graduating lists to be posted too. By then, we would start preparing for our service.
In conclusion, I have been able to share a few things about my activity today due to proper time management and discipline, and updated us on the release of our final year results which should be sent to the group this week.
Thanks for your time.
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[September 21, 2022] (No 263 articles for the year)
I love light color, being a dark girl.
*“You're off to great places! Today is your day! Your mountain is waiting, so get on your way!”*
Dr. Seuss https://www.wow4u.com/tuesdayquotes/
Happy Tuesday, everyone! I remembered saving this prompt by @kacy01 which he made a week ago. I had to squeeze this prompt word for today as I still can't tell if there would be a space for it in the future. Lol
Reading his post that time, I was eager to jump on it for my next post but I just couldn't give the available one up for this. I will try to style mine though.
If you have been noticing me, I tend to cook my food than go out to eat. Though it's good to go out to treat yourself once in a while, and when it's turning into a habit for you, not only do you spend lavishly, but you are harming your health. Homemade food is the best for me and I tend to save more when I prepare my meal than spending on food I will eat on a spot and that ends it.
I have always been obsessed with being a hero than a villain. I don't want to be an evil person trying to oppose the hero, but in the end, who wins? The hero of course! I have watched Indian movies many times and I still count them as my favourite kind of movies. I love the protagonist or the hero in their movies, especially the way they act. You will notice that at the end of the play, the hero wins and conquers the villain.
Though the villian enjoys for a limited period and does whatever he or she wants. What happens after? The end has come for the villain while the hero becomes popular. I love that feeling you get when you are praised and appreciated for helping to save the world or a particular person.
It's always that kind of happiness too when you watch a movie and the end is sweet. I love happy endings more than sad ones. Just like the movie I narrated in my previous post, it was a sad ending which didn't get down for me at all. Even if the movie starts with sadness, the end part which turns out to be happy is something else to my body.
I have always been singing and composing songs since I was a teenager and this has been part of me till today. Though, my voice may keep switching because I don't have a stable voice. My main voice is a soprano but I admire those with the tiny soprano and could hold for a long time with their voices. I would have loved to know how to play instruments because it is a wonderful thing when you can do both. I am always active in the Hive Open Mic community on Hive and I do wish I could play and sing at the same time, but as it is, I love the way I sing and express myself.
I am a dark girl with chocolate skin, but I prefer light colours that will light up my skin. Whenever I want to fix my hair, I don't go for dark weavons but wine or brown colour, just to light up my skin. I am not saying I don't like my dark of a being, of course, it's so beautiful and I love myself but there is a need for me to light it up a little bit so I won't be hard to notice even in the dark 😂
Well, I am beautiful and I know that! So, I would prefer being rich because when there is money, of course, you will be more than beautiful. Money keeps someone glowing and I wouldn't mind taking care of myself to the extreme level just to keep glowing and shining.
When I am rich and beautiful, the best is to find someone who loves me for who I am. When you love me, you will surely make me happy and from there, my love for you starts growing because I will know your true intentions but when I love you and you don't love me back, it's bad and dangerous.
Being an introvert, I love it that way but someone who loves me must not be same as me. I always emphasize the need for my partner to be a babbling brook while I remain the dead sea.
Do you still remember those two terms? If you have read the five love languages by Gary Chapman, you will understand both words. A babbling brook is more like an extrovert who would always talk and light up a conversation while a dead sea is like an extreme introvert who only want to listen and cannot say or talk much.
Finally, with all I have said above which I find okay for me, I would still want to be invincible so I can be anywhere I want, fly to any country without being seen, especially holding my partner's hand while we tour and visit every country.
Thanks for your time.
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[September 20, 2022] (No 262 articles for the year)
Our perspectives are different.
*“Convince yourself everyday that you are worthy of a good life. Let go of stress, breathe. Stay positive, all is well.”*
Germany Kent https://www.goodreads.com/quotes/tag/perspective-on-life
There are two kinds of people in this life. Those who positively see things and those who see negatively. Everyone is unique and different and we cannot act, behave, or feel the same way. Even two identical twins can never see things in the same way. This is why 6 and 9 are different, and the way you view the number six will be different from the way I view it. That is life.
But do you know it is what brings out the uniqueness in us? Being able to see things differently is what brings creativity to us, and our perspectives on things make the artwork beautiful in our way.
Just like two people with a glass cup being placed in their front and on the table. The first person sees the glass cup as being half empty, while the second person sees it as a beautiful crystal goblet that is half full of fruit juice or wine, ready to be consumed and enjoyed. Such a person may even notice the small red rose flower being placed beside the glass.
**What makes the difference between the two?**
The first person only focused on the bad look of the glass cup as not having anything, while the other person sees the beauty in the glass and what it could contain and be enjoyed. Not only that, he or she would definitely see the good things the glass has to offer in the future, together with things surrounding it.
Many people only focus on minor deficiencies, and they can't see the abundance there. When we are too worried, complaining of things we do not have, we carefully lose the big opportunities awaiting us.
I remembered when I first got to school, I was approached by some students in my department and they were trying to advise me to go for a particular elective course because one is tough and not easy. I smiled and said in my mind that it is the same course I will go for and prove to them that I can do it and to God's glory, I passed the course.
It is how you view things, so shall it be for you. The Bible says as a man thinks, so he is. So, whatever your perspective on something is, that is the way you see it to be.
**Why are our perspectives different?**
This usually comes from our point of view, and is also shaped by the experiences we have had in the past. Most times, it is different due to our current state of mind and many other factors.
When you go to two people to seek advice on your new relationship. While the first person may see it as a beautiful thing and something one would enjoy, the other might discourage you from going into one because to him or her, a relationship is like an egg that once it's broken, nothing can be done to it again.
What is the difference? The first person has tasted the sweetness of a relationship and would give tips on how to live the best out of it, while the second person had bad experiences in the past about his or her relationship, comparing it to an egg being broken.
We view things indifferently and it is as a result of what we are going through and what has happened to us in the past.
The beautiful part about perspective is positively seeing things, and not the other way around because if you think there is no way for you, then that is what your mind has taught you to believe in.
There is more to life than dwelling in the hurtful past. If life brings you a lemon, you have to turn it into lemonade and you see the best part of you.
If you do not see your perspective in the positive way, you can never appreciate the work of art, and you will not see what is in it to offer you.
Negatively seeing things will only discourage you, and make you go into a state of depression, instead of focusing on the brighter side of life.
Change your perspective today and positively view things and believe that things are going to happen and turn around in the best way for you, no matter what challenges you have been into. The best is yet to come and when it does, you will be amazed and happy.
Thanks for your time
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[September 19, 2022] (No 261 articles for the year)
She made a wrong choice.
*“There are two ways to be fooled. One is to believe what isn't true; the other is to refuse to believe what is true.”*
Soren Kierkegaard https://www.goodreads.com/quotes/tag/fools
I watched a movie two days ago that made me sad. I felt pity for the protagonist, and the question that kept coming into my mind was why she would allow herself to be controlled? One reason was love. When you are in love, there is no limit to being controlled by your partner and it makes you look so foolish dancing to their tunes.
They say love is blind but in this era, one should open both eyes not to be deceived and thrown into the sea for the big fishes and whales to eat you up.
It pained me how she ended up her life and career because she allowed a guy she just met for the first time, to take advantage of her and the dying career she was in for. The movie didn't end well too because the guy in question should have been arrested and dealt with.
The title of the movie is **“No limit”** but I am sorry because I will be spoiling the movie for those who would want to watch it, but you can still go ahead because I won't be touching all parts of the scenes.
The movie is a romantic one and I love the part where they practiced different styles in bed and that made me learn some new styles too. Lol
The girl gave up her college to be a professional diver who could dive into the sea with no limit. Her goal was to be famous for it, and perhaps tried killing herself because to her, she wanted to commit suicide to go meet her father in heaven.
Her father committed suicide due to one reason when she was little and it kept bringing different questions as to why her dad killed himself. Why did he choose to live his family behind? She tried committing suicide one day when she was young but her grandfather met her on the spot and made her see a reason to become what her father didn't become.
She saw a poster of a free diving and she left home without informing her mother where she was going. It was until she got there, that she called and informed her mother of her mission and how she already met the man of her dream.
On getting to the camp, she met one of the instructors who fell in love with her but couldn't say it even when she knew about it. Instead of having a relationship with him, she chose the guy who had a record of being the best and most famous diver who would become the next champion in the big competition coming up later.
They both made love many times but this guy was cheating on her. She had plans of getting married to him and having children but it was obvious the guy only wanted to use her in becoming the next champion, and when he couldn't achieve it, he killed her in a planned way where nobody suspected him.
It was only the first guy who knew about it, but it was late when he got to know his aim. He couldn't provide evidence to the police and so, he went scot-free. The guy cried so hard losing the girl he loved so much.
I cried for the girl too because she never heeded her mom's advice when she told her to come back home and continue her studies but she refused, saying she wanted to have a new life with her guy.
The said guy controlled her but I was pained because she couldn't stop herself from him even after knowing he was cheating on her. The guy deceived her until she died.
One thing I learnt in the movie is that you should never allow anyone to deceive or control you for their gain or pleasure even when it's obvious what their plans are.
The girl explained to the first guy how she made the wrong choice of choosing the other guy over him even when she knew he liked her. Perhaps she could have been with this guy if she had left the cheater on time and wouldn't have died.
Do not let love blindfold you not to see what is happening. She caught him cheating but still allowed herself to be hooked up with him. Maybe I shouldn't blame her though or what do you think?
I haven't spoiled the movie and you can still watch and find out yourself if she is to be blamed or not? And was that how the movie should have ended without getting to know who killed her except for the first guy, but there is no evidence.
Thanks for your time.
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[September 18, 2022] (No 260 articles for the year)
I did it because I was determined.
*“With faith, discipline and selfless devotion to duty, there is nothing worthwhile that you cannot achieve.”*
Muhammad Ali Jinnah https://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/muhammad_ali_jinnah_372013?src=t_discipline
My life as a blogger has revolved around working and working and will not give myself rest, and most times when I do, I keep remembering the next task to do so I could finish up. I work mostly during the day and this affects my time in the end, I don't rest and would be so weak that my eyes will be hurting me.
