Stop chasing opportunities
It's not about how many opportunities you have, it's about how many chances you take out of your life
Do you think more opportunities mean more chances of success?Since we all want to feel important in this world, we believe the way to achieve this is to look for every opportunity available. I hear it often: "This is a big opportunity for me." But this idea seems a bit broken, chasing opportunities is such a bad strategy, that chasing skills and preparing for opportunities is more important, this is a small adjustment in the way you think, but it changes everything, as Abraham Lincoln explains it better: “I will prepare and my chance will come someday “.
We're always on the lookout for the next big opportunity, the next big business idea, the technology to adopt, a vacation to plan, a home to buy, someone to seduce, an upgrade to get.
What do you seek in your life?
Are you everywhere? Are you trying to get the most out of everything? Are you chasing every opportunity on your way? If you do, you are definitely deceiving yourself.
***You want everything, but you lack the courage to say "no". So you say "yes" and put yourself in impossible situations***.
Too many priorities equal no focus
I have to be honest - I'm talking to myself here. For most of my life, I've been moving from one opportunity to the next. That changed about twelve years ago when I decided to focus solely on growing, my family's business, and my blog. All went well. I said "no" to everything else. But I've been tempted by opportunities in the past few years. Consulting, coaching, speaking, writing more articles and books, starting another business, creating videos for social media channels – things I've done or thought about.
But everything I did was confusing me. I had too many priorities and no focus. It is time for me to rethink my opportunities. However, it is never about finding opportunities. Everyone has opportunities. So it's not about how many opportunities you have, it's about how many opportunities you take out of your life. This is not easy. I decided to focus solely on my work, the blog, the courses, and consulting, these things are so closely related to me that I say “no” to every other opportunity.
Opportunities are not only external
Most opportunities come from within. Every time you think: "Should I pursue this?" You are evaluating an opportunity, and that requires a lot of brainpower. So make your life easy and decide, what do you want to focus on in your career, and what do you want to excel at? And I do exactly that. nothing else.
How many things should I focus on?
It depends on where you are in life at the beginning of your career, and if you are going to pick one to make things easier, just pick one skill and give it all your attention. But having just one skill in life won't get you far. When I look at people who do well in life, they often combine many skills to gain a competitive advantage. You also do not want to be familiar with all professions. Other than that, you are good at many things, but not exceptional at a few things.
knocks?
When you know it takes hard work to realize the opportunity. Thomas Edison said, “Most people miss an opportunity because it is in business clothes and looks like work.” In the end, opportunity is just an opportunity to achieve something good. Chance alone means nothing. Give ten people the same chance, and you'll get ten different results. Since you don't want to work to death, it's best to pick your opportunities wisely. How do? I ask myself two questions:
What am I good at? This question helps you pick out opportunities that align with your strengths.
What kind of work do I enjoy? I don't like to pursue opportunities just because I think they'll make me money, or just because other people are doing something. These are poor reasons to do something.
And when you answer these questions honestly, you always get a few career opportunities. Nobody masters a hundred skills, and nobody enjoys doing everything in the world.
You may chase every opportunity, but you end up confused, and life is full of opportunities. You just have to know what opportunities you're after. And yes, it's hard to tell. You also have no control over the opportunities that come your way. What do you control? How prepared are you? So stop chasing everything. Just keep things simple, work on your skills and personality, and get better at some things every day. And when opportunity knocks, don't be afraid to work, grab it by the head and give it everything you've got.
Businesses that may take a little from you, but they mean a lot to others
There is still time for you to make a difference in the lives of others with actions that may seem simple but to others are great.
In this article, I would like to collect for you some simple works that anyone can do if they make better use of their time, effort, tools and money, which may sometimes be absent from our minds. Therefore, I found it an opportunity to write some of them here, perhaps it would be a gateway to opening new horizons for doing good, as the mental image of doing good has always been associated with giving a lot of money only and when there is not much money available, the thought remains unable to provide assistance, and so as not to overwhelm you, let me show you what I mean By listing some practical situations:
First, what can you do with a laptop?
For example, you are a student at the university and own a laptop and the professor asked you to present your required project through your computer only, and you applied to the university and there were some students who did not have a computer of their own, and the professor insisted on canceling their grades in the project, so you donated the presentation of their projects from Through your device and they may be more than one student, what did it cost you? Just sitting at the university for an extra hour in exchange for saving five students from failing the course.
