Ideal Couple: The Kramer
If you are a Filipino you would never miss this couple who eventually got a family of their own and is a role model of every parents out there.
Yes, they might not be someone who starts from rags to riches nor a simple type of family since for one they are celebrities but how they manage their household, relationship, differences and how they discipline their kids are way different.
Meet *Chesca Kramer*
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I love her as a mom. Though I am not really an avid fan but whenever I watch their video I could see how she respect her husband. There was one video I watched where she and her husband discussed about how they discipline their kids. It is nice that they get to find time to talk about things, decision to make and that one looks to the other half as their equal. Other couples often have a quarrel because either the husband or the wife is trying to play being authoritative in the household then the kids starts to witness the never ending conflict between their parents. Despite being a celebrity she is also a hands on mom to her kids. I watched another video from ther YT channel when their eldest was trying to show their closet and she was telling the audience that her mom is the one who piles up her clothes and arrange her things.
Here's *Doug Kramer*
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One of the best thing a woman can have is a husband who sees through her, who understands and respect her. This man here is one example.
He treats Chesca like an equal and would always listen to what she says and analyze things out with her. He also do his best to be a good provider.
Admit it or not it is seldom now a days to find someone like him, being handsome and well built is a bonus of course, but other than that a good man is hard to catch. Some of those men I knew would rather enjoy wasting his wife's money through vices than helping her.
Such an ideal couple to behold! For sure it is everyones dream. But always remember dear readers, before you look for someone right for you be "right for someone" first.
What I am saying is make sure to do good and have goals in life. Do not pray and do nothing because it won't be like magic. I also believe that one's both partners work together they can make such a wonderful kids or family.
Before I end my article, my dear BCH community I also would like to share that Team Kramer is into NFT. kindly click the link below for more details: Team Kramer Office Facebook https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=559288685555127&id=100044220020251
Yey! Another article completed. Do you also look up to them?
I really do! ♡
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`Article: XIII as of 05.30.2022`
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I Learned the Hard Way
I was scrolling Facebook when I saw my cousins post.
See below:
*I learned the value of money when our family lost our business. I learned the value of time when my furry best friend died. I learned the value of forgiveness when someone who is once dear to me died without knowing I forgave him. I learned the value of accountability when I almost get expelled but someone took the responsibility to make it possible for me to graduate in grade school. I learned the value of honesty when I lied and someone got hurt badly when she found out I lied to her. I learned the value of integrity when I speak up and someone tried to offer something to make me shut up, and I was able to refuse it, despite with the fact that the offer cost a fortune. I learned the value of my dreams when me and my best friend dream together but the odds was not even and I ended up alone fighting for our dreams.*
*Learning sometimes cost heartbreaks and breakdowns.*
*To that person who yelled at me telling me that I am lucky for having this and that, you only know me by what you see. If you can go inside my mind you'll break your own soul.*
It made me think about life, my past experiences, my learnings and so as the current struggles that I am encountering. Then I realized that each struggle comes with learnings and as you go along despite learning the hard way it is still best to have something charged to experience so that you will not stumble upon the same mistake of struggle in the future or say if you do then you would know what to preprare and expect.
Life for me is a day to day battle of survival but despite all the hardships I cannot deny the fact that it molded me to who I am right now.
I have learned to be kind because I know what it feels to treated badly.
I have learned to be gentle because I know how it feels when you got stabbed by hurtful words.
I have learned to give because I know how it feels to have nothing or no one to turn to in times of need.
I have learned to love myself because I know how it felt when I gave my all to someone who just ditched me for someone he just met.
I have learned to value money because I lack of it.
I have learned to value food because I experienced sleeping just to get off from the feeling of being starved.
I have learned to value the people around me because I lost some people but failed to show them my love, life is short.
I have learned to value sleep because now that I have started working I get to have less or at times I lack of it.
I learned to appreciate little things in life because I know how it feels not to be appreciated at all with the sacrifices I have done.
There is so much life has to offer and learnings to unlock. Just hold tight!
`Article : XII as of 05.27.22`
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Visayan Electric Company: What is going on?
Maybe not a lot of you might have known this, but I am a Filipina, a Cebuana to be specific.
Recently in my noise account I posted how worried I was because of our electric bill. Visayan Electric Company is our provider and is the only provider in Cebu City.
Our balance went up to Php 8000 or $160.
I was so worried so after my shift I directly went to one of our electric provider's service center. I was so shocked when I got there as there were quite a number of peope who stand in line considering that it was too early.
Since our place was hit by Typhoon last December 16 we did not have any electricity up until January of the last week. I was able to make up for my pending balance from November and here's the starting balance from February and March which is amounting to Php 2,587 or $51.74.
For me it is justifiable since this is for 2 months. We normally pay Php 1500 or Php 1800 more or less than these estimated amount per month but to be honest way before pandemic this is even way higher, when pandemic hit VECO increased our charges too. But we do not have any choice but just to pay because I was working from home and now they are doing it again.
Going back, getting such a high amount for 2 months well I just accepted it since we got electricity is February pass cut off. Do I have any choice? Does a lowly consumer have a choice?
But what is weird is come April and May if you check it is almost the same as MARCH bill which is actually combined for 2 months already!
It seems that there was no single changes on our bill at all for the next months and our usage is less or almost the same since the previous months.
I talked to different individual there and one customer mentioned that her normal bill is Php 400 but for 2 months now she is billed for Php 41000! Imagine that?! Php 41000 is $820! Compared to Php 400 which is only $4 in a month. Wew!
She is advised to just pay her usual bill though but of course she wanted to make sure this is not gonna happen on the third month because she is afraid that her electricity will be disconnected! Who would want to suffer with no electricity? Plus the fact that this is a monopoly where no other company operates here in Cebu City that could give us electricity.
Another scenario, I spoke to another customer and she said her bill went x2 this month and she wanted to complain because there was no changes on their usage at all!
What the teller advised her is that they have to hire an accredited electrician to look for any defect on the connection. Imagine?! They would ask the customer to freaking pay for someone in order to check their electricity line when it should be their responsobility to do so!
I have talked to a few individuals and a lot of them has the same complain. Other customers there even got their electricity disconnected.
Then whenever that you cannot pay the whole amount, VECO would just advice you to enroll in PAYMENT ARRANGEMENT. Even if it hurts to do so because I really feel like I should not but for the sake of my family I paid Php 3000 of our bill and then enrolled our account to payment arrangement. Surely on the next bill we will have 2500-2700 again. It will not decrease at all even if we do not use our appliances because we have already experienced it twice. We went to the province and brought the computer with me for almost 2 months. So the only thing that consumed electricity was our lamps. Unfortunately come our electric bill we are still advised to pay the same amount.
Small time consumers are very unfortunate. This is one of those times when I feel that it is not easy to suffer poverty much more because we have these companies who would take advantage.
Some complaints I saw on Facebook:
`Article: XI as of 05.24.22`
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What is your "what if" in Life?
As I was strolling around I observed different people. If you are from cebu you would see different individuals and a lot of people strolling. At times you might feel envious seeing people carrying bags of groceries, shopping bags or even appliances while waiting for a bus or jeepney.
From then I thought a lot of my what ifs.
What if:
I am famous- what would be my life if I am known? It could feel great to just pose and let people use your pretty face for their brands. I heard that endorsers especially famous personalities would earn millions. How nice, isn't?
