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Can girls ask guys out?
Usually, guys are the first ones to ask girls out. It has been a tradition or society's culture (for some) that guys initiate the first move. There is this stereotype if a girl asks a guy out. Society would frown and then you will be labeled as a flirt, desperate, and aggressive. Some may even call you offensive nicknames. Well, it's more of a moral issue here. I asked my man about this just to settle this fairly and get a reaction from a guy's perspective. He said, "If a girl asks me out, that would make me feel like a boss". He explained that some guys don't get the signals or hints and are too shy to ask girls out so they just keep their feelings within themselves so nothing happened. Apparently, that's not the case for us. He initiated the first move because I wasn't really interested to engage myself in getting to know other people (or dating) at that time because there's so much on my plate already. He remained consistent and sincere so we're together now for almost 3 years. Other guys would take it as weird because they don't expect it. It also makes them feel less of a man. As the world gets modern, dating becomes a normal setup through social media so anything can happen. After all, it's not about who's supposed to pursue who and just go after the person you are attracted to. Girls, have you asked a guy out? Guys, how would you feel if a girl asks you out?
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Before, my answer to this question was NO, but now my answer changed. haha. I think there's no problem if the girl initiated it though this answer of mine is just for a couple. haha. If not yet, I'll go back to my first answer which is NO because I can't initiate asking a man/boy to go out if we're not in a relationship😅
This pertains to a setting whom you just first met. 😅 Haha. Me too. Personally, I can't initiate to ask a guy out whom I just met because first of all, I'm an awkward person. Secondly, I don't go out 🤭🤷♀️
haha. me too. I don't use to go out with a man because I'm just an ugly duckling when I was young. haha. And until now I can't ask a newly-met guy to go out. haha
This doesn't apply to both of us then 🤭 but you are in a relationship now?
Yes. haha. So I initiated it when I really want to go out and if he's in the mood. haha. He's not also a person who always wants to go out. He prefer to stay at home and cook food. How about you?
Then I guess your personalities are a match. Yup, I am. As I've mentioned in the article 😅
not really. haha. I think we have the same attitude which not good in some ways.hahaha
Like what attitude? Hehe.
uhm. stubborn yet sweet in some ways too :)
Yieee. I like that. Naughty but sweet. But sometimes if he's too naughty, I get mad right away 🤭
haha. me too.
I wouldn't mind if any girl asks me out😅😅
Right. I mean, that girl really likes you because she made the first move right? Unless she's on a mission 🤦♀️💔 There are some circumstances that this happens for both genders.
Well, if she is on mission, she's gonna regret that. I am good at exposing people🤣🤣and destroy careers😂😂😂
Woohoo. Fiesty 🙈😲 She chose the wrong person to mess with. It's gonna be a boomerang effect 🤭
🤭🤭🤭🤭 I like to play these games🤣🤣
I haven't tried asking a guy out and perhaps I won't be able to try it because I am happily in a relationship for 5 yrs now. But if ever, I think it's just okay for girls to ask guys out. As long as its in a public area. If the girl likes the guy, I think its just right for that girl to know the person better by asking him out. I think you are right in saying that it's just in our culture that the guys should ask first. But I think in western countries, girls are open and independent and they do what they like to do.
I agree. This doesn't really apply here in our country because toxic judgmental Pinoys are not open for change. 🤭 Exactly. Europeans are somehow liberated so asking out a guy doesn't really matter.
Right. This culture in the Philippines is hard to change because we were taught about values like being Maria Clara and Mahinhin na dalaga. Hahaha.
Absolutely. I think other Asian countries still practice their traditional way of courtship though. Chinese are so strict when it comes to marriage. They arrange marriage right away. No time for asking a guy out. 😆
Hahaha. Indeed. I have a blood of chinese but good thing we don't have that kind of traditional marriage. It might be the end of me. Hahaha.
Wooooa. Chinita girl. Hehehe. So your father is Chinese or your mother?
Mother side. But not pure chinese na.. hehehe. Mga 75% nlng. Lolo is pure chinese then lola is half.. hahaha. Halo halo na..
Kaya pala chinita ka miss andi. Hehe. Kmusta phone mo?
