You do not value yourself. *If you do not value yourself enough, perhaps it is because you do not know the negative consequences of this exercise of injustice, in which you yourself are the appraiser and party. Remember that the consequences of undervaluing yourself are not only paid for by you. All the people around you, starting with your children, partner, relatives, friends and colleagues, will suffer from your lack of self-esteem. Thus, the fact that you do not value…
Living in the country. *The decision to live in the countryside has great advantages, but it is not suitable for everyone. At least a decade ago, the idea of living in the countryside began to gain strength. The reasons are many, but the pollution of the big cities, as well as the speed in the pace of life and the stress that this entails, weigh quite a lot. In the first quarter of 2020 it also became clear that living in a rural environment, with low population density, is…
Sunday afternoons. *The anguish of Sunday afternoon is due to the fact that we get back in touch with our obligations after the weekend. This is a sufficiently widespread phenomenon to talk about it. It is an inner uneasiness that usually occurs on Sunday afternoons and evenings. Those who experience it feel restlessness, sadness, nostalgia, sometimes a very annoying feeling of emptiness. And they cannot explain why. It marks the transition between the week that ends and the…
People who get more excited than others. *There are those who are moved by nothing and then there are those who seem to be empty and do not react to any situation. Some people are as cold as the deepest part of the Arctic Ocean. On the other hand, others are as sensitive as a soap bubble, so emotional that any event awakens in them an overflowing feeling. The truth is that there is so much variability in feeling and expressing emotions that the subject is fascinating. The…
Job layoffs. *Most of us have experienced a job layoff. It is not a pleasant experience for anyone, even if we do not love the conditions of our job. Although this is our daily bread, it is still a frustrating situation that, depending on the circumstances, can even have a great emotional impact on the person. Job dismissal implies a rejection, a signaling and a step towards uncertainty. Rejection because it implies exclusion from the workplace and from what it symbolically…
Assertive indifference. *Assertive indifference is a novel expression that began to be used in the field of couple relationships. However, little by little the concept has been used in other fields, proving to be an interesting idea to manage different situations. Assertive indifference is defined as a behavior that voluntarily blocks any type of external reaction to a given stimulus. As if it did not matter or did not affect in any way. It is a simulated behavior. The…
If you are disrespected. *If you are disrespected, set limits and protect yourself from aggressions (direct or indirect). We have not come to this world to endure aggressions (however veiled they may be), and even less so when we have done nothing to deserve them. We cannot control everyone's behavior, but we can learn to establish limits and consequences when someone crosses them. We have come to normalize disrespect as something that is part, above all, of power…
Time puts everyone in their place. *We have heard thousands of times that "time puts everyone in their place". We may have even wished that this would happen, that life would give those people who do harm their due, or that it would reward us for doing things right. However, we cannot say that this is true or false, for the designs of destiny are beyond our understanding. What happens, in truth, is that this saying is misunderstood. We are neither vigilantes nor can we…
Collaboration. *Altruism and helping behaviors are topics that have been extensively studied in social psychology: discovering what prompts us to collaborate is key to developing strategies that help create a culture of empathy. It often happens that many people surround someone who needs help, but rarely does anyone step forward to do so. The teamwork attitude is sensitive to context, but also to individual inclinations. Let's look at them separately. Often it is the…
Without a family. *Living without a family is a violation if one is not prepared for it. But it is also an option that should not imply a painful isolation from the world. There is a segment of society that has been confronted with the reality of living without a family. And everything seems to indicate that this group tends to grow, for the future. It is a new family reality that is taking place all over the world. The reasons for this are many. Sometimes they are only…
Another perspective on loneliness. *It is common for loneliness to be identified as something negative and harmful. This is because it is usually associated with sadness and despair. However, loneliness has a positive and necessary side, which often goes unnoticed. We say a hidden face because of the negative shadow that exists around this concept. When we are with other people, we often focus our attention on their presence, on the conversations we have with them. In this…
Modern life. *The demands of modern life can cause damage to the brain and mental health. The pace and intensity of the demands on us in society shape the way we experience and live our existence. This new way of living is influenced by a multifaceted set of technological, scientific and economic changes. The impositions to which modernity subjects us increase cortisol (stress) levels in the body. Although stress is an adaptive response, when generated persistently and at…
Men's emotionality. *Men can be just as emotional as women. The problem lies in society, which penalizes them more for expressing feelings and showing their vulnerability. Sensitive, empathetic, vulnerable and even sentimental. Indeed, men are as emotional as women; however, for a long time it has been assumed that this territory was exclusive to the feminine. Emotions and their expressiveness were, until recently, an unmistakable symbol of weakness and even "hysteria".…
Perfectionism. *Perfectionists are relentless in their pursuit of success, even though nothing seems to them to be enough. Almost everything causes them dissatisfaction because their level of demand is excessive and even illusory, since they think they can always do better. This is the reason why not meeting every proposed objective ends up generating high levels of stress and exhaustion. When the routine becomes a long-distance race, the feeling of lack of time to reach the…
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