I am rich-sometimes I get to imagine my mom confessing me that we are actually rich and I am a daughter of some rich man. Like all the struggles I have been through were hoax to challenge me before I handle our chains of businesses. Then I would laugh myself at those silly thoughts. But really, how does it feel to be born with a silver or golden platter?
I am a fairy - or some sort of someone who can do magic. Someone who can get everything in a snap. Like I was thinking, what if I am a daughter of a King and Queen in a magical land. Then one day they would come and get me to sit on the throne then tell me I am the most powerful being. Like they were force to throw me in the mortal world because of some life threatening events. Isn't this a great plot for a story? Encantadia feels, yeah?
I am a daughter of a Prince or King-I have read somewhere that there is this woman who just found out she is a daughter of a King because her Mom had a relationship with someone for a short period of time and later did she realize that the guy is from a royal family. Then the King himself would look for me to give me my title and whatever belongs to me. That would be a great thing for my daughters! Like they would need not to experience what I have gone through because of poverty.
I am talented-like I know on the first one I mentioned about being famous but I kinda think of myself performing on a certain stage dancing or singing. I would have loved to perform my heart out for the people who supports me.
At the end of the day, I am just a normal being having only these what ifs, what if these will be true?
Right after I snap on the reality I would still have to continue living the usual. Life is nothing but struggles so sometimes I would live on my imagination just to make me feel numb for a little while.
I got a lot of things in mind and a lot of what ifs but that is just it because I still know what is the boundary of real and fiction.
`Article: X as of 5.20.22`
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Womanity
For me, being a woman is the most painful role in the world. Why?
As a woman, you have to deal with different changes in life that sometimes may be dictated by the people around you trying to be superior just because they think you are not capable of deciding for yourself.
In early 90's even before and after colonization, it has always been a norm to give privilege to men than women for a reason that they are the one who would have to look for a job to feed for the family while a woman needs to stay at home to do the household chores and take care of the kids.
But for todays generation, women seek for equality. A lot of men today have lost the sense of chivalry and would just want to live a comfortable life letting a woman feed for him and do everything for him. Despite that, it is still a great thought that women are now given the opportunity to learn, work and grow even when they have their own family. It is also best that as a woman you get to earn for yourself without depending on your husband's salary so in case rainy days come you have something to use.
Women in nature is loving and sadly, if destined to meet such an absurb or lazy freak guy that might be the end of her.
It is hard to be a woman because we are too loving and caring plus the decisiom towards having a complete family alwahs lies on our shoulders. Either you turn a blind eye of your partner cheating just to make sure your kids would have someone who they can call Papa but it would be more painful when at the end the guy would choose the mistress.
Being a woman is never easy as society is so quick to judge you.
Whenever a woman cheats she will be tag as a whore, a wrecker, a maniac and the likes but when a man cheats it would be like a normal thing and some would even dare to tell you because he is a man and temptation is everywhere. The heck!
Being a woman has a lot of responsibilities. You have to give birth because if not people will start mocking at you like you have some kind of a disease.
Giving birth for one is very painful. The woman's feet is already on 6ft under but nobody cares because its a woman's duty to give birth.
Every woman deserves to be treated like a Princess the least thing you can do to your wife, sister or mom.
Hello there! ♡
Been a while since I last wrote an article. This idea just popped up at this 3:00 am so I just decided to let it flow. I was not in the mood to write anything for a couple of days and did not really push myself so my article won't be put into waste.
Belated Happy Mother's Day to all moms out there!! (●´з`)♡
`Article: IX as of 05.18.22`
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Malas Kaayo Ko sa Gugma (Unlucky with Love)
This article will be written through my own dialect. Doing this because I want to express my emotion through stating it in a certain language that I am confident and in such a way I can be at ease.
Malas kaayo ko sa gugma.
Sa una nga higayon nga ako nahigugma, cheater.
Kanang feeling nga, siya ra unta pero ni abot jud sa time nga napul.an siya nako ug nangita ug lain. Ang nakaapan ato niya, nasugod among panaglalis because he wants to have sex with me. Oo, ganahan siya kuhaon akoang pagkabirhen. Pero ako, gusto unta ko sa tukmang panahon na minyo na kami.
Toud man, wala jud ko mo sugot pero didto siya sa lain.
Sakit, pero wala koy mabuhat.
Sa ikaduha ug maoy akoa live in partner karon. Wala say plano para sa among kaugmaon. Nagduha na among anak pero wala pjuy storya ug magpakasal ba mi ug ang nakaapan tapulan na way sama, ang sakit manapat pajud sa amoang mga anak. Dili gani mo klaro ug atiman nako na kapoy sa trabaho. Mao pay masuko knowing na akoy breadwinner.
Poul ang kinabuhi sa minyo labi ug wala jud nimo pilia ug tarong ang tao na mamahimong amahan sa imong mga anak.
Diha nako naka realize when it is all too late.
Pait kaayo na tarong kaayo ka pero tagaan ka ug mga laki na walay pulos. Kanang ganahan raman unta ta mo pangga ug panggaon, ampingan pero ka impossible ba makab.ot? Dili man unta ko mag after ug bisan unsa na bahandi.
All I want is a hard working husband na makaabag nako sa pagsulbad sa akoang mga problema pero wala jud pait kaayo.
Sakit kaayo pamalandungon ug dako kaayo ko pagbasul nga nisarap ko aning kaminyoun nga walay klaro. Maong kamo nga mga bata.on, likay jud kamo anang laki na daghan ug red flag. Ayaw mo padala sa tam-is na storya ug maayo jud na ilahon usa ninyo ihatag tanan kay ug maka-timing mo ug susama sa akoang pares kapait. Pait pa sa paliya.
Kamo ba swerti ba mo sa inyo napares?
Wala nako kahebaw unsaon pani nako oy. Kapoy naman. Maghelak ko pasagdan ra ko if maglain akoa pamati wala ra sad siya malagmit maunsa ko baliwala ra ni niya hayahay kay dako kaayo sya madawat maunsa ko. Hays!
Pipila na kani kahigayon na akoa sya gipasabot. Naa time na ma okay rasad sya dayon balik nasad. So far though he does not have any vices which is great kay ug bisyoso pa ikauli ko jud sa ilaha oy!
Kapoy ang kaminyoun. I feel like I am more than my age because I am always stress.
Wew! I know this doesn't make sense to many of you but please just let me. My heart feels so heavy right now.(●´з`)♡
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`Article: VIII as of 05.14.02`
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Biblical Reasons Why Marriages Fail
How is your married life so far?
Are you happy?
Is there a certain guide can make you become successful in this marriage?
There are a lot of reasons why couples would decide to get divorce and yes, it is a painful truth that despite marrying the person you love it will never be a guarantee that the person will stay with you forever.
I read these reasons why marriage fail posted in Facebook. I just lost the link but I have creditted the person who wrote this based on the post. I feel the need to share this for everyone hoping to save a marriage or to awaken someone.
1. Lack of friendship
Marriage cannot be sustained with the titles of husband and wife. Titles can easily become labels to live up to for society leading to "This is my role, I cannot do that".. friendship makes the two grow closer.
