Focus to be successful
In life, we all have the focus to be happy and successful in the future and we're working towards it.
Even with our focus and determination, many of us are still holding onto those negative feelings that it's not possible.
Although, along the way, our life gets complicated and confusing So, so what do we do to make us feel better and remain focused? That's where this article comes in to know the real facts on what can make you remain focused.
Dream it
Shut off negative thoughts
Take risks
Schedule your time
Maintain positive relationships.
**Dream it and live in it**
Having a definite dream will help remain focused. Create an image of your dream and imagine yourself living in it. You're the only one who has access to your imagination, so be free. This will trigger the feelings for you to be focused.
I can remember when I was a kid, I always dreamt of becoming a successful entrepreneur and a woman with a happy family. I was already living in my imagination. I had given birth to two kids in my imagination😂. Remember,the only thing that stands between you and your dreams is the will to try and your belief that it's possible. You must be able to visualize yourself reaching success. Nevertheless, do not live for your dream if it isn't worth it. Keep dreaming!
**Shut off negative thoughts**
Every human has that imposter syndrome- a little voice inside our hearts that tells us we can't do it and makes us think less of ourselves. Always avoid negative thoughts as much as you can. Those negative thoughts would make you think of yourself as a failure even when you haven't done anything. Be positive.
**Take risks**
Many people are scared to take risks. Try new things if you want to be successful. For instance, how would you know you're allergic to Mayonnaise if you didn't eat it or how would you know you're a good artist when you haven't even tried drawing? Do not be afraid and just think of the worst that would happen. Don't worry about failures, worry about chances you miss when you do not even try at all. Life is all about risks; You'll never know until you try!
**Schedule your time**
The time they say waits for no man. Set time for yourself. You should know there's no room to delay what has to be done. You should keep to your schedules and follow them perfectly.
Avoid procrastination by all means; do not procrastinate, it's destructive. Make sure you do all your schedules for a day and give yourself a sense of accomplishment.
**Maintain positive relationship**
Maintain positive relationships with people who can help your dreams. Do not be scared to stand for what you believe in even if you're standing alone. Make friends with people who know more about your goals and learn from them
In conclusion, be happy. You'll certainly encounter a lot of challenges, do not be scared. You'll overcome it if you're focused and determined.
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My first experience of betrayal
Coming down memory lane, I decided to share with you one of my experiences with 'my best friend'. I mentioned in my introductory post how I'm being careful when making friends. This is one of the periods in my life when I was backstabbed and betrayed by my best friend
It was during one of our mid-term breaks when my family decided to relocate from my hometown to a nearby city. I was upset. How would I cope in this new environment?! I don't even have any friends! I cried.
We relocated to the city a week later and fortunately for me, I made a friend that same week. Her name is Alice. We became very close since we live on the same street and we attend the same school. We became best friends and always did our things together.
Then, it happened we were both chosen for an interschool debate competition club in my class. The educator assigned us to come up with concrete points relating to the topic given and submit them the following week. I read all day and night over this assignment.
During that week, my friend got very ill and couldn't come to class. When my friend resumed back to school, the assignment has already been submitted and the educator, who had known we were friends, told Alice, my best friend, to copy my notes, knowing that I paid a lot of interest in class and had lots of notes that she would be able to shortly turn into an assignment.
Alice copied my notes that day and ran to me the following day, saying she could not turn them into an assignment for herself because they were in full paragraphs and she asked for my assistance to compose the assignment together.
I was young and naive. I felt sad for her and wanted to help my 'best friend' so I reconstructed all of the paragraphs and illustrated to her how to substitute the sentences so that they would not look the same as mine. I told her not to submit it that way, and that she should rewrite some words to suit her knowledge and her language. She submitted the assignment the following morning.
The results came out, I had 75% and she had 95%. I was baffled because she didn't attend the classes and had only gotten the knowledge from my notes
I was curious and went to inquire about her assignment. The educator showed me her work. It was all the work I had done when I was in her place that day and she did not rewrite it at all, not even a word as she assured me she would. She delivered the assignment and took the prestige for my struggle and she even got higher rates than me for it.
