10 Ways To Avoid Sex Before Marriage.
Sometime ago, I was anchoring a question and answer program on a seminar, and someone ask me how can she avoid sex before marriage? For the benefit and betterment of other people I decided to write article on it, so that they will understand.
Let me start by saying, that sex itself is not a sin, sex is created by God. As a matter of fact, God created us with sexual organs because He want us to have sex and bare children, sex is a gift from God to us, but it's to be enjoyed by only legally married couples. The only time God expected us to have sex is when we are married and not before marriage.
Premarital and Extermarital sex are sin, they maybe fun but not honorable. If you notice those two words,you will understand because one carries prefix" pre" and the other " extra" and what is that telling us sex before pre or outside of marriage extra is not right. Sex is meant only to married couples" marital".
Avoiding sex before marriage, not just because it is the right thing to do, it will also save you from lots of avoidable ugly experience, guilty conscience,STDs, unwanted pregnancy, stagnation, death, God's judgement, abortion etc. It pays to avoid sex before marriage, you will make God happy by avoiding it and at the same time save yourself from troubles. So close up and zip up.
Hebrews 13:4 says " marriage is honorable in all, and the bed is undefiled; but whoremonger and adulterer God will judge them. Avoiding sex before marriage is an honorable thing to do. Maybe you are in a relationship and your sincerely desire to maintain sexual purity, to avoid sex before marriage.
These are the things you need to know whether to consider yourself of having sex before marriage or not.
DECISION
In Daniel 1:8 the bible says that daniel purpose or deside in his heart that he won't defile himself. Likewise, you have to make a decision for yourself because life is all about decision, and nothing get done without a good decision. So you need to decide for yourself what you want and have to do.
GUIDE YOUR MIND
In proverbs 4:23 it says guide your heart with all diligence because out of it flows the issues of life. " Your mind is the gateway to your life" what goes in your mind determine what goes on in your life, so guide your heart from pollution,watch the things you fill your mind with, know the type of music 🎶 that you listen to, the videos you watch , the books 📚 you read, and mind the type of friends you keep etc. Because all these things have the power to influence you.
MIND YOUR CONVERSATION
In Colossians 3:8 the bible says that we should put off every filthy communication out of our mouths. Avoid using obscene words, evotic words, suggestive words, avoid sex chatting, mind your use of words. In short avoid words that can turn you into sex.
RENEW YOUR MIND
Romans 12:2 the bible says we should renew our mind because that's only when we will be able to judge rightly. When you are always horny or having an eraction, you have been filling you mind with sexual stuff, your mind needs renewing. Watch, listen and read positive things,mostly important the word of God. Listen to nice music 🎶, sermon,by doing this you are renewing your mind. Remember it's garbage in garbage out, it's what you fill your mind with that it will process and give you back in return, you can't fill your mind negativity and be expecting to live positively.
AVOID TOO MUCH CLOSENESS
The bible asked a question in proverbs that can a man take a fire 🔥 in his bosom and will not get burnt 🥵? If you don't want fire to burn you, don't get close to it. Avoid too much closeness, it can spark into flames. Men aren't the only one that list, women too, so you need to avoid too much unnecessary closeness in any form or share physical or online emotions.
DON'T COHABIT
Cohabiting means living together when you guys aren't married. Cohabiting for whatever reasons is not right that is actually a sin, we should avoid every appearance of evil. You are only expected to live together after marriage and not before marriage, unless of course if sexual purity is not in your mind. Human body is not an iron it must react especially when emotions is involved, because it is a harmattan fire 🔥! You can't keep a goat 🐐 and yam in the same place and expect nothing to happen, so be wise in everything thing that you are doing.
AVOID STAYING IN SECLUDED PLACE ALONE
Sin thrives in secret very well. To avoid sex try as much as possible to avoid staying alone in a secluded place together , because anything can happen at any given time . If visiting him / her will make both of you to fall into sex, please 🥺 stop visiting and let your meetings be in am open place biko.
STOP COLLECTING OR REQUESTING FOR MONEY
Am talking of our beautiful ladies now, for a guy to give you money 💰 or gift, it also give him the right to ask sex from you. So do not ask for money nor any other thing from them . Because when you keep collecting gifts and money from them you have to pay for it, which is true sexual immorality. And if you don't want to accept their request they will start blackmailing you emotional," after all I have done what you ask me to do for you and now is you own turn to pay me back. After giving you everything atlist you have to compromize me for that, and after the emotional blackmail you fall for him. Please we need to sit up and wise up for once.
