Unseen
Alot of things are unseen to the physical eyes. If everyone had the power to see things before hand ,alot of things could have been prevented.
I have not been able to see a diviner to tell me some does it don't. As if I would even believe them. And you can't blame me so many fake folks out there .
Anyways, we can only buy pray for safety and grace always.
Today, got in a motor bike accident which was not so fatal but very painful. Painful because I'm now working like I'm being dragged to walk . Plus will have to stay put.no work no walk .
I'm just grateful it's not so severe. Also that I feel better.
People encounter one misfortune or the other. We can only pray it never repeats itself or happen to us.
If only we could avoid falling sick I'm sure the queue to this antidote will be massive. If only one could predict when an accident will happen,the place will be avoided.if only we knew when and how we will die, such things will be banned
So many deaths we consider unfair but then that's the ultimate price .we all have to pay at some point even if we hate been reminded. Memories just either help or awaken the wounds in our hearts.
All we can do is to be careful, prayerfully and hopefully . So we can have a hazard free life. It's funny ,but true , everyone wants to be Happy always ,sounds selfish yeah but I mean who wants to cry or worry ?
Basically,life is not a bed of roses agreed. But as often as possible happiness and peace of mind is very necessary.
Also, we have to try as much as possible to reach out to people. Some people are going through alot .but they choose to hide it,but smile. And some people just add to the wound when they inflict emotional abuse to a person who is already depressed . Our choice of words or action can affect a person big time . I have heard of a case of wrong accusation led a young boy to drink a strong rodenticide.
Be nice to people out there. Alter less negative words I mean we talk in our minds .why not try that effect there. If you must insult someone. Say openly and politely I don't like what you did or said. But inside,you fool,low life...or what ever.
People are really sad these days.social media is just a consoler and competition to please and deceive. Check up on some one today.
Rounding off, I just want to say ,that you are stronger than you think you are and you can over come any trials . But still live a trouble free life.
Body shaming
Hello friend, I will like to have a chat on body shaming .It's a very common thing in our society . Especially with women who are conscious of their looks .
They worry about their shape, size, color and even height.
This is caused by societal preference, personal opinion and health and body changing. These factors and more are the reasons for body shaming.
I will like to share my personal experience as a person. Growing up, as a teenager,I was growing so fast. And all my feminine features came quite early and provocative. Then I was Abit body shamed because among my peers I was one of the girls with rather big boobs and figure. So ,I usually wore clothes that hid those things or rather doesn't make it show that much. Even with all my attempts still got some provoking stares from men that was really annoying.
I gradually got used to it . Till after college I loose so much weight due to constant illnesses. People who knew me could barely recognize me some of them taught I was deliberately loosing so much weight. Truth is,I also couldn't explain why I loose so much weight when I ate and recovered already. But it is what it is .I started taking weight gain supplement to no avail . I had to give up and take it as nature. Some people used it to tease me .some to insult me and all. At the beginning I felt bad that one could alter such things to me. Some called me dry bone,some half body.
But since I was already in the modeling world, I took advantage of it at least to gain something out of pageantry. Not after all the encouragement I got mostly by random people who found my body as a good modeling body. At least some kinda advantage .
Now, I feel comfortable with how I look not just because of the professional side but because I realized it's all vanity. Even some people were secretly admiring the body i didn't really like. When I was a bit choby I complained now,I'm skinny I still feel uncomfortable so what exactly do I want. A perfect body? That's almost impossible.
Which is why most people go for surgery to get those own perfect body. And honestly,some of them look horrible as they want too much of something that changes their mentality. To impress who exactly?I'm still trying to comprehend. Because at the end those who will like will like you and those who won't still won't even after going to the best of surgeon.
I saw a woman one day, her skin was as if she had skin cancer . Which obviously was caused by bleaching her skin. I Felt really bad for her like look at what you've done to yourself.
Body shaming is like a stigma in the heads of so many. And the only way it can be dissolved is when the people spread positive vibes to everyone short or tall dark or fair.
And as a person avoid negative vibe to avoid low self-esteem.
Travels
I love travelling. Travelling, touring , learning makes me so happy. Even if I rarely travel . But , I have one or two memorable experiences not because the place of visit is the most musing but because of memories made.
