The Importance Of Overcoming Excessive Fear
Fear is a natural thing that happens to every human being. Whether it's fear when you want to take an exam, watch a horror movie, or be afraid of other things. Fear itself comes from ourselves. Fear can occur in two stages, namely a biochemical reaction and an emotional response. When afraid, some people give several signs such as excessive sweating, suddenly pale face, can't stay still, some even get out of control.
Biochemical reactions occur as in the case of being afraid to speak in public and also performing a major operation. While the emotional response, fear can occur such as panic, anxiety, and avoid something.
Whatever happens, excessive fear is not good. Therefore, there are several ways to overcome excessive fear, including:
Give time for the body to calm down
The first thing to do to avoid excessive fear is to find time for the body to calm down. Examples include taking a deep breath, drinking a sip of water, and also diverting the fear by leaning against a wall or listening to appropriate music.
Identify triggers for fear
Before we know how to overcome excessive fear, we must also investigate first why the fear occurs. That way you can control something that scares you or avoid it.
Build self-confidence
The next thing to do is build self-confidence. Although it seems difficult to do, we must develop it because one way to overcome excessive fear is to be more confident and believe that we ourselves are capable or able.
Think positive
Excessive fear can arise because of negative thoughts that suddenly appear. Therefore, to be able to eliminate fear, you also need to think positively. Assume that everything will be fine. Then it will make your fear less.
Don't hesitate to ask for help
As with other emotional states, fear can also help us identify problems. If indeed telling the closest person can't help, then don't hesitate to seek help from a professional expert such as a psychiatrist.
Avoid channeling your fear of cigarettes, drugs, liquor, and drugs
Many people overcome their fear by running to illegal goods such as drugs or alcohol. It is better to avoid it and replace it with a healthier pattern. Instead, try to be better at managing rest times and hours of sleep at night.
**Those are some ways to overcome excessive fear. Everything can be done if there is a will within ourselves and also we must believe that we are able to fight the fear that exists within us. Whatever the risk, fear is bound to happen to all humans. But excessive fear also should not continue to exist in us. Passion to fight fear!**
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Don't Be Inferior, Your Ability Is No Less Great Than Others
There is no such thing as a perfect human. Everyone has their own advantages and disadvantages. But sometimes you are too inferior for your own abilities. If other people have advantages, of course you have them too, right? It's just that sometimes you don't realize your strengths. If you haven't found the advantages within yourself, never stop looking and keep trying. Here are some ways for you to discover your hidden abilities.
**Focus on Yourself**
Well, self-ability can only be recognized by yourself. So from now on you need to focus on yourself. Identify the things you like and don't like, from socializing to work and everything in your daily life.
**Stop Comparing Yourself to Others**
Everyone has different abilities that you can't compare, so stop comparing your abilities with others. Especially when you compare your success with others. You need to remember that success requires a process.
**Hang out in a healthy environment**
In order not to feel inferior and underestimated, you must choose a positive environment. One of them is to be surrounded by people who support you. Well, with many people who support you, you will be able to move confidently and your abilities can develop.
**Effort and Prayer**
One of the most important things is effort accompanied by prayer. Trust me, no effort is wasted. And don't forget to include a prayer with good intentions in your every effort. Next is surrender, but willing to innovate to increase creativity so as not to be out of date. But don't be arrogant. Don't let your self-confidence make you arrogant.
**Don't get inspired easily**
You must have a strong determination so that you have confidence in your abilities. Be determined to prove that you can do it. Don't let anything and anyone incite you to give up.
***" Well, with some of these reviews, I hope you don't feel inferior anymore. Everyone has potential in him, it's just that sometimes they don't realize this. Let's get excited about your potential. "***
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Let's Learn Indifferent !
Today, it is not healthy for us to overuse our hearts. The reason is, the use of the heart that is ***"too or excessive"*** will only make the heart often hurt and the mind is overthinking.
We are indeed required to be sensitive to our surroundings, but there are still limits. For those who don't know, being ignorant is an attitude of ignorance. This is different from not caring. Ignorance here means not wanting to interfere with things that have nothing to do with oneself, while not caring is ignoring everything, including some things that concern oneself. For example, in terms of appearance. Some people really don't care about appearance, but it's for themselves.
Caring too much about words, happiness, dislikes, and what other people say will only require the heart to work harder. Caring too much about other people's lives that have nothing to do with you and thinking too much about what other people say will only prevent you from growing. After all, the life you live, you know better what to decide what is good for you.
Life is hard, don't make life difficult. You don't want to increase your fatigue, do you?
**5 ways to learn to be indifferent**
• Focus On Your Life
You must have a handle, your life is the captain. Don't go west, you go west, don't go east, you go east. It's not good for your life, set your own life goals.
You have to focus on your life, just ignore other people's lives. Mbok let every human life is different, the scenario that God gave to me must be different from the one that God gave to you. So, be cool and focus on your life.
• Don't get carried away easily
There are some things that we should take it easy and enjoy. Live with a great sense of humor to minimize emotions and hurt.