Working during the day when you should have split the tasks, especially as someone who works at midnight because most of it would have been covered then and you only have a few to do during the day.
This is the reason I admired Olasquare when he was in Nigeria. He doesn't sleep early, and the day I knew he sleeps at most 2-3 am, he would have prepared his next articles for that night which makes his work easier, I wanted to try it out too.
It made me remember when I used to sleep late at midnight then, but how it changed, I still cannot explain it because I was a night owl then. I sleep late and still wake up early, and that was my pattern until things changed.
Maybe the strike which happened when I was a student made everyone stay at home for more than six months and this affected me most since I used to wake up at midnight to read while I was in school, but being at home, and with my aunt, it worsened the pattern for me and I was used to it.
I do wake up so early especially at 2 am and my eyes are wide open because my exams were approaching. My best time is at midnight when everywhere would be silent and reading books will work like magic and you start remembering all you have read while in the exam hall.
You can't see me reading during the day especially when everywhere is disorderly. Even if no one is around to make noise, the sound of walking steps, the honking of big cars, and trailers moving will not allow you.
The sound of the music being played in shops will not allow one to focus but at midnight, it works like magic. It's as if the cool weather came to support you in allowing your mind and brain to accept everything you keep bringing through reading and flipping those pages.
When I returned to school, I couldn't force myself to sleep late anymore but sleep early and I wake up the next day. I forced myself to wake up at midnight during my final exams and after then, I couldn't.
Then, I used to think to myself that I could have been making use of some hours at night to do something which could help reduce my workload during the day, but most times when I wake up in the middle of the night, I feel tired and return to sleep and this continued until this week that I tried to discipline myself to see how far my progress will be. Waking up very early again was my goal.
On Sunday night, I was determined to wake up at 4 am the next morning to engage for two hours before my morning devotion. I set my alarm and slept off. By 4 am, I was up and started engaging on Readcash *(I planned to switch which platform to come first each morning)* and this went on for two hours. I was satisfied and happy visiting over 25 articles.
Even if I won't be doing anything on the platform for that day again, I was pleased with what I have done that early morning while I focus on other things especially engaging on Hive. This made my work lesser and easier for the day as I still have spare time to do other things, like watching movies which isn't always and taking online courses and during the break, I read books too.
I did this for this week and I really love the outcome and how productive I became throughout. I said to myself that a continuous task being done will change into a habit and I'm ready to take it on like this to help me too, especially having much rest my body needs.
I believe waking up by 4 am will become a habit for me because I don't like sleeping for that long when I am supposed to be doing something which would surely save me during the day to engage in other things that are important to my development.
I did it this week and I look forward to the next coming weeks until it has finally been registered in my body system as a habit to wake up early and do part of my tasks and still have time for other things on my list.
This is my update on how I disciplined myself and was determined to see the outcome of what I ventured on doing and I am so happy with it.
Thanks for your time
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[September 17, 2022] (No 259 articles for the year)
Who is my one call away?
*“If someone needs you don't let them down. Because when you need someone and there is no one to be found you will know how they felt.”*
Isabella Poretsis https://www.wisesayings.com/being-there-quotes/
The week has ended already because when it's Friday, what do we have again to start preparing for how the weekend will go? I just love when Friday is here because another week is approaching which makes the month quicker to end. Once we enter into October, the year has ended and we would start making new resolutions for another year. I pray may God spare our lives till then.
Two days ago, @TeacherLynlyn made a post talking about her one call away and how she praised and appreciated her boyfriend who is always there for her anytime any day. While reading this, my mind goes to someone who I can put in that space for me.
Many times, I just wonder what would I have done if she wasn't available to help me out whenever I need her. This doesn't mean I don't have any other person to fit in that category but I will only talk about her.
One person I still appreciate who still surprises me to this day is my KP (@Olasquare) We have never seen before, even though it hurt me that we couldn't see before he moved to the UK, but one thing I am sure of is our paths will cross someday by God's grace. That man is just too wonderful that he always has time to attend to me whenever I chat with him.
He is also one of my one call away and I don't need to worry about who I need to talk to because he is ready to help me. He is just too awesome to everyone around him which I have noticed he did the same to me too. He never complains because I disturb him too much 😅
So, my one call away is my immediate sister. I don't think I have ever been stranded financially or disappointed by her. Even if she doesn't have it then, she would speak to her friend.
There was a day I needed the money urgently, she doesn't have it but she quickly spoke to her friend and she sent it immediately. I was amazed and because of that, I made sure not to delay in returning to her at the due date.
Whenever I am trying to give reasons why I needed the money urgently, she will cut me off and say “Sis, I don't want reasons from you. How much do you need exactly?”
Sincerely, I feel so touched and emotional hearing this because I never expected she will always save me from unexpected circumstances.
She is someone who doesn't want reasons because she believes you deserve it and you should have enough reasons why you needed money. But make sure you pay at the due date so you can keep coming for more from her.
She would always tell me that I deserved more from her because of what I have done, and I am still doing and so, she believes that when I need something, I truly fulfil my promise of returning at the right time.
I love to appreciate people around me, especially those I can call on and they will not give me a turndown. Same thing I do when I have it with me. There are people you call immediately, not even for money this time around, but those who will always be ready to go miles with you because they believe you need them at that moment.
I have a girl here who is younger than me. Whenever I call her, she is always available for me and I know it's because she respected me and I do the same for her. She sees me as someone who will always help her and so, she never fails when I call on her.
Life is all about helping each other. In my tribe, they will say when you scratch my back, I will do the same too. Though this world has turned into something else where many people pay evil instead of good, especially to those who have been kind to them and you are betrayed in such a way.
Just as the golden rule, do unto others as you would have them do unto you. If you want the best, you should be better to another person. That is what humanity should be like. Love is the key to everything in this life and without it, nothing can move forward and there you will see friends backstabbing each other because of one thing or the other.
If you ever want someone who you would make your one call away, then you should be one to them too because people will never want to help when you aren't there to reciprocate.
Thanks for your time
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[September 16, 2022] (No 258 articles for the year)
It's abnormal for me.
*“I’m not upset that you lied to me, I’m upset that from now on I can’t believe you.”*
Friedrich Nietzsche https://how-to-save-marriage.org/quotes-about-cheating-husbands/
As they would say, “what I like, you don't like.” This means “a man's food is another man's poison.” There is something we call individual differences in psychology, and it wouldn't be a surprise to see people doing something you will never do. I mean, never would you do such a thing because you find it weird, and unreasonable. But that is what makes life fun and interesting. Isn't it? Also, it is what we learn from life to live the best life.
There are many things people do that I see as abnormal, but to them, it is normal and funny enough, it's something that will keep trending. Influences have a lot to do with an individual and if one isn't careful, one would fall into a ditch trying to copy others.
We all are unique and sincerely, I truly understand that there is a reason behind every action, but wouldn't it be crazier when you listen to their reasons and you don't see why they should do it?
Ask someone why he is addicted to smoking and drinking. He will be like “it gives me inspiration.” Inspiration for what? To become a beast to your wife or start saying rubbish, thinking you are in the spirit? 😂😂😂
I have heard and read news of people doing something I will never do because it's crazy to even try it when I know the kind of individual I am. I wonder how they find pleasure doing them and still would tell you, it's life, so enjoy while it last. What's interesting in such for me?
Well, I don't blame them because we all have choices and we decide which to go for and not to go for. I remain myself and will always protect myself from what the world sees as normal but not to me.
Just like a post I read on Hive, the user said she doesn't like watching wrestling 😅 Some find it more fun and would sit all day watching that. For me, I detest watching football which I see girls of my kind finding interest in it 😬😬
But I am not going there because there is something I will never do but to others, it's a norm and there is nothing bad in it.
Wait! Tell me you aren't part of those saying cheating is a norm and nothing is wrong with it?.... 😳😳
Why would you love cheating on your partner, instead of sticking to one and be happy?
I love what this user said in another post I came across concerning cheating. He talked about womanizing because to him, he said he will never try it.
*Having one woman is a headache, two women are a problem and three women are trouble.*
This is the truth because I still wonder how a man would settle to marry more than one wife and still find pleasure in bringing more.
Now, tell me why people derive Joy in cheating which means sleeping with two or more people. All in the name of fun? Or do you want to prove that you are capable? I still do not get or understand it.
One question that used to drop in my mind whenever I see people doing this is that “why did you choose them then when you know you can't be committed to them alone?”
Another question would be, especially when they give reasons that they do not meet up to their expectations or taste or she is not looking good as before. The question would be “Why did you choose him or her in the first place?”
I have heard people asking if I would ever cheat or involve in extramarital affairs. That is one thing I will never do because something I can never try or even do is double dating.
Yes, when I was still in secondary school, I used to be proud of myself and would say that any man who comes into my life will be lucky because he will be the only one and never would I cheat on him, except we got separated which could only happen before marriage because I never prayed or wished for a divorce. I don't want to be a single parent. No 😩
Some girls still brag about having more than one boyfriend and I still get amazed at how they would willingly surrender their bodies for sex with different guys. That's an abomination and sin to me which they believe to be normal. As they would say “having an extra tyre would save you in case anything happens”.
My dear, whatever will happen should happen. Life moves on and one thing I am always assured of is that life will always bring the best if we could learn to forget about the past and move on.
If a guy leaves me today, then it means he isn't meant to be with me forever and so, moving on and hoping for the best to come. It's just like the saying that when someone takes his mat from you, God will place a beautiful rug instead. So, why cheat on him or her instead of sticking to the one you have and let your principle be that your cutlass only has one edge?
For me, I find cheating abnormal because when you have more than one partner and sleep with them differently, what are you? A dog just as my tribe would put it. I am sorry to put it that way but that is the truth.
Thanks for your time.
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[September 15, 2022] (No 257 articles for the year)
I have been offline here for two days and it's because of my engagement in other places. Seriously, I am trying to cope and even have time for myself. I think my guy is kinda complaining 😜😜 don't mind me.
Okay, I tried getting a free picture of mortal and pestle online but I got this from Google. I hope I am not going against the rules here. I just want to show @jane1289 what it looks like.
I posted Poundo Yam the other day which is the most easiest method, but going through the stressful method, after boiling your yam which you won't be adding salt. Once it's boiled enough, you pound it with this local mortal and pestle.