People tend to make memories when they visit a new environment that's really far from home. This could be around their country or another country.
In Nigeria , there are so many beautiful places to tour in. One of which is the obudu cattle range in cross river ,Ikogosi warm springs in Ekiti state and so on are all in Nigeria. Other historical places too.
Personally,I prefer visiting villages. you know the fresh air ,fresh foods ,elders every beautiful thing about nature. Also,the historical places and things of a place gets my attention you now learning things. I can't also forget places with festivals and unique culture and norms.
In Nigeria, most of the people find joy traveling out of the country for a tour than their country because they want to explore new environment and get more memories.
People learn alot from travels and personally,I like learning about new culture,food, language even if it's just a little of hello, or welcome or how are you. To see the beauty 8n diversity and check out similarities around the world.
Some people travel because they want to relocate for greener pastures, to a better environment. This is very common in Africa most of African countries travel to European countries to get better jobs and opportunities.some may settle their permanently while some will return home after achieving something tangible.
I have another way I travel to a place within a minute.very fast ,easy and precisely where I want to be. Guess what? It's my imagination!lols yeah. I see everything and everyone as if I was there.
Especially when I have never visited a place,I picture myself there visiting places I read about.
There is also the reason to represent ones country,state or local government or school and so many other things that one can represent makes people travel too. Like games , educational competition,sports etc
Travelling also come up when one has a health issue. Some critical health condition could make a person travel for better treatment.
And some people travel for holiday. People make memories from traveling with friends,spouse and family generally.
Although, visiting some countries could be discouraging. The crisis and the discrimination could make a person redraw interest in traveling. Also,the issue of getting visa and the condition could make one loose interest.
Also,the issue of distance discourage people.The cost of traveling make people hold back as it could be very expressive. Just to mention a few setbacks
Nevertheless,with all the traveling setbacks people still travel and make memories.
Friends
Hello friend, trust you are doing fine.
I will like to share my thoughts about friendship.
In life,we all need friends regardless of the impact. Either they make you or break you. The idea is to teach you about life. Even good friends could wrong you. They could even be a bad friend to another person. The idea of friendship asides family is to add as a factor to a person's life.
I have seen situations where a person regards the friend than any member of the family. Why is this? Why do people make friends?
People make friends for so many reasons. Some of which are:they want to have some to have fun with. This is common among children. They always want attention,action and no dulling moment. It's also good for them to enhance their social skills,and be free among fellow children or people generally.
Another reason why people make friends is the fact that they need a crime buddy . This is common with the youngsters. Teenagers to be precise. Body changing, inquisitive about stuffs . They would rather not talk about with family because they find it akward but can with people in their shoes or who just had the same experience. So they gradually trust their peers . Then due to inquisitive nature, they start being rebellious . They want to do certain things they were asked never to do .
They call it adventure, rebellion, partner in crime, gossip partner etc... They also find their first Crush and boyfriends/girlfriends through this friendship. Most times they meet in school, Church/mosque programs , community , social media, social gathering and so on. Some go as far as getting a group name like da trio, pretty bellas, boys to niggas etc... I'm sure you might be thinking how do I know do much,lol,it's not like I really did all these,just few tho.
Another reason for friendship is happiness. Some people are really depressed inside but may never show it. Infact some hyper active people tend to be the ones hurting more . So ,when they get to see someone they can make memories with , someone that makes them Happy,they never want to let go and the friendship continues.
Some people make friends because of merits . The chances of achieving something from a person can also determine friendship. Most people find it difficult to make friends if they see no impact or support your friendship can offer them. They just want to be friends only if you're in line with their standard. It could be base on social status , marital status , achievements,tribe, religion and so on.
Consequently,not all friendship ends well. Some can even turn out to be ones doom . They will be the wolves in sheep clothing of your life . This has destroyed so many people. It has destroyed so many people that the now have trust issues and will rather be a loner.
Also ,some get lucky to have good people as friends who gat their back through thick and thin. They help and build a person.
What out for the kind of friends you keep and mind things you share to a person to avoid betrayal .
Have a nice week.