ASK FOR GRACE
In time pass, sexual immorality, temptation and perversion are not rampant as it is now, here and there are full of atrocities, sexual immorality. But in mist of all these we need God's enabling powers ( grace) to come out victorious. The urge to sin is stronger than your will. So therefore it is not him that willeth but of God that showeth mercy. You have decided many times not to have sex, but you keep failing into it despite your decisions. It's good to make nor take a decision, but much more than that you need God's grace. So we need to ask for God's grace to overcome all the temptation at is coming in our ways.
AVOID GETTING INTIMATE
Don't eat the food while it's still on fire 🔥, you are the same person that will still eat the food when it's cooked. So avoid kissing, romancing, touching, smooching, unnecessary hugging etc. These are the launching pad to sex. So let's try to control ourselves, emotions, feelings etc.
Let me conclude by saying that maintaining sexual purity pays, it will give you peace of mind, it will also save you from all sorts of troubles and more importantly you will make God happy 😊😊😊.
#May God bless you all,from your humble sis perpetual love 💕 you all😘💯💪🤸🧚
The finish line
This is my story
It was drizzling languorously when the briefing was done
It happened that good. But it was still hazy. Serenity reigned . Such a time that sleep sweetens, and when some would curse whoever or whatever that awaken them, aborting a sweet dream.
Nothing could have prompted the decision. A strong decision. A radical action carried out softly. But the daybreak's and meet whatever it may. That was how it happened in Amankwu royal palace that morning 🌅.
Eze Ejikeme, obi ogudu 1 of Amankwu, had lived happily and peaceful with his wife, ugoeze ijeoma. They were adjudged as having lived prosperously too over their twenty-one years of marriage, with their three beautiful daughters and three wonderful sons. The king was known and reversed as a man of careful disciplines. The queen 👑 was reputed for her unassuming mien. Her royalty did not get into her head; she was such a humble woman, a loyal wife in herself effacing majesty before the public. She was always calm before the king and was ever ready willing to carryout his bidding. Men envied the king for having such a beauty, such an angel as wife.
There was no doubt as to whether obi ogudu 1 loved his dear wife. He was proud of her as he flaunted his obi he would either scurry into their bedroom to meet and be with her or he would send for her to offer him that needed companionship. Togetherness was there ritual of communication. Two love birds, they loved each other stupendously, as if lifet was only but once.
That fateful morning was a turning point. The king nudged his queen 👑 to wake. He did not call her mine, for that was what he used to call her. He was already sitting on the bed 🛏️ with legs astride. She had used her right hand to search his body since neither of his leg nor arm was on top of her. What she touched was not what she bargained for. She open her eyes 👀. What she saw first was his trunk covered in his pink green flowered pyjamas. Realizing that he was no more lying down, she traced his face up. The bed lamp 🪔 was lit already. She saw a plain face looking down on her. She was dazed, frozen. But she could immediately afford to stare at him, with a pouted mouth. She nearly blacked out. Could it be normal? Did he have a bad dream? God. She struggled out of her sparkling milk coloured voluptuous quilt.
My Lord, good morning"there was no reply. Quite unusual.
My Lord, is it okay?
"I have something to tell you"he replied coldly , and continued to stare at her.
She was getting rather confused 🤔 about him. "Is this a dream?" No
What must it be my lord? I am all ears. What could it be? Something crucial.
Oh, I cannot wait to hear what the matter is, she said, raising her hand to caress his cloudy face, maybe,to see him clearly. He dodged , and softly muttered.
I am through with our marriage.
He was precise. At first, ugoeze felt stupefied. She could not be sure she heard him well enough. But if she did she waited to hear more. But nothing followed . They only stared at each other . But her month hung agape with no sound coming from it. She seems to hear him very well. After all, she was poised at hearing him out. She heard very well,she was sure. But she was not sure she understood him a whit.
She was staring at him, her eyes 👀 doing enough to prod him to say something reasonable. Yet, he did not utter a word. His face remained expressionless.
My Lord, I don't understand,"she struggled with herself, and said. "Could you repeat what you just said?"she requested.
I am through with my marriage with you. More word added, but meaning the same thing. It sounded like more explicative but unreasonable enough, it wouldn't interest her to hear it repeated. But something seemed certain to her: her marriage just came to a crossroads!
I still don't understand my Lord, she said pleading for explanation. What do you expect me to do?
Leave my palace and go back to your people, he sounded absolute.
Just like that? "Yes"
"Our children" she managed to ask with a trembling voice.
