@Glez 27 June 2021 edited more from that month

There is so much more with Chocolates, Flowers and Sweet Nothings Admit it or not, one of your greatest dreams is to have someone by your side who will be your other half of everything in life. I am not into men because I am focused on studying. I was a breadwinner. As I got old started to dream of becoming a wife. With that, I tried to make my first relationship work. Still, it did not end up the way I want it. I was then hesitant to love again then God brought me another person to love.

I kept on comparing our relationship to those I thought a perfect one in Social Media. I have these friends on Facebook who always shows off the gift they received from their husband or boyfriend and for once I asked myself why is he not like this to me? So I started to ask him to give me flowers, chocolates, gifts. The first flower he gave me was a pot of Roses. I was disappointed. I asked for a bouquet and you are giving me these roses in a pot? What the hell?! These are the words that I told him. I want to experience walking on the road bringing a bouquet and chocolate. For some reason it makes me feel happy. He just laughed at me and said, well that is way better than a bouquet because if you water it you can have more than just a bouquet. But I was too disappointed to understand. Good thing though he paired it with chocolates, it made me feel better. I believe, when you want a healthy relationship you have to be transparent and communicate well with your partner. I was thinking that he has to know my "Love Language".

*This is the Rose when I watered it well. He gave me a rose in a pot with one flower and I was able to take care of it as it blooms with so many flowers. Sadly, that plant is dead already since I transferred it to a different part of our backyard and it was not able to survive with the effect of direct sunlight.* Remember my first profile picture both in noise and read?

*This was my first ever photo here. Even in Facebook this is my cover photo. It has sentimental value to me.* I was the type of person who wants to give letters, poems and take pictures or memories as many as possible as I know that life is short. I want to bring out the best in me to the person I love. Yes, I love like those previous generations that is my love language and I want it that way.

On the contrary, my partner is not much of a showy type but I realized how much he loves me when I got hospitalized because of pneumonia. He stayed with me in the hospital despite the need to travel 1-2 hours from his hometown. He took care of me while my mom was busy asking for help so we can pay the hospital bill because my insurance did not fully cover it. The Doctor even tried to joke him that he has to be checked because I might be positive for Tuberculosis and since we are in a relationship for sure he would also be positive since he is so sure that we kissed. (LOL!) I took that seriously because I know that can be true but he just shrugs it off.

Then, when I announced that I was pregnant with our first baby he sacrificed for me. He was excited too and at those times I was always sick and absent from work. It ends up that I could only get around $40 to $50 for 15 days cut off because I was absent and I already consumed all my sick leaves and vacation leaves. I was thinking he might leave me but he did not, even those times when we got nothing to eat. Those times when I was too toxic and had so much burden on my shoulders he became my shoulder to cry on. Unfortunately, at that time he had a hard time finding a new job because his contract just ended. He was a sales clerk and competition was too high by this time.

What he did way back is he would look for any Dota or ML Tournament then he would do his best to win. He won a couple of times and the money he earned was used to buy my milk, laboratory fees and check ups. Here's my eldest when she was just some months old:

...end thoughts... We are running 10 years in relationship not Married just yet but living with 2 bundles of joy. He is getting matured in every situation we encounter and I am silently proud of him. We just really have to understand our partners and try to negotiate. For now, we date especially during paydays. We also just lay down in bed silently and just cuddle. He knew I needed that.