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Women aren’t weak! In a male-dominated society, the astonishing contribution of some women makes it clear that women are not weak, they know how to struggle to survive, and some even wonder at surviving in thrilling oppression; But just surviving is not life. If survival were everything, slaves would never rebel, and the women's movement would not make history. Life is about creativity, freedom of the senses, the pursuit of happiness, the enjoyment of every moment, the freedom to express one's opinion, the struggle to become a human being and much more. I often read about women's liberties, and when I read them, I noticed that the authors use a lot of good reasoning, but they do not discuss their views very clearly. As a result, many hypocrites can continue to be feminist writers; And it is also possible that one may continue to write without understanding exactly what women's emancipation is. The key issues of women's emancipation are not just to be imprisoned in the text, it is worthless if it is not reflected in every area of ​​life. At the very least, the author should express her or her own views on the following two questions in writing about women's emancipation, if she claims to be a feminist, the reader may be somewhat convinced of the author's position on the subject: 1) What does the author mean by women's freedom? 2) What is a woman? In short, at the primary level, what I mean by women's emancipation is: 1) Women and men are both human beings, so one human being cannot have the rights of another human being. 2) Women should have full rights over their mind, body and dreams. 3) Women and men should have equal rights at all levels of society and the state. 4) Women should get full economic emancipation. 5) Women's mind and body must be completely free from the rule of religion. For those who are just starting out to learn about women's emancipation and feminism, you can start by reading Dr. Humayun Azad's book Women and the Second Gender (translated). However, in my personal opinion, it is better to read Simone de Beauvoir's book The Second Sex in English (but some readers may also benefit from reading Bengali as well), because the second gender book translated by Dr. Azad is a partial but excellent translation of the book. I would like to mention three more books: 1) Betty Frieden's The Feminine Mystic 2) Kate Millett's Sexual Politics 3) A Vindication of the Rights of Women by Mary Olstoncraft I can't help but mention two more books. 1) The Women's Bible by Elizabeth Cady Stanton 2) The Hidden Face of Eve by Noel El Sadawi: Women in the Arab World The seven books mentioned above will match a new world in front of the enthusiasts, the knowledge of which is essential for the gradual becoming human. But these seven books are not the end, they are the beginning; It is up to him to decide how enthusiastic he is to embrace this new world. I can say, about myself, that I don't even have a hundred percent reflection in my own life of what I mean by women's emancipation, I haven't reached that yet; It's a shame (for which I hate something), but it's true. It is not my intention to show bravery by writing two pens, but to become a human being gradually; Happily, I am a traveler on that path. I don't think of myself as a Muslim anymore, even though one day I did. Being born into a Muslim family, I was forced to read the Qur'an once in Arabic, without understanding anything (family, society, state and religion, of course, did not find any problem in it); Later, of course, I read this book several times in Bengali and English translation, and was disappointed. It is not in my nature to comment on a book without reading it, or to indulge in my own ideas about it, because that is the nature of hypocrites and fundamentalists. Since the present article deals with the relationship between men and women, I would like to refer to verse 227 of Surah Bakara, which clearly states, "The position of men is above that of women." Finally, I would like to end the article with a question: If it is assumed that men are better than women or men are above women, then is the worst man better than the best woman?