Now, a new way has been introduced. There is a new electric blender for pounding yam but I don't think it will be sweet.
Better on my own.
*“I used to think the worst thing in life was to end up all alone, it’s not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people that make you feel all alone.”*
Quote source https://www.semidelicatebalance.com/quotes-about-being-alone/
Every day, I choose to stay and remain active and positive, and one way or the other, I could see the reaction in me as I keep going on with the day feeling happy and excited till the end of the day. Though, every day I keep praying to God to avert any evil or bad event from happening around me because the truth is that, we are humans and we have this flesh in us.
The flesh has its way of controlling our mood when we are faced with fear or anxiety due to one thing or the other which could break us down for a moment, but as time goes on, we tend to move on with our lives because the truth is that we can never control whatever happens or would happen.
Life has its mystery that we keep looking for or searching for the secret but funny enough, we would keep finding more mysteries. Yet, we can't find the meaning to all things but to let things happen the way they are meant to.
For some weeks now, I am trying to make it an addiction for me because it's in a way, helping my day to be productive. I have been listening to music very early in the morning which would then last for an hour. I love music and I have been blessed to listen to many beautiful songs from amazing artists.
It's hard for me to pick just one favourite because each day, I get to know about another wonderful artist which would then be added to my favourites list.
Music has in one way helped me be productive as I would keep humming a song I enjoyed most throughout the day. One of the recent artists I have come to love and admire is **Tatiana Manaois.**
If you have been listening to her songs, you will agree with me that Tatiana is a young talented artist who is original and her songs are beautiful. At such a young age, she has been focused on publishing her original songs on YouTube and I believe her songs have helped heal many people.
The first time I listened to one of her songs titled ***“Yesterday, every day Always”,*** I was eager to listen to more of her songs which made me go to YouTube to check her out. I was astonished to see she is so young (I think 25 now) when I saw her age. Mehn, this girl is so talented and I appreciate her efforts in bringing her original songs out to the world as a motivation.
When you listen to this song, except you just choose to let yourself down for that day, her songs will lift your mood up when you realize that you have got to love yourself because self-love is what matters.
Then, another intriguing song of hers I just listened to yesterday is **B.O.M.O**. The YouTube link of the song. https://youtu.be/fGGOTPfCBkA
I have been coming across this song on my Spotify app but my mind is always skipping it. Perhaps I was thinking it doesn't speak much, mere seeing the title but I never knew it was an acronym that means a lot to everyone.
This is why you should never judge something by its presence without opening to know what the content is all about. Same with humans. Just because you have seen their appearance, doesn't make you judge if they are evil.
It made me remember my friend I just introduced to Readcash @obikay when we talked at length, and he said he never knew I could be this friendly. I said to him ***“it is because you haven't moved closer to someone”***. I can be so friendly only if you move closer. Same as many of us here.
B.O.M.O means **“Better on my own.”** She sang this song for herself when she was having relationship problems with family, friends and her significant other. She also wants others who are feeling pain or hurt to be better on their own too. It's better to be on our own than to let people take away our happiness when we could do something that brings joy to us.
Happiness should always be our priority and should never let others hurt us to the extent that we miss taking care of ourselves or giving that attention to our beings. We truly deserve the best and one way to make that happen is being on our own to discover who we are and what we are capable of doing.
I hope I have encouraged us through Tatiana Manaois and I think listening to some of her songs would surely help us.
Thanks for your time.
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[September 14, 2022] (No 256 articles for the year)
She has a paranoid personality disorder.
“It's amazing where the paranoid mind can take you.”
Bill Ayers https://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/bill_ayers_458107?src=t_paranoid
Those with a personality disorder will never admit they have one, even when confronted because it is impossible to see everyone without one or two personality disorders. Someone who would knowingly admit he or she has it is rare because many of us do not take our time to understand the types of personality disorders.
Ever since I came across the types of personality disorder, I have studied and seen where I belong, and it is more than one that I have. But other people will still stand by their claims that they do not have and this happens when they aren't ready to learn and study carefully to observe where they belong to.
One thing about me is that I tend to observe someone, especially when such a person is around me. I took my time to study this lady in my compound with the way she behaves toward everyone and it makes me feel sad to see how she reacts to every situation and always aggressive.
I don't know why someone would find pleasure in fighting always, instead of showing maturity. She tries to flare up at any little issue and it makes me wonder how on earth would any human being act in such a way, forgetting that where we are presently isn't the end because, in one way or the other, we will find ourselves in some places in the future which would leave our mouth widely opened in surprise.
Where we are now shouldn't be limited to meeting each other because humans are like water, just as I do say.
This lady is still my friend because I don't have an enemy and I do not intend to make or form one because I know this isn't the only place we would meet ourselves. I tend to act gently to everyone around me and I am always careful not to have any misunderstandings even before leaving a particular place.
I love everyone and I smile at them. I show them kindness in my little way and in all, I make friends with young and old. Why would I even keep malice in me in the first place? I don't know how to do it and I don't pretend.
Anytime I greet this lady, she answers with her nose and I observed she does to everyone in the compound. She has made all of us enemies without any cause. She might have a little misunderstanding with someone today and tomorrow, she will never greet you again even when the other person has forgotten and would return to greeting her, but she just chose to be that way.
She is a toxic person and I don't want such an association with her. This does not mean I categorize her as an enemy. No! There is a difference between hating someone completely and avoiding any toxic relationship, especially for your growth. You need to stay away from them because such a person will only bring you down since they don't have anything to offer.
Some symptoms I observed in her that made me categorize her as being paranoid are;
She is untrusting. When you see someone you cannot trust or keep your secret with them, they have this personality disorder. I once made a post about her when we were living together in my first year at the University. Everything I told her about me, she would relate all to her school father. The day I knew, I stopped telling her about me. I couldn't trust her anymore and she lost such trust in me ever since that day.
She is unforgiving. Till today, she is still keeping malice with me even when we have sorted the issue a long time ago. She keeps everyone in her mind and any little issue, she never forgets and would use that against you by not answering you even when you talk to her. No one has ever stopped greeting her but she doesn't answer us.
Interpreting the actions of others as deliberately threatening and demeaning. She fought with someone some time ago and ever since then, she has been trying not to associate with the person. Once she sees the person coming from the right side, she quickly turns the left which is always obvious and most times, when I see this, I just smile because to me, she doesn't need that. She is mature enough to understand when to let go of things completely and not think everyone she fights with is threatening her.
Prone to anger or aggressive outbursts. This is the part that makes me laugh about her because she is always getting angry every moment and if anyone should cross her boundary, she would unleash her aggressiveness in her.
There was a day I wanted to wash some clothes and she spreads her clothes in a way that even if another person should spread clothes, there would still be space. I went to meet her to make her readjust her clothes. While talking to her, I knew she wasn't ready to hear me out and find something to get angry but since I know the kind of person I am dealing with, I had to be gentle.
She is always finding every means for people to step on her toes and once that happens, she would flare up and start a fight. This is why everyone in the compound has always been careful not to step on her, and seeing her, she isn't comfortable but wanted to fight by all means 😂😂😂😂 such a weird being I have ever seen around me.
These are some signs of a paranoid person I have observed in her.
Thanks for your time.
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[September 13, 2022] (No 255 articles for the year)
She barked like a dog and stopped.
If you are content, you have enough to live comfortably.
Plautus https://www.forbes.com/quotes/7527/
I still do not understand the problem of some girls, I mean the female gender. I am also a female and since I was born, being contented has been taught to every one of us, and one thing I am grateful for today is that my siblings are always on their lane and never tried going off their limit. Why do we even need that when everything was being given to us then? There are days we don't enjoy much, but we still believed that there is a time for things in life.
If you are a female here and you have always stayed true to yourself without being influenced to do what you ought not to do, you need to appreciate yourself because it takes a determined mind to be okay and not to envy others and in the cause, try to do what they do so you can blend in with them.
It's so sad that even despite the end of some girls who have been used for rituals, some would still not learn from it but would want to try it out too. At least they get what they deserved and I do not pity such people. Yea, why would I? Why not stay within your limit instead of trying to be like others?
Some girls aren't contented with what they are given and this makes them do what they shouldn't have done in the first place, and some will still argue with me that they have their reasons for doing that.
Well, to me, I still do not accept any reasons to go out with a guy you never knew all in the name of showering you with money, and in the end, you are used and that is the end of your life except if there be any miracle.
I do not go out at night even when the school is very close to where I stay, but the day I tried going because I needed something to eat for that night, I was shocked to see students in rags which they call clothes, standing by the school gate, waiting for cars to pick them up for the night. Where others have been lucky to be slept with and be paid, others have been used and in the process died. Why? For fame or to survive? For God's sake, there are works you could do instead of selling your bodies in exchange for material things.
Something happened last week in my school. The new students had their matriculation ceremony, and at night, a fresher went out with a guy and that was how she was used.
A video of her being surrounded by people as they were holding her because she was barking like a real dog. Something has been used in her private body because this is so common here.
And for such a person who barks like that, the end is death but it surprises me when I heard on Saturday that she has stopped barking and is okay. Who said she is okay? Of course, she isn't a normal being anymore except God works miraculously in her life, perhaps if she later gives her life to Christ.
There can never be anything useful in her again but would be something we call a walking corpse. For someone who barked and stopped, her matter isn't a normal thing but needs spiritual attention.
Some reason you will keep hearing is for them to be able to flaunt their fake lives. Who do you want to oppress that makes you sell your body? It's very important we stay contented and focused on what we are doing because we need to understand that everything has time.
A time would come that if you are patient, you will enjoy more than those who had desperately destroyed their lives at an early stage. Why in a hurry when you can just wait for your time?
It's really sad because as a lady, you need to be disciplined and determined and never let any bad vibes influence you.
Though guys too have their own but my concern this day is on girls especially seeing what happened last week. People will never listen or hear words until they regret their actions. I pity that student because she has already been the center of attention, and perhaps she might be sent out of the school once it gets to the management. What will her parents say or how would they feel when they hear what their daughter has become? So shameful.
Thanks for your time.
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[September 12, 2022] (No 254 articles for the year)
So, this is what I made for Sunday.
