@Mayiee 13 December 2021 more from that month

I had a friend

I can't formulate a good words to comfort her because even me becomes so speechless on the things that I've found out. It never crossed to my mind that behind her happy face is a heavy problems that makes her falling into pieces. I just want to hugged her so tight right now. I had a friend,let's just called her MJ. Since we are seatmate since day 1, we immediately click to each other. Unlike me, she is a very serious and quiet person. She actually admit that at first, she can't believe that she will becomes my friends because I'm too talkative and maybe I will saw her as a boring person. On the other hand, I also admitted to her that I also found it hard to talked to her before because she just always nodded at me. Everytime I asked her , she will just looked at me then nodded. But of course I never give up to the point that I always asked her about random things and at the end, she also becomes comfortable to me and begins to shared her life to me. After 2 years of friendship, I can say that I know her a bit because there's still a limitation to it. But last night she called me on the phone. I thought she was just asking about our final examination today. But when I answered the phone, she suddenly cried out loud. I don't have an idea but I know that she has a problem. I tried to calm her down then she started to begins to share. She is asking for my advice and I don't know what should I say. I also asked permission to her to share it here and she gives me her approval because according to her, she really needs an advice. MJ is the eldest grandchild and daughter among the sibling. She lives in her Grandpa's house together with her 8year old cousin.Last week, her Grandpa was rushed to the hospital because of short breathing. She is the only adult that time so she asked her neighbor's help. Her Uncles immediately went to the hospital after hearing the news about their father. The grandpa needs to confine in the hospital for about 3 days and unfortunately her uncles already need to go back to work. They want to stay but they really need to go back to work because of the hospital bills. So, MJ was all alone on the hospital taking care of her Grandpa and also her cousin. While she is at the hospital, she also doing her school requirements and also she able to go to her part time job. But I can feel that she is also drained and tired. I can see to her eyes that she has no sleep at all. I asked her if she has no one to asked to take care her grandpa while she is at work and also to able for her to rest just a bit. She actually said that she has one person on her mind that could help her but she is not sure if this person is willing to help her. She already called this person several times but she always ignore the calls. To the fact that they also only living in the one compound but this person still choose to be deaf about the condition of her grandpa. This person is no other than MJ's mom, the only eldest daughter of her grandpa. She said that she almost kneeled to her Mom asking for the help not financially but a support on taking care of her grandpa. After all this person is her father. But her mother said that she is busy even she just there inside of her house. "***Is there a problem about your mom***?" I asked it to her but she said that she also don't know what happened before. It seems that her mother is still angry to her parents since her grandpa choose a course that her mother doesn't want. Since then, her mother becomes cold and decided not to get involved to her grandparents life. Also, since then her mother didn't find any work because she can't find happiness to it. MJ also admits since then, she is the one who shouldered all the responsibilities of her Mom. In the young age, she needs to find a job. It's my first time to know about this and I don't know what should I say to her. It's so heavy to handle. How can she handled that kind of heaviness alone? But she was asking for an advice. She wants to talked her Mom once more but she doesn't know if how can she do that without hurting her mother's feeling. It seems that her mother has an anxiety and she wants to help her Mom and she doesn't know how. She is also asking me if she should quit to her part time job since she can't manage it properly because even how flexible she was, she still tend to becomes tired. But this part time job is also one of her source to support her younger siblings to their studies. Or she should stop her studies on the next semester to fulfilled her obligation as a grandchild, daughter and sister to her family. She can't handled it at once so she think she needs to let go one but I think all of that is also important to her especially the studies. But I also want her to take care her own health since it's so tiring for her. One thing is for sure, I really want to hugged her right now🥺