Learn To Be Whatever But Still Humble
Being very Whatever is necessary in living this life (hahaha Bu*lsh1t). But that doesn't mean avoiding problems. Don't get me wrong, because the wrong understanding can be messed up. So the very stupid man is more about how you can filter out problems, which ones should be immediately sought a solution and which ones just need to be avoided.
Humans are indeed created callous, there are positive emotions such as feelings of happiness, joy, calm, gratitude, awe, humor and love. It all must be in your life then it must always be maintained in order to always have positive emotions even in bad situations though. There are also negative emotions, well these emotions that we will discuss how to control. negative emotions are feelings of sadness, anxiety, fear, worry, and hate. If we can't control these negative emotions, how do you want your life to be cool.
• Don't overdo it when it comes to loving or hating
I know that anything that is too much is not good, in any case. Please don't love someone or something too much. It's normal. Realize that someone must have shortcomings, as well as you.
Not everything in him is good, try to think if one day that person disappoints you, you will be down really. It's different if you love him naturally, knowing that he is also an ordinary human being who has shortcomings. That's simple, right? Self love first, dear.
• Do not exaggerate trivial matters
Surely you have a habit of enjoying sadness. Hmm, me too. It's okay to be sad, it's natural but it's not natural for days. Negative emotions should not be left for long,immediately turn them into positive thoughts. For example, when you get stuck on the road, you automatically get annoyed. Your response I can guess will be angry
*"Damn! This is how bad it gets! You're taking a long time to get dressed so it's jammed at this time! I'm annoyed with you!”.*
Try to give a different response in your mind like this.
*“Waah I can chance a long chat with him/her if jammed like this, just enjoy it"*.
Well, happy right? So positive emotions right? Try to train yourself to stay positive in bad situations. It takes time and is not easy indeed. But try it!
• Choosing to be friends
Expand the circle of friends is good, to add relationships and others because we humans are social creatures. Choose a friend in this case is not seen from the treasure or his throne or his appearance, but rather to the character of that person. As with disease, your character or social environment can also greatly infect your personality.
Have friends like to envy people, yaa will eventually follow like him too. It's better to have a few friends but quality than a lot of friends but you don't develop even worse, really dangerous!
As you grow older, you will feel insecure. automatically you will choose which friends can be sevisi and semisi with you, that's what you will defend
• Occupy yourself with positive and productive activities
If you are busy with positive activities, automatically there is no time for you to gossip about people. Let alone gossip, to just listen to julid an others just do not have time. Just smile bro and sist. That's healthier. There is no time to read hoax news on the internet or in whatsapp groups, you must be observant to see a news story and don't carelessly re-share the news if you don't understand the problem.
Avoid social media comments as well. because once you comment, you will usually be addicted to reply back to the comment because you feel you have not won the argument, for example. Well, something like this is starting to be avoided. It is better to be silent if you do not know 100% of the problem. 1 or 2 or 3 that I can eat, Lol.
Negative emotions are very vulnerable in these social media hoaxes, guys..people are easily ignited emotions and in time will explode BOOOMM!
**• Dare to restrain yourself**
You have to have a way to connect with other people. We as social beings should care about each other, regardless of race, religion and ethnicity agree right? Even we should help each other.
Well, restraint here means you have the ability to control the opinions or arguments of others. When you get bad treatment from others, will you be carried away by negative emotions towards others?
*****Conclusion*****
*Do not like that, guys. Try to train yourself to think more rationally, why would that person do that to me? What did I do wrong? Well those questions you need to answer and consider well before you judge that person's bad.*
*Who knows if you are wrong or if you are not wrong, just relax. Be wise. Being whatever is very important for various things or problems, both relationships with superiors at work, relationships with partners, family, friends etc.all we can apply and train in ourselves anywhere at any time.*
Learn Not To Be Irritable
Living in an open world today cannot be free from criticism. Especially if you are a famous person or simply have a "name", there must be something called fans or haters. Not only criticism in terms of physical, sometimes your attitude also can not be separated from the comments of people.
Actually, input or criticism is also needed for self-improvement. But there are times when you feel offended, even hurt to face it. Especially if at that time you are sensitive or have a bad mood.
For that there are ways that we can learn (and this way works for me) so as not to be easily offended by the actions or spicy words of others, here are some ways you need to do.
**Think Positively About The Actions Of Others**
The common thing that happens to a person is that it is easy to be prejudiced. So that it is not easy to be offended, do not easily assume negatively about the actions or words of others. Sometimes there are some people who are careless, do not know the truth but emotions come first.
So the solution is to always think positively towards others. Try to always think clearly and rethink the intention behind the person's words or actions. Remember that some of the words of others do not necessarily represent his attitude as a whole.