Hate sin, not the sinner If I felt pain when I slapped or kicked a dead person, I would definitely seek punishment. Who does not want the punishment of the criminal? I have certainly demanded punishment for him, even for those who are still there. We pray for the punishment of those who are enemies of the traitorous people. I wish punishment to all those who are still wandering around with their chests swollen. Are there only five war criminals in Bangladesh? If I believe in religion, I fear religion, then I personally think it is not right to kick the dead person's shoes. Can he protest if he punches the idol? Can't, but does it mean that it is right to eradicate those who worship and respect it and forcibly initiate into the religion. However, it is not about religion. And the biggest thing is to punish all the government employees who have enjoyed the benefits without being freedom fighters. Because of them, the real freedom fighters have lived a life of begging… .Pulling and dragging shoes out of the house কেটে Cut the body and apply salt. Let's see how much power you have. As far as I know, the punishment for a thief - after his theft has been proven - is to cut off his finger, but the condition is to see if the thief has committed the theft out of his stomach or out of habit and did it even though he did not need to. . If his absence is proven, he cannot be punished. I am wondering if there is any religion that sees hatred towards the dead person, while saying that those who are very happy to throw shoes at the dead person are saying: If a person dies by doing good deeds, why not show hatred by doing bad deeds? ? But if that is what Islam means or teaches, then read from the perspective of Islam. Narrated Abu Aswad: I once came to Madinah and there was an epidemic. I was sitting next to Hazrat Omar (R). At that time a janaza was going through us and the janaza was appreciated. Hazrat Omar (R) said it has become obligatory. Another janaza was held for the second time and this time again praise was given for the dead person. Hazrat Omar (R) said, it has become obligatory. Another janaza was going on for the third time. In this janaza people made bad remarks towards the dead person. Hazrat Omar (R) said again, it has become obligatory. I asked, O Amir al-mu'minin, what has become obligatory. Hazrat Omar (R) said, "When the janaza was performed in front of Hazrat Muhammad (PBUH), I also said what Hazrat Muhammad (PBUH) said because of the comments made to the people." Huzur (peace be upon him) said, If a Muslim dies and four people testify that he is virtuous, Allah will grant him Paradise. We jiggled, if three people testified. Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) replied, "Even if three people testify." We asked again if two people testify. Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said that if two people testify, he will be in heaven. So we did not ask about one person's witness. Giving flowers or wreaths at graves and coffins Many people are seen giving flowers to the graves and coffins of their loved ones. He laid a wreath at the grave. They even have flowers in their portraits. However, it is questionable whether they all do so for the welfare of the deceased or for the purpose of sending rewards, or for the sake of offering respect and love to the deceased. My guess, however, is that most of them do so in imitation of anti-Islamic and anti-Muslim forces in the West, in order to pay their respects and love to the dead. If it is done to send thawab to the soul of a dead person, it is one thing, and if it is done only for the purpose of performing rituals without the intention of sending thawab, it is another thing. The first is bidat and the second is kufr. There is no doubt that the master will become a disbeliever, but there is no doubt that his deeds are disbelief. I have heard that a scholar was asked about laying a wreath at the grave: Is it permissible in Islamic law? He replied, "The Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, has placed palm branches in the grave." If he had flowers then, wouldn't he give flowers? Then it was easy to get date pulses. Something else was not commonly found on hand, so he gave palm stalks. Therefore, it would be circumcised to offer any flower to the grave, not just date palms. In fact, it is a confusion. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) was informed by Allaah about the two graves on which he had placed palm branches, and that the inhabitants of the two graves were being punished. The hadith is as follows: On the authority of Ibn 'Abbas (may Allah be pleased with him) he said: The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) died in the graves. Single grave. They said: O Messenger of Allah! Why not do this? He said: I am not afraid of them. Narrated by al-Bukhari 218 and Muslim 292 Ibn Abbas. Described by He said that one day the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) passed by two graves and said: ‘These two people are being punished. But they are not being punished for any major crime, but one of them used to gossip, and the other did not take care to urinate. Then the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) brought a raw branch of a date palm and