@Sunnylife asked what a Poundo Yam is yesterday which @cescajove answered her already. I promised her to send today once I prepare it. I actually had something else in mind to eat but I just wanted to fulfil my promise to her.
This is one of my best solid meal so far as I enjoy eating it every time.
Poundo Yam is made easy for those who could not stress themselves pounding with a mortal and pestle and using their whole strength.
Technology has made things easy that we don't need to waste our time or strength on things like this. So, Yam was made into flour and all we have to do is to boil water and make Poundo Yam while we stir till it's soft a bit with a turning stick. 😍
Happy Sunday everyone,
I went to church today and it was a beautiful moment with the children and with God.
When I got home, I have prepared my targets for today even though I don't have much until tomorrow which is Monday.
It's a new week and here comes another moment to grind and believe God for the best. I will be preparing my first meal in few hours. So, I will post it here. 🤩😋
Romantic Movies vs real-time relationship.
*“The greatest thing you'll ever learn is just to love, and be loved in return.”*
Moulin Rouge https://www.infoplease.com/culture-entertainment/film/best-romantic-movie-quotes
One way to clear my mood is to watch movies, and not just anyone, but romantic movies. In the end, I just smiled because I know they aren't real.
I am a fan of Bollywood movies with two lovers who ended up together after going through some tough moments or hardships, and in the end, they come to love and spend time with each other. I know something like this can never happen in reality, and even if it does, it takes a lot of time to make it happen.
Romantic Movies present relationships in a way that is humourous and unrealistic. Movies like that aren't realistic at all, but relationships nowadays want such love to end happily just like they see in movies.
For example; I watched a romantic movie some days ago. Both partners were on their way to getting married and settling down. They hired a housemaid. Along the line, the lady's ex came to greet her after returning from the states. The guy forced himself and kissed the girl. The housemaid met them on this and one way or the other, the fiance got to know and he broke up with her. He ended up marrying the housemaid. 😄😄
Can this ever happen in reality? I mean just because she was caught kissing her ex, does that mean breaking up? Why can't they just iron it out and the guy forgives and that is it?
For something like this, the fiance might try to kill the ex. Do you think such a thing can happen in a real-time relationship?
Do you see why romantic movies or novels shouldn't be used as a standard for what relationships should be like?
The fact remains that real life doesn't play out like in the movies and happy endings are a fallacy. Love and communication take a whole lot of sacrifice, hard work and willingness from both partners to commit to each other.
Romantic Movies will picture every scene to look real and within a flashlight, but the reality isn't measured this way. What only takes a few minutes in a scene could take years in a real relationship and that is it.
The media that we consume impacts our perceptions of the real world. For example; when you expect your partner to look into your eyes, and with magic, know that something is wrong with you. This is a scene that works well in romantic movies or novels, but is far from being real in real-time relationships.
Will you expect your guy to go ahead to marry you when you are HIV tested positive? I have seen this in movies. Even when they say love is blind? Who wouldn't open his or her eyes in reality, to know that there is danger looming except there is a miracle?
Watching a romantic movie or reading novels together is good and it's a means of entertainment. It is a way to have or spend quality time together.
The truth is that relationships shouldn't be based on what we watch in movies because you can never use that to set a standard for your relationship except you are trying not to be content and want your relationship to be all perfect because of what you are seeing which isn't real.
Watching movies like that should be a way of talking about your perceptions and views about what you like in such a relationship and talking about things you like or appreciate in the movie.
Take for instance, you saw two partners who have had a daily routine to spice up their relationship, you can express your needs to your partner and try to discuss things if such a routine should be taken into your relationship since you love what you saw. There is nothing worse after all.
Do not think all romantic relationships that end with happy life are real, and you trying to match things up with yours will only make you destroy your relationship, and do not think those things that are possible in movies and novels would be real in real-time. That's a lie.
All romantic movies are unrealistic and just a way to see relationships from another perspective.
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**Thanks for your time.**
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[September 11, 2022] (No 253 articles for the year)
It's been an amazing day today. Okay, let me explain how it went. I already planned preparing a new vegetable soup today and someone like me would want it rich. The vegetable has crayfish, locust Beans, meat, ponmo, and fish to make it more delicious. Though it cost a lot, but when you are eating good meal, you don't bother about the amount.
I sent my friend to get them for me since she was going to the market. She came back late and it was around 3pm and I was going to church by 5pm. That made me rush things as I didn't want to get to church late.
To cut the long story short, I finished at exactly 5:05pm which I got ready for school. When I got to church, I saw there was no service. I turned back and came for my Poundo Yam with rich vegetable soup 😋😋😋
Hi noisecashian, 😀
I just registered now and from the starts, it's user-friendly and I love what I have read, I mean the rules in here and how the new noise.app works and will work for everyone, depriving the spammers here of their freedom. Of course, we don't want them here because if you must reap from your harvest, you must work hard for it.
This will surely be awesome journey with my friends. Let's keep learning and never go into extinction.
The wheat, barn and chaff.
*“The highest result of education is tolerance.”*
Helen Keller https://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/helen_keller_133850?src=t_tolerance
***The wheat, barn and chaff...*** Are we conversant with this in the Bible? I believe many of us should, because it's in Matthew chapter three. I love spending my time reading the word of God every morning because I learn a lot from it. The Bible is a guide to how we should live our lives and what to do and not do.
While reading this chapter yesterday morning, my eyes caught this and I held onto it till the end of the day, and was also cautious of what I do throughout the day while reminiscing on that particular portion. You will agree with me that there is nothing in this world that isn't explained in the Bible and from it, we get life's inspiration to move on.
The three concepts are like a proverb. The wheat is the believer, the barn is the kingdom and the chaff is the unbeliever. That part is talking about what will happen to the wheat which would be kept in the barn which is the kingdom of God while the chaff would be destroyed with unquenchable fire.
While still going on with my day, I watched a video on YouTube that talks about those things we should never tolerate in our lives. I tried matching the words from the Bible up with the video to come up with something inspiring and I got something out of it by racking my brain. Trust me, a writer does a big task in relating every story or word in the Bible to life in general.
Now, let's see it this way; we would take wheat to be beans. You know when you are picking your beans to be cooked or you are trying to peel off the white one from the chaff when you are preparing bean cake, you do away with the dirt in it and throw them away. The wheat (the good part of the beans) are kept in a barn (perhaps in a big bowl or pot to be cooked) while the chaff (those you want to throw away) since they are of no use.
Bringing it down to relate with life and ourselves, we would be talking about the chaff (things you shouldn't tolerate) you do not want to allow in your barn (life, heart or mind) because you want the wheat (good habits) to be tolerated.
With this in mind, I will be sharing some things we should never tolerate in life. I used “we” here because I am included and to make our lives great and successful, we need to do away with them in our lives.
**Toxicity:** This is number one on the list. We all know what toxicity is and how it affects us negatively. Toxicity can take many forms in our lives; emotional, physical and mental factors which causes us to slow down instead of progressing. Toxicity is like having a friend or something bring you down from doing the best thing.
We all have those friends that are negative and no matter what we do, they will bring us down. We can live in a toxic environment, stay in a toxic relationship and even be addicted to bad habits which bring toxicity to us. All these would bring us down and draw us back instead of moving forward. This should never be tolerated in our lives. So, whatever we can pinpoint as being toxic in our lives, it's better to remove them from our barns because they are chaff.
**Dishonesty:** Trust me, dishonesty is a form of betrayal. How do you feel when someone lied or betray you? Especially if it comes from someone you ever trusted. It's always so painful and it could affect us emotionally, physically and mentally. There is a need to desist from dishonesty from people and even to ourselves especially, because so many times, we are our enemies when we keep doing things that hurt our feelings.
We should never think we could change someone because we would only be lying and deceiving ourselves and when our expectations aren't in line, we tend to get disappointed.
**Naysayers:** A person who keeps doubting or criticizing you is a naysayer. This also brings toxicity into our lives because no matter what we do or say, they will still deny us or even doubt our abilities. When we do not have someone ready to have our back and appreciate every win in our lives, then we would always see ourselves as failures. Naysayers are chaff that shouldn't be allowed into our barns.
**Excuses:** The best thing in life is to be able to admit some things and take responsibility for everything that has happened and stop giving excuses. Excuses will only draw us back and we should try to always avoid them. No one will kill us if we admit our errors because a person who gives excuses will only try to justify his or her wrongs and not accept the truth or say it.
**Time wasters:** Being time conscious pays and no matter who they are in your life, never allow time wasters because every time wasted with the wrong person should instead have been used wisely doing productive things. Time wasters are chaff that should never be tolerated.
There are many more of those things we shouldn't tolerate and I will be glad to hear from you in the comment section.
**Thanks for your time.**
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[September 10, 2022] (No 252 articles for the year)
Trusting the Process. Fictional story
*“Let your life reflect the faith you have in God. Fear nothing and pray about everything. Be strong, trust God's word, and trust the process.”*
Germany Kent https://www.goodreads.com/quotes/tag/trust-the-process
*Last night, I was lying on my bed when I got an inspiration from the Hive Open Mic's theme for the week “Trusting the process” and I got this story to make out of it. I hope you enjoy it.*
She wants everything to herself but she isn't ready to work for it. She found so many people succeeding and enjoying their harvest, but all she could do is to sit on her bamboo chair and wallow in self-pity, thinking she wasn't made for the best. *Who told her that?*
Hannah lost her parents at a young age, and all she was left with was the small hut she had lived in with her parents. Now that they are no more, wouldn't she step outside? She had read many stories and books about stepping out of your comfort zone but it seems the more she tried to, the more fears gripped her.
She knows no one but she has allowed the fear took hold of her. She allowed the fear to win the battle and she isn't coming out of it anytime soon. She keeps begging for food from nearby neighbours and friends, but won't they get tired of her one day? It's better to protect your value than to make people take advantage of you.
*Hannah, step out!* said one of her friends who had pitied her condition ever since she became a lonely girl in the hut. She has no relatives to run to because she wasn't allowed to see them when her parents were alive. This is why it is not good to keep your children away from relatives because no one knows tomorrow. Now that they are dead, no relative came for her.
After a few months, she found a connection that led her to the city to help a rich family. She was interviewed and tested, and they found out she was qualified for the role of a maid who could do anything in the house.