**Control Emotions**
Irritability is closely related to self-emotional outbursts. So, in order not to be easily offended then you must be smart to control and reduce emotions so as not to overflow. This can also make you not easily provoked commotion.
It may be difficult to control your emotions at first, but there are many ways to control your emotions. One of them is to switch to more positive things, such as sports or hobbies. Another way is to put forward logic as will be discussed in the next point.
**Put Forward Logic**
Irritability is a matter of feelings. The best way to reduce it is to use logic. Sharpening logic to be sharper can hit emotions and reduce annoyance.
In addition, criticism or anything else is the path to self-maturation. It would be better to admit that it was your fault. It's not defensive or evasive.
Remember that truth is more important than being right. So if what others say is true and what we do is wrong, then don't be offended.
In addition, by promoting logic, you will also avoid negative actions, such as anger. Think of people who will be affected by your anger and even offended by the attitude you do.
**Do Not Take Turns**
Instilling into thought that not only you who receive innuendo or criticism from others is one way to not easily offended and avoid sadness. Almost everyone experiences it too, even people we think are almost perfect.
People who are currently successful or motivators, must also feel the bitterness of criticism, even ridicule that offends the mind. So don't worry because there are many other things to think about. Just switch your mind to something more positive and create another activity.
**Change The Viewing Angle**
Changing the point of view to criticism can be easily done. As mentioned earlier, instill that great people who succeed a lot through failure and bitterness are not just one or two times.
Stick with what you're doing if it's right and in line with your goals. Although many people attack your weaknesses and mistakes, as long as they are good, ignore them.
Reduce Stress
One way to avoid irritability is to reduce stress. Believe it or not, stress can make emotions unstable and feelings more sensitive. So it could be a normal speech fall into criticism that nyelekit in the heart.
Reducing stress can also make a person move quickly to improve himself. Once it falls, then he will move on, plan and live better things towards the goal.
**Seek Help**
If indeed you have tried to make every effort but still become a sensitive figure or easily ngambekan, then there is no harm in seeking help. You can do counseling or just tell a trusted person.
Talking to people who already know you can make them give advice or help that is more targeted. In addition, you can also contact an expert such as a psychologist.
Another help is to establish a closer relationship with God. Improving your relationship with God can make God improve your relationship with humans.
It could be that your heart has been troubled because you have been ignorant and far from God. When praying, ask to be given patience, spaciousness of heart and clarity of mind. Far from prejudice and also negative thoughts.
***Conclusion***
*Now that was some way to not be easily offended by the words or actions of others. Changing your mindset to a more positive one is the key.*
*Maintain calm and positive feelings so that it is easier for you to live this life because there will actually be many losses if you maintain an irritable nature.*
Never Be Jealous
**Life is not just what it looks like on the outside.**
When there are people who outwardly appear to be affluent, wealthy, stately homes, luxury cars, their lives are not necessarily as beautiful as we think. Maybe the problem is more than us. We are the ones who should be grateful, even though everything is simple, our lives are more peaceful and serene.
When there are people who outwardly seem to be very successful. High position at a young age. All obtained, all grasped. No need to rush jealous and jealous. We don't know what he did to get it. His hard work. We also don't know whether it was all a success or a trial.
**Life is not just what it looks like on the outside.**
And no need to be busy taking examples from others. We can take an example from ourselves. We all have problems in life. And that can be a lesson. Maybe, in the past when we had nothing, our lives were more calm. Maybe, in the past when it was nobody, our life was more beautiful. Because really, wasn't it when we were little, our lives were lighter and happier? We don't have to worry about other people's judgments, nor do we need to worry about judging other people.
It is very tiring when we measure anything from the outer shell. Especially if you define success in life only from possessions, position, power. Because it's all just a race that will never end. There will always be someone in front of us.
**Life is not only seen from the outside.**
So there is no need to envy anyone in this world. Ordinary. Don't be dazzled and dazzled. Don't lick and look for the face. Ordinary. And conversely, do not belittle and belittle. Don't be arrogant and arrogant.
We never know the quality of other people's lives. People we think are not successful, just manual laborers, may sleep better than us. Farm workers, maybe their lives are easy to fly like a feather, not crawling full of thoughts. They are not controlled by the world.
They don't worry about losing anything. Meanwhile, we are very afraid that tomorrow the day after tomorrow will be difficult. They don't need to impress other people, while we are busy polishing here and there for the praise of others.
We know each other's quality of life. So hopefully we can keep trying to be happy, not pretending to be happy.
*Just make sure, we don't become a burden to others, full of drama, etc. Moreover, hurting other people just for the sake of pursuing the world's version of the definition of happiness. After all, life is simple, whether our life is useful or not for others. And no matter how small the benefits as long as they are done sincerely, the value is even. No need to fight tongues, no need for a lot of arguments, we know what each other's life is like.*
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