cut it into two pieces and laid one on each grave. People asked, O Messenger of Allah! Why did you do that? He says it is possible that their punishment will be lightened until the two branches are dried. '[10] That is, he has set up palm branches to ease the punishment. He was informed by Allah that these two people were being punished. So there is no evidence that he placed anything in any other grave except these two graves. He has visited the graves of many loved ones in his life and has not offered palm branches or flowers anywhere. Therefore, it was instructed to do this only for these two graves. If this was a general instruction, then the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) would place palm branches or something like that in another grave. Then the Companions passed away and the Imams passed away and no one did it. All the Imams agree that this was only a characteristic of the Prophet. Not for anyone else. [11] According to a narration from Bukhari, the Companion Buraidah ibn al-Hasib al-Aslami bequeathed two palm branches to be placed on his grave after his death. He did it for the purpose of being blessed by the deeds of the Prophet. This work does not prove the circumcision of flowers for all. It was a personal matter. [12] What is sin? One man asked Lord Loknath Brahmachari, what is sin? He replied, "What makes a person's heart warm is sin." So what is guru heat? He said that the feeling in the heart during happiness and sorrow is heat. What is sin? In response to this question, the Sufi said that sin is to oppress oneself. Because every fruit of sinful action comes upon the sinner himself and he must suffer it. Sin is the defilement of the nafs. Sin is Shararipu. The more the excess of Shararipur, the more his sins. Jaher and Baten have the form of sin. The excess of Shararipur in the mind is called the Baten form of sin and its transformation into action is called the form of Jaher. Therefore, the Qur'anic injunction, "Abandon the manifest and sinful part of sin." If sin is a house, then there are six doors to enter that house, 1. Work 2. Anger 3. Moh 4. Greed 5. Arrogance and 6. Violence. That is, there is no sin beyond Shararipu and it cannot exist. Maybe someone can protest my words, why? If someone tells a lie, it is a sin, if someone backbites, it is also a sin, if someone has a showy attitude, it is also a sin, and shirk is the greatest sin. But why is it said that there is no sin except lust, anger, lust, greed, arrogance, violence? In answer to this question, it can be said that people may get angry because of lying, or because of greed. People are arrogant by telling lies. Gossip may lead people to violence. People show exhibitionist attitude to be arrogant. It is also a greed for praise. And people don't steal unless they are very greedy. I am reluctant to admit that people steal only out of greed. Shirk is the greatest sin, and shirk contains delusion. Participation or shirk in the sense of arrogance. In other words, all kinds of sins are created around this conspiracy. Sin = lust, anger, delusion, greed, arrogance, and violence. Hate sin, not the sinner Allah the Almighty says, ‘Do not call one another by evil names. It is an abomination to call evil after faith. (Surah Hujrat-11). In another verse, O believers! You stay away from a lot of ideas. Because any idea is a sin. (Surah Hujurat-12). If someone commits a sin in social life, then that sin should be hated, not the sinner. It may be that any deed of a sinner will be accepted in the court of Allah and he will become a true believer. Numerous such examples exist in the Holy Qur'an-Hadith. Even after killing 100 people of Israel, Allah the Almighty has accepted his repentance. A sinful woman came to Bukhari Sharif and saved a thirsty dog ​​by drinking water. The religion of the famous saints Kamel and Buzurgan is also heard to say that their past lives were very muddy. Allah the Almighty has raised them from the dustbin of wickedness and placed them on the throne of dignity. Hazrat Umar Farooq (RA) who went to bring the head of Guava Nabiji (SAW) Mubarak, eventually became the second caliph of Islam. Hazrat Rasool Karim (peace be upon him) has said about him, if anyone is a prophet after me, he is Umar (peace be upon him). In Ayam, the people of ignorance were involved in extreme wickedness. Murder, looting, rape, drinking were their daily habits. The one who buried his daughter alive was Dehaya Kalbi (RA). It so happened that Hazrat Jibraeel (AS) used to come to the court of Hazrat Rasool (AS) in his form most of the time. So the sinner cannot be hated under any circumstances. Rather, we must hate sin. Narrated Abu Aswad: I once came to Madinah and there was an epidemic. I was sitting next to Hazrat Omar (R). At that time a janaza was going through us and the janaza was appreciated. Hazrat Omar (R) said it has become obligatory. Another janaza was held for the second time and this time again praise was given for the dead person. Hazrat Omar (R) said, it has become obligatory. Another janaza was going on for the third time. In this janaza people made bad remarks towards the dead person. Hazrat Omar (R) said again, it has become obligatory. I asked, O Amir al-mu'minin, what has become obligatory. Hazrat Omar (R) said, "When the janaza was performed in front of Hazrat Muhammad (PBUH), I also said what Hazrat Muhammad (PBUH) said because of the comments made to the people." Huzur (peace be upon him) said, If a Muslim dies and four people testify that he is virtuous, Allah will grant him Paradise. We jiggled, if three people testified. Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) replied, "Even if three people testify." We asked again if two people testify. Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said that if two people testify, he will be in heaven. So we did not ask about one person's witness. Hello sir, I'm the new one here. Hopefully you all inspire me. Thanks to sir @Dreamer @George