Her work is to sweep the whole house, wash the dishes and clothes, and watch over the two kids when they return from school. That was the only work meant for her. Thank God the couple weren't harsh but took her as their daughter after listening to the story of her life.
She was given a big room where she could sleep and enjoy her time once she is done with her chores. Hannah became their favourite in no time because of her hard work. She knew what she wanted and so, she never allowed her past to define her anymore as she was sure of hitting it big through her employers.
The couple leaves home as early as 6 am after they must have gotten the kids ready for school. Hannah will only make sure they go with the school bus when it arrives by 7 am. There was not much work for her and she enjoyed her life like a normal child and not as a maid.
*Be free here Hannah. Don't act like a maid because you are part of this family already.* Said the wife one evening. She called Hannah to discuss the issue of enrolling her in school. This means her dream is coming to pass gradually as she kept trusting the process. She was excited hearing such news as she knelt to thank Madam.
With Joy in her heart, she ran inside to bring a cup of juice as instructed by Madam. She smiled at the kids while she gave them pecks on their cheeks. Her joy knew no bounds.
After many years, Hannah graduated from the University with a first class in Business Administration. Two years later, she got a scholarship for her masters in Europe. The couple had a relative over there as they discussed that Hannah should stay with them for her program.
Her dream of becoming the CEO of her company is coming into existence after a year of completing her masters abroad. She returned to Nigeria to meet the people who gave her a brand new life after her parents' death.
Some months later, she got married to Kelvin and they both were handling her dream company.
One day, she was called upon on a TV show where she boldly wrote an inscription and showed it to everyone.
*This is my story... Trust the process and lean on God always.*
Thanks for your time
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[September 09, 2022] (No 251 articles for the year)
A wrong decision.
*“I don't think leadership demands 'yes' or 'no' answers; I think leadership is providing the forum for making the right decision, which doesn't demand unanimity.”*
Arthur Ochs Sulzberger, Jr. https://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/arthur_ochs_sulzberger_j_550166?src=t_right_decision
Yesterday came out to be like every other day as I woke up ready to see how it would lead and throw me, but I was really glad where it took me because I kind of achieve my target for the day. My laptop has been faulty for almost a month now and there was almost an issue with me and the repairer, but I just decided to not get angry as I know what I could do and I do not want something I would regret later.
The man who recommended me to him insisted on helping me take back my system there so he would do what he has to do so that my stuff will be working perfectly again.
The man asked me to come around to his office yesterday so we both can go to the repairer and while I was there, I met two ladies working on their projects while they were talking to the man's wife. Something led to another which made one of the ladies narrate an experience of a fight that happened between her and the course representative in her department.
I paid attention to all she was saying and here it goes;
*When I was admitted into the college three years ago, and while doing my registration. The lecture already started and my part adviser came to address us on a particular day. She listed some materials to get as new students, but I wasn't paying attention. The next day, the course rep decided to drop the message again on the WhatsApp group chat but I still didn't concentrate until she (the course rep) private chatted with me and told me the materials to buy.*
*I tried asking for the list of the important ones to get so I will know how to bill my parents at home. But her reply infuriated me. It wasn't even like I asked her to Dm me but she did, and here she is insulting me? I gave her my reply and she promised to deal with me in class the following week. It was on a Friday this incident happened and I already forgot whatever that transpired between us.*
*The following Monday, after the lecture, she dragged my clothes and slapped me. She was pregnant at that time and I never let it go. I slapped her thrice and even tore the gown she was wearing plus I gave her a blow on her stomach. I didn't even bother she was pregnant.*
*Why will a course mate slap me and I won't return mine? The issue got to the management and after hearing both sides, they concluded that the course rep was at fault and both of us should apologize to each other which we did. The next thing was ordering us to write an apology letter to the school for what happened. I accepted to write mine but the course rep didn't and she left the school. Was it my fault?*
I listened with rapt attention to everything she said and what surprised me was the decision the course rep took all because she couldn't write a simple apology letter when she was at fault.
After three years, this lady said she met her at her husband's shop one day in the market and if she had written the letter, she would be graduating like her this day.
I wonder why such people exist. I mean, they do not value their lives or education and that kind of person will always hold onto grudges for years because something happened on a Friday and you couldn't forget and let go, only for you to confront and slap her the following week. That's an unforgiving spirit in her and I can never try such.
God knows I don't keep malice or hate someone. I let go immediately because I want to receive God's forgiveness too. If you forgive others' trespasses, God will forgive yours too and there would be peace in you.
I was so surprised yesterday when she was saying that story and in one way, I feel for the course rep because she could have just been an example to her colleagues. Why are you then the course representative? A leader would always lay a good example and not the other way around.
This is something that happened yesterday which I brought to us here to learn from it.
**Thanks for your time.**
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[September 08, 2022] (No 250 articles for the year)
Why do our mood change after making a new hair?
*“Good looks are not something you earn. But as you get older, how you look is a reflection of the life you've led.”*
Diana Quick https://www.overallmotivation.com/quotes/looking-good-quotes/
Thank God, I finally did a new hairstyle yesterday after waiting for the lady for almost a week.
I had planned to make my hair since last week when a friend introduced me to her hairstylist. The hairstylist is a student too and uses this skill to help herself in school. At least this will help her survive without having to rely on her parents to send some allowances to her always.
I went to take my spot from the hair stylist last weekend and she made it known she won't be available that same day. We both agreed on the next week but with the assurance that if she doesn't have any lectures, she will help me.
I let her know it would be a home service because I don't feel too comfortable at someone's house other than mine. She agreed and calculated my bills for me which we had to negotiate till we both agreed on a particular amount. At that point, it was a win-win situation for us.
The next day came, and I started getting myself prepared as I thought she could arrive anytime and I wouldn't want to be delaying her. I had woken up early to do everything I needed to do, including drafting my articles to be posted because I know my nature once I make a new hair.
**Why do ladies change their mood when they make new hair?**
This was a question I asked Mr Google yesterday but didn't find the answer I wanted. This is not the first time my mood changes anytime I make hair like this particular one, including weavon fixing.
I think if not all, it's the same for ladies too. A lady that would be beautiful will have to go through some pain, you know? 😆
Ladies are doing great, and at the same time, we go through many things just to look good for ourselves and our partners. One of the things that bring our beauty is the hairstyles we do.
Hairstyle is one of the criteria to make a lady look good and beautiful and just as for Princess, she looks so gorgeous. I don't want to wait for anyone to tell me that because I know I am beautifully made.
The truth is, money is good and if you have lots of money, take care of yourself and you will see the new you. Every person you meet that makes you think they do not look fine, it's because they haven't done some touching to themselves. Even if you do not have enough money, use the little you have to take care of yourself.
Another thing is our dressing. As a lady, you don't go around putting on shaggy or rough clothes. The kind of clothes we wear will reveal the kind of person we are.
Before now, I know I don't dress well. Just recently, I went to buy some bum shorts to look sexy for myself and perhaps my boyfriend (when he comes) 😅😅
I don't fancy this stuff before but now, I know why it is important to always look good and mature all the time. I feel good and relaxed when I wear them inside and when I go out, I change into something better.
Though, I don't like sitting for long to make a hair just like I did yesterday. We spent five hours on this Ghana weaving hairstyle and it made me get tired that I couldn't do anything online but sleep immediately I returned from Church.
Anytime I make my hair, I don't get too comfortable for the rest of the day and my mood changes immediately. Most times, I won't be able to cook but thank God I did a small cooking yesterday because I didn't eat anything in the morning till we finished the hair.
There is no one that isn't beautiful or handsome, we only need some touch in our lives and it will bring that beauty out in us. Hairstyles, Clothes and shoes bring out the charming self in us and we shouldn't hesitate to always look nice and beautiful.
I was just smiling all through yesterday when people were complimenting my hairstyle because it's a new one and not common. I had to browse this hairstyle online to make mine and I am happy she got it right. At least my money isn't wasted because I love it.
**Thanks for your time**
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[September 07, 2022] (No 249 articles for the year)
Why do I feel tired and sleepy after eating?
*“Great things happen to those who don't stop believing, trying, learning, and being grateful.”*
Roy T. Bennett https://www.goodreads.com/quotes/tag/never-stop-learning#:~:text=%E2%80%9CThere%20are%20five%20important%20things,%2C%20and%20never%20stop%20learning.%E2%80%9D&text=Like-,%E2%80%9CNever%20stop%20dreaming%2C%20never%20stop%20believing%2C%20never%20give%20up,%2C%20and%20never%20stop%20learning.%E2%80%9D
Many times, I try to control the way I eat most times as I don't like how I use to feel sleepy immediately after I eat my meal, especially during the day when I am supposed to start working. I just feel tired and it is until I have slept and would be able to do something, but that period, I realize I am lagging behind many things I ought to have done with those hours I have been sleeping.
Yesterday, immediately after I finished eating breakfast, my eyes were dimming and I felt tired. I planned to spend my time online so I can achieve something productive but this tiredness will not allow me. I decided to play around and ask the question on my WhatsApp status to hear what others have to say.
Some replied saying it's too much alcohol. I know I don't take it, so I erase that from the answer I wanted. Another said it's too much money. How does that relate, please? 😅😅 I scrapped that too. Then I got the last and most beautiful answer. The person said it's our digestion pattern. Digestion goes through a long period, and if we do not do anything then, we would feel tired.
Finally, I went to research on Google and I love what I read and I learned from it. I had to bring it here for us to learn too and perhaps change some things we wouldn't want to include or combine.
**Why do we feel tired after eating?**
Reading it, I discovered that this issue can be a natural result of digestion patterns and sleep cycles. After eating, it takes a while for the food to get digested completely, and this is why we are advised not to lie down immediately after eating because such a thing could even cause belly fat. This is why you see mothers, after feeding their babies, allow them to belch before letting them rest or sleep. Same thing with an adult.
There are some foods we eat and the timing that makes people feel tired after a meal. According to researchers, it is believed that it is a natural response and not something that calls for concern.
The combination of Carbohydrates and Protein makes people feel tired or sleepy after eating than any other food. It is believed that our body produces more serotonin which causes this problem.
***Serotonin is a chemical with a role that is played to regulate mood and sleep cycles.***
There is an Amino acid called “Tryptophan”, which occurs in many proteinous foods that helps the body to produce serotonin. Therefore, tryptophan is absorbed in the body through the Carbohydrates we consume.