Celebration
Every one wants to be Happy. And in sharing this happiness,most people just can't hold in, there by , celebrating their wins and the source of their happiness.
Celebration method differs from the other. Some people might decide to celebrate openly while some will just do it with whom ever they choose .
Personally, I prefer celebrating with just family and few friends. Only exceptional cases. You know there are some cases where you can't really say ,only your family decides...they help you insist on how your celebration should go in a typical African home.
Hence,when things go well in your life, their is need to celebrate . For me , even if it's just a simple means.
Just like when people get married,most times people are more excited for the party after the couple have tied the knot.
Especially,in a typical Nigerian home.Every mother or father will want to celebrate their children's Union in their own style mostly in a grand way. While some will just do it in a portable way...with no much guests and all . This is one of the most happy, emotional and romantic celebration ever which leaves good memories.This depends on the circumstances. And they can only pray for a happy new home for the couple.
The couple then celebrate anniversary as they keep growing together. Some people might re new votes and celebrate too .
Also, people like to celebrate their birthdays. Birthday is another form of reminder and reflect about ones life. How far one has come in life, successes ,loss , mistakes and more.
Birthday reminds us how God has been merciful and how his protection has been our source of life. Some people celebrate big especially if the age is a solid. From children to adults. They celebrate in an elaborate way the following years:1,3,5,7,10,13,14,16,17,18,20,21,25,28,30,35,40.... Birthdays. Others can choose to celebrate in any other way all depends tho but the ages listed above are the mostly celebrated.
There is also academics celebration. After a long and challenging school life . Some even find it difficult to gain admission to tertiary institution .when one finally gets a decree people tend to celebrate this too. With family, friends...some even do it in a grand style especially if the journey was though and worth it.
In addition, people celebrate the birth of a child in their family. Especially for new couples, they celebrate their bond of joy . In the child's naming ceremony. This is one of the most emotional,and joy filled celebrations ever . As it has to do with a new life and family member. This child birth has really played key role in a relationship.some people can't survive in a relationship if their is no child. And some are not previledge to bare children.
Some people celebrate promotion from works too . This makes people happy to know their financial status will change for the better and they celebrate it to the fullest . They even do some give aways which is an interesting part and where I like to be , you know,so I can also tap from the give away. Also,the celebrate their companies partnership and their anniversary. Some also celebrate retirement as they do a farewell party for them.
Some people also celebrate death, sounds so ironically, but so. This happens especially when the person lived well and long. Like 90,100,120 and so on. And also in form of rememberance .
Not to forget,some really close friends do celebrate friendship although this is not so common now. They count it as friendship anniversary.
Well, all this is to remind ourselves that at some point in our lives we should see reasons to be happy and celebrate in our own way . celebration doesn't mean you are unserious or you are a sinner .it's a form of appreciation of the success you have acquired. You know , not Everytime over serious face and too focus fellow. So count your blessings and find the one you want to rejoice with first .
Over, out .
Future of tommorow ,lust today.
I honestly don't know where to start this article from because what I'm about to talk about, is quite sensitive to me,and many others . But,we still have to start from somewhere.
I see alot of provoking images resurfacing in my head from stories heard and things I can bear witness to. And I felt I should pour it out here.
What is this troubling issue? I will call it my head topic again . Future of tommorow, lust today. Our children who are the future of tommorow,are lust. Lust I mean their obsession and inquisitive nature to want to do immoral acts . Immoral acts like under age smoking, drinking ,sex and many more.
It's heartbreaking each time I see or hear things as such. Imagine a parent working hard all day to secure a bright future for the child/ward... only to get a call from the school authority that your 12 years old son was caught smoking in the school toilet . Or getting a call from your own mom(grandma to your child) that 14 years old Alicia was caught sending her nudes to a fellow classmate on Alicia's phone which was gifted recently. Not to talk of the recent Nigeria news on a 15 year old boy who is sent by some agent to kidnap fellow children to earn five thousand naira. Or a man who lures a 3 years old girl to suck his penis ,or, the other case of a man who forces himself on a girl who could barely pronounce ma_ma . Oh, less I forget , what of the 6 year old boy whose aunt made him lick her Virgina, and she pulls his penis. All these and more preposterous activities this lad face everyday , silently ,till anytime anyone finds out and clamor for help. Some of them are already far into the immoral act that they don't feel rumors at all. And some will feel regret and apologize but when you look away they repeat .only few get redeemed but with a stigma.