Anger is the absolute enemy of human life Just as there are qualities within a human being, there are also weak-minded transmitters. The place of origin of all these is the nafs. The number of Ripu i.e. enemies that are deadly harmful to human beings is usually six. The second of these Shararipur is anger. Anger is also called anger, rage, etc. When the coup is manifested, it turns into a coupon. When anger awakens in the human mood or in the psyche like a blazing fire in the form of fire, at that moment the person loses the right knowledge and becomes disoriented and causes an event which is not desirable at all. Satan is the open enemy of man. This devil is active in trying to control the human nafs all the time. Satan infects the nafs of a weak-minded person with Ripu in such a way that when Ripu is persuaded, that nafs cannot restrain or restrain it. When anger awakens excessively, then there is nothing to say about conscience, then conscience becomes inactive. Excessive anger or rage instantly paralyzes the conscience. The consequences of the recklessness that result from anger lead to deadly reactions that lead to unrest, anarchy, and extreme aggression. There are words in the moment satisfied, momentally angry, angry-satisfied moment by moment. Such people cannot be steadfast. Some may even look for similarities between anger and pride. It is important to note that arrogance is usually caused by neglect, disrespect, insignificance, indifference, neglect, neglect, inattention or denial of a loved one, loved one or friend, and in these cases anger or emotional turmoil, grief, emotion can be transmitted. And when this anger reaches its peak, it turns into a protest. Depending on the situation, this demonstration can be multidimensional, such as: demonstration of instinct, demonstration of mind, etc. The Arabic word for anger is gadab, which is pronounced gadab under the Persian influence. The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said about how harmful and deadly Gadab or anger is: Innal Gadaba Lausidul Imana Kama Yusidus Sabiru Al Asala-Surely anger destroys faith like Sabir destroys honey. (Bayhaqi). Sabir is a kind of bitter fruit much like Makal, it is called Dhalu in Hindi. Anger destroys faith Ñ how vile it is in this statement. Angry people do things that in many cases cause their faith to be ruined. Elegant, sophisticated people cannot have the horror of anger. Once in a wrestling match. When Hazrat Ali (may Allah be pleased with him) knocked down the enemy, the enemy spat in his face. Immediately Asadullah Ghalib Hazrat Ali Karmallahu Wazhahu left the enemy in spite of his anger thinking that the spit of the enemy had made him angry, so now hitting the enemy would mean killing the enemy with personal aggression. In the Qur'an, Irshad has instructed to deal with any tense situation by keeping the mood calm: You will hear many painful things. If you are patient and cautious, it will be a matter of determination. (Surah Al-Imran: verse 18). It is to be noted that to stand up against injustice, evil, untruth and indecency, to speak out against misdeeds, oppression, torture, oppression, etc., to take well-organized and coordinated measures to eliminate family or social disorder and disobedience, but not under direct anger. That anger does not turn into the horrors of Roshanal, but it is a way of reform. Anger has both good and bad sides, but anger for reform is a tool to protect people or society from the possibility of harm. He does not fall under the spell of anger and wrath. In most cases, the anger contained in Ripur is unwholesome and evil. There is a saying in English: Itrshabha bhadhasarasu rang ঃyab tdarah drv lambharasab fabsarahayambhapu- broken family is the basis of guilt in immaturity. The definition of a broken family is multiple. We know that the microstructure of the world is the family that consists of parents and children. In a family where the parents are always angry and quarrelsome, a kind of unrest is transmitted to the children of the family which puts them in a great situation. No matter how rich such a family may be, it does not bring any happiness because of the anger between the parents. It has been observed that in most cases, the unrest between the parents causes a breakdown in the family which is difficult to resolve. There is a saying that the happiness of the family is due to the woman. As true as this statement is, it is also true that only good relationship between husband and wife can build a truly happy family. In a