~ "One who has unreliable friends soon comes to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother." Proverbs 18:24
2. Wrong motives
When you marry for society, only for sex or because you've grown of age it will not last. Marriage is a commitment by two grown ups in need of mutual companionship ready to be responsible for each other, not merely the next phase of adulthood after getting a job or a status for social prestige
~ "All a person's ways seem pure to them, but motives are weighed by the LORD." Proverbs 16:2
3. Lust.
Anything built on lust doesn't last. If all that attracted the two was physical, it will not last.
~ "The mind governed by the flesh is death, but the mind governed by the Spirit is life and peace." Romans 8:6
4. Lack of preparedness.
Jesus said count the cost before committing to anything
~ “Suppose one of you wants to build a tower. Won’t you first sit down and estimate the cost to see if you have enough money to complete it? For if you lay the foundation and are not able to finish it, everyone who sees it will ridicule you, saying, ‘This person began to build and wasn’t able to finish." Luke 14: 28-30
5. Lack of vision.
Vision inspires commitment.
~ "Where there is no vision, the people perish" Proverbs 29:18
6. Lack of knowledge.
We go to school to study to be professionals but we don't take time to understand the institution of marriage and the family unit.
~ "my people are destroyed from lack of knowledge' Hosea 4:6
7. Poor gender relations where men feel attacked and entitled and women feel unstoppable.
Too many marriages are suffering due to gender wars.
~ "There is neither Jew nor Gentile, neither slave nor free, nor is there male and female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus." Galatians 3:28
8. Lack of understanding of what love is. Many of us have been hurt from childhood, heartbroken when dating and have no idea what to love and be loved means.
We need to heal, hurt people hurt people.
~"Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. " 1 Corinthians 13: 4-8
9. Listening to too many voices.
Many couples end up being distracted and confused because they listen to too many voices; parents, friends, media and even their ex; this usually is by couples with a low self esteem and with weak self identity or who are manipulated by peer pressure.
~ "For God is not the author of confusion, but of peace, as in all churches of the saints." 1 Corinthians 14:33
10. Sexual indiscipline.
This leads to affairs, flirting with outsiders, suspicions and eventually divorce or marriages that exist legally but are in fact dead.
~ "Then when lust has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and when sin is accomplished, it brings forth death." James 1:15
11. Disjointed growth.
When the husband and wife start to grow apart spiritually, mentally, emotionally or financially; they might easily need each other less. The two should strive to grow as a team.
~ "Can two walk together, except they be agreed?" Amos 3:3
12. Blessings turned sour.
The blessings of children, work and successful business if not properly managed can easily end up being a threat to the marriage. There is need to find a balance.
~ "You say, 'I am rich; I have acquired wealth and do not need a thing.' But you do not realize that you are wretched, pitiful, poor, blind and naked." Revelations 3:17
13. Lack of patience.
Marriage is not for people who give up easily, people who want the fruits but not the process.
~"Being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus." Philippians 1:6
14. Unresolved issues which get carried forward to the next day, the next month, the next year becoming complicated.
~"In your anger do not sin": Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry," Ephesians 4:26
15. Overspiritualization of marriage, this makes some think that praying alone will save their marriage, makes them elevate a pastor above their own spouse, makes them rigid leading to poor relations and intimacy with their spouse.
~"But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you."Matthew 6:33.. when God is adding "all these other things" like laughter, great sex, feelings, good times, fun, romance; don't reject them
16. Individualism. Marriage is for two people who want to submit to each other; not those who let their ego win, are selfish or want to prove they are better.
~" submitting to one another out of reverence for Christ." Ephesians 5:21
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How about you? Whats your thoughts?
Article: VIII as of 05.08.22
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Martial Law
Election is fast approaching in our country. Many have rekindled the past and what have they experienced. Some proclaims details that was mentioned by their late grandparents or ancestors while others are trying to based it on their research.
My Lolo witnessed World War II and how the life was before when the country is been colonized. He said it was never easy as they will have to hide or else they will get killed. Everyday they have to fight for survival. Until finally, we were declared as an INDEPENDENT country.
With the declaration of inpendence come the election of the President. Fast forward, until the Marcoses reign the Government.
I can never forget before, I asked my grand father about his opinion and experienced before during Martial Law.
He said, these words:
*"Sauna nindot kaayo kay linaw kaayo sa panahon ni anhing Marcos. Walay krimen, walay mag tambay o mag gawas sa magabie tungod sa curfew. Pero dili pud ka maka basta ug pa tapok-tapok kay madudahan man ka. Pero kung ikompara ang sauna ug karun nindot jud tong ing atu kay dili mapariwara imong mga anak kay mahadlok man. Karun mga bata kay pasagad naman lang wala na respetar ug kahadlok."*
To make it simple my granpa appreciates the peaceful environment before during Martial Law but there were pros and cons. But then based on his statement if you live low-key then you wouldn't have to bear any punishment against the Government.
On the contrary, if you have watched THE KINGMAKER you would definitely have doubts. The Marcoses also proclaims that this documentary is just oto cost havoc as the eldest son of the Former President Marcos is planning to run for Presidency but they were actually interviewed. https://www.facebook.com/100000135060652/posts/5597060370308410/?sfnsn=mo
If you have watched other people being interviewed a lot would say that they were molested and suffered in the hands of those absurb militaries.
But come to think of it, no one ever directs the accusation that those were direct order from the President. Either they are afraid to get are mostly militaries doing those things or if not low officials.
You see, as a leader you can never have everyone be under your command especially those that are blinded by luxury, fame and power! So you have to be wise and make sure you know who to trust as others might use you for their own advantage.
In the end, people who lived starting Marcos regime may have different experiences. We cannot rely on just one statement but whoever wins this election I hope it is someone that our Country needs.
Thank you again for reading my article. These were actually my simple thoughts that I decided to just write and share.
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`Article: VII as of 05.03.22`
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I want to be a Couch Potato
For days I have been feeling restless and earlier it just popped up on my mind how I want to be just a *couch potato*.
At times I wanted to go elsewhere and choose to be alone. Not that I am lonely though but I just needed that alone time to rest my mind, body and soul.
All my life I have been working and raise to just do my best. Even up to now I am being pressured with back to back expenses. I am a breadwinner, yes which sometimes caused a misunderstanding between me and my partner because he wants us to focus on our own family but I can never turn my back to my own fam as well. Despite having to shoulder all the expenses. I have all the worries in life but I knoe there are much more worse than what I am experiencing. I am thankful for all that I am capable and able so as all that I have though but just cannot get off my mind that tired feeling.
It is tiring to be ME, makes me want to wish to be a different person and would want to just go far to just take a rest.
I have 2 kids to take care of and I love them so much but as a human I can never deny that they can sometimes be a part of me feeling so exhausted.
It is when I was sleeping and they would wake me up. I am on a graveyard shift. It is a struggle to sleep during morning but I have to endure it because yeah, I am a mom.
The idiomatic expression "couch potato" can be tagged as lazy person or someone who would just lay on the couch and watch TV.
I want to actually experience that.
I want to be lazy for once and just sleep, eat, repeat but even when I plot a leave t work to rest still I can't.
In life we really have to take a break but I got a lot of things to do always that even when I am sleeping my mind is still trying to figure out how can I fix something or resolve some of my financial and personal issues.
I also have this thought of learning new skills and join some livelihood program to gain more knowledge but I do not think I can do it with my schedule. Really, someday I want to do business with handcrafted stuff just do not know where to start.