Hahaha. Chinita24 tlg username ko madalas sa Yahoo messenger. Naabutan mo ba yun? Hahahaha. Yung phone ko, napaayos ko na. 500php. Huhuhu. Pero okay lang kesa bago. Wala akong pambili. Hahahaha
Familiar ako nun pero di ko nagamit. Hehe Ganon ba. Okay na yan basta gumagana pa. Hehe. Pero if masyado nang malaki ang expense sa pagpapaayos, invest ka nlng ng bago. 😉
In reality of life let the guys asked you out girls. It doesn’t matter in which generation where we will be. But let makes this a traditional status when it comes into dating. In the end of the day. Woman is a woman. Woman should be courted by a man with sincerity. It doesn’t matter what nationality is. Woman should be treasure like a precious gem. Man should be the one to do effort in every single way. On my Own opinion only. But whatever what you wants ladies. Its depends on you. The important things is you are comfortable and happy. And added to that you must take care of yourself. 😊
I couldn't agree more with what you said. Exactly my point. Women should be empowered and be treated like gems as you said. Then again, it's still up to the decision of the one who's asking first 😆
Hmmm.. because as what i see and learn on my 25th existence to the country of my father side. Its not allowed the woman to asked a guy to go out. That will be a big embarrassment and shame to the family. As i grew up as a moslem, i have seen so many forbidden specially when it comes to a man and woman. I am not a religious type of person. Because asking a guy to go out same as You are expressing your feelings towards to a man. Which is in our culture its not right. Its a big shame. Woman should be courted by a man. Until the woman said yes. And they will get married. But, there is an option to say no to a woman side” But anyhow, people in this generation have already change. So what ever the woman’s want and she is comfortable with it. She can do what she wants even to ask a guy to go out. 😊 the only thing is. She should take care of herself. 🙂 And know the limitations and never regret things.
I agree. I knew the responses of this article would be culture-based so it really differs from which culture you are in. Others may stick to their culture and others won't and explore new things.
Well i asked my guy out and actually did a bit of the courting for a while 😂 i think i still do sometimes but then he said he liked the kind of girl i am, not because I'm aggressive but because i know what i want and he thinks girls should also know what they want so that it wouldn't be a maze for guys
Haha. I agree with what you said about the maze part. My man is always frustrated whenever I get mad at him for he thinks of no reason. I had my reason, he just couldn't get it. He always says that guys are not mind readers. Why don't we switch positions? 😆
Same same but then he realizes why i get mad after some time since half the time, it's the same cause anyways. I still don't like the fact that he still talks to his ex even if wala na though he doesn't stop because well, they're friends. Still hate it though.
I can relate to them causing the same mistake over again. It annoys me and it's tiring to dwell on the same issue again right. Woooa, that concerns me too. What things do they talk about? Do they talk frequently?
Yeah so half the time you just end up letting them be. As long as it doesn't damage the relationship and that you trust him, right? Dunno. Game stuff mostly since i don't have the time to play anymore but i still know about the games he talks about, i just can't play right now. Plus about their old friends
Yup. As long as it doesn't ruin the relationship and just trust him. But still, you can't help to think about the things they talk about. What if they go deeper and you don't have any clue about it. Anything can happen though. On a lighter side, we just have to trust them. They know for themselves what's at stake when they cross the line. They're matured enough to think about the possible consequences ☺
Well I've been assured countless of times and the ex is already dating someone again, much longer then i and him have so i think it's fine at times, just not when there's tagging on soc med walls involved because it's a bit of a mood killer for me when i see those
It really is. It feels like there is still a special connection.
Well they've known each other since junior high, what else is there to do. I've only known him for 2 years but i don't want to pry into it more. They did lose contact after so many years, after all
Oh, that's the thing. Well, it's part of their history, and we can't change it so might as well focus on the present and nurture it for the future ☺
Ahm for me,Im kinda conservative so I havent tried ever since asking the guy I like first..But I dont think its wrong for a girl to ask first the guy for a date as long as shes really sincere with it and not just a flirty thing..haha..
Exactly. Besides, we are entitled with our own decisions. However, like I said above, people behave as to how their culture influence them. So it's still an issue 😅
True.There are culture also that require the girl to choose a boy and propose a marriage.
Yup. Chinese traditions are first fo mention. By the way, thanks for the upvote. Hihi 🤭
Your welcome. You deserve it and I want to read more of your articles,hehe,sounds demanding,but really I enjoyed reading your articles..
Yay! Kinikilig ako. Hahaha. Will keep writing more ma'am. I hope to read more of your articles as well 🤭
Un lang I am somewhat uncomfortable to be called "maam"..haha..sis or chelou is preferable..hehe..As for me I was really drain for the whole day so just enjoying myself reading interesting content here.😉
Oops, sorry. That was a wrong move. Hihi 🤭 Ya, I can relate too. There are days where my mind is too exhausted to function. It needs time to recharge. 😉
looking forward to more stronger years for both of you... well, you said it all. some are torpe and if a girl is also shy to initiate the first move then nothing..it's true that some will feel less of a man.. hey men,I think you should answer this to let ladies know about this matter
Haha. I like that you called the attention of the guys out there. 🤭 Thank you for the wishes of our relationship. I wish the same to you too.
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