If someone criticizes us with insulting words that bring down, let's just say that person is a jerk who tries to be funny, but is dry. Think of all trivial things as a joke, focus on yourself.
• Be generous
Be calm and accept the situation. We are limited, some things we can't do. However, don't worry too much, try to be humble about some things that are beyond your control. Forcing all these things is not wise.
• Stop Commenting on Other People's Lives
You don't need to be a good netizen, comment on people's lives here and there. The more you are busy taking care of life and commenting on the lives of others, the more energy and emotion you devote to that person. What do you get? Tired. So, again, just focus on yourself.
• Be Yourself and Love Yourself
Just ignore all the things that are not profitable for you, ignore the things that are detrimental to you.
Be yourself, no matter what other people tell you, you are still valuable. So instead of trying to figure out how to get other people to like you, it's better to start by loving yourself.
I need to emphasize here, being indifferent and not caring is in a different context even though they are similar. Ignorance is more limiting yourself from things that are not your portion.
By the way, if you find a friend who is *"too"* indifferent, here are the tips that I have summarized from various sources:
**1. Just ask him to talk**
Ignorant people are sometimes just confused about how to interact, especially starting a conversation.
**2. Make them regret**
People who are too ignorant, don't be hostile, give them advice so that they feel regret.
**3. Ignore back**
If your friend is too cool even though you've tried to be friendly, ignore him back.
**" So, for now, let's learn to be indifferent. No matter what other people say to you, you are still valuable. So, instead of being busy looking for ways to get others to like you, it's better to start by loving yourself. So, for those of you who learn to be positive, good luck tips above and good luck! "**
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Avoid the Phubbing Habit
Phubbing is a term busy playing cellphones and ignoring the people in front of us, that's what happens, anti-social patterns. Stop phubbing if we are face to face or in a meeting. This is a new word and an anti-phubbing campaign is being held.
****STAY AWAY FROM PHUBBING****
Six years ago, in May 2012, linguists, sociologists, and humanists gathered at Sydney University (I got this info on google). The result of the meeting gave birth to a new word in English grammar. The word is phubbing. That is an act of someone who is busy alone with a gadget in his hand, so that he no longer pays attention to people who are nearby.
Because it has become a very common phenomenon, the world needs a special word to describe it. Now the word phubbing has officially been included in English dictionaries in various countries.
Until now, Indonesian does not have a loan word from this phubbing. Even though we ourselves often do phubbing. For example, when talking to a teller at a bank, our hands are playing with a gadget. I often see this and even I myself also do the same thing to reduce boredom while waiting.
When accompanying children to do schoolwork, once every one minute we glance at the cellphone screen in case there is an incoming notification.
At the moment of eating alone in a restaurant with his wife, which is happening now. The cellphone is placed as close as possible to our side and is able to interrupt any chat when there is a sound message from social media.
Yes. We have become true phubber.
**for information, PHUBBING = short for: PHONE and SNUBBING. created by Alex Haigh an Australian. In his research, he found the fact of ignoring others in society and family when they met.**
Everyone, let's fix ourselves. That doesn't mean we stop using HP, but at least reduce phubbing as much as possible. Respect the people around you. Do not let you be said to have no manners by the people around you. Do not let the cellphones that we buy with the sweat of our own efforts, actually separate us from friends, from friends, even separate us from relatives, parents, children and your husband or wife.
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Mental Block, An Activity Barrier
Mental blocks are walls that we imaginatively build in front of us, they are invisible, but in fact impenetrable when we try to get past them. such is the analogy.
Mental block is usually caused by parenting. The rest is due to past traumas that you have experienced. From parenting, for example, children are often prohibited from being intimidated, such as "never touch that thing" or "never go through that road" and others. As a result, the child is afraid to take risks when he grows up.
He already believes that new things are dangerous for him. If from trauma, for example, a child who was bullied by his teacher in class becomes lazy to deal with his lessons while studying in class. Or he was bullied by his friends for wearing new clothes, so he was more comfortable wearing old clothes. Buying new clothes, he keeps it for a long time before he wears it, something like that.
What I discussed in front of my friends while gathering at my house some time ago was about subconscious voices like the one above that we are rarely aware of. We think it's all normal. It turned out to be seen by other people so strange.
It is even worse if the habit disturbs the people around him, for example, he likes to remind him to eat healthy because he has received a "sermon" about healthy eating from his mother since he was a child. This mother lost her husband because of illness so she didn't want to lose her child. Be him like that.
then, how to see the characteristics of people who experience mental block? Well, mental block can be suspected from several attitudes that show self-sabotage or patterns of self-destruction. There are many and varied patterns of self-sabotage. I'll just take a few examples:
*• Likes to procrastinate*
*• Overthinking*
*• Likes to assume*
*• Likes to sleep*
*• Self protector*
*• Control freak*
*• Over indulgence*
*• Self critics*
*• Perfectionist*
Those are some of the various divisions of the characteristics of people who experience mental block written in various articles on the internet. You can look it up yourself on the internet for the explanation I have mentioned above. At least you can now see inside yourself, what inner voice is popping into your head and blocking your progress.
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