Now the million dollar question is How? why? When ?who?did this all started from. Hence , if we start to dig out facts and proves about this issue ,we will all agree that every factor have a fault.
With no reasonable doubt, all fingers will point at the parent particularly,the mother of the child in question. Which is sometimes true. Because some parents over pamper and over look things. They even think their children are saints that cannot commit any crime. But practically,a child's mind is like a container, you fill it with all that the child needs to know. But then ,can a parent be with her child 24/7? What if she is a single mom working hard to sustain her child ?will she leave her job to monitor every step or place her child goes?. remember a crime could have been learnt from any place . what if the bad habit was learnt from school? Or I forgot to mention that a church can also be an agent .you know when kids gather to play or in a supposednchurch activity,they could pick up something bad too.
Some schools now lack discipline for their student.its one thing to discipline a child and it's another thing to be mean to a child. Teaching a child about academics should also contain some level of moral training and discipline. But because of the fear of parent's wrath when their kids come home report the way a teacher discipline them in their own children narration format. An boom! Parent match to school tomorrow because they pay heavy fee so why should any one scold their kids. Also , the I don't care nature of some teachers they just want to teach all that's in the syllabus and leave .
Truth is , if we are to dig out , this article might take forever . So we will fast forward to what can be done to MINIMIZE and SANITIZE the rate of this pollution of the little minds . I mean if they are caged to this lustful thought how will they focus and become leaders?
The parent still have a huge role, I think as early as a child starts talking the parents should make them understand that it's not cool to touch their private parts.
And be more open minded as a parent not every little mistake you tell and punish your ward...a moderation of everything and the rest is in God's hands to guide them from the destroyers of children .
Food for thought
Food is survival. We all need food to sustain us.
Practically,we eat different meals from different crops , fruits and so on. We consume so it can give us energy and all nutritional value.
For some of us ,we don't really care if it totally healthy we just crave it. Imagine eating suya (roasted meat)and chill mineral (soda) won't want to mention the names of the drinks we both know are not so healthy. But we choose not to care.
Oops hope your lips and tongue aren't meeting? There's no food here o. Let's get back to the chat.
The idea is the food we feed our thought. And what's the food we feed our thought? Our idea ,the environmental factors,the family and so on.
Well this could be a positive food or a negative food and this can influence our decision and our mentality about something.
Consequently, this can destroy or make one . Thousands of people sleep every day sad . Thinking or believing they can't do things they love doing . They are not working towards their aspirations. Because they have eliminated the
I remember the story of a girl ,who always wanted to be an actress,but due to the vices and beliefs of people about this profession ,she was unable to actualize her dream profession.
Her mom was against it she wanted her daughter to be an accountant. Which is not bad.
But the question is ,how many people become or study exactly what they want? What is the joy in changing a dream profession.
Although some gets lucky and love the supposed changed profession .true,but the question is ,did they really know what they wanted before.
Others change because they have no choice .
Away from education or profession,some people in their own thoughts don't want to get married. They'd rather be in a missionary. But because the family won't want to stop the legacy they will pressurize the supposed person to do otherwise.
It's really important to understand what is good for you. Feed yourself with positivity and always give it a try. And when you do and things don't go as planned,at least you know you tried. Better than not trying at all
There is no easy way to anything big or great .
Always be a good observer to all the activities you do then no the one that comes first. Because at the end you alone will answer for your losses . Just as said you are the architect of your life.
All these motivational chat I heard from a man who stood by the side of the road with a microphone he was even mistaken for a mad fellow... Because of his choice of fashion...but on the other flip one can't tell if that is the only option of clothes he had. With old suitcase and all ,one can say he was a professor or something like that
Well even if he was insane there is sanity in all he said . For him to dedicate such time and effort to educate people on matters as such under the scorching sun, he deserves an accolade.
Not me in the heavy traffic earlier due to the season. So annoying I thought ,I mean seeing others go out to celebrate and I was just hurrying to beat the call time for my shift. But how could I complain,I choose to work one has to keep body and soul.