family where there is always a quarrel between the parents, the foundation of the family becomes so shaky that day by day the children of that family fall prey to guilt at an early age. As they get older, they become great and fall into the clutches of crime. At one stage they get involved in big crimes, they become the garbage of social life. In this case, the reason behind the involvement of children from both rich and poor families is anger or rage. The children of the rich or the middle class step on the path of crime mainly from family unrest and the children of the poor or proletariat come on this path due to anger with hunger and poverty. In the Qur'an, Irshad has highlighted the qualities and identity of the pious: those who spend (in charity) while they are rich and those who are poor, and those who restrain their anger and are forgiving towards people. (Surah Al Imran: verse 134). Instructing the beloved Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) to follow the incomparable example of Allaah, Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): (Surah Ahzab: verse 21). When we review the life style of the beloved Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him), we see that he always had a smile. His face made Mubarak smile so much that everyone would come to him and be attracted to him. Hazrat Anas Radi Allahu Ta'ala Anhu is one of the leading Companions among those who have narrated the largest number of Hadiths. He said: I have been in the service of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) for ten years, he has never uttered an oof to me (annoying, ignoring, contemptuous, angry, hateful). (Bukhari Sharif, Muslim Sharif). The Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: Innaal gadaba minash shaytani wa inna shaitana khulika minannari Ñ wa innama yutfaunnaru bil ma-i fa iza gadiba ahadukum falayatawadda-shantayan agay. So if any of you is angry, let him perform ablution immediately. (Abu Dawood Sharif). It is clear from this hadith that if anger arises in someone, if he performs ablution immediately, his anger will subside. There is a hadith narrated from the eminent Companion Hazrat Abu Jarr Ghiffari Radi Allahu Ta'ala Anhu that the beloved Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said: When one of you gets angry while standing, let him sit down. Even then, if his anger does not subside, he should lie down (Tirmidhi Sharif). This makes it clear that when anger arises, if one changes one's position immediately, anger falls. It is narrated in the hadith that whoever protects his tongue, Allaah will hide his faults, and whoever restrains his anger, Allaah will keep the torment away from him on the Day of Resurrection, and whoever seeks forgiveness from Allaah for his sins, Allaah will forgive his sins. Give. (Mishkat Sharif). It is also narrated in the hadith that Hadrat Abdullah bin Umar (may Allah be pleased with him) asked the Messenger of Allah (may peace be upon him): O Messenger of Allah! Is there any work that can save people from the wrath of Allah Ta'ala? The Prophet (peace be upon him) said: Do not be angry. (Mishkat Sharif.) It is narrated on the authority of Abu Hurairah that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: There is no heroism in wrestling, the real heroism is in restraint of anger. (Bukhari Sharif, Muslim Sharif). Every human being is angry. Anger is a normal feeling. However, his expression often becomes abnormal. Many are a little angry again. But excess anger is not good at all. This creates a situation that is harmful to oneself or others. So it is important to control anger. Experts say there are many ways to reduce anger. Here are 10 ways anyone can get angry. **Let's see what the experts say.** 1.Try to keep the mind as calm as possible, you can count from one to ten in reverse, then the brain can be kept a little busy on the other side. It helps reduce anger. 2. Don't talk or act in anger all of a sudden, take time, if necessary, stop talking to that person for a while or divert your mind from the cause of anger. 3. When you calm down, point out the reasons for your anger to him, then the other person's head will cool down, he will understand you better. 4. Can exercise regularly. This also reduces the tendency to anger. You can take a short walk to reduce your anger. 5. When you are angry, flexibility will not work naturally in you, and so you can suddenly say something that can cause trouble to others, so it is better not to say anything when you are angry. 6.There is a solution to any problem. It can be found out by thinking a little cold head. Try that. 7.The more you calculate yourself, the more angry you will be, so if you accept the matter immediately, the problem will be reduced a lot. 8.Many people smoke to reduce their anger. He also did other intoxicants. But anger is not a good way. The mind became more scattered. 9. A little laughter can be used to reduce anger or tension, it lightens the mind. 10. The best way is to meditate regularly. It also controls anger along with other benefits to the body. Lack of anger seems to be a sign of cowardice, but in fact excessive anger is also a sign of self-exaltation. Between these two conditions is humility. Self-control breeds humility.