They can take care of themselves. They are quite grown, he offered as an answer.
Okay, my lord," she decided to end the conversation there . Maybe, she was in deep reverie. She would revisit it if everything did not turn out a big joke. But she knew her husband as a man who could do anything unprodded. She knew him as a man who took his time before holding on to an idea, to any decision. He seemed to have taken a decision at the moment. But he claimed to have no scintilla reason at this time. But something hardly comes sans nothing.
Two days passed, three, four, five days passed and Eze Ejikeme obi did not say a word to Ugoeze ijeoma. By this time, he had chosen to be sleeping 😴 in the bedroom at the ground floor. Ugoeze ijeoma saw herself lying 🤥 awake all night in their bedroom upstairs. In the day the king would be very careful not to entertain that warm ritual of staying with her. It began to dawn Ugoeze that her husband might mean his words. She forced herself to his palace one of those days when he had no guest and ask him what the problem was. She has taken time to examine herself to know if she erred in any way. She was quieter these days and she remembered nothing. She was quieter these days and was careful not to betray her worry before her two children, oluebebe and nnaoma, who were back from school holidays. Chukwubuikem and udoka were in school in UK and Canada respectively; while Nkeiruka and Uchnna were studying at the University of Abuja. She kept asking him what the matter was, pleading 🥺 with him to tell her, and vowing and apologizing for an offence she hardly could put her finger on. Her husband assured her that she did nothing wrong to him.
" And how do you mean I should go back to my people? And you mean I did no wrong. Why then should I leave your palace? Give me one reason my Lord.
I have no singular reason, for no singular reason you're sending me away? How can ,my Lord? There must be a reason. Do me the favour of knowing my sin. Why?
Because I don't want to marry again, why? Because I don't want to marry again." Because you don't want to marry me again. " No, because I don't want to marry again." What did I do to be so disgraced, my Lord?" It's not a disgrace...." What did I do to be divorced?" Nothing. Did you do anything for me to marry you?"
" Oh! My Lord. My Lord...." You didn't do anything for me to marry you," he said calmly. What shall I tell my people that made my lord to send me back home.
Anything you like. My Lord, be serious. What do I tell people?" That I don't want to marry again. That I'm through with our marriage. That our marriage line is drawn."
Our marriage line is drawn? Why? Why?" Yes you know, I just want to be," you mean? " Yes. I just want to be."
My Lord. You don't have to be alone. No, my lord. We started this marriage journey well. Together we can always raise and make a wonderful family. Together, we can make a huge success of our marriage finish line. Talk to me my Lord.
But I'm grateful to you for the number of years I married you. And what we've achieved together. It's about time I listened to my mind. Just to be. And I'll be very grateful to you." He thought he was generous in his explanation.
He was serious, but he looked calm like zinedine zidene of Real Madrid, in the dugout. But the way his eyes began to rove, it could be that many thoughts roved in his head. But Ugoeze was not telepathic. It's about time I listened to my mind. Just to be. And I will be grateful to you.' Ugoeze ijeoma repeated herself. She could not miss the tone of finality in Eze Ejikeme who used to her loving husband.
Ijeoma had been known as a symbol of loyalty to the king. She had to be loyal even at this time of crisis, uncertainty. The day she decided to go back to her natal home, the king detailed three of his driver's to use three of his fleet of exotic cars in taking her and her belongings home. They should leave one of them, 4 matric mercedes jeep,for her use while they should return in the remaining two. Four of his guards were to accompany her home and help in carrying down her luggage 🧳. Ugoeze ijeoma went home.
Please the story will continue next time.
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Before you say I do.
Single ready for marry please listen to me very careful.
It is always important and essential to know how prepared you are before starting a relationship nor be in a relationship with someone. Your preparetion will prevent you from failing, when you eventually start the journey of relationship or marriage. I understand that you have been single for a very long time and be curving to have a partner too, but you still need to prepare yourself before you say I do. Relationship isn't players or unserious people, it is meant for those who are mature and ready to go. It is also meant for those who are ready to always put their partners into consideration and not meant for cheaters and selfish people. Before saying I do or start any relationship at all, there are some questions u need to ask yourself to know if you are ready or not. Ask yourself "AM I READY FOR ANY RELATIONSHIP"
Many people (singles) have made wrong decision by starting a relationship that are not ready for, and that is why you see most people having like 5_6 ex's. Why? Because they just start the journey of relationship without asking themselves, if they are ready or not. These are the reasons why you see some people having heartbreaks 💔. If you are still confused 🤔 and have no answer to your questions, then don't put yourself into trouble by starting any relationship, because it's obvious that you are not ready yet.
