@Hanzell
My anxiety is at it again
You don't need to read this. I just need some place to let out my thoughts or I might actually do something reckless. I wanted to continue R.E.D. today, honestly but then today, it just felt like everything was so hopeless. My anxiety was at the highest it's been in months. I don't know what to do but to write it out because I don't want to ruin any body else's day. https://read.cash/@Hanzell/red-0131e5ce I guess that's always the case with anxiety no matter what degree. But today, it was too overwhelming. I am having a hard time functioning. Only pokemon helps me calm down, honestly. Maybe it's the only therapy that works for me now. I try to distract my thoughts by reading and commenting at random because in most cases, it does help but right now, nothing is helping. I can't get my thoughts off my goals. I want to adjust it to make it feasible but I still want to aim high. I want to reach my goal of 100$ in crypto monthly but having to pay for my sisters' tuitions, their house expenses and bills and my own dorm expenses which I've reduced so much just to make everything fit into whatever salary I get. It's suffocating. my salary can't even cover everything yet they can't bear to adjust their budget to allow me to breath. It makes me think back to when I was only appreciated at home because I make their lives easier because I do their share of chores just so they could focus on their studies. But then I keep thinking that maybe it was my fault that they have this strong, reliable projection of me when in reality, I'm this close to breaking. Then there's also the case with my previous balance from College and then my tuition for review school for this year's licensure exam. I still need to finish paying for those because the review center just mailed me and I have a deadline of until the 28th to pay for almost 8,000 PhP or some 160USD. I have no idea how to do this. Been thinking of actually using up all the BCH I've been hodling (It's only at 0.1 rn because I've only been using what I get from noise.cash and I've just been swapping and unswapping from there) but then I want to save up 1BCH too at least before the first quarter. Because I've been seeing all you guys hustling so hard to make that happen while I'm still clueless on how to make it there. I don't think I can ever tell these concerns to my family because the last time I ever voiced out my concerns, I was shocked to hear that "This is why nobody likes talking or discussing with you. You always sound so irritated and so negative. You're already contradicting when we haven't even tried it yet" Yes, I'm pessimistic because I'm way too much a realist. If I know it will backfire then It most probably will. And it does then they blame me for not stopping them. I honestly don't know any way around anything. There's also that job interview for the company I applied for. They rejected my application so I'm just left to extend my stay at my current company. I'm going to be forced to stay in that dorm. Alone this time, without my best friend. Alone to my thoughts. Maybe alone to pay such high dorm rentals as well. And this time I might actually collapse from overwork. The ridiculous backlog, the unreasonable overtimes. The horrible pay. The lack of benefits. Sure it keeps my brain busy, away from my anxious thoughts and from thinking back on my now ex. But then nothing keeps me happy anymore except my dogs. 2021 has been out to get me. It feels like this year is just constantly trying to find ways to push me to the edge. I don't know anymore, honestly. Anyways, if you managed to reach this far then thank you for reading. I hope it didn't ruin your mood. And if I could ask for help too.
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I read it all my dear, as always. I think you are going through a very bad situation. And I know that when bad things come they all seem to group together to come together. I don't know how you can get out of everything without the support of your family. I don't think you'll be the last to do it. Women are fighters. I hope you get what you are looking for. I also went through all that at your age and even at my age I don't get financial stability. I only live with what I earn in read.cash. At some point I will be able to work and I will be able to save too.
I think you understood it wrong. The family is the one who causes the problems. They have to start making an income themselves and be happy with the help she gives them instead of back stabbing her.
Yes, you may have misunderstood. But I mean his depression. How will you overcome the depressive crisis without the help of your family? that's what I mean. The problem of the dependence of the family on her that is easy to solve. She's smart. If you want to become independent, you can do it. She is the only one who knows if she wants to do it or not.
I agree it is up to her to let go of her family and be independent. Otherwise the depressions, stress, and anxiety will remain. She has to work on her own wellbeing and health first. 👍🍀
Yes, she must work hard to achieve her independence because she also gets depressed when she is away from the family. Neither with her nor without her. It's a bit confusing.
It's confusing if family only likes you if you pay their bills, if no one cares about your feelings ☹
It'll be alright in time. *pats your back* Life can get really shitty sometimes, but I know you can overcome them. You write good, you work hard, you care enough for people. That's what matters most, pessimism can be a bummer sometimes, but don't get too caught up on it or else you'd fall hard. It's better to think that you're still fighting despite the odds. Feeling irrelevant? Heck, you've got a lot of readers and supporters and you couldn't make it if you're not that good. Reach for the stars Zelle, kaya mo yan. Fightttt.
Where's your best friend pala? Heck, you have so much on your plate already. 🥺💔
Hays , kaybigat Naman. Each of us has silents screams in our heads.
Okay lang po yan. The best has yet to come
Oh no, natanggap mo na result about sa job interview mo. But why naman rejected, pero okay lang yan baka sa mas better kapa mapupunta, apply kalang ulit laban yan. Sana malampasan mo lahat to, wag mo na masyado pakaisipin, nakakabuang ang mag isip ng mag isip. Kayanin mo and don't think too much, fighting 💪😚
If I lived around the corner I would solve this problem with your family for once and for all. I am sorry to say this but, yes I am a realist too, this has to stop and your family has to learn to take care of themselves. Priorities are what this is about and you have to set them. Here we go. Make a budget for what you need for yourself this includes your dorm, food, drinks, fees, clothes, glasses, etc and savings. No matter if it is $ or something else. If there is something left you can decide to give it to your ungrateful, greedy family. Indeed ungrateful they are! They should be ashamed to ask you for money. It should be the other way round. Your parents should give you money, help you with your rent and give you a great start in your life, your future. If they are not happy with the tip you offer them make a loan out of it or better give them nothing! If you can work, find ways they all can too. They are not your responsibility. So do not let them drive you crazy and stay away if they don't treat you normal, with respect and are thankful for what you are willing to give to them. Do not save food out of your mouth for them. It's easy to live on someone else's wallet and manipulate which is what they do. They manipulate you! I hope you somehow manage and will not believe the nonsense they tell you. There's a huge difference between realism and negativity. What is not possible isn't possible. They have to change their lifestyle, attitude and budget. Take care of yourself first. If you break down, leave or die they have to find a solution themselves too and I bet they will find it within 5 minutes. Take care, I know we live in different times but if you like to email or chat let me know. Your are not alone. 💕 💕🍫