Second: The expiration date for food products, use it for the benefit of all parties
For example, you have a large family that contains ten people and you want to buy a dairy product, and you know that this product will only stay in the house for one or two days at the latest, and you went to the fresh produce store and found the product you wanted but with different expiration dates, then why Do not buy the box that has a two-day shelf life and leave the five-day product to another buyer? Here the amount you will pay is the same, but you have given the seller a chance to keep the product with the most validity, in addition to that, you have kept the product you bought from being thrown in the trash, yet nothing has changed for you, you and your family bought the product at the same price and got the same nutritional benefit.
This example can be applied to various food products, but do not forget to estimate the expiration date based on how long you have consumed the product.
co-workers with you in housing
In other words, if you are living in a separate house for the purpose of work or study and there may be a person from your work or study colleagues who does not have housing, you can offer them to live with you without them costing anything, because before this person came to the house you were paying Electricity, water and gas bill on your own, so why share with him now! As the slight increase in consumption does not reach the point of co-payment. And here I like to say that I mentioned this example because it is well-known that all parties participate in the payment, and this is common in student housing and fellowship work, but in this article I wanted to clarify the point of work that is not very common and that makes a difference in the lives of others.
Fourth: Classify the waste before throwing it in the trash
In some countries there are people who live behind the collection of cartons, plastic and bottles that are thrown in the trash, and they go there on a daily basis to search with their hands inside the dirt, so how about you put all your waste that these people benefit from in different bags than your garbage bag and put it on your The trash can, even if these people come and take it without their clothes and hands getting dirty, a great idea isn't it.
Fifth: Combating beggary and supporting street vendors who own simple products
Some poor children beg and some sell napkins or sweets to get money. How about you make a difference in the lives of all these children, by buying from those who sell what they sell, so they rejoice in getting money with pride and dignity, and to give the children who are begging this commodity that you just bought from those, and it becomes They have capital and a small business, and you tell them to sell it instead of asking people for money, and here the dear soul is raised in them with a very simple work, and here, too, you used the money to solve the problem, but with a double strike and at a low cost.
**In conclusion** , I ask God that we all be part of the change for the better, and that we be the one who makes a difference in the lives of others, even if it is with seemingly simple deeds, because we do not know how much these actions mean to others, and perhaps an invitation from them will afflict you with much goodness in this world and the hereafter, and it was a door to success and sustenance for you. From where it does not count, may God guide everyone to what he loves and is pleased with.
My little brother smokes!!
My brother is 13 years old , recently he was late for school and he always urges my mother to go out with his friends, despite her rejection most of the time, but she allows him in the end…
The last time, yesterday, he entered the house and the smell of tobacco filled the place.. I did not notice, but my mother as soon as I noticed I waited for my father to return at night from work and told him and both of them were in psychological shock even me...
They are trying to find some solutions, and this morning my mother caught him in the act, hiding among the bushes with his friend, handing him a cigarette and a lighter while he lit it in his mouth.
My mother brought him home but we are all confused how to treat him especially since he is so young.
Besides, my father smokes and is now blaming himself.
Father Shouting
Whenever I hear my dad's shout, the tears
fall without anyone else, I'm so terrified
My father's relationship with him is very bad and it is very limited, if you sit with me at home only for one day, you will think that we are strangers and do not know each other! Yes, although I have lived with him since I was born, all I know about him is only his name. I never spoke to him. This was his strange and incomprehensible law. When we talk, he starts screaming, and when we do things that are not worth shouting, he starts screaming for no reason
I did not know in my life what is the role of the father? When I was young, I thought that the role of the father was only to bring what we eat, and the father was that person when he was there. We should not talk, just be silent, so I began to discover little by little that the role of the father is greater than this, but my father did not care about us, are we sick or need his tenderness, so it began to form I have, and my father was ashamed to go with us to a certain place, as he does not approve of us and also does not trust me. When I go out, he starts asking questions as if he doubts me, except that the behaviors that my father does have caused me to hate the male element, but here is not a problem, I am trying to love him Nevertheless, because he remains my father, especially when I am 18 years old, I do not want to hate him, so I began to forget that.
The calamity had come from where I did not expect, that screaming that he screams has affected my psyche, despite the efforts. I cannot. As soon as I hear my father's voice forcing me to do something or screaming, even though he does not scream at me, I start crying for no reason and start to sweat and suffer from a collapse. All of this comes subconsciously and I am not in control of it, at first I thought I only suffer from this when someone screams, but with time I discovered that these symptoms only appear when I hear my father's screams only as if my head is telling me that something bad is going to happen, I don't know how I will describe the feeling, as I am not quick to cry and I am not emotional, but when I hear his screams, tears fall on their own , I am very afraid, as I did no
Mention to anyone what I suffer from, and I am afraid that one day I will explode and scream at my father, as I do not want this to happen, advise me what to do?
@Pidro