The hurtful part of it is when I confronted her about the assignment without her knowing I had seen her assignment. She didn't deny it! She even told me it was all competition. I was shocked. It hurt me that my best friend lied to me. I had never felt so betrayed by someone so intimate as I did at that instant. She stayed away from me and we became strangers.
It was at that moment I started asking myself, " is this what friendship is like?" "Does friendship even exist?" Many questions were growing in my mind.
Then I realized that Alice and I were not friends. We just became friends because I was lonely and she was too. I did a lot of research after and realized that I need to be careful of who I allow into my life
However, I learned from this experience that some friends are just in your life because of some benefits they get from you. You must not allow anyone into your life if you do not share the same values and morals. Lastly, do not give many chances because the more forgiving you are, the more the chances of betrayals. Do not stay in toxic friendships, walk away and free your mind.
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Beauty is a value; you're beautiful just the way you are
You're beautiful! Yes, you are.
We're in an era where beauty is defined based on physical appearances and facial features, which makes you feel inferior but I'm glad to tell you that these qualities are not beauty.
I could remember growing up as a teen when I was always intimidated by peers. I always felt like the least beautiful, so I put more focus on my physical appearance. Then, it all became a competition.
I always wanted to appear as the most beautiful so I lost focus on other important things. I spent all my savings on purchasing many beauty products but in the end, I still didn't have the satisfaction that I am beautiful enough.
It was at that moment I realized that beauty is not defined by physical appearances, rather it is something that lies in one's eyes, heart, soul, and mind. "What is beauty?" I asked myself🤔
Beauty is a value; a positive intrinsic value. Beauty is not a perception of a matter of fact or relation, it is rather an emotion and affection of our appreciative nature. Beauty means feeling comfortable in your skin and appreciating your imperfections. Beauty is feeling good about yourself regardless of makeup or nice clothes. It is just about being confident about yourself.
Your outer beauty will only make you feel insecure and uncertain but your inner beauty makes you confident, strong, and feel invincible. I was only concerned about my outer beauty, which was why I still wasn't satisfied with my appearance. I was feeling insecure because I only tend to my physical appearance. You can be beautiful inside and out; your personality can shine through and be just as beautiful as your outside looks.
"Beauty is in the heart of the beholder", they say; These days, many of us ladies have been intimidated to feel that we need to wear the trending 'designers' outfits to look beautiful. We are desperate to do anything, even if it's illegal, just to 'belong'. We believe we are not beautiful without these trending outfits and we go the extra mile just to please others than even ourselves. You should know that you will never be comfortable and confident when you dress to please others, you will only want to satisfy them and their opinions will be your major concern.
Some ladies even dress indecently just to gain the attention of the opposite sex and just to be appreciated and complimented. Some are influenced by peer pressure, like I was, while some are influenced by society and social media; they try to imitate the indecent dressings of some celebrities they see on the net.
Naturally, I believe every lady is endowed with beauty but some are not just confident enough to flaunt it. They lack the confidence to flaunt their natural beauty and become obsessed with makeup. I believe that real beauty is to be true to oneself and also, personal beauty is a greater compliment than any other reference. You should always have the belief that you're beautiful and any other opinion does not matter. Do not be intimidated, you're beautiful just the way you are!
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Story of a pregnant teenager
Good morning awesome writers. After introducing myself last night, I decided to share a thought with you. I was fully awake last night due to some thoughts running through my mind. I could remember growing up as a kid when I was clueless about what life entails but now as an adult, I already have a bit of knowledge about life.
I grew up in an environment where teenage pregnancy is very rampant and many questions have always been on my mind; ' why and what are the causes of this?' This leads to the story of a childhood friend of mine, Sarah.
Some years back, when she was 13, Sarah started selling things by the road to help her mother out at home. There she met a 32-year-old man who proposed to take care of her and help her with academy allowances. Sarah turned out pregnant.