THESE ARE THE QUESTIONS WE NEED TO ASK BEFORE STARTING ANY RELATIONSHIP.
READINESS
Before you even think of starting a relationship, if you are ready to give all your best to that relationship. Are you ready to intercede in terms of praying and fasting when tribulations comes?. Because everything is not lovely and dovey ooooooo! Ecclesiastes 4:10 it says, for if they fall one will lift up his fellow,but wow to him that is alone when he falls, for he has no one to help him. Are u ready to introduce him/her to those that are important to you.
EX'S
Ask yourself if you are truly over with your ex's before thinking 🤔 of starting a new relationship. Some relationship break 💔 because of issues of ex's boyfriend and girlfriend, while some will claim that they are done with their ex's and still call and chat them up, as if they are still together...... Am not saying that you should create an enimty with them , but please minimize how you relate with them, u need to create some distance from them so that you will not regret it later by been heartbroken again. If you are done with any relationship let you past be your past and let bygone be bygone, you must let go so that your relationship won't have any problem. 2 corinthians 5:17 " therefore if any man is in christ, he is a new creature; and old things has passed away; behold all things become new.
RELATIONSHIP
Ask yourself the kind of relationship you want to have next. Is it the one full of immorality or the one that glorify God? Is it the one that will make you maintain sexual purity or the one that will make you regret. So ask yourself this question before you can even consider whether you are interested in the relationship or not. Think twice before you make any decision in relationship nor marriage, to avoid heartbreak 💔.
INTEREST
Ask yourself if you have interest with the person you are having eye 👁️👁️ on. Ask yourself if both of you have any feelings for each other. U need to ask yourself if you also feel something in return for him/her or you just want to consider him/her because both of you have been friends for a long time, and they have been distributing for for relationship. At times some did not know what they want in relationship, and that is why they end up in an abusive relationship. You must know what you want and desires in any relationship that you keep, ask yourself how do you feel when ever your partner is around you, happy 😊 or sad 😢? Do u feel relaxed and secured? Can you also list out the things you don't like about him/her, because it will help you to make your own choice to avoid some mistakes.
PURPOSE ALIGNMENT
After concluding that you are ready, check the place of your purpose with that person you want to consider for a relationship with, you need to discover his/her purpose or still living a purposeless life. They they have discovered their purpose, which means that both of them are in the same journey of life and love 💕. Because you can't be traveling to abuja and enter lagos bus 🚌 it is impossible. You need to be careful if your partner is in the same journey with you, and also you need to check your purpose alignment so that you won't come to to this earth 🌎 unfulfilled.
SELF SYSTEM
Most single have fallen prey to this when it comes to relationship. You don't start a relationship with someone who's believe is different from you own, because it will be so difficult to achieve anything in that particular relationship. Because you as a believer is not is not expected to consider an unbeliever for a relationship nor marriage at all..... What do you expect in such a relationship, or do you think 🤔 that he/her will be on the same page with you, that is nonsense if you think anything like that because you are not going to benefit anything from it, at times most of them will drain you both spiritually and physically and left you with nothing.
So my beloved friends we need to be more careful and wise while taking or making any decisions in life, especially in terms of marriage, relationship to avoid heartbreak 💔💔💔💔💔💔.
Thank you all and may the God almighty bless you all, I love 💕 u all.🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰
Scars
Do not stare into my eyes, hoping for lies when the truth lies in my heart.
It's been over ten years, but the guilty somehow would find a way to startle her. Naturally she should celebrate 🥂 and find joy in the little things, just like her princess seemed to. But that giggle, that slight turn up of her lips whenever she has been a little mischievous. Just like her father used to while they courted, would make memories rush in like a tornado causing a little dizziness and a hallow within.
You are lucky," patience said, after I told her about Tony's marriage proposal and my new status as a woman. Tony had celebrated our formal engagement by popping my cherry 🍒 in a worship dance that hadid clasping and squeezing and stuttering words we knew but had given new meaning in our orgasms. I could not feel the luck but joined in the " ooh and ash" and endless hugs everyone gave me. As chatterbox, patience could not keep the news to herself, so she self- appointed to the wedding 💒 of the century.