For this cause, when we eat food that is rich in Protein and Carbohydrates, it makes us feel tired after eating.
What are the foods that contain Tryptophan? They include; Poultry, eggs, spinach, cheese, seeds, milk, salmon, and soy products.
While food that has high levels of carbohydrates are, Pasta, rice, corn, milk, sugar and candy, white bread, cake, cookies, and doughnuts.
When people combine these meals, especially during the day, it makes them sleep.
Another thing is the quantity of food we eat at once. There was a time I tried eating a little quantity, I noticed I wasn't feeling tired or sleepy and I knew the quantity of food we eat could affect us when we should be working but we get tired and feel sleepy.
*Other factors that cause tiredness after eating are;*
Poor sleep at night
Drinking alcohol with a meal. I know some people who combine this and take alcohol to be water. This surely affects such a problem.
With all these being said, how do we stop feeling tired after eating? This is something that is frustrating when you have got a lot to do for the day but this issue comes up for you.
The first is to eat little and often. Just like I said above, we can try eating little at first, then go back to it later. But make sure you don't eat a large quantity at once.
Get quality sleep.
Go for a walk
Avoid drinking alcohol with meals.
Take a short nap during the day
Apply the Bright-Light therapy. This is by exposing your eyes to bright light after eating breakfast or lunch.
I hope I have been able to help and break this down in a way we can understand better.
**Thanks for your time**
Reference https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/323379#seeing-a-doctor
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[September 06, 2022] (No 248 articles for the year)
It's Monday! What do I have here?
*“Okay, it’s Monday but who said Mondays have to suck? Be a rebel and have a great day anyway.”*
Kimberly Jiménez https://www.goodhousekeeping.com/life/a39775557/monday-quotes/
The day is bright for me as I looked through the window, and with a smile, I thanked God for the gift of life. Since the week started yesterday which was Sunday, even though it was a busy one for me that left me weak at end of the day, I never allowed the following day to weaken me more.
One thing I am always conscious of till today is being optimistic about the day and just like the law of attraction, I want to be positive so I can have the best of the day.
I am always excited when it's a new week, and I am always eager to write creatively and add to my knowledge when I learn something new. I never stopped learning because I don't want to be a fool among others when they are talking and I wouldn't be able to chip in one or two things just because I know nothing about what they are saying.
If one should stop learning, the person will never be active again because what you don't know will always boss over you or be greater than you. So, each day, try to learn something. Even if it is a new food you would like to try, please try it! If you are helping someone for the first time, help him or her.
We are all writers and our pens should speak originality. Even if you are typing on your phone or laptop, just let it keep flowing as you keep getting new ideas dropping into your head and mind. Keep connecting the dot to form something amazing.
Never compare yourself to others because we are different. We all are unique in distinct ways. We aren't competing with each other, but we are trying to put more effort into what we do.
Emergencies will come but something that will save you is when you save. No matter how much you earn anywhere; be it on blogging, or your offline job, try to save at least a little before you spend on other things. Saving today will save you tomorrow. Just like my mantra: 10% of what I earn is mine to keep. I don't even save 10% but more.
I make sure to remove part of the income I earn from the different platforms I am and calculating that, it is more than ten percent. I know when I need it in future, I won't have to keep running or asking for money. The future may be tomorrow or next month or so, just save the little you can, and see how relieving it will be for you then.
Smile at people. Don't just frown your face because one of the disadvantages of frowning your face is scaring people away from you and that could make you lonely and lose friends. Be kind and friendly to others. It's not only when you give out money before showing kindness, your smile, attention, help etc can go a long way in doing something in their lives. Make an impact and see how life would smile back at you.
It's Monday and I believe we have set some targets to achieve. Whether online or offline, it's your responsibility to meet up before the end of the week. We still have five more days to the weekend and there is nothing that cannot be done within that moment. Just keep doing something and see the achievement you will make.
A step you take today full of challenges is better than not even taking any step because, with one step, there is progress. Don't just remain stagnant and expect results. It is what you do that will bring results no matter how much effort you put into it.
Finally for today, have faith in God. Believe in Him and commit your ways to His hand. The Bible says we should cast our burdens on Jesus because He cares. Whatever you are struggling or battling with, have you tried talking to God about it? Talk to Him and see what happens next. Remember, it is by applying your faith before things can happen the way you expect. Doubt will never do anything. Trust God completely and lean on Him.
*These are the words I have for us today, and I hope your mind resonates with everything here. Don't stress yourself at all but do your best and leave the rest to God. Never accommodate fear or doubt but believe. With God, all things are possible.*
**Thanks for your time.**
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[September 05, 2022] (No 247 articles for the year)
Tell me how you will learn.
*“There is no end to education. It is not that you read a book, pass an examination, and finish with education. The whole of life, from the moment you are born to the moment you die, is a process of learning.”*
Jiddu Krishnamurti https://www.growthengineering.co.uk/70-quotes-about-learning/
It's a new week here and I am excited as I can't even wait to see another weekend 😅 Happy Sunday lovelies and I am very sure, we are ready to try our best and see how everything goes. I pray may God bless our hustle this week.
I wonder how you will learn, and you want to earn. It's impossible. Seeing someone like me, they do not know or understand what I go through to make my money, but still, I am always happy that I keep learning each day. It's not about the money, but what I have learnt since I started my journey in blogging.
If you must enjoy it, you must work and put in your effort. Nothing is made easy at all. Nothing is free in this world, except for the peace of God. You have to earn that too. How? Learn from the word of God and follow the instructions. Though it's not easy. What you need, you will do your best for it.
My friend does not want to do anything but cash out. Is that possible? She told me to help her make some money as I do, I did my part by showing her to Blurt Blockchain but she doesn't do anything. Her boyfriend is the one handling the platform. All she does is watch movies while her boyfriend does the work for her.
Whenever she travels, that means her activities stops until she returns because according to her, she cannot write. Why did she come to me then?
Now, she wants to be on Hive. I smiled and reminded her how she has not been doing anything on Blurt and you want to come to Hive. I explained to her how Hive is stricter than Blurt and she must be fully active if she wants to make it.
She asked how much she would be making every week, I laughed and told her it all depends on her. I made her know that if she would come to Hive, she must stop watching movies. It is like her life revolves around movies. From morning till night, she watches movies.
It is only when I am having some free time, I watch movies. It takes many days before having time for movies because I am always active and engaging on platforms. I don't keep movies on my phone, this is why I watch directly online (Netflix). But my friend? I was surprised to see over 40 movies on her phone and that isn't the issue, but having a compilation of her native language movies (Yoruba).
Times without numbers, I have advised her to always watch English and American movies, read books to help her grammar and intonation. Seriously, I should reinstall some friends around me 😂😂😂
Now, she is on Hive. I took my time explaining everything about Hive and helping her register yesterday, but she wasn't even paying attention, but told her boyfriend to listen to me because he would be the one managing the account. I smiled and I wonder what kind of girl she is. She isn't ready to do anything or even learn. I try my best to update her too but it's like nothing is happening.
Tell me how she will learn if she isn't even dedicated to doing anything. I shake my head while talking to her. It may look like it's funny to her, but I am pissed off because why won't someone not want to learn, but to always watch movies all through the day and it continues the next day?
Can I ever use my time that way? It's like wasting my precious time on unnecessary stuff.
I am not saying watching movies is bad, of course, it is not. But when it is the only thing you know and nothing else, my dear, that isn't life at all.
Of what use is your Android phone and can't bring money to you? Why would I sub on my phone and not know how to make more money subscribing? Where is the money coming from? The tree or at the back of my house?
If you do not define your life at the right time, you will leave to regret it later. I did my best to make her know she shouldn't spend all her days watching movies when there are other things to dedicate her time to. There is a need to always keep ourselves updated by learning, unlearning and relearning.
I hope she dedicates her time to Hive because as for me, I have done my part by introducing her on how to make money for herself.
Thanks for your time.
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[September 04, 2022] (No 246 articles for the year)
If I have the power to cure a disease. It will be cancer.
Without the weekend, where would the week be?
Anthony T. Hincks https://www.wow4u.com/quotes3/
*The weekend is here again. I am sure you guys would be excited, having to relax and enjoy the moment. Many of us are also enthusiastic about spending the weekend with our families and going for a mini exploration. For me, the weekend is just like every normal day because I would be indoors, grinding and playing with my phone.*
*The week has been amazing for me and I am so happy seeing each day, and being positive all through. I was careful not to feel sad since I know how it would affect the day.*
*Saturday would be a busy day for me, as I do not know if I would have time here. First thing is making my hair. Then, going to Church later in the day and getting ready for tomorrow in Church. I can't wait to see these children again.*
In many ways, I have always imagined having a kind of superpower where I can save someone who is dying from a disease or sickness because I could feel the pain they go through. They wish to stay longer and live healthier. No one wants to die, especially if they have some sort of illness or see their family run in and run out of money.
These kinds of people would pray to stop breathing because they could not keep seeing how the bills are going up and making their families suffer a lot.
All of us want to live a life without stress and without dying of disease. It's so frustrating and uncomfortable lying on the hospital bed and going through those pains and agonies.
I have seen a woman who was sick for 12 years and would always scream every midnight around 1 am until after a while, she would stop and this continued every day. She was in discomfort. She died from a stroke and these years were painful to her. She couldn't have a good life before she gave up. 12 years is too much for such agony and discomfort, and it would make the family sick to spend non-stop.
Illness takes money away from a rich man. No one prays for something like this in our lives.
If I have just one treatment for the disease, I will opt for **cancer**. Have you ever seen a patient with cancer? Particularly bone marrow, leukaemia and breast cancer. Do you have any idea how painful this time is for them? The worst is trying to have a bone marrow transplant, and even then, they die unless they're lucky or by miracle.
Research shows that there are over 200 types of cancer, but that's not my problem because the cure I would have would be for all kinds of cancer. You wouldn't understand the pain someone with breast cancer is going through when they decide to cut off their breast.
A while back, I saw a video on YouTube. The little kid had bone marrow cancer that caused all of her hair to disappear. This means that she would undergo a surgical procedure where a donor would be requested. They would find another bone marrow that matches hers, and say, that the fees are outrageous. That's no small amount of money for one operation.