I am not the best mom and partner but every single day I do my best to fulfill my day to day tasks and goals. I am not a perfect in so many ways but I appreciate my body and soul for doing their best to cooperate despite how tiring it is to be ME.
I just bear in mind though that whatever I do and wherever my journey would lead I always choose to be kind and follow Gods teaching.
Yoh! Thank you for reading. I appreciate my 9 subscribers. Thank you so much! You fuel me to write. ♡
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Article: VI as of 04.28.22
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Cues to Know You are in a Toxic Relationship
Writing this article for those people who are in a serious relationship yet can never distinguish whether what they have with their partner is something toxic and needs attention.
You see, the reason why we call them partner is because they should be the best go to person for everything.
Ika nga,"karamay sa hirap at ginhawa, sa kasaganaan man o kawalan".
Please see these **red flags:**
**Putting you down and treats you like you are not good enough or have not done anything right.**
You partner should be the first person who either push you to be at your best or give you advice and say you have done something wrong straight to your face but love you still. Of course may depend on that "something wrong". What I am trying to say is, in life, we fucked up at decision making and for me that is normal. We commit mistakes. We get confused between what makes us happy and what we want to do versus what is approved by other people. Having a partner should make every bit of a heavy burden felt lighter because you have someone to voice out what is on your head.
Personally, I have my upside down especially with the pressure that I always go through at work. At times, when there are a lot of things needs to be done and a lot of adjustments or changes which I hate a lot because I always feel that anxiety I would run to my partners arms and cry until I feel better.
He would just let me and ask me questions once he felt that I can speak up. And when I tried to go out of my comfort zone he was the first person who told me, go ahead I will be here to support you.
Our relationship is never perfect but I totally appreciate those little things he do to me to keep my peace and I am praying and hoping he would continue to do the same all throughout our lives.
**Emotional Abuse- whenever you start feeling like it is all your fault. When you start to question yourself worth and blame yourself for what's going on because that is what your partner is pointing out too.**
So this is somewhat related to the first one mentioned above but really, there couples that I have observed that one has a very high ego while the other would have to be the one to chase. I hate the scene to be honest but for me personally I would rather swallow my ego than lose the love of my life but pretty much if I reach my boiling point I get to act strangely like I still talk to my partner with a straight face and he knows already that he is in trouble because I would give him the same cold shoulder until I feel better.
I am always the person who ask for forgiveness and the type of person who cannot sleep while we are in argument while my partner is the type who would choose to sleep or avoid me. I actually asked him one time regarding that behavior and told him that hurt me the most but he mentioned to me though that it is better that way than talking to me while he is at his peak of his emotion and he might say something that he would regret.
**Everything is about them and never about you. It is when your advise or opinion feels like it does not matter to the person or no value.**
Especially when you are living together. It is very important that you discuss openly anything and everything under the sun. For me, it matters when my partner would ask me what I like to eat during meal time or if I would prefer going out. I like it when I am asked to go on a date at times when I have money or receive some incentive of course it feels great to buy something for myself but I would never forget to also ask him what he likes.
One thing as well is grooming. Sometimes I hate it when my partner would not go to the barber shop regularly. I want someone neat and clean. Someone who won't look like a mere "boy" when we are together. I hate to see him with long hair or beard though if he wants it that way I am good as long as he knows how to maintain it.
**You have a hard time communicating especially when it comes to financial matters.**
I will not deny but this part is something that me and my partner is having a challenge right now. You see, he got used to me being the one to look for ways on how to survive each day while he would just look after our kids. He has been complaining about us managing our own expenses alone and not include my extended family (my mom and sibs) but who am I to turn my back to them?
My sister is an achiever and she is about to go to college which I know that I should be the one to support but I am also aware that it would be very hard for me because my salary won't be enough as a breadwinner. My partner wants us to just focus on our own children and family but really, I cannot turn my back to my mom and siblings. I have 2 siblings who are already working though and they are somehow helping out but I really cannot depend on them to help since my other brother already has a live in partner and basically planning to build his own family while the next brother who is also working earns minimum wage and would give a little amount to my mom but really I do not want to pressure them with all the burden in the family because I want them to enjoy life. I want them to buy those that I cannot buy for them. Like I really wanted them to experience spending their money for their own being. Unlike me that when I started working I have to work my ass off just to earn for a living and up to now I am doing the same.
The good thing is my partner can now support little of our needs since he earns as well though not that big but compared before it was really a great help for me. But on financial matters and when talking about my family it is something that I am really having a problem with.
**Not letting you go on a trip with friends or workmates.**
ME time is really important to everyone. There are times when I would decide to go somewhere alone like window shopping and eat some food that I love to eat. Good thing my partner would just let me. When asked if I can go with my workmates for our planned team building he is fine with that as well. Unlike other partners who would say NO right away.
There are times when we needed to be alone and just pamper ourselves. If you go back to the 4th details my life is never easy and very pressure. I wanted to quit from my job for a very long time but I just can't because if I do I would be broke and no one would support my mom and sibs much more my children.
Yey! This is quite long! I hope you find learnings and important thoughts by reading. Thank you for dropping by! ♡
`Article: V as of 04.22.22`
`Writer:`
Unspoken Dream: Marriage
Well today I would like to talk about relationship and marriage. I have read an article regarding this but I decided not to tag the user for now because I am afraid I might be doing unnecessary tagging and I do not want to end up doing anything against the rules. I would have loved to share my thoughts to all the articles I have read and give credit to the user but forgive me coz I read as well that when you keep tagging people your account will be in trouble(?).
Anyway, how is your married life so far?
I am curious how does it feel to walk down the aisle wearing your dream bridal gown to be honest.
I keep on passing by those great boutiques around the metro and imagine myself wearing one. Yeah, imagine maybe I will only experience getting married in imagination but never in real life.
Who says I do not want to get married?
I wanted to but I am afraid. I am afraid to tie the knot and realize that the person I am with is not worth it. Not being married makes me feel that I can run away when conflict occurs but do not get me wrong, me and my partner have been together for couple of years and already have children but marriage seems to be a topic he keeps on avoiding.
One time, I was browsing Tiktok and I saw this video about a woman asking why a the man I am with did not marry me when we've been together for years?
Then that creator on tiktok gave 3 answers:
He might be saving and preparing to give you the wedding you dream of and that he think you deserve.
The next two is kinda painful so if you are on the same situation brace yourselves;
He is not yet ready. Maybe he has a lot of plans and being married is not part of it just yet. You might be together for years but he might not have that urge to walk down the aisle.
He likes the idea of not being tied up since you can be both wife and gf at the same time. The downside of living in before marriage.
All those answers are the possible reasons indeed as to why your partner is not mentioning anything about marriage. As for me, I tried to mention it to my partner once few weeks ago and I was shock with his response.
He said, "you have to wait for 5 more years".
I do not know if I should be happy because at least he has a plan or be sad because he is asking me to wait?
Unfortunately, our children is tagged as illigitimate since we are not bind by law but can I do anything? I do not want to push myself to someone who is not ready to make me a wife.