I don't want to appear unreasonable and ungrateful about my seemingly good fortune, but the truth was I didn't Really love 💕 Tony despite our mind- blowing physical intimacy. The engagement and wedding preparation and actual ceremonies passed like a blur, and life began. I realized that Tony wasn't all that he had made me believe he was. He got off on porn and I was his human sex doll used to practice every sex act he could imagine. I tried to be the perfect 100 yards of wife material my mummy G.O had instructed me to be by accepting most of his fantasies. He would roll me over as though ready to win the Durex challenge. When Tony couldn't get me to be more adventurous in the other room by satisfying all his fetishes, he decided to seek it outside.
Respite still did not come as the abuse grew with each passing day. When ever he was to throw the refuse,for instance, he would carefully to through it good, he would yell and nag loudly while I would stand with my hands folded at my back, head bent and eyes staring at my feet, wondering who amongst my neighbours had driven in and if mummy Emma,the tale barer of the compound, had returned from the market, imagining how she woul probably her husband over the dinner of banga and starch. His verbal pinches were a complete knockout, making me flinch and killing me a little bit.
On one occasion, I decided to break the cycle. I went back to my parents house. I never got some rest nor eat lunch that day with them as I was bundled out almost immediately. My Dad insisted I leave after I had poured out my heart to him, while my mother with tears in her eyes advised me to be more accommodating and to remember how " men are boys" I looked at her and she nodded her assertion. I took notice and knew I should concentrate on being in his mother's good graces as she had a great influence over her son to the extent of ordering a sex fast as a means of family planning. I was at a loss of what to think 🤔 act or even reply either of them.
I returned but it got worse and never better. I kept enduring. He kept cheating. While I was hailing Mary and dancing from one pastor's alter to another, other women were being filled with grace by Tony. Everything seems to go downhill no matter how hard I tried. A scene in a popular TV series, jolted me from slipping into depression ain I knew it was time
The god's seemed to be in agreement with me . While I tried to close all loopholes in my murder plan,my mind drifting between scenes of the TV series and my newly discovered purpose, my phone 📱 rang. I trembled seeing an unknown caller ID, wondering if he was telepathic and trying to calm myself. I could feel my heart thump, a thump that took the sweat off my face and centered it on my palms as I picked up the cell phone . Hello, is this Ngozi ? A male baritone voice echoed down in the line.
Yes , please" I replied, sounding hoarse.
I am John, okay, " I could only utter.
Your husband and a group of friends were involved in the ghastly motor accident on their way back from a club. I am afraid 😳😳...
I did not hear his last words as I passed out in relief and a twinge I guess of guilt.
Beautiful scars now revealed strength now received courage to move on determined to stay strong.
Thank you all.
Time is everything
Hi everyone one I'm new on this platform, and I wish that every one here will welcome me. Thank you.
It is said that,it is a mistake for one to think that time is going. Time is not going, time is here untill the world ends. It is you that is going,you don't need nor have to waste any time.
Time is infinite if you waste yourself you are infinite, it is you that will grow old and die,time itself will never die, so better make use of yourself before you expire or die due to foolishness. And one of the worst things to do with time is to compare yourself with others.If a cow eats grass it will get fat but if dog eats grass it will die.
Never in this life compare yourself with others, run your own race because what works for other people maybe that which may kill you. Focus on the gift 🎁 and talents that God Lord Almighty gave you, and don't be envious of the blessing he gave to others.
If a rose smells better than tomatoes,it doesn't mean that the rose can make a better stew. Do not try to compare yourself with others because you have your own strength look for it and build on it. All animals that exists now were in Noah's ark, a snail is one of those animals.
If God could wait long enough for a snail 🐌 to enter the ark, His door 🚪 of grace will never close until you reach to your expected position in life 🧬. Never look down on yourself, keep looking up to God. But you have to remember one thing, a broken crayons still color, so keep on pushing you never know how close you are to your goal 🥍.
Both lions and sharks 🦈 are professional hunters, but lion 🦁 cannot hunt in the Ocean 🌊 and shark cannot hunt in the jungle. That the lion 🦁 cannot hunt in the Ocean 🌊 doesn't make him useless 🪴 and also because a shark 🦈 cannot hunt in the jungle doesn't make him useless. Because both of them have their own strength and territory where they can do well.
Do not let yourself down in the presence of those that I ate better off. Keep smiling 😄😄😄at all the time because it kills them, they do not deserve your tears and also do not compare yourself with them because I have no march with them, because what that you have inside 💠 they do have.
Believe in yourself because it is only determination that matters. Make a step 🪜 If I do not have anything doing start from somewhere whether little or not, u can make it in life. Because they said that a little drop of water makes a mighty ocean.
@Perpetual