She started pleading for people to support her family because she doesn't want to leave them alone. That could be very devastating for her and her family during that period.
No one wishes to leave a beautiful family and go to the great beyond, but do we have a choice?
Of course, there are certain things we can do to prevent them. When we recognize the causes of these illnesses, it is up to us to stay away from them or not. Health is wealth, and if we can abstain from habits like smoking, inhaling hard substances, drinking alcohol, etc., we would not have to suffer from these kinds of things.
*It's another beautiful day with @gertu renewing her sponsorship to me. I feel honored when such a thing happen. God bless you ma.*
Thanks for your time.
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[September 03, 2022] (No 245 articles for the year)
We never visited the hospital.
“We never know the love of a parent till we become parents ourselves.”
Henry Ward Beecher https://chatbooks.com/blog/quotes-about-parenting
Parenting is the master of all professions. I agree with @George_Dee on the article he made yesterday. You can click here and it takes you to his recent post. https://read.cash/@George_Dee/parenting-is-the-master-of-all-professions-3556584e
I can never agree less to it because he has said the truth. Parenting is a hard task and if you aren't ready to be committed to it, I don't know what you need a child or children for.
When he got to this part that says;
*Parents are doctors. Do you agree with this? Before the intervention of medical practitioners, parents are the first responder to their child's illness.*
Yes, parents are doctors. He talked about how his mom trained them in drinking herbs to cure illnesses. I was inspired to write about my experience with it too. I would say, my mom was a strong legend to her children. I don't think there was any herb she wasn't conversant of.
The five of us were given birth to in a white garment church, and we never stepped our feet in any hospital. It wasn't that there was no money to take us there, but at that time, she believed in local herbs. Maybe this is why I don't like visiting the hospital for anything, until now, that I was forced to, by my Big sis.
My mom knows the name of all herbs and knows the right one for our illness. If it is malaria, she knows the combination. Fever? She knows it and the likes. She would always send me to get the herb from a particular woman, and she would list their names on a paper for me. I will just go to the woman, hand over the paper to her, and in a few minutes, she had gathered everything and I would take it home.
My mom made sure we drink this herb every morning before eating our breakfast. If you don't take the herb, you aren't eating. She would always say to us.
When we know how to eat sweet things, we must taste bitter ones too. We love taking sweets and the likes, and she was always careful and never missed a day forcing us to drink herbs. That made me prefer herbs to anything today. Though, I still would go for injection rather than taking drugs.
There was a time I was sick in school. I went to the school health center but that wasn't enough, until a friend volunteered to make herbs for me. That was when I missed my mom the more. After drinking it, I slept, and by the time I woke up, I had already sweated and felt completely fine.
Finding the right herb for your ailment heals faster for me and I love it.
Our mom was the doctor in the house. We don't visit the hospital. In most cases too, when we are sick, she would ask if we want an injection or herb? We would echo herb. It got to a point, they thought I was a spirit girl with the way I fall sick every time. They got scared, thinking my time wouldn't last on earth and so, they would always take me to the church.
When my grandmother was narrating those times I was with her, she would always thank God for my life today, because they never thought I would stay longer like this. I hope to live longer the more 😎
At the church, they would have informed them that they would be bringing me over for prayer. The church would have prepared herbs in a big bowl. The hotness of the herb itself would scare you, and make you pretend you are well so you don't go through such predicament.
They would dip my head into the hot herb while I inhale the smoke and thereafter, they start wiping me with a broom, chanting some things and sending away evil spirits. They believed I was being possessed then 🤣🤣🤣🤣
So, whenever I fall sick, I pretend to be okay because I don't want to go through such trauma 😂😂😂
Why wipe me with a broom, with the thought to send away evil spirits? Am I a witch?
But in all, I still appreciate my mom's love for her children. She trained us so well, and I am glad to have such a great woman. May her soul continue to rest in peace.
Thanks for your time.
Thank you so much, @Jane for renewing your sponsorship. God will keep blessing you. I really appreciate it ♥️
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[September 02, 2022] (No 244 articles for the year)
Don't be afraid to fail - Something I learned from a child.
*“Failure is a part of the process. You just learn to pick yourself back up.”*
Michelle Obama https://blog.hubspot.com/sales/learning-from-failure-quotes
It's a new month!!!
How excited are you to see the month of “Ember”? I love this season because we are almost getting to the end of the year. It has been God's faithfulness in the last month and here we are again, getting prepared to work and commit all to God's hand. Let's keep reminding ourselves that it will be better, but we should keep moving on. When we fail, we shouldn't be worried, but stand up and keep trying.
Trust me! Children are your go-to if you want to learn a lot about life. They're too gentle for you to learn the best of life. All you have to do is be with them and you'll learn a lot. They remind you of the way you used to be when you were their age. This is why I enjoy being with them, to get more life advice. That's also why I chose to join the children's department at my church. I adore kids, and one of my dreams is to have them around me and be their confidant.
We cannot always do things the right way.
Can you look back at your childhood memories? In school, we want to be the first and nothing else. You feel weak and sad when you don't do things right at the beginning while you see other children getting by with it. We were so young and naive back then because we didn't realize that life isn't about making it all better every time. Missing it along the way does not make you a loser, but not being able to keep up and try to see if you would get better.
I was taking these kids, a revision of the Sunday School manual on Sunday, which I prepared some questions for them, and also came along with some rewards as a way to motivate them. There is this little boy of age 5 who wouldn't want to accept being a loser even when he kept giving the wrong answer, and when another person gives the correct answer, he starts to cry.
Why? He felt that he could have provided the right answer and wanted to continue to do so.
**We learn when we fail and still attempt.**
We have people like him. They don't want to fail the first attempt, and therefore they're afraid to try. They'd rather not try anything than try and fail. Life is never like that. We can't be right all the time, there would be wrongs, but what we decide to do after that, is what matters.
Failure is not an end in the world. We keep trying after every wrong result until we get it right, and at that moment, we have learnt lessons, and it would be easier to apply them in the next trial.
There was a story @olawalium mentioned sometimes back. A man lost his money, but was not sad, and when he was confronted, he said that he never forgot how he earned the money and that he would get it back.
One thing I like about the man is applying faith and courage to start all over because that was a mistake. Everyone will make mistakes at some point. The first mistake is always forgivable, but when you keep making the same mistakes, it means that you are still unable to learn.
Mistakes are bound to occur. We would make errors because it is not intentional. Don't be discouraged, you just have to find another way to make it work for you rather than wallowing in self-pity all your life.
There is no harm in not doing it properly. We were never supposed to be perfect in all areas anyway, but we can do our best to learn from every error we made. Learning is the best, and we will never stop learning till we leave this earth.
I knew the boy was just a child and when he grows up, he will fully understand that life is not just about getting it right all the time. How do you learn when you continue to do things well? That's why life brings moments of failure for you to learn and have the courage to continue trying. That's the great thing about us.
Thanks for your time
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[September 01, 2022] (No 243 articles for the year)
What consumes your money most?
*“Your attitude, more than anything, will influence your effectiveness.”*
Pat Gelsinger https://www.wow4u.com/wednesdayquotes/
I saw a trending question on Twitter yesterday and found it fun to share with you guys. You might want to share yours and don't forget to tag me, I will show up and read them.
**What consumes your money most in Lagos?**
That was how the question was put if I got it right. Those who live in Lagos state would agree with me that it is those who are strong that can live in that part of Nigeria. Lagos is a big city where, if you aren't wise, you will learn a big lesson in the hard way.
Should we talk about accommodation in some part of the city? Is it the recurring bills that never stop? Or the transport fare to your workplace daily? Aside from that, the traffic alone can make someone keeps speaking in their tongue for the road to be cleared.
Have you seen someone wakes up very early at 4 am just to beat the traffic, and get to work early by 7 am, but found himself or herself hooked up in traffic and gets to the office at 10 am? 😆😆 I hail those living in Lagos. I don't think my strength can survive it. Lol
There were many comments like Data, Bills, Food, Transport etc.
What consumes my money?
This is why I have an app that helps me keep track of my spending every month many times, I spend more than 50k per month and I wonder what happened. How did I spend such an amount of money? Should I say God has been faithful because there was a time, I saw in a month, that I spent 90k? I couldn't close my mouth but in the end, I saw that food and data takes the larger part of my spendings.
Apart from paying house rent which is yearly, because the other bills, like electricity, sanitation and the likes are already calculated with it. I love it this way instead of paying for electricity or sanitation every month. I love to pay all at once so I will know how to start saving for another year. In that way, I don't get choked up.
Food is so important to us. Food is life and I don't think anyone can joke with me when it comes to eating food. I love eating good meals and I won't hesitate to enjoy myself. Why would I work so hard and at the end of the day, won't give myself enough treat?
I get my foodstuffs every month and I make sure it lasts me for a longer time. I cook my soup every week and with this, those raw food that gets spoilt on time are the ones I get any time to complement the ones in the home.
Another thing that consumes my money is water. I have had typhoid twice due to the water I drink and ever since then, I stopped it. My sister suggested I start taking Cway water which is very hygienic and safer than pure water or fetching from the well.
I have been drinking Cway water for almost a year now and God has been providing for me. I have two bottles of water which cost me #1500 (2.3$) and it takes me three weeks and some days (approximately a month) before I get another one.
Another is Data. Should I say this takes more money after food? I spend more than #8000 (12.3$) per month for subscription. Most of what I do with my Data is downloading and watching movies on Netflix and viewing status on Whatsapp. I also browse online, either to learn a course or read something inspiring and lastly, to blog.
Then, lastly is giving. This is something I can never take out of the equation, because what is the use of my money without giving it out? I find Joy when I give to someone who needs help. I might just decide to ask for someone's account details and give a little of what I have. In this way, I keep getting more because I do it willingly and never complain. I love to give.
So far, these are what consumes my money every month and I bless God for His provision and sustenance.
What about you? Let me read yours or just comment down and I will be there to answer you all.
Thanks for your time
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[August 31, 2022] (No 242 articles for the year)
Why maltreating them?