It hurts though coz when I spoke with my mom regarding the thought of marrying she told me to be wise instead and hopefully to choose what is right. She also shared that before my father married her both in civil and when found out that she was pregnant with me since I was the eldest, my papa then married her in church. My mom believes that if a guy really loves you he would do anything to give his last name to you despite being poor. She mentioned that way back my papa would look for bottles or anything in the dumpsite to have it sold to the junkshop then keep the earnings for their wedding, he is also a fisherman during the night and once he is at home he would sell "balot" as well and that was when he was able to marry my mom in church.
I just keep on asking myself, "Will I ever become a bride? "
I am almost 30, I would have loved to walk down the aisle young. I would have loved my children see me wearing a gown but well, I rather lift it all to our God. I am no perfect. Maybe this is the price I got to pay for having premarital sex but what can I do?
I have this mindset of observing the person first before marrying him. Also, we never had a budget back then but now if only we push for it I know we can. But again, I hate begging someone.
Wew! This one's painful and I poured all my emotions tonight. Thank you for reading. I appreciate your time. ♡
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`Article: IV as of 04.20.22`
`Writer:`
It is such a Great Day
Today is one of the best day of being in Bitcoin cash Community and here in read.cash too. I never thought that this platform will give me such an achievement and appreciation.
Nine months ago I just decided to sign up and explore this new platform. Well for one I am not adventurous but the voice in me keeps on saying go for it, so I was like, okay! Why not give it a shot right?
Then I decided to read articles and run through some details and it is when I learned about Cryptocurrency and all those earning stuff.
I was away for quite sometime though when I lost my seed phrase and forgot where did I input my credentials. I had it on my old phone but it got damaged.
Good thing I tried to check on those old notebooks and lil things I kept then I saw what I have there! Phew!
Now, believe it or not I got multiple visits from Rusty the rewarder and I am so flattered!
Cryptocurrency for me is a foreign thing and I maybe too late to discover this but I will continue learning. I am happy that I am part with BCH community right now though. Thank you for everyone who welcome me here.
Another thing to be grateful about is that I got my first ever **SPONSOR**!
@Adobe101Thank you for your sponsorship! If only I can put into words how much this means to me I would with glitters!
Seeing that other than Rusty someone showed support is a great feeling. Others might think like I am overreacting but really, I thought I would never get one but here you are! God bless you a thousand folds! I am even shocked to see that you are a newbie too and you did not hesitate to share your blessings. Thank you!
I read your articles and all I can say is I know you will be a great writer! You are much on point especially when talking about loving to write and not just writing to get rusty.
I agree on this though Rusty really made me so happy but I know I have so much to learn and improve when it comes to writing. Hopefully I could make a better one as I continue to my journey here.
Would also like to take this opportunity to thank my 8 subscribers! Thank you so much! Everyone of you matters to me.
I have also read @Kleah97 about her boyfriends anniversary turned into WAR instead of Celebration. It would totally depend on us as to how are going to handle our relationship but be sure to learn from every quarrels and have a good communication to make sure that each sides has the same understanding on a specific matter.
As early as possible, be open to possibilities and talk anything under the sun especially finances, goals and plans.
Whoa! Here's to my third article since I got back! Praying for consistency. Will reply on unreplied comments shortly. Thank you everyone! ♡
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`Article: III as of 04.19.22`
`Writer:`
Your Random Visit is Rewarding
I know by now that this website is been grace by a visit from Rusty! Awesome!
I was just checking my read.cash yesterday and got excited to see the notification. I noticed that it was because of him. Such a thrill!
I never actually thought I could get his approval of my article yesterday. I was really up to some platform where I could engage virtually and share some of greatness or heaviness that life could bring to me. It seems that, the goal will also change to being constantly getting visits from him. I mean, surely it would not hurt to get a piece of self reward and buy myself some pizza or milk tea in the future, yeah?
I have been trying to think of a better article though. Something that could make me release emotion because I would like my readers to feel it in my articles. I want not just to provide information but also to share my opinion and also see if that is something I can spark a conversation with in the comments section.
I felt very appreciated. I know I am not a writer nor the best one when it comes to grammar but really, it was maybe when you least expect it that's making a big surprise for you!
I would love to continue on this platform as it is very fulfilling to get a reward over something that you do. Hopefully I could get to consistently engage.
So, I have read a few articles yesterday by the way from the following:
@Jane who shared her childhood experience. I have learned and realized something on that article though. It is never to overthink and assume. It is always better to ask questions to the right people so we could live a peaceful life though at times there are things that we have to keep on ourselves because we are embarrass or ashame to voice out or admit.
Next article is about handling people with different political view from @Jeaneth . Well, here in our country election is indeed fast approaching and its overwhelming how people react towards others who has different political view. Instead of respecting other people's choice there are videos that some would get into a fight. It will eventually start with a normal conversation until it reaches to politics.
This could be the reason why POLITICS is labelled as TABOO topic where everyone are discouraged to actually talk about it because it could cause chaos.
Imagine seeing this photo below:
For years I believed that politics and church should be separated and that the church should be neutral but seeing those circulating online I am afraid it go beyond.
Yey! Another article accomplished! Thank you again for dropping by. Any thoughts kindly leave in the comment section. Ciao! ♡
`Article: II as of 04.17.22`
`Writer:`
I am back Bitcoincash Community
Whoa! It's been quite awhile since I visited my read.cash account. I had a hard time finding my seed phrase and remembering my password to be honest. My phone broke and when I got a new one I totally forgot how can I gain access to read.cash again. Wew!
Anyway, I am back. I have read 2 articles so far on my notifications.
First is about SAVING MOTHER EARTH by at @Glez . I literally love the article as it promotes saving our planet. I am never even aware that I needed to delete my spam emails because that too could affect our nature. Well, I gotta do it within the day for sure!
Second article is about Relationship and Violence by @meitanteikudo . I left a comment there. I cannot hold myself from trying to voice out my personal thought. It would never be a good thing to actually be with someone who hurt you physically. We have to really focus on checking some red flags. At times, I can say it is better to try living together and see for yourself if you could swallow your partners attitude because if not better part ways.
Lastly, I read @Ruffa 's article about friendship and not getting too close. Well one reason why I clicked her article ks I thought it is about making Leche Plan because it is my favorite. It so happened it isn't. LOL!
Anyhow, I can totally relate because I am too aloof with others. I can say that I am talkative virtually but not in person or maybe when I am not comfortable with the people I am with.
Anyway, that's it for now. I will try to read more articles in the future. Still I am learning and I have been away for a long time. Surely I missed a lot. My profile is not that well built just yet. I am hoping to find more people to share my ideas around here.
For the past 9 months of being away I have actually learned something and a lot. I would love to share things out here and I am hopeful I could get to engage to more people.
I would love to have virtual friends really. I have never joined any other platform and I am planning to just focus first in read.cash though as I am also a very busy person. I would love to read and engage on other articles as well eventually join any other community around here.
I am seeing affiliate program too but will see if any of the people I know would be interested since I know it will never be easy to inform and spread awareness.
I noticed some people wants easy money and others often believe with **work wise not harder.**
I don't know, makes me feel cringe with how else can someone work wise.
*Thank you for reading my article! See ya around ♡!*
Feels like I am back home! The best thing about being here is I could get to share myself without minding of being judged.
`Article: I as of 04.16.22`
`Writer:`
Karma of the Past: Dirty Secrets
These things that I am about to tell you is ruining me lil by lil so if you have unkind words to say please keep it. I wanted an advise not criticism.
