@Princessbusayo 13 June 2021 more from that month

Everyone has Expectations

Lead Image https://images.unsplash.com/photo-1566113519053-8deaea7cad51?ixid=MnwxMjA3fDB8MHxzZWFyY2h8OHx8ZXhwZWN0YXRpb25zfGVufDB8fDB8fA%3D%3D&ixlib=rb-1.2.1&auto=format&fit=crop&w=700&q=60 Just as the saying, **"Man proposes but God disposes"**. This is very true because in life, everyone has expectations; We all have something we want to be, something we want to have, something that can make us happy for the rest of our lives, but we failed to understand God is the only decider of our lives.

Growing up, we all would come together as friends to talk about our future. What we want from a guy who will be our husbands, the qualities we desire in them and their personalities. We would then laugh it out and at the end say something to close our discussion which is "Amen". But God has something different for us. Our expectation is different from His and so, we tend to be sad when we finally get something different from what we have already planned for. Should we say God is wicked? Should we conclude He doesn't want something good for us? Then, I never knew what fate or destiny is. God has created us wonderfully and beautifully and in fact, He made us just like His own image. Just imagine the kind of beauty we all possess and the right we have in Him. Many of us have derailed from His path and thereby working only at our own expectations not minding if they would work for us or not. Whether it is something that would harm us in the end, we don't want to know. All we want is to live happily and meet those expectations and we forget God is the sole determinant of our lives. Our fate is clinged to Him, that no matter how far we go in life, we would still come back to what our fate has been subjected to. We can't go past our destiny. What has already been will be and nothing can change that unless we want to change it which will cost us our dear lives. *In Jeremiah 29:11, it says* **"For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the LORD, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end".** Even when we expect so much for ourselves and we want them at all cost, though we fail to realize the implications of it but the above scripture should make us understand how loving God is to us. This is His promise to us, only if we can see the good things in there for us. God will never say a thing and not bring to pass. He knows us right from birth, He knows what we need at the right time. So even if we keep expecting some things for ourselves and He sees danger ahead of it, He brings up His own plans to avert the one we have chosen for ourselves. Let me share a true life discussion between I and my elder sister that opened my eyes to understand that no matter what we want for ourselves, without God putting a hand in it, His own will surely prevail. It was an early morning, I was discussing an issue with my sister and somehow we ended up talking about our marital status. She asked if I had a boyfriend yet which I replied and told her No. She advised me to keep praying and let God do His will. Then she was like *"God has answered me but he is not the kind of man I want. Though I have no choice because God has spoken even though I still don't expect this".* All I could tell her was "Sis, don't worry. If God is the one that gave you the man, then he is for you. You may not know now, but later you will understand". I said in my mind **"Happiness and Peace are what that matters".** We want our own special being, thing etc but have we ever asked this question to ourselves **"Will I find Joy in this?"** If God isn't involve in your dealings, trust me, it's like taking yourself to a dark room, lock yourself inside and throw away the keys. How do you get out? That's danger you know? This is how it would be when you follow your expectations without waiting to let God lead you. Danger is lurking around you because sooner or later, even though it takes a long while, destiny will speak. Only God can decide for you. Your Yes is a No for God. **In Conclusion;** He knows us even before we were born (Jeremiah 1:5) and knows what best is for us. When we expect something for ourselves, God has a bigger expectations for us which will surely come to pass if only we hold onto Him and be Patience.