Easter
My Easter philosophy
Easter is here again!
Most people see it as a celebration day ,some a mourning day.
As for me ,I see it as one normal ,same routine day. Not because I'm not religious or because I don't understand the reasons behind the day but because I feel what's the need? With all the wrongs around now, there is no need for hypocrisy.
If everyday I still wake up, pray or forget to pray.Go to work get insulted or insult .
Where am I headed, the fact that christ suffered ,that our sins may be forgiven and yet the sins keep plying up . In my head, I'm like ,how many sins God go forgive?
Plus the essence of Easter is to celebrate Resurrection and spread the good news , become a better person....rather it's the opposite in our society.
Most people choose to celebrate in bars , clubs and what have you. Which I am not even against.The intention is the important thing. The question is, in that space of your celebration do you preach Christ?
I'm not against what ever makes one happy neither am I here to conderm anyone. But the truth must be told...most of us are hypocrite- in Christ . Yet christ still forgives us ,provide for us , protect us,and even bless us, which is so fascinating ... Well that's why he is the ONE WITH A BIG HEART.
Some people think judging others for living in a certain way that displeases them means the other person is a great sinner . They judge base on your physical lifestyle.
On the contrary,conderming another even makes you a Greater sinner. The Bible was written thousand of years back and they all had a trend in dress,where they visit for fun,how they communicate and everything about their lives back then.
Hence,your archaic nature doesn't mean you will make Heaven or you won't . Basically,the heart has always been the ticket to God's heart too.
I personally have seen so many church workers ,preachers ,believers and every title they get in Christ name yet do terrible things yet conderm others . You know seeing a church usher call another member a stupid low life . Or a church head blaspheme a member just to preach to others. So many instances.
Summary is , everyone is a sinner and the only price we have to pay as long suffering is enduring living a holy life. What do I mean by this?
As for me ,I find it difficult to avoid some troubles, especially if I'm insulted I could triple it for the person. One of my long suffering is tolerance.
We all still have alot to digest in our lives because our religion is our life. We do everything we do because we want to become somebody.
And chirst died for us to be able to live our lives the way it should be.
For me Easter is everyday.we should profess this Everytime so long as we believe in Christ Jesus.
Happy Easter lovelies.
Newbie
Process to the great parts
Starting a new thing can be exciting, underwhelming, adventurous, even scary.It all depends on the new idea or the thing you want to pursue.
Just like starting school from a toddler down to adulthood.One gets anxious about the whole stages .I remember when I was a newbie in college. Before the resumption day I was supper excited ,even , feeling
fly like a big girl for my new chapter. Only for resumption day and boom ,mood swings. I started getting used to the my new life till I got used to the process and finished college acquiring knowledge, having good friends,bad friends(you know those snitches and back stabbers you meet while in school), and of course a certificate.
Basically,life throws some task or should I say challenges that can make our minds be like that of a toddler when we have no experience or idea of what to do at that time and then , subsequently become fully endowed with knowledge after proper approach and awareness .
Everyone face new thing at some point in our lives from childhood to adulthood... Also your career after college or a skill...then if you decide to settle down for marriage also,your very own family.
Personally,I find joy in learning a new thing or engaging in a new platform . No knowledge is a waste for me, and I find joy in associating. I mean how else can people connect or communicate if one doesn't associate.
Just like when I started my modeling career,it was fun (because I remember it now ,back then I saw it as a stupid process). I got bullied , ignorance bully people!. I mean it wasn't my fault I wasn't so professional with my walks on heels ,to crown it all ,in a rough surface. Not to talk of the way they carried themselves, spoke and did something they call pose and angles like...was it math?why should there be an angle or 360 turn ...so I thought then. So, I learnt and trust the process ,I became better than ever with a crown and title to my credit. Well not to brag. All thanks to associating with the right folks asides family (because most times ,they won't want you to feel bad and love blind thereby seeing everything you do as perfect) .so hearing samething you heard from home outside gives you the green light to pursue this new thing.
So, every new step ,process or idea needs a proper plan to birth it.
What's your new plan and how well have you prepared to actualize it?
Welcome to me
@Nuella