Hi! I have promised to write something the other day but I failed. I have also been thinking wether to write this very personal matter that I have been trying to deal with for quite awhile now.
But maybe I have to let it all out for once and see if how you guys would react if say that you were experiencing the same. I would pretty much be needing more advice and insights as to what is best to do because every decision I am going to take would surely affect my daughters.
This is technically related to user @Glez article. It gave me a push to let it all out. The title of the article was something like ****"Mantra2: Bara y Bara"****.
Let us start from my Father's side. My Lola has a sister who is about to get married. Her fiance suddenly went cold on her and later did she knows the fiance dated their Mother. Yep, you read it right! So the fiance of my Lola's sister became their Step Father as they got married.
My great grandma was widowed and I really do not know how it happened. Though my great grandma and her husband have already died but my Lola's sister still has the bitterness and hatred despite the fact that she already has her own family. She cannot even talk to their youngest sibling who is the daughter of my great grandma and her ex-fiance.
Now let us move forward to my Mother's side.
Our people are brought up as family oriented. We give importance to those who are related to us by blood as they are our family. My Lola (My mother's mom) is way too generous. She let her siblings stay in their home and accepted them despite the struggle of day to day lives. My mom has 5 siblings and their parents were making a living through fishing and sewing. But these were not enough. Despite how they work hard because my Lolo or grandpa had a lot of vices!
From being a drunkards to going to clubs and gambling. As he arrived home (as what my mom told me) drunk and saw that the meal is not delicious he would throw it all away not minding that his children were unable to eat and would start to slap my Lola or punch her.
She had been a battered wife and I never can tell how she was able to survive that. I thought these were already the most painful but later did I know as what my mom told me, my Lola witnessed My grandpa and her sister having sex in one of their rooms. As martyr as she is, she just cried and asked for her sister to leave. Her sister though asked for forgiveness but she never forgave yet she still continued to be with my grandpa til she died.
As what my mom mentioned, whenever they urge my Lola to leave their Father she would always say NO. She told them that she will fulfill her promise in front of the altar when they got married.
"Through sickness and in health. Til death do us part".
Then my Aunt just confessed to my Mom that my Papa attempted to touch her. It was just once and it did not happen again but from that moment she became aloof to my father til he died years ago. My Papa was a good father but never a good husband. Though he did not hurt my mom physically but he had fair share of women and he also gambled.
Just that, my mom is not as dedicated to her promise as what her Mother did though she never really saw my father with other women but she informed my father that he can leave anytime. It caused my father to be paranoid and accused my mom on cheating but then it was all forgotten as my Papa got sick and he had mom to attend to him.
You see? My family history is a pain in the ass and were gross but why did I relate it to BARA Y BARA?
One day my sister went to me crying. It took her a couple of minutes before she told me what was going on.
I thought it was just some sort of a teenager emotional issue thingy about friends but when she started talking I wished I disappeared.
She told me that she once felt someone is touching her legs while asleep and when she woke up she saw my partner. Yes my partner.
At first, she neglected it because he said he was looking for something. Her room before does not have any door and someone could just get in since we put sme of our things in there. Our house were not big too.
But then just recently, it happened again. My mom already knew about it and told me to just stay calm and pray. Because these happenings were a KARMA to what our ancestors did previously and we have to fight for it with prayers. But what hurt me is knowing that my partner (live in partner), is attracted to my own sister and that my sister is in danger. I already faced him about this before which was the reason why he stayed away but I our kids kept on looking for him. We reconciled. I tried to pretend like nothing happened but it was traumatic. I was betrayed and til now it never felt good. This is what hurts the most because I have to consider my daughter's feelings. My mom though is observing him and right now we made our own house and my sister has her own room too with my brother and niece.
There should be no reason why he would go to the other house and get into my sister's room but if ever caught on act he better get his things ready because I will never back down and send him to jail. It hurts to be on this situation. When you do not have enough trust and you are always afraid. When I feel like every "iloveyou" is not true because if it is how dare he to set his desire to a different woman moreover to my sister.
It pains me. I want to scream. I want to just vanish but what about my daughter's? I have to be strong. I have to think as a mom and not as individual. I have kids to protect.
My greatest fear is what if, KARMA hits my daughter's too?
I am crying my heart out while typing this. How can I do this?
Can I ask for prayers please? Can you also tell me what should I do?
**>>>>>>>>>>Expressionless and Her Pains<<<<<<<<<<<**
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Good morning friends! I will do my best to write an article today :">
A Letter to a Breadwinner (Written in Filipino)
Heyah! Back from being away for 5 days! I was soo busy with so much stuff and finally got my hands free to roam around my keyboard and type anything I want to share to you! I missed sharing things around here and commenting on articles I have read.
Thank you for that 6 subscribers! I totally appreciate you guys! Also I would like to SHOUTOUT to @MizLhainefor the Sponsorship. I am humbled for such. I never thought my works are that something to be proud of but I am thankful that you noticed me and wanted to sponsor me too.
I scrolled on Facebook today and saw a certain post that totally brought pain to my heart because I can totally relate.
Breadwinners are selfless. They are mostly thoughtful and wanted surprises. They are those friends who became the head of planning when it comes to making surprises for someones birthday and silently they pray for you to do the same but they will not say it because they are afraid that you might think that they are exerting effort because they are also expecting something in return but NO.
Breadwinners wants their families and friends happy. If only they can take the burden of the world all by themselves they would totally do that without a doubt.
So as I passed by news feed I noticed a certain post from a page that I joined which states:
**An open letter to all Breadwinners:**
*Nakakamangha ka! May choice ka para gawin ang gusto mong gawin, bilhin ang kaya mo namang bilhin, magsimulang buuin ang mga sarili mong pangarap pero heto ka tinataguyod ang pamilya, hindi sila iniiwan at patuloy na nagsusumikap para sakanila. Minsan, alam ko nakakaramdam ka na ng kaunting inggit sa mga ilang kasabayan mo na nagagawa ng malaya ang gusto nila, na sana ganun lang kadali yung magdesisyon, sana ganun lang kadali piliin ang sarili, na sana katulad ka rin nila, may pribilehiyo sa buhay. and it’s okay, okay lang kung minsan nararamdaman mo ‘yan ‘di kita masisisi. Okay lang din umiyak pag pagod na ha? okay lang din manghina kung ‘di na kaya. Pero gusto lang kita i-encourage na NAPAKAGANDA NG PUSO MO —* ***SELFLESS HEART!*** ***You chose to be selfless.*** *Hindi muna inuuna ang sarili kahit pwede naman dahil mas mahalaga sa’yo ang kapakanan ng pamilya mo. Nangangarap at nagsusumikap hindi lang para sa sarili kung ‘di para sa kaginhawaan sa buhay ng mga mahal mo. God was so amazed and pleased with your heart. He will reward all your hardwork and sacrifices and alam niya na pagod ka na, hindi mo na alam kung saan pa kukuha ng lakas para magpatuloy, para ilaban ang pamilya mo, gusto mo ng ilabas ang iyak sa loob ng dibdib mo at pakiramdam mo minsan hindi ka nila maintindihan and that’s why received He’s word to you... “Come to me, I will give you rest. Nak, unload to me your burdens, bigay mo sa’kin lahat ng iyak, pagod at hirap na nararamdaman mo. I am your comforter, I am your help. Sandal ka sa’kin at ako ang bahala sa’yo. Hindi kita pababayaan dahil mahal kita” Breadwinners, alam mo? sobrang hanga ako sa’yo pero kahit pa ikaw ang pinakamalakas at pinakaselfless na tao sa mundo HINDI MO KAYANG MAG-ISA kaya lapit ka sa Panginoon, accept Him as your Lord and Savior. Find rest in His presence. Siya ang bahala sa’yo even sa family mo. Magtiwala ka.*
***PRAYING FOR EVERYONE OF YOU!***
It states how much the person who wrote this appreciate breadwinners for being selfless despite given the choice to say no and how they strive hard to give their family a good life. It also states about reminding the breadwinners to always pray and seek for God.
