@Korbencowan

@Korbencowan 19 November 2022

Why are we superstitious? Today, we all know the value of science and rational thinking. So why are we superstitious? According to National Geographic, there is a loss of 800-900 million dollars in the US markets on Friday the 13th. This is because people are superstitious and don't get on airplanes or do the things they usually do on that day. Superstitions are not limited to Friday the 13th being unlucky. The report compiled by Forbes magazine from research results presents striking results. Gallup research company prepared a survey in which people were asked "Are you superstitious?". Accordingly, 25 percent of people said they were superstitious in some way. There are other results from the survey. Accordingly, 24 percent of people knock on wood to protect themselves from the evil eye, 13 percent think it is bad luck to pass by a black cat, 12 percent do not pass under the stairs, 11 percent think it is bad luck to break a mirror, and 9 percent believe that the number 13 is unlucky. A survey conducted by the Harris Poll company shows that 75 percent of people believe in miracles, 44 percent in ghosts, 31 percent in witches and 31 percent in astrology. The National Opinion Research Center, on the other hand, reports that this 31 percent of people who believe in astrology think that astrology is "scientific". However, it is important to remember that astrology is based on interpretation and is different from science. Why are we superstitious? Jane Risen, a behavioral scientist at the University of Chicago, says that superstitions are not just about individuals' mental deficiencies. Many people are superstitious in different ways. It would be unfair to say that all of these people have a mental problem. In fact, several factors can explain why we are superstitious. Nobel laureate Daniel Kahnemann says that lazy thinking is at the root of superstition: "It is easier to believe in superstitions than in compelling thoughts about probabilities." Jane Risen agrees and says that people succumb to superstitions even though they know they are not true. The question is, why do we believe in superstitions? Here are a few possibilities: - Many people are superstitious for fun. There is something fun about believing in something that is not rational. - Superstition is the easiest way to believe that you can control things. When we don't walk under the stairs, we think we are safe and we think we are controlling possible harm. - No one can defend the truth of their superstitions. When our superstitions are questioned, the first thing we all say is, "What's there to lose?" But maybe we have something to gain by getting rid of superstitions. At first glance, superstitions may seem harmless and innocent. The phrase "I have nothing to lose", which we all say, is as false as it is true. For example, if you believe in miracles, this can turn you into a passive person, preventing you from striving for your goals. No matter how harmless it may seem to knock on wood to ward off the evil eye, don't get away from rational thinking.

@Korbencowan 12 November 2022

Try letting go instead of holding on tightly to feel lighter Letting go involves a lot of things. One part of you says let go, the other part says don't let go. When your logic says go, your emotions say don't go and holding on comes into play, the more you want to let go, the more you unconsciously hold on, even if you think you are holding on, you can't. Then only your hands hurt... Have you ever had your hands hurt? Mine hurt a lot. Not being able to let go. It's a war with yourself and you open the front in that war when you don't need to. That's why you want to quit but you can't. Have you ever won an internal battle? Have you ever felt better in the midst of all this turmoil? Or did the people who hurt your soul regret it after your inner battle? What happened? Let me give you the answer, you were the only loser. In a war that has no winners... Because in fact, no war has no winners, only wounded people, and you wounded yourself because you couldn't accept it. Let's accept it and stop asking "Why?" Are you in? It's time to silence the inner voice that eats you up like "Why did this happen to me?", "Why did he do this, say that?". We get stuck in our judgments and complaints, in our emotions and stories. Let's focus on the outcome, no matter the why, how, howsoever, there is only one truth: whatever you have been through is over. What is left behind is a lot of experiences, good and bad. Put it in your pocket and go. Why are we so attached to what we think we have, what we think will make us happy? Of course pain is inevitable when things are too much, that's normal, but suffering is optional; pain is a physical condition, if there is pain now, it's real, it's there, you can't ignore it, it's there. Resisting pain doesn't help us, it only increases the discomfort. Suffering, on the other hand, comes from our indifference to pain, from wishing it wasn't there. It comes from our fight against reality. Not accepting what is is an additional layer of discomfort that comes from holding on to the idea of how something should be. Suffering is our resistance to reality. Our refusal, our inability to consent, is our resistance. Whatever we have been through, maybe we were not given the love we deserved, maybe we suffered great pain. Maybe we were ignored, used, maybe we experienced much worse things. Reliving those moments over and over again in our minds or hearts, paying the price or dreaming of paying the price, not being able to accept life, inner restlessness, anger, unhappiness, even self-dislike. Haven't you fought enough? You must accept what happened in the past and not ask Why? The pen was broken, judgments were made, you lived what you had to live and it's over. The question "Why?" can be very damaging, it will always take you backwards. If onlys are your worst enemy. This is where positive psychology starts, you have to pull out that sponge and learn to be happy with what you have. Come on then, the stage is yours.