73 critical issues to discuss before marriage

Here are some critical things you mustn't skip during courtship 1) Background. 2) Do's and don'ts 3) Weakness e.g snoring, eating habits. e.t.c 4) Formal education: to what level 5) verbal skills: how does he or she talks 6) Expected roles of both individuals in the marriage: His role as husband and father and her role as the mother of your children 7) Love and respect: to what extent does she respect or submit to you as her husband and to what extent does he loves you as his wife 8) Number of children 9) Type of family planning 10) Gap between children 11) Child rearing view 12) Mental, social, psychological, spiritual, philosophy of life 13) Ways of dealing with issues 14) Talk about smoking, drinking, alcohol and coming home late. 15) Night journey 16) Involvement of in laws and potential influence 17) Sense of humour: are you a person that doesn't laugh or joke, just study and pray every minute? Talk about it now. 18) Punctuality 19) Dependability: to what extent can you depend on him/her? some men will say " she depend on me for everything, she doesn't goal or vision" talk about it now. 20) verbal intimacy: freedom of expressing feelings 21) Home conflicts and management 22) Anger management: some spouse will say "whenever I'm in rage or anger, the only person that can calm me down is my mother or someone else" some will say "leave me for some time and I will get over it" 23) Fear and anxiety 24) Friendship with opposite sex: don't hand shake or hug any other man when I'm around e.t.c talk about it now 25) Family friends: who and who do you want as family friends? What caliber of people 26) Personal friends 27) levels of ambition 28) Personal goal and achievement 29) Cooperate life goal and achievement 30) Attributes towards weight: Many ladies are slim before marriage but got fat after marriage. If you are a type that like slim lady, look at her mother if she has, because she is likely to look like her mother later in life, spot belly, e.t.c talk about it 31) Religion believe and spiritual preference 32) Church denomination: is it her church you with be attending after wedding or his 33) Church involvement 34) Hobbies and Interest 35) Songs and Music 36) values and Goal 37) Self control: does he have problem with women 38) Past life 39) Amount of income to spend and save 40) House wife or career woman 41) Type of account 42) Finance in marriage: what percentage should be allocated to cloth, vacations, given away and to whom 43) Means and risk of investment 44) Attitude towards cleanliness 45) Location: where to settle, geographical, Commercial, spiritual, and social areas to live. 46) Order of priority: house before car or vise versa 47) size and style of house: bungalow, upstairs, flat, duplex, fenced or open house. Talk about it now 48) Ways of handling sickness: are you the type that if somebody vomit around you or see blood, you will run away? 49) Means of getting treatment: is it private hospital, or teaching hospital, or tradomedical center? 50) Payment of school fees 51) Children's schooling: private and public 52) Health standard: are you the type that uses the drug or faith? Talk about it 53) Interpersonal and social skills: does your partner have cacus, caliber, or levels? Does he or she have pride or look down on people? 54) Stinginess 55) House helper: maid, Gardner, driver, dry cleaner, house cleaner, e.t.c 56) Nature of food: only African food or continental or mixed 57) Mode of sleeping: together or separately 58) Mattress: water bed, mat e.t.c 59) sexual intimacy 60) Sexual intercourse during pregnancy 61) Type of furniture or interior decoration 62) Jewelries 63) Type of cloth to be wearing 64) Day or days of fasting in a week 65) Amount and type of travel prefer: is it every vacation or yuletide period? Is it by flight or land 66) Time to be spent together: some couple live away from each other throughout their lives, as a result of job e.t.c 67) When to go to bed and when to wake up 68) Time for family alter 69) Test on genotype, HIV/AIDS, blood group etc 70) Intelligent decision 71) Nature of hair do: weaving, curling, wig, e.t.c 72) Make up: use of earring, lipstick, cosmetics pedicure e.t.c 73) Temperament. I hope this helps.