*...Our Lord never sleeps and those who strives hard will soon see the fruit of their labor. It will not always be a sunny day. Most of the time for Breadwinners it would be rainy season but God will be their umbrella. When it rains, it pours but right after there will be a Rainbow that would make you say ,"It is all WORTH IT!"...*
Expanding your Comfort Zone
I was away for quite sometime. I hope I did not get to miss anything that much. I will try to update and engage with you all as I can. I am just too busy with work right now but I believe you guys are doing okay.
Before I continue with my day to day task I would like to publish the different Zones that we may undergo in this lifetime and what are the significance of these zones to us.
Comfort Zone and Facing Challenges
COMFORT ZONE
I believe this is all familiar to us. People who are afraid of changes mostly want to stay in their Comfort Zone. Sample of Comfort Zone is our Home, Sweet Home. Most of my colleagues from work were challenged to leave their homes, their comfort to focus on their career path. I saw how they struggled during their first few weeks and how they fought for it because they knew that way back home their parents are expecting them. The Comfort zone makes you feel safe and in control.
Another example is when looking for a new job because the current job is very toxic but then it became your comfort zone without you knowing.
FEAR ZONE
Once you are in this particular zone, you will lack self-confidence and become affected by other folks' views.
This zone brought fear to us because we never can tell if the result of the change is good or bad. After you have the courage to be out from your comfort zone this will eventually follow. It is like you will have a cold feet but if you do not let this feeling affect you then you will successfully proceed to the next zone. Well ideally, either way be it you proceed to really face the challenge of being away from your comfort zone or not there will always be learning. It can be that you would realize you did a great decision or it can also be regrets but whatever happens we would have to move forward.
We seldom see people going away from their comfort because the life in the wilds is never easy to handle. Only those who has strong personality can take the challenge. For me personally, my fear is really working away from my family that is why I can say that I am lucky because I was born on a place where I need not to go elsewhere to look for a decent job because in our place there are already a lot since this is a City while most of my Colleagues coming from different islands of PH would have to travel miles away just to look for a job and endure the pain and longing that they may feel towards their love ones.
LEARNING ZONE
This is right after you overcome your fear zone then a new environment will arise. There will be lots of challenges and so learning will follow. The thing here is that you would also learn to overcome fear, depression and anxiety because if not then you would end up going back to Comfort Zone. In this Zone you will learn as well new skills and extend your comfort zone.
GROWTH ZONE
As you overcome the fear of going away from your Comfort and learn from it you will then grow. You will find motivation and more purpose to move forward, meet new friends that can also be your family while away from your own. Live from your dreams and set new goals.
This is where you will find enough courage and smile as you look back to all those experiences and learning that you had when you were fighting back all the challenges from stepping out of from Comfort. From here, you will then conquer other objectives that you never thought you could in this lifetime.
...I salute those people who were brave enough to face what is beyond their comfort despite all the challenges and possibilities. At times, I am challenge to do the same but it is hard when you build a family of your own because you have your baby to consider as they will be the first people who will be affected...
...But as you will continue to continue go through the changes or stages of life, eventually you get to expand your comfort zone...
Significance of Vocabulary
*Ola! How are we? Just want to say hello to my first 3 subscribers! I may not know you though but I am beyond grateful!*
Let us talk about Vocabulary and its significance in our day to day Life.
Many of the people I know would not mind or are not aware with the importance of having a great Vocabulary. One of the main reason why I joined this platform is to learn more Vocabulary/words that I can use my daily life and probably use when trying to engage to other people.
What is the significance of Vocabulary?
At an early age, it is important for someone improve their Vocabulary and even when we get older it is advisable to "not stop learning".
Here are the 5 reasons why:
**Improves Comprehension**
-This has always been a challenge especially when working. If you notice, in a working environment or in a team when the task is given to everyone and one fails to comprehend the task given to him/her and did not even care to ask could cause for a project to fail.
-Also, Vocabulary improves reading Comprehension especially that this is so useful during the Pandemic as we often use Email and digital communication to talk to our Colleagues.
**Language Development**
-Speaking with the words could improve communicating to other people confidently. Knowing the right words to say and by delivering exactly what "you mean" prevents miscommunication. It makes people easily express themselves effectively.
**Communicating Ideas**
-Since you have more or better Vocabulary it would be a lot easier for you to think as to how people could understand your point especially when discussing with a group of people.
**Expressing yourself in Writing**
-Other than being able to easily understand what you are reading, improving your Vocabulary would also make you express yourself in writing makes it a lot easier for your readers to understand what you mean and say do whatever instruction you may provide.
**Occupational Success**
-One of the best way to get hired is to make sure you were able to answer that interviewer with flying colors. Improving your Vocabulary and choosing the right words to say would make it a lot easier to nail an interview! There is no way we can just stay silent because in an organization you are assigned to every department and you got tasks to do and probably explain.
*...Improve your Vocabulary to prevent miscommunication that may affect what has been planned...*
Participating in a Writing Prompt: Questions
My childhood is not that good since we had so much of a Calvary that I can say made me become mature as early as 12 years old. Especially when I lost my father in a way that they call *"shameful death"*.
Why? I will try to see if I can have the courage to make an article about that.
But because of these struggles I had a lot of Questions that popped from my head that were left unanswered.
Why did Papa has to leave us early?
Where is God when you need him most?
Why ME?!
**Why did Papa has to leave us early?**
It was the darkest days of my life losing my father in just a blink of an eye. I had many dreams for our family but just a tragic moment and mistake we lost the foundation of our Family. Someone who is supposed to save us from people who mock us for being poor is gone and we have no one to turn to but our Mom.
My mom is not so used to engaging with other people because she is too shy for that but when my father died she had to come out of her shell. I know death is uncontrollable and we really cannot tell who is gonna be next but for such a young age without a complete family plus I was the eldest did not help with the usual struggles we had day by day.
**Where is God when you need him most?**
Was there a point in your life when you get to question, God? When it feels like he is just letting you get hurt and looking at you without doing anything? That is what we felt before. Losing my Papa was already a cross that til now makes my heart bleed then there's an added struggle of not knowing where to get food to eat because my mom would just earn a lil and because my Father got sick before and has been hospitalized for many times we lost everything. So every meal we had to pray that some relatives would drop by so we could ask some food or that my mom could have earn bigger from making some necklace and bracelets made of seashells. It is never enough for us 5 with a 1 and 2 year old who needed Milk. Sleeping with a growling stomach? I was like, God? Am I not too young for all these?