*“When I was with my mother, I sometimes thought of myself of a trophy—something to be flaunted before friends. When out of public view, I sat on the shelf ignored and forgotten.”*
Joan Frances Casey https://www.goodreads.com/quotes/tag/child-maltreatment
When I was still very young, I was used to Nollywood movies where a couple or single mother would hire a housemaid (either a boy or girl) but in most cases, it's always girls and in the end, they torture and maltreat them as if they have nobody.
Another scenario is promising to take care of a child by taking him or her away from their parents in the village, and getting to the city, those promises already disappeared into thin air and you made them see hell as if they have got no choice.
I feel pity and would always cry so bitterly seeing such maltreatment on them, and that will make me vow and promise myself that no matter who I bring under my roof, it will be my responsibility to care for them like my own children. I just can't see myself instilling bad treatment on another person's child because one thing I always remember is that there is tomorrow and whatever I sow today, I will reap tomorrow.
Irrespective of who anyone is, it should not be a kind of discrimination or practice of impartiality to them. In my tribe, they used to say *“it is another child that brings another child to the world”.* **What does this mean?**
Someone who is barren and hasn't conceived any child before would plan to adopt another child, and believes that once she is taking care of the child, God will answer their prayers and open their wombs. But in many cases, when they have gotten the child, they shift the love completely away from the adopted child to their blood. They start to maltreat them. Why? Aren't all children equal?
I remembered when I stayed with my Aunt, I was forced to utter a statement that I ought not to, because it is like I was mocking her, but she had done it to the extreme. *“It is because she has no child, she doesn't know how it feels.”*
The truth is, I wasn't supposed to say such because if she hears it, it might be a forever sorrow to her because to her, I was mocking her for not having any child.
It got to the extent that no one wants to live with her. I tried taking those insults and ill-treatment from her for over 10 years. I would always wonder if she has any iota of love for us and at the same time say, if it is her child, she will never do such.
She has twice sent me out and packed my bags out of her house. She did same to my brother. He stayed all through the night in the cold weather. I was scared as I kept seeing my brother through the window shivering. Everyone begged my Aunt but she satisfied her desire until the next morning. My brother slept outside. What if something happened to him? Our environment was kind of dangerous because thieves comes every time to rob.
A friend was narrating her own story to me on Sunday, and I wondered how people are so cruel to treat you that way. The surprising thing is that those who do this most are your relatives.
My friend was telling me about a woman who has grown up now but was sharing her story. The woman, when she was young, stayed with her mother's sister who promised to send her to school. The woman didn't attend school until when it was late.
Many times, the woman's aunt would put food together for her and her children, but she would hold the lady's hand until her kids have eaten half of the food, and then she would release her hand to feed on the remaining ones. Most times, she sends her on an errand and before she returned, the kids would have started eating and what is left, she would eat.
According to her, the aunt was teaching and training her for the future but should that be the way?
Yes, I would say my Aunt was training me, but there are different good ways to treat us, than maltreating us as if we are nothing.
I thank God for today and how we are doing fine. Now, she respects us because she has seen that we are living fine on our own without asking or begging for money.
Tomorrow is always pregnant, and we never can tell what it will give birth to. All children have their angels. They never forget anything. It is what you reap on them, you will sow from them.
I will never maltreat any child under my care. If I can't take care of them, I shouldn't bother bringing them over. They will be given the same treatment as my children because one thing is certain. Karma is real, even when we think it is a bitch, it gives you what you did in the past.
Treat all children equally because they have emotions and feelings too. No child ever wanted such circumstances that befell them, but it would be great if you show them what real love is.
Thanks for your time
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[August 30, 2022] (No 241 articles for the year)
The atmosphere of praise yesterday.
*“The only way to do great work is to love what you do.”*
Steve Jobs https://everydaypower.com/monday-motivation-quotes/
The members of my church's media unit are always good at capturing the beautiful moments while worshiping God in the sanctuary. It's one of the reasons I always appreciate my amazing time with God. It is necessary to find a church where your heart clicks on. Since I have been staying in this state for my degree studies, I have attended three churches, but I noticed that whenever I am there, I am not always moved by the spirit.
It was until I arrived at the fourth church that I was convinced that it was the right one for me. **Do not misunderstand me!** We can worship God everywhere as long as we have a pure heart and recognize brothers and sisters of our faith.
These are my parents in the household of God. My pastor and his wife.
I attend the Redeemed Christian Church of God *(Light Generation Sanctuary)* and since I am a worshipper here, it has been incredible. They are so kind and wonderful to each member. This is a youth church, and what do you expect? So lively and uplifting. There is no time to be boring because there are people that will make you see the need for gratitude.
I was astounded to see how this young girl *(My Pastor's Daughter)* took the Open Heavens yesterday morning. She preached to us in her understanding about “Fulfilling our purposes on earth.” While listening to this smart girl, I knew her parents must have gotten her prepared through the week because she delivered the message clearly and beautifully.
These are the children that God wants. Children should be immediately led to Christ at an early age before they grow up, because it will be difficult to form them when they have been exposed outside.
This girl is one of the children in my department, as I take them with other teachers in the Sunday School Service. I found Joy among these kids and they are so fun to be with.
When I get married and have my kids, my husband and I must make sure we take care of our kids, and bring them up in the way of the Lord. It will certainly please God as well. Educating them at a younger age will bring you peace when you get older. The Bible says, we must train children in the way of the Lord, and when they are old, they will never stray from it.
It is what you give to your children today, they will practice tomorrow. So, I'm looking forward to raising godly and wonderful kids.
Can you see my pretty pastor's wife? I love her because she knows how to dress stylishly, and not just in any case. She packages herself well and truly, she is a pastor's wife. When you see her three kids, you'll know they're well looked after. They love God and everyone. They never take it for granted when it comes to dealing with every young person.
This was during the sermon that my pastor took to the altar and gave some inspiring messages from God. I was caught noting a few points from the pastor and I love it. All those pictures are always sent to the church's Facebook account, and we can go there and upload our pictures.
This was during the offering time. I like that moment because I don't joke about it. Joyfully giving your substance to God will cause Him to bless you more so that you will always have plenty or in abundance. It is important that we give to God and never retain what is His. If you don't give it to him, you steal from God.
Having the best choristers and instrumentalists will make the church flow well when they are singing praise and worship to God.
It's another moment that I don't miss in the church because it's that moment where you open your heart of gratitude to appreciate God. The Bible says we should never forsake the gathering of the brethren, and at this moment, we do it with a pure and clean heart because we want our service to be accepted. Choirs and instrumentalists are the best and I loved them also.
Allow me to tell you about this guy. I couldn't believe it when I met him the first day at my church. They say, people are like water. It flows wherever it wants and we can never tell where it would go. This guy was our drummer in the church I attended, where I lived with my parents for a couple of years before I was admitted into the University. We went to the same church, and the two of us were church workers. I was a choir and he was good at the talking drum.
He said he had been moved from Lagos to my city, and that he would attend my church. I was so excited. Thank God our path wasn't ruined.
Finally, a colleague of mine. We both completed our studies in February, and he was ordained a deacon in the last RCCG program held at the beginning of this month. I love it, and he's always been good at God's work.
This was how my Sunday went in church.
Thanks for your time.
`All images are screenshot from my Church's Facebook account.`
[August 29, 2022] (No 240 articles for the year)
To be a freelancer or an employee?
*“Pleasure in the job puts perfection in the work.”*
Aristotle https://www.huntlancer.com/motivational-quotes-for-freelancers-and-entrepreneurs/
There is a need to understand that both Freelancing and Full-Time Employment jobs are good because we still earn from them, but we also should understand that there are pros and cons to everything in life.
The world is going into digital already, and this is why we have been advised to have the skill(s) to complement our offline Job.
Gone are those days when, being a salary earner at an organization pays because of the high payment at the end of the month and the country's economy hasn't gotten to this level. The dollar is increasing, and so, the naira value is depreciating especially when you have to realize everything is now expensive. This has made every employee broke because when they are given a little pay, how do they cope with family?
Teachers are affected so much in this regard. Imagine being given #30,000 at the end of the month and you have bills piling up for you to pay. How do you even save?
This is where an online job comes into the picture because I don't think someone would want to settle for such little monthly payment that wouldn't even go anywhere, and to add to it that they will stress the hell out of your life. You should try out private schools.
Freelancing is when you offer your digital skills (photography, blogging, writing, market affiliate, data research, web development, editing, proofreading etc) to clients online and make money.
As a writer on any blogging platform, we are freelancers as long as we get paid for the skill we showcase which is writing, vlogging etc. There are so many benefits of being a freelancer which you cannot enjoy as a full-time employee. Also, there are disadvantages too which definitely would make an offline job worth it.
*Some of the benefits you get as a freelancer are;*
***Flexible working hours:*** You are in control of your work. No one will force you, or give you time to resume office. Whereas, as a full-time employee, there is a fixed time to resume and close for the day without considering if you are okay with it or not.
***Good life work balance:*** There will still be time for you to pursue other goals in your life. Being a freelancer would give you time to choose your best convenient time, even if you would only spare two or three hours a day and still do other things like going out for fun, and having more time for family and friends. Can this happen in a teaching Job?
My friend who is now working as a teacher told me how CCTV CAMERA is being installed everywhere, from the school gate to each classroom, except for toilets. They work till 7pm and more, depending on who is on duty. Will such a person have time to pursue other goals?
***International clients:*** One benefit of being a freelancer is working for clients who are overseas, but as a full-time employee, I don't think it's possible, unless in some organization.
***Earn in Dollars:*** With the way the economy is going, it is better to earn in dollars and not naira. This would be worth it for a freelancer.
***Control over your workload:*** A boss would give you loads of work without considering your health, and it must be ready at the stipulated time. Whereas, as a freelancer, you can control your workload. You know when to stop and take your rest as no one would fight or threaten you. The only thing there is that there would be unstable income.
This cannot happen as a full-time employee because whether they like it or not, your boss would still pay you at the end of the month.
So, with all these being said, If I were to choose, I would go for freelancing, because I love working from home where no one would boss over me or threaten to make me lose my Job because of how much?
In another sense, because I love to be a teacher, but I can't tell of the future. If it's the case, I will have to make freelancing a side hustle. It's all about balancing and self-discipline.
Thanks for your time.
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[August 28, 2022] (No 239 articles for the year)
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