What happened to her was all about monetary problems. She lacked money. Her school didn’t charge any fees, but there were manuals they would ask her to buy that were compulsory. She has always been very promising and decent. She was even more outstanding than her elder sister during the school year. But things were very tough.
Her father died in 2010, so her mum has been toiling for a while. It troubled her when she asked for money and she said she doesn’t have any. She was suffering to get the money.
So she thought, "maybe I can also find a means to get the money I need". She met this man while selling things on the side of the road. But it didn't feel right.
She started falling sick some weeks later. Her mum took her to the hospital where she took different tests and she was discovered pregnant. She felt her world collapse, her mother was disappointed.
Her mother furiously threw her out into the cold and dangerous street. Sarah became helpless and homeless; she was wandering around the street till she met a good Samaritan who accommodated and fed her for a few days before pleading with her mum to accept her back.
She informed the man who got her pregnant, and he was helping with the costs, but her mum was doing a police trial and he was frightened and ran away. And so they have forgotten about him.
Sarah's not a timid type; she doesn't mind what people say. She commenced back at school almost five months after giving birth. She even sometimes brings her mates to the house when she's coming to breastfeed her baby during the break. Though it has changed many of her plans, she's very happy to be back at school.
I think she's one of the few ones in my community who has given birth and gone back to school and she believes in becoming a civil engineer.
Every circumstance passed through in life is temporary, God can turn around any situation. You're not a failure when you fail, you become a failure when you're relaxed in your failure, do not give up on yourself.
Having a child so young is difficult because you have a lot of stereotypes that judge you no matter what. So why not just make the right decision for you and your child? Try by all means to avoid falling pregnant so young obviously, but if it happens remember there is always help out there, and it is not the end of the world.
I hope you enjoyed the story
Thanks for reading❤❤❤
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Self introduction; introduction of myself
Good evening everyone. How are you today? How was your day? Hope you had a wonderful one. It feels so good to be here.
My name is Elizabeth. I am from Nigeria. I'm 20 years old. I'm a writer and I've been in love with writing since I was a kid. It all started with reading storybooks till I started writing stories and articles. I gra
I'm studying in Nigeria and I hope to meet awesome writers here. I have a lot of hobbies. Weird, right? Yeah, I love doing a lot of things.
What I love doing
I love reading novels, articles, and books. I love writing articles, stories, life experiences, and so on. I've written some stories and articles which I will share with you all.
I love making friends even though I'm a shy and quiet person and I hope I make new friends here.
I love fashion, especially hair styling. Hair styling is another skill I learned and I love it. I make wigs at my leisure.
I love cooking a lot. It's one of the reasons I chose to be a food scientist. It's always been my desire to know how to prepare all Nigerian foods and some continental food. I love learning new recipes, the feeling is thrilling 😍
I love watching movies; I love watching movies at a quiet time. I'm a real fan of Korean drama, Indians, and Hollywood. Funnily, movies are like my sleeping dose😃. I sleep off while watching movies.
I love music; music has been my best friend since I was little. That explains why I became a chorister at an early age. I listen to music every day, it helps me cool my mind.
What I dislike
I dislike betrayal; Though I love making friends, I'm always careful while at it. Yeah, I always remember the saying; 'once bitten, twice shy, you're curious, right? It's part of my experiences which I will gladly share with you
I dislike dark places; due to what I experienced, I hate being in the dark. It's creepy and scary.
How I got to know about read. cash
A friend, who's a writer told me about this platform. since I'm also a writer, she felt it will be amazing to be part of this platform. I'm glad to be part of this platform as it has been helpful.
What I have learned from this platform
I've learned a lot from this platform; I've learned more about how to write articles, I've learned how to interact with my fellow writers and readers and I've learned to make positive impacts on my readers through my stories and articles.
What I must do and mustn't do
So far, I've learned the most dos and don'ts of this platform: I must like and comment on other writers' articles and stories. I must subscribe to other writers' pages. I must be committed to posting a minimum of 600 words daily.
I must not make any post that is against the platform policy. I'm looking forward to meeting amazing writers here
I hope I am welcome here lovelies.
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Thanks for reading ❤.
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