**Why ME?!**
At some point of my life I was lucky. When I graduated I then got hired. My college life may not be so easy but at least I was able to graduate. But then just before I could even celebrate my anniversary I got sick and got hospitalized. Being the breadwinner of the family by that time it took a toll to my siblings that they had to experience being hungry again plus I had to rest for a month. Like seriously? Can I just have a peaceful life?!
Questions after questions! We were called lazy with those relatives are rich and were asked to "WORK HARD til we DROP!" because we are poor! There was even on time when my aunt told me,"You have no right to get some rest. Go find a job and work on while you study!"
Only God knows how did I try to look for a job though but I was not hired because well who get hired with a growling stomach and could not even properly answer a simple question?
My mom also tried to find a job and gladly she was hired as a Utility/Maintenance or shall we say Janitor. Our neighbors then started to mock us saying my moms job is dirty because she has to wipe other people poo in a comfort room! But we never cared though deep inside its affecting us mentally and emotionally.
Then I one person I met told me,"You are loved by God so much that he does not want you to forget about him".
From then on, I tried to brush off that feeling of questioning him WHY ME? Instead I change it to WHY NOT ME?
I get to realize that all those struggles made me who I am today. I am not rich or (not yet HAHA!) but at least we can eat more than the usual meal. And I promised to myself if ever I become a mother I will never let my child sleep with a growling stomach. So far for like 3 years of being a mom of two I was able to fulfill that. Hopefully do help me pray that I can continue to fulfill it in a lifetime.
Hi! Tried to pull a lil courage to join this Writing Prompt. I am a newbie in this platform and I hope I could get along some people in this Community. I just tried to participate. I named Expressionless but I am the contrary!
The rules are simple.
Write about **questions**
Write **100% original** content
Write at least **600** words
Tagging @JonicaBradley
Have **fun**!
So far these are the people that I have engaged with in this platform:
@tired_momma @Jane @Jeaneth @Charmy @Ruffa@MizLhaine
I sincerely hope you do not mind me tagging you in here.
*...We would questions after questions, WHY, HOW, WHAT, WHERE, WHEN?...*
*...You maybe asking now when will I be lucky? and so on but always remember, what we are going through is a consequence of our choices or our love ones which affected us... Nevertheless, we have to continue and move on. Move forward because the world will not stop just because of your tears and emptiness or unanswered questions...*
Thank you po @tired_momma for the first ever upvote! God bless your kind heart and more BCH to you Madame...
Main Reason Why Money is the Root of All Evil during this Time
*The most important factor for human survival are basic needs. We have to sustain ourselves with these needs to continue living in this World. Lucky are those who still has their job secured during the midst of this Pandemic but what about those who lost it? How do you think can they survive?*
Referring to Maslow's Pyramid:
Based on the illustration above. The Basic Needs of Human are the following:
Food
Water
Shelter
Clothes
Sleep
Safety
Air
Would you agree that you can never get these without MONEY? Let me put it in detail:
Food
You can never get a food without having money. Yeah, you may be able to ask to some Government Institutions or charity for FREE but not all you want or need would be given. The Government could not sustain providing their people everyday to live, we have to move and look for a job! And job equals SALARY which is MONEY.
Water
Way before water are FREE but that was the year of our ancestors. Now everywhere you go you would never see a certain household using FREE water. There always comes a WATER BILL every end of the month that we would have to pay and again it needs MONEY.
Shelter
As for me, Shelter, Sleep and Safety can be ruled into one. Of course we should be safe at our own shelter and that is where we can get a good rest or sleep but mind you if you do not have MONEY to build a house or rent for one then it is impossible to get enough sleep and be safe with their family and love ones.
Air
We may say that AIR is FREE. It is part of our nature and we can breath air at anywhere. I totally agree but if you want to put your family to an area which has fresh air and not crowded you would need MONEY. Air from the busy City is not safe anymore as it becomes polluted. It may be funny but true, but whenever you get hospitalized you would have to pay for the OXYGEN and that is EXPENSIVE.
*...Every move and every lil thing that we need demands money. Education, Travel and the likes needs MONEY. Knowing human, we are not contented, if we get a penny on doing something we do it again so to get another penny or more. If a person is greedy then it is expected it would do more when they can get a way for easy money!...*
*...Especially now that we are in the midst of Pandemic. I have seen how people cry over losing their jobs then eventually their shelter because they can no longer afford the rent. But doing bad against our fellowmen just because you are in need is never a good excuse...*
*...Yes, it may never be easy looking at your child crying for not having milk because you got no money to buy, your stomach growling or not being able to buy medicine to you sick love ones but again this is not an excuse to steal, to kill or to rob. It will not justify what you did and it will hunt you down til the last breath...*
**....Remember, if you feel down. Never hesitate to LOOK UP...**
I find it cute to have a single subscriber as early as my 2nd day here in Read.Cash. Whoever you are thank you! You make me feel so happy :)
I am (want) Expressionless
*Typing.... Nah... Delete... Delete...*
*Typing....Arghhh... No... No...*
*Typ... Hays..*.
*So this is what I have been doing for like Ten Minutes already! I have been trying to think of a better way to start my article but seems like I could not think of any.*
**You might be thinking, who am I?**
Hi!
I go by the username *Expressionless*.
I am more of a reader than a writer.
It is my first time to blog. I was referred here by someone but "that" person does not want me to reveal his/her identity. Feeling mysterious are we? *(haha!)*
I really got no idea that this whole thing ever existed. I am also a newbie in **Cryptocurrency.** Some of my friends manage to tell me what it is all about though and I cannot thank enough because if not then I would have not encountered this blogging site. I have been looking for a better site so I can write despite the fact that I am a first timer and I really do not know what to point out.
Reading on some articles earlier I noticed that every article has some corresponding amount. I was even thinking that the article could have been bought by anyone but as I read a guide about how things here works it makes me love how this site is programmed!
But what drew me to this site is that the fact that I can just write anything that I have in mind. Well, I would be very honest though that I need the money to support my family plus this whole new thing is a challenge. But I have also noticed that other than **Crypto** related topics we can also write just anything about our lives such as hobbies, talents and the likes.
Contrary to my username, I am a talkative and sensitive person but to be very vocal I decided to use this username to remind myself that I gotta manage my emotions. I do not know if you guys would agree but it seems to me that when you invest too much emotion over something or someone if anything of these mentioned gets lost then you would be a total mess!
Loving less, caring less is what I just started to do so just in case I can just easily move forward. Many might not agree but I am totally fine I respect everyone opinion despite my thought. We still have every right to choose what makes us happy.
I am hoping that I could get to meet more amazing individuals here though to distract my sad soul.
I love to keep myself busy to avoid overthinking. Have you ever experienced that moment when your mind complicates your life? (Haha!) Because it keeps on roaming around instead of just getting enough rest. Just like today, it is already 12:52 in a midnight and here I am typing so to get this first ever article published. Well I cannot wait for tomorrow! I am just excited to write and express my thoughts in here.
*...I want to engage with people, ask questions, respond and gain virtual friends. As what I mentioned above, I am still new to all these things in here so I am hoping that you guys will be patient with me and tell me when I get to do things incorrectly. I love constructive criticism or feedback and I will not take it against you...*
*...Looking forward to see people in my comment section though...*
@Expressionless
